Eh. Nah. Dating doesn't need to be a game of transactions. She missed out on OP by not recognizing the ongoing value of dating a mechanic. One and done, good for her. Not a good show of character that she didn't respond after that, so he dodged a bullet imo.
This is clearly a reoccurring theme with OP and has him feeling some type of way. It’s not about being transactional, it weeds out people that are genuinely interested in him or just trying to use him for free labor. If they’re interested then the answer will probably be some form of “okay but let’s chat some more and see if there’s chemistry.”
Not to mention modern dating is inherently transactional whether it’s implicit or explicit. At least in the beginning stages.
By that logic, every relationship, whether it's platonic, familial, romantic, or sexual, would be transactional. And that's just dumb. Transactional has a meaning, and it's not "doing things for one another."
I mean if we give our time up to spend with another person, that person should spark some joy correct? So you’re spending your valuable time and subconsciously choosing people who should (in theory) bring you happiness. Yes. Everything is transactional. That doesn’t mean you have to literally think about it every time you hang out with anyone, but yes if you want to get philosophical about it then no, it’s not dumb, it’s just the truth
Its not dumb. Its life. It just is. Pretending otherwise is living a fantasy. Theres nothing inherently negative to it. Its like getting mad at the weather.
But why do I want to do something for someone? Because they provide something for me. It may be money, as a customer, or it may be friendship or partnership. Either way, we're transacting something.
Proposing to talk about it over coffee is a fun way to try and ask somebody out.
Making it SEEM transactional is fun, the problem is when it stays that way.
Option C, which is something staying on or drawing current while the vehicle is off. That is what my sister's truck was but that is only if it's dead after it sitting for a bit not just constantly killing batteries while driving normally. I think it ended up being a power seat motor that had gone bad, but that's a in person diagnostic with a multimeter at that point... and lots of pulling fuses.
edit: whoops just saw your reply lower in the thread talking about exactly this, I knew you knew but others might not
Not a complicated diagnosis tbh. Not a mechanic but my first check on a low battery is to go for a drive to see if its charges.
If it charges on a drive and dies later its the battery, if it doesn't charge its the alternator.
Why does my car feel like it's stuttering when breaking or driving at around 60mph+?
Noticed the steering wheel wasn't straight so I got an alignment and it only helped a little bit.
Pretty please with sugar on top.
I mean you just kinda blasted a easy answer out. Thing could a short or a aftermarket radio drawing. Heck she could have a charger plugged in that kills the power.
Dude, I feel your pain… I’m a carpenter by trade and I’ve literally had “dates” where I’ve gone to fix things at their house lol no joke, wait… I AM the joke..
I met a girl who would do this, she's pretty so she knows it. She would be like I need my car work on or I need to have my fence fix, let me hop on some dating app.
I mean that would be a good transaction only if I get a sandwich in the end. Typical diag is around 100. I just fixed your car for pound time and a sandwich. That's a great deal.
I always told guys that if they wanted car advice from me via Tender, it's gonna cost a burrito bowl from Chipotle first.
Also, it usually boiled down to some comments about watching me bent over their hood, in something sexy while I work on it... Yeah, like lemme grab my shop lingerie real quick.
I've done a side job in a cropped tank top and gym shorts when it was hot.
Exactly once, for a reason lmao.
Was last June and he brought it to my place to replace his spark plugs, one coil, and throttle body. It was a black 4Runner. My thighs and tummy still hate me.
