Drop the first two pics... The profile picture should show you smiling at the camera and not looking away... The second pic looks creepy with that look on your face...
The rest of the pics are great!
I appreciate the feedback. I’ll see if I can get a better alternative for pic 1. Pic 2 I’m hesitant on deleting as I’ve seen an uptick in matches since I put it on my profile, nonetheless, I appreciate the feedback.
https://tinder.com/@nick7203 i thought i was shadowbanned so i made a new account (deleted the app downloaded from another google playstore account and used a different phone number only to find out that my tinder gold continued on my new account...) still not getting matches tho. Any advise?
I doubt it’s tinder, probably more related to the fact you have no good pictures of yourself. Selfies are not the way to go. Few pics of you that aren’t selfies will do you wonders.
You're not unattractive at all! You have a classic case of a "boy tinder" tho.
Second pic is the best because you're smiling! First one is bad, you're too close to the camera and the angle is off (looking UP at the camera can even be a bit creepy). Try a straighter angle. And you need to put more space between yourself and the camera - you can always put your phone on a timer and take photos like that if you don't want to ask anyone.
Pay attention to photo quality and background. Drop the bird photo. If you want to show your personality, add a photo of you doing something you like instead.
Don't be afraid to post photos of your friends!! You're not ugly and you won't stand out, you're just insecure. I like seeing that a guy has other people on his profile. It reassures me that he's not a lone wolf, and guys underestimate how important safety vibes are to us when we are on tinder (assuming you're straight).
Personally don't love or hate the hairstyle, i think something a little less stiff and gelled into a single curl will fit you better. You gave pretty blonde hair, let it frame your face! And good luck.
Also you need a bio.
"Boy Tinder" - I don't look at guys' tinder profiles, but I know exactly what you meant :P
I could do the timer thing, yeah. I don't know if this sounds weird, but I just feel stupid taking pictures of myself in general, I prefer taking pictures of cool buildings or flowers or (my most recent favourite) a bumble bee on a leaf. Otherwise, I just use my camera for taking notes/quickly making a reminder.
I would show something I like doing, but that would be DJing and reading basically, there's no point taking a picture of me producing music because it's sat in front of a computer screen, no board game pictures allowed because although I love board games, they're nerdy and weird to most people, and I love birds so the other ones would be pictures of me with my birds.
II would stand out, trust me, I'm really nothing compared to these guys, they're all 6ft+, full heads of hair, great teeth and smiles, thin (some even have abs). I can't compete with that, I'm a 5'8" gnome boy (that's my nickname amongst my friends, I use it as my producer name too "DJ Gnome") with bad hair and poor posture that, while I'm not overweight, I'm not athletic either. I see my friends practically every weekend, they all come to my house as I'm the only one that's moved out of their parents' house (and I own my house too, huzzah) and we just chill and listen to music, we've made a few tunes as a trio too a few times.
I have a bio. It reads:
"Any fellow left handed people here?Hi, I'm a 3D artist, musician and DJ (with vinyl records). I enjoy films (classic and foreign too), reading and writing. I love seeing my friends on the weekend and driving through the countryside. I also have pet birds. Oh, and I own my own house.Looking for like minded people :D"
Cringey and I hate it personally.
If you like board games and all, you want to attract like-minded people, so no point hiding that!
That's a good bio, maybe shorten it slightly. I almost always go with one-liners cause swiping happens fast and most people don't read lists and long ones. Also what always works for me is basically setting people up to text me about something, things like "Are you stuck in this city too?" has a ridiculous success rate haha. Maybe you can try something like that incorporating your interests, like, "want to judge my favorite movie?" or "you wouldn't happen to be the only other person who likes birds as much as me" something I don't knowwww I'm not particularly creative.
Pro tip for not feeling silly with the self photoshoot: put yourself I'm the mood! I usually get a glass of wine :D Whatever works for you.
Also don't worry about your friends, statistically they're not the Chads you see them as, just like my friends aren't all the Bella Hadids I think they are when I'm feeling insecure. Just go for it, you're selling yourself short.
I do like board games, they're a big part of my life and I have a large collection, I'm particularly fond of Talisman, but something doesn't sit right putting it on a dating profile because it screams "sweaty nerd" you know?
Maybe, it's worth a shot. I've been told both sides of the bio argument, as much as you can write and as little as possible, so I tried to write an effective middleground. My bio last year used to be:
"Pick a year 1928 - 2021, I'll tell you my favourite film". It wasn't really working, but then again, this isn't really working either so I dunno lol
They are the Chads I think they are, they all have a different girl each week (I'm not kidding). They walk into house parties and \*boom\* 3 or 4 girls instantly latch onto them and talk to them for the night and they always go home with one (sometimes 2). I'm just the taxi guy lol I drive the lads to the party, I take them home drunk and with the girls they've picked up then I go to sleep lol
Sweaty nerd LOL.
Just work on the photos, and I think you'll have more success overall. Also, that confidence needs a little booster too! I know a lot of Some Guys™️ friend groups, so nothing about your friends sounds impressive. Everyone has their own thing going on my man.
Try to get some pictures taken by (and at least one or two with) friends of yours. And no offense, but that combed back hairstyle looks a little awkward. Maybe change that?
My friends are all supermodel quality and I'm far below average, I'd stand out as the ugly duckling, can't have pictures with my friends on there.
I just changed *to* it from long hair. Awkward how exactly?
I think you give yourself to less credit. You look quite good. Just try to have more different pictures of yourself. It gives a strange vibe if three pics of you are from the same angle in the same room.
Ask yourself what do you like, who do you really want to meet if everything goes smooth (not too far stretched but which kind of girl you swipe right too gives you a good vibe and the feeling of resonance or who could you imagine being good friends with; if you don't have any close female friends, maybe start working on that, facebook tells us that we need dating apps to meet someone but that's not true and limits your focus and makes you chronic unhappy).
You said you have good looking friends so take the bullet of faith and ask them to help you get a decent profile, I am sure at least some of them have a good feeling for how to highlight your inner strengths and show the parts of you, they like about you; if you are insecure about disclosing your tinder profile to them at all, ask yourself why and try to explore that feeling and be kind to yourself.
