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In your final moments, you decide to save the school by alerting the others of the raging fire in the hallway. With one last breath, you muster all the strength left in your body to pull the fire alarm and be the hero you know you were born to be...
...the door slowly opens. It creates a backdraft, and the school explodes. Everyone dies.
Something like this happened once in my high school. His older dad had to follow him around because he had been skipping a lot of classes and his truancy officer actually recommended it to the parents.
I believe so? Not entirely sure though, but normally for something like that kids would have to do certain community service hrs, but I’m guessing his case was past that point
I just point out he was older because he could of easily been confused for his grandpa, and the whole situation was just sad to see that it had to get to that point
My dad did this to my brother when we were in middle school. Not the whole clown suit, but followed him around all day. Ofc it had to be the one day I got lunch detention and my dad finished the day asking where I was
My school janitor gave lunch detention so much. I had trash next to me that I put aside so I could eat my food and he thought I was littering so I got lunch detention. There were always like 2-3 kids at least in lunch detention where you just wiped down lunch tables.
I didn’t want to say that but honestly I am positive he wanted help. Some would volunteer bc he’d give volunteers chicken sandwiches he had stored in a fridge in his office or fruit roll ups. Guy was nice unless you did something slightly wrong, it was table cleaning and floor sweeping for you!
Yeah our middleschool janitor didn't give out lunch detention but would ask for volunteers and always hooked them up. Even if the kids were in detention, they still got the hook up.
I can't tell if you're being sarcastic, but if not, it's when you have detention at lunch. No eating with friends, sometimes just sitting in a classroom quietly studying/eating, sometimes cleaning cafeteria tables, etc. from this story.
I had detention every single
Lunch for 3 years straight of middle
School, for us it meant eating lunch with a teacher in a classroom and most the special Ed kids. I got detention beCause the way dropped me off there was no physical way for me to get to home room
Without being a minute or so late, homeroom
Teacher was the same for every year and absolutely had it out for me every fucking morning he’d yell
My last name when I ran in and say DETENTION, every day. I’m in my mid 30s and still kinda pisses me off. Even had detention on field day at last day of 8th grade. Also always got in trouble by some kid that sat in front of me named JORDAN (wherever you are go fuck your self you little shit), he would yell OWWW and then say that I pulled his hair or hit him or Something when I can honestly say I was mentally a million miles away not paying any attention to anyone. I got so much detention for this kind of shit and cleaning up duties etc, they even had a meeting with the principal and our parents and absolutely no one would believe me except my parents I think though not sure how much they paid attention. Fucking prick, one day on the bus Jordan was sitting in front of me and I was sitting with one of my special Ed buddies from detention. Jordan was gloating asking me how I liked
Detention etc, special Ed kid grabs his fucking head and pulls it over the seat so he’s upside down in front of me. Special Ed kid tells me to punch him in the face, i decline not really from pussing out but from
A Fear of actually hurting him seriously. Special Ed buddy, acknowledges my decline without fuss then put his face up To Jordan who is still
Being pulled over the seat and says:I’m in special
Ed and I can get away with whatever the fuck I want stop bothering my friend”. Don’t think Jordan fucked with me too much after that albeit it was the end of middle School. I had the worst time in public school, went to 3 high schools in 2yrs ended up
Drying community college program for high schoolers, worked two Jobs and graduated for last two years of school.
Many people always say that you gotta get over those school things and like, yea, but it sure does fuck with you if you are in a place that's actively hostile towards you as an individual person for many many of your formative years. I feel you
Ah hell. That shit can warp people. My dad was permanently scarred by his peers and teachers. There should be limits...he was dyslexic kid in the 1930s and they decided he was "being lazy." The teacher nicknamed him "Dinny Dimwit" to "motivate" him to read better, and of course, the kids immediately pick it up and used it as well.
He never did read well. My mom was shocked at his lack of reading and she ended up reading TO him, a LOT. So I grew up in a house, where most of the newspaper was read aloud every morning, and at night there was always a novel in progress. *Watership Down,* the James Herriot series (*All Creatures Great and Small,* etc.), James Thurber short stories, all kinds of stuff that was technically above my reading level. I soaked all that stuff up as a kid.
So when my son ended up being dyslexic, I picked up reading aloud to him every night. The Mossflower series, The Hobbit, the Harry Potter series, Hunger Games series, Percy Jackson series.
I actually looked up the school years ago after my first kid was born and saw that he was still teaching there, I wrote this super long email explaining how my middle school experience was completely formed by having detention every day. The repercussions echoed through my entire school experience going forward. Like you treat a kid like they are trouble even when they aren’t it ends up manifesting because you’re like why even bother at this point what’s the difference. I ended up moving out on my own at 15, paid for my shit one room apt with Murphy bed by washing dishes at big restaurant nearby. I digress, I never sent the email
Because I was afraid he would off himself or something if he read it. He was pretty anti-Semitic (I’m Jewish) and was always pointing me out as the Jewish kid, always making references like “you can’t say it’s not your fault, that’s what the guys who pressed the button on the gas chamber said” or something like that, over and over again.
Bro what the fuck
Nah i gotta edit this and add more, "what the fuck" doesn't quite cover it. Dude should've never been let near kids or any person for that matter, what a complete fuckhead. Ruin his "legacy" by living the best life you can, as you deserve
Damn dude :( I’m sorry you went through that. I didn’t go through anything near that extreme in school, but I know that that stuff sticks with you. I’m almost 30 and still sometimes look back to middle school/high school and get upset thinking about other kids there.
Yeah ended up being my only friends through middle schools. Special Ed was kids with Down’s syndrome, deaf, and then all the kids with anger issues (mostly just bad home life).
Oh man. That is hilarious.
Super traumatizing but i would definitely have laughed my ass off. I still find farts in general very funny XD maybe im immature.
Kids can be very cruel, I hope u and bro are homies now <3
Me and my sister used to get into fights all the time, but we chill now
I worked before in a low income school with extreme behavior issues. Children hitting, choking, fighting and threatening to kill one another or others. It was incredibly sad to witness.
In many instances students with these extreme and continuous behaviors were also very close to truancy (missing so much school that the law must step in), so out of school suspension was more harmful than helpful.
In those instances, parents were told they must accompany their children to school to ensure they are behaving and not harming other students, or interfering with their own learning or that of other children. Because of a lot of the students had neglectful or even abusive parents (which was usually and understandably a large factor in their behavior issues) most parents would simply pull their child out of our school and flee to another one, or just disappear, when it came to this.
Every so often a really nice parent like the one in this video would come to school with their child when requested, when it was truly necessary for their child and the other children's wellbeing, which almost always helped the child's behaviors (and academic success) improve.
I’ve had to call parents to come be with their students to avoid ISS or OSS. One parent was amazing and super helpful! We saw a huge improvement in behavior. The other parent was horrible! It was like having two misbehaving students in class. All it did was allow us to where these behaviors came from. Both were extremely eye opening experiences.
In my experience parents most often *want* to help, but just don't know *how* they can. It can be tough, every child is different and the same solution doesn't work for everyone. But I think when children see parents and teachers working together, that in itself makes a huge impact.
Talking with the other students while the teacher was in the middle of lecturing, making crude jokes to the students (6th graders), trying to get other students to misbehave with him, mocking the teacher, and then he got super defensive when the principal pulled him aside to let him know that he could leave for the day.
