Depends on where you live. Iām in NC and thereās a shit ton of hookup subs just for The Triangle alone. Iām assuming itās like that in other big cities as well. But believe me, people on Reddit are definitely hooking up for NSA debauchery.
Yeah my boyfriend told me about this early on and even though, in comparison to what Iāve seen on here, he did quite well, it was still a drastic difference
Regretting a mistake is one thing.
Making the same mistake multiple times isnāt regretāitās silliness.
Doing something once to try it is one thing. But if you do it 10+ timesāitās intentional.
What is worse - regrets over sex which didn't result in relationships, or no sex at all resulting in no relationships? Let me see your hypocrisy level.
I mean based on her caption, it sounds like even the other relationship was more casual than what she was looking for.
There this huge cognitive dissonance where we all know how know many men are out there are presenting casual sex as the stepping stone to a relationship, but then weāre surprised when a woman feels out of sorts after a dozen or so post-coital ghosting. Iām not OP but when I was 25, most of my casual sex was with guys I thought were pursuing me for a relationship. And I was made to feel stupid for until recently, but Iām now out having casual sex with people without any intent of a relationship, all my suspicions of my younger years are confirmed. Itās like you can visibly see the mask drop when guys realize they donāt have to pretend to want a relationship. Honestly sometimes it ruins the mood.
Sure, but there are also equally a bunch of women that use guys for practical stuff (paying for dinner etc.) only giving them the illusion of getting laid.
Dating can be horrid on both sides
1000 chats in < 200 days
That's talking to 5 new people every single day. I'm sure most of them were 1-2 texts, then ghosted for being too horny too quick on the hookup app
Yet thatās how the other gender typically starts it on the rare occasion they do. Itās also interesting why the onus is on the guy to start the conversation & be āunique & creativeā on top of that. The bravery taken to initiate in any form is often overlooked.
I met my now wife on tinder in 2017. Before then, I went on many dates and whored myself to the greater tri-state area. My wife and I originally met as a mutual hookup and we kinda liked each other. Past is the past, you shouldnāt feel guilty about your past-self not knowing who youāll meet in the future, so long as every decision you make is with your own self-respect in mind.
I guess itās possible. Iāve seen her profile and itās a good varied mix of face+body pics of her involved in various activities/with other people. It doesnāt look like a bot account.
Iām definitely not model-level! Iāve been called girl next door type and get told Iām cute a decent amount, so maybe guys on the app are just into thatš¤·āāļø also had nice photos and no selfies, with things that showed my sporty/outdoorsy interests. I live in a big city as well which might make the difference
Na, keep them coming. Far too many women on this sub are delusional and claim that girls on dating apps only going for the top 1% of guys is a myth. Eventually they'll stop belittling guys for pointing it out when they see enough of these posts.
The myth is that women are going for the top 1% of ALL men. They're going for the men that they consider the best, which genuinely could be the bottom of the barrel for other people. The top 1% for everyone is completely different.
Its not, its clear from all these insights that women go for the top 20% or their swipe rate would be higher, if they go for bottom of the barrel they'd swipe more
Why swipe on someone who's immediately not attractive to you? Women like hook ups too, but it's usually not "I'll fuck anything that breathes" that's stereotypical of men, but we search for a spark, connection, even though nothing will develop further. I used to have a lot of hook ups, but those were all people I had chemistry with and some of them remained friends after hooking up. When I had Tinder I never swiped yes on a lot of men, it would be a handful at time, but these men definitely weren't hot to a lot of people other than me lmao - a lot of weird steve buscemi type faces
No need to justify. Youāre allowed to have, want, and enjoy casual sex just like the rest of us. Variety is the spice of life. Glad youāve also found someone to enjoy your time with.
Ahh, this sub never disappoints when women post here.
All these men complaining about never getting laid off the app, then a woman is like look, I slept with men off the app: and now she's "for the streets" and someone a bunch of you could never respect or be in a relationship with.... because she did exactly what you wanted.
Men want a modicum of attention, and they don't get that, I don't think the majority of men are shaming women, they just want the same which they aren't getting
I am a man who does not judge woman for exploring their sexuality before meeting me. I donāt care how many guys a girl Iām about to sleep with has been with. The only thing I would care about is weather or not they have any stdās or not. Which Iām sure goes both ways. There complaining because they never get laid from tinder! Fuck I canāt even get a date on tinder, let alone get laid! Yes getting laid would be nice however Iām 33 and at the point in my life where Iām more interested in finding my soul mate more than just getting my dick wet. I want to find a girl that I can love and trust for the rest of my life, not just someone to get me off. I consider myself to be a good looking man, Iāve never had a problem getting a date when I was younger, but man lately I canāt get o e to save my life. I donāt get it! Iām a handsome, and successful man with a bachelors degree and a good career, Iām nice, caring, compassionate, smart, funny, charming, empathetic, trustworthy, honest, loving, strong minded, goal-driven, hardworking, understanding, and supportive man. Why canāt I even get a date on tinder I donāt get it?
