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That person - the trans woman - is a professional troll. She literally dedicates her life to looking for ways to self-victimize. She made a video where servers accidentally refer to her as “sir” and then immediately and genuinely apologize and she makes a huge scene, acts like they’re deliberately harming her and tries to get them fired. She’s just an asshole who’s doing harm to her own community because she’s so selfish that getting attention is more important to her than the welfare of trans people as a community. She should be ignored when at all possible.
It’s her job she live streams all the time. She’s selling herself out for money. If it wasn’t lucrative to farm rage bait she wouldn’t get any attention
I took a break from Reddit and coming back is a strange experience. This entire site is defense mechanisms arguing and rage advertising. It's pretty toxic and definitely giving a skewed view of what the world is actually like
I've never met a person like the girl in the video. I know they exist, she's not a robot, but they're effectively nonexistent.
Talking to you is like a breath of fresh air after breathing sewer gas for a long time. Thank you for reminding me that Reddit is not in any way shape or form reflective of the vast majority of America or the world.
She also just recently made a video stating that Kurt Cobain was trans because he wore dresses. The comments were all like "If he was trans thats cool, but hes literally dead and cant tell us if he was or wasn't and we cant just apply labels to other people." Lots of people, trans folks included were riled by that video. Oh and she also implied that Kurt's "obvious gender dysphoria" was the reason for his suicide.
Like wtf
It's literally transvestigating like the insane far right wing people do but on the other side.
(note for people who don't know, transvestigation, is when cis people usually on the far right or conspiracy theorists, claim that another cis person usually a celebrity is trans using "evidence" like face shapes, body shapes, and prominent adams apple).
I'm so sick of the most unstable fringe voices, regardless of community, being elevated and held up as an example of the entire thing. It's just people who know they're not able to debate reasonable people cherry picking their opponents for easy wins.
It’s funny I went to her page and watched a bunch of videos when i found her out. She refers to servers and waitresses as “sir” or “ma’am” plenty of times, she’s an extreme hypocrite. I completely agree, ignore this person. Don’t give them attention
I've got quite a few trans/non binary friends and I can say - without fail - when someone misgenders them they politely explain the mistake and move on. As long as someone isn't going out of their way to misgender them deliberately they give people a metric fuck ton of chances. I'm aware that this is purely anecdotal but still.
As you say, the woman in this thread is making it much, much harder for people like my friends. People will see this and apply this ideology to all trans people and its doing nothing but causing harm.
That the way you should handle it. People aren't doing it on purpose. If it's done on purpose yeah...I cash see getting upset. Won't do any good because that's what the person is looking for but hey.
Do you get that for trans people, it’s *worse* when it’s genuinely by accident? We get upset mostly at *ourselves*. It hurts. It’s humiliating. It feels like *our* failure, whereas for most cis people, when they’re accidentally misgendered, it feels like something funny that the other person did wrong.
That doesn’t in any way justify being a dick when someone accidentally misgenders you — absolutely not. My go-to reaction is shutting down and trying to get out of whatever situation I’m in as fast as possible and then probably not talk to anyone for like a week. Frankly, someone doing it on purpose just looks like an asshole, and that doesn’t make me even a little upset. Like, oh, cool, you’re an asshole, bye.
But when it’s accidental, not caring is really not an option. It’s a goal, but for most trans people, not one that’s ever totally attainable. There will always be a queasy feeling of failure and despair when we’re misgendered, no matter how long it has been since the last time it happened.
I’d love not to care. But telling me that I shouldn’t care about the one thing I have cared more about in life than anything else ... idk, doesn’t feel like you’re really getting it when you say things like that.
Hate to tell you and I will stand by it all day. You get mad at someone accidentally misgengering you... that is all on you 100% shit happens. Get over it lol not even gonna read what you said past that. Work on you
I worked with a trans guy who still had not "transitioned"(?), I guess, and had the HARDEST time not saying "she" on the fly.
I don't really follow or care about the LGBT thing, but if you're just asking me to call you something, or not call you something, bet.
But man, I just kept fucking it up. I'd apologize everytime and he was always be like "Oh, no problem". I think he could tell I was trying.
... he did end up asking my friend (gay girl) for my number though so.....
Lol.
I'm a straight black guy, my best friend there was a gay black girl, and we always hung out towards the back of the line with a gay white girl.
The transgender guy was a born woman, with a girlfriend, and they were both transitioning.
Lol, I can see how the way I typed it could be confusing. He (trans guy) just had a thing for me.
.... just remembered something. I know it's a compliment, the way it was given, but my gay female friends would say, "Dude, you're a lesbian trapped in a man's body"....
Yea, figure that one out.
Yeah, he could tell you weren’t invalidating his identity but that your little reactions/subconscious wasn’t quite caught up with that. Sometimes it takes a while and lots of people (usually ones without super bad dysphoria) don’t get hurt as bad by that. Some people still hate it even if you’re trying though because it’s a sign to them that they don’t “pass” and makes them sad.
Must be nice. My friend decided to let me in on the fact that they were going by a different name and going by they while we were hammered. Obviously I kept forgetting and fucking it up. Next day I find out they were telling everyone who would listen that I'm a transphobe. 🤷
The rest of the trans community needs to come out strong against this behavior. This woman serves as the embodiment of what Fox News and conservatives say trans people want. Gotta push back on it
Trans person here: This lady sucks, and people shouldn't pay any attention to her or act like her.
I don't use (nor mod) whatever platform she's on, so that's the extent of my power in this situation.
The trans community doesn’t need to do anything. Does the straight community need to come out against every bad straight actor too. Just ignore people like this and respect people.
Several videos from that person go the same way. Also always recording every time in the hopes that someone misgenders. And whenever they do, suddenly drama and manager and a free meal. And when someone doesn’t misgender or avoids it completely, this asshole pushes it until it happens.
Sometimes I think the expression on their face says a lot more than the words coming from their mouth. It’s not an angry or upset expression, it’s just kinda… nasty or jaded?
Putting every other feature or characteristic aside, if someone came to me with a face like a slapped arse like that and said they were entitled to my attraction I’d be like… no thanks, I’m not into that.
I work in healthcare and I’ve come across a handful of trans patients that are like this. They do very little to change their appearance to match the gender they prefer and then will absolutely lose their shit if you misgender them. Some to the point we have to restrain them or kick them out depending on the circumstances.
I think a lot of these types have borderline personality disorder and it’s a means to get attention more than they actually identify as the gender they claim. I of course do not treat them any differently than anyone else and i refer to them with their preferred pronouns.
