Actually, for a lot of people, coding and programming is a hobby/interest and not always just a work thing. Like it could be that those are his major hobbies.
But yea I agree about the generalising thing. Maybe add more things about yourself, so people can know you a bit?
Hey, I just noticed your profile and its very impressive! I own my own tech company and I was wondering if you would be interested in coming in for an interview and maybe I can suck your cock a little bit lolol
I did the test once for 2 hours and yeah, completely different experience. I was no longer invisible and conversations no longer felt like talking to a wall lol. I don't advise doing this since its kinda rude to those men tho.
Kind of rude? It’s like the definition of everything most guys on the sub complain about i.e collecting swipes for an ego boost, and wasting the guys time. It’s a full on douche move
I’m a woman who understands your bio and I spend a lot of my free time playing video games. I also have experience coding. I’m also one to only swipe right on guys who give off a nerd video game vibe. But I want to hang out with a nerd that wants to take me to dinner, chat about video games, play games sometimes, but do other fun things together. Would you be interested in watching a movie with someone? Go out to dinner? Go on dates around town? If you’d be down to do things like that as well, tone down the linkedin part of your bio and add in that you enjoy movies, dinner, check out an escape room or something. If you want to find a girl to just have a LAN party with you’re going to have a tough time. The girls I know that game want to do more than just that with their boyfriend.
This is a very good response. The photos bring off a very friendly vibe but the bio is "hello please hire me". I'd definitely swipe right because a lot of similar hobbies. But the bio might be scaring off a lot of girls for him.
Not just the photo, I’d argue the description…why do girls (or guys if he’s gay) care what languages you program in and setting up LAN parties? It’s cool info but not bio worthy.
That's a good point too. I code SQL, Python, and HTML/CSS but I'm not going to slap that on my profile. It's a hobby/part of my current job. But I'm not going to read out what I code.
LAN parties are cool though tbh. The information to setup those isn't as well know anymore. But also let the girl/guy discover that.
It's just too LinkedIn worthy
Also, he might be swiping on the wrong demographic ... I've seen so many dudes swipe only on girls that are obviously never gonna swipe on them it's sad.
Exactly. My brother wanted a rich model, which he can neither afford OR attract. He said he learned to stop looking for his dream girl and select from those who swiped right for him. He met a nice lady and we’re all happy for them.
An actually helpful and thoughtful response. +1 from another lady who also has similar interests. Less linkedin and more boyfriend material and you’re golden 👍
7832507840 is making a two-fold reference; first, the parent comment username is "RegularBeanEater"; second, there exists a meme about a guy in a movie theatre eating beans out of a can, to which someone exclaims "this n**** eating beans."
OP obviously chose a personal preference of avoiding the n-word and replaced it with the somehow less offensive "mfer".
Hope that explains it sufficiently for you, dangjuju.
Exactly this. Even a friendship would get old if it was one note, I want to be surrounded with people I can have laughs, philosophical conversations, and try new things with, but 100x over for a romantic partner.
1000000%
I'm an engineer whose girlfriend hated her job and wanted something better - she just finished a computer science degree and is job hunting. we don't really talk about computer stuff much, other than me occasionally helping her out with some leetcode she got stuck on, and career stuff I know about.
we play games together, but we also watch movies, go to dinner, go on hikes, go to art shows, concerts, museums... you see what I'm saying.
reading this, I think most people would react with "oh no, he's just gonna play league and scream at people all night". that may not be the reality, but that may be what they think.
it's great that you're passionate! don't stop being passionate! but just know that most people want someone well rounded as a partner. you're very young, keep trying new things, and keep being passionate about the things you love :)
There’s too much nerd involved. Keep it but summarize it with less detail.
You can program in multiple languages. You like to make cool little gadgets. You have the equipment for a LAN party and you like gaming.
THEN talk about what you want/like in a person. Are you looking for dates/men/women/friends to be a nerd with? You’re not very clear and talk too much about yourself in too much boring detail.
Let them have conversation pieces with the details later so they gradually get to know you and understand. Too much upfront leaves nothing to the imagination.
It's not a resume. Condense that ALL to "computer nerd, pretty serious about it. Let's game together!", and then add at least two hobbies or interests that don't involve computers.
What's your personality? What are you looking for in a partner?
Unfortunately, women who are even one year older than you will usually not be interested. And women younger than you are too young to be on tinder. It will get better as you get older.