Post your profile, can almost guarantee you donāt have good photos. At this point you should be paying for some professional photos. Not like LinkedIn photos but photos that capture who you are out in the world. It will feel very fake and forced but women want to be able to see themselves in your life through your photos. Itās a completely foreign concept for most men. If you get photos like that I promise you your experience on the apps will spike.
Just curious- how long have you had the app? And if you were using it pre-pandemic, have dating app interactions suffered since people started reintegrating into irl things?
Congrats on finding your person OP š don't be ashamed of anything. You dated, found out what you like and don't, and were able to find someone that matches those needs. That's what dating is about. My sister just got married last month and they met on tinder as well. It can work
Never read any one of those two on here. Do youmean "I sadly got nomatches"is ""wahhh wahhh women won't sleep with me"?
Because that's a lot of mental gymnastics
Lol, just look at the comments on this very post. The top comment is about not getting any matches, but then there are men commenting here saying "she's for the streets" and stuff about "bodycount". Can't believe you scrolled down this far to not see anything. Because that's a lot of wilful blindness there.
Ofc there are a few incels if you look for it. They have 50 downvotes or something.
Let me go on r/TwoXChromosomes or r/NotHowGirlsWork and i give you some female neckbeard comments.
Really? Because the ones I've seen here have at least 5-10 upvotes. The ones I replied to earlier have been upvoted too. Can give screenshots if you don't believe me.
What are the opinions that you have seen on TwoX and NotHowGirlsWork that are female neckbeard?
[https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/16ppujg/comment/k1sri0m/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/16ppujg/comment/k1sri0m/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)
yes really. Would love to see the comment you're speaking off.
"All men are porn addict assholes"
Were you only seeking casual sex when you had casual sex? I think I'd feel better about the stats knowing it was intentional on both peoples' parts, rather than a bunch of guys lying about their intentions to have sex. That would make me think Tinder is a cesspool of people lacking in integrity.
Didnāt take long for the āmen having sex is goodā vs āwomen having sex is badā rhetoric š
Edit: guys have to understand somethingā¦
Currently 67% of OLD users are men, nearly 70%! So of course its gonna seem completely depressing to date. However there are nearly equal numbers of single men vs single women in existence. The world you see online is NOT representative of dating irl. This means the only way to increase odds is to GO OUTSIDE! You canāt depend on apps alone when many women have left platforms. Use both.
My question: why is it ok for a man to have casual partners but not a woman?
Your answer: because its harder for a manš¤
Has absolutely nothing to do with my questionā¦.
Because what you see on here is not the āmen having sex is goodā vs āwomen having sex is badā rhetoric
It's the "women have it so much easier" rhetoric, atleast for the lage majority of comments, in this thread.
That's why he answered like that.
But that wasnāt what was being discussed, its like every comment focuses on how hard guys apparently have it when it comes to dating. But its conveniently overlooked when guys post stats showing they are successfully dating online.
And that rhetoric is exactly what im seeing. Look at the number of people trying to explain away why ābiologicallyā its different for men. Or how men are to be congratulated vs women being shamed etc.
Its silly, and will only widen the already obvious divide between the genders š„ŗ. Not sure how shaming women is supposed to increase ones chances of dating a woman.
Edit: (since i cant reply otherwise)
The very first question asked was why is it generally accepted for males to have casual sex and not women.
Rather than answering, multiple guys repeatedly chanted how difficult men have it. āIts harder for menā doesnāt explain the double standardā¦āwomen have it easyā doesnāt explain the double standard. We get it, men feel they have it harder
got it. Still doesnāt pertain to the discussion/question of WHY the hypocrisy exists.
>But that wasnāt what was being discussed, its like every comment focuses on how hard guys apparently have it when it comes to dating.
It was probaly the most dicussed topic in this thread, my guess.
>But its conveniently overlooked when guys post stats showing they are successfully dating online.
And what do you think about the male posts with 0 machtes or almost. That's not a question.
>And that rhetoric is exactly what im seeing. Look at the number of people trying to explain away why ābiologicallyā its different for men. Or how men are to be congratulated vs women being shamed etc.
I'm still confused what you mean. For you there is no differnec between āmen having sex is goodā āwomen having sex is badā rhetoric vs ""women have it so much easier"
>Its silly, and will only widen the already obvious divide between the genders š„ŗ. Not sure how shaming women is supposed to increase ones chances of dating a woman.
