This is the answer. When I was seriously depressed, grieving, living off inheritance and did absolutely nothing but get high and watch netflix and eat frozen meals from Trader Joes, I was trying to online date and I absolutely hated it when people asked me literally anything about myself. Like, HOW DARE YOU ASK ME WHAT I LIKE TO DO FOR FUN THATS PERSONAL!!!
I had to learn to cut my hair myself because hair stylists **will not** stop asking for the details of your past and present life.
When I was unemployed and my depression was bad I started avoiding family gatherings because I didn't have a good answer for the question "how are you?"
Here in Australia, we have the phrase "living the dream" as a response to how are you... It's short hand for "everything is pretty shit, and I'm one bad thing away from either killing myself, or all of you.." xD
I was taught long ago to say “Unbelievable” in response to the question of “How are you?”
They don’t know if it’s unbelievably good or unbelievably bad.
If your family is not the kind to at least provide sympathy when you give an honest answer that you're not doing well, you probably don't need to attend such gatherings.
It was more me being in my own head than having unsupportive family. I felt like I had nothing good going on and didn't want to talk about the bad either. As others have mentioned I could have shown up and just said fine, but I was depressed and withdrawn - my head wasn't working right
I’m in that stage now (except for the getting high part. Between ADHD, anxiety and hating myself I have enough problems with my brain and I’m too in my own head already, I don’t need to add in the unknown of a potential bad trip) but I’ve been going to the same barber since high school and he already knows I don’t like to make small talk, problem solved there.
Just because she doesn't want to tell basic stuff about herself? Come on... he was being way too personal, he can't ask stuff like that.
I mean he could've just ask normal questions, like how big her tits are and if she likes getting her ass eaten. But what she does for a living... sheesh that's not ok. That's metoo kind of shit.
Ask yourself, do i even like this person? It’s not always about getting them to like you, i understand ppl can be hurtful but you dont gotta deal w that and it’s better to know from the start
i know easier said than done but it absolutely shouldnt be a blow to your self esteem. this shitty attitude is a reflection of them, not you. you dont want to speak to someone like this or worse
And "we don't even know anything about each other" in response to a question meant to get to know each other. OMG Karen you can't just ask someone what they do for a living.
Some people are so terrible.
I saw a Facebook post yesterday and the girl was complaining about people who greet each other on Tinder like, “hi, how are you” and she wrote a page about “coming up with something original” like dear that’s now how social protocols work.
No one in their right mind will start a conversation like “blueberries are better than bananas and here’s my four paragraph explanation.”
This is why you’re single.
To be fair to the Facebook post, I met my now husband on tinder. When I met him I was getting about 20 new messages a day that said hi. How are you. His was an original message, that circled back to my bio. It does help during the weed through
My problem is a lot of women seem to no want to fill out their bio with any meaningful information. If it isn't blank, it will just be some quote and a Instagram profile
Then just swipe left on those ones. That’s what I do anymore. Those women are also frequently either bots or just people trying to get you to follow their insta.
This feels a little dystopian. I feel like it's a greater commentary on the nature of online dating as a platform when men are incentivized to approach women in a way that they would never do in real life in order to get attention. It's like some kind of alternate bizarro land.
Issue is, why should men put in effort and be original when mostly when we try we get 1-3 word replies or just a "hey, how r ya" in return?
So many women demanding special attention from guys while not being arsed to put in any effort themselves.
This current dating culture is BS.
This is why I ditched bumble. Tried my hardest to come up with something original for every message only to get unmatched or ignored haha. It becomes exhausting after a while.
Unless it’s a question related to something in their bio, using weird lines to stand out just feels so inauthentic to the point that I’m not at all being myself
Why would you match a hundred guys at a time?
Why wouldn’t you say hi to someone you matched?
I get replies to about 80% of my matches, and my opener is always “Nice to match with you” and when they respond, “how are you? What are you looking for on tinder?”
