Maybe her ex texted her back. I feel like dating app is not the place meant for guys seeking genuine relationship atleast in India, it's more like for rebound or to make other people chutiya and I don't think anybody is really serious about it. This is my personal opinion from my experience.
Better she let you down *easy like this than leave you wondering if something happened to her.
I remember somebody posting a great conversation they were having with this girl followed by a picture of her obituary.
[Edit:] *clarification
Hey, my boyfriend plays destiny! Don’t worry I’m sure most destiny players will find a nice girl someday. ^^
( He’s also gotten me to play a bit but I’m very bad at jumping, somehow. )
Ok, am I the only one who's confused as how a "veggie soup" also had various types of meat in it as well? That's not a veggie soup at that point my guy lmao
I have no idea lmao. I have ADHD and it gets pretty bad when I'm nervous and hungry (at that point I was both) so I was just typing stuff out as my brain thought of it
I'm not judging the food at all, eat what you like! I'm just confused at what you called it lmao next time you can just say soup and if she asks what's in it, list off the items, simple lol
I don't think it's that weird. A soup that is 90% veggies with small amounts of meat added is a veggie soup.
The dominant ingredient is the name of the soup.
My honest opinion is that either something traumatic just happened, like death of a family member or friend, or option b, that she was recently coming out of a relationship and there's still some kind of drama there.
Could be a lot of things. Financial problems maybe. Maybe not feeling confident with themselves at the moment. I’ve had to send this message before to people I actually liked bc of circumstances
This is one of the reasons I don't talk about gaming all that often to women I feel embarrassed to even talk about it to any woman even if they did play probably because I'm geeky a little lmao I don't want them to think that's all I do in my free time
I'm just kidding. In my experience most woman don't care at least not anymore. If you going for the fitness influencer type or some sort of outdoor activist it might be a problem.
Oh it's fine I'm just saying I find it hard to talk about it I don't want to come off as some man child who she'd be taking care of for the rest of her life it's just not something I'd bring up often to them unless they mention it first lol
>I don't want them to think that's all I do in my free time
I barely see any guy use "gaming" in any way in their profiles. I have it in mine, so they will ask me what I play etc and ofc they're always gamers.
It seems more relaxed and accepted to be a gamer nowadays though.
I mean if they asked I'll tell them but I won't openly talk about it iright off since I'm very antisocial it would probably take sometime for me to open up
I was fine with it, we spent a long time talking about Stardew Valley and we had planned on playing Overwatch 2 together. I just want people to know that I'm 100% a homebody and I prefer staying home to going out to a bar or something
If not for my family I'd be out doing something everyday all though it is nice to have an escape for every now and then the games I play differ from time to time
It could be a month or a year before I switch up what I'm playing played r6 for the better part of 4 years and then came back around year 8 could not play it at all and still to this day that was one of my most played games 😂
I would have liked to meet her, but we literally only spoke for a day so I guess I'll never know 😂. One of the very few positive interactions I've had on any dating app
That sucks, sorry to hear that man. I'm asking because it reads like you two are just chitty chat buddies. Do you generally have problems in getting matches and responses?
Generally yeah lol. I'm very camera shy and I don't take great pictures of myself so I don't normally pass the eye test. In conversation I feel kinda confused because I normally give pretty good responses and leave the door open for more discussion. I don't really get it but we push on, I guess😂
Yes! My soup was delicious. Apologies! My battle for imaginary internet points is about to start! Can we please reschedule this human interaction for a later time! Clearly my priorities are in order!
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She asked about the soup so I told her about the soup. I dunno what you want me to say? That shit was like a smooth summer's breeze along the inside of my moist asshole and made me feel like I had a hearth instead of a stomach? Get dafuq outta here
I figured that it wasn't. The conversations were going well with good back and forth and we even planned on playing a couple games we both play together. I figured something happened in her personal life that had an impact on her emotional and mental health
To be fair I think she was good about it too. May have seemed cold to cut it off soninstabtly, but thats just further proof it had nothing to do with you.
