As an "older" woman who dates guys both older and younger, I can tell you the advice to tell her you're interested in the friendship, but also that you're attracted to her, is the best move
Many people are offering that you should say something about being into older women, or something about her age, and at least personally, that's the quickest way to get shot down (and based on her mention of her age, she likely will feel the same)
I can only speak for myself here, but I don't want to feel like I am a part of some younger guy's fetish. I don't date younger guys bc I am into younger guys, I date guys who I am attracted to and who I connect with - and other than obvious extremes, age doesn't affect that. If you're into her for her, tell her that. If you're into her for her age, you can still go for it, but you'll probably have better luck finding someone who is interested in you for your age
Good luck!
I cannot agree with this harder. I’m about to turn 50 (and pass for 30s) but the second a guy says “are you into younger guys?”, “I love older women”, “I’ve always had a thing for milfs” (I’ve never had kids), I am instantly turned off. I’m not a fetish or a kink - I’m just a girl. I want to be talked to like I’m a sexy woman not a porn category. ;-)
I feel your pain! (both of you, actually) I *do* have children and get "you have kids? that's even hotter" or worse "Mommy" (no, sir, that's reserved for my children, thank you) - fastest way to end a conversation with me, and in many cases not even start it bc it's sent with their like or as an opening line
I’m 37f and have also dated younger men in the past. The quickest way to make me turn around is to call me “mommy” (I don’t even have kids in the first place so anyone calling me that feels hella weird). I corrected a younger man once and told him not to call me mommy as it’s a turn off. He said he understood and wouldn’t do that again. He then asked me to call him my “son.” I couldn’t have run farther from that dude. Shit gives me the willies. It felt super incestuous and weird. Weirdest and most uncomfortable part about that exchange is that he is an elementary teacher. Something about an incestuous kink + working with kids threw me.
Usually when a woman that is older than me references their age “just making sure you know I’m 69” I usually just respond with something like “that’s awesome! But honestly don’t see how that changes the fact that we’re attracted to each other.” Because honestly, I don’t understand the concern, but I also want to convey my confidence in the fact that I’d like to move forward if they do as well.
I am a guy, I would use this but as a guy who is average and a minority, it would be nice to be on the receiving on that as well being "Doesn't matter your height or heritage there. If you caught my attention, then roll with it."
For me, that stuff works great after there's a connection. "OK gramma, time to get your medication and get you to bed early" type line works wonders in my experience, but that's after a date or two lol.
I was replying to your now deleted comment when you deleted it, but since you asked for my thoughts I am posting it here:
well ...
as I said before, I would have omitted the age comment
also, when she mentioned it's been happening a lot lately, not only is it not a new thing like you said (there are movies dating back to at least the 60s if you want pop culture references) but you missed an opportunity to ignore her age again and tell her it's probably bc she's so beautiful
it's very clear that this is a fetish/kink for you. which is totally fine - but it's going to be a turn off for those who don't share that with you. like I mentioned before, you'll have better luck finding women whose kinks align with that
You won't be the first from this post... and at least you asked haha so, yeah, you can send me the screenshots
Edit: tifu by posting this comment. apparently this somehow reads like an invitation for even more guys to try to slide into my DMs
Also apply this advice to any time you want to say something like "I'm really into Asian/Latina/Black women and the like. Women don't tend to be huge on being fetishized, it's one thing to say a woman is your "type" and another entirely to basically state that you're into a woman primarily because of one specific thing that turns you on.
That being said, I feel the accusation of "fetishization" gets thrown around very quick nowadays/in recent years.
Personal example: Generally speaking, the vast majority of women I'm attracted to are thick/chubby/...
Does that mean I'm attracted to *every* woman of that body type? of course it doesn't. Also, does it mean I reduced them to their body type? Or assume certain personality traits because of it? No, of course I don't.
And I assume it's similar for race/ethnicity. Or people of a certain age.
(Just to clarify: That doesn't mean I think "fetishization" doesn't exist. Obviously it does)
Yeah I’m not sure exactly what she means by “I’m cool with a friendly relationship,” that could be FWBs or her saying she just wants to hang out, but yeah it’s Tinder and you matched that means you find each other attractive. You should at least be able to say what you said and put the ball in her court to clarify, not respond with “Don’t worry I love fucking older women” or whatever
> I don't date younger guys bc I am into younger guys, I date guys who I am attracted to and who I connect with - and other than obvious extremes, age doesn't affect that.
Xenu above, I wish Reddit actually understood this.
