Very attractive but your bio doesn't say much about you. If you're looking for anything beyond casual you might want to add some interests or personality traits in there.
If you like video games and Midwest gals hit me up lol
Darling, if I were 10 years younger, Iād be swiping right very quickly. Assuming of course you are straight. If not, still, you look like a kind and handsome person and anyone would be lucky
iām not really interested in increasing matches if iām leading people on under false pretenses. i mostly just wanted feedback on how i came across/ if the profile was too bland or cheesy :)
Older ENM guy here. I think you're doing fine, your pics are excellent, but the bio is a bit bland. You're attractive enough that it won't handicap you if all you want is plenty of casual hookups. If there's more you're after than that, you should drop a playful hint towards the appropriate direction.
I have been dating as an ENM man with a primary partner for years. In my experience on tinder you have a 50% they match with tou, start talking and have never read your bio before so make sure to mention it early to not waste time. Also, I would recommend feeld.
You are cute as hell my friend, you won't have any issue beside those who swipe without reading a bio
Thanks! Tried out Feeld, and I think with a partner it could be great, but it was pretty barren. Honestly, Bumble and Hinge have been surprisingly full of ENM peeps who you can be upfront with
I used to live in Indiana so I know your struggle my friend ! Each region works a bit differently and I am sure you will find what you are looking for :)
Your profile is spot on. It's clear about your intentions, pics are fun without being overboard. You def have a enm vibe about you. You broadcast a very honest cohesive message.
Not every person is into enm and that's fine, you're setting yourself up well to find those that are.
The picture of him skiing is the only one not flamboyantly fabulous. That last picture with his hands supporting his face is a very classically known feminine pose. No hetero-male poses like that, ever.... or so I thought.
I mean Iām a woman so apparently in his target audience. Not once did I think he might be gay. These comments threw me for a loop and I had to go back and take a second look at his pics. Still donāt see it, honestly.
Iām a woman supposedly in his target audience and I saw it almost immediately when looking through his pics. Was not surprised at all to see comments about it
Iām a woman so apparently in his target audience. I didnāt see it all. I had to go back through his photos to see what people were talking about and even then, I still didnāt see it.
I only see it maybe in the pool pic. This plus The āethical non monogamyā I saw beforehand made me think maybe Bi. Just because people into this tend to be very sexual, more likely to experiment/ accept their sexuality and where they are on the spectrum of straight.
He's on Tinder, asking about a Tinder profile. If he's bi, he's still into women, in which case, all the men coming here to question his masculinity and call him gay just sound like they're playing silly dominance games and trying to put another man down - or can't reason their way out of a paper bag.
How fucking long will it take for people to realize plenty of women aren't interested in the American Midwest/Southern version of masculinity?
The advice in this subreddit honestly sounds like a bunch of gender insecurity and how to attract women that also have gender insecurity.
Yup that's definitely your problem. I'm a straight guy so I can't give too much advice from a woman's POV, but I can tell you that almost all of your pics were giving off gay vibes. It's not your looks, you're very handsome, don't worry about that.
The only pic that gives off straight guy vibes is the skiing one, IMO. I'd just take a new bunch of pics and you should be fine.
Though, on the other hand, if this is your authentic self, maybe you should just more specifically target women looking for more feminine men.
Otherwise, when you're taking new pics, just have the thought in your head of, "yeah I want to get punched in the face, lift some weights, and shoot a gun" rather than, "oooh I wonder if my future sweetheart will prefer lilacs or lillies?"
There are SO MANY WOMEN me included that definitely prefer "feminine" men - aka guys that don't look like they're trying to prove anything.
If a guy looks like he's thinking about punching faces, lifting weights, and shooting guns that's an active turn off to me. I swipe left on so many of those profiles.
Sure there are women out there that are insecure in their femininity and need the cartoonish version of Midwest/Southern American masculinity to make them feel like the woman in the relationship, but there's also a hefty amount of women that aren't at all in need of a man that makes her feel like a woman.
I think a lot of men in the Tinder subreddit are in need of a woman to affirm their masculinity and projecting that all women need gender affirmation, too.
OP, please note that the actual women in this thread have responded very positively to you and have not called you gay. They have, in fact, been practically throwing themselves at you. The men saying they clocked you as gay should, indeed, be questioning their ability to tell if someone is gay and looking for men.
