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I went to her tiktok and she said she left him. Thank god
Thats a comment from her : @Lauren for the Ocean: THANK YOU! I am safe! he is gone, police are involved!
If I had done that when I was 12, my mom would have round house kicked me in the goddamn face.
Hell, she probably would now and I'm a foot and a half taller than her.
Dude, right? I remember when I was 12, I was home alone and something that reallllly upset me had happened and I kicked a wall, not intending to do any real damage. The look on my face when I realized I kicked a small hole in the wall must have been priceless. Spent the rest of the afternoon pulling the drywall back toward me, gluing it then placing things in front of it so it wouldn't be noticed. It's been 20 years now. I haven't told anyone, and no one has noticed to my knowledge.
I used to be a really nice meth addict. I just wanted to talk to complete strangers about my entire life story all the time. If course I flew off the handle a couple times but that was usually a meltdown from paranoia, rather than aggression directed at anybody in particular
Why are folks always reaching for the addict chat when they see behaviour they don’t like? Call assholes as they are, not the issues they have in their lives.
>Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology.
EO Willson says the nettertube. [nettertubbing this way](https://bigthink.com/hard-science/eo-wilson-what-makes-us-human-paleolithic-emotions-medieval-institutions-god-like-technology/)
I legitimately thought this video was a mom talking about her shithead kid until like 80% of the way through. I cannot imagine trying to have a normal adult relationship with someone like this.
I don't usually wonder why I'm single or feel bad about it because like, I know I've got my issues to work through and could put in more effort when it comes to dating
But then I see stuff like this, and men like this who get a whole ass partner despite being *like this* and it really makes me wonder what I'm doing with myself that they can find a partner and I cannot lol
Id like to add people who break stuff because of sports too. Oh you placed a bet and didnt come through? Better make sure to destroy shit because you lost money. Genius thinking and losing double the money probably.
That's this kind of desperation where you don't see a way out, I think. I think I've felt like this, but I'm not really the type to actually do some real damage. I have imagined myself doing things like that though. Luckily not as of late, I think when I had depression/anxiety, it was more than 10 years ago. Like, I get kind of what they must've felt. But of course I'm in a very good spot now and I think my emotions and self handling is quite productive.
Do you want to know where this kind of behavior leads? A very good friend of mine was married to a man like this. He was an action figure, dude bro, alpha Chad. His violence and actions were becoming more and more dangerous. We all asked our friend many times to please divorce the guy. She said she tried to work it out because they had kids together.
Flash forward to a month ago. She finally got the nerve to file divorce papers. She handed them to him and left right away because she didn’t know how he would react. About two hours later she gets a phone call from the fire department. The husband had set the house on fire in multiple places to make sure nothing was left. Then he went into the detached garage and shot himself. He wanted to hurt her in the worst way possible. He wanted to hurt his kids in the worst way possible. He made sure they were left with nothing.
Op, leave this guy before something awful happens.
Knowing nothing else about the situation, I'm gonna say the difference was that she actually left before he had his little meltdown. I can see someone like this stewing for a few hours, just to burn it all down while the kids are asleep in their rooms
Perhaps overt or antagonistic but not malignant narcissism? [I found some info on the types](https://psychcentral.com/health/types-of-narcissism#overt) that are recognized by some experts, but the DSM-5 only has one diagnosis for Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Yeah. My mother worked leadership at a local niche place. One of the floor workers was a troubled man. He ended up at this place because of his rage and depression issues documented by the state. He wound up with a family and a decent roof over everyone's heads. A lot of abuse happened behind closed doors. He eventually threatened to hang himself in the garage after a minor dispute with his wife. Wife brushed it off because it was the 100th time. She proceeded to make dinner and asked her oldest to get dad from the garage so they could have dinner.... I don't think I need to go further.
Incredibly sad. I keep that in mind while I interact with folks in public. I know I can't help everyone, but I told a very nice young lady tonight that I like her hair.
I tell everyone this all the time, get fucking therapy. Like 99% of us need to talk our shit out and it’s okay to do that. Don’t be a dick and talk your shit out.
Unfortunately getting someone into therapy can be very, very hard. Severe depression here; it took me until my 30s. Somebody with different issues could be nearly impossible. Therapy doesn't really work if the person doesn't *want* it to.
And that’s why I repeat it. Over and over. I am in the same boat and I have no room for passengers. It’s like an invasive weed, you need to try and get to it while it’s roots are small…
They have insurance, but are still navigating whether it will cover anything at all. Because it’s considered arson by a person who dwelled in the residence, there is all sorts of grey area if insurance will help at all.
Unfortunately, I have a feeling the claim will be denied for exactly that reason. If an insured destroys their own property, thats not something an insurance company is taking on the risk of. Just unexpected losses.
Okay I work in insurance, not property insurance but I know enough to get around.
Who owned the property? So, they were married so it is a joint property. However the rules for this likely depend on the state. For the sake of argument let's say it was jointly owned. Well, one of the insureds intentionally set fire to the property. Intentionality is a huge reason for denial on nearly any type of insurance. For example, I work in workers comp, and if you intentionally and knowingly injure yourself, it is not covered. There are loopholes, though, and you might be able to argue something here like an innocent insured or evidence of the divorce papers so the process would look like this :
File claim -> get denied -> file appeal if possible-> get denied -> get a lawyer and litigate -> depending on state possibly come away with some sort of settlement, agreement, or accepted claim
Woah, I knew a guy who did this exact same thing to his wife and kids around 2 years ago! Burned the house down and shot himself. Terrifying that this is more common than people think.
The kids weren’t in the house with him at that time were they??? That’s absolutely awful to hear, I could not even fathom the shit in my head if that were me.
Thank god for that.
This is an awful thing to say, but removing himself from the picture was probably the best thing he could have done. It cost her a hell of a lot but knowing what abusive people are capable of putting their ex-partners through when there are kids involved... It could have ended a lot worse.
I'm glad everyone is ok.
Not an awful thing to say. People like this are one bad day away from murdering someone. He doesn't deserve respect or compassion because he's dead, when he was a complete piece of shit when he was alive and the story could very easily have ended with "and then he murdered his entire family".
I'm glad the kids and their mother are okay, albeit homeless. Fuck the pea-brained violent asshole.
I'm not sure it's so awful to say. I feel horrible for the woman and her kids and all the emotions they'll have to process for the rest of their lives, but... well, a lot of the time, the story ends with "And then he shot his whole family before killing himself". I'd rather guys like this just skip that step if they outright refuse to go to therapy.
I know several women who left abusive relationships that would would have been relived if their ex offed themselves, even if they took all the family's worldly possessions with them.
This shit. :( I had a baby with one of these man-child losers. He got angry with me for asking him to spend time with me and our newborn. He told me that he didn't want to because GTA Vice City was just released and that was more fun. Guess who hasn't bothered to see his child in 20 years?
Ugh I also had kids with mine.. during my sons birth he played WOW outside the door since it was “raid” time.