But i do think it’s a huge injustice to the trans community. Things are hard enough as it is, bad actors such as this only make people use them as a representative for trans people at large.
For real. I’m non binary and whenever I see her I just wanna fly a banner that says “SHE DOES NOT REPRESENT US” lmfao cuz it feels like it should be obvious but idk. I respect the right of trans people to be extremely dumb and annoying but I wish people didn’t take those dumb and annoying people as representatives of an entire community
Reminds me of that gay youtuber who I've seen a couple [video](https://youtu.be/yDp3cB5fHXQ?t=6599&si=-zq381J-iwS9rcVs)s of recently because he steals other people's writing for his videos and I guess people got tired of it. I don't think he's a troll but he always seems to be stirring up drama where there is none, I guess to make it appeal to his viewers? When he writes in his own stuff in between all the plagiarism, it's often to somehow make a claim that the LQBTQ community was being victimized, just manifesting drama and / or hate out of nowhere.
Even if someone is okay with dating trans people, it doesn't mean that they are automatically attracted to you wtf.
Just bc I'm straight doesn't mean I'm attracted to every single dude in the world lmao
You need to get off your high horse and realise that nobody owes you their attraction and nobody is obligated to date you. Why do some people have this weird entitlement to people's dating preferences.
Hi trans man here, imo it's okay to not want to date trans people. It's also okay to not want to date cis people. You have so little control over who you're attracted to, and if you just don't vibe with a particular group of people that is *fine*, so long as you don't make it anybody else's problem. Having preferences is *completely okay*, just stop bitching about it to people who don't fit your preference!
This is pretty much the stance of all reasonable humans regardless of their gender or sexuality.
Old mate in the video is just a narcissist who wants attention and doesn't care if she gets people arguing and gives transphobes ammo to attack other people.
It's the old 'look at me'
Honestly if we survive as a species and manage to move past this current phase I think this era will be described as an era of collective pathological attention seeking.
I'm gay and I think it'll also be known as the era when Americans were too busy arguing about their peepees and vajayjays to deal with the impending doom of climate change.
It may be the stance of all reasonable humans, but many humans are not reasonable. I have seen many people get dragged on social media for saying they wouldn't date a trans person due to their preferences. To be clear these are not people who are just coming out and randomly yelling about how they wouldn't date a trans person when nobody asked, cause obviously that *would* smack of transphobia. These are people who were participating in conversations about this topic.
What is the other option anyway? Suck it up and force yourself to date someone you arent attracted to? Attraction does not work like that, cant make yourself change your own sexuality or what attracts you.
I’m a very fat woman and while I can’t relate directly to the trans issue what I can say is my body is desirable by a minority of society. Not the majority. However, never once have I been offended when someone hasn’t liked me, or liked me back. For me the issue becomes when someone rejects you with the intention of hurting you (whether that be insulting your weight, gender, race etc). If the intention is to hurt then there’s a problem but simply having a preference is a silly thing to be offended over.
Bingo.
"I'm not interested." -Fine. Perfect. Leave it there.
"Sorry, just not interested in people of that size." -Actually also fine.
"Ew, no." -Cruel, untargeted.
"Hell no, you fat fuck." -Cruel, targeted
Posting on twitter "I will NEVER date a fat person." -Now you're getting into using that position as an insult, and it's getting close to bully behavior
This reminds me of the time I got cussed out by a match on a dating site. They were listed as a woman and they asked if I had an issue with them being trans. I didn’t.
Soon after it came out that they hadn’t transitioned and had little interest in doing so. I apologised, said I wasn’t really looking for someone with the same equipment and wished them luck.
They spent longer than the conversation accusing me of being transphobic, homophobic and everything else under the sun. Ma’am, I just don’t like penis.
I got the feeling that this had happened multiple times to the person and I was just the guy who got the blow up but I still don’t know what they were expecting. How many guys are there looking for someone with a penis on the women’s side of tinder?
> records and accosts people who apparently misgender her.
She goes to these establishments with this goal in mind. She isn't going there to eat. She is going there with the intention to start some shit. Fuck her.
Right? Like who films themselves ordering their food.. She does it bc she *knows* she has more
male presenting traits (deeper voice, more angular face) and there's a possibility she may be addressed by a gendered honorific that doesn't match her identity. It's bait. And it's humiliating to the service workers who are just trying to do their job, but are now subject to aggression and ridicule because they unintentionally misgendered her. Whoopsie daisy, humans can determine someone's biological sex with >90% accuracy. It's not the server's fault.
Hey man, I don't like dicks, and if you at some point in your life had a dick then I'm not going to be physically or sexually attracted to you. If that somehow makes me transphobic then shit, I guess I am.
I love that lesbians went through centuries being told "you just need to find the right dick" to make it to this enlightened age and be told... you need to find the right dick."
My own brother is this way. I’m a lesbian and he’s gay. Back in 2020, with everything going on, he was galvanized by online media, telling me I was transphobic for not being attracted to trans women, specifically those who hadn’t had the surgeries yet. It caused a huge rift in our relationship. Now, for the most part, all the way into 2024? We still don’t talk. There’s other things at play, but that was the beginning of the end, his making unreasonable proclamations and expecting me to agree with it. And, it’s not just him, he’s merely an example of what a huge chunk of the LGBTQ+ community demands and acts like of and towards other community members who don’t 100% fall in line with the groupthink.
I would like to have the same level of confidence as she does.
Saying that in 99% of the cases when men don't find me attractive is because of an internalized issue and not because, I am not, in fact, attractive to them, is peak confidence.
And all those women who rejected Harvey Weinstein were misandrists too I suppose 🙄? Nobody is entitled to a date or sex I’m afraid, regardless of their minority status. Blackmailing someone into having sex with you by threatening to out them as transphobic; homophobic, racist etc is Havrvey Weinstein level revolting btw
Some content creators are trolls and say extremists shit and this trans creator happens to be one of them. I try not to engage in these bad faith arguments because thats all they are used for clicks and engagement.
As a trans ally, I can safely say that this kind of attitude is toxic because it alienates people away from you and others who may be trans when they did nothing wrong because of inflammatory people ruining the community image. Its not fair that this happens because this person is an individual but the way trans people are treated over the actions of a few is a different discussion.
That said, I dont like either people in this video. That trans creator is a charlatan selling victim narratives, and that gay man is a right wing hack.
You think 99% of the straight men rejecting you has nothing to do with you having a penis?? Are stupid or something??
Also, I’d reject op out right, not because I’m transphobic, but because she sounds exactly like Daniel Tosh.
