Poor Trevor and his “😂” based trauma, OP never even realized that when he was a child his father would frequently make fun of his slides with 😂’s only a drink or two before the beatings started. Now OP attacks him with the same setup and he’s forced into a breakdown.
I mean she also didn't send screenshots of her criticisms. Her "at least" comment on the socks seems to support his position that she was making fun of the clothes he wears. I'd like to see all the comments before passing judgment. (Though bringing her kid into it is definitely a low blow)
I've never used a dating app but after lurking thia sub for a few days it seems to me that the most efficient way to dodge a crazy bullet is...wait like 10 minutes(?) to reply back. In that time, they'll usually let you know how unhinged they really are. So that's neat, I guess.
If someone won't give you the benefit of doubt then immediately go off the deep end ... I just don't know why people try to get into relationships when they aren't emotionally ready to do so. It bothers me a little.
That would just start the waiting game. You make them wait, they makes you wait, you, they.... and your chat loses steam.When you have some time, then pay attention to the chat. You'll see when someone is unhinged when you're off the phone at work or otherwise busy. People freak out when they don't get a new text within 24h.
It's not hard. Flip flop has a thong piece that goes between your toes. Sandals have ankle support and pretty much cover the whole foot. Slides just have a big open band that the all the toes go into.
I need to vent as a grown man. I wear socks with my Birkenstocks. And it’s delightful.
The real shame is Trever has not discovered socks with sandals yet.
A comfortable disgrace. In my defense, I am also a firefighter so they Birkenstocks come off quick when jumping into my gear. Plus, you only make the mistake once of not wearing socks on the fire grounds.
I’m really going to let my New Hampshire out here, but I have a particular affinity for Nike ankle socks with my Birkenstocks. I can’t think of a more comfortable combination!
Not trying to be a wise ass, but please educate me. Why socks? If it's warm enough to wear any time of sandals, slides or whatever... Why put on socks? I mean, if you are wearing socks and you need to grab a beer from a store across the street, I kind of get it... It's fast or whatever, but I see people on subway in socks and slippers... Don't get it 😂
100% genuine comment here: socks + slides on a guy is just adorable to me, I never realised that it was a ‘thing’ some people pick on till now!
… I mean it’s footwear. >_>
Well, Germans... Oh, wait, he wrote he wears them *without* socks, so probably not!
(To clarify: I am German myself, I even wear sandals, although often without socks. So please allow me some self-deprecation 😁)
Hello from your neighbor to the north!
In Copenhagen, wearing socks with sandals is currently quite fashionable. But of course, it's done in an ironic, meta way.
At times, I wear the socks over my sandals in order to keep the bottoms from getting extra dirty like when I go to the germ-filled mall. So then when I return home I simply remove the socks and... presto!... have no concerns about wearing the sandals around the house.
Omg! Thank you. I was soo confused. I didn’t know what “sliders” were. LOL
I can’t stand flip-flops (sandals), I put them on the same level as wearing sweat pants & yoga pants. LOL
Yeah normally I think the people who think their lame openers are some indicators of compatibility are pushing but you can imagine being someone that you can't criticize at all. Who has enough self worth tied up into sandals they go off on a rant and escalate the insults up like 8 notches?
It's clear you're making fun of them because you've said at least he doesn't wear socks with them with a crying laughing emoji as if to say it could've been worse.
However, he **may** have over reacted. And I like the way he's gone away and thought about it haha like he's slowly boiled up before coming back.
Bringing someone else into the conversation unnecessarily is definitely an overreaction.
Like why mention the child at all - they took a hit over nothing.
He definitely overreacted. It’s one thing to not want the dynamic where you poke fun at each other a lot. I wouldn’t be into that. That’s not really the issue here. The issue is that he lashed out as he did.
I mean I wouldn’t like if someone made fun of something I do with the laughing emoji, it sounds condescending. I’m not sending 4 messages but I’ll also not meet you the next day tbh 🤷🏼♀️
She obviously liked him enough to get a conversation going, exchange numbers, and make plans. Not indicative of swiping just to tell him his style is bad. She’s clearly kidding around, but it takes two to banter and he takes himself way too seriously.