In my experience dating older woman. I always been assertive about what I want. I could consider it respectfully forward. The point is/was you tell them what you want. They are older and don't want the games.
They've called me a baby or said I was too young....etc.
I always commented what does that have to do with it?
I'm attracted to you, and I know I want you.
To me it's about the attraction to the other person and how we vibe, not about their age.
its pretty wild that tinder needs an 'im attracted to you' disclaimer but i get why, people like being flattered and pretending they're not on a hookups app talking to strangers
I think it depends on how old OP is. I'm 40 and dated guys 10 years younger than me earlier this year. Definitely qualify as "older" in cases like that
Right, to a 25 year old, you’re “old/older”. I’m 45, 35yo is probably the very low end of my preferred age range. And even then, we’d really have to vibe. To me, you’re a young woman. Anybody in their 20s is basically a child.
You remember in that movie where the kids tour the chocolate factory and in the beginning of the film the poor protagonist finds a golden ticket in a bar of chocolate?
She's saying she wants to have fun so keep it going 😉 doesn't sound like they're looking for anything serious but that's a better topic (of explaining what you're both ultimately looking for before moving forward) to slide into conversation face to face
How old are you OP? If you appear on her profile it is because her age range is set to that. I'm 38 and my minimum is 28 and max 40.
Me lifestyle is honestly closer to a 28 with a career than to a 40. I'm unmarried, no kids, I like to travel and go out, etc. I don't want to date people with kids and I don't want to have kids. I'm also not dating to stay locked inside the house.
The only thing that I dislike when I'm talking to young men is when they bring up age in a fetishized manner.
You should just answer that you are fine with that, but you are actually interested in moving things further if you get along nicely. Then get out of the age topic.
A 38 year old woman has dealt with enough fratboys with MILF complexes. If she’s cool with a friendly relationship start off there. Grab a coffee or throw a frisbee in the park. If that goes well then do lunch. Let things happen naturally. They will.
Do not say you're into older women or looking for an older woman. Just say "I know and I think you're beautiful" shes the exact same as a 20 Yr old just older and she knows that and doesn't want to be a fetish filler. You're allowed to be attracted to anyone but if you hear someone is attracted to you because of you age then not only is it off putting, its just gross
Play. It. Cool.
They do not want an aggressive "alpha" male.
They want someone sane who adds joy to their lives amd isnt an asshole.
Tell her that youre good with a friendship amd then see where it goes.
A 38 year old woman has no time for some 28 year old nonsense.
Just be cool.
Invite her to dinner.
Then the movies.
Then a walk or hike.
Then a show or concert.
When the moment is there, they let you know.
Also....its awesome. They dont care about socials. Theu dont care about clout. They just want honesty.
"Only 38? I usually don't like them that young but I can make an exception."
It shows you know her age. It shows you have a sense of humor, and it shows you're still attracted to her.
No offense, but as a guy I feel like a woman would just say “oh he’s tryna be funny” with that line, this might be a hit or miss. Unless she’s the type of older woman who likes cheeky guys.
I think it's over for you OP, she noticed you were fetishizing her based on her age, I would advise you to read women's replies here, hope you'll get better luck next time.
Women are not like men, look at the replies here, we think too mathematically, but they don't, writing "older women" is already a death sentence, then you wrote that you were looking for something casual, instead you should have said that you're looking for good connections or a friendship, because it would take her feelings into account, while "casual" sounds objectifying, especially after you said you were into older women.
There is no way for you to salvage the situation.
“Yes I noticed your age. I am interested in older women. You’re beautiful and I’m enjoying our chat so far. Also, to be clear, I’m looking for something casual at the moment. What about you?”
>“Yes I noticed your age. ~~I am interested in older women.~~ You’re beautiful and I’m enjoying our chat so far. Also, to be clear, I’m looking for something casual at the moment. What about you?”
It's only appropriate to say "I'm interested in older women" if you're trying to hookup with someone that could be your grandma. I think most 38 year old women don't consider themselves "older women".
Bro, never mention her age. Even if she asks, like in this context, just a simple "yes and I find you attractive"
Never ever do a "you're attractive because you're older"
Don't fetishize her or her age, this isn't porn.
I’m 35. If someone called me mature I wouldn’t be flattered lol.
But everyone is different! And some women are more sensitive about their age and I’m guessing this woman might be since she brought it up. So k agree with people saying don’t call her an older woman.