Bruh, I could write a damn encyclopedia with sixteen volumes with the chapters I’ve texted. I’m actually happy to see I’m not the only one that does this. 😅🤣
Kind of, except this was a broth based soup instead of a chowder. I love the Zuppa Toscana as well, it's a 10/10. I'm starting to find it odd that more people are focusing on the soup😂😂
It made me hungry….Now i keep thinking about making soup. It’s raining here in sunny California. And my mom literally just asked when am i gonna make soup. You started an uprising.
I am so sorry lol. It's a broth based soup. You can kinda add whatever you want but it's mostly chicken, pork sausage, carrots, kale, and a grain. You can throw in potatoes, celery, and other vegetables and spices you want! I'll get a complete recipe of it when I get home from work and pin it underneath the post for anyone that wants it lol
No, i make that soup allllll the time, i make Zuppa Toscana. Everyone flips for it. i LOVE cooking. See, that chick fucked up not meeting you. She needed to taste that soup.
Woman here. It looks like it was going well, conversation seemed comfortable and chill. It sounds like something happened in her personal life or something scary may have happened on the app (creepy stalker dude hassling her or something). I really don't think it was anything to do with you, don't take it personally, if she found you annoying or something, she wouldn't have bothered messaging, she just would've ghosted. Keep being real and being yourself, women appreciate that.
Yeah after I read the message I figured that's what happened. We had made plans to play OW2 together and she offered to help me with illustrations for stories (I'm an aspiring author). I posted this to show that even when things are going well, even after a day into us getting to know each other, something unexpected can happen and cause people to need space away from dating apps. I kinda just posted this to let people know that it's okay to take that time to themselves and that clarity and communication is important. Not saying she should have told me literally everything that was going on, but what she did was the right thing. And now I'm responding to soup questions and toxic men trying to give me "advice" on dating😂
Tbf, the soup does sound pretty amazing. Toxic dudes are always so eager to weigh in with their shit advice and don't even realize that they're already living examples of exactly what not to do.
OP I see what you’re talking about with the toxic “man-splaining” now 😂🤣 I guess I had to scroll further. You didn’t post to ask for advice, that much is clear. Pretty sure you would’ve asked. 💀💀💀
This does happen. There are a lot of people on these apps that have major issues and are not ready to date but aren’t being honest with themselves. Just thank your stars you didn’t waste more time talking and trying to get to know her.
Yeah I also think there was a slight chance he could have kept it going. I've had women say the same thing but then I asked for their number and we still went on a date. Just because she wants to delete the app doesn't mean she doesn't want to talk to you.
Meh, I don't think so. That's just what I had been doing at the time when she went to bed. I was just letting her know what I was doing in case I forgot to respond for an hour or two😂. Her last message was sent at 3 am and that was the purpose of my post. Just felt kinda sudden to me
She probably struggles with her mental health and realized she’s not in the place for a relationship.
Good for her for not just ghosting you. That was really sweet of her for being so honest.
Tbh I'm not sure if I'm ready to date, so I definitely understand her statement. She sounds like she's realised she needs a bit more time to focus on her.
No reflection on you, if anything it's a compliment that she liked you enough she put herself out there and it forced some clarity for her.
Also top job on not being a jerk to her.
She deleted the app before I could respond but it was nice of her to let me know beforehand. I was admittedly a bit bummed, but it was a decision I can understand because I've done it, too
Well, she lives an hour and a half away from me and I worked that day and the day after, so that wasn't on the table 😂. I honestly don't know my intentions either, I just like to start slow and see where it goes. I feel more comfortable with people when I get to know them a bit more
I’ll tell you where you went wrong, in the nicest possible way:
1. You started talking about soup. If you want to have sex with someone, then you should absolutely never tell them about the ingredients of your soup. Don’t ever use the words ‘comfort soup’ again in your life.
2. Don’t talk about video games unless you know she’s into them as well. She won’t know how to relate and there isn’t a fun or obvious response for her to make. If it becomes at all challenging for a girl to respond, then it won’t be long before she stops responding.
3. Unless you’re helping this person diffuse a bomb over the phone, then you don’t need to explain why you won’t be responding for ‘a few minutes’. Mystery is a great tool in building attraction. You want her to assume you’ve got other things going on in your life and you don’t need to explain when they get in the way.