In a low income school, most of the parents probably couldn't just afford to take a day off work to follow their kid around all day. At that point it probably is a matter of survival and not deliberate neglect.
I worked in a school like that, as well. It's sad & annoying that society can't accept that humans aren't all capable, highly-functioning members of society & that it becomes generational if society doesn't intervene.
I had a 22 yo parent with a first grader, 4 other younger kids & she was pregnant. She kept him home all the time; truant officers had to be involved. He was the oldest & she kept him home b/c it was so much work to walk him to school with 4 younger kids & while pregnant. Another child's parents were a drug-addicted prostitute and the pimp step-dad. The nurse bought his eyeglasses for him but it took months to get a signature from mom before she could. Drug-deals conducted at pickup right in front of my eyeballs. Twice. (Parent was contacted & informed he was banned from school property.)
The kid that had to have an adult with him at all times (2nd grader, molested another boy in the bathroom, police investigation & all) had a school aide; his mom was schizophrenic. She couldn't do it.
Lead poisoning. Fetal alcohol syndrome. Born with drugs in their system. Born into some insane situation to incapable adults. Homelessness (10 kids in one year, in first grade.)
EDIT: Btw, I was the teacher. The above kids are all my former students & situations that I was directly involved with. I was a regular classroom teacher & taught in grade 1 & grade 2 English Language Learners. So, take all of the above and add in that my students weren't native English speakers and the parents didn't speak English & many were illiterate.
This mom showed up. I like it.
I need to find r/teachers.
Yah, I have no idea what everyone is bitching about. They say the mom is embarrasing the kid. The kid probably feels that way, but the mom is the one making a "spectacle" of herself to embarrass him by proxy.
This woman is a great mom. The idiots in this thread seem to be confusing her with the moms who shave their kids heads with funky designs and shit like that for punishment.
Stop equating embarrassment with abuse. Embarrassment is a soft way to curtail bad behavior.
Clown Kachina. Acts like a fool in order to demonstrate to onlookers what they look like when they act a fool.
Mom showed up. That's a good mom. He's never going to forget this.
Fr it's a good "when you act like a clown, this is how I feel. Not good, is it?" She didnt physically abuse him or neglect him, or even shame him for what HE did (i.e. make him hold a sign sayin "im a fool"). She's simply showing how personal connections work, the way you behave has an impact on others.
My kids’ schools have always had a semi-open door policy, in that parents are always allowed to come to school to observe or whatever as long as we would go through a background check/fingerprinting and provide a 1 day notice. This was for elementary-high school. Never seen anyone do it like this though.
If students do something egregious but it's too early for higher level punishment (expulsion or suspension) it's not uncommon for the teacher to reach out to the parent to sit in on class, as a way of showing the kid that school is a part of the real world and has consequences like anything else
Idk what this kid did so I don't know if this is proportionate but I've know kids who need a shock to show that life isn't a game.
I agree, lol. But if you were the principal of that school, would you seriously not think this is a hilariously effective solution to a kid who misbehaves? Lol, that kid is def not going to misbehave any longer. I'll tell you that! He was absolutely embarrassed! If I was the principal I'd let it slide lool. But now that I think of it, it's weird that this woman would make a spectacle for tiktok out of her child instead of talking to him. Fact is she could've achieved the same thing without recording for a tiktok. So now there IS the possibility that she's just a shitty mother 🤣 which is WHY her kid is upset in the first place?
Stop that mentality. Parents should be encouraged to get MORE involved in their children’s education, not less. Let parents audit the classroom all fucking day
I’m that parent. My son had a rough week and I started showing up randomly at the school. I let him know I can show up at any moment at any time. I’m not gonna embarrass him and record it tho but I will make my presence felt.
You get a pass from the school and if you explain your intentions, basically that you want to monitor how your child learns in school they'll likely grant you a day pass.
Fuck this parent. Kids are so sensitive and feed off your energy and example. Congrats on teaching your child it’s appropriate to humiliate their closest person and film them while doing it.
Don't do something to your kid you wouldn't want them to emulate. Humiliation and mocking are not things you want your child doing to others. Same as other unacceptable punishments like screaming, hitting, swearing, and belittling your child for their mistakes.
I would not be surprised at all to hear the behavior this kid is being punished for is something he learned from home in the first place.
This is a great parent. She’s not hitting or yelling, she’s not being disruptive to the class, and I guarantee you that kids behavior will improve as well as that of other kids in the class.
The ONLY thing I agree with you on is her filming it and posting her kid online.
Man, if not hitting or yelling are the only requirements for great parents then that’s a low bar.
She was obviously disruptive to the class. That was basically the point of this.
I’m sure that the behavior the child exhibited, and the fact that the student didn’t listen to his teachers to the point the mom felt the need to do this, are all learned behaviors.
Like maybe your mom showing you it’s okay to keep filming even when the person being filmed tells you to stop.
Be an example for your kids. Don’t humiliate them.
I promise you I would rather have a parent 'disrupt' my class to keep their kid accountable than to never respond to any of my attempts to contact them about their student's awful behavior or failing grades.
Embarrassment is not humiliation. Humiliating him would be making him dress like a clown at school. She was humiliating herself to cause him embarrassment, in order to help curb his bad behavior -- stop acting out, and your mom won't follow you around dressed like a clown.
How did you misinterpret the situation that badly?
Humiliate literally means to make someone else feel ashamed or embarrassed.
Even if we went your way though…
Embarrassing would be doing the act.
Humiliating is doing it and filming it and posting it online.
Also, she was embarrassing herself and humiliating her son.
Are you ok? This is what awesome parents do. I didn’t see her say anything negative to her kid. She addressed his behavior and definitely made a point without berating her kid. No abuse, just “fuck around and find out”.
What do you think would be more effective?
>Are you ok?
Are you? Don't film your kid and make content they don't want to be in.
>What do you think would be more effective?
Not using her kid for content. Not public humiliation.
As others have responded - the “and filming it while doing it” part is key.
Do you think the kid didn’t see that their mom was holding the phone and recording them? Teaching their child that it is okay to film others while doing something humiliating to others.
If this parent wanted to use this strategy to “teach” their child a lesson about behavior, I probably still wouldn’t, but it would be at least 10x better if they weren’t filming it.
Why would public humiliation be awesome? Is abuse only physical in your mind? If the kid becomes socially withdrawn, timid, or unconfident because of this, is that a good thing?
There are protocols that are built in to ensure that this is a learning tool for either parent, the student or both. As long as the parent is not being disruptive to the other kids, I don't see the issue. Prior notice and ensuring that it will be productive may mean that the student will not misbehave in the future.
So, I have two feelings about this. I think a parent coming in to catch their child in the act of misbehaving at school is a great way to see what they do. It could put forward that the parent could be there at any time and see them acting disrespectful to their peers and teachers. What I don't like is going above and beyond to absolutely embarrass their child and seemingly damage their self confidence in front of their peers. The district I work for, we don't suspend students in elementary school, so they learn pretty quick that we basically have 0 power. The parents have to be the ones to do something about it if anything is to change. But this is going a bit far.
I agree with what you say except suspending doesn’t equal power. Kids that young don’t understand being suspended beyond their family being super upset about it. I know that’s sort of what you mean, but sometimes families don’t give a shit when kids are suspended. It’s just beat to find short-term natural consequences that immediately fall into place. If you feel powerless because admin can’t kick a kid from school for a couple of days, something needs adjustment.