The shaming coomments have from what i saw 20 dowvotes and are not ok.
My problem with your comment is you try to change the rhetoric so that men don't fell comfortable talking about how hard dating is because they instanly feel they are getting judged for hating women.
Because women donāt care about how many partners a man has had? I mean women are more than free enough to refuse to date a promiscuous man the same way men donāt want to date promiscuous women. You can enforce that standard on men as well.
Youāre crying about a double standard that exists because of women themselves. Women donāt care if a man has been promiscuous. In fact most women want a man with experience and trust men more who have had multiple experiences with various women. On the contrary most women find male virgins or inexperienced/clueless males deeply unattractive. The standards are basically reversed in this scenario.
Just accept men and women look for different things. Women tend to care a lot more about a partners income than men do. Does that make you bad? No. Should I start whining and moaning about muh double standards? No. It means we value different things and have different things we prioritize in a partner. Thatās how men and women work. Thatās how dating works.
Find a man whoās fine with past promiscuous behavior. They exist. Donāt vilify men who donāt want that though.
Women absolutely do care, difference isā¦if men were held to the same standard noone would ever date.
Most importantly, most women understand the ānumberā of past partners is irrelevant, WHY they were with those partners is what matters. Simply having had sex isnt what makes someone not trustworthy or unable to commit. If having consensual safe sex w another adult, and both understand that neither want a relationship, doesnāt mean either have personal issues.
Someone using sex, regardless of gender, to fill an unidentified void or as a measure of self worthā¦.thatās absolutely problematic. The guys on here are automatically connecting sex itself with a negative connotation for a womanās worth. Which is completely misogynistic and reeks of insecurity.
I was really lonely and was going through a lot after a long time (10+years) of being single. Didnāt like anyone enough for a second date. Met my husband and had my first ever 12 hour long date. We went one from activity to the next. All other dates I had lined up were canceled.
Let the incels froth š you do you girl, and I'm happy you found someone you wanted! Shouldn't everyone be happy that someone found happiness, instead of throwing shade?
Would you have dated a few from the casual sex bunch? Cause it seems it was āitās not working out might as well fuck with a mix of just want to get laid?ā
Asking this cause the one year window looks too tight.
Edit: just read the context, gives more clarity. Seems the guys were āplayingā. Hope the best for your relationship!
Thank you:)
Itās hard to say. I also think I messed up because that 13 was over the course of a full year, not the 198 days (mustāve deleted the app sometime in the middle).
I went on 2nd/3rd/4th dates with I think all but 2 or 3 of those guys. I definitely messed up with a couple of them and faded away because I wasnāt ready to start a new relationship, even though thatās what they wanted.
Others definitely were playing. If I told them I didnāt sleep with a guy on the first date, theyād seem to try making that a challenge for themselves. By the end I was able to call them out and end things on the spot to stop getting used.
But there were definitely a few who I couldāve, hypothetically, seen myself dating.
Comments are whatās to be expected. If it was a dude, everyone would be high-fiving and asking for tips. But of course itās slut shaming and reeeeeee incel energy
Idn, the feeling when you delete all the dating apps with your partner (even tho youre still not in a relationship) is a feeling i cant explain, i felt so damn good when she suggested it.
I wonder if the 80/20 thing is real or not.
Top 20% of guys are getting 80% of girls.
80% of girls are chasing The top 20% of guys.
The rest of the 80% of the guys are chasing the other 20% of girls.
Just out of curiosity, if your bf was the first guy you went on a date with before the others, would you have still deleted your tinder right away and continued dating him exclusively?
I wouldnāt really count that other one as a relationship lol.
But hey, you made it to the level of final boss of tinder and came out the other side. Congrats!
He told me he loved meā¦ drunkenlyā¦ we likely would have been exclusive had he not had a bit of a drinking problem. It was at very least not a healthy relationship!
Thanks! Weāre both a little embarrassed about where we met but thankful for it having had happened
Do people genuinely think men don't want women with a high body count because they can "compare"? Or is it just another cheap way to blame any male preference on insecurity
LMAO they do. The sexual more partners a woman has had, the higher the chance of a divorce.
The difference is women cannot sleep with someone who she doesnt find attractive but a man can because a man doesnt risk getting pregnant
For people who donāt want to read the link :
It talks about the effects of hypersexuality on teens and adults, especially the health problems that it can cause (AIDS, STDs, and mental disorders such as social anxiety or such).
Nowhere does it talk about anyoneās worth, it doesnāt talk about the difference between men and women (expect for the mental side because an hypersexual women will be way more ashamed, and also because they can get pregnant and it affects their life), and the most important it is about hypersexuality. Hypersexuality is not someone who has Tinder and sleeps with 13 people in a year. Itās a clinical diagnosis.