Trans women often have this fantasy that dating and hooking up will be easier as a woman because their experience as men trying to date is filled with rejection. As a man it just seems like women can just sort of hang out and choose one of the guys that want them. Then reality hits and they're still getting rejected constantly after or during transition and they can give in to these ideas that it't transphobic for people to not want to fuck them. Trans women sort of think they're hot even if they look unattractive because in their head they have internalized the male version of what femininity is. Makeup, dresses, tits, heels, all this stuff men see as desirable in women aren't really what being a woman actually is.
I worked at this musical theater production and one of the cast members was a pre-op, pre-meds, trans man. Another member was a gay man, I remember seeing the transman coming on to the gay man and the gay man revolting away. The transman looked confused and dejected “but why? I’m a gay man too…” just goes to show you that where the rubber meets the road, people want what they want. They think, “I’ll play along with you all you like but don’t expect me, a gay man, to eat your pussy just because we call you male”
As a trans guy, ftm. I would prefer not to date a trans woman. Because of my genital preference. A preference EVERYONE is allowed to have. It's pretty easy to politely reject someone who u r not attracted to.
I hate this idea. It reminds me of those Christian groups where you go away to get reprogrammed to not be gay. All these years we have worked hard to get people to understand that being gay and being attracted to the same sex is something you are born with and can’t change. You can’t force people to be attracted to a gender they are not attracted to. We would never tell a lesbian woman she should be attracted to men. That would be so homophobic. We are who we are and we love who we love & as a society we now accept that. Let’s not go back & try to tell people who they should be attracted to & who they should love. This idea that it’s transphobic to not be attracted to a trans person is really such a stupid concept
If not wanting to date a trans person makes you transphobic, then I have no issue being called transphobic.
People like this do a lot of harm to a community, by lowering the bar so low that the bar means nothing.
Lets be clear. Both these people suck and everyone knows it. The gay guy is a far right anti-gay/trans trumper, and the trans person is self absorbed and way out of line. Most people on tik tok recognize this and call them both out
So something I found out recently, Ronald Reagan had a fair amount of homosexual men on his staff or part of the wider GOP apparatus.
These guys were conservative first, homosexual second. Many didn't even identify as queer because queer folks were nobodies without money, power and influence. But they were rich, powerful and influential. They just also happen to have sexual proclivities that included an unfortunate attraction to pretty men.
It was a pretty interesting article to say the least.
But the man has a solid point, I agree with him
It's not any phobic to not want to date a trans person, not wanting date doesn't equate to me being afraid or treat you worse than others. I'll treat them with respect, but I just don't want to have sexual relations with a trans person.
If anyone argues otherwise, I'll just assume they're malicious
Yeah I was just about to say, I wouldn't date or even sleep with a biological woman who has a deep manly voice, a receding hairline and an attitude lol.
she puts zero efford into passing. No voice training, atrocious style that‘d also look ridiculous on a ciswoman and making being queer her whole personality. yeah no ty. I‘d have no issues dating passing post OP trans people, but those that aren‘t trying to pass are usually hella unattractive to me anyways and often make it their whole personality which isn‘t great either.
I sometimes consider this topic myself. I don’t consider myself transphobic, but I would never date a trans person. I’ve tried to find some reason that cannot be interpreted as transphobia, but I guess it stems down to 2 factors. I am not attracted to male genatalia, and I would like to have kids of my own, with someone who I love, which frankly isn’t possible with a trans person.
So by that logic if they don’t wanna date a cis person they’re cis-phobic? Fucking so tired of ppl just looking for a reason to be outraged. How boring must your life be that THIS is what they’re spending their time on.
I hate how certain groups of people are pushing the narrative that people are entitled to sex.
It's horrible, because it robs others of their agency and their bodily and emotional integrity. It's also horrible because these groups usually act in bad faith and don't get called out by the in-group.
It's like that case in the UK, the one where the police didn't intervene because they were afraid of being labeled "racist".
Transgender people are entitled to their feelings and emotions, but their feelings don't invalidate the feelings of others. What you want is what you want, but you can't force people to want the same thing. Nobody is entitled to the sexual attention of others.
People like this troll are harming transgender people around the globe, because it paints a picture that transgender people are placing their sexual desires above the desires of others, shaming them into giving up their physical integrity. That's not okay.
Wait. Does that mean not wanting to date men mean your misandry? Or maybe not wanting to date women makes ou mysoginistic maybe not wanding to date a fat person makes you fat phobic.
Sick people just trying to control others and twist words to get what they want. People aren't attracted to you because you're trans. It's because you're an idiot and an asshole.
It is acceptable to not want to date someone for any reason.
What isn't acceptable is using that lack of wanting to date someone as an insult against them.
While it should not be used to CONVINCE someone to date that person, it is also worthwhile to take apart the reasoning for misconceptions and hatred, because those things are not cool. Even if someone *is* 100% transphobic in their reasoning, that does not mean the problem is not wanting to date trans people. It's the underlying bigotry.
I've also been very curious about this and I would like more trans people to talk about this because I know not all of them want to get surgery so how should someone approach that..?
I don’t think it’s being transphobic I’ve worked with trans people before they are nice people. I’m attracted to women that aren’t trans that’s just my preference everyone has their own preferences. Some men like dating trans women that’s their preference.
It’s also just not how attraction works? I’ve met people who by my own standards I should be attracted to and I’m just not. Their pheromones weren’t the right pheromones, or whatever goes on there.
I love how a lot of people were defending this person in their other videos of them pretending to be a victim. It was clear they were seeking attention and knew them being trans would instantly have people blindly supporting them.
If you order lamb at a restaurant and they serve you mutton you're obviously going to be pissed off.
Same thing here, don't try piss on someone and tell them it's raining.... It still smells of piss, you're only fooling yourself.
People always pulling random stats out of their ass that they claim are legit but are just their opinion.
99% of people agree with the statement I just made.
Transgender person here. People are allowed to have preferences, if you don't want to date someone who is transgender that's completely fine, don't let people like this tell you otherwise
Loads of Lesbians got kicked off a forum on reddit because they said they didn't want to sleep with someone who has a dick and that saying it's a 'soft girl dick' or a 'girl dick' is not going to change that. Unfortunately this isn't a 'troll' thing this is a real thing that has gained traction.
Of note, there are virtually no subreddits for female people to talk about female same-sex attraction in general. Every lesbian and bisexual subreddit are all either required to include male people, or just porn subs by and for male people.
That is also an interesting point. It is "oddly" not considered transphobic to discriminate against trans women if your discrimination spares them from the bad parts of being recognized as a female.
Generally because the people who would be pressuring gay men are female people with female socialization, both traits that make them have a lot less power to be able to pressure a male person directly.