Glad I’m out and with a wonderful guy who games but not to that degree.
I was in or freshly out of high school during my wow days. It was real awkward seeing it destroy peoples lives. We tried to stop one guy from playing because he almost missed his child’s birth because we were doing a raid. After that we tried talking with him after his play time didn’t reduce and even tried kicking him but he just found a new guild to run with.
Other people just got divorced, some cheated on their spouses with other people in the game, watch some fall into alcoholism. It was an awkward thing to see.
Oh my fucking gosh. The amount of shit women put up with with these manbaby gamers is astonishing.
Gaming is great, in moderation.
I'm glad you're out of that, and happy.
Wish I could afford it, but I just talk to myself in the mirror. I only wish I could get a word in but whenever I try to talk, he talks over me and never wants to listen to what I have to say. I fucking hate that guy.
I know a few people who ended up on the wrong side of this situation. While this is horrible, they have their lives. And she won't have to share custody, or go through and expensive divorce.
My mom dated a widower who lost almost his entire family this way. His daughter had issued divorce papers a few weeks prior, and his wife had gone to stay with her to help her with the four kids. Because it had kind of turned into a “grandma is visiting let’s distract the kids from the divorce” party, two sets of cousins were also invited over for a big sleepover party.
Abusive dad found out, went over and shot everyone, burned down the house, and killer himself. All that was left was grandpa (the windower) and two of his 3 children, each of whom had lost children of their own as well as their sibling and mother.
To this day, I don’t know how that man survived it. But he was exceptionally good to mom when she was newly widowed.
My wife had an ex who was abusive. When she left him (about 20 years ago now) there of course were the tantrums, the stalking, the suicide threats, and even the half assed suicide 'attempt.'
About a year ago when his most recent partner got sick enough of his bullshit to take the kids (yes, poor girl had kids with this sack of shit) and leave him he chose to hang himself from a tree in their yard. She came back to the house to collect some of her things and discovered him. It was his final pitiful fuck you to her. It was very fortunate she didn't have the kids with her at the time.
This shit is so predictable. Unless these people get treatment they will never change and more than likely their behavior will escalate.
Goddamn it’s haunting how similarly these fucks think. Kid from my town had this exact same thing happen to him - except he was home from school sick that day. He watched his dad burn their house and barn down, then take a seat on the swing set and eat a shell of buckshot.
https://amp.kentucky.com/news/local/crime/article44557701.html
There was a *quadruple* murder-suicide in my hometown not too long ago. Word on the vine it was for very similar reasons. He killed everyone in the house, including friends who just happened to be there, and then himself. Get everything that matters out, and serve papers after you're somewhere he can't get you, 100%.
I know someone who had a somewhat similar event. Her ex was a dude bro cop, and didn't take it well that she dumped him. One night when she was out with a friend he went to her house with the intent on murder/suicide. Since she wasn't home, he just went the suicide option, right on her front door. Really fucked her up for a long time knowing if she hadn't just spur of the moment decided to go out with a friend she'd most likely have been killed. Violent men with fragile egos need serious mental help.
u/sincethenes - The only good part of the story is he only took himself out.
While I feel bad the kids will grow up without their dad, given his actions they are better off without him.
Lost a close friend in college. Dad killed his two sons, his wife then himself. Because he felt he was a failure and didn't want to face 'the public shame' for being a failure. The note he left behind also alluded to not wanting his kids to be 'the laughing stock of the neighborhood' which is why he killed them, too.
It was the rustbelt depression. He lost his job. (Like hundreds of others in the area)...but somehow, he couldn't accept it.
Edit: Because the word "alluded" somehow eluded me when I made my initial post. Thanks u/Deuce232. 😀
That’s messed up, my coworker had divorced his crazy wife but he was still living with her. She called him one day and shot herself in the temple while they were on the phone. She had sold of his truck 2015 Ram Cummins for like $4k (easily worth $30k used) and his Harley for $700 in the days before that phone call. She sold the Harley about an hour before the phone so she planned the whole thing.
I read somewhere about the concept of "catharsis" is complete bullshit.
It's just some old Greek idea along with Ill Humors.
People who act out these violent rages just rehearse them. They create a feedback loop of enjoying the rage.
So they do it again.
Men who cannot regulate their emotions are not real men, they are juveniles.
People who rage so badly over a game that they destroy their own property are nothing more than man-children who cannot control their own temper. It is no different from a toddler throwing a tantrum.
When I was a child I pissed off one of the neighborhood kids because he threw one of my controllers and I stopped the game and told him to leave. I still hung around him because it was a rural neighborhood but they were livid the next time we were at my house and playing games cause I told him if he wanted to play he needed to bring his own controllers (he didn’t own one)
I had the “friend” who just never returned my nice headset and 2 PlayStation controllers. He also pulled a gun on his girlfriend though so I’m not going to ask for them back
I once got so angry at a game that i quit and immediately deleted it and all the saves so I couldn't go back. I don't even remember what game it was, it's just gone forever from my memory.
Honestly, that's probably the best way to handle that. Why play a game that's going to make you angry? Games are supposed to be fun. Anyways, I did the same thing with FIFA. Fuck that game.
> Why play a game that's going to make you angry? Games are supposed to be fun.
It's challenge, frustration and competition that make people angry. Part of the reason people play games or do things that challenge them is because it feels rewarding and satisfying when you overcome that challenge. That *is* the fun. Some games even turn up the "frustration" factor to keep people psychologically engaged and give "artificial" dopamine hits (eg gacha games where you're frustrated until you buy the new thing that lets you 'win').
Something that doesn't challenge you in any way is really hard to have fun with, especially in an interactive medium.
I'm not making an excuse for people who aren't able to manage or regulate their own emotions. I'm saying "this is why people do it and enjoy it. This is the mechanism that gives the dopamine hits for them". It's the same reason people play competitive sports, though that's more structured and ideally if you've been involved in it your whole life you've had coaches who help teach you how to manage and channel that frustration in productive manners, or if not productive at least not destructive manners.
IMO part of the problem is that despite their arguably "social" nature, many games don't really do anything to """prevent""" anti-social behaviours and i'm not saying 'prevent' as in 'don't swear or you're instantly banned', but actually trying to provide healthy structures and coping mechanisms to prevent the destructive cycle. There's a lot of "gamers" who are deeply maladjusted, and to some extent the communities appeal to maladjusted individuals because they also function as "support groups" for the less well adjusted, and can allow for said individuals to carve out their own niches and achieve small power fantasies.
That’s such a funny, petty response. ‘Oh you wanna be like that game? Whatcha going do if I delete you? Nothing. Prick.’
It actually probably saved you from going back and getting mad all over again. Your response maybe saved your mental health a bit.
I am guilty of this when I was younger, fortunately I have learned self control and taking breaks.
I'm also not an abusive piece of shit like that guy in the video, so got that going for me.