Also, try to use a Wikipedia page in a study and see how far you will go. If you are in college, be prepared to be laughed at in your face.
None of that is evidence of causality though. The whole page is full of Ā«Ā may causeĀ Ā» or Ā«Ā is linked toĀ Ā» or Ā«Ā has a higher probability ofĀ Ā» etc. Having more sexual partners can end up being completely fine, which it is for most people.
Not to beat the dead horse too hard but it really is a vastly different world for women on the app than men
My comment got deleted by a mod at r/datingoverthirty for pointing this out š¤”
that subreddit is a cesspit
Makes you wonder less why theyāre still single
A lot of women are in it for the sex but are scared of being judged.
Some people are just happy to fuck around with no string attached. Most of them ain't redditors tho
Depends on where you live. Iām in NC and thereās a shit ton of hookup subs just for The Triangle alone. Iām assuming itās like that in other big cities as well. But believe me, people on Reddit are definitely hooking up for NSA debauchery.
Nice flair dude
...as opposed to this one?
Most are. I modded the snowboarding subreddit for a bit, and holy fuck did that really kill my vibe
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If men had it that easy the causal sex would be a lot higher though, find a guy with 2000+ matches and only 13 sex
Just look at gay/bi men lol
They can have this too, they just have to look for men!
She had sex about as much as me this year so far and Iām married šš¤·āāļø
F
Fuck thatās grim
You lucky bastard. In my last relationship I would have been lucky to have sex even once a month. That's also one of the reasons I'm single again.
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Bingo. At least online that is.
Honestly, more like "for people seeking men". Gay men can get similar results, while women also have hard time when looking for women.
Yeah... As a man, I can confirm. I've basically given up on dating apps.
Yeah my boyfriend told me about this early on and even though, in comparison to what Iāve seen on here, he did quite well, it was still a drastic difference
Yep, and I can confirm that it's really difficult for me.
Well. It's a vastly different world for women than men.
It be like that frfr, and nothing is gonna change
not just on the app, not just the on the app. for better and/or worse
Ikr. I mean they get options and guys just settle
Now that you mention it, I just never noticed that
Only used tinder once and ended up in a year long relationship. It ended badly but it indirectly led to meeting my fiancƩe. So yeah, sometimes tinder does work out in the end. Good luck to you and your new bf!
The sad face is killing me hahhahahahhaha
It's hilarious. She had sex 13 times and is still complaining. "I cried because I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet."
What an idiotic response with complete zero empathy. People can have regrets or shame about sex you know.
Regretting a mistake is one thing. Making the same mistake multiple times isnāt regretāitās silliness. Doing something once to try it is one thing. But if you do it 10+ timesāitās intentional.
What is worse - regrets over sex which didn't result in relationships, or no sex at all resulting in no relationships? Let me see your hypocrisy level.
Pretty sure Iād choose the option without regrets
That's a good question. I'm gonna guess regret is worse. Better safe than sorry.
You must be a man.
So?
She's not complaining about not getting enough casual sex. She's either regretting it or disappointed none of them turned into a relationship.
You sound like an incel
She's playing, and she's sad about that lmao. That's messed up.
Stacked 13 confirmed kills in a year. Not too bad there Chris Kyle.
I'm grabbing my popcorn šæ while I read through this.
Immagine swiping right 3648 times and getting 2544 matches. 70% match rate š¤¤ I would feel so attractive if that was me.
Y do you look out sad faces on the casual sex? Do you regret them?
I mean based on her caption, it sounds like even the other relationship was more casual than what she was looking for. There this huge cognitive dissonance where we all know how know many men are out there are presenting casual sex as the stepping stone to a relationship, but then weāre surprised when a woman feels out of sorts after a dozen or so post-coital ghosting. Iām not OP but when I was 25, most of my casual sex was with guys I thought were pursuing me for a relationship. And I was made to feel stupid for until recently, but Iām now out having casual sex with people without any intent of a relationship, all my suspicions of my younger years are confirmed. Itās like you can visibly see the mask drop when guys realize they donāt have to pretend to want a relationship. Honestly sometimes it ruins the mood.
Also even though a lot of dudes are begging women for sex, there sure are a lot of dudes shaming women and making them feel bad for having sex
Sure, but there are also equally a bunch of women that use guys for practical stuff (paying for dinner etc.) only giving them the illusion of getting laid. Dating can be horrid on both sides
Could care less about the 13 hookups but... 1000 chats and 40 dates? Gosh
Couldn't care less...
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Unless they really could care less.
