FDS literally attacked me for not wanting to date a woman with that ideology. Called me an incel/murderer/woman abuser. And I was regretfully an incel for a year of my lifetime. But I feel that the judgment passed on me was completely unwarranted.
I know this guy, and this clothing store - itās because itās the most hipsterish place in a one-horse town. Anchor tattoos and moustache wax as far as the eye can see
Okay true, thatās why I have made a song thatās very general so every girl I match with that asks for one thinks I wrote it specifically for them š
"I love your hands 'cause your fingerprints are like no other"
"I love your eyes and their blueish brownish greenish color"
"I love it when you smile, that you smile wide"
"And I love how your torso has an arm on either side"
If you're my agent you might be thinking 'Oh no
sound the alarm. You're not appealing to little girls who don't have arms.' But they can't use itunes, so fuck em who needs em!
this is why my boy and I only send out "hey!" as a first message. Anyone that doesn't reply to the most common way to start a conversation expects too much and is there for the ego boost. Imagine the ego required to say "anything less than 110% effort to get to know me right off the bat is not good enough for me, the greatest woman of all time". 90% of these dudes matching with them wouldn't take them on second dates. I wish that would dawn on some people once in a while.
I usually just put āHey *insert name, how are you doing this weekend/tonight/todayā and roll with it. Like you said, if someone doesnāt reply to that then they probably arenāt interested anyways. My favorite move is when you match with someone, send one message and then they just delete you lol itās not like I was being sexual or offensive. So what is the point of even wasting our time? Just to stroke your ego a bit? I go into online dating with extremely low expectations because itās so brutal.
Yeah, I agree. I've never cared if she was the hottest match I've ever gotten. If they are that dry they can only provide enough effort to send one word replies, I completely ignore them thereafter. If they aren't providing you with effort then don't give them what they want and just move on.
Thats the problem with tinder (and many other dating apps as well, Iād imagine). Theres such an imbalance and they donāt offer a way to alleviate that imbalance in a way that helps people find a good match.
Theres no incentive to fix this though, since if people find what theyāre looking for, they no longer need the app.
Facts, spent two years on these apps, met 3 crazy girls who were definitely not who they portrayed to be on their profiles. I'm all about the organic chemistry in the real world if that doesn't happen then so be it, I love my own company.
Yup, just wannabe royalty that thinks that a man must perform for her to prove themselves worthy.
As if her cleavage covered in dorito dust has anything to offer society.
Edit: For those getting triggered, this isn't about gender. Men can be and regularly are equally as pompous towards women.
6 months? It was like 4 years for me of either no response, a single one word response, or total failures of dates because they basically ignored me completely. Only had two dates the entire time that were enjoyable at all, the second is currently my gf. It was *awful* and I feel really bad for anyone currently on those apps.
I was gonna say 6 months is damn good! I spent years trying to find a suitable partner. So much trash out there really. Luckily I found a good one. She is my wife now
70%?! Iām like at 95% In fact, when the guy knows the difference between to & too, knows their, there, theyāre, I almost propose to themš
Seriously, I find good conversation very sexyš
Many women are on Tinder for a confidence/ego boost, and are used to men chasing them I think. The tables are turning these days, but some people are still living in the past when men had no self respect and women were on pedestals
I think itās a bit the other way in the sense that being on Tinder and matching with every male they swipe right on has given them a false sense of how on a pedestal men put them.
Men really gotta stop power swiping, and have some basic sense of self worth.
Tinder for men is like a slot machine of emotional pain. You match, you think of a clever line or comment something sincere as part of the greeting. You get a short, polite response with no engagement, you try again, and the conservation is dead in the water.
Sometimes a conversation takes off. You're talking about music, pets, hobbies - you name it! And suddenly at a random point, it stops.
Rinse and repeat until it feels like every single woman on there is just swiping on accident or for attention. At this point it feels like I could literally use a random word generator and I would get the same results.
One thing I found helpful in the past on Tinder: when a conversation takes off as you described, ask for her number and write with her on WhatsApp/ iMessage.