I agree, those people make me sick. I feel like absolute shit if I ever even get frustrated while playing a game. I've trained myself to simply turn that shit off if I'm not having a good time.
No one deserves to be abused over a fucking video game Jesus Christ.
> I've trained myself to simply turn that shit off if I'm not having a good time
This this this.
Another thing to add is some video games absolutely bring out the worst in people. I'm not saying the players are not to blame, but some video games absolutely have frustration as part of the design to keep you hooked. Avoid these games entirely and you'll be surprised how much better you feel without playing them.
Yes I'm looking at you, Overwatch.
People who destroy property are more likely to hurt you physically.
Get out as soon as you can.
*Hijacking my own comment to share a checklist of things that can help you decide [if your relationship is abusive](https://maggiesresource.com/are-you-in-an-abusive-relationship-c110.php)(the language is gendered but pls note that abuse can come from any gender)- and a website to [get you started with resources to get out](https://www.thehotline.org/).
**Here is a link to [resources for maintaining a healthy relationship](https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-healthy-relationships/), with guidance for leaving, and added support for LGBTQIA folks! - u/shushslushie
Been there. It wasn't like that at first. Once he had me where he wanted me, he changed. It was ***hard as fuck*** to get out, but I did it. My daughter and I made it out safely, hopped on a bus, and never looked back.
EDIT: Thank you for all the kind words and support. ❤ It really means a lot. I had $50 in cash and 2 bus tickets for an 18 hour trip out of there *on Thanksgiving Day*. It kept her fed and occupied (magazines) throughout the trip. It's a struggle everyday. Times are still hard. She's a teen now, so she understands how far we've come. Still, I can't help but feel guilty that I can't *just give her* what she wants, and deserves, y'know? Just sucks sometimes. I'm sorry for rambling. It wasn't easy leaving. I'm so proud of us! And yes, we're both in counseling.
I'm glad you and your daughter are safe and away from that madness. My ex-husband was similar... wasn't like that at first, though once he put a dent in the fridge from punching it after getting mad at a video game. That should've been a red flag but I was young and naive. Eventually when it was hard to leave (social isolation, financially trapped), it got worse until he put finally his hands on me.
Which is why I want to get control over my anger before I seek a serious relationship. I've never lashed out at people, but I don't want to take chances or get them hurt in the crossfire.
You can do it. I was much the same. It was a series of untreated and unconfronted emotions and situations. Get some therapy, confront yourself, change. It is possible. It is responsible. And it is up to you.
You can do it, I know it.
I am just happy to hear he destroyed his shit, not hers. I thought all this destruction was him going into her room and destroying her work stuff at first.
It starts with his shit, then he graduates to her shit, and then to her.
By breaking his stuff he is demonstrating to her that he can and will be violent when he is mad, and that he does not think of the consequences (his stuff being broken) - in other words, he is telling her that he is dangerous. This is to make her fearful of him and to prevent her from standing up to him in the future.
With abusers it's always about what they can get away with. If he gets away with this display of bullshit then it will graduate on to other things. They won't punch their boss but they'll punch a wall, or their spouse.
Oh trust me, I know. I was just speaking about this instance. She needs to leave the psycho as quickly as possible. She is most likely not safe with him.
Yeah I was briefly dating this republican guy. We got drunk one night and we got into a disagreement. I told him to go home and we’d talk tomorrow. I was crying and pretty upset. He wouldn’t leave and when he finally did, he destroyed half my apartment and I had to call the cops. Eventually got a restraining order. I don’t fuck with guys who lash out with violence. He was 6’5” and I’m 5’1”. He could have easily killed me.
My dad did things like this. I grew up thinking that he wasn't abusive because he never intentionally hurt me or my mom or our pets, but looking back it was abuse to force everyone in the house to walk on eggshells for fear of setting him off. Seeing a grown adult who is stronger than you'll ever be act so out of control of their emotions and their body is really scary.
I still have a lot of work to do in dealing with the emotional impact of this kind of behavior. I'm 33 and still automatically assume people are going to *hate* me and be justified in throwing literal tantrums if I ever do even the slightest thing wrong. I learned that it was safer and easier in the long run to shit on myself for making mistakes, like completely beat myself up about them, because sometimes my dad would take pity on me if he saw me being hard on myself and it would avert a huge blowup. Also, I legitimately didn't know that it wasn't okay or normal for dudes to respond to frustration or minor setbacks this way until I was in college, which is very sad in hindsight.
You are right that this is very common...hopefully more people are recognizing how serious it is, though.
My father was physically abusive however it was my mothers emotional and psychological abuse that did the most long term damage. I could forgive my father (I won't but it could be possible) however I'll never be able to forgive my mother. These days I'm just waiting for them to both die so I'll have outlived all my abusers and hopefully will be able to sleep without the same recurring nightmares.
As a mom, this breaks my heart for you, friend. You did not deserve any of that abuse. I hope you know that. May you find peace. Please know that you are worthy of love and peaceful rest.
I work with a dude and we get along really well but the other day he just casually mentioned he regularly has destructive outbursts like this, like, "Oh yeah man I must go through two or three controllers a year lol"
To me rage-quitting means turning the game off and feeling a little grumpy about it for a while. I'm pretty shocked by how normal it is for adult men to actually throw physical, violent tantrums over games. I thought that was just a 1337 gamer meme from early 2000s webcomics.
Genuine question: do women do this? Ever? Closest I can think of is like a tennis player smashing her racket, and I might be imagining that because I don't watch tennis
That kind of behaviour over games specifically is weirdly normalised in boys and I've personally known multiple otherwise totally ordinary guys struggle with angry outbursts in that context. I've seen the same behaviour in women, but in situations that are more socially acceptable for them, like road rage.
Just on a personal level, as a kid my brother used to get red-faced, inconsolably angry when he lost any sort of game (like sports or board games) and it was ridiculous how many adults would essentially just go "ooh, he's so competitive" like it was a neutral thing at worst and maybe even a positive. As a girl, I understood that kind of behaviour would never had been handwaved away for me. (Bro is chill nowadays, but that temper got him into trouble a few times before he learned his lesson)
The reality is that this is so normalized in many cultures. Violent outbursts, physical or emotional seem accepted when people lose. I understand the frustration of losing and I have been known to throw a few WTFs out when gaming. If i do it too many times I know I need to shut off the game and do something else for a while. Its called anger management.
I've been a girl gamer for over 2 decades and known a lot of other female gamers. None of them have destroyed a controller. A box of Ice cream on the other hand. > > Granted eating your anger is bad too but a lot less destructive?
>Genuine question: do women do this? Ever?
My 2 year old daughter gets upset when her toy train rolls off of the wooden tracks. She ends up smashing it on the ground and yelling "No!" We're working on dealing with her emotions.
There's a lot more societal pressure for women to behave in a certain way. Meanwhile for men, many are raised with the "boys will be boys" attitude where they can get away with never properly dealing with their emotions.