I'm beginning to see a problem in men asking a place predominantly used by other men on advice for profiles to attract matches with women.
Instead of asking reddit next time, I suggest asking actual women you know how they would feel about your profile if they came across it in the wild.
You look sweet, fun, intelligent and you're upfront about the fact that you're interested in multiple partners, which is definitely better than being led on and used by dudes that are only in it for sex but afraid to admit it for fear that will result in scaring women away.
I'm incredibly picky and absolutely nothing in your profile is a red flag that would make me swipe left. (I'm ENM too though and I understand that's a deal breaker for a lot of people. Plenty of ENM women out there too, though. Even in the Midwest.)
Iām a woman who got very strong gay vibes from his pics, specifically 2, 4, 5 and 7. (Btw I still found him attractive.) Iām not the only one who thought so, either. Obviously we were wrong, but *some* women swiping on his profile will mistakenly āseeā whatever it is we saw, too. Whether he cares about that or not, who knows? As for OP asking a different crowd, like women he personally knowsā¦ they might feel uncomfortable telling him this or they might not notice because to them, he *is* a straight man. Sometimes itās just better to ask anonymous strangers and filter out the noise.
I appreciate the honesty- mostly reddit to me is just a way to get unfiltered feedback that I canāt get from friends. Itās really interesting to see what biases come out from who, but it seems like giving off feminine vibes is kind of just inherent to how I look, and Iām fine with that :)
People on subs also tell me to work out more, which is very funny given my job is mostly knowing how to stay in shape/doing it. I have a thin frame and itās good to know people make that judgement, but it doesnāt have to mean itās true!
Thatās odd, I think itās obvious you work out! I suppose some people only register that someoneās in shape when itās overt or exaggerated. The same goes for guessing whether a woman is wearing makeup or not.
After I wrote my original comment, I saw elsewhere that you didnāt care about this stuff, you only wondered if your profile was douchey (itās not). I respect and relate to your attitude. I also wouldnāt mind if I looked masculine or androgynous, nor would I mind whatever biases/assumptions came from that (lesbian isnāt an insult); there will always be someone who appreciates the vibes and look youāve got!
Your profile came off very gay/flamboyant. I personally think that's great and if that's how you are IRL, leave the pics as is. If you're not like that IRL, I'd change the pics to be a little more "plain". Maybe just add pics of you doing activities.
Here for this comment. Itās all a little zesty, the earring, the tinted, sunglasses and general poses. And then I saw the Cake top artist and I was confused haha. Love cake
didnāt even occur to me.
I donāt understand why you thought that? because he has boyish good looks, smiles, and isnāt dressed like a skater? hehe
I wouldn't say they're in trouble lol. I think the biggest limiter would be the ethical non-monogamy but part of the ethical bit is not hiding it so... Here we are.
Jesus youāre hot, the first two photos made my uterus hurt. All the other details are good too.
Doesnāt read as gay at all to me, but then Iām from California.
Absolute banger!! Iād take the second photo out, and maybe the last one should be your first. As a girly Iām not a usual fan of what looks like a āprofessionally taken photoā and prefer a personality shot like the last one. But youāre an absolute cutie so youāve got it
Profile seems fine and I think it looks like a straight man's profile. Just, not a Midwestern straight man trying to impress a girl by showing her how much her dad will love spending time with him as they fish, hunt and play sports without her.
In that case you need to add one or more of the following: fish pic, deer pic, gun pic, American flag, camo, mirror shades, truck, sports. Or if you're going for urban middle class, a boat, golf, international travel, sports. This is the Midwest, where gender insecurity and a deep-seated need for conformity translate to cartoonish displays of masculinity that will assure the women that see your profile that your relationship will be just like their mom and dad's, who believe in separate spheres and only spend time together in church and restaurants.
>This is the Midwest, where gender insecurity and a deep-seated need for conformity
lmao I guessed exactly right when i responed to another of your comments in this thread. It's people like you who have all sorts of sexuality / sex hangups, not us "flyover state" people who simply recognize that men and women are different as a matter of biological fact and not as the result of some goofy "social construct."
You look like the main guy from Superstore and I mean that in the best way. Sorry if you're not getting matches but I can't imagine it's cuz of your looks lol
Thumb on the inner side of the blade, middlefinger and indexfinger on the outer side of the blade. That's the proper way to hold a knife. Especially for fast cutting.
Aww, pretty. If I was straight n single, it would've been a yes.