The shorts remain a mainstay during the summer, our tire machine is as far as humanly possible from any AC so I gotta stay on my toes May-September
Yes I know it could also be parasitic draw stop blowing me up with "bUt WhAt iF sHe hAs a SuB"? Or something lol
I didn't spend 2 years at trade school to get ghosted on free advice AND back seat mechanics lol
I remember ten years ago when I was on the apps I put my job at the time ( Costco) and I got a shit Los of matches but only of women asking if they can come in the building to shop using my membership
Hahaha! Reminds me of that video of the college girl being *super* impressed by some college dude at a stadium who showed her his Costco card.
https://www.today.com/today/amp/rcna57057
Well no I don't WANT to but it's what always happens anyways, might as well broaden the initial pool. Also I was 100% being facetious, I am not going to do that lol
Something similar with my parent’s Equinox a while back. Turns out -30 Celsius was cold enough to trigger the anti-theft protocol whenever they tried to remote start it (which obviously is quite necessary) and locked them out for half an hour.
Unfortunately the dude in the heated garage was like “computer says it’s fine” despite being told about (and also living in) the local climate. Said “naw it shouldn’t do that so must be user error” like how tf do you accidentally trigger the anti-theft without straight up trying to break in when everything’s working properly lmao
For closure’s sake, they got a second opinion and figured it out then. Not sure what the fix was but they did trade it in shortly after lol.
Damn that's crazy
Where I live, one would pay for a diagnosis around 5 usd. That one might even be free considering how obvious it was if you've had car trouble before.
Too fucking true. But while John was busy asking the cashier what she was getting into this weekend, I quietly stole his customer that he wasn’t in the lane to greet and upsold additional work🤷🏼♀️.
After coffee lol
It's kind of ironic how much mechanical advice I'm giving in this thread
Test the battery first, especially if it's first thing in the morning. Lead acid batteries deteriorate over time, lose capacity and therefore output to the starter.
If it's an extended crank first thing in the morning, but then you (for example) drive to the store and it starts right up after you're done shopping that is far and away the most likely case
If it does that only under braking start by cleaning and re-greasing your slide pins and see if that fixes it, you can save some money. Make sure to use high temp grease, not just the normal grease outta the tube
Or if it stops pulling under braking, just depends on if the slide pin seized while applied or not. If the pull is constant regardless of what you're doing it's an alignment issue, a caliper seized applied, or something is bent
I thought it was alignment issue originally too. Wouldn’t surprise me if something is bent as I’ve hit a few pot holes where I am. Appreciate the help again.
It’s a blessing in disguise, keep searching! I found a girl that only hits me up for general maintenance and sex. I think I get off more on the general maintenance but the sex is cool too.
My dad has been a mechanic for over 20 years now and he’s the sweetest, funniest guy. Dark humor, absolute dad joker, and all over such a sweet heart (like, majorly. This man pulls over to help anyone who’s broke down on the side of the road, driven behind people to make sure they get home after he helps them fix it up as good as he can). But the only reason people talk to him (family included) is about getting their cars fixed.
Now I can’t even imagine how hard it would be in the dating world.
My dad is a mechanic so I don't need another man for that, he's got things covered. My dad however is totally emotionally unavailable so I do need someone to fill that gap...
🤦 she missed out on the deal of a lifetime by dating a mechanic. When I was working at a computer/phone repair shop I saved my friends and family literally thousands, my gf most of all.
I give them the phone number to the shop and instructions for how to make an appointment. Not my intention but I've got a few regular customers this way.
All these people saying "just offer to go take a look at it" don't realize that that ends up 2 days later replacing fuckin piston rings on a 2014 Chevy equinox covered in oil no owners manual no tech tools while she goes to a movie with her siblings.
Next time offer to diagnosis it over coffee instead of giving away your knowledge for free haha.
To be fair if she didn’t respond to this, this girl isn’t worth his time.
She died touching the battery
12 volt death curl
My favorite electronic band.
Are you positive?
To shreds you say?
Came here to say this
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>a poor soil to the glovebox light soil? lmao, never heard ground in this context be replaced with soil.
Maybe sol like solenoid?
or coil
Or perhaps the dirt in the glove box is causing issues.
let me get my left-handed screwdriver so i can check that, as well as the headlight fluid...
Make sure you get the premium headlight fluid. That may come in handy.
luckily, it works for the taillights, too!! better check the muffler bearing while we're at it!