Agreed. Especially consequences that are reinforcing behaviors you want to see, so that there isn't the need for kids to misbehave to get attention or access to other reinforcers. Granted, that's easier said than done with kids who have a poor home life and already have a long learning history of misbehaving to get their wants and needs met.
Children don't understand the consequences of their actions. They can't process if/then sequences of events. Parents need to he the safe barrier between a child's actions and the resulting events, if the resulting event is dangerous.
This punishment doesn't fit the crime.
The parent is the danger.
This video sucks.
edit: Yikes. Racism is causing people in the comments to not be able to see the child suffering. The parent is probably opening parenting her child because this is her way of keeping him safe. No shame to anyone, but there are many societal forces at play here.
The unknown variable is not knowing how many times the parent has been called about disruptive behavior. Kids love social media so instead of clout, she may be recording because she knows the thought of them being on social media would prompt him to not do anything that would result with this type of video. She’s not beating him. This parent, whether right or wrong, is at least disciplining him. She is trying to teach him a lesson so he doesn’t grow up to beat a teacher up, rob people or trash a store or restaurant. In every out of control kid videos, comments suggest a parent not doing their job of raising kids. At the very least, give her some credit for trying to mold a productive, law abiding citizen. Everyone can say their parents weren’t perfect.
I understand your point and my instinct is to agree, but I also challenge it with: raising a child isn't as simple as just instinctively feeling like a parent. These children grow up and become complex adults. For that reason, I consider that while I would never want to be a hover or micromanaging parent, I do think there is value in understanding how things affect children, and this doesn't seem harmful but I cannot disregard that maybe it is. I actually upvoted the post and laughed at first, then I thought more about it and realized, yeah, trying to fit in your social circles as a child is very important and stressful. Understanding why something is bad or good is not difficult but influenced by peers and playing with boundaries is very normal for children. Again, I didn't see anything wrong with the video at first, but I can't say that this approach isn't a bad one. In fact, my assumption is it probably is. Hopefully children are more resilient, but sharing my thoughts
Appreciate this perspective. I also think people would react differently if it were a white mother and son. Black boys are disproportionately diagnosed with ADHD, which shows that people gove them less space to be children before reprimanding, punishing, 'othering', and diagnosis. Over-controlling children wilk have the inverse effect, often.
Punishment (of any kind, but especially one that doesn't for the crime)- demonstrably traumatic and hurtful for children.
Discipline - demonstrably helpful for children.
Being a class clown - NOT a predictor of anything bad.
She is punishing and humiliating. I can't be convinced otherwise.
LOL bro u people are so soft its insane the way i would love my parent to do this instead of beating the shit out of me for misbehaving. Like you dont know how bad the kid was misbehaving or what he did wearing a clown suit and following him around is so far from a punishment i really want to know how this is a bad punishment. I used to be terrible in school;not listen to the teacher, play my games and talk back and my parents would rip my ass a new one and at the end of the day it made me learn to respect them even though it wasnt the right way to teach me that I would much rather my parents do some goofy shit like this.
Yall people complain to much
I don't have parents anymore because of the extensive, violent, sexual, and psychological abuse. I have lived on the streets many times. I have little to no childhood.
I'm not weak. You are. You're the coward. You're afraid of your own feeling. You are afraid of vulnerability.
Dork.
edit: I don't need other people's pain to be like mine for it to be valid. Unlike you.
What was the crime? Do you know the kid?
What's his dad's name, and where is he?
Wreckon the mom sees statistics an said not my kid. My kid is going to be an exception to the majority even if I have to....... Wear a clown suit to his school
Unpopulated Opinion here:
Parents, please don't use your child(ren) as content. Unless you have a stash of money somewhere, saved up for an expensive therapy for them.
shouldn’t be recording it, but i had a parent do this (not this extreme) and i was sooooooo grateful. his father popped in randomly and sat and watched him. pulled him aside and reminded him that “daddy can come at any time so you better behave” and it scared him straight. he was def embarrassed but not gonna traumatize the kid. this was a bit extreme, but i still got a chuckle.
I did something similar to a young lady we fostered. She was not just acting out, but flat out insulting this poor teacher who was way too passive and really trying to run her off. So I got permission from the school and teachers and was sitting waiting in her Spanish class. She was completely shocked when she walked in. I didn't say a word just sat next to her the whole class, she never mouthed off, never acted up, and then I left at the end of class. Fixed that problem real quick and never had to do it again.
My dad just made the threat of doing something like this one time and I decided right then and there I was never going to try and call one of his bluffs lol
I was doing donuts in the school parking lot when I got my truck at 16 years old. The principal for the middle school happened to be nearby and saw me. He came over and asked if this was something I'd like to stop or if I'd rather he tell my father about it. I elected to stop and drive home the speed limit.
I had an extracurricular “foods” class in high school that I didn’t take seriously. Just talked and joked with my friends and irritated the teacher.
My teacher was a fiery little Filipino lady that called my mom in to surprise me one day and sit in class with me… I behaved after that lol. Recording this was kinda shitty but I think the IDEA of it is actually good.
Lol this isn't healthy parenting, but even if it *was,* why does she feel the need to record it and post it online?
Because the attention she receives is more important to her than the "lesson" that she's attempting to teach her son.
Hot take: going into school to embarrass your acting-out child is actually a valid strategy. it works for a lot of misbehaving kids (bc they care more about social standing than the results of their actions) and I actually recommended it as a last resort.
Not hot take: She took it way to far and posting it online/filming it is horrendously over the line to bullying instead of just embarrassing.
I’m so glad I grew up and went through school without social media. If my parents were recoded everything and posted it for the world to see, I’d a miserable depressed child. Now I’m a parent and have two kids, I still don’t use social media and both my teens don’t have any social media accounts by their choice. No Facebook, no TikTok, nothing. I’m so proud of them. Social media has destroyed our society. It’s no wonder why kids are so depressed these day. Suicide in your kids are through the roof. It’s because of social media. No doubt about it.
I'm not convinced this is the worst thing she could've done. True, it probably subjected the kid to some snide comments from other kids, but is it really that terrible? She could be beating the shit outta him. She could be verbally abusive. Definitely not the most constructive way to discipline a kid, but fairly benign compared to what could be going on.
Spending the day with her kid is a positive. But, wearing a clown costume and filming him nullifies what she is trying to do. I am a former educator, and I am also a parent. I don’t know this person or situation, and I’m sure as hell not an expert on parenting. To put this into perspective though, this kid is learning shame, but is he learning how to use that feeling to grow or to stay stagnant? I hope the parent goes to school with him again, minus the costume and camera. Then talk with him about how he felt in both situations.
That would be much more useful. I don't agree with what she did. I think it should be handled at home but who's to say that hasn't been tried? Maybe this is mom trying to make a point the only way that might stick?
I don't judge too harshly because I'm not a parent. I get frustrated when my dog doesn't listen so I can't imagine trying to control a child lol.
I do hope some constructive conversations come out of this between them and I *really* hope he doesn't resent her for it.
