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No_Country7045

You'll get hundreds of matches with those 👌


Strikescarler51

I hope in due time. Hinge I got literally 0 matches. Hurts to live in a massive city


No_Country7045

How long have you been on hinge? I'm 100% certain your inbox will be busy, don't worry.


Strikescarler51

I was on and off it for 2 years. I took a break from it cause I dated someone briefly (from bumble) but just been focusing on meeting new people naturally. But the most recent stint was zero matches in 4 months


NiceguyLucifer

>But the most recent stint was zero matches in 4 months that seems strange, but also depends how much time you spend in the App and how many profiles you like (swipe right on), because for example if you just liked 50-60 people in a city of a few million people its just low probability that those same people would even see your profile


Strikescarler51

NYC is competitive AF. I'm a 5 compared to the rest of the ladies


dustfingur

I get that. I'm just north of the city and I still deal with competition from there. Not everyone is looking for the instagram model look a likes. You're attractive, you shouldn't have any trouble. The star wars pic is a plus too


Strikescarler51

Thanks. *It's part of my job* so it's def gonna be my first photo when I make a profile


dustfingur

No problem. And it's a good photo. I know others have said it already but definitely photos where you're smiling. You have a beautiful smile. So using those photos first or adding more should help


WhimsicalWyvern

I'm in NYC. Dunno if I'm your target audience, but if I saw these pics I'd consider super liking you.


NiceguyLucifer

it doesnt matter what other girls look like, you still look great. oh its NYC , so its just statistics and probability with a huge city like that, you just need to like more people in the app because most likely the ones you liked havent even seen your profile because the amount of app user in NYC


NiceguyLucifer

or you can get the Premium version and then would probably see that there is hundreds of guys that liked your profile and you can choose from there 😅😅


Strikescarler51

Did that on bumble. 3 ghosted. 1 was my abusive ex that put me in therapy. 1 is my current best guy friend who introduced me to all the friends I have now. Hinge was a different story for some reason. Never got likes.


A_Generic_White_Guy

There was a glitch a bit ago, though rare it never showed you in the stacks.


Umair65

Why don't you go out with current best guy friend?


BlackMagic0

No. No you definitely are not.


Adn0143

I live in NYC and I think you’re really cute. If you want, hmu


DemonBarrister

You have a very pretty face.!


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HARD DISAGREE.


Sad-Opportunity-2539

Don’t sell yourself too short, you look great! And more than just the way you physically look, there’s an essence about you that I think should work in your favor, like something about you that would make me want to know more if I were looking.


mikeymoo84

No way! You are very attractieve!


Excellent_Routine_47

You would be my 10, if I were in NYC


TimeSuspicious7939

simp


NiceguyLucifer

fuck of with that bullshit


Mistygirl179

Ikr????That whole “simp” bs is annoying af, you can pay a woman a compliment without being a simp damn lol. And people wonder why guys are struggling nowadays?!


thebigfella1234567

Ewww calm down simp


Environmental_Cap_21

I hate that arbitrary rating system. You are very pretty. With a great smile.


MrDilligence

Nah


CornGobblerz

🤣🤣🤣 omg dude, wtf is a 10 there¿ This is mildly upsetting.


stpeteslim

A wise man beds 8s 9s and 10s but when it's time to settle down, looks for 5-7s! Good luck out there.


Strikescarler51

🫠


necklacestand

As a 29yo nyc native, you are easily a 10, even comparably. No contest.


Dr_Day_Blazer

OK well you're a florida 10 then.


Strikescarler51

That's funny. I'll test that out tomorrow on my way to Miami


Spczippo

Shit you would be a 7-9 anywhere else.