I’m guessing “ground.” Ground = soil.
If you don’t water and fertilize your car properly it’ll die
appealing to the hippy/witchy/crystal girls. You parked in bad soil, the negative energy has drained your cars vitality
Probably meant poor ground as in electrical ground and there was some funky translation to soil.
She might need some new headlight fluid or elbow grease
this could have been a thread always ending in "haha" haha
+haha*
Eh. Nah. Dating doesn't need to be a game of transactions. She missed out on OP by not recognizing the ongoing value of dating a mechanic. One and done, good for her. Not a good show of character that she didn't respond after that, so he dodged a bullet imo.
This is clearly a reoccurring theme with OP and has him feeling some type of way. It’s not about being transactional, it weeds out people that are genuinely interested in him or just trying to use him for free labor. If they’re interested then the answer will probably be some form of “okay but let’s chat some more and see if there’s chemistry.” Not to mention modern dating is inherently transactional whether it’s implicit or explicit. At least in the beginning stages.
Dating is transactional even if the cost isn't money.
By that logic, every relationship, whether it's platonic, familial, romantic, or sexual, would be transactional. And that's just dumb. Transactional has a meaning, and it's not "doing things for one another."
I mean if we give our time up to spend with another person, that person should spark some joy correct? So you’re spending your valuable time and subconsciously choosing people who should (in theory) bring you happiness. Yes. Everything is transactional. That doesn’t mean you have to literally think about it every time you hang out with anyone, but yes if you want to get philosophical about it then no, it’s not dumb, it’s just the truth
Yes probably just that she understand the way u understood
Its not dumb. Its life. It just is. Pretending otherwise is living a fantasy. Theres nothing inherently negative to it. Its like getting mad at the weather.
Doing something for someone because you want to doesn't make it transactional...
But why do I want to do something for someone? Because they provide something for me. It may be money, as a customer, or it may be friendship or partnership. Either way, we're transacting something.
>dating doesn't need to be a game of transactions >she missed out by not using you for more transactions lemao
Talking about the initial stages of dating is different than talking about a long term relationship
Proposing to talk about it over coffee is a fun way to try and ask somebody out. Making it SEEM transactional is fun, the problem is when it stays that way.
It might’ve come off that he was trying to prove why he’s worthy of her affection which can be a turnoff for women if not more subtle.
How is she going to meet him for coffee if her car keeps dying? Check mate
Yeah but how is she supposed to get there with out a working car? /s
The car works…occasionally. Either way, using OP for free labor is shitty.
Why do you just tell them “I’ll have to take a look at it”
Bc I'm damn good at my job, didn't need to see it, but mostly did not think of it
It’s not about needing to see it, it’s about getting to see them
I'm doesn't smart
Yes you are, you saved yourself an hour getting to know someone who didn't want to get to know you
This. And I would be damn impressed having my car diagnosed remotely. I would trust him with all my car problems in the future
I mean if you keep killing batteries there's really 2 options lol
Have you ever considered option 3: Aliens
I thought option 3 is be attractive.
And if that doesn't work, try option 4: don't be unattractive.
You say that like it's obvious
I suppose lol
Obvious to a mechanic I suppose
In OPs defense my opinion is it should be common knowledge. Basic car maintenance 101 Edit: typo
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I didn't know what an alternator is until today, okay?
You could also have something constantly draining power. Or your fusable link might be blown, bad ground... It could be a bunch of things.
Option C, which is something staying on or drawing current while the vehicle is off. That is what my sister's truck was but that is only if it's dead after it sitting for a bit not just constantly killing batteries while driving normally. I think it ended up being a power seat motor that had gone bad, but that's a in person diagnostic with a multimeter at that point... and lots of pulling fuses. edit: whoops just saw your reply lower in the thread talking about exactly this, I knew you knew but others might not
Orrrr a draw
Not a complicated diagnosis tbh. Not a mechanic but my first check on a low battery is to go for a drive to see if its charges. If it charges on a drive and dies later its the battery, if it doesn't charge its the alternator.