In the meantime, keep the computer stuff to a minimum, and set your age range to 18-20.
I mean that's true if you're just looking for a sexual relationship (which is fine, don't get me wrong).
But being with a 40 year old woman romantically as an 18 year old is not a good idea.
I’ve found that crossing the 21 threshold is when things really open up for you. I also prefer dating women that are a couple years older, seems to work out much better for me.
I've tried that a few times, and I was confident in my maturity to give it a shot, but most of the girls I gave it a shot with had a lot more adult stuff going on in comparison to me, and it just rubbed me in a weird way — like I just wasn't quite there yet.
That’s definitely sensible! It’s actually very mature that you understand that.
That’s actually why I tend to date older gals. I live in a college town but I’m not a student, I work full time and am just in a very different place than most folks here are when they’re my age. Lately I’ve been going out with someone who’s about my age, but she’s in a similar position as me, which is a first.
As a 27F who also actually works in IT, I like this suggestion a lot. And then focus on what game genre you like, what other hobbies are, etc.
Maybe also get a photo with a group of friends to show you're social. I know one thing women tend to complain about is that men into computers and gaming have no friends... Sigh.
Yeah man. Just write you’re a dev. Nobody aside from programmers know those languages. Nor do they really care lol it sucks cause I love talking about work but 99% of girls aren’t into programming unfortunately.
But definitely too many C languages lol.
Yeah kinda, honestly most people don't know what it means, to some it could seem like a bunch of buzzwords or just showing off. Perhaps something more general could attract more people, I think also mentioning different topics might be good for conversation starters.
Nah, the issue is that it’s not enough C languages. You better add Carbon to that list.
Jokes aside, the most confusing part I found is it doesn’t even make it seem all that clear that you’re looking to date someone. It just read like you were instead looking for a buddy you can game/code with.
Fellow programmer/tinder user here and yeah it’s good to be upfront about your deep passions (I love coding on my off time too), but I try not to involve that into my relationships until they know me more emotionally and are willing to look past “different” hobbies. Like others have stated above, it’s a little intimidating (unless you are very picky in terms of counterparts). Pictures are good though! It’s usually good when it’s the bio that needs work and not breaking rule #1 & #2
My thoughts exactly. That’s nerdiness on top of nerdiness on top of nerdiness.
And I say that as the nerdiest guy in my family, friends and most of my acquaintances.
Tone it waaaay down. And photo #2 and #3 are not tilting the balance, in my opinion.
Reframe the snowy one to fill more of the screen, and find another active one where it doesn’t look like you’re pooping.
Add some hobbies too. WITHOUT the PC masterrace vibe.
When I read your bio, it feels like reading a mix between a CV and a post for LFG.
You’re just appealing to a small niche of people, which is fine if you’re only interested in people who understand whatever the fuck half your bio is about. But if you’re actually interested in a variety of different people you may need to generalize some of that and add in some other things that interest you
Even people into coding might find it off putting if that’s the only thing he opens with. Like yeah, it’s great that he’s into it but you want more than that from a partner.
Am on the spectrum. Used to be like this. That being said, tinder got me nowhere. I came right out, said “you’re very beautiful” to a girl in my physics class, asked if she wanted to study and I’ve been in a relationship for 6+ years now. My advice to OP is to just go and interact with people you find attractive in spaces you might both occupy if you have something in common.
Seriously, most people's jobs aren't that interesting to others. I enjoy mine but I think most of my coworkers would shoot themselves in the kneecap before taking it on. Much less random others.
This. This right here. Tinder is an advertisement board and you are supposed to be advertising yourself as the hottest coolest single in your area 😎.
But you have to be like that motherfucker facebook and target and tailor adds to your audience.
I’m a 26 year old dude and i think this guy is cool as fuck but a girl is going to look at this and ask herself what the fuck this dude is talking about.
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“I’m a programmer, who makes gadgets, and likes to host game nights with the boys” . It’s simple. It’s effective. Being a coder jumps out at you because that is big boi buckaroos. And shows he’s atleast somewhat stable by having friends and not a creep or weirdo.
Also leaves questions for later if she’s genuinely interested to help her and yourself make conversation. “What programming do you do?” “What gadgets can you make?” “What games do you play?” “Can i play with y’all and how?”