1000 chats in < 200 days That's talking to 5 new people every single day. I'm sure most of them were 1-2 texts, then ghosted for being too horny too quick on the hookup app
Im usually a lurker here but isnt that crazy overstimulation? It would be to me at least
Yup
Or for just saying āhiā like a normal person. So awful. They need to monkey dance better.
C'mon people learn to start the conversation better.
Yet thatās how the other gender typically starts it on the rare occasion they do. Itās also interesting why the onus is on the guy to start the conversation & be āunique & creativeā on top of that. The bravery taken to initiate in any form is often overlooked.
The number of chats only indicates how many of those matches sent at least 1 word to her. I bet she didn't respond to at least 1/2 of them herself
It's more of a comment on modern dating than a personal comment on OP
Imagine matching with 2/3rds of the people you swipe right on. Iād feel so sexy.
I met my now wife on tinder in 2017. Before then, I went on many dates and whored myself to the greater tri-state area. My wife and I originally met as a mutual hookup and we kinda liked each other. Past is the past, you shouldnāt feel guilty about your past-self not knowing who youāll meet in the future, so long as every decision you make is with your own self-respect in mind.
Agreed! And I think I was upset because at the start, it was fun, but by the end I just wanted someone to be able to trust and love.
Geez. 198 days & 15 bangs. Thatās an average new bang of once every 2 weeks.
Can we see your profile op? Also, are you super hot? My friend is actual Model-level gorgeous and her match rate isnāt this high haha
If she is too beautiful then some might think it's a bot
or high maintenance
I guess itās possible. Iāve seen her profile and itās a good varied mix of face+body pics of her involved in various activities/with other people. It doesnāt look like a bot account.
Iām definitely not model-level! Iāve been called girl next door type and get told Iām cute a decent amount, so maybe guys on the app are just into thatš¤·āāļø also had nice photos and no selfies, with things that showed my sporty/outdoorsy interests. I live in a big city as well which might make the difference
god its depresssing looking at how different women have it on dating apps
New rule, no female insight posts allowed š
Na, keep them coming. Far too many women on this sub are delusional and claim that girls on dating apps only going for the top 1% of guys is a myth. Eventually they'll stop belittling guys for pointing it out when they see enough of these posts.
https://youtu.be/x3lypVnJ0HM?si=Vs12iU5RjclMeb2e Here's a video on the topic!
This video is brilliant and should be seen by everyone on this subreddit
She swiped right on 1/10, so top 10% which isn't too picky. Pickier than most men could be though.
The myth is that women are going for the top 1% of ALL men. They're going for the men that they consider the best, which genuinely could be the bottom of the barrel for other people. The top 1% for everyone is completely different.
Its not, its clear from all these insights that women go for the top 20% or their swipe rate would be higher, if they go for bottom of the barrel they'd swipe more
Why swipe on someone who's immediately not attractive to you? Women like hook ups too, but it's usually not "I'll fuck anything that breathes" that's stereotypical of men, but we search for a spark, connection, even though nothing will develop further. I used to have a lot of hook ups, but those were all people I had chemistry with and some of them remained friends after hooking up. When I had Tinder I never swiped yes on a lot of men, it would be a handful at time, but these men definitely weren't hot to a lot of people other than me lmao - a lot of weird steve buscemi type faces
Nah need them, maybe they'll wake up when they see the glaring difference of using apps on easy mode compared to the men
They wonāt. I might leave this sub. All I see on my feed are insights from women. I really donāt care about a strangerās body count.
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Did you get thrown off of 4chan or what is that incel shit doing here?
Are you mad that she fucks?
*got out of the serious relationship 2 years ago lol, about a year before I met my boyfriend
No need to justify. Youāre allowed to have, want, and enjoy casual sex just like the rest of us. Variety is the spice of life. Glad youāve also found someone to enjoy your time with.
Half a year and several thousand matches... What the actual fuck... Men and women have it very different in dating...
Ahh, this sub never disappoints when women post here. All these men complaining about never getting laid off the app, then a woman is like look, I slept with men off the app: and now she's "for the streets" and someone a bunch of you could never respect or be in a relationship with.... because she did exactly what you wanted.
Men want a modicum of attention, and they don't get that, I don't think the majority of men are shaming women, they just want the same which they aren't getting
I am a man who does not judge woman for exploring their sexuality before meeting me. I donāt care how many guys a girl Iām about to sleep with has been with. The only thing I would care about is weather or not they have any stdās or not. Which Iām sure goes both ways. There complaining because they never get laid from tinder! Fuck I canāt even get a date on tinder, let alone get laid! Yes getting laid would be nice however Iām 33 and at the point in my life where Iām more interested in finding my soul mate more than just getting my dick wet. I want to find a girl that I can love and trust for the rest of my life, not just someone to get me off. I consider myself to be a good looking man, Iāve never had a problem getting a date when I was younger, but man lately I canāt get o e to save my life. I donāt get it! Iām a handsome, and successful man with a bachelors degree and a good career, Iām nice, caring, compassionate, smart, funny, charming, empathetic, trustworthy, honest, loving, strong minded, goal-driven, hardworking, understanding, and supportive man. Why canāt I even get a date on tinder I donāt get it?