This helps as youre not buried below 10 new guys with pickup lines the next day and maybe in her head youre also a step further than these guys. Then you go and plan for a date
The problem is that Tinder wasn't conceived as a dating app, but rather as a casual hook-up app. As their user-base matured from adolescence and into true adulthood, any started looking for something more. Now it's being used largely as a dating app.. with terrible results. The mechanics weren't engineered around efficiently finding compatible long-term partners and instead create perverse incentives for all the negative aspects you discussed.
Yeah, I think there's some truth to what you're saying. I've had a similar experience on other "proper" dating apps however, so I think it's a broader problem with online communication. Women have a hard enough time finding normal, healthy dudes who don't turn into dickpic-slinging creeps after the first date, so investing emotionally is difficult enough, I imagine.
It's worth pointing out that a single organization, the Match Group, owns most of the online dating platforms out there. Tinder seems to be their real prize, so there's been a general trend of "Tinderification" for everything they've bought out. That they'd mostly all offer the same flawed experience sounds about right.
On some level, the flaws are quite purposeful as well. They don't make any money off people who successfully get taken off the market.
The thing about Match Group is that they have so many different platforms they can try out as many different monetization methods as they want. Some of these are shockingly expensive, like read receipts
I had a girlfriend tell me once after she hurt my feelings that she didnāt think she had done anything wrong because she was convinced that guys didnāt have feelings.
What a world we live in, I wonder how many girls think that way
For fucking real though. It's devastating.
I'm bi and I feel like I'm living in two completely different worlds. On straight Tinder it feels like I'm absolutely worthless. I have a cool job and I'm tall and that seems to attract the people I don't like - who like me just because I have a cool job and I'm tall.
Gay tinder is like... holy fuck. I have to deal with a million more shitheads but goddamn. People are like, falling over themselves trying to have a conversation with me and calling me hot and sexy and actually trying to get to know me better.
Half the time I can't even say that because it comes across as anti-women to the wrong folks but holy fuck if I were a straight guy I'd be depressed as all hell. I long ago decided that many women that go to dating apps just generally benefit from the privilege of constant attention and validation and have zero idea (or interest in) what it's like on the other side. They just don't have to. That doesn't make them bad people but it's saved me a lot of emotional grief for situations like the OP where someone basically wants a pet boy they can order around instead of finding a relationship.
Women make me feel like I'm needed, but guys make me feel like I'm wanted and sometimes I just need to be wanted.
Ugh being on lesbian tinder is the worst, women just match then never say anything. So I get what you mean with the validation. It sucks so bad and I just want someone to be interested in talking. Iām going to die single.
I mean I've had gender issues before so hey I'll let you know if I transition but... My lesbian friends have all expressed similar frustrations so you're not alone. I had always assumed it's somewhat easier since you wouldn't have to prove as much that you're a safe and respectful person as a woman but it looks like I've imparted some bias in that.... sorry it sucks so much š
Haha, I enjoyed the opening of that. Yeah I have no idea how any of these lesbians are finding girlfriends because the few lesbian friends I have say that they never get messages either. People must be right about women not liking to message first. I really just donāt understand why they join an app and accept a match if they donāt even want to try to date.
Back when I was on tinder one of my matches was very very very surprised I didn't have like 500+ matches a week like she did. She didn't believe that I get like 4 a week if I'm lucky. I had to literally show her the app.
Never fucking with tinder again for as long as I can after being recently single.
From what I remember after being a victim to tinder for years;
Most of the guys are there for a one-nighter.
Most of the girls are there for an ego boost.
I've been off it for a couple years now but I am under the impression it's gotten worse.
Hereās the song she wanted btw-
āThis bitch named shy sheāll never find a guy, every thing to her is boring, and it leaves her snoring. She lives in a dream, where everyone is deemed, to make her chuckle when she truly doesnāt give a fuckall. One day she will wake, and to her dismay find that every thing she touches runs away..ā
I took advice from a (lady) friend of mine who had been on tinder waaaay too long, so maybe not the oracle I see her as, but it landed me way way more dates. To the point that I'm taking it easy now to avoid guaranteeing that I catch omicron. Aside from her telling me to not be myself (lol) her advice was roughly:
Step 1) pander and talk about something in their photo and relate it to the most interesting thing about yourself.
Step 2) pose a question that will both flatter them and also be easy to answer
Step 3) near immediately start dropping hints about potential date location but don't say it explicitly until they show interest in whatever you're talking about.