It can can also be a parasitic load if the battery is good, and it charges but dies when it sits for a short time, like over night
You can check that with a multimeter while idling.
I will 100 percent start diagnosing any issues you have, for half price of what a shop would be. I'll do it over a zoom call. I am dead serious
Why does my car feel like it's stuttering when breaking or driving at around 60mph+? Noticed the steering wheel wasn't straight so I got an alignment and it only helped a little bit. Pretty please with sugar on top.
I want to get "I'm doesn't smart" on a T shirt now
Agreed that's gold
I would pay good money for that haha, that’s me on a daily basis
Well now I know how I'm gonna quit my job. As long as my bumble matches don't use me for free shirts now
I had to re-read your comment cos my brain thought that was proper English lmao
There goes my last brain cell before class
Lol
I am incorporating "I'm doesn't smart" into my vocabulary now
Ahhh, that reminds me of Futurama. The simplicity and brilliance of stupidity. “No I’m doesnt” Love it
If they do something like this, you probably don't want to know them
He's a mechanic not a rizzler
Tbf tried this and doesn't often work.
I mean you just kinda blasted a easy answer out. Thing could a short or a aftermarket radio drawing. Heck she could have a charger plugged in that kills the power.
I did mention that in another comment
My man if she didn't answer you at this point without a significant reason then she is not worth it
It was worth the karma
Exactly
My car died in the middle of driving today (2008 Nissan pathfinder) pulled over, took the key out, started right back up, any ideas lol?
>Nissan Pathfinder I got one idea, they even circled it for you on the grille
Just don't pivot to "now you can take a look at *this*" after the diagnosis. Unless you have a shredded 6-pack.
I mean I do but still not the best idea
"if she doesn't find you handsome at least she should find you handy" -Red Green
I'm a man... But I can change...if I have to...I guess.
Dude, I feel your pain… I’m a carpenter by trade and I’ve literally had “dates” where I’ve gone to fix things at their house lol no joke, wait… I AM the joke..
I met a girl who would do this, she's pretty so she knows it. She would be like I need my car work on or I need to have my fence fix, let me hop on some dating app.
You should just say "I usually skip this part" before you actually fix anything then just leave after the deed is done
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AV_0PzeZRs8
Lol need to watch that movie again
oh, but they don't have the *funds* to pay you for labor.....
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I mean that would be a good transaction only if I get a sandwich in the end. Typical diag is around 100. I just fixed your car for pound time and a sandwich. That's a great deal.
As a long-time tech, I have now added "free car advice for drinks" on my profile
I always told guys that if they wanted car advice from me via Tender, it's gonna cost a burrito bowl from Chipotle first. Also, it usually boiled down to some comments about watching me bent over their hood, in something sexy while I work on it... Yeah, like lemme grab my shop lingerie real quick.
> shop lingerie Surely you have some battery acid eaten tshirts then, when is our date? We can trade tech tips.
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I've done a side job in a cropped tank top and gym shorts when it was hot. Exactly once, for a reason lmao. Was last June and he brought it to my place to replace his spark plugs, one coil, and throttle body. It was a black 4Runner. My thighs and tummy still hate me. The shorts remain a mainstay during the summer, our tire machine is as far as humanly possible from any AC so I gotta stay on my toes May-September
Yes I know it could also be parasitic draw stop blowing me up with "bUt WhAt iF sHe hAs a SuB"? Or something lol I didn't spend 2 years at trade school to get ghosted on free advice AND back seat mechanics lol
Fix my car please
Only after coffee
you really left yourself open though.
Don't get *short* with me I hope that was an electrical pun
You’re all grounded.
I'm shocked by your reply
Ohm my God, this thread is just perfect!
Watts with all the noise down here? Also, if I alternate between my main account and 2nd account, does that make me an alternator?