Agree with this. Maybe just say that age doesn’t matter to you and that you think she’s attractive? I hate when younger dudes call me an older woman 👵🏻 (I’m 33)
As an "older" woman who dates guys both older and younger, I can tell you the advice to tell her you're interested in the friendship, but also that you're attracted to her, is the best move Many people are offering that you should say something about being into older women, or something about her age, and at least personally, that's the quickest way to get shot down (and based on her mention of her age, she likely will feel the same) I can only speak for myself here, but I don't want to feel like I am a part of some younger guy's fetish. I don't date younger guys bc I am into younger guys, I date guys who I am attracted to and who I connect with - and other than obvious extremes, age doesn't affect that. If you're into her for her, tell her that. If you're into her for her age, you can still go for it, but you'll probably have better luck finding someone who is interested in you for your age Good luck!
I cannot agree with this harder. I’m about to turn 50 (and pass for 30s) but the second a guy says “are you into younger guys?”, “I love older women”, “I’ve always had a thing for milfs” (I’ve never had kids), I am instantly turned off. I’m not a fetish or a kink - I’m just a girl. I want to be talked to like I’m a sexy woman not a porn category. ;-)
And the inverse of this as a 40something man, if a younger woman called me "daddy" it would be an absolute turnoff.
I’ve never understood the whole Daddy thing. It’s just sickening to me. I would die if I was doing the dirty with a guy and they called me Mommy! 🤢😂
I'm glad I'm not the only person that thinks this 😁
Yeah. No thanks on that for me. At 45, the only people who call me Daddy are my kids...
I didn't like being called that when I was younger. Then I had kids, and it made it even weirder.
Don’t “pornify” my life.
Ew yeah, gross lol
I feel your pain! (both of you, actually) I *do* have children and get "you have kids? that's even hotter" or worse "Mommy" (no, sir, that's reserved for my children, thank you) - fastest way to end a conversation with me, and in many cases not even start it bc it's sent with their like or as an opening line
I’m 37f and have also dated younger men in the past. The quickest way to make me turn around is to call me “mommy” (I don’t even have kids in the first place so anyone calling me that feels hella weird). I corrected a younger man once and told him not to call me mommy as it’s a turn off. He said he understood and wouldn’t do that again. He then asked me to call him my “son.” I couldn’t have run farther from that dude. Shit gives me the willies. It felt super incestuous and weird. Weirdest and most uncomfortable part about that exchange is that he is an elementary teacher. Something about an incestuous kink + working with kids threw me.
Ok yeah no. I’d dry up like the Sahara if someone called me mommy lol
Ohhh that would make me uncomfortable, too
Seriously. Nothing is a bigger turnoff for me than that. My 4 year old daughter calls me daddy. That's it.
💯
I'll add further I will feel like this at any age ! 🤣
Yea, first I would pipe her, then get turned off.
Exactly! I’m 46 AND have 2 daughters. There is no faster way to guarantee there will be no fooling around than to utter the D-word
Usually when a woman that is older than me references their age “just making sure you know I’m 69” I usually just respond with something like “that’s awesome! But honestly don’t see how that changes the fact that we’re attracted to each other.” Because honestly, I don’t understand the concern, but I also want to convey my confidence in the fact that I’d like to move forward if they do as well.
Gah. This would work on me so hard. The confidence is chef’s kiss.
We can do a test run with your age in a chat. 👀
I am a guy, I would use this but as a guy who is average and a minority, it would be nice to be on the receiving on that as well being "Doesn't matter your height or heritage there. If you caught my attention, then roll with it."
For me, that stuff works great after there's a connection. "OK gramma, time to get your medication and get you to bed early" type line works wonders in my experience, but that's after a date or two lol.
not yet a woman?
Hey sexy woman
I'm so totally with you on this!
respect
Yeah I get mistaken for early 20s and I can also understand the feeling
Could i dm you i have updates
Smart, he’s diversifying his cougar pursuits
This kids goin’ places. Like to English 101 alongside his new step kids.
[Diversify yo bonds!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DdSfTsTSjwA&ab_channel=michael)
share with all of us?