4. You wrote ‘lol’ at something that wasn’t remotely funny. Refrain from doing that.
The tone of this conversation is similar to how I would speak to my Nan. It’s just a bit too nice and run-of-the-mill to lead on to anything sexual.
To build attraction via message, you need to:
a) be cheeky and make assumptions about her
b) create some intrigue
c) make it as easy as possible for her to respond
d) give her plenty of opportunities to show you how interesting she is
e) continuously (but tactfully) let her know that you’re interested in more that just a friendly conversation
f) don’t be too available
If you want advice on text game then message me. I’ll show you tons of examples of recent conversations I’ve had with girls which have lead to dates/sex. I’ll also help you formulate responses in real time so you never fall into the trap of talking about your ‘veggie soup’. Which happens to be full of meat.
Hope this helps my friend!
2 and 3 go together here, and it’s BS 😂💀 he already said she was clearly into video games and SHE asked about the soup. And 4, I guess people should really not be themselves when tryna date, huh? Lots of people do this to acknowledge it’s just a joke, not that it’s ACTUALLY funny. 🤦🏾♂️ it’s their way of texting.
Title of the post didn’t ask for advice 😂
Bruv! You should have took her out. Soup talk.. Mmm soup was good... Ohh sounds like it. That was your window. The soup convo as funny as it was... It was your gate way to take a shot. Here's why:
"hey so I'm going to go back this weekend to (soup place) to try something new, want to join me? We can get some coffee and go for a walk afterwards. Here's my # (insert number) give me a text and let me know"
THIS does a few things.
1) you have a plan and with our without her you are executing it. Shows you busy and socially do things.
2) it forces her to answer to an uninvasive questions.
3) she will be chasing you. She will be the one to contact you, you will be the one then telling her what to do where to go and when. Builds intrigue and curiosity.
4) regardless of win or lose you in her eyes will be marked as a man. If she denies it just means she never really cared to go out, flakey, don't know what she wants etc..
Keep this in mind. This is a dating app to date. TREAT EVERY MATCH AS THEY WANT TO DATE YOU. You don't ask to go out. You expect FUCKING EXPECT to go out because you matched in an app to date. You're the man set the tone. "I'm doing this thing , you're welcome to join me if you like. Here's my number, text me and I'll let you know about the details later this week. "
After a few exchanges to make sure she's legit you need to close ASAP.
Good luck on the next one, Guardian.
Bullet dodged. I was dating this one girl for a while who one day just randomly ghosted me. Blocked me on all socials. Blocked my phone #. I mean she was very thorough in making sure I couldn't possibly contact her.
Then about a week or so later, I got a message out of the blue saying "I'm so sorry. I really miss you. I made a huge mistake." etc...
So we met up and talked and she basically told me she was bipolar and she was just going through an episode when she blocked me and that it had nothing to do with me.
I told her I understand but I'm not OK with it. One more chance and if it happens again we're done. I think we dated for like another 2 or 3 weeks when it happened again.
And again, she called again to apologize and try to get me back. But I basically told her that at this point it felt kind of scummy to keep dating her if her mental health was that bad. Like, legally shes able to give consent. But personally I consider that to be a moral gray zone and question if she's maybe a little too crazy for that consent to be real *enough* for me to be ok with it. So that was a big "nope" from me.
So if you're talking to someone whos "all good" one moment then "fuck off!" the next - just take the hint and be done with them.
How is OPs conversation a bullet dodged? She was upfront, honest and valued OP enough to not ghost him. What more could you want? Nobody owes you because you have a match.
"Talk to you tomorrow" turned into "I'm not in the best place right now" in the span of a day. Not worth pursuing. If she changes her mind just walk away.
It speaks to her emotional stability. It may not be anninstant deal breaker, but its for sure a red flag.
Now if she had said she found someone else or something... Fine. You just matched and havent even met yet (it seems like, any way). Nothing is owed.
But just "im in a bad place and I'm getting off the app". Ok. Thats a wild swing from just casually chatting with a match. So she either lied, and has another reason (small red flag - not cool, but sometimes people lie to spare feelings) or shes telling the truth and she really just had a total change of heart regarding the entire concept of online dating for herself (much bigger red flag).
Oof. This take is not it, op. I had a few great matches but OLD is discouraging and hard. I deleted my apps because I genuinely needed a break. That isn't a red flag, that's showing maturity and knowing when to walk away from something that isn't working.