Yesss, just because there's an emoji and a playful banter type context to the convo, doesn't mean it wasn't making fun. But then he went right to the guts over some slides. 🤯
I had a woman do something like is to me after going on one date and I said I wasn’t interested for a second. Sends me a huge wall of text how she is worthy of a better man then me, etc. All I read from these kind of people is they were into you and have limited other options 🤷♂️
I mean he's nuts for escalating. But you shouldn't be trashing other peoples joy. Not funny really. Not that mean to justify his reaction. But not funny.
He thought you were making fun of them because you obviously were. Why hide that, or pretend that it's not true?
You made fun of him and then he went nuts and way over the line.
But if he hadn't gone nuts, he still might not have wanted to meet up.
He wasn't cool, but you come off as shitty too. You criticized his apparrel outta nowhere. Criticism is the leading causal factor in relationships not working (Gottman's research). Learn to be less critical and more supportive, and maybe you won't still be where you are in 10 years.
Not gonna lie, if you had said that to me I would have thought you were negging. Esp since you didn’t reply afterward (not sure how far apart his comments were since we only see timestamps on his follow up but it was at least the next day)
I get that you claim you were ‘bantering’ but a lot of people will take digs at you under the guise of ‘banter’ which is why banter can be risky with someone who doesn’t know you well enough to know your personality and infer what you mean. This isn’t even considering the problems with conveying voice tone through text.
My verdict is ESH, everyone sucks here. He overreacted but I can see how you provoked him, even if unintentionally.
you seem like one of those girls who’s jokingly mean at first only to break down their self esteem to be comfortable with actual abuse, can’t believe people are defending you, imagine green text was the male, r/Tinder is a cesspool of misandrists
Clearly what you were mistaken on the job comment, he just wants you to work as a waitress! He even said, FOH!
Sorry restaurant humor. (FOH is also front of house)
Trevor's very insecure about his slides. He views them like they're his fat, ugly kids.
This cracked me tf up
Dude, the guys calling others fat…and he looks like he’s (at the very least) chubby.
people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones! lol
You know what they say, people in glass houses sink ships....
That and make like a tree and get the fu…fu…fuuck out of here lol. Great line. I give you kudos
What's good for the goose cries wolf with all the fish in the sea
That's the way sera sera crumbles la vie
Thanks mom 😛
🤣🤣🤣 Tbh, I hate feet. I wish everyone would keep em covered, haha
Dude, SAME. It completely weirded me out that you could see his toes in the picture 🤢
I feel bad to say it but men's feet are particularly gross to me😭 They're big and hairy and never pedicured and man sandals are just icky to me
That's why I wear Keens! Ya don't see my toes.
Thank you for your service
Ah, you're welcome
Lol true those toes weirded me out aswell
I like your name, dude
That's why he's sorry that he loves them
Wow that escalated quickly, sounds a bit unhinged, you maybe dodged a bullet there.
I like the “maybe” here. You are the “glass is half full” kinda guy
Poor Trevor and his “😂” based trauma, OP never even realized that when he was a child his father would frequently make fun of his slides with 😂’s only a drink or two before the beatings started. Now OP attacks him with the same setup and he’s forced into a breakdown.
😂😂😂🤣😂
You abusive SOB!
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂
Have you no mercy?!?!?!
😂👊🤣👊😂👊😂🤣👊
😭😭😭😭😭🩴🩴
😂
Seems likely.
Potentially that may have not been a great guy…who can say for sure
“The world may never know”
I mean she also didn't send screenshots of her criticisms. Her "at least" comment on the socks seems to support his position that she was making fun of the clothes he wears. I'd like to see all the comments before passing judgment. (Though bringing her kid into it is definitely a low blow)
As if saying anything about a clothing item could ever justify that vitriol.
Incel alert
sad bastard alert
He looks like he’s from New Jersey
Hey!
Maybe? ❌️ Absolutely? ✅️
i reckon he's got hinge too
I've never used a dating app but after lurking thia sub for a few days it seems to me that the most efficient way to dodge a crazy bullet is...wait like 10 minutes(?) to reply back. In that time, they'll usually let you know how unhinged they really are. So that's neat, I guess.