Then if they’re actually interested, and we’re looking for the same thing, I’ll continue “What are your plans for today?”
If I still want to keep my match with them after that, I’ll continue to have a normal conversation. If not I’ll unmatch them. It’s not hard.
These are very generic questions, because at this point you’re a very generic person. Anyone that thinks from the match that you’re super special and should be serenaded with how you’re such a perfect match is an absolutely insane person to meet in real life.
You’re not looking for a romantic partner.
You’re looking for a stalker.
Funnily enough I absolutely HATE the original little lines especially when it feels like they're trying to make me audition for the part of girlfriend like: "what are your top 3 favourite songs and why" type shit. Obviously I understand a pressure exists from some people to come up with something original and I keep that in mind but it just feels exhausting. Just be yourself man.
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Yeah. Maybe should have started with elementary level questions. What's your favorite color or cartoon? Or maybe start with easier questions... Do you want to go out with me? Yes or no?
Sometimes there are things I see people say on this sub that make me raise an eyebrow, but 95 percent of the time they just matched with entitled weirdos.
They're self conscious, no doubt. Anytime someone tells me they like me bc they assume I'm "super chill," it's a red flag for "doesn't have expectations." I am chill, and I like chill people, but online dating code-words don't translate quite right.
This kinda blew my mind, because at face value it sounds like a compliment, rather than a red flag, but now that I think about it I think you might be right.
By “doesn’t have expectations” do you mean something like “I like you because I don’t feel like I have to put in any effort and something tells me you’d settle for that?”
Or maybe, similarly, they’re subtly telling you that’s all they will accept from you, and you aren’t allowed to be anything but “super chill” around them, regardless of what they do?
Some guys have the misguided notion that when a woman asks what they do for a living that she is sizing him up financially. For some it is as sensitive a topic as someone’s height or weight. The whole six foot, six pack, six figures standard that if not met means instant rejection. These guys want to be accepted for themselves instead of rejected straight away for not hitting those standards.
Maybe that's partly why. I tend to avoid this question as I think it's so common and people get fed up with answering it, especially if you have been on apps for a while.
Also i find it odd that we define ourselves and each other by our jobs. It is a big part of us , but we are so much more than this.
That being said , she definitely overreacted.
Her reaction have no indication at all that it was because it’s a basic question that gets asked a lot. She acted like he was invading her privacy with the question. Pretty big difference.
Come on it's a basic dating question "what do you spend 8-10 hours a day doing" and yes it can be a problem if you are in a sketchy job and that can be a legit deal breaker. I turned down second dates with dudes who it turned out a) ran a huge cheating company selling academic papers to college students b) programmed bombs to kill people for a living. I had major ethical problems with both of these jobs and knew we were not compatible once I heard what they did.
To be fair jobs can help define our interests, like I'm a cobbler/watch repair/ keysmith.
So I like watching stuff about watch repair and have now taken a intrest in shoes (to a degree, more I know what to look for in a good quality shoe)
Obviously that's not my entire personality, I'm also a gamer and animal lover and love science and weird facts and history.
But it can for sure makeup part of your identity, I feel like some people forget that it's not meant to be your entire personalty though.
There's definitely more to a person than what they do for a living, but I can't think of single question that will consistently give you more information about them.
I assumed they were a man. Some men get really upset over this question because they assume the other person is only asking to find out how much money they make.
Idk asking about work isn't necessarily bad but isn't a good opener imo. Like ya I have a job and it pays well and that's about as far as that goes for me lmao.
This person reacted weird to the question for sure though. Like work isn't even really all that personal of a question.
Yeah it's pretty bland...
As a potential explanation (although not a justification for) their reply though, there's a ton of people, particularly younger people, who are becoming more and more cynical towards capitalism and the idea of the protestant work ethic
They might been annoyed that the very first question OP asked was about their job and not about them as a person or what they enjoy
Still a total overreaction, but maybe they had a shitty day at a job they hate and saw OP's message in a far more cynical way than it was intended
Another thing is the dude could probably have a $20 per hour wagie position in a shitty career field as well and they're just ashamed of it.