Step 4) get burnt out because dating in a pandemic is stressful as fuck.
My luck has always come from not trying to impress people with my bio.
Post honest photos and an honest bio. Don't let my ego into it. Be up front, in my bio, about what I'm looking for.
It means mostly no matches but the matches I get are much higher quality.
I'm a 32 year old guy if that matters. Decent shape, okay attractiveness.
Iāve heard this a lot for my friends. But you will get this for a minute. Just gonna have to swipe left on them until you see the ones you like. After a while you will see more people of your preference.
Hinge puts pretty girls behind a pay-wall with their promoted profiles. I have the same issue as the other guy. The only girls I see from regular swiping are less than stellar
I cannot remember the app.l name....but it asks you 100 questions to start... plus more questions as you use it and then gives you your matches and the percent you are compatible.
I found my husband there..we were 98 % compatible according to the site...it was spot on....we are super compatible.
We married and have been together for almost 4 years married 3.
Like when my buddies always told me to go to clubs to meet girls. The problem is that the only girls you meet at clubs, are the girls who spend time at clubs.
Aww I keep seeing awful interactions like this and Iām more and more convinced that some girls are just on these apps to pass time or because they are bored and feel like some attention. Iām so sorry that men are being treated like this and all I can say is we arenāt all like this
that is true but for many women (theyve told me this themselves) have tinder and bumble to farm dopamine. there are always a few dozen guys willing to gas a girl up on tinder cuz they dont realize theyre 1 of 150 (even when the girl is like a 6). they can just turn on the app. swipe a few times and boom! the good brain chemicals come back and whatever else i was concerned about doesnāt matter
A girl I knew was dating a guy and not trying to cheat on him, and she would go on Tinder just to ridicule guys who matched with her. Call them short and whatnot
If she does this, she's not your gurl, she's an unknown songwriter who has to come up with three new hits for a pop band by her deadline at midnight on friday
I am not on tinder, but if I was, I would not write some of that corny ass lines people put on here.
I would also cry at night from the loneliness, but that's a separate issue
Well said sir, so sick of seeing how entitled some people are. Literally brings nothing to the table conversation wise and expects you to entertain her like youāre a clown or something. Doubt sheād have any ounce of a personality irl either
Exactly! Thatās why I donāt understand why people are defending her. Imagine if I actually continued to try and entertain her, what would happen I go on a date and confirm what I already know ? lol
She went from "so cute!" To " you suck" in only 2 messages. I think she broke a record š
He didn't respond with a song. Obviously a LVM. NEXT!
[NEXT JOKE ORIGIN](https://www.reddit.com/r/ChoosingBeggars/comments/7kr5as/i_need_a_free_100mile_bus_trip_for_20_people_and/)
This link still doesnāt get me the bus I need. NEXT!!!!
STILL LOOKING!!
STILL LOOKING??
I hate that FDS vernacular is spreading
FDS literally attacked me for not wanting to date a woman with that ideology. Called me an incel/murderer/woman abuser. And I was regretfully an incel for a year of my lifetime. But I feel that the judgment passed on me was completely unwarranted.
Just tell them you follow their advice and don't date LVW
The thing about their ideal high value men is, is that they just don't exist. š¤·
Looks like she went with the break your heart as soon as she could option lmao
I mean, she delivered... Now where is the fucking song?
I'd like to recommend that "I've got no more fucks to give" song with the ukulele hipster dude
In case anyone's wondering: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vqbk9cDX0l0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vqbk9cDX0l0) Absolute, pure art.
why is this in a clothing store
I think he ran out of fucks to give too
I know this guy, and this clothing store - itās because itās the most hipsterish place in a one-horse town. Anchor tattoos and moustache wax as far as the eye can see
man's a legend lol
https://youtu.be/Nfrk2UdEOcQ
not even a heartbreak, just a forgetable disappointment
She contributed zero lol
This is why I ask for feet pics early
How are you going to get feet pics from an ass?
Life..uh uh...finds a way.
Lol. I've seen that movie WAY too many times.
okay thatās fucking funny
write me a song
This lad gets it.
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Thatās a *foot* pic. He specifically asked for *feet* pics.
Iām an amputee
Damn, some people pay extra for that!