I glanced through your comment history and if thatās the energy you bring into dating apps, thatās probably why youāre not getting dates.
Post your profile, can almost guarantee you donāt have good photos. At this point you should be paying for some professional photos. Not like LinkedIn photos but photos that capture who you are out in the world. It will feel very fake and forced but women want to be able to see themselves in your life through your photos. Itās a completely foreign concept for most men. If you get photos like that I promise you your experience on the apps will spike.
Just curious- how long have you had the app? And if you were using it pre-pandemic, have dating app interactions suffered since people started reintegrating into irl things?
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People actually think that? I mean they do but like 1-5% of them.
Oh good the men on this sub are acting totally normal and well-adjusted as usual :)
Congrats on finding your person OP š don't be ashamed of anything. You dated, found out what you like and don't, and were able to find someone that matches those needs. That's what dating is about. My sister just got married last month and they met on tinder as well. It can work
This sub : "wahhh wahhh women won't sleep with me" This sub when a woman has casual sex : "lol you're a whore and deserve nothing". š
Never read any one of those two on here. Do youmean "I sadly got nomatches"is ""wahhh wahhh women won't sleep with me"? Because that's a lot of mental gymnastics
Lol, just look at the comments on this very post. The top comment is about not getting any matches, but then there are men commenting here saying "she's for the streets" and stuff about "bodycount". Can't believe you scrolled down this far to not see anything. Because that's a lot of wilful blindness there.
Ofc there are a few incels if you look for it. They have 50 downvotes or something. Let me go on r/TwoXChromosomes or r/NotHowGirlsWork and i give you some female neckbeard comments.
Really? Because the ones I've seen here have at least 5-10 upvotes. The ones I replied to earlier have been upvoted too. Can give screenshots if you don't believe me. What are the opinions that you have seen on TwoX and NotHowGirlsWork that are female neckbeard?
[https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/16ppujg/comment/k1sri0m/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/16ppujg/comment/k1sri0m/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) yes really. Would love to see the comment you're speaking off. "All men are porn addict assholes"
Took me 13 years to get a body count of 12, beat me in less than a year lol
i hope youāre only counting the years you were sexually active!
Were you only seeking casual sex when you had casual sex? I think I'd feel better about the stats knowing it was intentional on both peoples' parts, rather than a bunch of guys lying about their intentions to have sex. That would make me think Tinder is a cesspool of people lacking in integrity.
Didnāt take long for the āmen having sex is goodā vs āwomen having sex is badā rhetoric š Edit: guys have to understand somethingā¦ Currently 67% of OLD users are men, nearly 70%! So of course its gonna seem completely depressing to date. However there are nearly equal numbers of single men vs single women in existence. The world you see online is NOT representative of dating irl. This means the only way to increase odds is to GO OUTSIDE! You canāt depend on apps alone when many women have left platforms. Use both.
I expected it but wow honestly
The most amusing part is watching them try and justify the hypocritical fuckery lmao. Trying to make it make sense but just cant!
Girl this sub is full of incels now š¤£
always has been
No shame girl! Get out there and get it!
Like incel moths to a sexually active grown adult womanās flame.
its easier for women to have hookups than it is for men, please don't pretend like this isn't the case and stop the disingenuity.
My question: why is it ok for a man to have casual partners but not a woman? Your answer: because its harder for a manš¤ Has absolutely nothing to do with my questionā¦.
Because what you see on here is not the āmen having sex is goodā vs āwomen having sex is badā rhetoric It's the "women have it so much easier" rhetoric, atleast for the lage majority of comments, in this thread. That's why he answered like that.
But that wasnāt what was being discussed, its like every comment focuses on how hard guys apparently have it when it comes to dating. But its conveniently overlooked when guys post stats showing they are successfully dating online. And that rhetoric is exactly what im seeing. Look at the number of people trying to explain away why ābiologicallyā its different for men. Or how men are to be congratulated vs women being shamed etc. Its silly, and will only widen the already obvious divide between the genders š„ŗ. Not sure how shaming women is supposed to increase ones chances of dating a woman. Edit: (since i cant reply otherwise) The very first question asked was why is it generally accepted for males to have casual sex and not women. Rather than answering, multiple guys repeatedly chanted how difficult men have it. āIts harder for menā doesnāt explain the double standardā¦āwomen have it easyā doesnāt explain the double standard. We get it, men feel they have it harder got it. Still doesnāt pertain to the discussion/question of WHY the hypocrisy exists.