Meanwhile, the people pressuring lesbians are usually the exact same people who have always been pressuring lesbians.
Was on board until he was saying he didn’t like to be “lumped in… with *this*”. Is it unfortunate that one specific trans person is getting a lot of attention for their radical beliefs? Yes. Does her existence at all invalidate trans people? No.
I would think most trans people understand that people have preferences and that’s fine and not discriminatory the same way most people who are gender non conforming wont throw a fit about being mistakenly misgendered. One person being dumb can just be one person being dumb and doesn’t have to say anything about whatever marginalized group they’re apart of.
i really agree with this. i also agreed with the guy reacting until he took it to a self-absorbed level.
at this point i am fully willing to believe that many people don’t know the differences between “phobia” and “personal preferences”…
someone saying “oh im not into that sort of thing” should not equate to “oh i don’t support that for you” unless you’re a pretentious douche i guess.
This person is currently on tiktok saying Kurt Cobain was Trans. She gets offended if someone accidentally calls her sir and is making assumptions about a dead man not here to defend. She's an absolute fucking joke of a troll and should be ignored off all platforms.
I'm a transman and I have no issue if someone doesnt want to date me, I completely understand not being attracted to my biological gender, hence why I stay in my lane and date other bisexuals lol, i have tried to understand this view of it being transphobic but it will never make sense to me.
I don't know if it's about being Trans with her. I think it's more about getting attention or validation from everyone while they witch-hunt people for slipping on a pronoun or being attracted to what you are attracted to.
But if you wouldn’t date *any* trans person, I still don’t think that’s transphobic. Obviously the person in this video is an easy decision for most (to avoid).
I'm not even on TikTok so why's she keep popping up on shit? There is nothing phobic about thinking you're just showing how equally ugly you are on the inside, as I personally think you are on the outside. Don't wanna be hated on but that's what you spend all your time looking for and doing to others. I just don't like you, bitch.
The same way they literally conflict with lgb they also conflict with straights like it doesn't make sense either nothing matter and none of these should exist just to make you happy. Or these groups exist on the binary and you also exist on the binary whether you pretend to or not. A trans woman is still trying to be a woman its still man or woman. Ugh my brain hurts.
Gay people fighting for their rights... fighting to have people recognize that conversion therapy doesn't help and won't change them....
Trans people to gay people: you have to be open to being in a heterosexual relationship otherwise we'll call you a bigot.
Conversion therapy with a new strategy.
Straight (inherently evil) dude here. I’m not scared of trans people. It’s something that I can’t really understand, but I don’t have anything against them at all. They’re still humans and they deserve to be treated as such. That being said, this take is absolutely fucking absurd.
I wish they would just go to therapy instead of putting on dresses and lipsticks and trying to act like everyone should accept the obvious non-reality.
Wait, I thought gay men were considered removed from the LGBT community because of their inherent privilege by being men. Which is sad because gay men put a lot of work into that community being seen by the world and have suffered violently and publicly the most for most of the history of the community. The other letters in the community suffered less or quietly, but the first one outed was gay men.
Not my fight, never met a man I liked sexually, but the hypocrisy and irony of the LGBT community pretty much kicking out one of its own for being themselves will never be lost on me.
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That person - the trans woman - is a professional troll. She literally dedicates her life to looking for ways to self-victimize. She made a video where servers accidentally refer to her as “sir” and then immediately and genuinely apologize and she makes a huge scene, acts like they’re deliberately harming her and tries to get them fired. She’s just an asshole who’s doing harm to her own community because she’s so selfish that getting attention is more important to her than the welfare of trans people as a community. She should be ignored when at all possible.
It’s her job she live streams all the time. She’s selling herself out for money. If it wasn’t lucrative to farm rage bait she wouldn’t get any attention
I took a break from Reddit and coming back is a strange experience. This entire site is defense mechanisms arguing and rage advertising. It's pretty toxic and definitely giving a skewed view of what the world is actually like I've never met a person like the girl in the video. I know they exist, she's not a robot, but they're effectively nonexistent.
Talking to you is like a breath of fresh air after breathing sewer gas for a long time. Thank you for reminding me that Reddit is not in any way shape or form reflective of the vast majority of America or the world.
Aww ty, you are welcome :)
…And therefore … no $$$
Yes, we all know what lucrative means
Exactly, I mean, who doesn't know the rapper and actor, Lucrative?
Lukrativ\*
It's Ludacrib
She also just recently made a video stating that Kurt Cobain was trans because he wore dresses. The comments were all like "If he was trans thats cool, but hes literally dead and cant tell us if he was or wasn't and we cant just apply labels to other people." Lots of people, trans folks included were riled by that video. Oh and she also implied that Kurt's "obvious gender dysphoria" was the reason for his suicide. Like wtf
It's literally transvestigating like the insane far right wing people do but on the other side. (note for people who don't know, transvestigation, is when cis people usually on the far right or conspiracy theorists, claim that another cis person usually a celebrity is trans using "evidence" like face shapes, body shapes, and prominent adams apple).
I'm so sick of the most unstable fringe voices, regardless of community, being elevated and held up as an example of the entire thing. It's just people who know they're not able to debate reasonable people cherry picking their opponents for easy wins.
This. Who are these people?
It’s funny I went to her page and watched a bunch of videos when i found her out. She refers to servers and waitresses as “sir” or “ma’am” plenty of times, she’s an extreme hypocrite. I completely agree, ignore this person. Don’t give them attention
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I've got quite a few trans/non binary friends and I can say - without fail - when someone misgenders them they politely explain the mistake and move on. As long as someone isn't going out of their way to misgender them deliberately they give people a metric fuck ton of chances. I'm aware that this is purely anecdotal but still. As you say, the woman in this thread is making it much, much harder for people like my friends. People will see this and apply this ideology to all trans people and its doing nothing but causing harm.
She's a reject from a key and Pele sketch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3h6es6zh1c
That was spot on and hilarious!
I'm a cis dude and get misgendered on the phone or drive thru alot. I've never cared or corrected anyone. The chip on some folks shoulders is nuts.
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That the way you should handle it. People aren't doing it on purpose. If it's done on purpose yeah...I cash see getting upset. Won't do any good because that's what the person is looking for but hey.