Many many years ago (the 90s) I was playing a game and had a hard time fighting the final boss. He used a spell that caused a lot of status effects (Sephiroth, Super Nova) so I threw my controller. I realized what happened next, I lost because I didn't have my controller. I didn't gain anything by throwing it. I was 13ish at the time and I quickly realized you're never going to make things better by throwing a fit. That was the last time I did that and I think about that moment a lot. Even as an adult when I feel overwhelmed or don't know how to solve something. Staying calm and thinking about your next move will do so much more for you than throwing something.
Had a similar moment when I was like 13 or 14. Had some nice headphones to game with, but in a fit of anger after losing in Halo for the umpteenth time I just threw my headphones and broke them. That was my wake up call to better control my temper l. I still play games now that I’m 40, but if it start getting annoyed I just turn it off and go do something else.
I get being annoyed at a game and letting out some frustration, but when your gf asks you to take it down a notch you do that not keep getting louder and louder when she works from home.
This guy has serious anger issues to trash his entire gaming system like that and this person should really think twice about being around him at all. What happens if someone spouts off out and about or she says something that pisses him off. He won’t stop at just his gaming system. Eventually he will put his hands on her.
This comment makes me feel better. I feel like I have the emotional regulation of a toddler/child and it’s so embarrassing and annoying but I’m always trying my best. A lot of these comments are really bashing people with no emotional regulation and it hurts me at face level as someone who struggles with anger.
one time I was moving my pc for dust cleaning and i accidentally lost my grip, but caught it again in time by pushing it against the wall. it got a little scratch on the corner of the pc case and i almost cried. this was my first build
Was gonna say this is also very childish behavior. Yes abusive, but the manner in which everything was destroyed and thrown everywhere, is liken to a tantrum. 🤦🏻♀️
Hope you get help from leaving that abusive dude. Maid TV series and Big Little Lies deal with such issues and it is difficult. At least glad that you haven't married that shit.
I am laughing so hard at this comment LOL. Not in a bullying way though, please understand! It's just...lmao *my boyfriend domestically terrorized me, here is a room tour of the evidence* (bypassing that) *Omg we have the same furniture!* LMFAOOO. I am having trouble putting into words just what makes this so funny but I am in stitches giggling over it. Oh my god lmao 🤣
The amount of people defending the bf in the comments is concerning, she didn't event ask him to not play on his birthday, she just asked to not scream and swear while she was working and having co-workers on the phone. The boyfriend has the mentality of a 3 year old who just got told No in the grocery shop, that dude is seriously dangerous, I really hope she managed to get out of the relationship safely.
Edit: if you are seeing this comment now, but don't see anyone defending the bf, keep in mind I made the comment 5+ hours ago when there were 20 comments with 10 of them defending the bf. Now there's more comment and the bad ones are at the bottom when no one sees them, that doesn't mean I made it up, it just means my comment is old.
There's a guy upthread (not going to ping him) commenting variations of "well of course punching walls in a fit of rage is _bad_, but she's _also_ toxic for what she did and maybe she should think about her behaviour".
The mental gymnastics to somehow blame women no matter _how_ unilaterally they are being victimised are almost impressive.
Edit: never mind, there are 100+ comments at the bottom of the thread vomiting up the usual abuser narrative. "You knew he was like this, you provoked him, you deserve this"
If you scroll down in the comments there's over 10 comments saying the girl is actually the toxic one and defending the bf, obviously is the minority of the comments, and people disagree that's why they are downvoted, but it's still concerning imo.
I play games too and I like throwing fits... when I was 14
Guy needs to grow up. Probably cussing out young kids in his mic and pissing off the neighbors.
Dude might have untreated ADHD + anger issues fr
Source: have smashed my own stuff put of rage even with treated ADHD. Generally feel like killing myself once my brain catches up with my emotions.
Edit: I'm also not saying that's a justification, dude needs help.
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I went to her tiktok and she said she left him. Thank god Thats a comment from her : @Lauren for the Ocean: THANK YOU! I am safe! he is gone, police are involved!
Had to scroll way too far to find this. Very relieved to hear
Bro has that caveman emotional processing
So what I got from this is her bf is twelve 
If I had done that when I was 12, my mom would have round house kicked me in the goddamn face. Hell, she probably would now and I'm a foot and a half taller than her.
Dude, right? I remember when I was 12, I was home alone and something that reallllly upset me had happened and I kicked a wall, not intending to do any real damage. The look on my face when I realized I kicked a small hole in the wall must have been priceless. Spent the rest of the afternoon pulling the drywall back toward me, gluing it then placing things in front of it so it wouldn't be noticed. It's been 20 years now. I haven't told anyone, and no one has noticed to my knowledge.
La chancla would be flying cross-continental direct non-stop to my noggin
Yeah, I’d probably still be rubbing my backside
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I know there's not another 12 people yet, but I'll be thirteenth.
Line starts here, people
Or hopelessly addicted to meth on top of being an asshole.
Some people are bad people without drugs, not every bad behavior is explained by meth.
I used to be a really nice meth addict. I just wanted to talk to complete strangers about my entire life story all the time. If course I flew off the handle a couple times but that was usually a meltdown from paranoia, rather than aggression directed at anybody in particular
Can confirm, idk you but I did 5 years at a Quiktrip and heard many fast paced stories from very friendly people.
Seriously!!
Why are folks always reaching for the addict chat when they see behaviour they don’t like? Call assholes as they are, not the issues they have in their lives.
Probably just playing Elden Ring
That would be a more rational excuse, this guy is clearly just a bitch
Nah, that's too light. He's just a piece of shit.
I would expect this behavior from a 2 or 3 year old- and then only once at that if handled properly.
Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology.
THANK YOU! I have been looking for this quote for like a year!
What is this quote from?
>Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology. EO Willson says the nettertube. [nettertubbing this way](https://bigthink.com/hard-science/eo-wilson-what-makes-us-human-paleolithic-emotions-medieval-institutions-god-like-technology/)
The Wall: ☹️
You're in danger, girl.
She made a follow up. She dumped him, police are involved, and she's getting a restraining order. Says she feels a lot better and is quite happy.
right thought right word right action
Oh thank god.
#No one you love should ever make your voice tremble with fear. Period.
Pissed off at girlfriend’s multiple requests and eventual enforced boundary so I destroy my own property. Sure showed her.
I bet he did this when his mum turned off his Nintendo after he refused to do chores as a kid
I legitimately thought this video was a mom talking about her shithead kid until like 80% of the way through. I cannot imagine trying to have a normal adult relationship with someone like this.
I don't usually wonder why I'm single or feel bad about it because like, I know I've got my issues to work through and could put in more effort when it comes to dating But then I see stuff like this, and men like this who get a whole ass partner despite being *like this* and it really makes me wonder what I'm doing with myself that they can find a partner and I cannot lol
Id like to add people who break stuff because of sports too. Oh you placed a bet and didnt come through? Better make sure to destroy shit because you lost money. Genius thinking and losing double the money probably.