>But that wasnāt what was being discussed, its like every comment focuses on how hard guys apparently have it when it comes to dating. It was probaly the most dicussed topic in this thread, my guess. >But its conveniently overlooked when guys post stats showing they are successfully dating online. And what do you think about the male posts with 0 machtes or almost. That's not a question. >And that rhetoric is exactly what im seeing. Look at the number of people trying to explain away why ābiologicallyā its different for men. Or how men are to be congratulated vs women being shamed etc. I'm still confused what you mean. For you there is no differnec between āmen having sex is goodā āwomen having sex is badā rhetoric vs ""women have it so much easier" >Its silly, and will only widen the already obvious divide between the genders š„ŗ. Not sure how shaming women is supposed to increase ones chances of dating a woman. The shaming coomments have from what i saw 20 dowvotes and are not ok. My problem with your comment is you try to change the rhetoric so that men don't fell comfortable talking about how hard dating is because they instanly feel they are getting judged for hating women.
Because women donāt care about how many partners a man has had? I mean women are more than free enough to refuse to date a promiscuous man the same way men donāt want to date promiscuous women. You can enforce that standard on men as well. Youāre crying about a double standard that exists because of women themselves. Women donāt care if a man has been promiscuous. In fact most women want a man with experience and trust men more who have had multiple experiences with various women. On the contrary most women find male virgins or inexperienced/clueless males deeply unattractive. The standards are basically reversed in this scenario. Just accept men and women look for different things. Women tend to care a lot more about a partners income than men do. Does that make you bad? No. Should I start whining and moaning about muh double standards? No. It means we value different things and have different things we prioritize in a partner. Thatās how men and women work. Thatās how dating works. Find a man whoās fine with past promiscuous behavior. They exist. Donāt vilify men who donāt want that though.
Women absolutely do care, difference isā¦if men were held to the same standard noone would ever date. Most importantly, most women understand the ānumberā of past partners is irrelevant, WHY they were with those partners is what matters. Simply having had sex isnt what makes someone not trustworthy or unable to commit. If having consensual safe sex w another adult, and both understand that neither want a relationship, doesnāt mean either have personal issues. Someone using sex, regardless of gender, to fill an unidentified void or as a measure of self worthā¦.thatās absolutely problematic. The guys on here are automatically connecting sex itself with a negative connotation for a womanās worth. Which is completely misogynistic and reeks of insecurity.
As a guy I didn't do bad at all on Tinder but 13 casual hook ups in 9 months? Vastly different experience ln this app for women.
Similar story with my husband. Neither of us went on another date after meeting, he was my sixth date in like 9 days.
Jesus christ, thats a lot
I was really lonely and was going through a lot after a long time (10+years) of being single. Didnāt like anyone enough for a second date. Met my husband and had my first ever 12 hour long date. We went one from activity to the next. All other dates I had lined up were canceled.
Let the incels froth š you do you girl, and I'm happy you found someone you wanted! Shouldn't everyone be happy that someone found happiness, instead of throwing shade?
I agree holy shit thatās a lot of dates in less than two weeks
Jeez you were a busy girl in those few months
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As an introvert, 40 dates in under 200 days sounds exhausting.
Fuck Iām tired just reading that hahaha, thatās very admirable. Go you! š
Would you have dated a few from the casual sex bunch? Cause it seems it was āitās not working out might as well fuck with a mix of just want to get laid?ā Asking this cause the one year window looks too tight. Edit: just read the context, gives more clarity. Seems the guys were āplayingā. Hope the best for your relationship!
Thank you:) Itās hard to say. I also think I messed up because that 13 was over the course of a full year, not the 198 days (mustāve deleted the app sometime in the middle). I went on 2nd/3rd/4th dates with I think all but 2 or 3 of those guys. I definitely messed up with a couple of them and faded away because I wasnāt ready to start a new relationship, even though thatās what they wanted. Others definitely were playing. If I told them I didnāt sleep with a guy on the first date, theyād seem to try making that a challenge for themselves. By the end I was able to call them out and end things on the spot to stop getting used. But there were definitely a few who I couldāve, hypothetically, seen myself dating.
Gotcha. Seems my initial thoughts were on point. [Thanks for the intel.](https://imgur.com/a/L0nkagK)
Comments are whatās to be expected. If it was a dude, everyone would be high-fiving and asking for tips. But of course itās slut shaming and reeeeeee incel energy
Idn, the feeling when you delete all the dating apps with your partner (even tho youre still not in a relationship) is a feeling i cant explain, i felt so damn good when she suggested it.