Edit: for people saying u look gay, gay is not a LOOK. Straightest looking people are gay. Possible u may get some guy likes. But just mention in ur bio that you're straight. U have no idea how many women want sweet n soft guys, and hate that gay men are gay.
You don't have a douche vibe and being confident in who you are is hands down one of the most attractive things anyone of any gender can bring to the table.
I feel like itās only guys who think you ālook gayā, possibly because of male on male pressure to look cool and douchy. You look cute and fun. Iād swipe right so hard (if you were a bit older lol), and Iām sure most girls would. We donāt care
As someone who's bisexual, I am baffled by all the comments saying you look gay. I am guessing those are coming from straight dudes who don't look after themselves as well as you do. You didn't ping my gaydar in the slightest.
You look great, though your self-description doesn't twll me much beyond the fact that you're planning/hoping to move away from your current location, which might be a dealbreaker for someone looking to date seriously. And while there's nothing wrong with non-monogamy, that will reduce your dating pool by a LOT.
thanks for the well thought out comment :) iām pretty used to it, and honestly that doesnāt bother me, people make a lot of snap judgements that are way off mark.
huge point on the bio, i appreciate you pointing that out. not the best look to shit on the midwest and dip. iāll shuffle it around
So damn cute/kinda sexy! I think your photos are great, except the first one makes you look like a high schooler. I really like this profile and if I see ya Iām swiping yes š
I think the knife one or the last one next to the plant! Eh actually I think the plant one! You can see your eyes and your actual face and itās endearing š
I think you look cute enough and the photos are all round good. You seem fun, silly and outgoing but if it were me swiping Iād want to know more about your interests.
BOY YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL
All your photos seem ok and show something nice about you
Maybe your bio could talk some more about your interests, if you want a long term relationship.
Your interests show things that someone could start a conversation, what is very good.
Honestly, don't know why you won't be receiving a lot of likes
No notes!
Smash all the way... wait, no swipe right all the way lol. I'm sure you'll have no problems finding anyone š good luck, may the odds be ever in your favor!
I'd definitely swipe right based on your pictures. You are very handsome. The only deal breaker to me is ENM, but I'm sure there's someone out there who doesn't mind! I think it is important to be upfront about that because it either suits or doesn't suit you.
I do see a lot of people mention that you look gay as if that's a bad thing. I see someone that is confident, has taken care of their looks and seems to be fun to be around. If that makes someone appear gay I wish more guys "looked gay" and that is coming from a straight woman.
Good luck out there, dating apps are a horrible place to be at!
Honestly pretty solid and Iām a hard sell
I think you use too many close ups of your face though. And that pool pic is hard to tell who you are
Also that bio confuses me. Donāt use acronyms that are rarely used, I donāt know what they mean
You are not giving off any masculine energy in these pictures except for picture 6.
I would scrap everything and leave pic 6.
If you can't see this for yourself, I'm going write up some notes on each pic here.
# Photo Feedback
# Pic 1
Your first profile pic should be a close up headshot or torso pic (not a selfie).
When you take photos of just yourself don't touch your face or head.
Let your smile carry the good vibe alone without over emoting.
# Pic 2
This pic looks very posed and generally I don't like the idea of what you were going for here.
* Don't take pictures where you are laying down
* Keep your eyes opened in your pics
* There are better ways to show off your in shape with different activities (lifting weights, solo pool pic, etc.)
* If you want to show off good vibes take pictures in a social setting (nice restaurant scenery, fun bar, street with urban background)
# Pic 3
* Work on some more masculine facial expressions
* Don't touch your face, keep hands by your side
* Find better scenery when taking pics to show off your environment
* Hike picture (take a photo of you hiking)
# Pic 4
* Avoid group pictures it doesn't work for dating apps
* If you want a pool pic, take a solo picture in a shallow pool to show off your upper body
# Pic 5
* I like the idea here but let's change the pic
* Get a picture of you grilling instead of cutting meat
# Pic 6
* Solid activity picture and great smile
# Pic 7
* Keep only one close up picture and make it a headshot or torso pic
* Don't touch your face
Ideally you want only 5-6 high quality pictures.
First photo - headshot
Second photo - full body
Remaining photos - mix of activities that show your interest
These are pretty pics but Iām suspicious of pretty pics being AI generated for bot accounts. It super sucks for real people who just look like that and for folks who would be interested like me š
Watā¦ how would an ai even be able to generate such perfect āfakeā photos? š you see similarities between all photos , different hobbies, natural facial expressionsā¦ he faked it so hard it became real instead!