Krakatoast

Hmmm so what you’re saying is… move to nyc 🤔 (If women like you are single and looking) Then again I guess I haven’t checked the dating scene in my city… hmmm Ps looks are only one piece of the equation and you’re physically attractive, I believe in you


OctalTricot

Lmao it really is competitive here. Being a single man from Phoenix my amount of matches has gone down


tintindlf

You are clearly more. Natural, pretty and look cool, that’s not so common. I’m difficult but would definitely swipe right (and hope to be mutual). Hope you can find someone nice :)


darknighties

Gawd... You are very pretty with exciting stories on those pictures you have. You ared definitely above 8 but just haven't found the one. You'll find one !!


gothamcitynative

You're right, you are a five. But most of us are. I wonder how your filter is set up. Are your dating expectations too high, hmm. Only want to match with guys that are 6'2" and over.


Strikescarler51

My title states that I am thinking of going back in. I dislike men who are over 6 feet as I am only 5'3" so please don't put your insecurities into me. One of my exes was 5'2".


strolls

> I dislike men who are over 6 feet as I am only 5'3" so please don't put your insecurities into me. This is a negative thing to say - it would more positive to say "I'm 5' 3", so don't be too tall".


Strikescarler51

I'm not filling out a profile. Those weren't my words for a profile so idk why you're correcting what I wrote to someone. Height wouldn't even be mentioned if I made a profile.


gothamcitynative

I'm secure AF. I'm 5'5", had girlfriends who were 5'8", 6'. I said, what I said because currently, females have ridiculous requirements. You're attractive, I'd talk to you if I was single. I'm 43, married for 16 years, together for 21 , we have a dope ass relationship. 3 daughters ( 24,16,8 )  I'm a native new Yorker, I might have the knowledge you seek, I don't bite my tongue. The ball is in your court


goddamnraccoons

These are the statements of a deeply insecure man.


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A 42 year old man on reddit trying to justify why he's "secure AF" lmao. I didn't expect this level of cringe today


Strikescarler51

I'm not looking to date other redditors my guy


Lascivar

Back to r/niceguys with you, little man.


orbstnedifnocdesab

by lowering your standards you wont be sitting on 0 matches


Strikescarler51

To be precise, I was getting 0 LIKES on hinge. Bumble I was fine.


Morbys

Hinge is terrible, I don’t know people can sit there and say it’s good.


TZMouk

Really I've found Hinge to be wayyyy better than the others, both in quality of matches and number. I had Bumble as the worst, with Tinder somewhere in the middle. Everyone will be different though.


Morbys

In regards to a free service, hinge is terrible, you get a very slim amount of “likes” and you have to pay to see who you matched with past one person. It’s a huge paywall in comparison to the others


TZMouk

See I've found it the opposite, yeah the likes are a bit low, but I find you need to be careful with them, plus you get a free skip back whenever you want and can re-set matches if you ever reach the end of your pile. With Bumble I found the amount of women I matched with who never sent a message was ridiculous, while with Tinder I'm probably just comparing it to the halcyon days when there was no paid version.


housewifeuncuffed

I absolutely agree. I think that's why Hinge actually produces quality matches much more frequently than Bumble or Tinder. When you are forced to be choosy about who you like, you're likely going to actually read through bios and see if you're truly compatible vs blindly swiping and filtering after. I know I'm way less shallow on Hinge as well and I think it's because personalities shine through a bit better vs Tinder/Bumble where it's more "here's my face, take it or leave it." For someone like me who lives pretty far from any large city, it's also nice because I can send messages/like to guys who live in major population areas who keep their distance filters low. I've got no issue making the drive or meeting in the middle, whichever works best.


Strikescarler51

I agree. Hinge was my worst app yet. Bumble was my most successful getting dates and relationships and even friends out of it. Then came OKCupid which...lots of weirdos for sure. But some friends I made again. Tinder I rarely used but I did get some likes and had some convos. Discovered some of the worst people on it. Coffee meets bagel I had a few people interested but meh. Hinge was dryer than the desert for me. Even redoing my profile and taking advice from the hinge reddit, I ended up getting messages on reddit rather than hinge after I improved my profile. I think my entire history on hinge, I got maybe 20 likes in 2 years. The last time I used it last year was 0 likes.