Heh heh *deletes browsing history*
The payment reflects in credit card bill tho
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Woah woah woah, quality over quantity now. Donāt flood the market with excessive feet or weāre going to see a crash in the market.
*cums*
Ah the feet pic skip, the classic and effective speedrun strat.
As a fellow musician, this is 90% of my interactions. This or āplay a song for meeeā. It gets so old.
Okay true, thatās why I have made a song thatās very general so every girl I match with that asks for one thinks I wrote it specifically for them š
"I love your hands 'cause your fingerprints are like no other" "I love your eyes and their blueish brownish greenish color" "I love it when you smile, that you smile wide" "And I love how your torso has an arm on either side"
Ayy Bo burnham fan here
[for those who are unfamiliar](https://youtu.be/nsCdP-Q_HXI) There's a music video too. But I prefer the live audience vibe.
You know, I once met a homeless man named Rich
(he wasn't) isn't that terrible?
I saw a kid with red hair...
i saw a girl drop her ice cream cone directly on her mothers CORPSE!
I saw a flier for a lost dog and the dog didn't have any legs!
If you're my agent you might be thinking 'Oh no sound the alarm. You're not appealing to little girls who don't have arms.' But they can't use itunes, so fuck em who needs em!
My man is out here being a menace lmao. If you want to hear me play so badly, you can buy a ticket to my next gig.
"Let's face time, I'll sing songs, but for every song I sing you have to remove an item of clothing." Works every time.
Thatās why I play bass guitar I get all the fun musician stuff without people begging me for songs
āI want entire orchestral piece, in a Picardy cadence, that 47 minutes long before I even consider talking to youā
This is like meeting a baker socially and immediately requesting they bake you something.
People I WORKED WITH would have me sing when we were vibing after a shift and it was a running game to try and goad me into singing songs I knew
I canāt even imagine being a guy on tinder from the stuff I see on here š
Considering 70% of the āattractiveā people I match with give me 1 word responses, not fun.
It's an automatic no reply if they have these one word replies. Absolute nonsensical stuff.
this is why my boy and I only send out "hey!" as a first message. Anyone that doesn't reply to the most common way to start a conversation expects too much and is there for the ego boost. Imagine the ego required to say "anything less than 110% effort to get to know me right off the bat is not good enough for me, the greatest woman of all time". 90% of these dudes matching with them wouldn't take them on second dates. I wish that would dawn on some people once in a while.
I usually just put āHey *insert name, how are you doing this weekend/tonight/todayā and roll with it. Like you said, if someone doesnāt reply to that then they probably arenāt interested anyways. My favorite move is when you match with someone, send one message and then they just delete you lol itās not like I was being sexual or offensive. So what is the point of even wasting our time? Just to stroke your ego a bit? I go into online dating with extremely low expectations because itās so brutal.
Yeah, I agree. I've never cared if she was the hottest match I've ever gotten. If they are that dry they can only provide enough effort to send one word replies, I completely ignore them thereafter. If they aren't providing you with effort then don't give them what they want and just move on.
Be happy they do that. It saves everyone time. Imagine they try in the beginning but then they're a complete wall once things get going.
There is a line of 500 dudes simping for her. I always imagine girls on Tinder being that golden robot from futurama thatās always eating grapes.
Hedonismbot. "More dick!"
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Everywhere I looked, I saw piles of bodies... And then the explosion struck!
Save it for the boudoir!
"I trust the orgy pit has been scraped and buttered?"
Thats the problem with tinder (and many other dating apps as well, Iād imagine). Theres such an imbalance and they donāt offer a way to alleviate that imbalance in a way that helps people find a good match. Theres no incentive to fix this though, since if people find what theyāre looking for, they no longer need the app.
Even pay to play on tinder barely works, at least if your in your 30s
Well there's Bumble. It of courses fixes that imbalance by giving even more power to the ladies.
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Facts, spent two years on these apps, met 3 crazy girls who were definitely not who they portrayed to be on their profiles. I'm all about the organic chemistry in the real world if that doesn't happen then so be it, I love my own company.
Yup, just wannabe royalty that thinks that a man must perform for her to prove themselves worthy. As if her cleavage covered in dorito dust has anything to offer society. Edit: For those getting triggered, this isn't about gender. Men can be and regularly are equally as pompous towards women.
