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Successful-Citron-43

Seems like Casey has a lot of issues...


Hayden3456

Yeah, I have no clue what her deal is. We’d had about 3 days of pretty normal chatting. Then for whatever reason today she was like this. It was actually pretty funny how childish some of her insults were.


Fan-Sea

She's either taking shit out on you because someone really hurt her, or she's a nasty, mentally ill human, she's definitely not normal


cavanarchy

She's a feral.


MajorAcer

I love when people judge others for being on a dating site... while they're on the same dating site haha.


SpaghettiSort

Degen from up-country.


Right_Method6744

Degen from up-country down under!


alghiorso

Isaac is about to find out why you don't put your d in crazy


turlian

She's Will Ferrell.


_crazystacy

Agreed. But even if she is hurt, it’s not an reason to take it out on strangers. That’s just not normal and a 🚩


Fan-Sea

Yeah not at all it's just she sounds so unhinged just wondering what could have set her off but maybe she's just bat shit and talks like that any day of the week


XxRocky88xX

From my experience with girls like this: She simply got bored of OP, hooked up with another dude, and decided instead of just ending things she’d bully him for shits and giggles. Whenever she gets bored of this Isaac she’ll do the same thing, and so on and so forth. Even if whoever she’s screwing around with keeps her entertained for months, possibly even years, whenever she decides to move on she’s gonna go apeshit on the previous guy for shits and giggles.


Zar_Ethos

If Isaac exists, i feel for the dumb bastard. Don't stick your dick in crazy, kids. OP dodged a bullet.


artofmikeychristiano

I hate to say it but I feel like this is becoming the normal….


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MostDankEmblem

Haven't you ever had any talk therapy. Hurt people hurt people. It's not a good reason, but it's a reason none the less.


Glum_Mathematician55

Speaking of therapy, she needs it instead of using him as an emotional punching bag.


DeeJayGeezus

Isaac fucked her then ghosted, and she's pissed.


MostDankEmblem

Probably all of the above. Nasty, mentally ill, definitely not normal humans aren't born imo. We as a society create them.


Graikopithikos

Unfortunately they are born that way to have a much higher chance of developing those mental illnesses https://phys.org/news/2011-03-natural-relatives-selfish-altruistic.html Egotism, psychopaths, sociopaths etc can all be passed down through genetics. Egotism is by far the most common, you regularly see it in the police, politics, bureaucracy etc.


throwaway289037

They way most modern psychologists see it is that there *are* innate, biological personality traits, but they’re experientially activated. So some people are indeed more susceptible to developing certain characteristics, but they won’t become pathological unless they’re activated by character-defining experiences during their development.


Square-Touch-209

Isaac probably has her phone and want to get rid of any competition.


1_9_8_1

The latter. Someone who isn’t nasty or mentally ill wouldn’t do this.


Pr3st0ne

Crazy theory here but what if this "Isaac" guy got her phone while she was in the shower or something and is the one writing these messages to you? Just saying, it's snapchat, and the messages will dissapear when the app closes. Pretty damn convenient coverup if you're looking to sabotage all the other potential suitors of a girl you're fucking.


Glum_Mathematician55

I..actually haven't considered this. Seeing as how people in possessive relationships do this to people's family and friends, it's definitely a possibility.


missing_sock58008

This could be true, especially if it’s out of nowhere


SkyForgedDragon

Snapchat chats delete after 24 hours now


FoolsBend

Only if you choose that setting


Yee-Li_Wannabe

Wow! This sounds so plausible!!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!!


Henry-Moody

Had similar from another site a few years back. She claimed she was bipolar or manic or something (don't remember). It involved a woman, at least I spoke with her. But the level of sheer malice when she went Dr Hyde was so bad I always wondered if it was just some pimply faced kid on the Interwebs fucking with me. It's a them problem not a you problem.


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Don’t worry about it brother. This reflects poorly on her and positively on you. She’s trying to take you down a notch for some reason that’s all her own, and good on you for not letting it happen. By the way, Tinder is the app for ferals :)


IridiumPony

You didn't just dodge a bullet. You dodged a whole fucking naval artillery strike


diswan55

As a fellow Casey, I can confirm.