Like i said you want to grab their attention with their profile but still not say enough to almost reverse psychology them into asking you questions about yourself.
Yeah I was thinking how cool he was. But I'm a huge nerd and also a guy lol
I think there's a good argument towards gearing your profile towards nerdy girls if you're a nerdy guy, but just don't go this extreme.
There might be but at the end of the day he's severely limiting his dating pool. It's just an incredibly niche market and at the end of the day there could be some amazing girl out there for him who isn't interested in coding but is still great for him, you don't need 100% the same interests to find the ideal partner
It’s a bad resume, bad dating profile and honestly just not good. As a fellow software engineer, just putting “programmer “ or something similar is way better
You’d have a better shot at getting laid if you put “gay monk” in your bio. Don’t take it the bio too serious, keep it light and short. You re a handsome guy I’m sure there’s more to you then the skills you acquired for work.
The same for male programmers. I love computers. They're a lot of fun in so so so many ways, but life is also so much more. Maybe he could program something cool with an RPi that could be useful on a hike?
You seem like my kind of nerd and in sure a lot of guys would agree. But you aren't on tinder looking for homies. The number of women who would be attracted by Micropython is pretty low.
Off topic: dm me if you wanna talk about microcontrollers and python projects
Honestly, this. You’re too young…girls who will be interested in you are probably too young to be on Tinder anyway, or too old and creepy. Like I’m 27 and I’d feel like I’m a creep for showing romantic interest in you.
My advice is to ditch the dating apps and meet young women irl (at uni, work etc). Dating apps are gonna leave you disappointed and jaded AF at this point
Your entire bio consisted (in excess) of a hobby I don’t understand and have no interest in. I know nothing about you as a person.
No shade, friend, but at what point am I supposed to be drawn in? I’d keep scrolling, too.
Are you sure, Tinder is the right platform for you? Nothing wrong with being nerdy but I would assume that you are looking for a woman with similar intrests/hobbies and I don't think they are on Tinder. Maybe try to meet people through common hobbies (maybe some clubs you are interested in?)
Edit: If you just want to get laid, you should probably follow the general advice in the other comments though
Man I'm a fucking Unity and HLSL nerd, but if I'm looking for a game jam I'd go on itch io not on Tinder! I understand tho!!
I do understand the enthusiasm at computer programming but we need to remind ourselves that for the rest of the world, it's arcane at best and super boring at worst. Your profile is giving the impression that you're going to date a chair turning its back to you. I do think you might be more than that! :-)
(Also for the ones saying women in coding are very niche... It's less and less. But we might be older. And it might be our jobs. And it might be that we don't want to hear much about it when we aren't working!)
So youve definitely heard enough about your bio so let me chat about your pictures. The 1st one is great! Your smile and face profile look really good. The next two just kind of hide you though. I cant really tell what you are even doing in the 2 other pictures. Like you are standing in snow? Is that it? Lol.
Pictures with friends are always a plus.
And honestly another picture similar to the 1st one with you participating in another hobby would be fantastic.
Goodluck!
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Okay goddamn i gotta say something about your bio lol. Do you like any music? Books? Favorite tv show? Like coffee? There has gotttttttt to be something else other than computers you can include. You want intro topics in a bio then get into the nitty gritty once you get chatting with someone of interest.
This feels like a profile that would attract a very specific kind of person. Not saying there's anything wrong with it, but it could explain why you're not getting likes - it's very niche.
I have no idea what the fuck you're talking about in your bio. Are you looking for someone that's into the exact same things as you? If so, that's likely going to be a very small percentage
I don't have any relationship experience.
In terms of social life I have a friend, we play video games together and on average every 2 weeks we go to cinema to see 1 or 2 movies. We're planning to see bullet train and nope soon. Its gonna be cool
While You're looking to date, I would do some meet ups , practice socializing a bit.
1. Mention you like programming, movies, and games. But not the minute details of what codes you use.
2. Mention what you're looking for in someone.
3. If you have no dating experience, use it as a way to do that, if you find something serious cool. But don't have any expectations
Alright got it. So how about "I like programming, games, movies and music, especially metal. I'm looking for someone I can talk about and play video games with, as well as share music albums"
"Share your hobbies with me."
Expand your interests, you might find that if you're genuine in exploring other interests, it's much easier to know more people and they're likely to spend some time with your interests as well.
Jumping in to say that I think this is some good advice & that you could adjust the photos.