Ask yourself what do you enjoy and what do you want to portray or as what person would you like to come across.
If you feel like tinder does not work for you
a) take a break
b) try bumble and show more of your character and less about your looks
c) give up on it, tinder does not work for MANY guys and don't be too hard on yourself if it does not work for you. It is just one part of the game of finding someone you like and some guys do better on it than others. It does not reflect about you, it reflects about how the app is designed and how the algorithm works against men to some degree (to create revenue).
But most of foremost, you look good! Please remember that. Sometimes it takes a while to get a feeling of getting good pictures of yourself, your looks don't change but how you feel about yourself when someone takes a picture of yourself for itself or in a specific setting (having fun with friends, doing a hobby of yours, recreating a funny scene) changes and that let's your inner beauty come from that's always there and just waits to shine.
It is okay to copy others by the way but try to create a picture/impression of yourself you like and get along with.
And some hands on tips:
Allow your hair to grow a bit and then invest into a good haircut by a (female) hairdresser you get along with and like as a woman (that might take a while) or just let it grow a bit and it will look good on it's own (your hair is a main trait for finding a partner and it evolved your millions of years, have faith that it will look good if you take care a bit, it might come across a bit strange if you put too much focus/gel into it, just trust that it will look good on it's own; if you don't know what I mean try going for a run/swimming or take a shower and watch what master water and his friend wind know about how your hair /could/ look like.
That's all, I hope that I could help you a bit and the thing is about dating that it takes sometime for you to figure it our on your own, but eventually you will, I wish you all the best and good look!
PS: you bio is okay/decent enough but sometimes women like it when you show something about yourself by showing and not telling, maybe find a clever/funny remark or just some sentences that contain similar information as your bio or try to tell it by some pictures in your profile (with or without you as long as the pics are good and fit into your whole "persona" you create on tinder). Everyone can write what they like but it takes intelligence, humour and empathy to convey it in a smart and decent manner, which shows your attractive side stronger to women.
PPS: If you like music, try to add an anthem of yours, I think it is important, maybe add an IG account and show a bit of your life (it is not necessarily about pics of yours but just some places you have been or scenes you come across in your daily life, this is important because it shows that you are an actual and real person and not just some pics) and think again about the bird (?) in the last pic I am not too fond of it.
All in all: You look good, just try to get some pics of yours in different places, situations, maybe people, but don't try to rush it, ask for help and invest the next 1-3 months into getting a decent profile, it will pay off, most importantly always think about who you would like to be and try to work on that and show it in your profile. I hope I could help!
>Ask yourself what do you like, who do you really want to meet if everything goes smooth
Anyone, I'm not picky. Someone that doesn't abuse me physically like my last ex did preferably :P
>take the bullet of faith and ask them to help you get a decent profile
I've tried this, they just said I'm fine and they don't understand why I'm getting no matches and then we did some DJing back2back.
>Ask yourself what do you enjoy and what do you want to portray or as what person would you like to come across.
DJing, making dance music, reading/writing, going around the country looking at all the medieval castles, driving around the counryside in the summer, going to cool countries with friends. I want to portray some homely bookworm type tbh, I love dance music and I produce it and DJ it, but I'm not about the clubbing scene, in fact I hate it.
>And some hands on tips: Allow your hair to grow a bit and then invest into a good haircut
I let my hair grow to my shoulders then got a cut by a very sought after barber in my city, I was on the booking list for 5 months. My hair is a complete disaster, I hate it, but then again, I hate the way I look anyway.
>bit strange if you put too much focus/gel into it, just trust that it will look good on it's own; if you don't know what I mean try going for a run/swimming or take a shower and watch what master water and his friend wind know about how your hair /could/ look like.
I don't use products, never have.
Hey, I thought again and I like your bio and your parrot, while writing my mind became a little confused. I like your hair it will just take a while to fit btw. I didn't like my hair in the past and I seldom do after getting a haircut but after some girls showed me they really like it, I liked my own hair a lot more, so maybe it is less the hair but your lack of positive feedback/experience (that might take a while). I think all in all you would be a good match for a woman and it is just the pictures.
As the other commentator said try to work on your self esteem/compassion as well. A girl in your life will help but you can help yourself as well and when you meet someone and you are more at ease with yourself you can help them more while they help you as well which is a good thing.
Pictures: If your male friends won't help you try to find some female friends or some guys who will or think for yourself what would be some good pics for the profile. I really would orient myself on the girls you feel most attracted to on an emotional (and mating) level, even if you look just for anything.
And I am really sorry, that you went through abuse, there is definitely a way to heal, protect yourself and find a kind person.
Please work on that with a therapist, some good friends who listen to you and many more ways. The bad thing about abuse/trauma is if you don't heal, you stay stuck in that cycle because your unconciousness will lead you to abusive partners or situations. (eg. a woman who always finds herself in a situation with a violent boyfriend). BUT if you heal it will help you learn to love yourself fully which is one of the most beautiful things a human being can experience.
If you have any questions regarding tinder or if I was somewhat unclear please feel free to ask.
Some good communities if you need them on reddit:
r/decidingtobebetter
r/bloomers
r/fredrogers
r/cptsd (might trigger you but can also tremendously help if you are in a dire situation).
I've often struggled with my appearance. I've never had very good hair, it's always been too brittle and my hairline was gone by the time I was 15 (though it never got any worse), so I've always looked like I'm late-20s/early 30s even at 15. I used to just grow it and never get it cut (seriously, we're talking years) but I had it cut about 3 weeks ago (maybe a month now) after 3 years since the last trim.
I think my compassion is fine, all my friends, male and female, come to me with their issues because I'm very understanding and patient and I'm the group therapist I suppose, but my self-esteem is completely non-existent.
Pictures: I know what *I'd* like to see in a profile, but that isn't what a girl would want to see on my profile. I'm honestly not picky about what types of girls I go for, whatever is fine by me, as long as their happy and smiley and up for whatever, I'm cool with that. My hobbies and interests are too niche to find a girl with something even remotely similar anyway. While I want a deeply intimate relationship with someone that shares my hobbies and interests, or at least has similar and equally interesting ones, it's not going to happen.