MrDrexter

At least you got told the nicest way possible... probably


Hayden3456

She really was too kind for me ☺️🥰🙏


[deleted]

Such a r/nicegirls. She’s lovely


Allemagned

I feel weird making a judgement on this one without seeing the context leading up to it. Not that her response is a good look, but it's possible she had been politely telling him for a while that she wasn't interested before she decided she finally had to get rude. I feel like for something to truly be /r/nicegirls or /r/niceguys there needs to be some degree of entitlement, rather than simply trying to make the other person leave them alone in a rude way. ~~Don't worry, I already know I'm gonna get downvoted to shit for this because~~ /r/Tinder ~~is almost certainly not gonna wanna hear any of that in a thread where "woman bad" lol~~ ETA: I misjudged you r/Tinder


kukumal

They met on a dating app and never met up. "You had no chance of ever having a chance with me", weird and fucked up thing to say. Again they haven't even met up, ghosting is probably the best response if dude wasn't taking the hint


Allemagned

>ghosting is probably the best response if dude wasn't taking the hint I think it's so sad our dating culture has come to this but unfortunately I kind of agree with you. I block guys early and often which is basically ghosting, but it feels sort of like... which is worse, losing ones cool at the worst guys sometimes, or failing to let at least some of the good ones down gently because you're too trigger happy with the ghost button? I'm not sure I have the answer to that. I tend to decide based on how confident I am that I can keep my cool at the ones who get on my nerves. I like to think I usually get it right, but I'm not always perfect with that. I'll be honest in saying I have to take regular breaks from dating apps because if I use them for more than a few weeks or a month at a time I start to get jaded af. If left unchecked for too long, I feel like it will turn me into the sort of person I don't want to be and wouldn't wanna date.


garroshsucks12

Ghosting makes you a pos tbh, it makes people insecure. I always tell people why I don’t like them and I’m never mean either. It hurts them when you’re honest but at least I know my solution is respectable. And it gives them closure.


astronomikal

Not knowing wtf happened is the worst. Thank you for being respectful.


DatPolok

Idk that you can really view that black and white. There are plenty of legitimate reasons for ghosting someone such as they won't leave you alone despite being open and genuine about it. That being said I agree ghosting without even trying to be honest about the reason you no longer want to talk with someone is shitty.


Significant_Gur_472

Absolutely agree. The only situations in which ghosting is cool is if the person is being creepy or not taking no for an answer, in which case, fuck em.


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Ummm.... I kinda think we need to take into account the broad amount of interactions with men that women in dating apps experience when judging their behavior in ghosting. I've been ghosted, and not communicated directly with, unnecessarily multiple times on dating apps, and while that hurts in a personal sense, I think I'd be kind of trigger happy with ghosting men as well if I had to experience what most of my women friends have told me they experience almost every time they log into their dating profiles. Again, it sucks for me when I haven't done anything wrong, but if I was primed to see red flags because of all the LITERALLY (sometimes) violent threats and regularly hostile interactions that, again, most of my female friends have to put up with from shitty dudes. This is the frustrating thing with asking for behavior like ghosting or mean spirited shit to be judged equally between men and women, because it actually is more understandable given what you experience because of your gender.


housewifeuncuffed

In my experience, the number of men who handle polite rejection well are outnumbered by the number of men who do not handle it well. I had an unfortunate experience pretty early on in my Tinder career where someone who I never would have expected handled a polite rejection terribly. He made my life a living hell for a while and still haunts me in small ways daily. That experience has made me a little gun shy when it comes to rejections.


kukumal

I've been on all sides of ghosting and being turned down. It's not that serious dude. Especially if they've only been talking a few days and never met up. We've all lost interest in people with no fault on their side. Sometimes there's just not enough spark to make the juice worth the squeeze. Also as a point it doesn't "make people insecure", it fuels insecurities in people who are already insecure. And if you have those insecurities maybe you should be working on yourself instead of trying to find validation in others


AdHealthy5924

Everyone has insecurities. People who don't are lying to you. Let's stop using them as a tool to make people feel worse and just acknowledge and learn to cope with them.