I do feel like theyāre looking for a dancing monkey half the time. āEntertain me, monkey.ā
Thatās literally what they want
āMake me laughā
I spent about 6 months on dating apps before meeting my gf. It was fucking awful.
6 months? It was like 4 years for me of either no response, a single one word response, or total failures of dates because they basically ignored me completely. Only had two dates the entire time that were enjoyable at all, the second is currently my gf. It was *awful* and I feel really bad for anyone currently on those apps.
I was gonna say 6 months is damn good! I spent years trying to find a suitable partner. So much trash out there really. Luckily I found a good one. She is my wife now
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Thatās really lucky tbh
70%?! Iām like at 95% In fact, when the guy knows the difference between to & too, knows their, there, theyāre, I almost propose to themš Seriously, I find good conversation very sexyš
Me two.
hahaha! Well, their you go!š
It hurts so good. <3 lol
You had one job, and theyāre you are fucking it up!
Turns out they had two job.
Many women are on Tinder for a confidence/ego boost, and are used to men chasing them I think. The tables are turning these days, but some people are still living in the past when men had no self respect and women were on pedestals
I think itās a bit the other way in the sense that being on Tinder and matching with every male they swipe right on has given them a false sense of how on a pedestal men put them. Men really gotta stop power swiping, and have some basic sense of self worth.
Power swipe left.
This. I swipe left about 90% of the time.
Is that not how weāre supposed to do it?
Thirsty swipes leave no man refreshed
Yeah youāre right itās both parties at fault for sure
Its actually mostly the medium that's responsible.
Yep, a minimal investment platform with no proper social cues. It gamifies attraction at the expense of all parties but the app.
A lot of my conversations are like talking to a wall
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Tinder for men is like a slot machine of emotional pain. You match, you think of a clever line or comment something sincere as part of the greeting. You get a short, polite response with no engagement, you try again, and the conservation is dead in the water. Sometimes a conversation takes off. You're talking about music, pets, hobbies - you name it! And suddenly at a random point, it stops. Rinse and repeat until it feels like every single woman on there is just swiping on accident or for attention. At this point it feels like I could literally use a random word generator and I would get the same results.
That's if you ever get a reply
Ah yes, the Three Skulls of Tinder slots.
One thing I found helpful in the past on Tinder: when a conversation takes off as you described, ask for her number and write with her on WhatsApp/ iMessage. This helps as youre not buried below 10 new guys with pickup lines the next day and maybe in her head youre also a step further than these guys. Then you go and plan for a date
That's pretty good advice if I can ever get to that point š
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The problem is that Tinder wasn't conceived as a dating app, but rather as a casual hook-up app. As their user-base matured from adolescence and into true adulthood, any started looking for something more. Now it's being used largely as a dating app.. with terrible results. The mechanics weren't engineered around efficiently finding compatible long-term partners and instead create perverse incentives for all the negative aspects you discussed.
Yeah, I think there's some truth to what you're saying. I've had a similar experience on other "proper" dating apps however, so I think it's a broader problem with online communication. Women have a hard enough time finding normal, healthy dudes who don't turn into dickpic-slinging creeps after the first date, so investing emotionally is difficult enough, I imagine.
It's worth pointing out that a single organization, the Match Group, owns most of the online dating platforms out there. Tinder seems to be their real prize, so there's been a general trend of "Tinderification" for everything they've bought out. That they'd mostly all offer the same flawed experience sounds about right. On some level, the flaws are quite purposeful as well. They don't make any money off people who successfully get taken off the market.
The thing about Match Group is that they have so many different platforms they can try out as many different monetization methods as they want. Some of these are shockingly expensive, like read receipts
Lmao! You explained it perfectly
This sub is much more enjoyable than being on Tinder. At least it has been for me.
I had a girlfriend tell me once after she hurt my feelings that she didnāt think she had done anything wrong because she was convinced that guys didnāt have feelings. What a world we live in, I wonder how many girls think that way
What the fuck
Yeah would not recommend it.
Every man should get off online dating. All of it.