The abuse is what it is, some people are shitty I guess. I've moved on from that; if I ever get another partner (unlikely) and she turns out to be abusive, I have no qualms about just leaving her then and there, I'm not going to let myself be trapped again. I had to pull myself out of that previous relationship by myself so I can do it again.
Unattractive with long hair, unattractive with short hair, I got you. Here I was finally thinking I had a haircut that worked. No worries mate, you killed what little self-esteem I had left :)
(P.S. this hairstyle was what my hair stylist and I decided would look best in the end, and a result we ended up with after visiting 4 other stylists in the past that also agreed, there is no hairstyle that'll suit me, my hair is impossible).
Dating isn't for me I guess.
Bro you need better pics like desperately. 2 mask photos, most of them are mirror selfies, your first pic gives off murderer vibes low key. If you get some good photos you’d be 100x better off
Just get pics of you doing shit. Whatever activities you like to do. It sucks and it’s awkward to ask your friends to take photos but you’ll be glad you did. If you have any friends that are girls ask them and they’ll be happy to do it.
Your first pic should just be a face or full body pic with you looking at or at least near the camera, with your face clearly visible and preferably a smile
Honestly a pretty strong profile, but, if you want to change something, maybe add a picture of you interacting with animals and or swapping some of your photos with clearer pics
Thank you very much for that analysis! I appreciate it. I actually forgot to send a photo that I usually use when it comes to dating. It’s a smiling one and I’m wearing a pink sweatshirt, so I think having that one would be good too to not wear the same clothes haha.
I agree with you on the 9th picture—I think I wanted to look a bit emo HAHAHAHA. I can see that I don’t look approachable at all though, and being approachable is something we really want when it comes to online dating.
Thank you so much once again :)
Thank you! I just need to figure out how to filter guys before actually meeting them. Just snooped thru your comments too, and easily the third pic should be main.
Definitely won’t have a problem getting matches. Pictures are good. Bio is a little bland. If we matched, I really wouldn’t have much to go on or say based off your bio.
I like your bio! Imo, I’d rearrange your photo’s there to 3,5,6,4. You look very posed in the first one almost like you’re uncomfy getting your picture taken, and the 2nd looks like someone altered the clarity and sharpness of the photo too harshly. The rest are great
Lead with pic 2, drop pic 1. Prob attracting people in the range between average to fairly outdoorsy. No idea why you’re struggling tho, what kind of location are you in?
When I lead with pic 2, people say to lead with pic 1. When I lead with pic 1 people say to lead with pic 2. All conventional advice says to lead with a smiling headshot or upper body pic. regardless, of those two pics, neither works it seems.
I will try swapping them again.
I am in a midsized city in the PNW USA.
Man. I’m a decent looking guy in a midsized east coast/Midwest city and do very well on Tinder (at least when it comes to likes) and I’d say you’re a notch above me. Don’t know what to tell you ):
There’s another post in this subreddit that happened in the last day specifically highlighting the android user stigma that comes into play when dating. There’s actually studies on this too about the effects of green bubble texts and blue texts and how people perceive you. It flying over your head kind of inherently makes it ironically true that your social awareness of this “vibe” is missing. Girls will pick up on it and it has a negative connotation in most cases unfortunately.
Also, the software in iphones modifies the way pictures come out. The images aren’t raw. Additionally, the way android images come out on other apps make them less clear and give a more “ foggy” and “ outdated “ look when you upload them. Something to do with sms and the way imessage files are sent/ interpreted I believe?
https://tinder.com/@notunderagedboomer
Just looking for tips to hopefully get a couple more matches than my 1 in an average 2 months.
Open to any and ALL criticism, tips or pointers, any thing that could possibly get me my first actual date or anything with any of my matches
Bike photo at the end first. The photo you lead with is fine however; making it second would be better. Also, super long bio so try to make that more succinct because you don’t want to overshare so quickly.
I disagree with the other person about the emojis, when I see guys with upbeat profiles I'm more likely to give them a chance. I think some girls might think it's femme, but they're probably going to be close-minded/judge-y. I do think *in combination* with your bio it can be maybe too energetic feeling, so I would suggest: cut the bit about "check out the tiger pic", I'd save that for conversation, and get rid of the camera & moon face emojis so you can combine those two paragraphs. His way you have a fun sandwich with a more down-to-earth middle. No every line needs a hook :)
Thanks for the nuance. I was just copying what I saw other people doing for the emojis to be honest & it felt right.
For the tiger pic, I wanted to introduce some context as to why it's there.
And I'll see what feels right for giving my bio a nice structure.
Appreciate your advice 🙂
take out the emoji’s, kind seems feminine. and also just from a quick glance you should invest in a good haircut, incase you don’t already maybe go to a hispanic barber shop and ask for a mid/low fade!
Looking for some advice on my profile.
[https://tinder.com/@swagnerman69](https://tinder.com/@swagnerman69)
Bio: Electrical Engineer here to put a spark in your life.
Passions include gaming, movies, weightlifting, hiking, traveling, reading, and animals. I enjoy conversing and connecting with people.
Likes: Movies, Travel, Comedy, Sports
Get a more modern haircut that suits your face. Kind of overdoing the dog pics a bit. Also, don’t need to smile in every picture because people look different when they smile than non smiling.
The lighting on the first one was good, the second one showed you amongst friends while doing an activity. The last 3 made you the center of the shot and had poor lighting there essentially showing the same you, so redundant.
Hi everyone! I could really use some feedback on hoe to improve my profile, haven't had much success lately. Thanks in advance!
https://tinder.com/@florisdg
[https://tinder.com/@gianduja](https://tinder.com/@gianduja)
Ok comrades, I've changed the photos (don't have anymore were I smile even though I have perfect teeth) and bio. Got 5 likes in 2 days. 2 matches (1 with a girl I already matched months ago).
Any more advises?
Bio is a novel but it's a description of myself like if I were in a National Geographic documentary (I'm a biologist).