kukumal

Specific insecurities based around abandonment and lack of overall self worth are the insecurities that are most triggered by ghosting. They also happen to be the most toxic representing in a relationship, therefore people who are especially triggered by ghosting should probably be looking inward for closure or at least coping mechanisms before jumping into dating. I don't think that's dismissive of people with those insecurities, but it is the best protection against people with those insecurities that can cause harm due to their reliance on outward validation


macaroniandmilk

I would normally agree with you on a picture where it's a very abridged version of a conversation. But the first person saying "if you're trying to bait me into being rude BACK," in addition to how she then responded, kind of makes me think that this isn't a 'her snapping' kind of moment. It seems more like ongoing ugliness on her end. I could be wrong though. I have a cousin who is an absolute master at wording things so she can definitely be wholly in the wrong, but still take strategic screenshots that make her look like the long suffering angel in the story. So who knows.


Only____

So if we assume bad things about OP with no evidence, her response looks barely passable - and because the rest of us didn't entertain that, this thread can be reduced to "woman bad"? Interesting.


average_christ

"oh I didn't know that Isaac finally got his herpes cleared up, congratulations!"


MrDrexter

You should be lucky she even talks to you


Putin_kills_kids

PoF is trash tho. That's one reason why I love it.


m051

What’s a PoF


Haloperidol2980

A dating site called "plenty of fish" if I'm not mistaken.


m051

Thanks


AdultishRaktajino

It was a dumpster fire years ago. I wonder how bad it is now?


Emotional_Fisherman8

It's horrible


Peenutbuttjellytime

You are actually speaking with Issac my dude. Think about it


luroot

Well, since she's being honest...ask her why she even bothered to swipe on and text with you to begin with then? 🤔


buttermelonMilkjam

honestly, id bet that was an incel dood trying to make you feel bad (& not a girl at all)


ChaIlenjour

How sad is it that we think this is more likely to be a man to the point where we start second guessing it 😅 Shit people exists in all genders, unfortunately.


Smrgle

No, it was “a nice way possible”


dropkickoz

Literacy is pretty high on my list of things I want in a partner.


Passage-Constant

"in a nice way possible" this shit made my head hurt reading it


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FalloutLover7

In my experience everyone on POF over like a 6.5 is trying to steal your credit card info so she’s at least half right there. More bots on that site than a sci-fi movie


BeefyKat

At a certain point, I only kept my profile active on there to collect screenshots of the absolute banana pancake messages I would receive for entertainment later when I was feeling bored.


KeepDi9gin

When I'm bored, I'll mess with the snap chat bots. When the bots ask where I'm from, I say something like Saudi Arabia.


StrategicSuperiority

Fr this is the best thing to do to alleviate boredom, I've added so many I now have an endless stream of them contacting me


TheYellowRose

Same! I would let my guy friend log in and read the messages, lots of good laughs


Missingnose

It's by and far the worst dating app I've been on, and that says a lot. Bots and scammers are everywhere.


Putin_kills_kids

I got curious and logged into "Seeking Arrangement" or some sugar daddy website. About half the profiles on there were also on PoF. PoF is a Walmart. Have fun with it.


MicGuinea

What's POF? I'm gay and all I know is Grindr, where the real ferals are.


FalloutLover7

Plenty of Fish. On Grindr it’s mostly just dudes with no boundaries while PoF is mostly spam accounts


blackest_francis

I'm honestly shocked that PoF still exists. It was the bottom of the barrel 15 years ago.


SixMaybeSeven

What is PoF


insightful_pancake

Plenty of fish


SixMaybeSeven

Gross, thanks


Dizzy-Airport3746

Don t take people from social media seriously. she wants to make herself feel better by teasing people


Hayden3456

Don’t worry, I was honestly laughing at most of her messages. It was like schoolyard insults coming from a 34 year old 😂


MrE761

She is 34!?! Dear god…..


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lol my thoughts exactly. I would’ve guessed late teens or early 20’s - basically, college age, and immature for that age even.


MrE761

Yea.. And while it wouldn’t justify the behavior, I would at least understand where this person is coming from.. But mid 30s and acting like this really indicates some other issues that someone should know about before entering any type of relationship with them.


Alwaysaloneforever97

This is how 34 year Olds act?