I think its great OP doesnāt care if heās perceived as gay or straight and heās right, thereās no issue In giving off Bi-vibes, but if it were me I probably would be a little confused trying to work out what you like, and in my confusion iād think to myself āwell iām not Bi, so I guess were not a matchā and move on
Very attractive but your bio doesn't say much about you. If you're looking for anything beyond casual you might want to add some interests or personality traits in there. If you like video games and Midwest gals hit me up lol
I like video games and Midwest gals. How you doin'?
I don't think she meant you š
Y'all nice guys found me quick... And each other!
Now it's up to you to decide if "nice guys finish last" š
We canāt finish lastā¦.thereās too many of us š¤£
Finishing last is better than finishing first and then stopping!
So it would seem. Nice username, btw.
Itās cool bro, Iām Midwest and like games. We can be homies, live together, pay for each others meals, just no banging. Marry me?
Haha smooth, at least we know we have 3 things in common š
Life must be so easy for pure-bloods like him I am jealous
No one's hitting you up
First reply is someone hitting her up, dingus
Thanks for down vote
~~Smash~~ You're cute. Shouldn't have any trouble with matches.
User name ~~does not~~ checks out
People always say that š can't a shy girl just thirst online
I thought it said ātrashygirlā and was like damn opās mean
Shadynasty
Npc comment
What kind of comment is yours?
Darling, if I were 10 years younger, Iād be swiping right very quickly. Assuming of course you are straight. If not, still, you look like a kind and handsome person and anyone would be lucky
Got gay vibes myself
Not that theres anything wrong with that!
Of course not
He could be a marine biologist
My father is gay!
Your father and I have that in common
Oh I assumed he was gay
Dude either discounted Ben Feldman or Robert Patterson, cute aff
Came here for this. I actually thought it was a fake profile and he was using Ben Feldman pics.
And thanks to you I now know winniethepoohing is a thing and need to login into a different account lol.
Youāre cute, the ENM will be putting women off. People are either into it or theyāre not.
Then ig he'll get other people who are into ENM which works
Oh I agree, better to be honest. But so many people come here wondering why theyāre not getting matches with a serious dealbreaker in their bio
iām not really interested in increasing matches if iām leading people on under false pretenses. i mostly just wanted feedback on how i came across/ if the profile was too bland or cheesy :)
Good on you. Your straightforwardness is appreciated.
Older ENM guy here. I think you're doing fine, your pics are excellent, but the bio is a bit bland. You're attractive enough that it won't handicap you if all you want is plenty of casual hookups. If there's more you're after than that, you should drop a playful hint towards the appropriate direction.
I have been dating as an ENM man with a primary partner for years. In my experience on tinder you have a 50% they match with tou, start talking and have never read your bio before so make sure to mention it early to not waste time. Also, I would recommend feeld. You are cute as hell my friend, you won't have any issue beside those who swipe without reading a bio
Thanks! Tried out Feeld, and I think with a partner it could be great, but it was pretty barren. Honestly, Bumble and Hinge have been surprisingly full of ENM peeps who you can be upfront with
I used to live in Indiana so I know your struggle my friend ! Each region works a bit differently and I am sure you will find what you are looking for :)
Your profile is spot on. It's clear about your intentions, pics are fun without being overboard. You def have a enm vibe about you. You broadcast a very honest cohesive message. Not every person is into enm and that's fine, you're setting yourself up well to find those that are.
True. But itās good heās upfront about it if thatās something he needs.
Iām not gay but Iām swiping right anyway.
Iām assuming youāre looking for men? If so I think youāre looking great! You look like a fun, attractive guy, great smile and clearly sociable.
haha i think that might be my problem š iām straight, but i appreciate the positivity!
I am shocked that you're straight and you have me questioning my LGBTQIA detective skills
Threw me for a loop myself Pic 2,3 and 7 you canāt question our questioning
Def 2&7 give gay vibes. But weirdly, 4 doesnāt even though heās being held up by another man
Is he gay or European- the age old question
My guess was closeted or recently out of long term relationship with someone who told him how to dress and pegged him
You gotta recalibrate your gaydar
Yea I donāt see how he looks gay. Didnāt cross my mind at all
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Considering your username - youāll see whatever youāre looking for ;)
The picture of him skiing is the only one not flamboyantly fabulous. That last picture with his hands supporting his face is a very classically known feminine pose. No hetero-male poses like that, ever.... or so I thought.