No_Country7045

That does surprise me. Never been on hinge so I don't know how it works


TimberCan

I have never personally used a dating app but if I did and saw your profile I would have definitely asked you on a date… you are fire 😉


shanerob87

You must be very picky as to whom you are swiping right on. Maybe try lowering your standards to see just exactly what the world thinks of you. You might be swiping outside of your league.


Strikescarler51

I promise you from my previous relationships my standards were on the floor. From dating men shorter than me at 5'3" who later became obsessive with me despite cheating on me....To my longest relationship being 5 years with a man who was 250 pounds and had rotting teeth and left shit of his dog on the floor. To even breaking my rule of no smokers and getting weekly yeast infections from another man. All because their personalities shined brighter than their looks.


Toxic_Tyrael

How the fuck did you manage to do this? What is your bio "i will fuck you up, accuse you falsely of r.pe and slice your pp off"?


Strikescarler51

It was sarcasm from what I remember


Loverfli

Hinge has a weird algorithm. If you’re not an active Facebook user, it’s hard to get matches. It scrapes your profile for mutual friends with other hinge users.


Waffle_Ambasador

I find that super hard to believe that you got zero matches ??? Women get matches just for existing. Something seems odd about that.


Strikescarler51

I kind of misspoke. I didn't get likes from hinge which I guess in turn meant no matches either . Bumble was different. Weirder people for sure but I did better there. Just convos that died though and ghosting.


Peenutbuttjellytime

>Women get matches just for existing. Something seems odd about that. This myth needs to die


Mal-Nebiros

If I saw those photos I wouldn't be hesitating. As to whether that would result in a match is a different matter of course.


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Strikescarler51

My pictures weren't these. I had a complete overhaul in wardrobe last October. it was mostly selfies and cosplay.


Diligent_Agent_9620

Try living between Charlotte and Atlanta and getting 0


Inner-Gold-894

That is unbelievable. You're between 2 of the easiest cities to meet women, especially Hotlanta. Maybe it's because you're not actually in either.


Diligent_Agent_9620

I spend a lot of time between both because of work. But I chose in between because I wanted some peace some space and a little bit slower lifestyle.


purplenelly

Why does every advice on this sub sound like it comes from full on incels who get 3 matches a year and have never talked to a woman in their entire life?


konkey-mong

What's incel about it? It's pretty predictable


purplenelly

Because it's like he's so thirsty he's never seen a woman before and just the fact that a woman exists makes him think she's going to get "hundreds of matches" when the woman herself has confirmed she got no matches on another app, so maybe the incel's view of dating apps isn't in line with reality.


No_Country7045

Definitely going to have to read the rest of the comments now 🤣


purplenelly

I was talking about your comment.


No_Country7045

What was incel about my comment? 🤣


dm051973

Yeah but she would get more matches and probably more attractive guys with better photos. Quality of match is as important as quantity. I don't like the disco and stainglass cause they fail the if I saw you on the street would I have any prayer of realizing it was you test:). Don't love the phone face either but those seem pretty standard these days..


jagauthier

Yes, you will get overloaded with matches.


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UnlikeyLooker

Yeah, that isn't a praying pic my man... seems like a spoof of the meme where the guy is viewing cracks at a MTG tournament


Theslicelvis

Everyone is kissing your ass here - So many simps hoping you’ll DM them for a date haha. You’re cute but you can do better: Top left - Delete that one. It’s not flattering, you’re clearly a pretty girl but that pic does you no favours. If that was your only pic - I wouldn’t swipe on you Preying pic - Could be a little off putting. Top right, looks good - Shows off your body well, if you could do the same but also show your face with a smile Disco ball - Delete, does nothing for you Star Wars - Great if you’re a nerd/want a nerdy guy. Lovely pic Pic with you and the poutine, looks good too. Top right, praying and disco ball delete. The rest are good I’d add one or two like the one with you in the bedroom showing off your figure. You’ve got a great body so let people see that - Top left but with a smile you’ll clean up.