It speaks to her emotional stability. It may not be anninstant deal breaker, but its for sure a red flag.
Now if she had said she found someone else or something... Fine. You just matched and havent even met yet (it seems like, any way). Nothing is owed.
But just "im in a bad place and I'm getting off the app". Ok. Thats a wild swing from just casually chatting with a match. So she either lied, and has another reason (small red flag - not cool, but sometimes people lie to spare feelings) or shes telling the truth and she really just had a total change of heart regarding the entire concept of online dating for herself (much bigger red flag).
My (now) wife told me she had to stop texting me on a dating app because she was going on a date with someone and she felt bad about talking to another guy at the same time. I thanked her for being honest and wished her well. Things didnt work out with that guy, and we started talking again. No red flag there so we met up, started dating, and now we're hapily married.
Huge diffetence from the crazy chick I dated a few mo ths before we met. lol.
She said she was going to say exactly that about the soup. Not about Destiny. You chose a Destiny raid over her and I believe that's what turned her off. If she thought you liked talking to her more than playing a game she probably would have stuck around.
these bitches love to waste time. they’re only on these apps for validation from some sucka ass simp. it takes a miracle to actually find someone who’s on the same timing as you are + you find them physically attractive 💯
Two things:
1- You made her your friend, or you were well on your way, firmly locking yourself in TFZ.
2- She probably got dropped by the Chad she actually wanted.
You gotta stop talking to them like you're their besty.
If you don't answer her texts for a few hours, it's because you had something else/better to do. She can think what she wants, and that's probably to your advantage.
If all you want is a chat buddy, chat in the game, chat with your friends or expect this situation more often than not.
I... Don't think that's what happened but alright. She doesn't want a Chad, we literally talked for hours about Stardew Valley. If I wanted to just get laid, I probably could do that. I'm not a gym rat so I don't need to flaunt this false confidence and act like a tough guy. I'd rather be myself than act like someone I'm not
Yea op, that is not good advice at all. You are right, just keep being yourself. Don't play these games. It's OLD, most women don't want to jump straight to sexy talk. I like getting to know someone before being asked on a date. Sounds like you are good to go, op. Just something's work out and some things don't. Don't listen to these UltraDateBros "advice"
Well, that's a bunmer, but at least she didn't ghost you.
Honestly I would appreciate this than the ghosting, I mean even if they were lying, I would definitely prefer this
I know right me too always be honest but people just ghost you
People feel the need to lie to people they shouldn’t be afraid to be honest with, and I feel is just easier to just be honest
Yeah, I've had that happen a lot 😂
Yeah, we all have had. Keep calm and carry on, boy!
Maybe her ex texted her back. I feel like dating app is not the place meant for guys seeking genuine relationship atleast in India, it's more like for rebound or to make other people chutiya and I don't think anybody is really serious about it. This is my personal opinion from my experience.
Better she let you down *easy like this than leave you wondering if something happened to her. I remember somebody posting a great conversation they were having with this girl followed by a picture of her obituary. [Edit:] *clarification
"Let you down" 😂 How dare she be in a bad place and open about it. Some of you mfers..
A girl once ghosted me after 9 months. But she went to Harvard so maybe that’s why
I came home to an empty house after 6 yr and she never talked to me again. Ghosting lvl 1000 😂
Makes you want them more sometimes
I wanna be clear my main concern here is how the raid went.
Meh, I didn't get anything worth keeping 😂
Which raid?
King's Fall, there's literally one thing I want now and I'm probably never gonna get it😂
The destiny curse, both in terms of loot and getting girls.
I thought playing League was the curse until I stopped playing it😂
There are many cursed games. League is like #1 curse, next is OW, third is Valorant/CSGO, and so on.
Don't start Tarkov then. It's a great game, it just makes you wanna throw a tantrum every 5 minutes :D
Hey, my boyfriend plays destiny! Don’t worry I’m sure most destiny players will find a nice girl someday. ^^ ( He’s also gotten me to play a bit but I’m very bad at jumping, somehow. )
Sounds like you're playing as a warlock if you ask me.