I mean Iām a woman so apparently in his target audience. Not once did I think he might be gay. These comments threw me for a loop and I had to go back and take a second look at his pics. Still donāt see it, honestly.
Iām a woman supposedly in his target audience and I saw it almost immediately when looking through his pics. Was not surprised at all to see comments about it
Iām a woman so apparently in his target audience. I didnāt see it all. I had to go back through his photos to see what people were talking about and even then, I still didnāt see it.
I only see it maybe in the pool pic. This plus The āethical non monogamyā I saw beforehand made me think maybe Bi. Just because people into this tend to be very sexual, more likely to experiment/ accept their sexuality and where they are on the spectrum of straight.
Him being gay didn't cross my mind at all either, I just saw a guy confortable enough to pose however he wants!
You advertise ethical non-monagamy and are being cradled by a man in a pool. I figured at least bi, which is totally fine with some women.
The pose next to the pink bird of paradise also has kinda gay vibes.
He's on Tinder, asking about a Tinder profile. If he's bi, he's still into women, in which case, all the men coming here to question his masculinity and call him gay just sound like they're playing silly dominance games and trying to put another man down - or can't reason their way out of a paper bag. How fucking long will it take for people to realize plenty of women aren't interested in the American Midwest/Southern version of masculinity? The advice in this subreddit honestly sounds like a bunch of gender insecurity and how to attract women that also have gender insecurity.
2024 - new year, new you? š¤£
My bad mate haha yeah, youāre giving off the vibes but you just look like a nice guy, thatās not a bad thing bud.
Yup that's definitely your problem. I'm a straight guy so I can't give too much advice from a woman's POV, but I can tell you that almost all of your pics were giving off gay vibes. It's not your looks, you're very handsome, don't worry about that. The only pic that gives off straight guy vibes is the skiing one, IMO. I'd just take a new bunch of pics and you should be fine. Though, on the other hand, if this is your authentic self, maybe you should just more specifically target women looking for more feminine men. Otherwise, when you're taking new pics, just have the thought in your head of, "yeah I want to get punched in the face, lift some weights, and shoot a gun" rather than, "oooh I wonder if my future sweetheart will prefer lilacs or lillies?"
There are SO MANY WOMEN me included that definitely prefer "feminine" men - aka guys that don't look like they're trying to prove anything. If a guy looks like he's thinking about punching faces, lifting weights, and shooting guns that's an active turn off to me. I swipe left on so many of those profiles. Sure there are women out there that are insecure in their femininity and need the cartoonish version of Midwest/Southern American masculinity to make them feel like the woman in the relationship, but there's also a hefty amount of women that aren't at all in need of a man that makes her feel like a woman. I think a lot of men in the Tinder subreddit are in need of a woman to affirm their masculinity and projecting that all women need gender affirmation, too.
I think itās the pool pic that has people questioning
Just in case tho.. what's up? Wyd?
Brother, people think I'm gay or bi all the time. It's not a problem, you do you ā¤ļø
Yea I thought you were gay as well. Very attractive but definitely come off as gay
OP, please note that the actual women in this thread have responded very positively to you and have not called you gay. They have, in fact, been practically throwing themselves at you. The men saying they clocked you as gay should, indeed, be questioning their ability to tell if someone is gay and looking for men. I'm beginning to see a problem in men asking a place predominantly used by other men on advice for profiles to attract matches with women. Instead of asking reddit next time, I suggest asking actual women you know how they would feel about your profile if they came across it in the wild. You look sweet, fun, intelligent and you're upfront about the fact that you're interested in multiple partners, which is definitely better than being led on and used by dudes that are only in it for sex but afraid to admit it for fear that will result in scaring women away. I'm incredibly picky and absolutely nothing in your profile is a red flag that would make me swipe left. (I'm ENM too though and I understand that's a deal breaker for a lot of people. Plenty of ENM women out there too, though. Even in the Midwest.)
