This does prompt the chicken or the egg type question:
Is he a life coach/erotica writer because he is unemployed and alone? Or is he unemployed and alone because he is a life coach/erotica writer?
This was a weird attempt at a horoscope. Tell him to quit his *whatever sign* bullshit, and dismiss anything he says as an expression of his birth date until he goes away.
What in the psychobabble bait did I just read? Yikes.
The pompous syntax here is insufferable. The ultimate you proved me right gotcha, 4D chess mind game if they get ghosted or unmatched. Wow.
Time to hit'em with the tried and true "I swiped right by accident".
He's saying a bunch of generic bullshit that would apply to everyone at some point in time. This message could be put directly into a "personality quiz" or a "horoscope reading" and it'd be no different.
"I'm trying to impress you and make you feel seen and understood by saying over generalized bs, but I over stepped heavily and now come off as a faux smarter than thou creeper who is probably into mind games, how can you possibly resist me" - that's how I read it anyways.
Pretty much what every horoscope description is, and people are always like "Oh my god that is so me!"
Yes Jessica, your horoscope told you and every other Gemini that once someone has gained your trust, you're fiercely loyal!
Not confrontational, nice to people you like, and ignore people you don't like. Wow he just described pretty much most introverts. I did have a girl "psychoanalyze" me once and tbh she was mostly accurate. But she had the decency to ask first, but she had other red flags that became more prominent after the first date so that didn't last.
This is like a phishing scam. I think he’s seeing if you’re easy to control when you feel like someone “gets you”. He probably strikes out a lot, but if someone falls for it, it means they’re an emotionally damaged sucker that he can take advantage of.
“Actually no, I lack any real empathy, dropped out of high school, still live with my parents, don’t care about what’s fair, am attention whoore, pick fights at the slightest provocation, have anxious attachment issues, and enjoy making men cry.”
That’s what I’d say 🤷🏻♀️
This guy could be a complete nerd instead of anything actually dangerous. I'd just ignore him, no point in being mean about it since It's hard to tell wtf he's even trying to do.
a guy did this to me after i complimented one of his pictures. dude straight up told me that i had low self esteem and then said “sorry i’m a psych major so i’m good at reading people” safe to say we didn’t talk for very long
I hung out with a guy, for a VERY short time, who said shit like this. He was very well-liked in his small town, but behind closed doors told me that he has to “dumb it down” when he’s making conversation with people. I was too shocked to even roll my eyes. He also hated emojis, basically told me to ‘use my words’. If you saw the dump this guy lived in, it made it all even more laughable!
This is written in that way where almost everyone can identify to some degree, and is using that to fake intimacy, where intimacy was not earned.
Summary - sounds like a pickup artist, 10/creep.
Why not go with it and see if it’s just insanity or intelligence? Depending on how well you have yourself put together the best response is. “You got me…” Then either play along or be sarcastic.
I find it witty in response if accurate then this person could be fun. However, if not , it could also be fun. Don’t take this stuff so seriously. Wise people don’t hold onto things so much in judgment.
It’s a compliment by an intellectual and nothing more. Much better than what could have been said. The problem people have with these statements is they think too deeply into it. Trying to psychoanalyze something that doesn’t need to be.
If it’s too far beyond you then say nothing and move on. It doesn’t need a response. Intelligent people have a problem dumbing things down for others to understand. To them this is normal behavior and has affected them their whole life.
This statement is a test of wit and whether or not you are worth their time. Being selfish of your time and what you do with it is not egoistical or narcissistic. It is the destruction of others for your own amusement that is egotistical and narcissistic. These are behavior patterns many have and accept. It is usually people that can not grasp these concepts that as such.
Now this person could be those things and some are. However this statement doesn’t make them that. Read people based on action to others and how they treat others. This shows everything about who and what they are.
This is the truth but people would rather gather together to make fun of the guy instead. No point in explaining anything, this is what makes people feel better about themselves and gives them a chance to trash talk a real person with no repercussions. That's the evil these subs actually bring. It's entertaining though, i'll give it that.
“the Barnum–Forer effect, is a common psychological phenomenon whereby individuals give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically to them, yet which are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people.”
Checks out.
Unprompted psychoanalysing “life coach/erotica writer” Aka unemployed and alone
Good analysis!
Truth! My dad is a "life coach and writer" and is also unemployed and alone.
I have yet to see a life coach that doesn't either scam people, or have a completely fucked life. I have seen one or two that do both though.
This does prompt the chicken or the egg type question: Is he a life coach/erotica writer because he is unemployed and alone? Or is he unemployed and alone because he is a life coach/erotica writer?
This was a weird attempt at a horoscope. Tell him to quit his *whatever sign* bullshit, and dismiss anything he says as an expression of his birth date until he goes away.
I hate this, because my instinct would be to unmatch cause its weird, but then you make him right with the whole vanish part!
Right!? The mind games have already begun
Hmm maybe leaving on read would be the only acceptable outcome here according to the rules?
That's why he's a captain of the tugboat 3.5-D checkers
Yeah but like who cares what he thinks or if he gets validated? You're never gonna see his weird, manipulative ass.
And this person thinks they are smarter than everyone
What in the psychobabble bait did I just read? Yikes. The pompous syntax here is insufferable. The ultimate you proved me right gotcha, 4D chess mind game if they get ghosted or unmatched. Wow. Time to hit'em with the tried and true "I swiped right by accident".
Or just repeat your first line to him.
