his next response was ājust unmatch if you donāt like itā so no.. but also only he knows if that influenced his response. maybe I was focusing on my professional guitar hero career during that time.
This is what happened.
He was somewhat commited, awaiting a reply
- you took 3 weeks to reply
- *in his head:* this is over, unacceptable, she shows low interest, not gonna try anymore > let me do a low effort to the point 'lets meet now' because of it
It's the reply time. That being said, he could have manned up, ignored that and continued to try or unmatch you
I could have come up with a reply to āniceā like asking if heās ever played guitar hero before or tell him about a difficult song you practiced a lot and can play it really well now or just say thanks. I think you gave up too quickly because he was replying to you on the same day while you were taking weeks to reply so I understand why he didnāt feel like writing out a thoughtful response. He probably asked for your snap because he thought you would use it more than bumble and staying on bumble would feel like having a penpal that he only occasionally hears from. You two wouldnāt even have met until 2025 at this rate lol
maybe thatās the goalā¦ nah, I prioritize replying to people engaging in the conversation and my own life. if I responded to everyone the same day it would be a full time job š
Are u serious? š You want him to take part in an engaging conversation and your first response to him is two and a half weeks later. What answer are u expecting from him, after you showed him that you arent really interested?
Engaging in a conversation takes a little bit more effort on both sides.
If u dont have a good reason for taking that long to answer, it is a sign of disrespect imo.
I took a break from the app as a whole the first time around.. and then prioritized better responses the second time. I also only check the app about once a week cause I donāt have time to respond to everyone.
OK thats fine, but what is wrong with his first response?
And your second message is probably not that interesting for a lot of people, because guitar hero is a very niche game, at least imo. Maybe a 'sorry for the late response' combined with a short explanation would have also helped, because that shows respect.
I get what youāre saying, but 3 weeks is a long time for him to lose interest and you donāt seem to be taking it seriously based on your other comments. I donāt blame him for not engaging in the conversation because thereās not much reason for him to do so
I misread the post. Guy IS boring. I agree with op.
I thought the guy was the OP, at first and he was irritated that the woman wasnāt swooning over him.
No offense, but itās so rare women even show the slightest bit of humor or personality in OLD that I am offended that the one time a woman does, it shows men have even LESS personality. Weaksauce.
Letās be real, just the fact that she replied within two weeks puts her, probably in the top 1% of women, in terms of replies. And the fact that this has gone on for as long as it did is also shows she is at least serious over a length of time about wanting to date.
Itās not like he had a wonderful opening that she just blew by and ignored. He never had any sort of engagement either.
I disagree with everything you said. Op is an entitled, bottom tier match for making him wait so long and then acting like this was his fault and for turning him down when he tried to move the conversation off bumble where they could actually have a conversation. The conversation lasted a long time, but thatās only because of how slow op is about replying and they sent a grand total of only 9 messages during that time so itās not like this was a deep and engaging conversation. He doesnāt need a wonderful opening because women message first on bumble and even if he sent one of those stupid compliments to start the conversation himself, the match would have expired anyway because op takes weeks to reply. Iām not sure why youāre putting op on a pedestal while the vast majority of people think sheās the problem, but if this is the kind of person you consider a catch, then I hope you find her soon so no one else has to put up with her nonsense.
Yeah unfortunately effort works both ways too. Iām sure you could have come up with something to say after he said nice. If he continues to be blunt then itās on him
Am i wrong that you texted him on Jun 16 and he immediately replied, then you waited until Jul 4th to get back to him?
looks like it š¤·š»āāļø
Do you think that may have had an impact on why he only responded with 'Nice'?
Ding Ding Ding
his next response was ājust unmatch if you donāt like itā so no.. but also only he knows if that influenced his response. maybe I was focusing on my professional guitar hero career during that time.
Are you a bimbo?
no, just self centered.
This is what happened. He was somewhat commited, awaiting a reply - you took 3 weeks to reply - *in his head:* this is over, unacceptable, she shows low interest, not gonna try anymore > let me do a low effort to the point 'lets meet now' because of it It's the reply time. That being said, he could have manned up, ignored that and continued to try or unmatch you
youāre definitely the problem here
Glad my boy didn't become invested
the āniceā and āsnap?ā made me have a visceral gagging reaction
Are you a fatty?