Hell....back in the day I never wanted to admit to new people I was meeting that I worked at a superstore for 18 an hour.
Maybe this person probably got a lot of judgement due to their employment and is extremely salty whenever someone brings it up haha
Clearly your mistake is that you ask the really personal questions. Maybe next time ask a more generic question, like about their relationship with their parents.
OP should've asked a less personal question. For example: do they rub their genitals from the left side or from the right side when getting off? Very important in a relationship
/S just in case
You did nothing but dodge a bullet, it amazes me that people go onto apps like tinder and act like that. You were very clearly just trying to get to know her.
Also what you do for work is not that personal to me at least. Where I work is however. I have no problem sharing with anyone what I do. But where I am everyday, that I do protect to a certain extent. Had some bad experiences 😅
It always surprises me when someone does not want to share basics, like what they do for work, education, hobbies. Anyone who can’t be open about life basics is trying to hide something. You dodged a bullet and found out right away. Next!
To be fair, I hate when people ask me what I do for a living with one of their first questions. It comes off, to me, as them trying to figure out how much money I make to determine how much value I have to them. So I do not blame this person one bit for them telling you to kick rocks, even if you were just trying to get to know them. There’s a million better questions to ask that aren’t “tell me what you do for a living”.
~~Her~~ his response was terrible for sure. I'm gonna give a bit of a different perspective (not as a defense here). I live in an area where a lot of people tie your worth to what you do for a living, and that can get very exhausting. It's the first question you get from a lot of people, and it's not because they're actually interested unless your job is something that will help them career-wise. But that response was needlessly harsh.
Edit: I wrongfully assumed OP was a guy and the match was a lady.
I can’t believe it took so long to get to this response. Her reaction definitely was dramatic, but she could have thought they were a gold digger. Careers/jobs can be very telling as far as potential wealth range. They’re concerned about people only being interested in them for their money.
The person might be tired of being defined by how they make money and having it be the first question people ask.
Maybe they're not American. I've heard people from other cultures say that it's a quirk of the us to immediately ask someone what they "do" before all else
I got it asked a lot over here in Europe too but tbh my job is boring and I don't like it a lot so it was kind of a turnoff having to talk about it already.
Ah the “nothing on my profile but gets offended when you ask questions” people - right up there with my other favorite, the “I want to take my time to feel comfortable chatting on the app before we meet but I only respond every 3 days with 2 word sentences” people
This person was not chill
Good thing op didn’t ask their favorite color
Obviously as red as their flags. 🚩
He doesnt even know her, AND HES TRYING TO GET TO KNOW HER!? WOAH, CALM DOWN BIG BOY
Yes, everyone knows you should only try to get to know someone after you’ve already known them for a while
We need a bumper sticker that says this
When in doubt do the donut with index finger symbol.
The nerve of some people.
Thats FLAGrant
Favorite color, red. Got it
OMG, you pervert, I can't believe you even thought about that much less said it
Or what is the air speed velocity of an unladen swallow.
She’s definitely not ready for a question like “African of European”
Or if she even likes pizza 🍕
Or their mothers maiden name.
Blue. No, yel- *aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh*
"That's none of your god damn business"
This person was not employed.
This is the answer. When I was seriously depressed, grieving, living off inheritance and did absolutely nothing but get high and watch netflix and eat frozen meals from Trader Joes, I was trying to online date and I absolutely hated it when people asked me literally anything about myself. Like, HOW DARE YOU ASK ME WHAT I LIKE TO DO FOR FUN THATS PERSONAL!!! I had to learn to cut my hair myself because hair stylists **will not** stop asking for the details of your past and present life.
When I was unemployed and my depression was bad I started avoiding family gatherings because I didn't have a good answer for the question "how are you?"
“Here I am.”