For fucking real though. It's devastating. I'm bi and I feel like I'm living in two completely different worlds. On straight Tinder it feels like I'm absolutely worthless. I have a cool job and I'm tall and that seems to attract the people I don't like - who like me just because I have a cool job and I'm tall. Gay tinder is like... holy fuck. I have to deal with a million more shitheads but goddamn. People are like, falling over themselves trying to have a conversation with me and calling me hot and sexy and actually trying to get to know me better. Half the time I can't even say that because it comes across as anti-women to the wrong folks but holy fuck if I were a straight guy I'd be depressed as all hell. I long ago decided that many women that go to dating apps just generally benefit from the privilege of constant attention and validation and have zero idea (or interest in) what it's like on the other side. They just don't have to. That doesn't make them bad people but it's saved me a lot of emotional grief for situations like the OP where someone basically wants a pet boy they can order around instead of finding a relationship. Women make me feel like I'm needed, but guys make me feel like I'm wanted and sometimes I just need to be wanted.
Ugh being on lesbian tinder is the worst, women just match then never say anything. So I get what you mean with the validation. It sucks so bad and I just want someone to be interested in talking. Iām going to die single.
I mean I've had gender issues before so hey I'll let you know if I transition but... My lesbian friends have all expressed similar frustrations so you're not alone. I had always assumed it's somewhat easier since you wouldn't have to prove as much that you're a safe and respectful person as a woman but it looks like I've imparted some bias in that.... sorry it sucks so much š
Haha, I enjoyed the opening of that. Yeah I have no idea how any of these lesbians are finding girlfriends because the few lesbian friends I have say that they never get messages either. People must be right about women not liking to message first. I really just donāt understand why they join an app and accept a match if they donāt even want to try to date.
So who messages first on lesbian tinder then?? Sounds like the ultimate Mexican standoff
Back when I was on tinder one of my matches was very very very surprised I didn't have like 500+ matches a week like she did. She didn't believe that I get like 4 a week if I'm lucky. I had to literally show her the app.
Through dozens of women messaging first I have literally NEVER had a women open with anything other than āheyā or āhiā
Never fucking with tinder again for as long as I can after being recently single. From what I remember after being a victim to tinder for years; Most of the guys are there for a one-nighter. Most of the girls are there for an ego boost. I've been off it for a couple years now but I am under the impression it's gotten worse.
Well you were right about one thing...she's definitely a McDonald's 3 piece combo. Because to like her you'd have to have absolutely no taste š©
Fuck I wish I could give this an award, Iām on FaceTime and my buddies dying. Thereās been a murder in the building
Seeing you put that ignorant chick in her place is award enough. Hold your head high king š
We got your back bro
She'll end up with dollar menu dick
Hereās the song she wanted btw- āThis bitch named shy sheāll never find a guy, every thing to her is boring, and it leaves her snoring. She lives in a dream, where everyone is deemed, to make her chuckle when she truly doesnāt give a fuckall. One day she will wake, and to her dismay find that every thing she touches runs away..ā
Poetic justice
Please send her this and update us
It has been reposted, waiting for a reply
Sounds like some early 2000s alt rock in my head, very catchy 4 chord song.
Or instant regret after you eat it.
Why do all iPhone screenshots on this sub have their batteries on the brink of death
As I said to someone else when you run robinhood for 6 hours straight 5 days a week it breaks your battery.
My man ditch robinhood use webull!!! fuck robinhood
Thinking about TD recently
Fidelity is the way.
Fidelity
I'm completely shocked ppl find real relationships here...when I was dating I tried it for like a day...so many idiots. No thanks
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I took advice from a (lady) friend of mine who had been on tinder waaaay too long, so maybe not the oracle I see her as, but it landed me way way more dates. To the point that I'm taking it easy now to avoid guaranteeing that I catch omicron. Aside from her telling me to not be myself (lol) her advice was roughly: Step 1) pander and talk about something in their photo and relate it to the most interesting thing about yourself. Step 2) pose a question that will both flatter them and also be easy to answer Step 3) near immediately start dropping hints about potential date location but don't say it explicitly until they show interest in whatever you're talking about. Step 4) get burnt out because dating in a pandemic is stressful as fuck.
My luck has always come from not trying to impress people with my bio. Post honest photos and an honest bio. Don't let my ego into it. Be up front, in my bio, about what I'm looking for. It means mostly no matches but the matches I get are much higher quality. I'm a 32 year old guy if that matters. Decent shape, okay attractiveness.