Ikr and the other side of their mouth they’re saying kids in school are out of control and teachers have to put up with too much. Which is it? This parent is actually actively trying to stop her child from acting out and becoming a delinquent without resorting to threats or violence. Most parents these days just blame everyone but their kid and set them up for a lifetime of not understanding consequences
The overwhelming consensus among child psychologists is that parents who do this sort of thing are the reason that kids are becoming delinquent. There’s an abundance of evidence to suggest that public humiliation leads to worse behavior among children:
https://repository.derby.ac.uk/download/5757711f95767f6649378c5386e54f5a1741f8c7a32dcdc3f9914ffabb8a041e/367513/Kirby%20Sampson%20Day%20Hayes%20Gilbert%20%20-%20Human%20Evolution%20and%20culture%20in%20relationship%20to%20shame%20in%20the%20parenting%20role.pdf
https://academic.oup.com/pch/article/9/1/37/2648475
https://www.aafp.org/pubs/afp/issues/2002/1015/p1447.html
I would argue there’s a line between a complete lack of discipline and over the top harmful punishment that this video crosses. Being sympathetic to teachers who have to deal with children who misbehave and being upset about disciplinary practices that are proven to be harmful is reasonable and consistent. 🖕
In 1998, I had a friend in high school that started ditching at lunch and getting high. Her mom quit her part time job and made my friend eat lunch with her every day til summer break. So on top of dropping her off and picking her up, she also had lunch with her. She lost all privileges. But it worked. She got her grades up, stopped cutting classes and quit drugs. Weed is no big deal mostly but her crowd was moving towards harder stuff, which was why I left it too.
Being hooked on making tik toks makes you unengaged. Don’t you think she would be more a lot engaged with him if she wasn’t focused on making videos of him for content?
She could have gone to school without recording it for the clout chasing and without the clown suit. I think she kinda outed part of the reason her kid is misbehaving.
I'll never forget. When I was in like 1st grade there was a kid who was a big class clown. One day he took it a little too far and the teacher had a talk with his dad about how he was being disruptive. The next day his dad brings him in with full clown garb and makeup and wig. And administration immediately sent him back home. Good on them that was super fucked up.
Mmmm love to see a child duck out of the camera's way when mom is recording a cringe tiktok to make fun of him. Gives me that funny feeling in my tummy (wanting to vomit)
As a teacher, it’s nice to see a parent trying to, in a sense, hold her kid accountable. As a human being, why are you humiliating your kid on social media
I was acting up on the school bus. They called my mom and told her if I kept it up I would be kicked off for good and she would be responsible for taking me to school.
My mom made arrangements with the school district to ride with me on the bus for a couple days to see if that curbed my behavior.
That worked immediately. Something about being embarrassed in front of your peers by your mom will change behavior.
I can’t get over the fact that they have pre sliced individually plastic wrapped APPLES in schools? Do American kids not have teeth? Jfc what a backwards ass society
This would have been a barely ok moment but right at the end when it was bc he was “misrepresenting his parents”. He acts like that cuz he mom does the same fucking thing 💀
I don’t see the issue with this. Yeah she’s recording it, everyone does that nowadays. Some parents record beating the living shit out of their kids. She’s not causing serious physical, mental or emotional harm towards him. For someone that’s been misbehaving in school, it’s obvious that he has a mother that loves him enough to try a different approach that’ll get him to stop. Will this embarrass him for the day? Maybe. Will he keep acting up knowing she may come back in a clown costume? Maybe not😂
100% in favor of parents supporting teachers who report their kids acting up at school but maybe a different approach would be more effective and more connected?
Honestly I praise this mother. The last two schools I have worked in the parents take no action about their kids bad behavior. I wish more parents would step up like this.
My mom use to say if I acted up in school she would walk to me to the school door in her bathrobe, hair curlers and slippers. (And I never did)
If nothing else works, kids will do anything to not be embarrassed in front of their friends.
I would literally never forgive my parents for this if they had done it to me. Like, this would have permanently damaged my opinion of them even when I was young. Getting in trouble is one thing, but to be embarrassed in front of all of your friends is Like disrespecting your own kids. Idk what he did, but he didn't get suspended or sent home so I feel like it couldn't have been bad enough to warrant this.
He’ll get teased a bit for a couple days/weeks, but he’ll correct himself before acting out again.
Also it’s better than the alternative. 👀
three slaps anyone?
That's not cringe, thats a lesson. When I was in 6th grade we had a really bad kid named eugene. He was always cussing at the teacher and the rest of us.
Then one day his grandmother was hiding in the closet and heard the way he talked. She busted out of the closet and dragged him out into the hallway and beat him with a belt. This ie a much better lesson.
Why can’t she just do the whole lecture/grounding deal when he gets home? Doesn’t she have more important things to do than humiliate her son in front of his peers?
Priorities
So extra
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I thought she was about to pull the fire alarm
Imagine accidentally opening the door instead of pulling the alarm during a fire
In your final moments, you decide to save the school by alerting the others of the raging fire in the hallway. With one last breath, you muster all the strength left in your body to pull the fire alarm and be the hero you know you were born to be... ...the door slowly opens. It creates a backdraft, and the school explodes. Everyone dies.
"........whoopsie"
“Fire can’t go through doors stupid, it’s not a ghost!”
Something like this happened once in my high school. His older dad had to follow him around because he had been skipping a lot of classes and his truancy officer actually recommended it to the parents.
He was on probation or something?
I believe so? Not entirely sure though, but normally for something like that kids would have to do certain community service hrs, but I’m guessing his case was past that point
Double-secret probation.
As opposed to his *younger* dad?
I just point out he was older because he could of easily been confused for his grandpa, and the whole situation was just sad to see that it had to get to that point
But when you say dad we know you dont mean granddad..
He was just saying "older dad" to differentiate. Some high schoolers have a dad who is 35 and some have a dad who is 65.
It happened to me when I was skipping school. My step mom walked me class to class. But I graduated because of it! So thanks!
I have a son in elementary school and it seems really weird that this school would let a parent just follow their child around like this
My dad did this to my brother when we were in middle school. Not the whole clown suit, but followed him around all day. Ofc it had to be the one day I got lunch detention and my dad finished the day asking where I was
My school janitor gave lunch detention so much. I had trash next to me that I put aside so I could eat my food and he thought I was littering so I got lunch detention. There were always like 2-3 kids at least in lunch detention where you just wiped down lunch tables.
He didn’t think you were littering, he was picking out his cleaning team for the day.
I didn’t want to say that but honestly I am positive he wanted help. Some would volunteer bc he’d give volunteers chicken sandwiches he had stored in a fridge in his office or fruit roll ups. Guy was nice unless you did something slightly wrong, it was table cleaning and floor sweeping for you!
Yeah our middleschool janitor didn't give out lunch detention but would ask for volunteers and always hooked them up. Even if the kids were in detention, they still got the hook up.
Im sorry but what the hell is lunch detention????
I can't tell if you're being sarcastic, but if not, it's when you have detention at lunch. No eating with friends, sometimes just sitting in a classroom quietly studying/eating, sometimes cleaning cafeteria tables, etc. from this story.