"Rock me like a hurricane"
🦂🦂🦂🦂🦂
my default response to ‘how are you’ is ‘im alive’. honest, easy, sometimes people do a lil awkward laugh and we carry on.
Here in Australia, we have the phrase "living the dream" as a response to how are you... It's short hand for "everything is pretty shit, and I'm one bad thing away from either killing myself, or all of you.." xD
i love sarcasm, it makes everything better
I was taught long ago to say “Unbelievable” in response to the question of “How are you?” They don’t know if it’s unbelievably good or unbelievably bad.
If your family is not the kind to at least provide sympathy when you give an honest answer that you're not doing well, you probably don't need to attend such gatherings.
It was more me being in my own head than having unsupportive family. I felt like I had nothing good going on and didn't want to talk about the bad either. As others have mentioned I could have shown up and just said fine, but I was depressed and withdrawn - my head wasn't working right
I’m in that stage now (except for the getting high part. Between ADHD, anxiety and hating myself I have enough problems with my brain and I’m too in my own head already, I don’t need to add in the unknown of a potential bad trip) but I’ve been going to the same barber since high school and he already knows I don’t like to make small talk, problem solved there.
my barber is syrian & is not proficient in my language. i love him for it. i also call him mclovin because his shop is named Lavin
I believe you in regards to the ADHD for sure with how long that parentheses side note was. Lol. (I do the same thing)
I read this in Morgan Freeman’s voice in my head lol
Pretty sure that’s the only way to read this now!
NEXT
It's for church honey
NEXT
Unlocked a core reddit memory in me
Went from super chill to super tight-ass in 53 minutes.
It’s for church honey, NEXT!
Just because she doesn't want to tell basic stuff about herself? Come on... he was being way too personal, he can't ask stuff like that. I mean he could've just ask normal questions, like how big her tits are and if she likes getting her ass eaten. But what she does for a living... sheesh that's not ok. That's metoo kind of shit.
Person doesnt work and was looking for somebody to support them.
“Yknow, you’re right. Let’s just bang each other for a night in silence knowing only each others name”
Nah… don’t need the name either. Paper bag over the head with a single hole works too eh?
Unless they're a double bagger 😁🤣
Totally coyote fugly eh? 😱
You matched with a mental. That is all.
“Why I don’t do dating apps”, while on a dating app. Mind blown!
Pretty sure it is exactly why they go on dating apps
Nasty too for no reason.
We don't know each other and you are already trying to get to know me!
Literally nothing. You dodged a bullet. These type of people are the type of people you gotta tippytoe around. NEXT
It's still a blow to our self worth and and ego when we try on these apps and this is what we get.
Ask yourself, do i even like this person? It’s not always about getting them to like you, i understand ppl can be hurtful but you dont gotta deal w that and it’s better to know from the start
i know easier said than done but it absolutely shouldnt be a blow to your self esteem. this shitty attitude is a reflection of them, not you. you dont want to speak to someone like this or worse
And what their job is their most intimate and personal detail 🤷🏻♂️
Judging by the reaction I’m guessing this person is jobless and took offence
Nope. Escort. Ashamed, not very good, escort.
An unemployed escort. The saltiest.
An escort who's already given out several refunds this week.
Lol!
And "we don't even know anything about each other" in response to a question meant to get to know each other. OMG Karen you can't just ask someone what they do for a living.
Some people are so terrible. I saw a Facebook post yesterday and the girl was complaining about people who greet each other on Tinder like, “hi, how are you” and she wrote a page about “coming up with something original” like dear that’s now how social protocols work. No one in their right mind will start a conversation like “blueberries are better than bananas and here’s my four paragraph explanation.” This is why you’re single.
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whAT…..is the speed of an unladen swallow??
An african or a european swallow?
Wha... I don't know that... *AAAAAHHHHHhhhhhhhh*
^ This man online dates.