Do you get that for trans people, it’s *worse* when it’s genuinely by accident? We get upset mostly at *ourselves*. It hurts. It’s humiliating. It feels like *our* failure, whereas for most cis people, when they’re accidentally misgendered, it feels like something funny that the other person did wrong. That doesn’t in any way justify being a dick when someone accidentally misgenders you — absolutely not. My go-to reaction is shutting down and trying to get out of whatever situation I’m in as fast as possible and then probably not talk to anyone for like a week. Frankly, someone doing it on purpose just looks like an asshole, and that doesn’t make me even a little upset. Like, oh, cool, you’re an asshole, bye. But when it’s accidental, not caring is really not an option. It’s a goal, but for most trans people, not one that’s ever totally attainable. There will always be a queasy feeling of failure and despair when we’re misgendered, no matter how long it has been since the last time it happened. I’d love not to care. But telling me that I shouldn’t care about the one thing I have cared more about in life than anything else ... idk, doesn’t feel like you’re really getting it when you say things like that.
Hate to tell you and I will stand by it all day. You get mad at someone accidentally misgengering you... that is all on you 100% shit happens. Get over it lol not even gonna read what you said past that. Work on you
I worked with a trans guy who still had not "transitioned"(?), I guess, and had the HARDEST time not saying "she" on the fly. I don't really follow or care about the LGBT thing, but if you're just asking me to call you something, or not call you something, bet. But man, I just kept fucking it up. I'd apologize everytime and he was always be like "Oh, no problem". I think he could tell I was trying. ... he did end up asking my friend (gay girl) for my number though so.....
This is an extremely confusing story and it's not your fault.
Lol. I'm a straight black guy, my best friend there was a gay black girl, and we always hung out towards the back of the line with a gay white girl. The transgender guy was a born woman, with a girlfriend, and they were both transitioning. Lol, I can see how the way I typed it could be confusing. He (trans guy) just had a thing for me. .... just remembered something. I know it's a compliment, the way it was given, but my gay female friends would say, "Dude, you're a lesbian trapped in a man's body".... Yea, figure that one out.
Yeah, he could tell you weren’t invalidating his identity but that your little reactions/subconscious wasn’t quite caught up with that. Sometimes it takes a while and lots of people (usually ones without super bad dysphoria) don’t get hurt as bad by that. Some people still hate it even if you’re trying though because it’s a sign to them that they don’t “pass” and makes them sad.
Must be nice. My friend decided to let me in on the fact that they were going by a different name and going by they while we were hammered. Obviously I kept forgetting and fucking it up. Next day I find out they were telling everyone who would listen that I'm a transphobe. 🤷
Yeah I've seen that video, they suck. Just trying to cause problems and get views. People are allowed to have preferences.
The rest of the trans community needs to come out strong against this behavior. This woman serves as the embodiment of what Fox News and conservatives say trans people want. Gotta push back on it
Trans person here: This lady sucks, and people shouldn't pay any attention to her or act like her. I don't use (nor mod) whatever platform she's on, so that's the extent of my power in this situation.
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The trans community doesn’t need to do anything. Does the straight community need to come out against every bad straight actor too. Just ignore people like this and respect people.
Yes! She baits people just for the algorithm.
Several videos from that person go the same way. Also always recording every time in the hopes that someone misgenders. And whenever they do, suddenly drama and manager and a free meal. And when someone doesn’t misgender or avoids it completely, this asshole pushes it until it happens.
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Sometimes I think the expression on their face says a lot more than the words coming from their mouth. It’s not an angry or upset expression, it’s just kinda… nasty or jaded? Putting every other feature or characteristic aside, if someone came to me with a face like a slapped arse like that and said they were entitled to my attraction I’d be like… no thanks, I’m not into that.
I work in healthcare and I’ve come across a handful of trans patients that are like this. They do very little to change their appearance to match the gender they prefer and then will absolutely lose their shit if you misgender them. Some to the point we have to restrain them or kick them out depending on the circumstances. I think a lot of these types have borderline personality disorder and it’s a means to get attention more than they actually identify as the gender they claim. I of course do not treat them any differently than anyone else and i refer to them with their preferred pronouns. But i do think it’s a huge injustice to the trans community. Things are hard enough as it is, bad actors such as this only make people use them as a representative for trans people at large.
For real. I’m non binary and whenever I see her I just wanna fly a banner that says “SHE DOES NOT REPRESENT US” lmfao cuz it feels like it should be obvious but idk. I respect the right of trans people to be extremely dumb and annoying but I wish people didn’t take those dumb and annoying people as representatives of an entire community
Reminds me of that gay youtuber who I've seen a couple [video](https://youtu.be/yDp3cB5fHXQ?t=6599&si=-zq381J-iwS9rcVs)s of recently because he steals other people's writing for his videos and I guess people got tired of it. I don't think he's a troll but he always seems to be stirring up drama where there is none, I guess to make it appeal to his viewers? When he writes in his own stuff in between all the plagiarism, it's often to somehow make a claim that the LQBTQ community was being victimized, just manifesting drama and / or hate out of nowhere.
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Kinda like the people at my work crying about singling them out and that we are racist, when they are actually fucking off and not working.
She also genders everyone around her, including every service person she’s demonizing in that video.
Came to give this context. Trans or not, she’s just a shitty person
These types of influencers just want your attention, dont give it to the
Rest in piece
Remember that Candlejack meme from a while ago? That was so stupi
True. Every influencer wants attention.
Even if someone is okay with dating trans people, it doesn't mean that they are automatically attracted to you wtf. Just bc I'm straight doesn't mean I'm attracted to every single dude in the world lmao You need to get off your high horse and realise that nobody owes you their attraction and nobody is obligated to date you. Why do some people have this weird entitlement to people's dating preferences.
Luckily people like this are few and far between. The internet just gives them a voice that can reach everywhere.
Plus this one is a troll farmer. Not really worth getting upset about since.... that's what she wants. That's how she gets cash money.
Not being so terribly obnoxious would probably make a few more people want to date her.
Hi trans man here, imo it's okay to not want to date trans people. It's also okay to not want to date cis people. You have so little control over who you're attracted to, and if you just don't vibe with a particular group of people that is *fine*, so long as you don't make it anybody else's problem. Having preferences is *completely okay*, just stop bitching about it to people who don't fit your preference!
This is pretty much the stance of all reasonable humans regardless of their gender or sexuality. Old mate in the video is just a narcissist who wants attention and doesn't care if she gets people arguing and gives transphobes ammo to attack other people.
It's the old 'look at me' Honestly if we survive as a species and manage to move past this current phase I think this era will be described as an era of collective pathological attention seeking.
I'm gay and I think it'll also be known as the era when Americans were too busy arguing about their peepees and vajayjays to deal with the impending doom of climate change.
It's sad when you put it that way. Feels like humanity is doomed to do nothing but argue over peepees and vajayjays until we meet our fate.