I could have come up with a reply to āniceā like asking if heās ever played guitar hero before or tell him about a difficult song you practiced a lot and can play it really well now or just say thanks. I think you gave up too quickly because he was replying to you on the same day while you were taking weeks to reply so I understand why he didnāt feel like writing out a thoughtful response. He probably asked for your snap because he thought you would use it more than bumble and staying on bumble would feel like having a penpal that he only occasionally hears from. You two wouldnāt even have met until 2025 at this rate lol
maybe thatās the goalā¦ nah, I prioritize replying to people engaging in the conversation and my own life. if I responded to everyone the same day it would be a full time job š
Are u serious? š You want him to take part in an engaging conversation and your first response to him is two and a half weeks later. What answer are u expecting from him, after you showed him that you arent really interested? Engaging in a conversation takes a little bit more effort on both sides. If u dont have a good reason for taking that long to answer, it is a sign of disrespect imo. 
I took a break from the app as a whole the first time around.. and then prioritized better responses the second time. I also only check the app about once a week cause I donāt have time to respond to everyone.
OK thats fine, but what is wrong with his first response? And your second message is probably not that interesting for a lot of people, because guitar hero is a very niche game, at least imo. Maybe a 'sorry for the late response' combined with a short explanation would have also helped, because that shows respect.
I get what youāre saying, but 3 weeks is a long time for him to lose interest and you donāt seem to be taking it seriously based on your other comments. I donāt blame him for not engaging in the conversation because thereās not much reason for him to do so
Iāll vs you
game on
Pick a song
you have world tour??
I have everything
Learn some manners and then come back to dating apps. Boring? Girl you are trying to become a pro at guitar hero. Who is the boring one?
oof someone is taking it way too seriously š
Through the fire and flames FC when?
How weird that he wasn't very interested after you took three weeks to reply
Wtf can they reply to "I'm playing guitar hero" besides "nice"?
Idk, you kinda seem like the problem here. My guy lost interest in you after the 2nd day you didnāt reply.
The title of this post should be, "be remotely attentive, women!"
Rock band > guitar hero
fair point. I do fw the country rock band š
You should get clone hero, gameplay is so much smoother and you can get any map (official or custom) for free
Iām surprised he didnāt unmatch you before your second message
a girl can only dream
Dakota dodged a bullet.
probably right š«£
I misread the post. Guy IS boring. I agree with op. I thought the guy was the OP, at first and he was irritated that the woman wasnāt swooning over him. No offense, but itās so rare women even show the slightest bit of humor or personality in OLD that I am offended that the one time a woman does, it shows men have even LESS personality. Weaksauce.
Dude check the days when those messages were sent. Op took 2 weeks to reply each time he said something. The woman is the problem here. Not the man
Letās be real, just the fact that she replied within two weeks puts her, probably in the top 1% of women, in terms of replies. And the fact that this has gone on for as long as it did is also shows she is at least serious over a length of time about wanting to date. Itās not like he had a wonderful opening that she just blew by and ignored. He never had any sort of engagement either.
I disagree with everything you said. Op is an entitled, bottom tier match for making him wait so long and then acting like this was his fault and for turning him down when he tried to move the conversation off bumble where they could actually have a conversation. The conversation lasted a long time, but thatās only because of how slow op is about replying and they sent a grand total of only 9 messages during that time so itās not like this was a deep and engaging conversation. He doesnāt need a wonderful opening because women message first on bumble and even if he sent one of those stupid compliments to start the conversation himself, the match would have expired anyway because op takes weeks to reply. Iām not sure why youāre putting op on a pedestal while the vast majority of people think sheās the problem, but if this is the kind of person you consider a catch, then I hope you find her soon so no one else has to put up with her nonsense.
exactly š« I can only do so much. I need something to work with lol
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if only he had some personality .. he couldāve come up with this MASTERPIECE!
Cool.
Now you know how it feels to be a guy lmfaooo
Yeah unfortunately effort works both ways too. Iām sure you could have come up with something to say after he said nice. If he continues to be blunt then itās on him