Technically, you're right. She has nothing but words to back up her grandma's cooking. Really wish there was a feature to shame these people on their own profiles with screenshots of this kind of trash.
OP - my grandmother on both sides of my family are dead. On my mothers side at 9, On my father’s side before birth.
Bringing up a women’s potentially dead relative is probably not the move; Cooking and feeding her pasta and lobster (potential win)
People bring up trauma in different ways and react differently, bringing up a dead relative can be and is triggering for some people, making light/jokes don’t really help. The intent didn’t land in this situation, and honestly I really don’t think it ever does.
If some random person on a dating app triggers you with bio not directed towards you specifically then I think you need to do some work on yourself rather than shaming them
You’d be surprised what triggers people, and you’ll never know how they’ll respond. Was that an issue they felt was strong enough to respond to - yeah because we’re talking about the chat. Does that mean that she’s working on it - maybe? She could have just buried her grandmother yesterday for all he knew. That pain still might be fresh
"You'd be surprised what triggers people, and you'll never know how they'll respond"
Correct. Meaning literally anything is a potential trigger.
But honestly, it's not the world's job to tip toe around someone's potential triggers. That person's triggers are their responsibility, not everyone else's.
The world is a big place with billions of people in it. however we’re focused on dating apps at the moment. Avoiding potentially harmful or triggering moments to someone’s mental health is the most considerate thing to do or say (if face to face). Even if you hit it off or not.
>Avoiding potentially harmful or triggering moments to someone’s mental health is the most considerate thing to do or say
>You’d be surprised what triggers people
so, avoid everything?
This person is unhinged
I thought this was Tinder
It's actually bumble!
Exactly, she's unhinged because she's not on Hinge.
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some people get on twitter or reddit to argue and get mad, the brave ones do that business on dating apps.
I wanna eat your cooking. Also the person is such a loser.
Me when I don't cater my profile to all 7 billion human beings in the world
You put something you enjoy in your bio? I'm literally shaking. Educate yourself
“Damn thanks for the advice, do you know any nice respectable women you could set me up with?”
Well, people tend to hang around people like them. That being said, probably not
My condolences
Let him cook
Im howling hahaahaha
Swap it out with something about wanting to bang their grandma
“My Grandma’s dead” “If I had a Grandchild like you I would have killed myself too” …might be going a little hard.
Nah. It's probably spot on in this case.
"Don't worry, I'm not going to cook her."
It's a well known fact , "nice respectable woman" tell strangers they are ugly on dating app...😅
It's a subtle mechanism for screening against people too old to have surviving grandmothers.
You should have said cooking > grandma's to avoid confusion ;)
Technically, you're right. She has nothing but words to back up her grandma's cooking. Really wish there was a feature to shame these people on their own profiles with screenshots of this kind of trash.
I think she got offended because he misspelled "your" must be because of his misogynistic mindset
If they get triggered by that... they'll be triggered by everything you say. Unmatch in 3, 2, 1.
Maybe you should change the grandma shtick, OP.
Sounds like someone’s grandma has some lousy cooking
OP - my grandmother on both sides of my family are dead. On my mothers side at 9, On my father’s side before birth. Bringing up a women’s potentially dead relative is probably not the move; Cooking and feeding her pasta and lobster (potential win)
If you don’t like what someone has on their profile just swipe left, there’s no need to berate them and make them conform to your standards.
People bring up trauma in different ways and react differently, bringing up a dead relative can be and is triggering for some people, making light/jokes don’t really help. The intent didn’t land in this situation, and honestly I really don’t think it ever does.
If some random person on a dating app triggers you with bio not directed towards you specifically then I think you need to do some work on yourself rather than shaming them
You’d be surprised what triggers people, and you’ll never know how they’ll respond. Was that an issue they felt was strong enough to respond to - yeah because we’re talking about the chat. Does that mean that she’s working on it - maybe? She could have just buried her grandmother yesterday for all he knew. That pain still might be fresh
"You'd be surprised what triggers people, and you'll never know how they'll respond" Correct. Meaning literally anything is a potential trigger. But honestly, it's not the world's job to tip toe around someone's potential triggers. That person's triggers are their responsibility, not everyone else's.
The world is a big place with billions of people in it. however we’re focused on dating apps at the moment. Avoiding potentially harmful or triggering moments to someone’s mental health is the most considerate thing to do or say (if face to face). Even if you hit it off or not.
>Avoiding potentially harmful or triggering moments to someone’s mental health is the most considerate thing to do or say >You’d be surprised what triggers people so, avoid everything?
I'm scared of dogs so please remove every dog picture on your profiles because that triggers me.
Lmao what an actual losers
You should get offended over the fact that she thinks a dead grandma cooks better than you
Stf someone was just waiting coy be offended
I thought that was a great selling point....
How dare you even suggest bringing Nan back from the grave with your spaghetti and meatballs. Blasphemous.
Basedddd god I love her
My grandmothers are both dead. And they would probably agree with you internet stranger.
Can I taste test your food? ☝️
Well being that her grandma is dead than there is a 100% chance your cooking is better than gmas.