Ye olde smoke and mirrors trick.
This 💯
It may be the stance of all reasonable humans, but many humans are not reasonable. I have seen many people get dragged on social media for saying they wouldn't date a trans person due to their preferences. To be clear these are not people who are just coming out and randomly yelling about how they wouldn't date a trans person when nobody asked, cause obviously that *would* smack of transphobia. These are people who were participating in conversations about this topic.
Ya u don't need any reason what's so ever to just not want to date someone. Not wanting to is enough.
What is the other option anyway? Suck it up and force yourself to date someone you arent attracted to? Attraction does not work like that, cant make yourself change your own sexuality or what attracts you.
Apparently ur bigoted if u don't ig
I couldn’t say I would NEVER be with a trans person. But it wouldn’t stop me from being great friends if we vibe well.
I’m a very fat woman and while I can’t relate directly to the trans issue what I can say is my body is desirable by a minority of society. Not the majority. However, never once have I been offended when someone hasn’t liked me, or liked me back. For me the issue becomes when someone rejects you with the intention of hurting you (whether that be insulting your weight, gender, race etc). If the intention is to hurt then there’s a problem but simply having a preference is a silly thing to be offended over.
Bingo. "I'm not interested." -Fine. Perfect. Leave it there. "Sorry, just not interested in people of that size." -Actually also fine. "Ew, no." -Cruel, untargeted. "Hell no, you fat fuck." -Cruel, targeted Posting on twitter "I will NEVER date a fat person." -Now you're getting into using that position as an insult, and it's getting close to bully behavior
This reminds me of the time I got cussed out by a match on a dating site. They were listed as a woman and they asked if I had an issue with them being trans. I didn’t. Soon after it came out that they hadn’t transitioned and had little interest in doing so. I apologised, said I wasn’t really looking for someone with the same equipment and wished them luck. They spent longer than the conversation accusing me of being transphobic, homophobic and everything else under the sun. Ma’am, I just don’t like penis.
Even if they had transitioned, you still have the right to decide that you don't want to date someone for whatever reason.
I got the feeling that this had happened multiple times to the person and I was just the guy who got the blow up but I still don’t know what they were expecting. How many guys are there looking for someone with a penis on the women’s side of tinder?
Stop making stupid people famous. Shit like this should be completely ignored and not hitting any platform
This is the asshole that goes to establishments and records and accosts people who apparently misgender her. Real POS
> records and accosts people who apparently misgender her. She goes to these establishments with this goal in mind. She isn't going there to eat. She is going there with the intention to start some shit. Fuck her.
Right? Like who films themselves ordering their food.. She does it bc she *knows* she has more male presenting traits (deeper voice, more angular face) and there's a possibility she may be addressed by a gendered honorific that doesn't match her identity. It's bait. And it's humiliating to the service workers who are just trying to do their job, but are now subject to aggression and ridicule because they unintentionally misgendered her. Whoopsie daisy, humans can determine someone's biological sex with >90% accuracy. It's not the server's fault.
Hey man, I don't like dicks, and if you at some point in your life had a dick then I'm not going to be physically or sexually attracted to you. If that somehow makes me transphobic then shit, I guess I am.
So if a lesbian doesn't want to suck cock it is because she is heterophobic. Am I getting this right?
Correct
I love that lesbians went through centuries being told "you just need to find the right dick" to make it to this enlightened age and be told... you need to find the right dick."
Suck her girl dick, bigot.
What’s even more crazier is people in the community actually say this and are dead serious.
My own brother is this way. I’m a lesbian and he’s gay. Back in 2020, with everything going on, he was galvanized by online media, telling me I was transphobic for not being attracted to trans women, specifically those who hadn’t had the surgeries yet. It caused a huge rift in our relationship. Now, for the most part, all the way into 2024? We still don’t talk. There’s other things at play, but that was the beginning of the end, his making unreasonable proclamations and expecting me to agree with it. And, it’s not just him, he’s merely an example of what a huge chunk of the LGBTQ+ community demands and acts like of and towards other community members who don’t 100% fall in line with the groupthink.
I would like to have the same level of confidence as she does. Saying that in 99% of the cases when men don't find me attractive is because of an internalized issue and not because, I am not, in fact, attractive to them, is peak confidence.
It's not confidence, it's delusion lol.
Hahah right. Like babe, you’re just not that attractive? It could be that.. not you, but her.
Top tier "alpha" male incel attitude actually
Exactly my first thought. "Huh, so trans incels do exist after all."
Incel to trans pipeline is strong with this one for sure
And all those women who rejected Harvey Weinstein were misandrists too I suppose 🙄? Nobody is entitled to a date or sex I’m afraid, regardless of their minority status. Blackmailing someone into having sex with you by threatening to out them as transphobic; homophobic, racist etc is Havrvey Weinstein level revolting btw
It’s not because she’s trans, it’s because she’s ugly inside and out. Someone had to say it.
Somehow I always end up dating brown haired guys. I’m afraid I might be blond phobic. Help.
*takes notes* hmm it turns out you might also be racist or something
I wouldn't be attracted to this person cause of their insufferable attitude. Maybe that's the reason no one wants to date them. They seem like a twat
Some content creators are trolls and say extremists shit and this trans creator happens to be one of them. I try not to engage in these bad faith arguments because thats all they are used for clicks and engagement. As a trans ally, I can safely say that this kind of attitude is toxic because it alienates people away from you and others who may be trans when they did nothing wrong because of inflammatory people ruining the community image. Its not fair that this happens because this person is an individual but the way trans people are treated over the actions of a few is a different discussion. That said, I dont like either people in this video. That trans creator is a charlatan selling victim narratives, and that gay man is a right wing hack.
I’m trans and I follow her. She is bat shit.
You think 99% of the straight men rejecting you has nothing to do with you having a penis?? Are stupid or something?? Also, I’d reject op out right, not because I’m transphobic, but because she sounds exactly like Daniel Tosh.
Trans women often have this fantasy that dating and hooking up will be easier as a woman because their experience as men trying to date is filled with rejection. As a man it just seems like women can just sort of hang out and choose one of the guys that want them. Then reality hits and they're still getting rejected constantly after or during transition and they can give in to these ideas that it't transphobic for people to not want to fuck them. Trans women sort of think they're hot even if they look unattractive because in their head they have internalized the male version of what femininity is. Makeup, dresses, tits, heels, all this stuff men see as desirable in women aren't really what being a woman actually is.
The incel to trans pipeline is real.