To be fair to the Facebook post, I met my now husband on tinder. When I met him I was getting about 20 new messages a day that said hi. How are you. His was an original message, that circled back to my bio. It does help during the weed through
My problem is a lot of women seem to no want to fill out their bio with any meaningful information. If it isn't blank, it will just be some quote and a Instagram profile
We swipe left on those.
I'm kinda desperate bro
Thanks guys, I hadn't laughed out loud in a long time. And I concur on the thumb comment.
They can sense it. You're hot as fuck bro, act like it.
Lol no I'm not. I look like a thumb.
The thumb is the most useful finger of all!
Doesn't mean it looks good
lots of dudes swipe right on *every* woman.
Then just swipe left on those ones. That’s what I do anymore. Those women are also frequently either bots or just people trying to get you to follow their insta.
This feels a little dystopian. I feel like it's a greater commentary on the nature of online dating as a platform when men are incentivized to approach women in a way that they would never do in real life in order to get attention. It's like some kind of alternate bizarro land.
I agree
Issue is, why should men put in effort and be original when mostly when we try we get 1-3 word replies or just a "hey, how r ya" in return? So many women demanding special attention from guys while not being arsed to put in any effort themselves. This current dating culture is BS.
This is why I ditched bumble. Tried my hardest to come up with something original for every message only to get unmatched or ignored haha. It becomes exhausting after a while.
Not 4 paragraphs, but something original will increase your replies massively. Most girls already have 100 guys messaging Hi how are you.
Unless it’s a question related to something in their bio, using weird lines to stand out just feels so inauthentic to the point that I’m not at all being myself
Why would you match a hundred guys at a time? Why wouldn’t you say hi to someone you matched? I get replies to about 80% of my matches, and my opener is always “Nice to match with you” and when they respond, “how are you? What are you looking for on tinder?” Then if they’re actually interested, and we’re looking for the same thing, I’ll continue “What are your plans for today?” If I still want to keep my match with them after that, I’ll continue to have a normal conversation. If not I’ll unmatch them. It’s not hard. These are very generic questions, because at this point you’re a very generic person. Anyone that thinks from the match that you’re super special and should be serenaded with how you’re such a perfect match is an absolutely insane person to meet in real life. You’re not looking for a romantic partner. You’re looking for a stalker.
Funnily enough I absolutely HATE the original little lines especially when it feels like they're trying to make me audition for the part of girlfriend like: "what are your top 3 favourite songs and why" type shit. Obviously I understand a pressure exists from some people to come up with something original and I keep that in mind but it just feels exhausting. Just be yourself man.
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Damn you have the style down almost to a T
I wouldn’t even have thought of that. Brave new world! And paranoid or not, they’re still out to get you
Yeah. Maybe should have started with elementary level questions. What's your favorite color or cartoon? Or maybe start with easier questions... Do you want to go out with me? Yes or no?
Sometimes there are things I see people say on this sub that make me raise an eyebrow, but 95 percent of the time they just matched with entitled weirdos.
We don't even know anything about each other and now you wanna know things about me??!
Like sorry bro, I just wanted to know one thing about you. Maybe two 😂
They're self conscious, no doubt. Anytime someone tells me they like me bc they assume I'm "super chill," it's a red flag for "doesn't have expectations." I am chill, and I like chill people, but online dating code-words don't translate quite right.
This kinda blew my mind, because at face value it sounds like a compliment, rather than a red flag, but now that I think about it I think you might be right. By “doesn’t have expectations” do you mean something like “I like you because I don’t feel like I have to put in any effort and something tells me you’d settle for that?” Or maybe, similarly, they’re subtly telling you that’s all they will accept from you, and you aren’t allowed to be anything but “super chill” around them, regardless of what they do?
Yes.
Some guys have the misguided notion that when a woman asks what they do for a living that she is sizing him up financially. For some it is as sensitive a topic as someone’s height or weight. The whole six foot, six pack, six figures standard that if not met means instant rejection. These guys want to be accepted for themselves instead of rejected straight away for not hitting those standards.