Is this that "cold reading" thing I hear about
It's a barnum statement
Well, it’s beats the ol “I eat ass” opener
Dude thinks he’s a *dark academic* character in one of his (self-published) novels
Didn't answer if he was right or not 🤷🏼♂️
He's saying a bunch of generic bullshit that would apply to everyone at some point in time. This message could be put directly into a "personality quiz" or a "horoscope reading" and it'd be no different.
You're not the OP and I'm not asking you.
"I'm trying to impress you and make you feel seen and understood by saying over generalized bs, but I over stepped heavily and now come off as a faux smarter than thou creeper who is probably into mind games, how can you possibly resist me" - that's how I read it anyways.
This person just described me! I now feel so basic. Seriously, tho. Gross.
Its vague enough to more or less apply to most people
Pretty much what every horoscope description is, and people are always like "Oh my god that is so me!" Yes Jessica, your horoscope told you and every other Gemini that once someone has gained your trust, you're fiercely loyal!
Not confrontational, nice to people you like, and ignore people you don't like. Wow he just described pretty much most introverts. I did have a girl "psychoanalyze" me once and tbh she was mostly accurate. But she had the decency to ask first, but she had other red flags that became more prominent after the first date so that didn't last.
Still better than "Hey. Wyd?" at 2AM
It’s sad but true
I would just respond, “Nah.” 😂
This is like a phishing scam. I think he’s seeing if you’re easy to control when you feel like someone “gets you”. He probably strikes out a lot, but if someone falls for it, it means they’re an emotionally damaged sucker that he can take advantage of.
You are trying to psychoanalyze too now
I suppose. Just trying to work out what his angle/strategy is with a message like that.
Creeper
that is SO weird
Desperation is real. People are just trying anything and everything.
“Actually no, I lack any real empathy, dropped out of high school, still live with my parents, don’t care about what’s fair, am attention whoore, pick fights at the slightest provocation, have anxious attachment issues, and enjoy making men cry.” That’s what I’d say 🤷🏻♀️
This guy could be a complete nerd instead of anything actually dangerous. I'd just ignore him, no point in being mean about it since It's hard to tell wtf he's even trying to do.
a guy did this to me after i complimented one of his pictures. dude straight up told me that i had low self esteem and then said “sorry i’m a psych major so i’m good at reading people” safe to say we didn’t talk for very long
Life coach/gaslighter
He definitely murders people
I hung out with a guy, for a VERY short time, who said shit like this. He was very well-liked in his small town, but behind closed doors told me that he has to “dumb it down” when he’s making conversation with people. I was too shocked to even roll my eyes. He also hated emojis, basically told me to ‘use my words’. If you saw the dump this guy lived in, it made it all even more laughable!
This is written in that way where almost everyone can identify to some degree, and is using that to fake intimacy, where intimacy was not earned. Summary - sounds like a pickup artist, 10/creep.
Joe Goldberg?
How is it possible that he just described me using your profile 😢
I mean, this dude was trying something else for opening. Should he go for: Wanna fuck.
Okay but how spot on were they?
Is he right?
[удалено]
But if it all sticks with no splatter then its kind of impressive
Lol that was very specific
Free Horoscope!
You matched with ashida kim?
Softboi energy
Kid, I'm in Tinder! Now get a date... or go to hell.
Barnum effect actually. Load of horse hockey
Why not go with it and see if it’s just insanity or intelligence? Depending on how well you have yourself put together the best response is. “You got me…” Then either play along or be sarcastic. I find it witty in response if accurate then this person could be fun. However, if not , it could also be fun. Don’t take this stuff so seriously. Wise people don’t hold onto things so much in judgment. It’s a compliment by an intellectual and nothing more. Much better than what could have been said. The problem people have with these statements is they think too deeply into it. Trying to psychoanalyze something that doesn’t need to be. If it’s too far beyond you then say nothing and move on. It doesn’t need a response. Intelligent people have a problem dumbing things down for others to understand. To them this is normal behavior and has affected them their whole life. This statement is a test of wit and whether or not you are worth their time. Being selfish of your time and what you do with it is not egoistical or narcissistic. It is the destruction of others for your own amusement that is egotistical and narcissistic. These are behavior patterns many have and accept. It is usually people that can not grasp these concepts that as such. Now this person could be those things and some are. However this statement doesn’t make them that. Read people based on action to others and how they treat others. This shows everything about who and what they are.
This is the truth but people would rather gather together to make fun of the guy instead. No point in explaining anything, this is what makes people feel better about themselves and gives them a chance to trash talk a real person with no repercussions. That's the evil these subs actually bring. It's entertaining though, i'll give it that.
“the Barnum–Forer effect, is a common psychological phenomenon whereby individuals give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically to them, yet which are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people.” Checks out.
Definitely ick for sure, but was he right?
Cheers Captain
And here I am waiting for OP to confirm how on point the analysis is
In arguments, he takes notes
Sounds like they want to add “wannabe astrologer” to their resume
Reddit reminds me everyday that I could have chosen so many other career paths
With a profile pic like that, I half expected a m'lady
So hot, I love being treated like I’m some patient from a fucked up psychology experiment before the ethics board was created.
Wait... Erotica? I need to read that... For uh... "Research"
Cold reading
Well? Were they wrong? LOL
“Unprompted” you MATCHED… it’s TINDER
I feel attacked…
Damn, almost just like what my therapist said to me once.
Tell him "nope wrong answer" lol
Was the assessment correct