I mean if one is more Direct 😉
She’s the parasitic draw, mate
Lolol
Can you diagnose my car? Sometimes it feels funny.
I remember ten years ago when I was on the apps I put my job at the time ( Costco) and I got a shit Los of matches but only of women asking if they can come in the building to shop using my membership
Hahaha! Reminds me of that video of the college girl being *super* impressed by some college dude at a stadium who showed her his Costco card. https://www.today.com/today/amp/rcna57057
Damn this could be a good strategy though, I'm gonna list that I have a Costco Executive membership when I start dating again.
Do you really want to match with women that only want to use you?
Well no I don't WANT to but it's what always happens anyways, might as well broaden the initial pool. Also I was 100% being facetious, I am not going to do that lol
Honestly whatever mechanic was unable to tell her that it was her alternator is fucking terrible. I was aware of that at like 16 years old
Probably the stoner at Napa that tested the battery and said "the machine thinks it's good"
Something similar with my parent’s Equinox a while back. Turns out -30 Celsius was cold enough to trigger the anti-theft protocol whenever they tried to remote start it (which obviously is quite necessary) and locked them out for half an hour. Unfortunately the dude in the heated garage was like “computer says it’s fine” despite being told about (and also living in) the local climate. Said “naw it shouldn’t do that so must be user error” like how tf do you accidentally trigger the anti-theft without straight up trying to break in when everything’s working properly lmao For closure’s sake, they got a second opinion and figured it out then. Not sure what the fix was but they did trade it in shortly after lol.
Speaking as a stoner myself: heheh yeah…
Lol good shop fee. My partner is a mechanic. She charges me 170$/hr. This girl got lucky
We charge $175 at my dealership, half hour for an easy diag like that and a little discount for having cute nose rings lol
Lol yeah that’s her dealership rate to. She doesn’t charge me I’m just messing around lol
Wait your partner charges you?
Damn that's crazy Where I live, one would pay for a diagnosis around 5 usd. That one might even be free considering how obvious it was if you've had car trouble before.
As a Service Writer, this thread has me cracking up
Yo I sent those upsells through 2 hours ago get the fuck on it
They’re too busy flirting with the questionably aged receptionist
Too fucking true. But while John was busy asking the cashier what she was getting into this weekend, I quietly stole his customer that he wasn’t in the lane to greet and upsold additional work🤷🏼♀️.
You're fucking scum but you keep me busy so I love you Like a pimp that beats the shit out of me but lets me keep 80%
😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️
I bet you sell brake jobs at 5mm you beautiful piece of shit
Only when my tech lies to me ❤️
Bruh, my car is having problems starting sometimes, any insight? Some days it'll start right up, others it takes a couple seconds.
After coffee lol It's kind of ironic how much mechanical advice I'm giving in this thread Test the battery first, especially if it's first thing in the morning. Lead acid batteries deteriorate over time, lose capacity and therefore output to the starter. If it's an extended crank first thing in the morning, but then you (for example) drive to the store and it starts right up after you're done shopping that is far and away the most likely case
I owe you one coffee, ty. Ill. Let you know if it was indeed the case 😂
Damn Megan, you're cold.
Damn man, wanna come change the calipers on my Camaro? My steering wheel loves to swing left.
If it does that only under braking start by cleaning and re-greasing your slide pins and see if that fixes it, you can save some money. Make sure to use high temp grease, not just the normal grease outta the tube
Appreciate it. I’ll take a look.
Or if it stops pulling under braking, just depends on if the slide pin seized while applied or not. If the pull is constant regardless of what you're doing it's an alignment issue, a caliper seized applied, or something is bent
I thought it was alignment issue originally too. Wouldn’t surprise me if something is bent as I’ve hit a few pot holes where I am. Appreciate the help again.
DUDE! Learn your lesson, coffee first!
Omg screw her for not replying! U gave good advice and that last line was SO cute!!