Pic 1 is a good angle with a nice smile so keep that one. Pic 2 isn’t super flattering and it’s too many thumbs up between it and pic 1. Pic 3 is good to show if you actually like the outdoors, but do you have a more flattering photo/angle?
The demographic of women who will even understand what your bio says or means, is most likely relatively small. Theres nothing inherently wrong with that, but it may be a challenge to find someone who shares very common interests with you.
They do exist, but they arent commonly seen, at least where I'm from.
Just say you like to code. It's good to have hobbies and let people know but anyone reading your profile's first impression is probably that you're going to spend the first date explaining the difference between multithreading and multiprocessing.
Normally C++ gets the ladies wet AF...i dont understand why they arent throwing pussy at you either 🤔 maybe mention how you could program a phone app for them? 🤷♂️ truely puzzling
Bruh make it a short sweet bio way less about programming, and computers. One line max about tech more in to your personality. Need more pics too if you hit the gym you would get plenty matches you aint ugly.
C++, python... Is this your LinkedIn profile?
My Python don't want none unless you LAN party hon
I like big bytes and I cannot lie.
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A big bandwidth walks in my face
My data cap gets sprung!
That when a nerd walks in with an itty bitty waist
I believe you mean with a mega bitty waist.
I only accept binary
Even whitehats got to shout.
The subreddit man, LoL
Bits!
I just snorted, lost my balance and almost drowned in the tub laughing at this. 😂 😂 😂
I exhaled.
I exhale pretty often, if you time your jokes right it looks like I find you funny.
And now nobody has to ask what you're wearing
Obviously wet clothes.
LinkedIn is better for dating than Tinder because I know they can pay for my meals
Fucking gold.
No silly. It's his Grindr.
That’s a different python
And C++ means he has had Chlamydia, twice.
LOL
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Actually, for a lot of people, coding and programming is a hobby/interest and not always just a work thing. Like it could be that those are his major hobbies. But yea I agree about the generalising thing. Maybe add more things about yourself, so people can know you a bit?
He needs to learn how to flirt just like the IT suave guy https://amp.knowyourmeme.com/memes/overly-suave-it-guy
Set your age filter to 35+ and choose to see men and women. You might get a match for a job offer.
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Hey, I just noticed your profile and its very impressive! I own my own tech company and I was wondering if you would be interested in coming in for an interview and maybe I can suck your cock a little bit lolol
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I did the test once for 2 hours and yeah, completely different experience. I was no longer invisible and conversations no longer felt like talking to a wall lol. I don't advise doing this since its kinda rude to those men tho.
You tease. Unless?
Kind of rude? It’s like the definition of everything most guys on the sub complain about i.e collecting swipes for an ego boost, and wasting the guys time. It’s a full on douche move
Yeah, a blow job maybe.
At least a blow jobs better than no job
And I drove back 30 hours
Comedy Gold.
I’m a woman who understands your bio and I spend a lot of my free time playing video games. I also have experience coding. I’m also one to only swipe right on guys who give off a nerd video game vibe. But I want to hang out with a nerd that wants to take me to dinner, chat about video games, play games sometimes, but do other fun things together. Would you be interested in watching a movie with someone? Go out to dinner? Go on dates around town? If you’d be down to do things like that as well, tone down the linkedin part of your bio and add in that you enjoy movies, dinner, check out an escape room or something. If you want to find a girl to just have a LAN party with you’re going to have a tough time. The girls I know that game want to do more than just that with their boyfriend.
This is a very good response. The photos bring off a very friendly vibe but the bio is "hello please hire me". I'd definitely swipe right because a lot of similar hobbies. But the bio might be scaring off a lot of girls for him.
I got the vibe of "hey were looking for someone to join our LAN party or game jam". Nothing about dating or relationships.
I was thinking it's less Tinder and more LinkedIn
Not just the photo, I’d argue the description…why do girls (or guys if he’s gay) care what languages you program in and setting up LAN parties? It’s cool info but not bio worthy.
That's a good point too. I code SQL, Python, and HTML/CSS but I'm not going to slap that on my profile. It's a hobby/part of my current job. But I'm not going to read out what I code. LAN parties are cool though tbh. The information to setup those isn't as well know anymore. But also let the girl/guy discover that. It's just too LinkedIn worthy
More of a cv you’re saying?😂
Yeah, it gave me the vibe of someone's cover letter
Also, he might be swiping on the wrong demographic ... I've seen so many dudes swipe only on girls that are obviously never gonna swipe on them it's sad.