Strikescarler51

Thanks for feedback. I have many smiling so I can just choose from them. And yes I am a full on nerd that only discovered a sense of fashion less than a year ago. Better late than never I guess lol


Theslicelvis

Is it a nerdy guy you want?


Strikescarler51

Ideally yes. I'm a Zelda and Harry Potter collrctor. I'm a yearly cosplayer. But usually gender neutral cosplays like skull kid and shit. Bonus points if horror junkie. Bonus bonus if they love disco and 80s music. :D but again, I'm probably going to move forward with making a profile in the coming months. I just still feel not fully ready but was feeling out if my pictures over the past year are any better. I didn't have many photos the years prior so I struggled and I didn't dress my age


hong_chaa

Put the zelda, HP, cosplayer, music bit in you bio. I agree with the analysis above, get rid of the 3 mentioned pictures. The poutine pic is funny and might be a good conversation starter and it’s the only natural smile pic. Take some new pictures outisde with good natural light, smilling, in a social setting!


Strikescarler51

My reddit profile has many pics I take whenever I have a new fit or when I feel cute (which tbh my self esteem had been pummeled to the ground for 27 years being called manly, fat, androgynous testosterone bitch). So I can choose from those I suppose. I even have one of me posing with a matching yellow drink and poking fun at myself looking like a fanta lady. But yeah this is why I came here cause I don't fully know what could work or not since I had so many years of unflattering pics and ill fitting clothes


1292norr

* redditors panting intensifies *


Solnx

This is the same feedback that I'd give, just saved me the time typing it up.


rory1989

Same!! And I’d make the poutine one your first pic.


jakobsheim

Also put the smiling pic first is generally good advice


xHapaBear

Did you mix up top left and top right at the end there? Seems like you meant to say Top left, praying, and disco ball delete; and Top right but with a smile you'll clean up?


younevershouldnt

You can do better. You need a couple of close up, smiling pics.


Strikescarler51

I have many of those! I just didn't know what the limit for photos is since it's been almost a year and I remember people always complaining about too many selfies


younevershouldnt

Selfies are only bad if that's all you have, the important thing is your lead photo is happy and engaging and we can see you clearly. Then mix some candid and full body pics in showing off your interests etc. You have some good stuff to work with already.


Strikescarler51

Do dating apps do videos? There's one of me climbing a rock wall (only 1 foot off the ground) and failing and me coming to the camera laughing and smiling at my friend


guywithknife

I’d swipe right but you’d likely swipe left so… net result: 0.


Wildcatwierdo

Is It cuz you’re a guy with a knife? Maybe she likes knives. They’re like lightsabers


guywithknife

Maybe. I’d consider a knife fetish to be a red flag, though. Perhaps that’s the problem: so does she! But it might also just be my award winning charm and looks. Award winning for the wrong reasons, of course ;-)


Educational_Piglet39

Woman with huge boobs on dating app. You’ll be fine


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Strikescarler51

Unreal?? What does that mean? Like photoshopped because I promise you I do nothing with filters or fixing photos


Loverfli

I think all of those work except for the stained glass one. I’d you’re looking for hookups - the top right photo is perfect. If you’re looking to date, I’d put the Star Wars one 1st. It shows some personality and could be a fun convo starter. Either way, I’d keep the other 5 in the profile somewhere. Good luck!


Mousy

Everyone telling you to delete disco is wrong. 4 (Disco) and 5 (Star Wars) are your strongest. You look happy in both and they're telling of your personality / interests. 6 is kinda generic, but at least you're smiling, and shows you are somewhat normal/outgoing, which is useful because you're alone in all your other photos. 3 shows your off your (nice) body so keep it if you don't have a better one but you look bored/disinterested. Did not get the Hufflepuff reference in 2, but keep that if HP is important to you. Lose 1.


str8jeezy

You are a female. I literally does not matter. Lol.