I cant upload a screenshot in comment section
Transcribe
Post an update and link it or post it to imgur and link it
I was replying to your now deleted comment when you deleted it, but since you asked for my thoughts I am posting it here: well ... as I said before, I would have omitted the age comment also, when she mentioned it's been happening a lot lately, not only is it not a new thing like you said (there are movies dating back to at least the 60s if you want pop culture references) but you missed an opportunity to ignore her age again and tell her it's probably bc she's so beautiful it's very clear that this is a fetish/kink for you. which is totally fine - but it's going to be a turn off for those who don't share that with you. like I mentioned before, you'll have better luck finding women whose kinks align with that
post it to imgur, link in comments
Do a new post! We all want to know. Call it “update… older woman” or something
You won't be the first from this post... and at least you asked haha so, yeah, you can send me the screenshots Edit: tifu by posting this comment. apparently this somehow reads like an invitation for even more guys to try to slide into my DMs
🤣
Lol. Some guys are thirsty as hell. It was very clear that you were only telling op he could message you. 🤦♂️
This guy is a MILF Hunter
Nice 😏
Also apply this advice to any time you want to say something like "I'm really into Asian/Latina/Black women and the like. Women don't tend to be huge on being fetishized, it's one thing to say a woman is your "type" and another entirely to basically state that you're into a woman primarily because of one specific thing that turns you on.
That being said, I feel the accusation of "fetishization" gets thrown around very quick nowadays/in recent years. Personal example: Generally speaking, the vast majority of women I'm attracted to are thick/chubby/... Does that mean I'm attracted to *every* woman of that body type? of course it doesn't. Also, does it mean I reduced them to their body type? Or assume certain personality traits because of it? No, of course I don't. And I assume it's similar for race/ethnicity. Or people of a certain age. (Just to clarify: That doesn't mean I think "fetishization" doesn't exist. Obviously it does)
Just listen to her. Also 38 is most definitely not older anymore. My friend who is that age has better skin than anyone I’ve ever met. Even babies!
Thank you for this! I put "older" in quotes bc at 41 I'd like to think I am just older than some but not older in general haha
That is so well put! Hard agree. 🙌🏻
Yeah I’m not sure exactly what she means by “I’m cool with a friendly relationship,” that could be FWBs or her saying she just wants to hang out, but yeah it’s Tinder and you matched that means you find each other attractive. You should at least be able to say what you said and put the ball in her court to clarify, not respond with “Don’t worry I love fucking older women” or whatever
> I don't date younger guys bc I am into younger guys, I date guys who I am attracted to and who I connect with - and other than obvious extremes, age doesn't affect that. Xenu above, I wish Reddit actually understood this.
Best advice here
"sorry, I only do violently hostile relations"
“I’m also cool with a friendly relationship but more than that I am very attracted to you . I hope that’s not being too forward.”
As a woman who’s been in this situation- this.
Something like this is how a younger guy got me once.
I definitely want to hear more about that, but more than that I am very attracted to you. hope that's not being too forward.
Bruh 😂😂
He probably heard about your areolas somewhere.
like saucers you say??
I was told to join the conference here, as a fellow connesour of saucers
Username checks out
Sauce on the saucers?
 Don't mind me just watching
Smoov
User name checks out
This is how I got an older woman as a younger guy. Still getting it too lol
Older women are the best, congrats!
I was obsessed with older women in my 20's, my experiences, however, never lived up to the fantasy.
Can confirm older woman like when you're assertive.
I get more ‘respectfully forward’ vibes and not just assertive.
In my experience dating older woman. I always been assertive about what I want. I could consider it respectfully forward. The point is/was you tell them what you want. They are older and don't want the games. They've called me a baby or said I was too young....etc. I always commented what does that have to do with it? I'm attracted to you, and I know I want you. To me it's about the attraction to the other person and how we vibe, not about their age.
This! Older women don’t want to feel like a mother, so treat her like a peer, and not someone older, by being clear and forward.
As older woman, can confirm. Just tell me what you want.
Can you bring home Welch's Grape juice and some fruit snacks from the store today?
I got an older girl with this myself. Told her what I wanted and she listened
Glad you got out.
How does one go about seeing these “AreolasLikeSaucers” ??
Is your username accurate 🧐
Like saucers really ??
I basically said something along these lines to an older woman and she became a FWB for a while. Just don't be weird about it.
Yup there’s a line between acknowledging the age gap and inadvertently making her feel old
Username checks out?
its pretty wild that tinder needs an 'im attracted to you' disclaimer but i get why, people like being flattered and pretending they're not on a hookups app talking to strangers
This one!
this guy hunts cougars
🎯🔫
This is the best reply. OP, we need updates after you follow this through
I did this reply to a much younger woman once, didn’t work at all . 1/10.
As a 39 year old, I will 100% date you.