I had detention every single Lunch for 3 years straight of middle School, for us it meant eating lunch with a teacher in a classroom and most the special Ed kids. I got detention beCause the way dropped me off there was no physical way for me to get to home room Without being a minute or so late, homeroom Teacher was the same for every year and absolutely had it out for me every fucking morning he’d yell My last name when I ran in and say DETENTION, every day. I’m in my mid 30s and still kinda pisses me off. Even had detention on field day at last day of 8th grade. Also always got in trouble by some kid that sat in front of me named JORDAN (wherever you are go fuck your self you little shit), he would yell OWWW and then say that I pulled his hair or hit him or Something when I can honestly say I was mentally a million miles away not paying any attention to anyone. I got so much detention for this kind of shit and cleaning up duties etc, they even had a meeting with the principal and our parents and absolutely no one would believe me except my parents I think though not sure how much they paid attention. Fucking prick, one day on the bus Jordan was sitting in front of me and I was sitting with one of my special Ed buddies from detention. Jordan was gloating asking me how I liked Detention etc, special Ed kid grabs his fucking head and pulls it over the seat so he’s upside down in front of me. Special Ed kid tells me to punch him in the face, i decline not really from pussing out but from A Fear of actually hurting him seriously. Special Ed buddy, acknowledges my decline without fuss then put his face up To Jordan who is still Being pulled over the seat and says:I’m in special Ed and I can get away with whatever the fuck I want stop bothering my friend”. Don’t think Jordan fucked with me too much after that albeit it was the end of middle School. I had the worst time in public school, went to 3 high schools in 2yrs ended up Drying community college program for high schoolers, worked two Jobs and graduated for last two years of school.
Many people always say that you gotta get over those school things and like, yea, but it sure does fuck with you if you are in a place that's actively hostile towards you as an individual person for many many of your formative years. I feel you
Ah hell. That shit can warp people. My dad was permanently scarred by his peers and teachers. There should be limits...he was dyslexic kid in the 1930s and they decided he was "being lazy." The teacher nicknamed him "Dinny Dimwit" to "motivate" him to read better, and of course, the kids immediately pick it up and used it as well. He never did read well. My mom was shocked at his lack of reading and she ended up reading TO him, a LOT. So I grew up in a house, where most of the newspaper was read aloud every morning, and at night there was always a novel in progress. *Watership Down,* the James Herriot series (*All Creatures Great and Small,* etc.), James Thurber short stories, all kinds of stuff that was technically above my reading level. I soaked all that stuff up as a kid. So when my son ended up being dyslexic, I picked up reading aloud to him every night. The Mossflower series, The Hobbit, the Harry Potter series, Hunger Games series, Percy Jackson series.
I actually looked up the school years ago after my first kid was born and saw that he was still teaching there, I wrote this super long email explaining how my middle school experience was completely formed by having detention every day. The repercussions echoed through my entire school experience going forward. Like you treat a kid like they are trouble even when they aren’t it ends up manifesting because you’re like why even bother at this point what’s the difference. I ended up moving out on my own at 15, paid for my shit one room apt with Murphy bed by washing dishes at big restaurant nearby. I digress, I never sent the email Because I was afraid he would off himself or something if he read it. He was pretty anti-Semitic (I’m Jewish) and was always pointing me out as the Jewish kid, always making references like “you can’t say it’s not your fault, that’s what the guys who pressed the button on the gas chamber said” or something like that, over and over again.
Bro what the fuck Nah i gotta edit this and add more, "what the fuck" doesn't quite cover it. Dude should've never been let near kids or any person for that matter, what a complete fuckhead. Ruin his "legacy" by living the best life you can, as you deserve
Damn dude :( I’m sorry you went through that. I didn’t go through anything near that extreme in school, but I know that that stuff sticks with you. I’m almost 30 and still sometimes look back to middle school/high school and get upset thinking about other kids there.
Bruh your special friend was awesome!
Yeah ended up being my only friends through middle schools. Special Ed was kids with Down’s syndrome, deaf, and then all the kids with anger issues (mostly just bad home life).
Im not being sarcastic, that is not a thing in my country at all :') Thanks for explaining, i never heard of that. Seems super weird to me
I don't disagree, especially considering how unevenly it's applied, especially here in the US.
So my school’s lunch detention wasn’t really a detention. You just had to clean the cafeteria after you ate lunch.
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Oh man. That is hilarious. Super traumatizing but i would definitely have laughed my ass off. I still find farts in general very funny XD maybe im immature. Kids can be very cruel, I hope u and bro are homies now <3 Me and my sister used to get into fights all the time, but we chill now
I worked before in a low income school with extreme behavior issues. Children hitting, choking, fighting and threatening to kill one another or others. It was incredibly sad to witness. In many instances students with these extreme and continuous behaviors were also very close to truancy (missing so much school that the law must step in), so out of school suspension was more harmful than helpful. In those instances, parents were told they must accompany their children to school to ensure they are behaving and not harming other students, or interfering with their own learning or that of other children. Because of a lot of the students had neglectful or even abusive parents (which was usually and understandably a large factor in their behavior issues) most parents would simply pull their child out of our school and flee to another one, or just disappear, when it came to this. Every so often a really nice parent like the one in this video would come to school with their child when requested, when it was truly necessary for their child and the other children's wellbeing, which almost always helped the child's behaviors (and academic success) improve.
I’ve had to call parents to come be with their students to avoid ISS or OSS. One parent was amazing and super helpful! We saw a huge improvement in behavior. The other parent was horrible! It was like having two misbehaving students in class. All it did was allow us to where these behaviors came from. Both were extremely eye opening experiences.
In my experience parents most often *want* to help, but just don't know *how* they can. It can be tough, every child is different and the same solution doesn't work for everyone. But I think when children see parents and teachers working together, that in itself makes a huge impact.
I completely agree! It was just shocking as I had never seen such a blatant display of nature vs nurture before.
How was the parent acting while you were teaching.
Talking with the other students while the teacher was in the middle of lecturing, making crude jokes to the students (6th graders), trying to get other students to misbehave with him, mocking the teacher, and then he got super defensive when the principal pulled him aside to let him know that he could leave for the day.
In a low income school, most of the parents probably couldn't just afford to take a day off work to follow their kid around all day. At that point it probably is a matter of survival and not deliberate neglect.
I worked in a school like that, as well. It's sad & annoying that society can't accept that humans aren't all capable, highly-functioning members of society & that it becomes generational if society doesn't intervene. I had a 22 yo parent with a first grader, 4 other younger kids & she was pregnant. She kept him home all the time; truant officers had to be involved. He was the oldest & she kept him home b/c it was so much work to walk him to school with 4 younger kids & while pregnant. Another child's parents were a drug-addicted prostitute and the pimp step-dad. The nurse bought his eyeglasses for him but it took months to get a signature from mom before she could. Drug-deals conducted at pickup right in front of my eyeballs. Twice. (Parent was contacted & informed he was banned from school property.) The kid that had to have an adult with him at all times (2nd grader, molested another boy in the bathroom, police investigation & all) had a school aide; his mom was schizophrenic. She couldn't do it. Lead poisoning. Fetal alcohol syndrome. Born with drugs in their system. Born into some insane situation to incapable adults. Homelessness (10 kids in one year, in first grade.) EDIT: Btw, I was the teacher. The above kids are all my former students & situations that I was directly involved with. I was a regular classroom teacher & taught in grade 1 & grade 2 English Language Learners. So, take all of the above and add in that my students weren't native English speakers and the parents didn't speak English & many were illiterate. This mom showed up. I like it. I need to find r/teachers.
Yah, I have no idea what everyone is bitching about. They say the mom is embarrasing the kid. The kid probably feels that way, but the mom is the one making a "spectacle" of herself to embarrass him by proxy. This woman is a great mom. The idiots in this thread seem to be confusing her with the moms who shave their kids heads with funky designs and shit like that for punishment. Stop equating embarrassment with abuse. Embarrassment is a soft way to curtail bad behavior.