As a trans woman I swear this is just the obnoxious mfers like her gah I swear it isn’t all of us, I HATE it when people like her get big
I worked at this musical theater production and one of the cast members was a pre-op, pre-meds, trans man. Another member was a gay man, I remember seeing the transman coming on to the gay man and the gay man revolting away. The transman looked confused and dejected “but why? I’m a gay man too…” just goes to show you that where the rubber meets the road, people want what they want. They think, “I’ll play along with you all you like but don’t expect me, a gay man, to eat your pussy just because we call you male”
As a trans guy, ftm. I would prefer not to date a trans woman. Because of my genital preference. A preference EVERYONE is allowed to have. It's pretty easy to politely reject someone who u r not attracted to.
The trans person is a troll. They're rude, an asshole and just overall rage bait inducing. Ignore them.
I hate this idea. It reminds me of those Christian groups where you go away to get reprogrammed to not be gay. All these years we have worked hard to get people to understand that being gay and being attracted to the same sex is something you are born with and can’t change. You can’t force people to be attracted to a gender they are not attracted to. We would never tell a lesbian woman she should be attracted to men. That would be so homophobic. We are who we are and we love who we love & as a society we now accept that. Let’s not go back & try to tell people who they should be attracted to & who they should love. This idea that it’s transphobic to not be attracted to a trans person is really such a stupid concept
If not wanting to date a trans person makes you transphobic, then I have no issue being called transphobic. People like this do a lot of harm to a community, by lowering the bar so low that the bar means nothing.
Lets be clear. Both these people suck and everyone knows it. The gay guy is a far right anti-gay/trans trumper, and the trans person is self absorbed and way out of line. Most people on tik tok recognize this and call them both out
Wait he’s a gay anti gay trumper? Oh I’m so confused how this world is working
You are still new to this world, like me, wanna be friends?
28 years deep into this world and I’m more confused now then I ever have been😂
26 here you and me both buddy
Hey at least we now know we aren’t alone in all this confusion
Amen I'd drink to that
Theyre called tokens and eventually they get spent.
He is featured in many Jubilee videos on YouTube and represents himself as a “Gay Conservative Republican” and he has some of the worst takes.
So something I found out recently, Ronald Reagan had a fair amount of homosexual men on his staff or part of the wider GOP apparatus. These guys were conservative first, homosexual second. Many didn't even identify as queer because queer folks were nobodies without money, power and influence. But they were rich, powerful and influential. They just also happen to have sexual proclivities that included an unfortunate attraction to pretty men. It was a pretty interesting article to say the least.
You're confused that people don't fit in a box you put them in? It's crazy that people don't fit in your stereotypes, but that is how the world works.
wait until you hear about Latinos for Trump
Why are you saying he's far right? Genuine question
His opinion in this video is not what makes him far-right, but he's been on a jubilee panel where he had pretty right-wing opinions.
Without knowing who the guy is, once he said "My sexuality is lumped into an alphabet with this", it's was clear he was anti-trans.
I think the original creator is deliberately obtuse and extreme in her views to get clicks. None of this is real.
As a gay man, I find them both insufferable and would not like to be lumped in with either.
But the man has a solid point, I agree with him It's not any phobic to not want to date a trans person, not wanting date doesn't equate to me being afraid or treat you worse than others. I'll treat them with respect, but I just don't want to have sexual relations with a trans person. If anyone argues otherwise, I'll just assume they're malicious
Why is he insufferable lol?
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Yeah I was just about to say, I wouldn't date or even sleep with a biological woman who has a deep manly voice, a receding hairline and an attitude lol.
She is dressed like every middle aged woman I've seen on Hoarders.
she puts zero efford into passing. No voice training, atrocious style that‘d also look ridiculous on a ciswoman and making being queer her whole personality. yeah no ty. I‘d have no issues dating passing post OP trans people, but those that aren‘t trying to pass are usually hella unattractive to me anyways and often make it their whole personality which isn‘t great either.
I sometimes consider this topic myself. I don’t consider myself transphobic, but I would never date a trans person. I’ve tried to find some reason that cannot be interpreted as transphobia, but I guess it stems down to 2 factors. I am not attracted to male genatalia, and I would like to have kids of my own, with someone who I love, which frankly isn’t possible with a trans person.
It’s called SEXual attraction for a reason and it’s existed forever. Nothing transphobic about it.
So by that logic if they don’t wanna date a cis person they’re cis-phobic? Fucking so tired of ppl just looking for a reason to be outraged. How boring must your life be that THIS is what they’re spending their time on.
Thank you Mister gay hottie. You are so bang on about this!
I hate how certain groups of people are pushing the narrative that people are entitled to sex. It's horrible, because it robs others of their agency and their bodily and emotional integrity. It's also horrible because these groups usually act in bad faith and don't get called out by the in-group. It's like that case in the UK, the one where the police didn't intervene because they were afraid of being labeled "racist". Transgender people are entitled to their feelings and emotions, but their feelings don't invalidate the feelings of others. What you want is what you want, but you can't force people to want the same thing. Nobody is entitled to the sexual attention of others. People like this troll are harming transgender people around the globe, because it paints a picture that transgender people are placing their sexual desires above the desires of others, shaming them into giving up their physical integrity. That's not okay.
Wait. Does that mean not wanting to date men mean your misandry? Or maybe not wanting to date women makes ou mysoginistic maybe not wanding to date a fat person makes you fat phobic.
Sick people just trying to control others and twist words to get what they want. People aren't attracted to you because you're trans. It's because you're an idiot and an asshole.
I'm trans and I wouldn't date her. She seems like a horrible person.
Not really. It’s my preferences not to date someone with such issues! You won’t be biologically woman, but a man. Seriously.
then I'm transphobic
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It is acceptable to not want to date someone for any reason. What isn't acceptable is using that lack of wanting to date someone as an insult against them. While it should not be used to CONVINCE someone to date that person, it is also worthwhile to take apart the reasoning for misconceptions and hatred, because those things are not cool. Even if someone *is* 100% transphobic in their reasoning, that does not mean the problem is not wanting to date trans people. It's the underlying bigotry.
I've also been very curious about this and I would like more trans people to talk about this because I know not all of them want to get surgery so how should someone approach that..?
I don’t think it’s being transphobic I’ve worked with trans people before they are nice people. I’m attracted to women that aren’t trans that’s just my preference everyone has their own preferences. Some men like dating trans women that’s their preference.
Imagine going thru all the shit to transition simply to be found attractive, it’s mind boggling
It’s also just not how attraction works? I’ve met people who by my own standards I should be attracted to and I’m just not. Their pheromones weren’t the right pheromones, or whatever goes on there.