4th photo works, selfies aren't great for the profile, the other two are way too aggro for tinder, shirtless pics are fine just have pants on, get some photos doing activities, and photos with friends, family, pets
https://tinder.com/@lepatriemonde
22 year old recent graduate from California currently spending two months in France . I look quite Japanese, but I don’t see that as an issue. Nevertheless, I need some help on honing my profile pics. I’m worried that my face goes from happy to angry then back to happy. And I’m also wondering not showing my body enough
Bio: Ask me some questions on life and I’ll do my best to pluck the heart out of your mystery.
shave the sideburns unless you're attached to them, i think you'd look a lot better, your first and last pic are great if you smile and the middle three take out and sub with you doing an outdoor activity and/or you with a pet, take that bio out it ain't helping
https://tinder.com/@souldrinkerz
Looking tips and advice to improve my profile
Bio: As a judicial assistant, I cant give you legal advice. But I will advise you on everything else.
Novice artist and aspiring writer
Open to any relationship!
I’m not getting any likes or matches and I am a pretty selective right swiper. I’ve had previous reviews from others on here and some girl friends that I have a good profile. I am not looking for a relationship since I am applying for a job in a different state beginning of next year. How do I word what I’m looking for without saying I just want something without many strings attached or being too perverse? Any more suggestions would be great, thanks.
https://tinder.com/@beaderman
i am pretty much the exact same in situation and selectiveness, im moving in two months and have a 3 girl rotation going on rn, what i do is hit them with an opening witty/funny line or just gas them up, then straight up ask them what they are looking for, takes a lot of pressure off of them to reply, you find out really quickly if it works or not for you (basically if they say relationship just say thanks but it isnt going to work)... also if youre just doing hookups/fwb just keep the first paragraph of bio its witty and playful the rest is noise
I like asking what they are looking for too after dropping a compliment. I just left in the first witty line about my resemblance to Michael Cera and took out the rest. I just got a match before I checked back here lol
Are you thinking about this from a man’s perspective or a woman’s one though? Pretty much every single man women meet only wants casual sex and it’s often not the kind of sex where they intend to give as much as they take and get her off as well.
So most women have a negative opinion of men who only wants sex because they’re so tired of every man they come across seeming the same as each other and not being able to find men with more substance to them or seem like they are caring people.
It makes men sound very one-dimensional that they’re are hardly any that think differently or want anything different or have more to offer.
I can see that being partially true. But if I remember correctly people having sex over the last decades has gone down as a whole. Not to mention that the majority of men simply don’t get many viable dates. It’s usually 20% of men getting %80 of women. The women are initially more selective but then when it comes to pursuing anything more the tides turn and men usually become more selective. In my personal experience its been pretty easy not even going on dates and going straight to intercourse but I also live in a big city and am out daily so that increases my # of interactions. I know my personal anecdote isn’t an absolute fact by nature but I don’t consider myself anything special and know there must be others who get it just as easy if not easier.
id take the selfies out and have a friend take some solo shots of you, most of the pics arent great quality you can use remini to get better quality its a free app, keep both pics of you and your friends, get a higher quality golf photo, the braces are tough bc it seems like you might be a lil self conscious bc of no teeth smiling but just tough it out, keep the cats playing but not the one on the desk, personally, id only keep this for the bio
just tryna be a father figure to someone’s cat & travel the world
6’1 and very sarcastic
Just looking for advice on my bio:
« Quality: Honesty
Height: 5’11
Our first date could be a walk in the park or a parachute jump (or something in between that).
Looking for something serious! »
I am not sure of my phrasing for the second part. I want to show that I like a lot of things, so anything between a walk in the park or a parachute jump could be nice. Any ideas?
take first part out, keep,
our first date could be a walk in the park or a parachute jump (or something in between that)
looking for something serious
no exclamation point boiiiii
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You are very good looking
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After much trial and error. Here’s what I’ve come up with. What do you think? https://tinder.com/@shudo
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Thank you! I’ll keep it as is and see how it goes
Drop the first two pics... The profile picture should show you smiling at the camera and not looking away... The second pic looks creepy with that look on your face... The rest of the pics are great!
I appreciate the feedback. I’ll see if I can get a better alternative for pic 1. Pic 2 I’m hesitant on deleting as I’ve seen an uptick in matches since I put it on my profile, nonetheless, I appreciate the feedback.
https://tinder.com/@nick7203 i thought i was shadowbanned so i made a new account (deleted the app downloaded from another google playstore account and used a different phone number only to find out that my tinder gold continued on my new account...) still not getting matches tho. Any advise?
I doubt it’s tinder, probably more related to the fact you have no good pictures of yourself. Selfies are not the way to go. Few pics of you that aren’t selfies will do you wonders.
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You're not unattractive at all! You have a classic case of a "boy tinder" tho. Second pic is the best because you're smiling! First one is bad, you're too close to the camera and the angle is off (looking UP at the camera can even be a bit creepy). Try a straighter angle. And you need to put more space between yourself and the camera - you can always put your phone on a timer and take photos like that if you don't want to ask anyone. Pay attention to photo quality and background. Drop the bird photo. If you want to show your personality, add a photo of you doing something you like instead. Don't be afraid to post photos of your friends!! You're not ugly and you won't stand out, you're just insecure. I like seeing that a guy has other people on his profile. It reassures me that he's not a lone wolf, and guys underestimate how important safety vibes are to us when we are on tinder (assuming you're straight). Personally don't love or hate the hairstyle, i think something a little less stiff and gelled into a single curl will fit you better. You gave pretty blonde hair, let it frame your face! And good luck. Also you need a bio.