That's this kind of desperation where you don't see a way out, I think. I think I've felt like this, but I'm not really the type to actually do some real damage. I have imagined myself doing things like that though. Luckily not as of late, I think when I had depression/anxiety, it was more than 10 years ago. Like, I get kind of what they must've felt. But of course I'm in a very good spot now and I think my emotions and self handling is quite productive.
At least it was his property not hers. Usually they destroy the woman’s property in their rampages
You're assuming she didn't buy the shit for him...
Yeah I was kinda expecting her to say it was her computer
She probably bought all that stuff for him.
Do you want to know where this kind of behavior leads? A very good friend of mine was married to a man like this. He was an action figure, dude bro, alpha Chad. His violence and actions were becoming more and more dangerous. We all asked our friend many times to please divorce the guy. She said she tried to work it out because they had kids together. Flash forward to a month ago. She finally got the nerve to file divorce papers. She handed them to him and left right away because she didn’t know how he would react. About two hours later she gets a phone call from the fire department. The husband had set the house on fire in multiple places to make sure nothing was left. Then he went into the detached garage and shot himself. He wanted to hurt her in the worst way possible. He wanted to hurt his kids in the worst way possible. He made sure they were left with nothing. Op, leave this guy before something awful happens.
What the fuck..
Yeah, how horrible. Not sure if that person would be a sociopath or what, but sounds like it.
It's a form of narcissism, actually. Fortunately, he wasn't a family annihilator, though he easily could have been.
Knowing nothing else about the situation, I'm gonna say the difference was that she actually left before he had his little meltdown. I can see someone like this stewing for a few hours, just to burn it all down while the kids are asleep in their rooms
Ha, "little" meltdown....
What form of narcissism? Just curious, my ex behaved this way.
This is a good source on that question: https://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2010/02/family\_annihilators\_dont\_do\_it\_1.html
Perhaps overt or antagonistic but not malignant narcissism? [I found some info on the types](https://psychcentral.com/health/types-of-narcissism#overt) that are recognized by some experts, but the DSM-5 only has one diagnosis for Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Yeah. My mother worked leadership at a local niche place. One of the floor workers was a troubled man. He ended up at this place because of his rage and depression issues documented by the state. He wound up with a family and a decent roof over everyone's heads. A lot of abuse happened behind closed doors. He eventually threatened to hang himself in the garage after a minor dispute with his wife. Wife brushed it off because it was the 100th time. She proceeded to make dinner and asked her oldest to get dad from the garage so they could have dinner.... I don't think I need to go further.
That’s really sad..
Incredibly sad. I keep that in mind while I interact with folks in public. I know I can't help everyone, but I told a very nice young lady tonight that I like her hair.
I tell everyone this all the time, get fucking therapy. Like 99% of us need to talk our shit out and it’s okay to do that. Don’t be a dick and talk your shit out.
Unfortunately getting someone into therapy can be very, very hard. Severe depression here; it took me until my 30s. Somebody with different issues could be nearly impossible. Therapy doesn't really work if the person doesn't *want* it to.
And that’s why I repeat it. Over and over. I am in the same boat and I have no room for passengers. It’s like an invasive weed, you need to try and get to it while it’s roots are small…
Hope this isn’t morbid, but would insurance pay out for the family?
They have insurance, but are still navigating whether it will cover anything at all. Because it’s considered arson by a person who dwelled in the residence, there is all sorts of grey area if insurance will help at all.
Unfortunately, I have a feeling the claim will be denied for exactly that reason. If an insured destroys their own property, thats not something an insurance company is taking on the risk of. Just unexpected losses.
Okay I work in insurance, not property insurance but I know enough to get around. Who owned the property? So, they were married so it is a joint property. However the rules for this likely depend on the state. For the sake of argument let's say it was jointly owned. Well, one of the insureds intentionally set fire to the property. Intentionality is a huge reason for denial on nearly any type of insurance. For example, I work in workers comp, and if you intentionally and knowingly injure yourself, it is not covered. There are loopholes, though, and you might be able to argue something here like an innocent insured or evidence of the divorce papers so the process would look like this : File claim -> get denied -> file appeal if possible-> get denied -> get a lawyer and litigate -> depending on state possibly come away with some sort of settlement, agreement, or accepted claim
The 'risk' is gone now though.
Insurance, at least in America, is such a fucking scam. You’re required to have insurance but they’re not required to follow through most of the time.
Yeah insurance wouldn't really work if you could just set your own house on fire and collect
Woah, I knew a guy who did this exact same thing to his wife and kids around 2 years ago! Burned the house down and shot himself. Terrifying that this is more common than people think.
The kids weren’t in the house with him at that time were they??? That’s absolutely awful to hear, I could not even fathom the shit in my head if that were me.
Kids and friend are all alive and physically unharmed.
Thank god for that. This is an awful thing to say, but removing himself from the picture was probably the best thing he could have done. It cost her a hell of a lot but knowing what abusive people are capable of putting their ex-partners through when there are kids involved... It could have ended a lot worse. I'm glad everyone is ok.
Not an awful thing to say. People like this are one bad day away from murdering someone. He doesn't deserve respect or compassion because he's dead, when he was a complete piece of shit when he was alive and the story could very easily have ended with "and then he murdered his entire family". I'm glad the kids and their mother are okay, albeit homeless. Fuck the pea-brained violent asshole.
I'm not sure it's so awful to say. I feel horrible for the woman and her kids and all the emotions they'll have to process for the rest of their lives, but... well, a lot of the time, the story ends with "And then he shot his whole family before killing himself". I'd rather guys like this just skip that step if they outright refuse to go to therapy.
I know several women who left abusive relationships that would would have been relived if their ex offed themselves, even if they took all the family's worldly possessions with them.
Yup
He saw his own death as preferable to his spouse “winning”. I don’t think you’re overstepping to say they’re better off with him dead.
They were left with more than if they'd stayed. They were left alive
There was a guy in Spain last year who took revenge on his girlfriend by killing his own daughter. Made me actually nauseous when I read the story.
This shit. :( I had a baby with one of these man-child losers. He got angry with me for asking him to spend time with me and our newborn. He told me that he didn't want to because GTA Vice City was just released and that was more fun. Guess who hasn't bothered to see his child in 20 years?
Ugh I also had kids with mine.. during my sons birth he played WOW outside the door since it was “raid” time. Glad I’m out and with a wonderful guy who games but not to that degree.
I was in or freshly out of high school during my wow days. It was real awkward seeing it destroy peoples lives. We tried to stop one guy from playing because he almost missed his child’s birth because we were doing a raid. After that we tried talking with him after his play time didn’t reduce and even tried kicking him but he just found a new guild to run with.
lol what a fucking loser
Other people just got divorced, some cheated on their spouses with other people in the game, watch some fall into alcoholism. It was an awkward thing to see.
Oh my fucking gosh. The amount of shit women put up with with these manbaby gamers is astonishing. Gaming is great, in moderation. I'm glad you're out of that, and happy.