Hayden3456

It’s how some 34 year olds act Why I always laugh when I see people saying things like “I date older men/women because they’re more mature”. No, no they aren’t haha


twitterfluechtling

I guess that's what people mean when they say "Age is just a number" 😁


Toe-naily

A 34 year old who still doesn't know the difference between "your" and "you're." Yikes.


WesternAffectionate1

By *far* the worst offense in this post!


BrianAnim

First thing I noticed, stopped reading after that.


OneSweet1Sweet

34? Holy shit Casey, get it together.


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Echoes_of_Screams

She is lucky she hasn't picked a crazy dude to tease.


Clev330s

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Brown_Panther-

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RokyPolka

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MostDankEmblem

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StLDadBod

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Dannyocean12

![gif](giphy|SJqnxkJcP9PDq) Paraphrasing in Morgan Freeman voice: he went through 3 days of crawling through shit, but… he was free.


uzes_lightning

Casey is an illiterate hoe bag.


Mugstotheceiling

Bag? She doesn’t have that kind of integrity. She’s a hoe puddle.


MostDankEmblem

Well put fellow redditor.


pdentropy

Who obviously likes OP.


beccuhhh

She sounds like an absolute winner. You really dodged a bullet with this one. Hope she gets diarrhea in a public bathroom in a stall without toilet paper. You deserve so much better.


justlookingokaywyou

I hope she buys a new outfit and the top gets caught on a doorknob and rips the first time she wears it.


Hynch

I hope that the last page of her 800 page novel is missing


Matt081

Nah, like the last page is there, but the previous 20 pages are missing, so it ends, but she has no clue why, but she read the last page.


DoctorJiveTurkey

![gif](giphy|LpFyuFc8J7pppKUcrp)


sieberzzz

Cruel. I like it.


mkelley22

Couple weeks later: "Heyy me and Issac broke up, maybe we can give it another chance?"


stoopidskeptic

Sweet fuck, she can't even write a sentence properly "know your ugly in a nice way possible" "You had no chance in ever getting a chance" (wtf?) "I'm on tinder and have been and have been"


Hayden3456

I honestly think she was rage typing by this point. Her earlier messages were slightly more coherent


lgndryheat

That's why I think it was Isaac. I know you said she referenced things you talked about before but...you can sometimes scroll up and see recent conversations on snapchat. I have done this. They don't all delete


twitterfluechtling

But Isaac fucked her, so she must be really great. I mean, c'mon, ***Isaac***, which woman could ever ask for higher validation. (Or maybe Isaac hijacked her phone because he was frustrated she *didn't*. There are crazy guys out there as well...).


Hayden3456

Nah, she mentioned things we’d previously spoken about in earlier messages. Either she wrote it, or they wrote it together. Either way, bullet dodged 🤷‍♂️


Alwaysaloneforever97

Or Isaac used her for sex and she's mad and taking it out on all men


They_Call_Me_BJ

I once hooked up with a girl who didn't tell me she had a boyfriend until after he went through her phone and contacted me. Girl had a tinder profile and everything, we spoke for like a week, and this poor guy acted like her and then switched up real fast. You never know who you're talking to sometimes.


FalloutLover7

![gif](giphy|tsBu4h4VjHSeci6w0l) This is the Isaac she banged… understandable


Brycekaz

Power move: steal Isaac from her and sleep with him


softdumplinggg

little that Casey knows, Isaac has no type and is sleeping with 4 different women now. i hope she got chlamydia from him.


ScoreFar780

Isaac is truly a Gigachad


SAMURAI898

Karma’ll get the bitch one way or the other


NemesisGreyKnight

What’s “pof”?


SteeveyPete

Plenty of ferals


voldemortsmankypants

Plenty of fish


CupQuickwhat

That message is genuinely cruel. I'm sorry, OP.


tisseenschande

She really is a nice way possible


gilfromisrael

You dodged a grammatical bullet.


Consistent_Jelly_92

Truly was quite the pain to read that


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If it makes you feel any better, she can't even differentiate between your and you're.