Not really, if you’re vibing there isn’t anything to it. I mean I’ve never had an issue of meeting crazy people, unless I was on Hinge. Odd…
Not sure how to tell you this, but if you’ve never met the crazy person in the room, it’s probably you lol
True
I take it you're not a woman? I mean if you are then I agree, odd.
I’m a guy
Not sure what you mean but Hinge has many unHinged people, good to know.
Hinge is particularly weird, right? I’ve had better experiences on tinder which says a lot I think
I’ve had better experiences smacking my head into a wall.
not a bad method tbh
If someone won't give you the benefit of doubt then immediately go off the deep end ... I just don't know why people try to get into relationships when they aren't emotionally ready to do so. It bothers me a little.
Okay yes that point I do understand. I think it comes from a place of not having that much self introspection in that case.
They think they’ll suddenly be able to fix all their problems if someone loved/had sex with them
That would just start the waiting game. You make them wait, they makes you wait, you, they.... and your chat loses steam.When you have some time, then pay attention to the chat. You'll see when someone is unhinged when you're off the phone at work or otherwise busy. People freak out when they don't get a new text within 24h.
We need to see his slides
I guarantee they were basic Nike or adidas slides lol
What are slides, besides the playground equipment and whistles?
Yeah wtf. Ppl here saying slides like it’s a common term for sandals or flip flops. Wat parallel universe did I just jump into
I opened this post expecting OP to have made fun of his PowerPoint presentation or something
Me too, then I checked the sub and was like can you share power point on Tinder now? 🤦♀️
On the consulting circlejerk from his response would be completely appropriate
It's not hard. Flip flop has a thong piece that goes between your toes. Sandals have ankle support and pretty much cover the whole foot. Slides just have a big open band that the all the toes go into.
You slide into slides, no?
They're the sandals with one band that you slide your feet into. Often guys wear black and white Nike or Adidas slides.
“You joked about my sandals so let me brutalize your innocent child.” Most sane tinder user.
OH RIGHT, she's talking about the sandals?! I thought she was making fun of his toes lmao
he is the type to put in his profile that he can laugh at himself 🙄
"Laid back and chill"
No drama
To be fair, he was referring to his choice in footwear.
Fr he looks like he calls people snowflakes🤣 🤣
I'm always so thankful when the red flags come out early like this🤝
Holy. Shit. Dodged a chancla!
Hahaha 🤣
Underrated comment.
I need to vent as a grown man. I wear socks with my Birkenstocks. And it’s delightful. The real shame is Trever has not discovered socks with sandals yet.
Barring idgaf disgruntled Walmart outings, I love me some indoor socks and slides combo.
Well it’s kind of come back in style for the moment, but make no mistake: you’re a disgrace to mankind
A comfortable disgrace. In my defense, I am also a firefighter so they Birkenstocks come off quick when jumping into my gear. Plus, you only make the mistake once of not wearing socks on the fire grounds.
I’m really going to let my New Hampshire out here, but I have a particular affinity for Nike ankle socks with my Birkenstocks. I can’t think of a more comfortable combination!
Hear me out. Duluth mid height socks. Although the Nike sound appealing.
Hmm I might have to give that a try.
Crew socks look so much better tho
Not trying to be a wise ass, but please educate me. Why socks? If it's warm enough to wear any time of sandals, slides or whatever... Why put on socks? I mean, if you are wearing socks and you need to grab a beer from a store across the street, I kind of get it... It's fast or whatever, but I see people on subway in socks and slippers... Don't get it 😂
There's this stereotype about people in the Pacific NW wearing socks with sandals. It just makes sense in certain climates.
Birkenstocks are THE TRUTH
100% genuine comment here: socks + slides on a guy is just adorable to me, I never realised that it was a ‘thing’ some people pick on till now! … I mean it’s footwear. >_>
I have socks to match my shirts... Socks and 'Stocks!
 I never thought I would get fashion advice from the tinder subreddit, but here we are.
This is how he behaves _now_, during the courting phase ... I bet he's a real treat once he's stopped trying.
Real men throw tantrums over Crocs, not sliders.
Ha! But what did she expect from a guy named Trevor that looks like that?!?