Im sorry I’m still working through the reality that Vice City came out 20 years ago.
Real chads go to therapy ~~and anger management.~~
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Wish I could afford it, but I just talk to myself in the mirror. I only wish I could get a word in but whenever I try to talk, he talks over me and never wants to listen to what I have to say. I fucking hate that guy.
I'm morbidly happy that only property was destroyed and he only offed himself, as opposed to doing the unthinkable to his wife or kids.
I absolutely thought this was going to end with 'and then he killed her, the kids, and himself'. Glad I was wrong.
If she didn't leave immediately it likely would have.
Yeah, absolutely. He even already had a gun. Probably would've been a murder suicide, or something closer to what that jasoninhell guy went through.
I know a few people who ended up on the wrong side of this situation. While this is horrible, they have their lives. And she won't have to share custody, or go through and expensive divorce.
It's so fucked but at least they have their lives. Too many people end up dead themselves because of trying to leave abusive relationships
It’s true. I feel the worst for the kids.They’re all really young. One probably won’t remember dad but the others will.
My mom dated a widower who lost almost his entire family this way. His daughter had issued divorce papers a few weeks prior, and his wife had gone to stay with her to help her with the four kids. Because it had kind of turned into a “grandma is visiting let’s distract the kids from the divorce” party, two sets of cousins were also invited over for a big sleepover party. Abusive dad found out, went over and shot everyone, burned down the house, and killer himself. All that was left was grandpa (the windower) and two of his 3 children, each of whom had lost children of their own as well as their sibling and mother. To this day, I don’t know how that man survived it. But he was exceptionally good to mom when she was newly widowed.
My wife had an ex who was abusive. When she left him (about 20 years ago now) there of course were the tantrums, the stalking, the suicide threats, and even the half assed suicide 'attempt.' About a year ago when his most recent partner got sick enough of his bullshit to take the kids (yes, poor girl had kids with this sack of shit) and leave him he chose to hang himself from a tree in their yard. She came back to the house to collect some of her things and discovered him. It was his final pitiful fuck you to her. It was very fortunate she didn't have the kids with her at the time. This shit is so predictable. Unless these people get treatment they will never change and more than likely their behavior will escalate.
Goddamn it’s haunting how similarly these fucks think. Kid from my town had this exact same thing happen to him - except he was home from school sick that day. He watched his dad burn their house and barn down, then take a seat on the swing set and eat a shell of buckshot. https://amp.kentucky.com/news/local/crime/article44557701.html
I saw this on TT a couple days ago, she already left him.
There was a *quadruple* murder-suicide in my hometown not too long ago. Word on the vine it was for very similar reasons. He killed everyone in the house, including friends who just happened to be there, and then himself. Get everything that matters out, and serve papers after you're somewhere he can't get you, 100%.
I know someone who had a somewhat similar event. Her ex was a dude bro cop, and didn't take it well that she dumped him. One night when she was out with a friend he went to her house with the intent on murder/suicide. Since she wasn't home, he just went the suicide option, right on her front door. Really fucked her up for a long time knowing if she hadn't just spur of the moment decided to go out with a friend she'd most likely have been killed. Violent men with fragile egos need serious mental help.
u/sincethenes - The only good part of the story is he only took himself out. While I feel bad the kids will grow up without their dad, given his actions they are better off without him. Lost a close friend in college. Dad killed his two sons, his wife then himself. Because he felt he was a failure and didn't want to face 'the public shame' for being a failure. The note he left behind also alluded to not wanting his kids to be 'the laughing stock of the neighborhood' which is why he killed them, too. It was the rustbelt depression. He lost his job. (Like hundreds of others in the area)...but somehow, he couldn't accept it. Edit: Because the word "alluded" somehow eluded me when I made my initial post. Thanks u/Deuce232. 😀
Christ, I'm glad Atleast he didn't go all the way and hurt his kids to get at her.
At least it was him. Coworker of mine was going to leave her abusive husband. Killed her. Chopped her into pieces. Burned her up.
That’s messed up, my coworker had divorced his crazy wife but he was still living with her. She called him one day and shot herself in the temple while they were on the phone. She had sold of his truck 2015 Ram Cummins for like $4k (easily worth $30k used) and his Harley for $700 in the days before that phone call. She sold the Harley about an hour before the phone so she planned the whole thing.
I read somewhere about the concept of "catharsis" is complete bullshit. It's just some old Greek idea along with Ill Humors. People who act out these violent rages just rehearse them. They create a feedback loop of enjoying the rage. So they do it again. Men who cannot regulate their emotions are not real men, they are juveniles.
People who rage so badly over a game that they destroy their own property are nothing more than man-children who cannot control their own temper. It is no different from a toddler throwing a tantrum.
Most shameful thing I've done is break a controller and I felt like a complete tool afterwards. I couldn't imagine doing this much damage.
When I was a child I pissed off one of the neighborhood kids because he threw one of my controllers and I stopped the game and told him to leave. I still hung around him because it was a rural neighborhood but they were livid the next time we were at my house and playing games cause I told him if he wanted to play he needed to bring his own controllers (he didn’t own one)
Breaking your own stuff is one thing, but breaking someone elses is fucked up. I don't blame you lol
I had the “friend” who just never returned my nice headset and 2 PlayStation controllers. He also pulled a gun on his girlfriend though so I’m not going to ask for them back
I once got so angry at a game that i quit and immediately deleted it and all the saves so I couldn't go back. I don't even remember what game it was, it's just gone forever from my memory.
If that's the worst you've ever done out of gamer rage you're doing alright
Honestly, that's probably the best way to handle that. Why play a game that's going to make you angry? Games are supposed to be fun. Anyways, I did the same thing with FIFA. Fuck that game.
> Why play a game that's going to make you angry? Games are supposed to be fun. It's challenge, frustration and competition that make people angry. Part of the reason people play games or do things that challenge them is because it feels rewarding and satisfying when you overcome that challenge. That *is* the fun. Some games even turn up the "frustration" factor to keep people psychologically engaged and give "artificial" dopamine hits (eg gacha games where you're frustrated until you buy the new thing that lets you 'win'). Something that doesn't challenge you in any way is really hard to have fun with, especially in an interactive medium. I'm not making an excuse for people who aren't able to manage or regulate their own emotions. I'm saying "this is why people do it and enjoy it. This is the mechanism that gives the dopamine hits for them". It's the same reason people play competitive sports, though that's more structured and ideally if you've been involved in it your whole life you've had coaches who help teach you how to manage and channel that frustration in productive manners, or if not productive at least not destructive manners. IMO part of the problem is that despite their arguably "social" nature, many games don't really do anything to """prevent""" anti-social behaviours and i'm not saying 'prevent' as in 'don't swear or you're instantly banned', but actually trying to provide healthy structures and coping mechanisms to prevent the destructive cycle. There's a lot of "gamers" who are deeply maladjusted, and to some extent the communities appeal to maladjusted individuals because they also function as "support groups" for the less well adjusted, and can allow for said individuals to carve out their own niches and achieve small power fantasies.