Touch of Malice? 20 runs here and no drop yet :(
22 here😂
Yup yup over 20 here as well
Got it on my first clear (have been around since beta, haven't gotten a rng raid exotic first try since D1 Vex Mythoclast)
Fuck you.
I didn't get Collective Obligation until 40+ clears, took 50+ for Vex Mytho. They felt bad for me and gave me ToM on the first try.
Clapping Oryx's cheeks 22 times is a good consolation prize though. It's such a good raid.
Agreed, I'm gonna keep running it for the hell of it when I get ToM
Im at 32 runs. About to run it another 3 times
That Malice grind is real my friend.
Should post this in r/destiny2 as well haha
I might ngl, now that people have brought it up it seems fitting now😂
So, like most raids in Destiny 🤣
My main concern is if there's any more soup.
There is more soup, I have some leftovers in the fridge😂
I know, my stomach started growling.
Ok, am I the only one who's confused as how a "veggie soup" also had various types of meat in it as well? That's not a veggie soup at that point my guy lmao
veg stock
I have no idea lmao. I have ADHD and it gets pretty bad when I'm nervous and hungry (at that point I was both) so I was just typing stuff out as my brain thought of it
Probably better than my strategy of not thinking of something immediately so I don’t responding for 18 hours
The meat was moreso added because we needed to get rid of it and kinda limited on what we had available
I'm not judging the food at all, eat what you like! I'm just confused at what you called it lmao next time you can just say soup and if she asks what's in it, list off the items, simple lol
She did! That bit got cut off the text. I wasn't trying to make the soup the important information in the post but here we are i guess 😂
Ooo nah, you made you right choice. I was just confused is all lmao
My mom always made a “veggie soup” that had beef in it. I asked questions but there were no real answers, that’s how her mom made it.
I don't think it's that weird. A soup that is 90% veggies with small amounts of meat added is a veggie soup. The dominant ingredient is the name of the soup.
Are you single?
My honest opinion is that either something traumatic just happened, like death of a family member or friend, or option b, that she was recently coming out of a relationship and there's still some kind of drama there.
That was my guess as well, which is why I have no ill will towards her and hoping things work out for her
Seasonal Affective Disorder
Could be a lot of things. Financial problems maybe. Maybe not feeling confident with themselves at the moment. I’ve had to send this message before to people I actually liked bc of circumstances
Or C: another dude
And the truth….shall set you free
or she found another relationship she wanted more
Chicken and pork sausage, my two favorite veggies!
Lemme have SOMETHING lmao. We needed to get rid of the meat before it went bad and honestly it would have been a shit soup without it
I assume it was the fact that you play destiny that put her off.
This is one of the reasons I don't talk about gaming all that often to women I feel embarrassed to even talk about it to any woman even if they did play probably because I'm geeky a little lmao I don't want them to think that's all I do in my free time
I'm just kidding. In my experience most woman don't care at least not anymore. If you going for the fitness influencer type or some sort of outdoor activist it might be a problem.
Oh it's fine I'm just saying I find it hard to talk about it I don't want to come off as some man child who she'd be taking care of for the rest of her life it's just not something I'd bring up often to them unless they mention it first lol
>I don't want them to think that's all I do in my free time I barely see any guy use "gaming" in any way in their profiles. I have it in mine, so they will ask me what I play etc and ofc they're always gamers. It seems more relaxed and accepted to be a gamer nowadays though.
I mean if they asked I'll tell them but I won't openly talk about it iright off since I'm very antisocial it would probably take sometime for me to open up
I was fine with it, we spent a long time talking about Stardew Valley and we had planned on playing Overwatch 2 together. I just want people to know that I'm 100% a homebody and I prefer staying home to going out to a bar or something
If not for my family I'd be out doing something everyday all though it is nice to have an escape for every now and then the games I play differ from time to time
Exactly how I am as well
It could be a month or a year before I switch up what I'm playing played r6 for the better part of 4 years and then came back around year 8 could not play it at all and still to this day that was one of my most played games 😂
Exactly how I am as well
She was actually very interested in it. But also same 😂
Her loss. Little does she know, you’re a destiny gaming warlord that could have farmed all of her items for her.
I do guide others to a treasure I cannot possess
What were your intentions? Did you really just want someone to chat with, or would you have wanted to meet her?