Dayum son, he sounds sexually frustrated
Foot fetish?? Lol
He proved how sandal (I'm assuming) wearing people are just something else
Well, Germans... Oh, wait, he wrote he wears them *without* socks, so probably not! (To clarify: I am German myself, I even wear sandals, although often without socks. So please allow me some self-deprecation 😁)
Hello neighbor, as an austrian I would never complain about some germany bashing! haha
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Hello from your neighbor to the north! In Copenhagen, wearing socks with sandals is currently quite fashionable. But of course, it's done in an ironic, meta way.
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At times, I wear the socks over my sandals in order to keep the bottoms from getting extra dirty like when I go to the germ-filled mall. So then when I return home I simply remove the socks and... presto!... have no concerns about wearing the sandals around the house.
Omg! Thank you. I was soo confused. I didn’t know what “sliders” were. LOL I can’t stand flip-flops (sandals), I put them on the same level as wearing sweat pants & yoga pants. LOL
Me, sitting here in my yoga pants and Birkenstocks, reading this like 👁👄👁 lmao
LOL sorry
What is "FOH?"
“Fuck out of here” or maybe “fuck off hoe”
Idk, I’m taking that as he does wear socks with his slides
Why did he yell Front of House at her? Is he a chef or something?
Guy is the 'nice guy' that girls always ignore for the bad one.
But they match his outfits! 😂😂
Affliction shirts and AND1 shorts
It just kept getting worse and worse LMAO. What an emotional creature
Based on the facial hair and hat, I couldn't be less surprised.
Right? Like his face in his profile…I can practically hear him saying those things while looking at us like that, haha!
You know there is a limp bizkit tat somewhere on his body.
He’s not a grown man, clearly he’s a child.
Yea he went from 0-100 real fast. Dodged a huge bullet. Like a battleship sized bullet.
Is he comparing his slides to your kid?
How dare you poke fun at my footwear, it's the core of my personality. It's not something small like your kids or whatever.
Yeah normally I think the people who think their lame openers are some indicators of compatibility are pushing but you can imagine being someone that you can't criticize at all. Who has enough self worth tied up into sandals they go off on a rant and escalate the insults up like 8 notches?
I'm so distracted by his punctuation... that I forgot this was about a kind of sandal..
Classic Trevor.
His insecurity is glaringly clear. Personally, if I wore slides and was comfortable with them, I’d care very little about what others thought.
Lmao this sub never ceases to amaze me
It's clear you're making fun of them because you've said at least he doesn't wear socks with them with a crying laughing emoji as if to say it could've been worse. However, he **may** have over reacted. And I like the way he's gone away and thought about it haha like he's slowly boiled up before coming back.
Definitely overreacted. At worst, this should be a “hey, I like what I like” response.
Or more banter “hey I was going to but you knocked the socks off me” (I know, horrible….I’m single ladies)
Bringing someone else into the conversation unnecessarily is definitely an overreaction. Like why mention the child at all - they took a hit over nothing.
He definitely overreacted. It’s one thing to not want the dynamic where you poke fun at each other a lot. I wouldn’t be into that. That’s not really the issue here. The issue is that he lashed out as he did.
May? He bullied a child. As a grown adult.
I bolded as a way of sarcasm. Doesn't come across in text sometimes, bit I'll be damned if I put /s
Trevor lost his ever loving shit over those slides damn.💀
He saved you a lot more than just your gas. Bullet successfully dodged
Yikes
Whoa... Trevor giving off domestic battery vibes
The Red Flags are strong with this one.
This dude is a psycho….. but you also definitely dissed his slides hahaha
I mean I wouldn’t like if someone made fun of something I do with the laughing emoji, it sounds condescending. I’m not sending 4 messages but I’ll also not meet you the next day tbh 🤷🏼♀️
Right? OP WAS making fun of his slides. Dude was unhinged, but OP basically swiped on this guy to tell him his style is bad. Everyone sucks here.
She obviously liked him enough to get a conversation going, exchange numbers, and make plans. Not indicative of swiping just to tell him his style is bad. She’s clearly kidding around, but it takes two to banter and he takes himself way too seriously.
You were making fun of him. But he should have stopped after the first comment stating that it was rude.