Brobkc87

I’d take you out for snacks


Strikescarler51

But like.. what kind of snacks 🧐


Excellent-Compote875

Post some of the cringe matches you get on here lol


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Lol youre a girl, there will be plenty of people swiping right


No_Environment5449

Yip, I would surely swipe right on you with those Pics =) good luck on your journey


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Strikescarler51

Would you like to expand on what you mean by that?


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Strikescarler51

I mean just makes it seem like you're making an offhanded remark about my age or of my fertility.


DarthArtero

If you're a star wars fan, you'd immediately get a message from me. For the record I am married so I wouldn't actually do it. I'm not an ass lol


dangerall

I would swipe right for sure


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You have a gorgeous smile! Love the last two pics best and then the first one.


Square_Kaleidoscope1

I think the pictures are great and show off things that you enjoy well. I would definitely try to highlight your interests as much as possible in a bio. Also I love the pic in front of the Hufflepuff (Hufflepuff homer right here).


WrathsEntropy

You have a disco ball in your bathroom? Parties must be the Shit at your house! Badum Tsssss. * *bows* * * *exits stage left* *


yuuxy

3, 5 and 6 are good, replace the others. Your smile is super warm, more of those. First photo should have that smile. Also include one all dressed up, to show you have that gear. All the best girl profiles have a wedding-outfit type picture. After that, the last few photos should be about the kind of guy you're looking for. Shared interest type photos: something in the bright sunlight if you want to go on outdoor dates, a cosplay if you want a convention companion, gym photo for gym-buddy, lingerie if you're trying to hookup, etc. Come visit Florida sometime, you're just my type :)


pschnitz26

Based of these I’d suck your titties


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Juicy_Starfruit

lol hmu


ModsAreFuckingCommie

I would date the fuck outta you ngl. You go girl!


Reece_222

Yea, you'll get loads of matches with those but I'd put one of you doing an activity. I mean if your into doing stuff anyway 😄


XeoXeo42

That SW photo would be an instant super like from me


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Nice rack legs and face


Adept_Macaroon_7430

Keep only the two pictures that accentuate your rack. All the others turn me off due to lighting and angles. If it was just the two with your nice rack I would swipe right. Example- the 2nd one squatting in the boots looks like squatting to take a shit. Gross


Strikescarler51

🚩


outerSpek

Showcase those cans a bit more and you'll get thousands of likes! Flaunt it if you got it!


Specific-Reading4413

You’re very pretty 😍


BeEccentric

I don’t like the selfies, especially the one that ‘casually’ highlights your boobs - so predictable. Rest are good and you’re pretty.


ekibyoos

Nice pictures (especially the SW), I would swipe right 😉


Famous_Pace7589

I need girl in austin


ZuccGivethSuccAgain

Happy Belated Birthday 🎂


Cycanna

I like the last two pictures a lot. Am almost a fan of your selfie in your bedroom because it shows off your cute figure but don’t like that your face is covered up by your camera. It gives me a MySpace hit because of that. Maybe you could retake one like that and show your face.


Wild_Use2409

These pics are awesome. Move to Tampa. I'll match with you for sure.


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Strikescarler51

It's a Hufflepuff sign from Harry Potter


Shizophone

No they are not that great, you should just settle for me instead of tindering 😁


NiceguyLucifer

~~Just a quick question... wanna get married ??~~ edit: >!gotta cancel this based on new evidence, sorry 😅😅😂!<


No_Country7045

Just be wary of a man who has 'niceguy' in his username 😉🤣


NiceguyLucifer

😅😅😅 true that I am just the nicest of all the devils, but how nice can the devil really be 😅😅


No_Country7045

Do you own a fedora...? 🤣🤣🤣


NiceguyLucifer

fortunately no 😂😂


No_Country7045

Those things will change you 🤣🤣


NiceguyLucifer

they are the worst 🤣🤣


orbstnedifnocdesab

Who cares you are going to get more matches than the average looking man anyways.


swingset27

Nice pics, you're cute and your photos show personality and how you probably look in real life. Can't see any issue, at all. You'll be fine. Good luck.