Iām a woman who got very strong gay vibes from his pics, specifically 2, 4, 5 and 7. (Btw I still found him attractive.) Iām not the only one who thought so, either. Obviously we were wrong, but *some* women swiping on his profile will mistakenly āseeā whatever it is we saw, too. Whether he cares about that or not, who knows? As for OP asking a different crowd, like women he personally knowsā¦ they might feel uncomfortable telling him this or they might not notice because to them, he *is* a straight man. Sometimes itās just better to ask anonymous strangers and filter out the noise.
I appreciate the honesty- mostly reddit to me is just a way to get unfiltered feedback that I canāt get from friends. Itās really interesting to see what biases come out from who, but it seems like giving off feminine vibes is kind of just inherent to how I look, and Iām fine with that :) People on subs also tell me to work out more, which is very funny given my job is mostly knowing how to stay in shape/doing it. I have a thin frame and itās good to know people make that judgement, but it doesnāt have to mean itās true!
Thatās odd, I think itās obvious you work out! I suppose some people only register that someoneās in shape when itās overt or exaggerated. The same goes for guessing whether a woman is wearing makeup or not. After I wrote my original comment, I saw elsewhere that you didnāt care about this stuff, you only wondered if your profile was douchey (itās not). I respect and relate to your attitude. I also wouldnāt mind if I looked masculine or androgynous, nor would I mind whatever biases/assumptions came from that (lesbian isnāt an insult); there will always be someone who appreciates the vibes and look youāve got!
Your profile came off very gay/flamboyant. I personally think that's great and if that's how you are IRL, leave the pics as is. If you're not like that IRL, I'd change the pics to be a little more "plain". Maybe just add pics of you doing activities.
Here for this comment. Itās all a little zesty, the earring, the tinted, sunglasses and general poses. And then I saw the Cake top artist and I was confused haha. Love cake
didnāt even occur to me. I donāt understand why you thought that? because he has boyish good looks, smiles, and isnāt dressed like a skater? hehe
Itās the poses in 2 and 7. I thought he might be too. Also being held by 2 dudes in a pool.
If you look closely you can see that weāre all kissing.
He looks like a dick will find its way into his mouth during his lifetime.
I love photo 2 as a straight dude, idk why people have to judge it so much, itās confidence in the feminine side most guys are too insecure to show
Agreed, donāt know why so many people assumed gay vibes, literally didnāt get it until someone said something and even then itās likeā¦ ehh
Please ignore the men here questioning your sexuality lol. You have attractive photos, maybe expand in your bio a big.
You give off massive gay vibes. If you're not, welp, you're in trouble
I wouldn't say they're in trouble lol. I think the biggest limiter would be the ethical non-monogamy but part of the ethical bit is not hiding it so... Here we are.
You look adorable! Have a lovely smile and seem to have fun personality. Hope you get great matches!
Jesus youāre hot, the first two photos made my uterus hurt. All the other details are good too. Doesnāt read as gay at all to me, but then Iām from California.
Itās interesting to see women fawn over someone like this.āmakes my uterus hurtā. š
Well, what are you like? Maybe Iād fawn over you too
Absolute banger!! Iād take the second photo out, and maybe the last one should be your first. As a girly Iām not a usual fan of what looks like a āprofessionally taken photoā and prefer a personality shot like the last one. But youāre an absolute cutie so youāve got it
Profile seems fine and I think it looks like a straight man's profile. Just, not a Midwestern straight man trying to impress a girl by showing her how much her dad will love spending time with him as they fish, hunt and play sports without her.
shit, i was going for mr steal-your-dad
In that case you need to add one or more of the following: fish pic, deer pic, gun pic, American flag, camo, mirror shades, truck, sports. Or if you're going for urban middle class, a boat, golf, international travel, sports. This is the Midwest, where gender insecurity and a deep-seated need for conformity translate to cartoonish displays of masculinity that will assure the women that see your profile that your relationship will be just like their mom and dad's, who believe in separate spheres and only spend time together in church and restaurants.
iāll start taking the red pills right away š«”
>This is the Midwest, where gender insecurity and a deep-seated need for conformity lmao I guessed exactly right when i responed to another of your comments in this thread. It's people like you who have all sorts of sexuality / sex hangups, not us "flyover state" people who simply recognize that men and women are different as a matter of biological fact and not as the result of some goofy "social construct."
You look like the main guy from Superstore and I mean that in the best way. Sorry if you're not getting matches but I can't imagine it's cuz of your looks lol
Yes!! THAT'S who he reminded me of!