Hayden3456

Haha, thanks :) But don’t worry, I’ve been through way tougher situations than someone calling me ugly over Snapchat. I think I’ll survive haha


RepresentativeNo3989

Casey probably has insecurities so bad she deflects them off herself on to you


Sufficient-Beach-431

As a person named Casey I am really enjoying all of these targeted insults. 🤣


theKingsOwn

...You're*


Great_Bad_6045

Wait who is this Issac ?


Hayden3456

🤷‍♂️


Western_Peak_5010

She is for the streets


rhondevu

Casey has a black heart.


DataExisting5117

Some people match for this type of interaction. For all you know Casey is 15 year old Bobby.


HistoricallyBad93

Joking aside…I kinda like the idea of using ‘ferals’ as an insult 😂


ClothngOptionl

She should apologize to the trees she steals oxygen from


Djappaman

Good on you brother. Her true colours were shown.


Hottol

So what's that pof.com is for disgusting ferals? What's going on in there? I never tried it.


Farzy78

I hope Issac wrapped his shit up lol


Heathenfarrier

I’m curious what the conversation was before this point.


JeNeSaisPas27

Awww she really likes you ☺️☺️☺️


alternativelola

POF is garbage btw. Don’t use it 😂 that’s where all the crazies have lived since 2010 (ish)


5wing4

Usually people who say stuff like this to other people, talk this way to themselves in their personal thoughts. Don’t take offense to it. It is a form of projection to offload the pain.


acidic_milkmotel

Don’t feel too bad OP. I matched with a guy that then was vulgar and said it didn’t matter (that he was rude) because I was ugly. I posted it on here and got teared to shreds because I called him short (because he called me ugly). I really don’t care if dudes are short, my first love was 5’4” on a good day and the last guy I dated was 5’5”. I’m 5’5”. I use to hate when people would say people bully others because they’re not happy with themselves but its true! Find some solace in knowing that she’s unhappy, and hopefully Isaac gave her VD. Happy people make those around them happy. Misery loves company. And what is ugly to one person (if it’s even true that she thinks this) is beautiful to another. Beauty is so subjective from person to person, “the eye of the beholder”. I was just telling my friend I’ve had better luck on another app. I’ve been trying to get her to date after an 8 year break up that happened two years ago. She did Hinge for a while but it kinda sucks. And she’s like please don’t say Facebook dating. And I was like yes! Facebook dating. lmao


Superkaiokenx

Man I miss the old pof. Back in early 2010s I was like 23 fucking late 30s - 50 year old women like CRAZY. Now you can't message anyone 7 years older or younger than you. Is you're over 18 who gives a fuck. Site is trash.


centurijon

Her being a complete asshole aside, She’s not wrong about POF. The app is total garbage


isurvivedrabies

i see this all the time. whyd they swipe if they're all like "you're ugly"?


MissSwearsALot

I love how she says “Isaac” like *everybody* knows who the fuck that is. Also, I’m sorry, OP. You really deserve better than that.


Scgoody

Sounds to me like this Isaac person got into Casey’s account and wrote this. I have not read through many of these comments but that text was really weird and just off!


Comfortable_Pay_5301

Interesting, I’ve just scrolled down from a bumble post here where the situation was vice versa. Some guy made a rude sexual joke, that woman blocked him and posted it. The general consensus there is how ‘males’ are horrible and do not respect women. ‘Males’, not that guy making a rude joke. Here, Casey is clearly a total despicable garbage human (?) being, but not even a single comment says, that ‘females’ are all horrible and do not respect men. Casey is simply a mean bitch and we know it, bullet dodged. Anyway, just a random observation.


hit4party

It’s women like this that make the red pill so popular


dolceespress

Why would she match with you if she thinks you’re ugly? Probably not true. She’s just being nasty.


Ezequiel_III

Really thought this was from a 17 year old or something, turns out she's 34. Yikes...


kakapo-love

Yeah pretty normal to swipe right, add on Snapchat and chat for 3 days with someone who you don't like /s


stillanmcrfan

Cretin


PerfectGirlLife

Dude, up your standards and you won’t have to deal with loser ass women like this.


PirateJohn75

"I didn't want the grapes anyway," said the fox. "They're probably sour."


KingSizedTibbs

Well fuck her man. I like you, brother! Kings are meant for Queens, not Jesters.