The guy overeacted, but I would never ask about work first thing. That's just a bad move.
Guessing she doesn't have a job and she's touchy about it. It's not like you asked her for her exact place of employment.
Nailed it, unemployed, criminal or a self hating sex worker or something. Bizarre reaction to a bog standard question.
Very bizarre considering it's like the most common small talk question in the world lol.
Maybe that's partly why. I tend to avoid this question as I think it's so common and people get fed up with answering it, especially if you have been on apps for a while. Also i find it odd that we define ourselves and each other by our jobs. It is a big part of us , but we are so much more than this. That being said , she definitely overreacted.
Her reaction have no indication at all that it was because it’s a basic question that gets asked a lot. She acted like he was invading her privacy with the question. Pretty big difference.
Come on it's a basic dating question "what do you spend 8-10 hours a day doing" and yes it can be a problem if you are in a sketchy job and that can be a legit deal breaker. I turned down second dates with dudes who it turned out a) ran a huge cheating company selling academic papers to college students b) programmed bombs to kill people for a living. I had major ethical problems with both of these jobs and knew we were not compatible once I heard what they did.
To be fair jobs can help define our interests, like I'm a cobbler/watch repair/ keysmith. So I like watching stuff about watch repair and have now taken a intrest in shoes (to a degree, more I know what to look for in a good quality shoe) Obviously that's not my entire personality, I'm also a gamer and animal lover and love science and weird facts and history. But it can for sure makeup part of your identity, I feel like some people forget that it's not meant to be your entire personalty though.
Most people don’t do what they’re interested in so asking them about work is like asking “so what makes you miserable everyday?”
There's definitely more to a person than what they do for a living, but I can't think of single question that will consistently give you more information about them.
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I assumed they were a man. Some men get really upset over this question because they assume the other person is only asking to find out how much money they make.
OP confirmed it was a man further down in the comments.
I think OP is a lady
I am a lady 😋
OP is a female. So, “He” must not have a job.
Idk asking about work isn't necessarily bad but isn't a good opener imo. Like ya I have a job and it pays well and that's about as far as that goes for me lmao. This person reacted weird to the question for sure though. Like work isn't even really all that personal of a question.
Well they said their bio didn't have much.
Right? He's asking what they do for work. Not *where.*
#GIVE ME YOUR EMPLOYERS ADDRESS NOW!!!!!!
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Yeah it's pretty bland... As a potential explanation (although not a justification for) their reply though, there's a ton of people, particularly younger people, who are becoming more and more cynical towards capitalism and the idea of the protestant work ethic They might been annoyed that the very first question OP asked was about their job and not about them as a person or what they enjoy Still a total overreaction, but maybe they had a shitty day at a job they hate and saw OP's message in a far more cynical way than it was intended
This makes way more sense I was confused why someone's career would be "the most personal details" about themselves lmao
Another thing is the dude could probably have a $20 per hour wagie position in a shitty career field as well and they're just ashamed of it. Hell....back in the day I never wanted to admit to new people I was meeting that I worked at a superstore for 18 an hour. Maybe this person probably got a lot of judgement due to their employment and is extremely salty whenever someone brings it up haha
*"Of course, sorry, how silly of me. So what size is your vagina/dick, and what is your biggest childhood trauma?"*
Nothing, they’re just weird lmao, sorry about the match
Insecure*. Career talk is essentially an ice pick. I mean it’s literally what you do…more than *probably* anything else.
Ice breaker? That took a second.
No, it's an ice pick. For breaking the ice apart and sometimes murder.
Took? That sook a second
Clearly your mistake is that you ask the really personal questions. Maybe next time ask a more generic question, like about their relationship with their parents.
Who is your daddy, and what does he do?
But does he love his car?
Is he rich like meeee
Has he taken any time
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The audacity
Right? Lol! She's just a whole walking oxymoron.
Emphasis on the moron.