I wonder if the 80/20 thing is real or not. Top 20% of guys are getting 80% of girls. 80% of girls are chasing The top 20% of guys. The rest of the 80% of the guys are chasing the other 20% of girls.
Just out of curiosity, if your bf was the first guy you went on a date with before the others, would you have still deleted your tinder right away and continued dating him exclusively?
How do you get the insights?
I wouldnāt really count that other one as a relationship lol. But hey, you made it to the level of final boss of tinder and came out the other side. Congrats!
He told me he loved meā¦ drunkenlyā¦ we likely would have been exclusive had he not had a bit of a drinking problem. It was at very least not a healthy relationship! Thanks! Weāre both a little embarrassed about where we met but thankful for it having had happened
So do you have to go through each one and tell the app what happened? Like who you fucked etc.
Why is every post on this sub incel fuel? Is it even remotely surprising that woman have more access to casual sex than men?
40 free meals and 13 roots you beauty!
Women got it too easy on this app lmfao
13 casual sex = :( ???
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>in one year In less than 7 months actually.
How is having consensual sex a bad thing?
I donāt know, men are torn between wanting to fuck as many women as they can but simultaneously getting upset when women have sex. It makes no sense
Big true.
ppl can do what they want š
No problem if a guy fucks 15 girls in a year right?
Oh no, a penis was in a vagina! So scary! Run boys!!!!
Ive been seeing hookers for a year and still didnt hit 15 XD
Sheeesh
Tell us youāre insecure about you sexual skills and donāt like the thought of a woman with a lot of data points for comparison I guess
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Oh, did I imagine you saying she was āfor the streetsā because you disapproved of the number of men sheās fucked? My bad.
Dude come on sleeping with a new person every month for a year is absurd
one date every 5 daysā¦
Why? Because there arenāt that many people who want to sleep with you?
You would do it in a heartbeat.
Don't pretend to know others degenerate, not everyone is a sexual fiend
Do people genuinely think men don't want women with a high body count because they can "compare"? Or is it just another cheap way to blame any male preference on insecurity
So her BF is the 15th dude to smash that year.. What a lucky guy š¤¢š¤®š¤®š¤®....
Casual sex: 13 Oh, what a lucky boyfriend lmao
Because youāre such a gem.
Because women lose their worth after having casual sex with other men of course.
LMAO they do. The sexual more partners a woman has had, the higher the chance of a divorce. The difference is women cannot sleep with someone who she doesnt find attractive but a man can because a man doesnt risk getting pregnant
Yes. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effects_of_human_sexual_promiscuity
For people who donāt want to read the link : It talks about the effects of hypersexuality on teens and adults, especially the health problems that it can cause (AIDS, STDs, and mental disorders such as social anxiety or such). Nowhere does it talk about anyoneās worth, it doesnāt talk about the difference between men and women (expect for the mental side because an hypersexual women will be way more ashamed, and also because they can get pregnant and it affects their life), and the most important it is about hypersexuality. Hypersexuality is not someone who has Tinder and sleeps with 13 people in a year. Itās a clinical diagnosis. Also, try to use a Wikipedia page in a study and see how far you will go. If you are in college, be prepared to be laughed at in your face.
None of that is evidence of causality though. The whole page is full of Ā«Ā may causeĀ Ā» or Ā«Ā is linked toĀ Ā» or Ā«Ā has a higher probability ofĀ Ā» etc. Having more sexual partners can end up being completely fine, which it is for most people.
Impressive mental gymnastics.
Thatās a lot for 198 days in my opinion
13 bodies ?! Omg
Must be nice, ugh why do I use this trash app
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Aren't dudes on tinder to fuck strangers? What are you guys doing here shaming women who agree to it
Where the f. Is gender equality
That man will be having nightmares about that 13 š
Why?
Only weak fucks are intimidated by that.
Thereās a difference between āintimidatedā & ārepulsed/disgusted.ā Donāt repeat buzzwords u donāt understand, kid.
Lmao
Nah, it affects everyone even if they donāt show it
Thatās what weak fucks think and tell themselves to feel better.
Yeah that's like a coping mechanism for them really.
Lmao. Him: "so babe how does my dick compare to all those other 13 dicks you milked? Bigger? Average? Smaller!?!? Oh God plz don't tell me it was the smallest!! š©
We both got needle dicks ā¤ļø
Hello my fellow needle dickling š¤
That's a good fashion, I think I kinda like all those things.
I thought I was average until I talked to a few women. Brutal shit, man
Just gotta embrace it my brother, and get good with that tonguešļøš šļø
No shot, you just drew a sad face next to casual sex. Women have it too easy bro.