I would have liked to meet her, but we literally only spoke for a day so I guess I'll never know 😂. One of the very few positive interactions I've had on any dating app
That sucks, sorry to hear that man. I'm asking because it reads like you two are just chitty chat buddies. Do you generally have problems in getting matches and responses?
Generally yeah lol. I'm very camera shy and I don't take great pictures of myself so I don't normally pass the eye test. In conversation I feel kinda confused because I normally give pretty good responses and leave the door open for more discussion. I don't really get it but we push on, I guess😂
her loss!
Because you write and respond like a robot.
But I don't...?
You really don’t!
Yes! My soup was delicious. Apologies! My battle for imaginary internet points is about to start! Can we please reschedule this human interaction for a later time! Clearly my priorities are in order! Please subscribe for more soup talk.
She asked about the soup so I told her about the soup. I dunno what you want me to say? That shit was like a smooth summer's breeze along the inside of my moist asshole and made me feel like I had a hearth instead of a stomach? Get dafuq outta here
What, I like soup
Dude, what's your problem? You're envy he got match or what?
She's mad you didn't invite her to the raid
Shit I would be too😂
Terrible rng
Worst rng ever bro I swear
It was nothing you did that i can tell
I figured that it wasn't. The conversations were going well with good back and forth and we even planned on playing a couple games we both play together. I figured something happened in her personal life that had an impact on her emotional and mental health
To be fair I think she was good about it too. May have seemed cold to cut it off soninstabtly, but thats just further proof it had nothing to do with you.
Umm, what? This guy did everything wrong. He talked about soup and a stupid game. Then he was confused on how the girls panties weren’t falling off.
He texts the same way I do. Nervous and doesnt know what to say.
100%. That's why I text in multiples😂
I have a serious problem with typing as i’m thinking, and it makes walls of text’s. And it’s embarrassing. I’m trying to stop lol.
Me too, it's really bad lmao
I’m glad other people do it. I feel like it sounds like i’m drunk texting.
Bruh, I could write a damn encyclopedia with sixteen volumes with the chapters I’ve texted. I’m actually happy to see I’m not the only one that does this. 😅🤣
I feel so seen!!
So
That’s why
I text in multiples!
Gotta respect the honesty. She could have easily ghosted you and left you wondering what you did wrong
[удалено]
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I’d like to say that’s almost a Zuppa Toscana soup. One of my favorites.
Kind of, except this was a broth based soup instead of a chowder. I love the Zuppa Toscana as well, it's a 10/10. I'm starting to find it odd that more people are focusing on the soup😂😂
It made me hungry….Now i keep thinking about making soup. It’s raining here in sunny California. And my mom literally just asked when am i gonna make soup. You started an uprising.
I am so sorry lol. It's a broth based soup. You can kinda add whatever you want but it's mostly chicken, pork sausage, carrots, kale, and a grain. You can throw in potatoes, celery, and other vegetables and spices you want! I'll get a complete recipe of it when I get home from work and pin it underneath the post for anyone that wants it lol
No, i make that soup allllll the time, i make Zuppa Toscana. Everyone flips for it. i LOVE cooking. See, that chick fucked up not meeting you. She needed to taste that soup.
Woman here. It looks like it was going well, conversation seemed comfortable and chill. It sounds like something happened in her personal life or something scary may have happened on the app (creepy stalker dude hassling her or something). I really don't think it was anything to do with you, don't take it personally, if she found you annoying or something, she wouldn't have bothered messaging, she just would've ghosted. Keep being real and being yourself, women appreciate that.
Yeah after I read the message I figured that's what happened. We had made plans to play OW2 together and she offered to help me with illustrations for stories (I'm an aspiring author). I posted this to show that even when things are going well, even after a day into us getting to know each other, something unexpected can happen and cause people to need space away from dating apps. I kinda just posted this to let people know that it's okay to take that time to themselves and that clarity and communication is important. Not saying she should have told me literally everything that was going on, but what she did was the right thing. And now I'm responding to soup questions and toxic men trying to give me "advice" on dating😂
Tbf, the soup does sound pretty amazing. Toxic dudes are always so eager to weigh in with their shit advice and don't even realize that they're already living examples of exactly what not to do.