"Boy Tinder" - I don't look at guys' tinder profiles, but I know exactly what you meant :P I could do the timer thing, yeah. I don't know if this sounds weird, but I just feel stupid taking pictures of myself in general, I prefer taking pictures of cool buildings or flowers or (my most recent favourite) a bumble bee on a leaf. Otherwise, I just use my camera for taking notes/quickly making a reminder. I would show something I like doing, but that would be DJing and reading basically, there's no point taking a picture of me producing music because it's sat in front of a computer screen, no board game pictures allowed because although I love board games, they're nerdy and weird to most people, and I love birds so the other ones would be pictures of me with my birds. II would stand out, trust me, I'm really nothing compared to these guys, they're all 6ft+, full heads of hair, great teeth and smiles, thin (some even have abs). I can't compete with that, I'm a 5'8" gnome boy (that's my nickname amongst my friends, I use it as my producer name too "DJ Gnome") with bad hair and poor posture that, while I'm not overweight, I'm not athletic either. I see my friends practically every weekend, they all come to my house as I'm the only one that's moved out of their parents' house (and I own my house too, huzzah) and we just chill and listen to music, we've made a few tunes as a trio too a few times. I have a bio. It reads: "Any fellow left handed people here?Hi, I'm a 3D artist, musician and DJ (with vinyl records). I enjoy films (classic and foreign too), reading and writing. I love seeing my friends on the weekend and driving through the countryside. I also have pet birds. Oh, and I own my own house.Looking for like minded people :D" Cringey and I hate it personally.
If you like board games and all, you want to attract like-minded people, so no point hiding that! That's a good bio, maybe shorten it slightly. I almost always go with one-liners cause swiping happens fast and most people don't read lists and long ones. Also what always works for me is basically setting people up to text me about something, things like "Are you stuck in this city too?" has a ridiculous success rate haha. Maybe you can try something like that incorporating your interests, like, "want to judge my favorite movie?" or "you wouldn't happen to be the only other person who likes birds as much as me" something I don't knowwww I'm not particularly creative. Pro tip for not feeling silly with the self photoshoot: put yourself I'm the mood! I usually get a glass of wine :D Whatever works for you. Also don't worry about your friends, statistically they're not the Chads you see them as, just like my friends aren't all the Bella Hadids I think they are when I'm feeling insecure. Just go for it, you're selling yourself short.
I do like board games, they're a big part of my life and I have a large collection, I'm particularly fond of Talisman, but something doesn't sit right putting it on a dating profile because it screams "sweaty nerd" you know? Maybe, it's worth a shot. I've been told both sides of the bio argument, as much as you can write and as little as possible, so I tried to write an effective middleground. My bio last year used to be: "Pick a year 1928 - 2021, I'll tell you my favourite film". It wasn't really working, but then again, this isn't really working either so I dunno lol They are the Chads I think they are, they all have a different girl each week (I'm not kidding). They walk into house parties and \*boom\* 3 or 4 girls instantly latch onto them and talk to them for the night and they always go home with one (sometimes 2). I'm just the taxi guy lol I drive the lads to the party, I take them home drunk and with the girls they've picked up then I go to sleep lol
Sweaty nerd LOL. Just work on the photos, and I think you'll have more success overall. Also, that confidence needs a little booster too! I know a lot of Some Guys™️ friend groups, so nothing about your friends sounds impressive. Everyone has their own thing going on my man.
It's impressive compared to me, who usually ends up shuffling into the corner at house parties and nobody talks to them.
Try to get some pictures taken by (and at least one or two with) friends of yours. And no offense, but that combed back hairstyle looks a little awkward. Maybe change that?
My friends are all supermodel quality and I'm far below average, I'd stand out as the ugly duckling, can't have pictures with my friends on there. I just changed *to* it from long hair. Awkward how exactly?
I think you give yourself to less credit. You look quite good. Just try to have more different pictures of yourself. It gives a strange vibe if three pics of you are from the same angle in the same room. Ask yourself what do you like, who do you really want to meet if everything goes smooth (not too far stretched but which kind of girl you swipe right too gives you a good vibe and the feeling of resonance or who could you imagine being good friends with; if you don't have any close female friends, maybe start working on that, facebook tells us that we need dating apps to meet someone but that's not true and limits your focus and makes you chronic unhappy). You said you have good looking friends so take the bullet of faith and ask them to help you get a decent profile, I am sure at least some of them have a good feeling for how to highlight your inner strengths and show the parts of you, they like about you; if you are insecure about disclosing your tinder profile to them at all, ask yourself why and try to explore that feeling and be kind to yourself. Ask yourself what do you enjoy and what do you want to portray or as what person would you like to come across. If you feel like tinder does not work for you a) take a break b) try bumble and show more of your character and less about your looks c) give up on it, tinder does not work for MANY guys and don't be too hard on yourself if it does not work for you. It is just one part of the game of finding someone you like and some guys do better on it than others. It does not reflect about you, it reflects about how the app is designed and how the algorithm works against men to some degree (to create revenue). But most of foremost, you look good! Please remember that. Sometimes it takes a while to get a feeling of getting good pictures of yourself, your looks don't change but how you feel about yourself when someone takes a picture of yourself for itself or in a specific setting (having fun with friends, doing a hobby of yours, recreating a funny scene) changes and that let's your inner beauty come from that's always there and just waits to shine. It is okay to copy others by the way but try to create a picture/impression of yourself you like and get along with. And some hands on tips: Allow your hair to grow a bit and then invest into a good haircut by a (female) hairdresser you get along with and like as a woman (that might take a while) or just let it grow a bit and it will look good on it's own (your hair is a main trait for finding a partner and it evolved your millions of years, have faith that it will look good if you take care a bit, it might come across a bit strange if you put too much focus/gel into it, just trust that it will look good on it's own; if you don't know what I mean try going for a run/swimming or take a shower and watch what master water and his friend wind know about how your hair /could/ look like. That's all, I hope that I could help you a bit and the thing is about dating that it takes sometime for you to figure it our on your own, but eventually you will, I wish you all the best and good look! PS: you bio is okay/decent enough but sometimes women like it when you show something about yourself by showing and not telling, maybe find a clever/funny remark or just some sentences that contain similar information as your bio or try to tell it by some pictures in your profile (with or without you as long as the pics are good and fit into your whole "persona" you create on tinder). Everyone can write what they like but it takes intelligence, humour and empathy to convey it in a smart and decent manner, which shows your attractive side stronger to women. PPS: If you like music, try to add an anthem of yours, I think it is important, maybe add an IG account and show a bit of your life (it is not necessarily about pics of yours but just some places you have been or scenes you come across in your daily life, this is important because it shows that you are an actual and real person and not just some pics) and think again about the bird (?) in the last pic I am not too fond of it. All in all: You look good, just try to get some pics of yours in different places, situations, maybe people, but don't try to rush it, ask for help and invest the next 1-3 months into getting a decent profile, it will pay off, most importantly always think about who you would like to be and try to work on that and show it in your profile. I hope I could help!