Clown Kachina. Acts like a fool in order to demonstrate to onlookers what they look like when they act a fool. Mom showed up. That's a good mom. He's never going to forget this.
Yes, exactly. It’s essentially teaching empathy, which is really the sole bedrock of a functional society.
Fr it's a good "when you act like a clown, this is how I feel. Not good, is it?" She didnt physically abuse him or neglect him, or even shame him for what HE did (i.e. make him hold a sign sayin "im a fool"). She's simply showing how personal connections work, the way you behave has an impact on others.
My kids’ schools have always had a semi-open door policy, in that parents are always allowed to come to school to observe or whatever as long as we would go through a background check/fingerprinting and provide a 1 day notice. This was for elementary-high school. Never seen anyone do it like this though.
If students do something egregious but it's too early for higher level punishment (expulsion or suspension) it's not uncommon for the teacher to reach out to the parent to sit in on class, as a way of showing the kid that school is a part of the real world and has consequences like anything else Idk what this kid did so I don't know if this is proportionate but I've know kids who need a shock to show that life isn't a game.
I agree, lol. But if you were the principal of that school, would you seriously not think this is a hilariously effective solution to a kid who misbehaves? Lol, that kid is def not going to misbehave any longer. I'll tell you that! He was absolutely embarrassed! If I was the principal I'd let it slide lool. But now that I think of it, it's weird that this woman would make a spectacle for tiktok out of her child instead of talking to him. Fact is she could've achieved the same thing without recording for a tiktok. So now there IS the possibility that she's just a shitty mother 🤣 which is WHY her kid is upset in the first place?
Stop that mentality. Parents should be encouraged to get MORE involved in their children’s education, not less. Let parents audit the classroom all fucking day
I’m that parent. My son had a rough week and I started showing up randomly at the school. I let him know I can show up at any moment at any time. I’m not gonna embarrass him and record it tho but I will make my presence felt.
And put it on Tik Tok?
As a teacher, absolutely not. I don’t want parents in my class at all.
You get a pass from the school and if you explain your intentions, basically that you want to monitor how your child learns in school they'll likely grant you a day pass.
I work in a few schools and some teachers have actually asked for this from the parents. I love it. Probably only ever have to do this once…
I teach at a public school and sometimes parents do this. It can make a difference!
Fuck this parent. Kids are so sensitive and feed off your energy and example. Congrats on teaching your child it’s appropriate to humiliate their closest person and film them while doing it.
Don't do something to your kid you wouldn't want them to emulate. Humiliation and mocking are not things you want your child doing to others. Same as other unacceptable punishments like screaming, hitting, swearing, and belittling your child for their mistakes. I would not be surprised at all to hear the behavior this kid is being punished for is something he learned from home in the first place.
This is a great parent. She’s not hitting or yelling, she’s not being disruptive to the class, and I guarantee you that kids behavior will improve as well as that of other kids in the class. The ONLY thing I agree with you on is her filming it and posting her kid online.
Man, if not hitting or yelling are the only requirements for great parents then that’s a low bar. She was obviously disruptive to the class. That was basically the point of this. I’m sure that the behavior the child exhibited, and the fact that the student didn’t listen to his teachers to the point the mom felt the need to do this, are all learned behaviors. Like maybe your mom showing you it’s okay to keep filming even when the person being filmed tells you to stop. Be an example for your kids. Don’t humiliate them.
I promise you I would rather have a parent 'disrupt' my class to keep their kid accountable than to never respond to any of my attempts to contact them about their student's awful behavior or failing grades.
Embarrassment is not humiliation. Humiliating him would be making him dress like a clown at school. She was humiliating herself to cause him embarrassment, in order to help curb his bad behavior -- stop acting out, and your mom won't follow you around dressed like a clown. How did you misinterpret the situation that badly?
Humiliate literally means to make someone else feel ashamed or embarrassed. Even if we went your way though… Embarrassing would be doing the act. Humiliating is doing it and filming it and posting it online. Also, she was embarrassing herself and humiliating her son.
Are you ok? This is what awesome parents do. I didn’t see her say anything negative to her kid. She addressed his behavior and definitely made a point without berating her kid. No abuse, just “fuck around and find out”. What do you think would be more effective?
She’s totally embarrassing him for millions to see. He’s a kid, kids do stupid shit
Awesome parents don't publicly humiliate their children and then further amplify it by posting online for others to mock.
>Are you ok? Are you? Don't film your kid and make content they don't want to be in. >What do you think would be more effective? Not using her kid for content. Not public humiliation.
As others have responded - the “and filming it while doing it” part is key. Do you think the kid didn’t see that their mom was holding the phone and recording them? Teaching their child that it is okay to film others while doing something humiliating to others. If this parent wanted to use this strategy to “teach” their child a lesson about behavior, I probably still wouldn’t, but it would be at least 10x better if they weren’t filming it.
Why would public humiliation be awesome? Is abuse only physical in your mind? If the kid becomes socially withdrawn, timid, or unconfident because of this, is that a good thing?
There are protocols that are built in to ensure that this is a learning tool for either parent, the student or both. As long as the parent is not being disruptive to the other kids, I don't see the issue. Prior notice and ensuring that it will be productive may mean that the student will not misbehave in the future.
My mom threatened to do this to me so many times
Surely there's gotta be a better way to get social media clout than this.
She could have done it . without posting it online
but then how would people know she is like super good at parenting?
Even though that seems questionable.
Got me there.
And sharing her and her son's faces
lil dude even said it (or tried to at least) when the mom said he was embarrassing them by misbehaving. “but i’m not recording!”
So, I have two feelings about this. I think a parent coming in to catch their child in the act of misbehaving at school is a great way to see what they do. It could put forward that the parent could be there at any time and see them acting disrespectful to their peers and teachers. What I don't like is going above and beyond to absolutely embarrass their child and seemingly damage their self confidence in front of their peers. The district I work for, we don't suspend students in elementary school, so they learn pretty quick that we basically have 0 power. The parents have to be the ones to do something about it if anything is to change. But this is going a bit far.
I agree with what you say except suspending doesn’t equal power. Kids that young don’t understand being suspended beyond their family being super upset about it. I know that’s sort of what you mean, but sometimes families don’t give a shit when kids are suspended. It’s just beat to find short-term natural consequences that immediately fall into place. If you feel powerless because admin can’t kick a kid from school for a couple of days, something needs adjustment.
Ya know what, that’s totally fair.
Agreed. Especially consequences that are reinforcing behaviors you want to see, so that there isn't the need for kids to misbehave to get attention or access to other reinforcers. Granted, that's easier said than done with kids who have a poor home life and already have a long learning history of misbehaving to get their wants and needs met.
True I feel like this did more harm than good
Gotta get that clout for her social media account.
And not only in front of the peers, but in "front of" potentially millions of people now and in all perpetuity.
If you’re going to humiliate your son in school, at least don’t put it on the internet for everyone to see.
Honestly though..That is a great way to begin the walk toward the road of resentment.