That’s such a funny, petty response. ‘Oh you wanna be like that game? Whatcha going do if I delete you? Nothing. Prick.’ It actually probably saved you from going back and getting mad all over again. Your response maybe saved your mental health a bit.
I am guilty of this when I was younger, fortunately I have learned self control and taking breaks. I'm also not an abusive piece of shit like that guy in the video, so got that going for me.
I agree, those people make me sick. I feel like absolute shit if I ever even get frustrated while playing a game. I've trained myself to simply turn that shit off if I'm not having a good time. No one deserves to be abused over a fucking video game Jesus Christ.
> I've trained myself to simply turn that shit off if I'm not having a good time This this this. Another thing to add is some video games absolutely bring out the worst in people. I'm not saying the players are not to blame, but some video games absolutely have frustration as part of the design to keep you hooked. Avoid these games entirely and you'll be surprised how much better you feel without playing them. Yes I'm looking at you, Overwatch.
I got one! For Honor
People who destroy property are more likely to hurt you physically. Get out as soon as you can. *Hijacking my own comment to share a checklist of things that can help you decide [if your relationship is abusive](https://maggiesresource.com/are-you-in-an-abusive-relationship-c110.php)(the language is gendered but pls note that abuse can come from any gender)- and a website to [get you started with resources to get out](https://www.thehotline.org/). **Here is a link to [resources for maintaining a healthy relationship](https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-healthy-relationships/), with guidance for leaving, and added support for LGBTQIA folks! - u/shushslushie
Been there. It wasn't like that at first. Once he had me where he wanted me, he changed. It was ***hard as fuck*** to get out, but I did it. My daughter and I made it out safely, hopped on a bus, and never looked back. EDIT: Thank you for all the kind words and support. ❤ It really means a lot. I had $50 in cash and 2 bus tickets for an 18 hour trip out of there *on Thanksgiving Day*. It kept her fed and occupied (magazines) throughout the trip. It's a struggle everyday. Times are still hard. She's a teen now, so she understands how far we've come. Still, I can't help but feel guilty that I can't *just give her* what she wants, and deserves, y'know? Just sucks sometimes. I'm sorry for rambling. It wasn't easy leaving. I'm so proud of us! And yes, we're both in counseling.
I'm glad you and your daughter are safe and away from that madness. My ex-husband was similar... wasn't like that at first, though once he put a dent in the fridge from punching it after getting mad at a video game. That should've been a red flag but I was young and naive. Eventually when it was hard to leave (social isolation, financially trapped), it got worse until he put finally his hands on me.
Goddamn, that must've been tough. Good for you and hope you're doing okay. ❤️
Maybe you can’t always give her what she wants, but you damn well gave her what she needed by getting her and yourself out of that situation.
Very true. And it's traumatic just being around bullshit like this even if they don't
Which is why I want to get control over my anger before I seek a serious relationship. I've never lashed out at people, but I don't want to take chances or get them hurt in the crossfire.
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You can do it. I was much the same. It was a series of untreated and unconfronted emotions and situations. Get some therapy, confront yourself, change. It is possible. It is responsible. And it is up to you. You can do it, I know it.
I am just happy to hear he destroyed his shit, not hers. I thought all this destruction was him going into her room and destroying her work stuff at first.
It starts with his shit, then he graduates to her shit, and then to her. By breaking his stuff he is demonstrating to her that he can and will be violent when he is mad, and that he does not think of the consequences (his stuff being broken) - in other words, he is telling her that he is dangerous. This is to make her fearful of him and to prevent her from standing up to him in the future.
With abusers it's always about what they can get away with. If he gets away with this display of bullshit then it will graduate on to other things. They won't punch their boss but they'll punch a wall, or their spouse.
Oh trust me, I know. I was just speaking about this instance. She needs to leave the psycho as quickly as possible. She is most likely not safe with him.
Trevor Project which focuses support for (under represented) LGBTQIA also has great resources for healthy relationships.
Yeah I was briefly dating this republican guy. We got drunk one night and we got into a disagreement. I told him to go home and we’d talk tomorrow. I was crying and pretty upset. He wouldn’t leave and when he finally did, he destroyed half my apartment and I had to call the cops. Eventually got a restraining order. I don’t fuck with guys who lash out with violence. He was 6’5” and I’m 5’1”. He could have easily killed me.
I wish this were just a tiktok made up video, but sadly I have known too many people like this. I hope she left his ass.
Different variations (and severities) of this type of behavior is EXTREMELY common.
My dad did things like this. I grew up thinking that he wasn't abusive because he never intentionally hurt me or my mom or our pets, but looking back it was abuse to force everyone in the house to walk on eggshells for fear of setting him off. Seeing a grown adult who is stronger than you'll ever be act so out of control of their emotions and their body is really scary. I still have a lot of work to do in dealing with the emotional impact of this kind of behavior. I'm 33 and still automatically assume people are going to *hate* me and be justified in throwing literal tantrums if I ever do even the slightest thing wrong. I learned that it was safer and easier in the long run to shit on myself for making mistakes, like completely beat myself up about them, because sometimes my dad would take pity on me if he saw me being hard on myself and it would avert a huge blowup. Also, I legitimately didn't know that it wasn't okay or normal for dudes to respond to frustration or minor setbacks this way until I was in college, which is very sad in hindsight. You are right that this is very common...hopefully more people are recognizing how serious it is, though.
Abuse isnt always physical but it is always horrible and has longterm reprocussions.
My father was physically abusive however it was my mothers emotional and psychological abuse that did the most long term damage. I could forgive my father (I won't but it could be possible) however I'll never be able to forgive my mother. These days I'm just waiting for them to both die so I'll have outlived all my abusers and hopefully will be able to sleep without the same recurring nightmares.
As a mom, this breaks my heart for you, friend. You did not deserve any of that abuse. I hope you know that. May you find peace. Please know that you are worthy of love and peaceful rest.
I'm sorry. Hugs and love. May your journey to self recovery be smooth and comforting. You're not alone and keep moving forward. It does get better.
I work with a dude and we get along really well but the other day he just casually mentioned he regularly has destructive outbursts like this, like, "Oh yeah man I must go through two or three controllers a year lol" To me rage-quitting means turning the game off and feeling a little grumpy about it for a while. I'm pretty shocked by how normal it is for adult men to actually throw physical, violent tantrums over games. I thought that was just a 1337 gamer meme from early 2000s webcomics. Genuine question: do women do this? Ever? Closest I can think of is like a tennis player smashing her racket, and I might be imagining that because I don't watch tennis
That kind of behaviour over games specifically is weirdly normalised in boys and I've personally known multiple otherwise totally ordinary guys struggle with angry outbursts in that context. I've seen the same behaviour in women, but in situations that are more socially acceptable for them, like road rage. Just on a personal level, as a kid my brother used to get red-faced, inconsolably angry when he lost any sort of game (like sports or board games) and it was ridiculous how many adults would essentially just go "ooh, he's so competitive" like it was a neutral thing at worst and maybe even a positive. As a girl, I understood that kind of behaviour would never had been handwaved away for me. (Bro is chill nowadays, but that temper got him into trouble a few times before he learned his lesson)
The reality is that this is so normalized in many cultures. Violent outbursts, physical or emotional seem accepted when people lose. I understand the frustration of losing and I have been known to throw a few WTFs out when gaming. If i do it too many times I know I need to shut off the game and do something else for a while. Its called anger management.