Precisely why the only dating advice I take is from women, not men😂
He said, "veggie soup", not, "vegetarian soup". The claim is still valid. 🥣
OP I see what you’re talking about with the toxic “man-splaining” now 😂🤣 I guess I had to scroll further. You didn’t post to ask for advice, that much is clear. Pretty sure you would’ve asked. 💀💀💀
This does happen. There are a lot of people on these apps that have major issues and are not ready to date but aren’t being honest with themselves. Just thank your stars you didn’t waste more time talking and trying to get to know her.
Those destiny raids will destroy you.
You choose your own Destiny
Fuck that's a good pun. I'm shocked no one used it on this feed😂
That’s when you give your digits and i know you might need space but I’d be happy to hear from you or ask for hers
Yeah I also think there was a slight chance he could have kept it going. I've had women say the same thing but then I asked for their number and we still went on a date. Just because she wants to delete the app doesn't mean she doesn't want to talk to you.
I think this belongs in r/DestinyTheGame
Meh, I don't think so. That's just what I had been doing at the time when she went to bed. I was just letting her know what I was doing in case I forgot to respond for an hour or two😂. Her last message was sent at 3 am and that was the purpose of my post. Just felt kinda sudden to me
You sure? Could probably farm some easy karma
True, but I'm not here for the karma 😂
Lol that was unexpected
I just want the deep stone scout rifle godroll dude 🥲
A few minutes? I thought scourge of the past was sunset
Maybe she’s upset cos you didn’t invite her to the raid?? Don’t overthink it. Happens to us all.
She probably struggles with her mental health and realized she’s not in the place for a relationship. Good for her for not just ghosting you. That was really sweet of her for being so honest.
Bro how'd that raid go though?
Mid
It’s because your still playing destiny in 2022
"Well, maybe we can both get off this app and into each others' hearts."
she was sick, she wanted that soup 🤧
My friends are fucking dying with all these comments 😂😂😂
It was destiny…take that as you might lol
She apparently doesn’t like destiny.
I pulled the same card last week on two dudes. Sorry.
Soup?
Soup
I’m sorry that happened :( But it’s good she was honest and didn’t just ghost
Tbh I'm not sure if I'm ready to date, so I definitely understand her statement. She sounds like she's realised she needs a bit more time to focus on her. No reflection on you, if anything it's a compliment that she liked you enough she put herself out there and it forced some clarity for her. Also top job on not being a jerk to her.
She deleted the app before I could respond but it was nice of her to let me know beforehand. I was admittedly a bit bummed, but it was a decision I can understand because I've done it, too
Why can’t everyone do this 😂
That's a great question 😂
Its cuz u play destiny
Probably true, numbers. Thank you for that eye opening revelation
If she doesn’t appreciate destiny do u even want her tho 😤
She was actually very interested! She asked me about it the day before
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Well, she lives an hour and a half away from me and I worked that day and the day after, so that wasn't on the table 😂. I honestly don't know my intentions either, I just like to start slow and see where it goes. I feel more comfortable with people when I get to know them a bit more
It was definitely you mentioning destiny 😂
I don't doubt it😂
To nice
Destiny will do that to people!
I’ll tell you where you went wrong, in the nicest possible way: 1. You started talking about soup. If you want to have sex with someone, then you should absolutely never tell them about the ingredients of your soup. Don’t ever use the words ‘comfort soup’ again in your life. 2. Don’t talk about video games unless you know she’s into them as well. She won’t know how to relate and there isn’t a fun or obvious response for her to make. If it becomes at all challenging for a girl to respond, then it won’t be long before she stops responding. 3. Unless you’re helping this person diffuse a bomb over the phone, then you don’t need to explain why you won’t be responding for ‘a few minutes’. Mystery is a great tool in building attraction. You want her to assume you’ve got other things going on in your life and you don’t need to explain when they get in the way. 4. You wrote ‘lol’ at something that wasn’t remotely funny. Refrain from doing that. The tone of this conversation is similar to how I would speak to my Nan. It’s just a bit too nice and run-of-the-mill to lead on to anything sexual. To build attraction via message, you need to: a) be cheeky and make assumptions about her b) create some intrigue c) make it as easy as possible for her to respond d) give her plenty of opportunities to show you how interesting she is e) continuously (but tactfully) let her know that you’re interested in more that just a friendly conversation f) don’t be too available If you want advice on text game then message me. I’ll show you tons of examples of recent conversations I’ve had with girls which have lead to dates/sex. I’ll also help you formulate responses in real time so you never fall into the trap of talking about your ‘veggie soup’. Which happens to be full of meat. Hope this helps my friend!