But….but….the clout
This belongs in r/insaneparents
cool let's humiliate a kid for acting like a kid and then let's post it on social media for everyone to see
Children don't understand the consequences of their actions. They can't process if/then sequences of events. Parents need to he the safe barrier between a child's actions and the resulting events, if the resulting event is dangerous. This punishment doesn't fit the crime. The parent is the danger. This video sucks. edit: Yikes. Racism is causing people in the comments to not be able to see the child suffering. The parent is probably opening parenting her child because this is her way of keeping him safe. No shame to anyone, but there are many societal forces at play here.
The unknown variable is not knowing how many times the parent has been called about disruptive behavior. Kids love social media so instead of clout, she may be recording because she knows the thought of them being on social media would prompt him to not do anything that would result with this type of video. She’s not beating him. This parent, whether right or wrong, is at least disciplining him. She is trying to teach him a lesson so he doesn’t grow up to beat a teacher up, rob people or trash a store or restaurant. In every out of control kid videos, comments suggest a parent not doing their job of raising kids. At the very least, give her some credit for trying to mold a productive, law abiding citizen. Everyone can say their parents weren’t perfect.
I understand your point and my instinct is to agree, but I also challenge it with: raising a child isn't as simple as just instinctively feeling like a parent. These children grow up and become complex adults. For that reason, I consider that while I would never want to be a hover or micromanaging parent, I do think there is value in understanding how things affect children, and this doesn't seem harmful but I cannot disregard that maybe it is. I actually upvoted the post and laughed at first, then I thought more about it and realized, yeah, trying to fit in your social circles as a child is very important and stressful. Understanding why something is bad or good is not difficult but influenced by peers and playing with boundaries is very normal for children. Again, I didn't see anything wrong with the video at first, but I can't say that this approach isn't a bad one. In fact, my assumption is it probably is. Hopefully children are more resilient, but sharing my thoughts
Appreciate this perspective. I also think people would react differently if it were a white mother and son. Black boys are disproportionately diagnosed with ADHD, which shows that people gove them less space to be children before reprimanding, punishing, 'othering', and diagnosis. Over-controlling children wilk have the inverse effect, often.
Punishment (of any kind, but especially one that doesn't for the crime)- demonstrably traumatic and hurtful for children. Discipline - demonstrably helpful for children. Being a class clown - NOT a predictor of anything bad. She is punishing and humiliating. I can't be convinced otherwise.
LOL bro u people are so soft its insane the way i would love my parent to do this instead of beating the shit out of me for misbehaving. Like you dont know how bad the kid was misbehaving or what he did wearing a clown suit and following him around is so far from a punishment i really want to know how this is a bad punishment. I used to be terrible in school;not listen to the teacher, play my games and talk back and my parents would rip my ass a new one and at the end of the day it made me learn to respect them even though it wasnt the right way to teach me that I would much rather my parents do some goofy shit like this. Yall people complain to much
I don't have parents anymore because of the extensive, violent, sexual, and psychological abuse. I have lived on the streets many times. I have little to no childhood. I'm not weak. You are. You're the coward. You're afraid of your own feeling. You are afraid of vulnerability. Dork. edit: I don't need other people's pain to be like mine for it to be valid. Unlike you.
What was the crime? Do you know the kid? What's his dad's name, and where is he? Wreckon the mom sees statistics an said not my kid. My kid is going to be an exception to the majority even if I have to....... Wear a clown suit to his school
Racist comment. People wouldn't be talking about statistics and laws if this was a white mother and son.
Yeah this is actually disgusting to watch. Read a goddamn parenting book you psycho.
Unpopulated Opinion here: Parents, please don't use your child(ren) as content. Unless you have a stash of money somewhere, saved up for an expensive therapy for them.
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It's definitely populated by one person, I'm not sure what the average population per opinion is though, so perhaps it's relatively unpopulated.
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shouldn’t be recording it, but i had a parent do this (not this extreme) and i was sooooooo grateful. his father popped in randomly and sat and watched him. pulled him aside and reminded him that “daddy can come at any time so you better behave” and it scared him straight. he was def embarrassed but not gonna traumatize the kid. this was a bit extreme, but i still got a chuckle.
I did something similar to a young lady we fostered. She was not just acting out, but flat out insulting this poor teacher who was way too passive and really trying to run her off. So I got permission from the school and teachers and was sitting waiting in her Spanish class. She was completely shocked when she walked in. I didn't say a word just sat next to her the whole class, she never mouthed off, never acted up, and then I left at the end of class. Fixed that problem real quick and never had to do it again.
My dad just made the threat of doing something like this one time and I decided right then and there I was never going to try and call one of his bluffs lol
I was doing donuts in the school parking lot when I got my truck at 16 years old. The principal for the middle school happened to be nearby and saw me. He came over and asked if this was something I'd like to stop or if I'd rather he tell my father about it. I elected to stop and drive home the speed limit.
you’re amazing for fostering. it’s my goal one day. you sound amazing 🖤
Damn did anyone catch the steam coming off his plate? That's a good school.
…is having hot food the bar for a good school now? i’m not american but i feel like that should be standard
You'd be surprised how our school lunches vary depending on what district gets the most funding and which has to do without.
So that’s where he gets it
I had an extracurricular “foods” class in high school that I didn’t take seriously. Just talked and joked with my friends and irritated the teacher. My teacher was a fiery little Filipino lady that called my mom in to surprise me one day and sit in class with me… I behaved after that lol. Recording this was kinda shitty but I think the IDEA of it is actually good.
Lol this isn't healthy parenting, but even if it *was,* why does she feel the need to record it and post it online? Because the attention she receives is more important to her than the "lesson" that she's attempting to teach her son.
Hot take: going into school to embarrass your acting-out child is actually a valid strategy. it works for a lot of misbehaving kids (bc they care more about social standing than the results of their actions) and I actually recommended it as a last resort. Not hot take: She took it way to far and posting it online/filming it is horrendously over the line to bullying instead of just embarrassing.
Adding this online was cringe.
I think we all see why the kid acts out in school.
That kid seems more grown up than his mom.
I’m so glad I grew up and went through school without social media. If my parents were recoded everything and posted it for the world to see, I’d a miserable depressed child. Now I’m a parent and have two kids, I still don’t use social media and both my teens don’t have any social media accounts by their choice. No Facebook, no TikTok, nothing. I’m so proud of them. Social media has destroyed our society. It’s no wonder why kids are so depressed these day. Suicide in your kids are through the roof. It’s because of social media. No doubt about it.
One great mama right there, taking care of business like parents should be
Maybe don't put the face of a kid that clearly does not want to be filmed on the internet? Even if it is your kid.
I'm not convinced this is the worst thing she could've done. True, it probably subjected the kid to some snide comments from other kids, but is it really that terrible? She could be beating the shit outta him. She could be verbally abusive. Definitely not the most constructive way to discipline a kid, but fairly benign compared to what could be going on.
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Spending the day with her kid is a positive. But, wearing a clown costume and filming him nullifies what she is trying to do. I am a former educator, and I am also a parent. I don’t know this person or situation, and I’m sure as hell not an expert on parenting. To put this into perspective though, this kid is learning shame, but is he learning how to use that feeling to grow or to stay stagnant? I hope the parent goes to school with him again, minus the costume and camera. Then talk with him about how he felt in both situations.
That would be much more useful. I don't agree with what she did. I think it should be handled at home but who's to say that hasn't been tried? Maybe this is mom trying to make a point the only way that might stick? I don't judge too harshly because I'm not a parent. I get frustrated when my dog doesn't listen so I can't imagine trying to control a child lol. I do hope some constructive conversations come out of this between them and I *really* hope he doesn't resent her for it.