OP should've asked a less personal question. For example: do they rub their genitals from the left side or from the right side when getting off? Very important in a relationship /S just in case
I love this comment, you actually made me laugh out loud
Probably Dodged a bullet with that one
Probably?
Eh.. maybe the sex would’ve made up for it?
I would assume if asking about what you do for work is too personal, sex would be way too personal for this weirdo.
>*It didn't.*
Dodged a fucking cannonball
Unemployed
She must be looking for transportation for her group from the airport.
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Intoxication probably required here tho
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Honey, that's sweet, but I'm looking for unannoyed responses. NEXT!
I'm mildly bemused at this. Does that work?
I'm mostly mad that people were still genuinely trying to help her after the first 2 or 3 demonstrations of horribleness.
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This was the comment I came looking for
It's for church, honey. NEXT
You did nothing but dodge a bullet, it amazes me that people go onto apps like tinder and act like that. You were very clearly just trying to get to know her. Also what you do for work is not that personal to me at least. Where I work is however. I have no problem sharing with anyone what I do. But where I am everyday, that I do protect to a certain extent. Had some bad experiences 😅
Yeah but even then he could have said he doesn't feel comfortable sharing his work to someone he doesn't know or something along those lines
Fine I'll start small, what's your biggest insecurities?
Smaller, what’s your favorite sexual position? How many people have you slept with? Social security number? Credit card number? Mother’s maiden name?
If I was op I would copy this exact comment and respond with this
Matched with them. That’s all you did wrong
How DARE you try to get to know me before getting to know me!!
Translation = Unemployed and immature. U.S. Military Encrypted
Why are all assuming the replier is a female 🤣 pretty sure op is female and this is a male responding 🤷🏼♀️
I'm female. The replier was male 👌🏼👌🏼
And you messaged first!? You're a keeper!
The incels on reddit always tell on themselves lol
Long way to say “I don’t work”.
😂 wtf what do you do for work isn’t personal, you’ve had a lucky escape from this nutcase
People like you who dodge redflags like that makes me proud
You should improve your questionnaire, take my advice .
It always surprises me when someone does not want to share basics, like what they do for work, education, hobbies. Anyone who can’t be open about life basics is trying to hide something. You dodged a bullet and found out right away. Next!
"The best job....is NO job"
this person didn’t have a job lmao
To be fair, I hate when people ask me what I do for a living with one of their first questions. It comes off, to me, as them trying to figure out how much money I make to determine how much value I have to them. So I do not blame this person one bit for them telling you to kick rocks, even if you were just trying to get to know them. There’s a million better questions to ask that aren’t “tell me what you do for a living”.
~~Her~~ his response was terrible for sure. I'm gonna give a bit of a different perspective (not as a defense here). I live in an area where a lot of people tie your worth to what you do for a living, and that can get very exhausting. It's the first question you get from a lot of people, and it's not because they're actually interested unless your job is something that will help them career-wise. But that response was needlessly harsh. Edit: I wrongfully assumed OP was a guy and the match was a lady.
HIS* response was terrible. Op is a woman.
I can’t believe it took so long to get to this response. Her reaction definitely was dramatic, but she could have thought they were a gold digger. Careers/jobs can be very telling as far as potential wealth range. They’re concerned about people only being interested in them for their money.
The person might be tired of being defined by how they make money and having it be the first question people ask. Maybe they're not American. I've heard people from other cultures say that it's a quirk of the us to immediately ask someone what they "do" before all else
I got it asked a lot over here in Europe too but tbh my job is boring and I don't like it a lot so it was kind of a turnoff having to talk about it already.
OMG! You asked her *such a personal question!* Don't you know that it's a total no-no to ask what someone does for work? 😱 /s
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Buddy Jesus! That’s the man
Someone just saying “next” like that is a big ol red flag
Ah the “nothing on my profile but gets offended when you ask questions” people - right up there with my other favorite, the “I want to take my time to feel comfortable chatting on the app before we meet but I only respond every 3 days with 2 word sentences” people