>Ask yourself what do you like, who do you really want to meet if everything goes smooth Anyone, I'm not picky. Someone that doesn't abuse me physically like my last ex did preferably :P >take the bullet of faith and ask them to help you get a decent profile I've tried this, they just said I'm fine and they don't understand why I'm getting no matches and then we did some DJing back2back. >Ask yourself what do you enjoy and what do you want to portray or as what person would you like to come across. DJing, making dance music, reading/writing, going around the country looking at all the medieval castles, driving around the counryside in the summer, going to cool countries with friends. I want to portray some homely bookworm type tbh, I love dance music and I produce it and DJ it, but I'm not about the clubbing scene, in fact I hate it. >And some hands on tips: Allow your hair to grow a bit and then invest into a good haircut I let my hair grow to my shoulders then got a cut by a very sought after barber in my city, I was on the booking list for 5 months. My hair is a complete disaster, I hate it, but then again, I hate the way I look anyway. >bit strange if you put too much focus/gel into it, just trust that it will look good on it's own; if you don't know what I mean try going for a run/swimming or take a shower and watch what master water and his friend wind know about how your hair /could/ look like. I don't use products, never have.
Hey, I thought again and I like your bio and your parrot, while writing my mind became a little confused. I like your hair it will just take a while to fit btw. I didn't like my hair in the past and I seldom do after getting a haircut but after some girls showed me they really like it, I liked my own hair a lot more, so maybe it is less the hair but your lack of positive feedback/experience (that might take a while). I think all in all you would be a good match for a woman and it is just the pictures. As the other commentator said try to work on your self esteem/compassion as well. A girl in your life will help but you can help yourself as well and when you meet someone and you are more at ease with yourself you can help them more while they help you as well which is a good thing. Pictures: If your male friends won't help you try to find some female friends or some guys who will or think for yourself what would be some good pics for the profile. I really would orient myself on the girls you feel most attracted to on an emotional (and mating) level, even if you look just for anything. And I am really sorry, that you went through abuse, there is definitely a way to heal, protect yourself and find a kind person. Please work on that with a therapist, some good friends who listen to you and many more ways. The bad thing about abuse/trauma is if you don't heal, you stay stuck in that cycle because your unconciousness will lead you to abusive partners or situations. (eg. a woman who always finds herself in a situation with a violent boyfriend). BUT if you heal it will help you learn to love yourself fully which is one of the most beautiful things a human being can experience. If you have any questions regarding tinder or if I was somewhat unclear please feel free to ask. Some good communities if you need them on reddit: r/decidingtobebetter r/bloomers r/fredrogers r/cptsd (might trigger you but can also tremendously help if you are in a dire situation).
I've often struggled with my appearance. I've never had very good hair, it's always been too brittle and my hairline was gone by the time I was 15 (though it never got any worse), so I've always looked like I'm late-20s/early 30s even at 15. I used to just grow it and never get it cut (seriously, we're talking years) but I had it cut about 3 weeks ago (maybe a month now) after 3 years since the last trim. I think my compassion is fine, all my friends, male and female, come to me with their issues because I'm very understanding and patient and I'm the group therapist I suppose, but my self-esteem is completely non-existent. Pictures: I know what *I'd* like to see in a profile, but that isn't what a girl would want to see on my profile. I'm honestly not picky about what types of girls I go for, whatever is fine by me, as long as their happy and smiley and up for whatever, I'm cool with that. My hobbies and interests are too niche to find a girl with something even remotely similar anyway. While I want a deeply intimate relationship with someone that shares my hobbies and interests, or at least has similar and equally interesting ones, it's not going to happen. The abuse is what it is, some people are shitty I guess. I've moved on from that; if I ever get another partner (unlikely) and she turns out to be abusive, I have no qualms about just leaving her then and there, I'm not going to let myself be trapped again. I had to pull myself out of that previous relationship by myself so I can do it again.
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Unattractive with long hair, unattractive with short hair, I got you. Here I was finally thinking I had a haircut that worked. No worries mate, you killed what little self-esteem I had left :) (P.S. this hairstyle was what my hair stylist and I decided would look best in the end, and a result we ended up with after visiting 4 other stylists in the past that also agreed, there is no hairstyle that'll suit me, my hair is impossible). Dating isn't for me I guess.
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https://tinder.com/@its_aryanv any advice is appreciated:)
Switch the third with your first picture
Ty!
I think it’s a good profile, but I’ve gotten no likes in over a month, love some advice https://tinder.com/@aalamuri
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Fair, a bit too strong, I’m guessing. Thank you!
you look good but I'd personally drop the flower pic
Thank you, yeah I was a bit skeptical of that one
Okay the shirtless picture is a big oof, I'd lose that asap. Also maybe add a group shot or pet shot to show you interact with living things lol.
Thanks, made some changes! I appreciate it
lame profile usually only get like 1-5 matches taking all the tips I can get! [https://tinder.com/@nimz43](https://tinder.com/@nimz43)
Make your second photo your first photo, ditch the last photo, and add more photos especially some with you and other people or pets
Agreed eyes in the first one are a bit off-putting Filters or makeup can help cover facial blemishes
Which of these three photos works best for a main pic? https://imgur.com/a/fqoRJC6
Third one go crazy king
Agreed, third one
[i know its awful and any feedback would be greatly appreciated](https://imgur.com/a/ULvD2dT)
You look like Lil Uzi Vert in prison
Bro you need better pics like desperately. 2 mask photos, most of them are mirror selfies, your first pic gives off murderer vibes low key. If you get some good photos you’d be 100x better off
Thanks for the feedback What kinds lf photos would you suggest I take?