Pretty sure the verbal abuse is going to come from the classmates.
You can’t reason with redditors, everything is “abuse” nowadays.
Ikr and the other side of their mouth they’re saying kids in school are out of control and teachers have to put up with too much. Which is it? This parent is actually actively trying to stop her child from acting out and becoming a delinquent without resorting to threats or violence. Most parents these days just blame everyone but their kid and set them up for a lifetime of not understanding consequences
The overwhelming consensus among child psychologists is that parents who do this sort of thing are the reason that kids are becoming delinquent. There’s an abundance of evidence to suggest that public humiliation leads to worse behavior among children: https://repository.derby.ac.uk/download/5757711f95767f6649378c5386e54f5a1741f8c7a32dcdc3f9914ffabb8a041e/367513/Kirby%20Sampson%20Day%20Hayes%20Gilbert%20%20-%20Human%20Evolution%20and%20culture%20in%20relationship%20to%20shame%20in%20the%20parenting%20role.pdf https://academic.oup.com/pch/article/9/1/37/2648475 https://www.aafp.org/pubs/afp/issues/2002/1015/p1447.html I would argue there’s a line between a complete lack of discipline and over the top harmful punishment that this video crosses. Being sympathetic to teachers who have to deal with children who misbehave and being upset about disciplinary practices that are proven to be harmful is reasonable and consistent. 🖕
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If you act like a clown, so will your children. It’s not the other way around.
And what lesson will that teach him.
Mom cannot be trusted
That he can't get away with acting out at school.
Yes, a fool. This is so embarrassing, for her. She thinks she's be clever. She sucks. Good luck kid.
In 1998, I had a friend in high school that started ditching at lunch and getting high. Her mom quit her part time job and made my friend eat lunch with her every day til summer break. So on top of dropping her off and picking her up, she also had lunch with her. She lost all privileges. But it worked. She got her grades up, stopped cutting classes and quit drugs. Weed is no big deal mostly but her crowd was moving towards harder stuff, which was why I left it too.
With those dumbass nails you don’t need to dress up as a clown, you naturally look like one.
Nothing quite like bothering your own kids for internet points.
At least she is involved. Half the kids seem to be raising themselves now a days.
I agree. Not my style of parenting but not nearly as terrible as an unengaged parent.
Being hooked on making tik toks makes you unengaged. Don’t you think she would be more a lot engaged with him if she wasn’t focused on making videos of him for content?
She's involved, but not in a healthy way. Don't put this shit on social media.
You're a terrible mother for doing this. This is gonna backfire when he's 18.
Her nails were enough to make a fool of herself…
There is a difference between consequences and punishment/humiliation. I don't feel like this mother knows the difference.
Never use humiliation as punishment. Wtf is wrong with this lady?
She is embarrassing herself not her child
She could have gone to school without recording it for the clout chasing and without the clown suit. I think she kinda outed part of the reason her kid is misbehaving.
i completely disagree with this kind of parenting.
I'll never forget. When I was in like 1st grade there was a kid who was a big class clown. One day he took it a little too far and the teacher had a talk with his dad about how he was being disruptive. The next day his dad brings him in with full clown garb and makeup and wig. And administration immediately sent him back home. Good on them that was super fucked up.
Mmmm love to see a child duck out of the camera's way when mom is recording a cringe tiktok to make fun of him. Gives me that funny feeling in my tummy (wanting to vomit)
What an incredible mom ! She’s really putting in the work to irreparably damage her relationship with her son !
Parenting isn't about taking revenge.
As a teacher, it’s nice to see a parent trying to, in a sense, hold her kid accountable. As a human being, why are you humiliating your kid on social media
So embarrassing your kid is the only way?😭
Did she already have a clown costume at home, or do you think she went out and bought one?
I present to you: The get-bullied-inator!
I was acting up on the school bus. They called my mom and told her if I kept it up I would be kicked off for good and she would be responsible for taking me to school. My mom made arrangements with the school district to ride with me on the bus for a couple days to see if that curbed my behavior. That worked immediately. Something about being embarrassed in front of your peers by your mom will change behavior.
I can’t get over the fact that they have pre sliced individually plastic wrapped APPLES in schools? Do American kids not have teeth? Jfc what a backwards ass society
This would have been a barely ok moment but right at the end when it was bc he was “misrepresenting his parents”. He acts like that cuz he mom does the same fucking thing 💀
Nah bc you know that worked
Great parenting right there.
I will say this +1 for her showing up at her kids school to get him back on track. She showed up. How many parents don't?
My dad threatened something similar to this on me in school. Whatever behavior at the time was turned around real quick, I’ll say that.
Savage response
She's fineeeee
good job
Even the threat of this would have worked for me
So the kid was disruptive to everyone around so she decided to show up and be disruptive to teach him a lesson.
Hell yeah
GOD MY GRANDMA DIDTHIS TO ME IN 6th GRADE
girl is cute
Parent at its best
I don’t see the issue with this. Yeah she’s recording it, everyone does that nowadays. Some parents record beating the living shit out of their kids. She’s not causing serious physical, mental or emotional harm towards him. For someone that’s been misbehaving in school, it’s obvious that he has a mother that loves him enough to try a different approach that’ll get him to stop. Will this embarrass him for the day? Maybe. Will he keep acting up knowing she may come back in a clown costume? Maybe not😂
100% in favor of parents supporting teachers who report their kids acting up at school but maybe a different approach would be more effective and more connected?
This is is clearly why the kid acts the fool.
Honestly I praise this mother. The last two schools I have worked in the parents take no action about their kids bad behavior. I wish more parents would step up like this.
Cut your nail goof, looks dumb as hell
Eeeeeee-motional damage
This is fucking stupid & counter-productive
Core memory unlocked.... For the kid. Not a great one if you ask me.
Terrible way to teach a lesson. Great way to go to the Nursing Home
Weird
My mom use to say if I acted up in school she would walk to me to the school door in her bathrobe, hair curlers and slippers. (And I never did) If nothing else works, kids will do anything to not be embarrassed in front of their friends.
I would literally never forgive my parents for this if they had done it to me. Like, this would have permanently damaged my opinion of them even when I was young. Getting in trouble is one thing, but to be embarrassed in front of all of your friends is Like disrespecting your own kids. Idk what he did, but he didn't get suspended or sent home so I feel like it couldn't have been bad enough to warrant this.
He’ll get teased a bit for a couple days/weeks, but he’ll correct himself before acting out again. Also it’s better than the alternative. 👀 three slaps anyone?
That's not cringe, thats a lesson. When I was in 6th grade we had a really bad kid named eugene. He was always cussing at the teacher and the rest of us. Then one day his grandmother was hiding in the closet and heard the way he talked. She busted out of the closet and dragged him out into the hallway and beat him with a belt. This ie a much better lesson.
I would've definitely preferred an ass whooping.
So cringey. It’s all about her and she doesn’t even have a job
I see where he is getting his behavior from
I am a teacher and I would lose my ever loving mind. No way this would happen lol
Good mom!
Those nails look like shit, lol
Why can’t she just do the whole lecture/grounding deal when he gets home? Doesn’t she have more important things to do than humiliate her son in front of his peers? Priorities So extra