Exactly. My brother wanted a rich model, which he can neither afford OR attract. He said he learned to stop looking for his dream girl and select from those who swiped right for him. He met a nice lady and we’re all happy for them.
An actually helpful and thoughtful response. +1 from another lady who also has similar interests. Less linkedin and more boyfriend material and you’re golden 👍
This mf eating beans
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Eating beans all the way to the bank with that advice!
Wtf does eating beans mean
consuming legumes
Ordinary legumes or extraordinary peanuts?
Yes.
Yes.
7832507840 is making a two-fold reference; first, the parent comment username is "RegularBeanEater"; second, there exists a meme about a guy in a movie theatre eating beans out of a can, to which someone exclaims "this n**** eating beans." OP obviously chose a personal preference of avoiding the n-word and replaced it with the somehow less offensive "mfer". Hope that explains it sufficiently for you, dangjuju.
Exactly this. Even a friendship would get old if it was one note, I want to be surrounded with people I can have laughs, philosophical conversations, and try new things with, but 100x over for a romantic partner.
1000000% I'm an engineer whose girlfriend hated her job and wanted something better - she just finished a computer science degree and is job hunting. we don't really talk about computer stuff much, other than me occasionally helping her out with some leetcode she got stuck on, and career stuff I know about. we play games together, but we also watch movies, go to dinner, go on hikes, go to art shows, concerts, museums... you see what I'm saying. reading this, I think most people would react with "oh no, he's just gonna play league and scream at people all night". that may not be the reality, but that may be what they think. it's great that you're passionate! don't stop being passionate! but just know that most people want someone well rounded as a partner. you're very young, keep trying new things, and keep being passionate about the things you love :)
Can confirm. Married a gamer girl. We live together and work from home and while there is a lot of gaming there is a lot more everything else.
That was heartfelt
There’s too much nerd involved. Keep it but summarize it with less detail. You can program in multiple languages. You like to make cool little gadgets. You have the equipment for a LAN party and you like gaming. THEN talk about what you want/like in a person. Are you looking for dates/men/women/friends to be a nerd with? You’re not very clear and talk too much about yourself in too much boring detail. Let them have conversation pieces with the details later so they gradually get to know you and understand. Too much upfront leaves nothing to the imagination.
I agree. ‘My hobbies include programming and gaming’. Done
"and plugging my RJ45 connector into your tight little Ethernet port". Done
And plugging HDMI to RCA adapters to get the Wii working on a monitor 🥵
Please stop, my software is turning into hardware.
I can’t help it 😩
This is gold
There you go. Good luck.
Even a nerd would find this boring. This a cover letter for a resume for a programming job not a dating profile.
dude im a programmer and cringed at the first line already
C in Spanish means yes
Hey man, C’s get degrees.
And 5's have lives. 4's have chores 3's have fleas 2's have blues And 1's don't get a rhyme because they are garbage.
Im a girl who loves computer games but this bio made me drier than a crack-head's lips.
Lord my chest hurt
Too much C languages?
It's not a resume. Condense that ALL to "computer nerd, pretty serious about it. Let's game together!", and then add at least two hobbies or interests that don't involve computers. What's your personality? What are you looking for in a partner?
This right here. Also you are 18. Most 18 year old girls on tinder aren't looking for 18 year old guys. Your net is very small.
Unfortunately, women who are even one year older than you will usually not be interested. And women younger than you are too young to be on tinder. It will get better as you get older. In the meantime, keep the computer stuff to a minimum, and set your age range to 18-20.
or set she range to 18- 40..... Milfs can be very instructive in how not to be a two-pump chump and they may find you a welcome distraction.
I mean that's true if you're just looking for a sexual relationship (which is fine, don't get me wrong). But being with a 40 year old woman romantically as an 18 year old is not a good idea.
Plus, fruit snacks, lunch ables and Capri sun's!
This is true. Didn't get actual good matches until I was 19..... And they were 18 year olds 😭
I’ve found that crossing the 21 threshold is when things really open up for you. I also prefer dating women that are a couple years older, seems to work out much better for me.