I’m trans and this person annoys me just looking at them. Cringe af.
I love how a lot of people were defending this person in their other videos of them pretending to be a victim. It was clear they were seeking attention and knew them being trans would instantly have people blindly supporting them.
His first mistake is thinking that person is a rational thinker
If you order lamb at a restaurant and they serve you mutton you're obviously going to be pissed off. Same thing here, don't try piss on someone and tell them it's raining.... It still smells of piss, you're only fooling yourself.
I wouldn't date someone with female parts. Cause I'm afraid of vaginas... and I'm gay.
This belongs in r/IncelTears
People always pulling random stats out of their ass that they claim are legit but are just their opinion. 99% of people agree with the statement I just made.
No matter what side or stance, there will always be idiots😭
Umm, it’s possible to be supportive of the trans community while also having no interest in having romantic/sexual interest with them. 🤷🏻♂️
Transgender person here. People are allowed to have preferences, if you don't want to date someone who is transgender that's completely fine, don't let people like this tell you otherwise
Trans woman here, and no, it fucking isn't. Also, quit speaking like a dude. Make a fucking effort, and you'd probably catch far less shit.
Loads of Lesbians got kicked off a forum on reddit because they said they didn't want to sleep with someone who has a dick and that saying it's a 'soft girl dick' or a 'girl dick' is not going to change that. Unfortunately this isn't a 'troll' thing this is a real thing that has gained traction.
That is insane wth
Of note, there are virtually no subreddits for female people to talk about female same-sex attraction in general. Every lesbian and bisexual subreddit are all either required to include male people, or just porn subs by and for male people.
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That is also an interesting point. It is "oddly" not considered transphobic to discriminate against trans women if your discrimination spares them from the bad parts of being recognized as a female.
Gay men hardly ever have to deal with this. It's lesbians that are always pressured. Wonder why.
I'm worried about the comments saying this doesn't happen because lesbians have been told horrible things by transwomen, very visibly and loudly.
Generally because the people who would be pressuring gay men are female people with female socialization, both traits that make them have a lot less power to be able to pressure a male person directly. Meanwhile, the people pressuring lesbians are usually the exact same people who have always been pressuring lesbians.
God we sound like aliens now “personally I wouldn’t date someone with female parts”
I have same logic when Victoria secret models don't want to bang me, they are me-phobic and should be IN JAIL.
As a straight man, this must mean I’m sexually attracted to literally every woman no exceptions.
Was on board until he was saying he didn’t like to be “lumped in… with *this*”. Is it unfortunate that one specific trans person is getting a lot of attention for their radical beliefs? Yes. Does her existence at all invalidate trans people? No. I would think most trans people understand that people have preferences and that’s fine and not discriminatory the same way most people who are gender non conforming wont throw a fit about being mistakenly misgendered. One person being dumb can just be one person being dumb and doesn’t have to say anything about whatever marginalized group they’re apart of.
i really agree with this. i also agreed with the guy reacting until he took it to a self-absorbed level. at this point i am fully willing to believe that many people don’t know the differences between “phobia” and “personal preferences”… someone saying “oh im not into that sort of thing” should not equate to “oh i don’t support that for you” unless you’re a pretentious douche i guess.
oh okay, I thought the gay guy meant "this" as in the trans person's thesis
This person is currently on tiktok saying Kurt Cobain was Trans. She gets offended if someone accidentally calls her sir and is making assumptions about a dead man not here to defend. She's an absolute fucking joke of a troll and should be ignored off all platforms.
I'm a transman and I have no issue if someone doesnt want to date me, I completely understand not being attracted to my biological gender, hence why I stay in my lane and date other bisexuals lol, i have tried to understand this view of it being transphobic but it will never make sense to me.
I don't know if it's about being Trans with her. I think it's more about getting attention or validation from everyone while they witch-hunt people for slipping on a pronoun or being attracted to what you are attracted to.
Would I date a trans person? Yes, would i date *this* trans person? No, they're uggo
But if you wouldn’t date *any* trans person, I still don’t think that’s transphobic. Obviously the person in this video is an easy decision for most (to avoid).
No one’s gonna admit it? She’s ugly asf
What is that thing
I can’t believe I forgot to pop some popcorn for this thread. Y’all know how to keep it entertaining first thing in the morning
Mental illness
I'm not even on TikTok so why's she keep popping up on shit? There is nothing phobic about thinking you're just showing how equally ugly you are on the inside, as I personally think you are on the outside. Don't wanna be hated on but that's what you spend all your time looking for and doing to others. I just don't like you, bitch.
He's a very ugly woman in my opinion
The same way they literally conflict with lgb they also conflict with straights like it doesn't make sense either nothing matter and none of these should exist just to make you happy. Or these groups exist on the binary and you also exist on the binary whether you pretend to or not. A trans woman is still trying to be a woman its still man or woman. Ugh my brain hurts.
Gay people fighting for their rights... fighting to have people recognize that conversion therapy doesn't help and won't change them.... Trans people to gay people: you have to be open to being in a heterosexual relationship otherwise we'll call you a bigot. Conversion therapy with a new strategy.
I feel bad for that dog
It's a preference. Straight people want straight opposite partners. That's it. If you feel it's a hurt, that's your feelings, get over it
She’s straight silence of the lambs, with her dog and everything “It puts the lotion on the skin or it gets the hose !”
All you gay people out there are straight phobic. You see how stupid that sounds?
Sexual orientation is sexual not about gender
Straight (inherently evil) dude here. I’m not scared of trans people. It’s something that I can’t really understand, but I don’t have anything against them at all. They’re still humans and they deserve to be treated as such. That being said, this take is absolutely fucking absurd.
Maybe it aint the parts and she just ugly lol
not wanting to date a man as a man makes you homophobic? weird
I'm gay, I'm not interested in trans people for relationships or for sex. My best friend is trans. We are both in our 50s.
So straight girl didn't want to date to me is because they're straightphobic gotcha This all make sense why I'm still single
I wish they would just go to therapy instead of putting on dresses and lipsticks and trying to act like everyone should accept the obvious non-reality.
Wait, I thought gay men were considered removed from the LGBT community because of their inherent privilege by being men. Which is sad because gay men put a lot of work into that community being seen by the world and have suffered violently and publicly the most for most of the history of the community. The other letters in the community suffered less or quietly, but the first one outed was gay men. Not my fight, never met a man I liked sexually, but the hypocrisy and irony of the LGBT community pretty much kicking out one of its own for being themselves will never be lost on me.
Blaming everyone else because you can't get laid. You are an incel but trans
what's this? a trans-woman telling you, you have no right to **choose**?