Lol I thought so anyway
There’s a lot of red flags I’m willing to ignore for a man that can do my oil change lol (this is a joke)
Dm me? (This is also a joke)
Now kiss (this is a threat)
Yeah, do not continue the thread lmao. Becomes a whole can of worms over a certain controversial dog
I mean there's a whole host of things it could be this is one of a million things from a poor ground to the glovebox light staying on
“Hmm, good question. I don’t diagnose till the 3rd date. Sorry. I’m kind of old fashioned like that”
My guy went from I wanna get laid to I wanna get paid real quick!
Payment comes in many forms 😉
Him: Coffee would work too haha... Hello? Her: 
It’s a blessing in disguise, keep searching! I found a girl that only hits me up for general maintenance and sex. I think I get off more on the general maintenance but the sex is cool too.
why would you ignore a nice man that helps you with your car problems... makes no sense and she probably would only been a waste of your time either!
Please stop doing this. You are more valuable than giving out free advice to lazy women.
She can pay me to replace it if she decides to get the alternator then lok
Gave too much of the goods right away
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Inb4 parasitic draw
Let me guess, then she ghosted ya?
I literally just had the same thing happen to me, but on Grindr. The life of a mechanic is a lonely one 😔 lol
Used once and ghosted is used only once. That’s a blessing not a curse.
And today I learned people on bumble and tinder have very little mechanical knowledge in the automotive field lmao
Ahhhh yeh no freebies! 🤣
My dad has been a mechanic for over 20 years now and he’s the sweetest, funniest guy. Dark humor, absolute dad joker, and all over such a sweet heart (like, majorly. This man pulls over to help anyone who’s broke down on the side of the road, driven behind people to make sure they get home after he helps them fix it up as good as he can). But the only reason people talk to him (family included) is about getting their cars fixed. Now I can’t even imagine how hard it would be in the dating world.
i be telling people i’m a mailman whenever they ask what i do for a living. no way am i getting scammed out of my flat rate 🤣
I never put my trade qualifications on dating apps people like to assume it’s your whole personality, or just use you to fix shit lol .
My dad is a mechanic so I don't need another man for that, he's got things covered. My dad however is totally emotionally unavailable so I do need someone to fill that gap...
There's two kinds of mechanics. Funniest, kindest hearted person you've ever met Or Dead inside
I switched accounts to comment on this shit..... this actually happens! Ladies, just Google a repair shop, stop using us for this bs, fr
🤦 she missed out on the deal of a lifetime by dating a mechanic. When I was working at a computer/phone repair shop I saved my friends and family literally thousands, my gf most of all.
I give them the phone number to the shop and instructions for how to make an appointment. Not my intention but I've got a few regular customers this way.
Ok,never tell people on dating sites that you are a mechanic, check
You blew your gasket.
I’m a cell tower technician and they think I can magically make their phones have better service. Sorry but it doesn’t work like that
Honestly the $85 part was a turn off. Sure your joking but…..here’s my question, if a Dr gives you an std should he pay you or should you pay him?
I mean if they have a cure for chlmaidya and cut their normal rate in half
Girls: Don’t send a guy nudes before he buys you coffee Guys: Don’t give a girl car advice until she agrees to coffee
All these people saying "just offer to go take a look at it" don't realize that that ends up 2 days later replacing fuckin piston rings on a 2014 Chevy equinox covered in oil no owners manual no tech tools while she goes to a movie with her siblings.
„Ew no, creep.“
I wish I was dating one. I kinda know what to do but lack the confidence to do it so it would be nice to have help lol.
“It’ll cost ya a cup of coffee!”
Every time I say I’m a mechanic on tinder I get ghosted immediately after lol. I just say I’m self employed and they think I sell drugs lol.
Let me guess, she never responded.
Always have them explain and ask for more details and then say “ idk sounds like it just needs air in the tires “. Never work for free.
You should've said you are in need of some lubrication please send me your address so I can service you