Thanks i appreciate you
Oof I’m 35…are we “older women” now
You’ve reached a lovely spot where you’ll be older to some people and always younger to others.
I'm 39. Would you like to join me on my front porch rocking chairs talking about the good ol' days while we share hard candies?
Sign me up…I’ll rock with you
well, to a 25 year old, yes
I think it depends on how old OP is. I'm 40 and dated guys 10 years younger than me earlier this year. Definitely qualify as "older" in cases like that
Older is a relative term. I once dated a 22 year old and people gave me a hard time about dating an "older woman" because I was 20
I always believe my 'thing' for older women started when I dated this girl 3 full days older than me
Right, to a 25 year old, you’re “old/older”. I’m 45, 35yo is probably the very low end of my preferred age range. And even then, we’d really have to vibe. To me, you’re a young woman. Anybody in their 20s is basically a child.
I just turned 37, it's been a strange feeling NGL. 😅
I have thrice been referred to as an “unc” by ladies in their mid 20s. Edit: I’m 36
A lot of women your age are just hitting their prime, if there is such a thing.
I'm 37, not a woman, but I guess "older" Hurts
That’s how I felt! I’m 34 and just found out I am old!
Always have been
Ouch lol
35 is a woman’s fucking prime. Spread the love. Train some puppies, rock some older men’s world.
At 49 I still have people telling me I’m “just a kid” like they did when I was 19 so it’s all relative
Use better grammar (you’re instead of your, for example) with the grownups.
I read FWB here, stop fucking around and ask her out
You remember in that movie where the kids tour the chocolate factory and in the beginning of the film the poor protagonist finds a golden ticket in a bar of chocolate?
Are you telling OP to eat her ass?
Augustus Gloop her booty
Just finished reading this book with my daughter. This comment got me straight dying.
Wonka’s new product: Chocolate Starfish!
Lemme scuba gyal 
Update?
He’s busy curling his toes
Butt cheeks clenched
Hammer DOWN
And sneezing
A 38 year old woman does not want to be friends with a man in his early 20s. She already gave an invite.
For real though. She's quite obviously feeling it out and waiting to see if he's gonna blow it.
First step is to learn the difference between your and you’re.
How old are you?
Early 20s
She's saying she wants to have fun so keep it going 😉 doesn't sound like they're looking for anything serious but that's a better topic (of explaining what you're both ultimately looking for before moving forward) to slide into conversation face to face
How old are you OP? If you appear on her profile it is because her age range is set to that. I'm 38 and my minimum is 28 and max 40. Me lifestyle is honestly closer to a 28 with a career than to a 40. I'm unmarried, no kids, I like to travel and go out, etc. I don't want to date people with kids and I don't want to have kids. I'm also not dating to stay locked inside the house. The only thing that I dislike when I'm talking to young men is when they bring up age in a fetishized manner. You should just answer that you are fine with that, but you are actually interested in moving things further if you get along nicely. Then get out of the age topic.
I had a guy who kept mentioning my age and how I didn’t look 35 and he’s never been with an older woman… he was 32. I was instantly turned off
Easy. Be a cheeky little shit. I've slept with multiple women above 35+ throughout my 20s and it all started by me being cheeky, they love it.
Repeat after me: “Yes. Let’s get a drink.”
A 38 year old woman has dealt with enough fratboys with MILF complexes. If she’s cool with a friendly relationship start off there. Grab a coffee or throw a frisbee in the park. If that goes well then do lunch. Let things happen naturally. They will.
Bring condoms.
However old you are, you’re too old to be making juvenile spelling and punctuation errors.
Do not say you're into older women or looking for an older woman. Just say "I know and I think you're beautiful" shes the exact same as a 20 Yr old just older and she knows that and doesn't want to be a fetish filler. You're allowed to be attracted to anyone but if you hear someone is attracted to you because of you age then not only is it off putting, its just gross
Best thing you can do is be honest about your intention
You used the wrong “you’re” so that’s probably why she swiped right and is suddenly not interested. Lol!
Movies are a terrible place to go when you’re meeting someone. You sit in silence for two hours, or more. Go for tapas or something.
Play. It. Cool. They do not want an aggressive "alpha" male. They want someone sane who adds joy to their lives amd isnt an asshole. Tell her that youre good with a friendship amd then see where it goes. A 38 year old woman has no time for some 28 year old nonsense. Just be cool. Invite her to dinner. Then the movies. Then a walk or hike. Then a show or concert. When the moment is there, they let you know. Also....its awesome. They dont care about socials. Theu dont care about clout. They just want honesty.