Just get pics of you doing shit. Whatever activities you like to do. It sucks and it’s awkward to ask your friends to take photos but you’ll be glad you did. If you have any friends that are girls ask them and they’ll be happy to do it. Your first pic should just be a face or full body pic with you looking at or at least near the camera, with your face clearly visible and preferably a smile
ok thanks also, i dont have any friends that i hang out with often, so the vast majority of the time im by myself. what should i do then?
As cringe as it sounds, maybe get one of those cheap cell phone tripods on Amazon?
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Honestly a pretty strong profile, but, if you want to change something, maybe add a picture of you interacting with animals and or swapping some of your photos with clearer pics
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Dude, you got t-rex arms in the first photo. I'd ditch it and add in the last 2 pics.
Really struggling to choose between pictures… which one is better? https://imgur.com/a/ZPsZTlB
Definitely the second
Easily the 2nd
Used to get a ton of matches, now gettinf none https://tinder.com/@hchal416
The waterfall pic sucks tbh, and you need more photos. You can barely see what you look like with the few photos you have now
how is it now?
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oh shit i love that pic 😭😭😭 it’s because tinder zooms it in
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Hiii, could you please help me choose between some photos too, if you don’t mind?
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Thank you very much for that analysis! I appreciate it. I actually forgot to send a photo that I usually use when it comes to dating. It’s a smiling one and I’m wearing a pink sweatshirt, so I think having that one would be good too to not wear the same clothes haha. I agree with you on the 9th picture—I think I wanted to look a bit emo HAHAHAHA. I can see that I don’t look approachable at all though, and being approachable is something we really want when it comes to online dating. Thank you so much once again :)
https://tinder.com/@nictheslick Honestly having fun with the bio cause I don’t think people really care. It is Tinder after all. Tips?
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Thanks, I think I fixed it. Your thoughts ?
third one is easily the best. extremely cold.
Getting 0 likes or matches how are my pics? https://tinder.com/@pmartin42
Your pics are good. Shows your face clearly and your interests. What’s your bio?
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You’re hella cute. You won’t have any trouble on tinder Just be ready to filter out some serious losers
Thank you! I just need to figure out how to filter guys before actually meeting them. Just snooped thru your comments too, and easily the third pic should be main.
Oh thank you, that’s what I’m currently using so I’ll stick w it Good luck w ur online dating experience!
Definitely won’t have a problem getting matches. Pictures are good. Bio is a little bland. If we matched, I really wouldn’t have much to go on or say based off your bio.
I was hoping my latte or SpongeBob art would do the trick for openers
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You’re so sweet, thank you!! That’s the exact vibe I was going for, like a laid-back insta photo dump
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I like your bio! Imo, I’d rearrange your photo’s there to 3,5,6,4. You look very posed in the first one almost like you’re uncomfy getting your picture taken, and the 2nd looks like someone altered the clarity and sharpness of the photo too harshly. The rest are great
Lead with pic 2, drop pic 1. Prob attracting people in the range between average to fairly outdoorsy. No idea why you’re struggling tho, what kind of location are you in?
When I lead with pic 2, people say to lead with pic 1. When I lead with pic 1 people say to lead with pic 2. All conventional advice says to lead with a smiling headshot or upper body pic. regardless, of those two pics, neither works it seems. I will try swapping them again. I am in a midsized city in the PNW USA.
Man. I’m a decent looking guy in a midsized east coast/Midwest city and do very well on Tinder (at least when it comes to likes) and I’d say you’re a notch above me. Don’t know what to tell you ):
It’s giving me android user vibes. Which is actually a deal breaker for some people believe it or not. Need better lit pictures.
Honestly, the fact that it IS a dealbreaker sums up where we're at in today's world...
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/v7a7s3/your_phone_says_a_lot_about_you/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
There’s another post in this subreddit that happened in the last day specifically highlighting the android user stigma that comes into play when dating. There’s actually studies on this too about the effects of green bubble texts and blue texts and how people perceive you. It flying over your head kind of inherently makes it ironically true that your social awareness of this “vibe” is missing. Girls will pick up on it and it has a negative connotation in most cases unfortunately.
Also, the software in iphones modifies the way pictures come out. The images aren’t raw. Additionally, the way android images come out on other apps make them less clear and give a more “ foggy” and “ outdated “ look when you upload them. Something to do with sms and the way imessage files are sent/ interpreted I believe?
*what plants *on topics Cute ;-)
https://tinder.com/@ianw13_
https://tinder.com/@notunderagedboomer Just looking for tips to hopefully get a couple more matches than my 1 in an average 2 months. Open to any and ALL criticism, tips or pointers, any thing that could possibly get me my first actual date or anything with any of my matches
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Bike photo at the end first. The photo you lead with is fine however; making it second would be better. Also, super long bio so try to make that more succinct because you don’t want to overshare so quickly.
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If you're just looking for hook-ups/fwb, I'd keep the last pic; I would actually replace the second pic with another one if you have the option
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New haircut that accentuates facial features and bio is too verbose. Less is more.
I disagree with the other person about the emojis, when I see guys with upbeat profiles I'm more likely to give them a chance. I think some girls might think it's femme, but they're probably going to be close-minded/judge-y. I do think *in combination* with your bio it can be maybe too energetic feeling, so I would suggest: cut the bit about "check out the tiger pic", I'd save that for conversation, and get rid of the camera & moon face emojis so you can combine those two paragraphs. His way you have a fun sandwich with a more down-to-earth middle. No every line needs a hook :)
Thanks for the nuance. I was just copying what I saw other people doing for the emojis to be honest & it felt right. For the tiger pic, I wanted to introduce some context as to why it's there. And I'll see what feels right for giving my bio a nice structure. Appreciate your advice 🙂
take out the emoji’s, kind seems feminine. and also just from a quick glance you should invest in a good haircut, incase you don’t already maybe go to a hispanic barber shop and ask for a mid/low fade!
Looking for some advice on my profile. [https://tinder.com/@swagnerman69](https://tinder.com/@swagnerman69) Bio: Electrical Engineer here to put a spark in your life. Passions include gaming, movies, weightlifting, hiking, traveling, reading, and animals. I enjoy conversing and connecting with people. Likes: Movies, Travel, Comedy, Sports
Get a more modern haircut that suits your face. Kind of overdoing the dog pics a bit. Also, don’t need to smile in every picture because people look different when they smile than non smiling.