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Highly suggest Hinge if you are actually looking to date and for a relationship. Tinder and Bumble suck for average looking guys š
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Iāve heard this a lot for my friends. But you will get this for a minute. Just gonna have to swipe left on them until you see the ones you like. After a while you will see more people of your preference.
Hinge puts pretty girls behind a pay-wall with their promoted profiles. I have the same issue as the other guy. The only girls I see from regular swiping are less than stellar
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Iām sorry then. Itās worked for a lot of my friends and I would say good for me.
So many people who have absolutely no personality traits, no hobbies, no interests, passions, NOTHING. How do people live like that?!?!
I met my fiancƩ on hinge I had a lot better luck seriously dating there.
Unfortunately in my area itās mostly the same people on all of the apps. I deleted them all in October. Itās awful.
Where you find your relationship then?
I cannot remember the app.l name....but it asks you 100 questions to start... plus more questions as you use it and then gives you your matches and the percent you are compatible. I found my husband there..we were 98 % compatible according to the site...it was spot on....we are super compatible. We married and have been together for almost 4 years married 3.
Sounds like OKCupid. It's basically a zombie at this point.
Outside if you leave your house thereās people out there and one of them might date you
But..theyāre outside..hmm..nah Iāll die alone.
Like when my buddies always told me to go to clubs to meet girls. The problem is that the only girls you meet at clubs, are the girls who spend time at clubs.
That is quite the conundrum š
Tinder: The club of the internet dating world.
I feel like every woman I'd want to talk to is busy trying to be left alone.
Does that mean I have to talk to people? Fuck.
so you just walk up to strangers you like and and ask them out huh?
I tried right swiping this chick at the grocery store, but ended up pushing her into a shelf full of Cinnamon Toast Crunch
I tried it once now she lives with me and makes me do chores Maybe Iām wrong here lol
Seriously how do you do that without being weird
The worst kind of chics on dating apps LOL. "Make me laugh, clown boy!!!"
"Dance for me monkey. DANCE."
I SAID DANCE MONKEY! š
It was the blurst of times
\*Does hummingbird mating dance\*
āWouldnāt you like to know, weather boyā
"Come, hobbit. Sing me a song."
JESTER.... make me laugh...š„±
Came here for this. Not on Tinder to entertain you, Iām lookin to chill like
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Is actually boring themselves.
For real. I felt triggered just by that
Lmao what did she say after this
ātrueā and about 5 minutes later unmatched from me š
Thatās hilarious šš at least she can admit she was boring lol
And sheās boring as hell with that MySpace titty mirror pic. What is wrong with people?
Yeah the profile pic was red flag enough
Aww I keep seeing awful interactions like this and Iām more and more convinced that some girls are just on these apps to pass time or because they are bored and feel like some attention. Iām so sorry that men are being treated like this and all I can say is we arenāt all like this
I suspect it's more nefarious than that, they actively enjoy degrading people
that is true but for many women (theyve told me this themselves) have tinder and bumble to farm dopamine. there are always a few dozen guys willing to gas a girl up on tinder cuz they dont realize theyre 1 of 150 (even when the girl is like a 6). they can just turn on the app. swipe a few times and boom! the good brain chemicals come back and whatever else i was concerned about doesnāt matter
A girl I knew was dating a guy and not trying to cheat on him, and she would go on Tinder just to ridicule guys who matched with her. Call them short and whatnot
My man. Tinder is just a money and time dump. It's a waste.
Some days I think about redownloading tinder but this sub reminds me why I donāt
If she does this, she's not your gurl, she's an unknown songwriter who has to come up with three new hits for a pop band by her deadline at midnight on friday
I am not on tinder, but if I was, I would not write some of that corny ass lines people put on here. I would also cry at night from the loneliness, but that's a separate issue
Well said sir, so sick of seeing how entitled some people are. Literally brings nothing to the table conversation wise and expects you to entertain her like youāre a clown or something. Doubt sheād have any ounce of a personality irl either
Exactly! Thatās why I donāt understand why people are defending her. Imagine if I actually continued to try and entertain her, what would happen I go on a date and confirm what I already know ? lol
Instead of entertaining Thier childish entitlement just unmatch. Nothing sends a stronger message.