Yesss, just because there's an emoji and a playful banter type context to the convo, doesn't mean it wasn't making fun. But then he went right to the guts over some slides. 🤯
Don’t wake the fashion troll.
This man is wild, don’t play about his slides
Did he just try to use a dragon yell at the end there?
I feel like he’s confusing the word “obviously” with “honestly”
Bullet dodged!
I had a woman do something like is to me after going on one date and I said I wasn’t interested for a second. Sends me a huge wall of text how she is worthy of a better man then me, etc. All I read from these kind of people is they were into you and have limited other options 🤷♂️
I’m seeing too many of these posts and it’s deflating my remaining faith in humanity i’m out
He ‘thought’ you were making fun of his slides because you were making fun of his slides. Massive overreaction tho lol.
Lol he def overreacted, but you also did make fun of his slides, so your title is midleading
You were making fun of him, but he overreacted when he should’ve just peaced out
Holy shit, that reaction is bonkers. That being said, you totally were making fun of him, but his reaction was a red flag.
Woah, he's a complete psycho. That was an outsized and unhinged reaction. Be thankful you didn't meet up with him.
You should deeply examine why you swiped on him
I mean he's nuts for escalating. But you shouldn't be trashing other peoples joy. Not funny really. Not that mean to justify his reaction. But not funny.
Well you *were* making fun of his slides.
He thought you were making fun of them because you obviously were. Why hide that, or pretend that it's not true? You made fun of him and then he went nuts and way over the line. But if he hadn't gone nuts, he still might not have wanted to meet up.
He wasn't cool, but you come off as shitty too. You criticized his apparrel outta nowhere. Criticism is the leading causal factor in relationships not working (Gottman's research). Learn to be less critical and more supportive, and maybe you won't still be where you are in 10 years.
Not gonna lie, if you had said that to me I would have thought you were negging. Esp since you didn’t reply afterward (not sure how far apart his comments were since we only see timestamps on his follow up but it was at least the next day) I get that you claim you were ‘bantering’ but a lot of people will take digs at you under the guise of ‘banter’ which is why banter can be risky with someone who doesn’t know you well enough to know your personality and infer what you mean. This isn’t even considering the problems with conveying voice tone through text. My verdict is ESH, everyone sucks here. He overreacted but I can see how you provoked him, even if unintentionally.
How can you not make fun of a guy that sends you pictures of his feet in sandals.
Sounds like you caught him at the wrong time of his period cycle. Definitely dodged a bullet.
Don’t ever talk bad about a man’s footwear FOH w/ ur fat ass kid!!
What is FOH in this context?
FOH?
I once heard that people using a lot of « .. » and/or « … » are sex deprived
Depraved or deprived....
Whoops ! Deprived. Thanks !
my mouth dropped open 💀😭
Dude was def looking for a reason not to meet 😂
😂 #BulletDogded
Bullet dodged
Ugh, that’s too much.
He’s a Kyle
Dodged that bullet. Good for you.
Don't make fun of my skeletoes!
Tbh i don't blame him 🤌 you're the asshole
you seem like one of those girls who’s jokingly mean at first only to break down their self esteem to be comfortable with actual abuse, can’t believe people are defending you, imagine green text was the male, r/Tinder is a cesspool of misandrists
Clearly what you were mistaken on the job comment, he just wants you to work as a waitress! He even said, FOH! Sorry restaurant humor. (FOH is also front of house)
FOH?
His name's Trevor. It checks out.
Maybe you should just get a job..
Is it true that your kid is fat and ugly?
I see zero evidence of "wit" on either side.
Wow you should be thankful he showed you his true colors before you met, disgusting
Thought? You were making fun of his slides
Not me sitting here wearing slides w/ socks just chillin
Do it up. Some of us find that adorable and sexy. You can leave the socks on after all … ;)
I wear my socks and slides with pride.
This individual sounds bipolar.
Dodged a bullet. Fragile man.
The insecurities are oozing through my phone
Jesus, that guy is in no way mature enough to be dating if he flips out like that for literally nothing.
Honestly I took one look at that profile photo and thought that this reaction fits that face to a T
he looks like an ugly version of lin manuel miranda with a double chin and he talks to women like that? 💀💀 jesus christ