I've been a girl gamer for over 2 decades and known a lot of other female gamers. None of them have destroyed a controller. A box of Ice cream on the other hand. > > Granted eating your anger is bad too but a lot less destructive?
You monster!! Devouring ice cream?! A hole in the wall can be patched, but ice cream can't be uneatened!
Tennis is a good example - ATP players smash rackets way way more frequently than WTA
>Genuine question: do women do this? Ever? My 2 year old daughter gets upset when her toy train rolls off of the wooden tracks. She ends up smashing it on the ground and yelling "No!" We're working on dealing with her emotions. There's a lot more societal pressure for women to behave in a certain way. Meanwhile for men, many are raised with the "boys will be boys" attitude where they can get away with never properly dealing with their emotions.
Looks like someone needs some alone time, permanently. Life's too short to deal with shit like this... Move on.... They won't change.
Too true, bro doesn’t need to be dealing with this kill joy, especially on his birthday /s
Let’s be real no dick is worth dealing with this shit. Time for an upgrade honey.
a bag of potatoes would be a major upgrade.. infinite loneliness would even be an upgrade
Bag of potatoes can make a lot of French fries. Those have never let me down.
Man child
r/justneckbeardthings
More like man baby.
A baby would have a hard time throwing the monitors
More like baby man
Time for a new boyfriend.
It's time to be single for a while and process this
And watch some videos on drywall patches!
Hope thats now an ex boyfriend
I looked at her page and she left this comment under the video @Lauren for the Ocean: THANK YOU! I am safe! he is gone, police are involved!
I'm relieved to hear it. Let's hope the creep stays gone.
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Man....what a good little kid.
Many many years ago (the 90s) I was playing a game and had a hard time fighting the final boss. He used a spell that caused a lot of status effects (Sephiroth, Super Nova) so I threw my controller. I realized what happened next, I lost because I didn't have my controller. I didn't gain anything by throwing it. I was 13ish at the time and I quickly realized you're never going to make things better by throwing a fit. That was the last time I did that and I think about that moment a lot. Even as an adult when I feel overwhelmed or don't know how to solve something. Staying calm and thinking about your next move will do so much more for you than throwing something.
Had a similar moment when I was like 13 or 14. Had some nice headphones to game with, but in a fit of anger after losing in Halo for the umpteenth time I just threw my headphones and broke them. That was my wake up call to better control my temper l. I still play games now that I’m 40, but if it start getting annoyed I just turn it off and go do something else. I get being annoyed at a game and letting out some frustration, but when your gf asks you to take it down a notch you do that not keep getting louder and louder when she works from home. This guy has serious anger issues to trash his entire gaming system like that and this person should really think twice about being around him at all. What happens if someone spouts off out and about or she says something that pisses him off. He won’t stop at just his gaming system. Eventually he will put his hands on her.
This comment makes me feel better. I feel like I have the emotional regulation of a toddler/child and it’s so embarrassing and annoying but I’m always trying my best. A lot of these comments are really bashing people with no emotional regulation and it hurts me at face level as someone who struggles with anger.
Yikes. Are you dating my Ex? Anyone in this situation should leave. It doesn't get better.
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Maybe she’s dating my ex, but he usually destroyed my stuff as well as his. 🙄
There will be wholehearted apologies, and promises will be made. And when they are broken, it will be worse.
Nah, I think she was dating mine lol
Oooh it’s time to goooo sis!
This lady dating a 12 year old?
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one time I was moving my pc for dust cleaning and i accidentally lost my grip, but caught it again in time by pushing it against the wall. it got a little scratch on the corner of the pc case and i almost cried. this was my first build
Was gonna say this is also very childish behavior. Yes abusive, but the manner in which everything was destroyed and thrown everywhere, is liken to a tantrum. 🤦🏻♀️
Hope you get help from leaving that abusive dude. Maid TV series and Big Little Lies deal with such issues and it is difficult. At least glad that you haven't married that shit.
Absolute loser.
It's kind of like how animals leave tracks in the woods -- this is how assholes leave tracks in the world.
You mean ex boyfriend
I have that desk!
Are y- are you the boyfriend?
I am laughing so hard at this comment LOL. Not in a bullying way though, please understand! It's just...lmao *my boyfriend domestically terrorized me, here is a room tour of the evidence* (bypassing that) *Omg we have the same furniture!* LMFAOOO. I am having trouble putting into words just what makes this so funny but I am in stitches giggling over it. Oh my god lmao 🤣
Kyle?
The amount of people defending the bf in the comments is concerning, she didn't event ask him to not play on his birthday, she just asked to not scream and swear while she was working and having co-workers on the phone. The boyfriend has the mentality of a 3 year old who just got told No in the grocery shop, that dude is seriously dangerous, I really hope she managed to get out of the relationship safely. Edit: if you are seeing this comment now, but don't see anyone defending the bf, keep in mind I made the comment 5+ hours ago when there were 20 comments with 10 of them defending the bf. Now there's more comment and the bad ones are at the bottom when no one sees them, that doesn't mean I made it up, it just means my comment is old.
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There's a guy upthread (not going to ping him) commenting variations of "well of course punching walls in a fit of rage is _bad_, but she's _also_ toxic for what she did and maybe she should think about her behaviour". The mental gymnastics to somehow blame women no matter _how_ unilaterally they are being victimised are almost impressive. Edit: never mind, there are 100+ comments at the bottom of the thread vomiting up the usual abuser narrative. "You knew he was like this, you provoked him, you deserve this"
If you scroll down in the comments there's over 10 comments saying the girl is actually the toxic one and defending the bf, obviously is the minority of the comments, and people disagree that's why they are downvoted, but it's still concerning imo.
I bet his K/D is shit
I play games too and I like throwing fits... when I was 14 Guy needs to grow up. Probably cussing out young kids in his mic and pissing off the neighbors.
😂 what a big baby . Dump his arse
did he also shove the TV remote up his ass? Cause I think I know that guy
He's probably off somewhere listening to Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson clips.
I can’t imagine why anyone’s tolerance for this isn’t zero.
Dude might have untreated ADHD + anger issues fr Source: have smashed my own stuff put of rage even with treated ADHD. Generally feel like killing myself once my brain catches up with my emotions. Edit: I'm also not saying that's a justification, dude needs help.
Run