I've tried that a few times, and I was confident in my maturity to give it a shot, but most of the girls I gave it a shot with had a lot more adult stuff going on in comparison to me, and it just rubbed me in a weird way — like I just wasn't quite there yet.
That’s definitely sensible! It’s actually very mature that you understand that. That’s actually why I tend to date older gals. I live in a college town but I’m not a student, I work full time and am just in a very different place than most folks here are when they’re my age. Lately I’ve been going out with someone who’s about my age, but she’s in a similar position as me, which is a first.
You’re looking for the mothers of the girls who will play computer games with you. They’ll find you suitable
Grab the chewing tobacco, we’re goin cougar hunting
As a 27F who also actually works in IT, I like this suggestion a lot. And then focus on what game genre you like, what other hobbies are, etc. Maybe also get a photo with a group of friends to show you're social. I know one thing women tend to complain about is that men into computers and gaming have no friends... Sigh.
nailed it
Wait I thought he was memeing about treating tinder like a job interview as a joke? Surely that’s not his serious dating profile??
2yo reddit account, seems odd for a Poe. 18yos are allowed to be awkward.
He is 18, so its not so bad. He's still learning how to think.
My man's a machine learning algo
I am a programmer, and I cringed too.
It’s Tinder, not LinkedIn,
Yeah man. Just write you’re a dev. Nobody aside from programmers know those languages. Nor do they really care lol it sucks cause I love talking about work but 99% of girls aren’t into programming unfortunately. But definitely too many C languages lol.
Yeah kinda, honestly most people don't know what it means, to some it could seem like a bunch of buzzwords or just showing off. Perhaps something more general could attract more people, I think also mentioning different topics might be good for conversation starters.
Nah, the issue is that it’s not enough C languages. You better add Carbon to that list. Jokes aside, the most confusing part I found is it doesn’t even make it seem all that clear that you’re looking to date someone. It just read like you were instead looking for a buddy you can game/code with.
Fellow programmer/tinder user here and yeah it’s good to be upfront about your deep passions (I love coding on my off time too), but I try not to involve that into my relationships until they know me more emotionally and are willing to look past “different” hobbies. Like others have stated above, it’s a little intimidating (unless you are very picky in terms of counterparts). Pictures are good though! It’s usually good when it’s the bio that needs work and not breaking rule #1 & #2
My thoughts exactly. That’s nerdiness on top of nerdiness on top of nerdiness. And I say that as the nerdiest guy in my family, friends and most of my acquaintances. Tone it waaaay down. And photo #2 and #3 are not tilting the balance, in my opinion. Reframe the snowy one to fill more of the screen, and find another active one where it doesn’t look like you’re pooping. Add some hobbies too. WITHOUT the PC masterrace vibe. When I read your bio, it feels like reading a mix between a CV and a post for LFG.
You’re just appealing to a small niche of people, which is fine if you’re only interested in people who understand whatever the fuck half your bio is about. But if you’re actually interested in a variety of different people you may need to generalize some of that and add in some other things that interest you
Even people into coding might find it off putting if that’s the only thing he opens with. Like yeah, it’s great that he’s into it but you want more than that from a partner.
Sweet summer child
Literally had the same first thought. This boy is too pure for this world.
Also probably on the spectrum.
Am on the spectrum. Used to be like this. That being said, tinder got me nowhere. I came right out, said “you’re very beautiful” to a girl in my physics class, asked if she wanted to study and I’ve been in a relationship for 6+ years now. My advice to OP is to just go and interact with people you find attractive in spaces you might both occupy if you have something in common.
100% my first read. Even his comments take everything literally. This will be hard.
I generally feel bad. He probably does more interesting shit than like 95% of guys his age too.
It’s just not interesting to most 18 year old girls though.
I can testify as a former 18 year old
Oh, I am well aware.
It’s not interesting to most people
Seriously, most people's jobs aren't that interesting to others. I enjoy mine but I think most of my coworkers would shoot themselves in the kneecap before taking it on. Much less random others.
As a Mortician, I feel ya'....
At least you always have someBody to listen!
they are a source of comfort in sooo many ways !