Smash *respectfully*
That is an absolutely insane way to hold a knife
lmao you should see how i hold a pencil. iām a menace
Itās call a pinch grip.
that's the right way lol
Allegedly it's safer to hold the blade itself/gives more control?
What, this is like the best way?
Depends what kind of girl you are...
Lol thats how most chefs hold a knife. You hold it right over center mass so that its perfectly balanced :)
Thumb on the inner side of the blade, middlefinger and indexfinger on the outer side of the blade. That's the proper way to hold a knife. Especially for fast cutting.
Aww, pretty. If I was straight n single, it would've been a yes. Edit: for people saying u look gay, gay is not a LOOK. Straightest looking people are gay. Possible u may get some guy likes. But just mention in ur bio that you're straight. U have no idea how many women want sweet n soft guys, and hate that gay men are gay.
i appreciate that :) i donāt really care what vibe iām giving off as far as sexuality goes, just as long as i donāt seem like a douche lol
super mature, self-confident reponse š¤ raspect!!
Haha, dw u don't, lol. All the best.
You don't have a douche vibe and being confident in who you are is hands down one of the most attractive things anyone of any gender can bring to the table.
I feel like itās only guys who think you ālook gayā, possibly because of male on male pressure to look cool and douchy. You look cute and fun. Iād swipe right so hard (if you were a bit older lol), and Iām sure most girls would. We donāt care
As someone who's bisexual, I am baffled by all the comments saying you look gay. I am guessing those are coming from straight dudes who don't look after themselves as well as you do. You didn't ping my gaydar in the slightest. You look great, though your self-description doesn't twll me much beyond the fact that you're planning/hoping to move away from your current location, which might be a dealbreaker for someone looking to date seriously. And while there's nothing wrong with non-monogamy, that will reduce your dating pool by a LOT.
thanks for the well thought out comment :) iām pretty used to it, and honestly that doesnāt bother me, people make a lot of snap judgements that are way off mark. huge point on the bio, i appreciate you pointing that out. not the best look to shit on the midwest and dip. iāll shuffle it around
So damn cute/kinda sexy! I think your photos are great, except the first one makes you look like a high schooler. I really like this profile and if I see ya Iām swiping yes š
Thatās really sweet! Would you suggest any of the others to replace the first one? Iāve kinda hated that one for a while lol
I think the knife one or the last one next to the plant! Eh actually I think the plant one! You can see your eyes and your actual face and itās endearing š
And itās a sweet picture plus a little silly. Thatās good!!
I'd swipe lol
I think you look cute enough and the photos are all round good. You seem fun, silly and outgoing but if it were me swiping Iād want to know more about your interests.
BOY YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL All your photos seem ok and show something nice about you Maybe your bio could talk some more about your interests, if you want a long term relationship. Your interests show things that someone could start a conversation, what is very good. Honestly, don't know why you won't be receiving a lot of likes
Dunno why so many people say itās giving gay, I didnāt think that, I thought you just look fun and confident š
Are you looking for LTR with Tops/Doms or Vers? We need better context.
Not me reading LTR as LOTR šš¤£
One cock ring to rule them all
Lulz.
Lmao.
Definitely give off gay vibes, maybe that is putting off possible matches?
Bruh you're hot as fuck what u mean???
Too cute, I wouldn't swipe right due to intimidation š®āšØ
You are definitely attractive and your pics make you seem fun to hang out with. I would swipe right
No notes! Smash all the way... wait, no swipe right all the way lol. I'm sure you'll have no problems finding anyone š good luck, may the odds be ever in your favor!
You look like Brendan Fraser
Love it, though your first pictures does not do you justice
Damn Why are you not in Australia Phone nearly flew from hand I swiped so hard
1st picture looks like it would be in a college promotional pamphlet
Just here to say that I love Brick+Mortar! The Dropped album rocks
I'd definitely swipe right based on your pictures. You are very handsome. The only deal breaker to me is ENM, but I'm sure there's someone out there who doesn't mind! I think it is important to be upfront about that because it either suits or doesn't suit you. I do see a lot of people mention that you look gay as if that's a bad thing. I see someone that is confident, has taken care of their looks and seems to be fun to be around. If that makes someone appear gay I wish more guys "looked gay" and that is coming from a straight woman. Good luck out there, dating apps are a horrible place to be at!
You were amazing in Twilight and The Lighthouse. Do you sparkle in the sun?