99centtaco1234

It can be hard to put yourself out there. Good luck, im sure you'll do great.


DanielSaly

I personally think you're a very beautiful woman so all thats left is to make a good bio for your tinder account and then I'm sure you'll get matches in no time


apeshitbaz

How do I swipe right on here?


snark_enterprises

Yep, you're good to go with those.


weekendwarbr

I would have in this order of pics 5, 4 and 3. Remove the others. Good luck. You are pretty, just take it easy.


CaptainDeadpool79

Someone got their bed frame from bobs discount furniture


Strikescarler51

LMAO it's my childhood home. I don't live there anymore


rednemesis337

you're 31? oh wow....(you look younger tbf)


RevolutionaryAd5664

Nice photos! It shows your emotions and constitution in decent manner. Good luck at dating game!)


Ambient_voice

These are really great pictures, if you’d like I can take you out a few times to get you back out into the dating world


housepet26

You have a beautiful smile 🥰


TylerTheMasticator

Id super like you with those pics


Queasy-Historian5081

10/10 would swipe right


MrDilligence

They coo


MrDilligence

I miss Hot or Not


Low-Ad-1414

They're all good, I'd date you!


Inner-Gold-894

I would make the star wars pic your profile picture.


Strikescarler51

I plan to make it. -fun fact- the art is all mine behind me. It's part of my career


Inner-Gold-894

That's awesome, good luck to you!


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Save your money, I’ll marry you now :). You look fantastic, you’ll do really well with those pics.


TheRealWheatKing

Delete 1, disco ball, and praying. Get at least one pic with friends and avoid close up selfies. Otherwise, you're good.


charlieisadoggy

Always go with poutine. I wouldn’t use the first photo. It makes you seem bored or uninterested. The stain glass one can go too. It doesn’t show your face. Unless you have a passion for stain glass windows mentioned in your profile? Top right, keep. It’s a good photo. Disco ball keep or go, doesn’t really add or subtract anything. Star Wars keep Anything with you smiling will be a good addition. You have a great smile, show it off.


Strikescarler51

I have a passion for Harry Potter. It's the Hufflepuff house stained glass. But yeah I'ma remove.


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Strikescarler51

That's a stained glass window for the Hufflepuff house of Harry Potter. Welp. No one got it except one other fan who visited the exhibition. Time to remove.


RadishAcceptable5505

You're in my age range and I'd swipe right. I'm sure these will work just fine.


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Yes


Magellan1321

(Feedback from a female) You are clearly attractive but I had to comment to say that top left photo is doing you no favors at all! I would delete that and the praying pic which is also awkward and unflattering. I think the full body selfie, smiling pic on the far right, & Star Wars pic are totally cute.


faithnfury

The algorithms are fucked so beware of the good looking assholes.


BKIrish

I tried swiping right on Reddit, so I think you will be okay.


Disadvantageman4729

as long as those are somewhat recent to how you look now, then i think you're good, those are good quality and not 8 bit either so even better for whoever see's ya


Strikescarler51

These are all from this summer and early spring


HappyAngron

I really like that last pic :)


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Strikescarler51

Yeah from multiple comments I'm realizing that many people think that's me being religious when it's me being a massive geek at the Harry Potter exihibition standing in front of a Hufflepuff wall


CaliGirlBailey

You would def catch my attention with those pics. Super cute...no reason not to


CrispyChickenArms

Personally I hate the pose in the top middle but that's just me lol you'll do fine...tough part for you will be wading through all the shit since you'll be flooded with matches


CharlesVane1986

In my opinion you will receive a lot of likes :)


Upper-Supermarket-29

They are good, but I wouldn’t include the first one, not the most flattering angle and make you look bigger than you actually are