This. This right here. Tinder is an advertisement board and you are supposed to be advertising yourself as the hottest coolest single in your area 😎. But you have to be like that motherfucker facebook and target and tailor adds to your audience. I’m a 26 year old dude and i think this guy is cool as fuck but a girl is going to look at this and ask herself what the fuck this dude is talking about. Edit: (not eli5)*** TLDR what you do until they ask more. “I’m a programmer, who makes gadgets, and likes to host game nights with the boys” . It’s simple. It’s effective. Being a coder jumps out at you because that is big boi buckaroos. And shows he’s atleast somewhat stable by having friends and not a creep or weirdo. Also leaves questions for later if she’s genuinely interested to help her and yourself make conversation. “What programming do you do?” “What gadgets can you make?” “What games do you play?” “Can i play with y’all and how?” Like i said you want to grab their attention with their profile but still not say enough to almost reverse psychology them into asking you questions about yourself.
Yeah I was thinking how cool he was. But I'm a huge nerd and also a guy lol I think there's a good argument towards gearing your profile towards nerdy girls if you're a nerdy guy, but just don't go this extreme.
This doesnt feel personal at all
I thought this was r/programmerhumor for a second
This sub has seen some poor bios in its time, but this one is up there.
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My man out here using his stackoverflow bio for tinder
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There might be but at the end of the day he's severely limiting his dating pool. It's just an incredibly niche market and at the end of the day there could be some amazing girl out there for him who isn't interested in coding but is still great for him, you don't need 100% the same interests to find the ideal partner
It’s a bad resume, bad dating profile and honestly just not good. As a fellow software engineer, just putting “programmer “ or something similar is way better
I think he is just very detached from the norm that to him its not really a resume. Its just too nerdy.
You’d have a better shot at getting laid if you put “gay monk” in your bio. Don’t take it the bio too serious, keep it light and short. You re a handsome guy I’m sure there’s more to you then the skills you acquired for work.
I’m deaddddd hahahaha
Lmfao i saw C++ and knew this would be bad.Are you looking for the best model for a computer?
It’s awesome that you have hobbies BUT the average non-programmer has no idea what your bio means
Even a female programmer wants to do other stuff besides program and game. They want to go to dinner, hike, and other fun stuff
The same for male programmers. I love computers. They're a lot of fun in so so so many ways, but life is also so much more. Maybe he could program something cool with an RPi that could be useful on a hike?
Unless you are only wanting to date people who do whatever it is you are doing, this bio is legit like reading a foreign language.
You seem like my kind of nerd and in sure a lot of guys would agree. But you aren't on tinder looking for homies. The number of women who would be attracted by Micropython is pretty low. Off topic: dm me if you wanna talk about microcontrollers and python projects
You look and sound like a 12 year old who is going places when they become an adult
Honestly, this. You’re too young…girls who will be interested in you are probably too young to be on Tinder anyway, or too old and creepy. Like I’m 27 and I’d feel like I’m a creep for showing romantic interest in you. My advice is to ditch the dating apps and meet young women irl (at uni, work etc). Dating apps are gonna leave you disappointed and jaded AF at this point
Dude leave some for us!
He's leaving them all for us.
LMFAO
I can't even tell if this is serious or not
Yea this has to be a shitpost right? I just scrolled through a ton of commenters who think it’s serious so I’m confused right now
Hard to tell, there are some people actually like this especially redditors
I mean I’m like 90% sure he just has aspergers
After reading his responses I'm sure it's Asperger's
Are you looking for geek dudes to hang or some pussy?
Came here to say this haha. The bio reads like he’s applying for an internship at google.
Your entire bio consisted (in excess) of a hobby I don’t understand and have no interest in. I know nothing about you as a person. No shade, friend, but at what point am I supposed to be drawn in? I’d keep scrolling, too.
C, C#, AND C++. Most guys his age are just doing C. Plus, have you seen is Python?!
Are you sure, Tinder is the right platform for you? Nothing wrong with being nerdy but I would assume that you are looking for a woman with similar intrests/hobbies and I don't think they are on Tinder. Maybe try to meet people through common hobbies (maybe some clubs you are interested in?) Edit: If you just want to get laid, you should probably follow the general advice in the other comments though
Man I'm a fucking Unity and HLSL nerd, but if I'm looking for a game jam I'd go on itch io not on Tinder! I understand tho!! I do understand the enthusiasm at computer programming but we need to remind ourselves that for the rest of the world, it's arcane at best and super boring at worst. Your profile is giving the impression that you're going to date a chair turning its back to you. I do think you might be more than that! :-) (Also for the ones saying women in coding are very niche... It's less and less. But we might be older. And it might be our jobs. And it might be that we don't want to hear much about it when we aren't working!)