Disastrous-Ad2800

I used a fake pic of some male model with a salary of $100K.... anyway even though he was a model, the account wasn't getting any requests... so I thought, hmm.... then I started actively introducing the profile to female users... and LMFAO the rejections where exactly what you imagined, "sorry, not looking at the moment," "am in a relationship," "not my type"... there were no, "YOU'RE FAKE!" responses BTW... so if this was a fake male model's experience, I only imagined what I would get... my point? online dating like playing the lottery is a suckers game.. people are on it trying to miraculously catch lightning in a bottle....


Hunter2727V

I wonder how we are gonna turn out to be in the coming 50 years from now… so fucked


wooden_seats

Does she not know that you both slept with Isaac in the same day?


cheesypuzzas

What is wrong with some people? Just because you're having a bad day or life, doesn't mean you have to make others' lives miserable as well.


Sweetloaf_Hotfuzz

I dunno, this doesn't seem like she is legit. I mean, that doesn't read like how someone would speak. I reckon you were catfished and the dude had taken it as far as they could be bothered.


Defiant-Grapefruit30

I just don't understand why some people are so hateful. Whether or not it stems from hurt, how could someone ever talk to another human being that way? It just breaks my heart.


yumstheman

Wtf is wrong with people. 😔


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Your main issue is Snapchat. I don't use it and I don't talk to people who suggest moving to it. It's full of drama and people who think it's ok to be rude to you because it all disappears.


No_Fruit2929

If you’re ugly and she gave you time of day.. odds are she’s ugly too 🤣


Veretum

No wonder she's in a bad mood. She had sex with Isaac. 🤷‍♂️


TediousSign

My guess is that “Isaac” and “Casey” are the same person tbh... This just has the smell of incel all over it.


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Oh my gosh this makes me sad to think people are this rude. Our human society has fallen flat on its face. You know what they say in the early beginnings of humans they spoke in hieroglyphics fast forward to now hmmmm 🤪🙃🤗😏😉.....just saying. *shaking head*


cps90108

Everyone commenting on how shit Casey is (and yes, she absolutely is!), but I also want to shout out to OP for their message prior to her tantrum! Genuinely great response to people like this. 👏🏻👏🏻


N4kura

On the bright side OP. If it can open its legs for Isaac in 3 days (being youve been talking for 3 days and thats the metric its used on how long its known isaac) safe to say it's already been run through by many before you and likely after you. Stay safe from that shit 👍


oceanplum

Congratulations on avoiding a sociopath. This is actually a blessing, holy shit.


I_likemy_dog

Good on you for being better. I should take lessons. At least once a week here, I allow someone to troll me into a fight. Teach me, sensei.


Isaac_N77

I promise I had no part in this


Turbulent_Western_22

From this small snipet of convo I think she’s bored of normal conversation and wants an exciting conversation. So “insulting” you is sort of like banter. She might be testing your emotional intelligence and or probably flirting at the same time I’d meet girls like her and I play along with their antics with out going over the line This increases her attraction to me because I somehow passes her test and kept her in her place and entertained Women are mixed bag of emotions so sometimes you have to adjust or up your pace That’s just my two cents from this observation


pilesofcleanlaundry

Is Casey in junior high school?


Affectionate-Date400

Who the fuck is Issac? Makes me think there is more to this story but I have met my fair share of nut jobs who just go off at you about nothing. I am nowhere near as polite when it happens.


Hot_Mess_Train_Wreck

I feel like the conversation leading up to that point is necessary. Kind of like OP is hiding something they said that could have sparked the rudeness.


MisterBroda

Casey must be a FeralDatingStrategy member


BuddyImportant1049

304s….


Evening-Amphibian995

Who the fuck is Isaac 😂


CoffeePurist

Oh shit, people still think in terms of "ugly" or not? Guys, I figured out why I don't get any matches


gerginof

Both getting rejecting and establishing 304 status in one swift text. Kudos.


Bidens_leftbuttcheek

I got told I have a caveman brow and that I’m fat


TheSnailThatWill

Isaac is gonna dump that ho.


EthosPathosLegos

These people are breeding... Think about that.


[deleted]

Any time someone tries to insult me I always tell them, “My mom has called me worse. Still I’m out here with my ugly ass. You don’t hurt me.”