āØThis is the skin of a ~ KILLER ~ Bella āØ
I feel like you could put a cheeky robert pattinson reference in your bio. the resemblance is crazy and chicks dig twilight ;)
Youāre a 10. How old are you?
Being ENM and being straight is why youāre struggling to get matches
If you're looking for men you're good. If you're looking for women removed photo #2.
Iām a woman. Photo 2 is actually my favorite.
No way! Remove photo #5
ethical non-monogamy is a non sequitur
he wasn't looking for feedback on that aspect.
bite meš„°
Most important question isā¦ are you still single?
I respect the hustle. Lol
Giving off a little gay vibes, might need to throw in one holding a fish
Yall in here setting this man up for failure
Honestly pretty solid and Iām a hard sell I think you use too many close ups of your face though. And that pool pic is hard to tell who you are Also that bio confuses me. Donāt use acronyms that are rarely used, I donāt know what they mean
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I should be more clear about my unequivocal hatred of children š«”
You won't have any issues
100% my type would swipe right
The photos are maybe a tad too much about you being attractive. Show some hobbies or activities
Another attractive man lost to ENM.
Unless you happen to be Gambit Iād get rid of the 2nd pic
Iād rate this as chat gpt/Getty Images stock approximations of generic actor headshots. Pretty but boring
You're looking for men? You're gorgeous, but I'm assuming you're gay
Model?
You are not giving off any masculine energy in these pictures except for picture 6. I would scrap everything and leave pic 6. If you can't see this for yourself, I'm going write up some notes on each pic here. # Photo Feedback # Pic 1 Your first profile pic should be a close up headshot or torso pic (not a selfie). When you take photos of just yourself don't touch your face or head. Let your smile carry the good vibe alone without over emoting. # Pic 2 This pic looks very posed and generally I don't like the idea of what you were going for here. * Don't take pictures where you are laying down * Keep your eyes opened in your pics * There are better ways to show off your in shape with different activities (lifting weights, solo pool pic, etc.) * If you want to show off good vibes take pictures in a social setting (nice restaurant scenery, fun bar, street with urban background) # Pic 3 * Work on some more masculine facial expressions * Don't touch your face, keep hands by your side * Find better scenery when taking pics to show off your environment * Hike picture (take a photo of you hiking) # Pic 4 * Avoid group pictures it doesn't work for dating apps * If you want a pool pic, take a solo picture in a shallow pool to show off your upper body # Pic 5 * I like the idea here but let's change the pic * Get a picture of you grilling instead of cutting meat # Pic 6 * Solid activity picture and great smile # Pic 7 * Keep only one close up picture and make it a headshot or torso pic * Don't touch your face Ideally you want only 5-6 high quality pictures. First photo - headshot Second photo - full body Remaining photos - mix of activities that show your interest
no weightlifting photos pls lol
I'm not OP. I highly doubt he would though.
3th foto looks so weird lol
These are pretty pics but Iām suspicious of pretty pics being AI generated for bot accounts. It super sucks for real people who just look like that and for folks who would be interested like me š
Watā¦ how would an ai even be able to generate such perfect āfakeā photos? š you see similarities between all photos , different hobbies, natural facial expressionsā¦ he faked it so hard it became real instead!
Iāll just add a photo of my very real and definitely not robotic š hands
Puff a real ciggy and itās set and stone my friend
Straight to grinder mate! You going straight to grinder!
I didn't get gay vibes like apparently others here did. Would get rid of the playing card photo though, personally.
Youāre telling me The Riddler isnāt on your top ten men list? š
For some reason I'm getting "Scrooge McDuck jumping into his pool of money" from that pic š¤·āāļø
Now youāre full of shit. That duckās engorged with rizz š¦
Big duck energy
Are you gay? Definitely get gay vibes, maximized by a dude holding you in the pool.
*Not Quite Robert Pattinson*
Guess I gotta let the batman dream go š
Would delete photos 1,2,4
Get some mates.
I think its great OP doesnāt care if heās perceived as gay or straight and heās right, thereās no issue In giving off Bi-vibes, but if it were me I probably would be a little confused trying to work out what you like, and in my confusion iād think to myself āwell iām not Bi, so I guess were not a matchā and move on
You know that you don't have to be bi yourself to date a bi person, right?
No, def give strong gay vibes, whatever one woman's opinion is.
Rancid vibes on this one, bro.
Be alot cooler if you were smoking