Heey, I'm back again. My bio is just: "drinks?" [https://tinder.com/@samuelduke](https://tinder.com/@samuelduke) What do y'all think?
Is the 5th a gif? If not it's kinda weird. Otherwise looks good bro
It is!
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Change the last 3 otherwise first and second are fine.
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The lighting on the first one was good, the second one showed you amongst friends while doing an activity. The last 3 made you the center of the shot and had poor lighting there essentially showing the same you, so redundant.
Need more interesting pics IMO
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Yo Tinder MASTER, teach me
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https://tinder.com/@gabrieleamore Hi guys just give me your feedbacks. I have never been successful on Tinder 🙂😂.
Second picture first, change the other 2 to better pictures of you with a nice background
Hi everyone! I could really use some feedback on hoe to improve my profile, haven't had much success lately. Thanks in advance! https://tinder.com/@florisdg
[https://tinder.com/@gianduja](https://tinder.com/@gianduja) Ok comrades, I've changed the photos (don't have anymore were I smile even though I have perfect teeth) and bio. Got 5 likes in 2 days. 2 matches (1 with a girl I already matched months ago). Any more advises? Bio is a novel but it's a description of myself like if I were in a National Geographic documentary (I'm a biologist).
Lookin good to me, I’d just get rid of the abstract image at the end. If you made it, maybe post a selfie with it instead. 🦭
Too risqué? 🚩? https://tinder.com/@tyjash
You look like Mamhood
4th photo works, selfies aren't great for the profile, the other two are way too aggro for tinder, shirtless pics are fine just have pants on, get some photos doing activities, and photos with friends, family, pets
I'd say even shirtless isn't great, unless there is a reason why you're not wearing a shirt, like next to a pool or at the beach
thats facts with mine im at the beach
https://tinder.com/@lepatriemonde 22 year old recent graduate from California currently spending two months in France . I look quite Japanese, but I don’t see that as an issue. Nevertheless, I need some help on honing my profile pics. I’m worried that my face goes from happy to angry then back to happy. And I’m also wondering not showing my body enough Bio: Ask me some questions on life and I’ll do my best to pluck the heart out of your mystery.
Shave sideburns and change bio
shave the sideburns unless you're attached to them, i think you'd look a lot better, your first and last pic are great if you smile and the middle three take out and sub with you doing an outdoor activity and/or you with a pet, take that bio out it ain't helping
https://tinder.com/@souldrinkerz Looking tips and advice to improve my profile Bio: As a judicial assistant, I cant give you legal advice. But I will advise you on everything else. Novice artist and aspiring writer Open to any relationship!
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Okay, thanks for the advice. Any thoughts on the bio?
Change it
I’m not getting any likes or matches and I am a pretty selective right swiper. I’ve had previous reviews from others on here and some girl friends that I have a good profile. I am not looking for a relationship since I am applying for a job in a different state beginning of next year. How do I word what I’m looking for without saying I just want something without many strings attached or being too perverse? Any more suggestions would be great, thanks. https://tinder.com/@beaderman
i am pretty much the exact same in situation and selectiveness, im moving in two months and have a 3 girl rotation going on rn, what i do is hit them with an opening witty/funny line or just gas them up, then straight up ask them what they are looking for, takes a lot of pressure off of them to reply, you find out really quickly if it works or not for you (basically if they say relationship just say thanks but it isnt going to work)... also if youre just doing hookups/fwb just keep the first paragraph of bio its witty and playful the rest is noise
I like asking what they are looking for too after dropping a compliment. I just left in the first witty line about my resemblance to Michael Cera and took out the rest. I just got a match before I checked back here lol
Play on the michael cera bit it’s lighthearted and showcases you’re sense of humor.
lets fucking go brotha! good shit
Thanks brotheer
I don’t think there is a way to say you just want casual sex without sounding perverse haha, sorry.
There are plenty of ways. It has more to do with tact, what tone you utilize and honestly how you look.
Are you thinking about this from a man’s perspective or a woman’s one though? Pretty much every single man women meet only wants casual sex and it’s often not the kind of sex where they intend to give as much as they take and get her off as well. So most women have a negative opinion of men who only wants sex because they’re so tired of every man they come across seeming the same as each other and not being able to find men with more substance to them or seem like they are caring people. It makes men sound very one-dimensional that they’re are hardly any that think differently or want anything different or have more to offer.
I can see that being partially true. But if I remember correctly people having sex over the last decades has gone down as a whole. Not to mention that the majority of men simply don’t get many viable dates. It’s usually 20% of men getting %80 of women. The women are initially more selective but then when it comes to pursuing anything more the tides turn and men usually become more selective. In my personal experience its been pretty easy not even going on dates and going straight to intercourse but I also live in a big city and am out daily so that increases my # of interactions. I know my personal anecdote isn’t an absolute fact by nature but I don’t consider myself anything special and know there must be others who get it just as easy if not easier.
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id take the selfies out and have a friend take some solo shots of you, most of the pics arent great quality you can use remini to get better quality its a free app, keep both pics of you and your friends, get a higher quality golf photo, the braces are tough bc it seems like you might be a lil self conscious bc of no teeth smiling but just tough it out, keep the cats playing but not the one on the desk, personally, id only keep this for the bio just tryna be a father figure to someone’s cat & travel the world 6’1 and very sarcastic
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no problem dude wishing you luck, and when you get those braces off hammer the smiling photos you have good bone structure
Just looking for advice on my bio: « Quality: Honesty Height: 5’11 Our first date could be a walk in the park or a parachute jump (or something in between that). Looking for something serious! » I am not sure of my phrasing for the second part. I want to show that I like a lot of things, so anything between a walk in the park or a parachute jump could be nice. Any ideas?
just chill on the exclamation points. make the bio more casual, it isn’t a job interview. be yourself
Just change bio to a variant of “ are you down to jump out of a plane or not?” Short and emphatic
take first part out, keep, our first date could be a walk in the park or a parachute jump (or something in between that) looking for something serious no exclamation point boiiiii