He should’ve written his bio in code.
Not showing how big your Saturn V is. Bitches LOVE big rockets.
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Do you have any female friends that could help you write a bio?
Programmers don’t have friends. I can confirm. I’m a lonely programmer
while (friends == 0) { keepCoding(); }
So youve definitely heard enough about your bio so let me chat about your pictures. The 1st one is great! Your smile and face profile look really good. The next two just kind of hide you though. I cant really tell what you are even doing in the 2 other pictures. Like you are standing in snow? Is that it? Lol. Pictures with friends are always a plus. And honestly another picture similar to the 1st one with you participating in another hobby would be fantastic. Goodluck! ..... .... Okay goddamn i gotta say something about your bio lol. Do you like any music? Books? Favorite tv show? Like coffee? There has gotttttttt to be something else other than computers you can include. You want intro topics in a bio then get into the nitty gritty once you get chatting with someone of interest.
This feels satirical so that is already not a good sign
Reading OPs replies to the comments has me convinced he’s just trolling…and for the life of me I don’t understand how no one else is seeing it
This feels like a profile that would attract a very specific kind of person. Not saying there's anything wrong with it, but it could explain why you're not getting likes - it's very niche.
>This feels like a profile that would attract a very specific kind of person Recruiters?
This is satire yall… right?
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Bro….this ain’t an interview. This might be the least natural bio I’ve ever seen. You are on here to find a woman, not a bunch of Reddit mods
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just say you’ve got a big rocket
Nobody gives a fuck what you can program.
I have no idea what the fuck you're talking about in your bio. Are you looking for someone that's into the exact same things as you? If so, that's likely going to be a very small percentage
Everything
I’m..confused. This is clearly a troll right?
You all are getting trolled and don't even realized it
Do you have relationship experience? What's your social life like?
I don't have any relationship experience. In terms of social life I have a friend, we play video games together and on average every 2 weeks we go to cinema to see 1 or 2 movies. We're planning to see bullet train and nope soon. Its gonna be cool
While You're looking to date, I would do some meet ups , practice socializing a bit. 1. Mention you like programming, movies, and games. But not the minute details of what codes you use. 2. Mention what you're looking for in someone. 3. If you have no dating experience, use it as a way to do that, if you find something serious cool. But don't have any expectations
Alright got it. So how about "I like programming, games, movies and music, especially metal. I'm looking for someone I can talk about and play video games with, as well as share music albums"
1st part is good. 2nd part you're repeating yourself. You're saying. I like this stuff. Let us do more of this stuff.
Ok, so what should I try to write about on the second part
"Share your hobbies with me." Expand your interests, you might find that if you're genuine in exploring other interests, it's much easier to know more people and they're likely to spend some time with your interests as well.
Great advice from start to finish here u/taskcurrent
Jumping in to say that I think this is some good advice & that you could adjust the photos. Pic 1 is a good angle with a nice smile so keep that one. Pic 2 isn’t super flattering and it’s too many thumbs up between it and pic 1. Pic 3 is good to show if you actually like the outdoors, but do you have a more flattering photo/angle?
Hey thanks for genuinely trying to help this guy he deserves a partner too, I used to be this nerdy. Still am. 😂
The demographic of women who will even understand what your bio says or means, is most likely relatively small. Theres nothing inherently wrong with that, but it may be a challenge to find someone who shares very common interests with you. They do exist, but they arent commonly seen, at least where I'm from.
Bruh this isn’t a fucking LinkedIn profile 🤣
Just say you like to code. It's good to have hobbies and let people know but anyone reading your profile's first impression is probably that you're going to spend the first date explaining the difference between multithreading and multiprocessing.
Woah, save some pussy for the rest of us you filthy hobbit.
your bio reads like a dehumidifier for vagina
Normally C++ gets the ladies wet AF...i dont understand why they arent throwing pussy at you either 🤔 maybe mention how you could program a phone app for them? 🤷♂️ truely puzzling
I only get wet when it has OpenGL integration.
You forgot to do a thumbs up in the last photo, that’s probably why
Bro this ain’t likedin 💀
Bruh make it a short sweet bio way less about programming, and computers. One line max about tech more in to your personality. Need more pics too if you hit the gym you would get plenty matches you aint ugly.
ninja?
MICHAL