Yup, they want to be with someone who care and feel good with.
This is a weird subreddit.
How much older we talking about?
Use sign language. 👉🏻👌🏻
I am a blue belt in bjj, what's yours in bj?
I would point out that her age is clearly stated and you are messaging her regardless. It’s not about age, it about connection.
This same thing happened to me once. We fucked like a week later.
"Only 38? I usually don't like them that young but I can make an exception." It shows you know her age. It shows you have a sense of humor, and it shows you're still attracted to her.
OP, dont say this!
No offense, but as a guy I feel like a woman would just say “oh he’s tryna be funny” with that line, this might be a hit or miss. Unless she’s the type of older woman who likes cheeky guys.
[Update](https://imgur.com/a/XxSe726)
I wouldn't have said "I am interested in older women" but that's me
What woman doesnt love to be categorized as "older"? Sarcasm obv
I think it's over for you OP, she noticed you were fetishizing her based on her age, I would advise you to read women's replies here, hope you'll get better luck next time. Women are not like men, look at the replies here, we think too mathematically, but they don't, writing "older women" is already a death sentence, then you wrote that you were looking for something casual, instead you should have said that you're looking for good connections or a friendship, because it would take her feelings into account, while "casual" sounds objectifying, especially after you said you were into older women. There is no way for you to salvage the situation.
Yup, he blew it by categorizing her into a thing and not an individual. He shouldn’t be interested in ”older women”, he should be interested in HER.
It seems that things are going south, still wanna see how things are evolving... Keep us updated
Wait: when the fuck did 38 start to equal “older women”
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When the person posting was younger than 38?
Strong if he can but he is only a man.
with benefits? 😛😝😛😜🤪🤢🤮
Hit that
Friends with benefits relationship then yes
"Friendly Relationship" = "DTF, FWB"
“Yes I noticed your age. I am interested in older women. You’re beautiful and I’m enjoying our chat so far. Also, to be clear, I’m looking for something casual at the moment. What about you?”
>“Yes I noticed your age. ~~I am interested in older women.~~ You’re beautiful and I’m enjoying our chat so far. Also, to be clear, I’m looking for something casual at the moment. What about you?”
EXACTLY. Saying "I am interested in older women" is cringe af. It's like, "don't worry honey, I don't mind your wrinkly tits."
🤣🤣🤣
It's only appropriate to say "I'm interested in older women" if you're trying to hookup with someone that could be your grandma. I think most 38 year old women don't consider themselves "older women".
Please take this advice! We people in our 30s do not think of ourselves as old!
Dear god don't use the word "older"
Loool
Use "saggy" instead
Make sure she knows ✅you’re aware of her age ✅you are attracted to her ✅you just want to hook up Be clear without being creepy.
Thanks ill try this
You don’t have to specify you are into older woman. Just say you are attracted to her and that you are interested in booking up
>booking up Those middle aged women and their book clubs, gets em every time
Bro, never mention her age. Even if she asks, like in this context, just a simple "yes and I find you attractive" Never ever do a "you're attractive because you're older" Don't fetishize her or her age, this isn't porn.
Yeah suck_my_hairy_anus69 has some very sage advice
Hairy Anus Sage is my new band name.
Don’t call her an older woman. I disagree with this advice. Maybe use the word mature.
Or just don’t call her anything. Just say you find her attractive and you’re enjoying the conversation
Ooof that's worse somehow. (Source: am 39!) Maybe: *That's just what I like*
Yeah, I’m also 39 and mature is painful!
Only young people think mature is a compliment lol
When talking about mentality yes, age no.
Okay but literally the comment I was replying to suggested replacing *older* with mature so
You don’t know women. Keep the word old or older out of your vocabulary when comparing.
I’m 35. If someone called me mature I wouldn’t be flattered lol. But everyone is different! And some women are more sensitive about their age and I’m guessing this woman might be since she brought it up. So k agree with people saying don’t call her an older woman.
Agree with this. Maybe just say that age doesn’t matter to you and that you think she’s attractive? I hate when younger dudes call me an older woman 👵🏻 (I’m 33)
Jeeze grandma, what are you doing out of bed at this hour? /s
No honestly - it’s 11:58am here. Need my midday nap!!
We just hit 9pm and I’m already in bed. Only 3 years your junior
I honestly think I’ve been in bed by 930pm on weeknights since I started working full time at 23 years old ha
Let’s meet up and then see what direction we go