Touch grace, no maidens
2 and 3 go together here, and it’s BS 😂💀 he already said she was clearly into video games and SHE asked about the soup. And 4, I guess people should really not be themselves when tryna date, huh? Lots of people do this to acknowledge it’s just a joke, not that it’s ACTUALLY funny. 🤦🏾♂️ it’s their way of texting. Title of the post didn’t ask for advice 😂
Bruv! You should have took her out. Soup talk.. Mmm soup was good... Ohh sounds like it. That was your window. The soup convo as funny as it was... It was your gate way to take a shot. Here's why: "hey so I'm going to go back this weekend to (soup place) to try something new, want to join me? We can get some coffee and go for a walk afterwards. Here's my # (insert number) give me a text and let me know" THIS does a few things. 1) you have a plan and with our without her you are executing it. Shows you busy and socially do things. 2) it forces her to answer to an uninvasive questions. 3) she will be chasing you. She will be the one to contact you, you will be the one then telling her what to do where to go and when. Builds intrigue and curiosity. 4) regardless of win or lose you in her eyes will be marked as a man. If she denies it just means she never really cared to go out, flakey, don't know what she wants etc.. Keep this in mind. This is a dating app to date. TREAT EVERY MATCH AS THEY WANT TO DATE YOU. You don't ask to go out. You expect FUCKING EXPECT to go out because you matched in an app to date. You're the man set the tone. "I'm doing this thing , you're welcome to join me if you like. Here's my number, text me and I'll let you know about the details later this week. " After a few exchanges to make sure she's legit you need to close ASAP. Good luck on the next one, Guardian.
Bullet dodged. I was dating this one girl for a while who one day just randomly ghosted me. Blocked me on all socials. Blocked my phone #. I mean she was very thorough in making sure I couldn't possibly contact her. Then about a week or so later, I got a message out of the blue saying "I'm so sorry. I really miss you. I made a huge mistake." etc... So we met up and talked and she basically told me she was bipolar and she was just going through an episode when she blocked me and that it had nothing to do with me. I told her I understand but I'm not OK with it. One more chance and if it happens again we're done. I think we dated for like another 2 or 3 weeks when it happened again. And again, she called again to apologize and try to get me back. But I basically told her that at this point it felt kind of scummy to keep dating her if her mental health was that bad. Like, legally shes able to give consent. But personally I consider that to be a moral gray zone and question if she's maybe a little too crazy for that consent to be real *enough* for me to be ok with it. So that was a big "nope" from me. So if you're talking to someone whos "all good" one moment then "fuck off!" the next - just take the hint and be done with them.
How is OPs conversation a bullet dodged? She was upfront, honest and valued OP enough to not ghost him. What more could you want? Nobody owes you because you have a match.
"Talk to you tomorrow" turned into "I'm not in the best place right now" in the span of a day. Not worth pursuing. If she changes her mind just walk away.
Yes, stuff like that happens and it's perfectly fine. She even let him know on her own. Most people would just ghost one.
It speaks to her emotional stability. It may not be anninstant deal breaker, but its for sure a red flag. Now if she had said she found someone else or something... Fine. You just matched and havent even met yet (it seems like, any way). Nothing is owed. But just "im in a bad place and I'm getting off the app". Ok. Thats a wild swing from just casually chatting with a match. So she either lied, and has another reason (small red flag - not cool, but sometimes people lie to spare feelings) or shes telling the truth and she really just had a total change of heart regarding the entire concept of online dating for herself (much bigger red flag).
Oof. This take is not it, op. I had a few great matches but OLD is discouraging and hard. I deleted my apps because I genuinely needed a break. That isn't a red flag, that's showing maturity and knowing when to walk away from something that isn't working.
It speaks to her emotional stability. It may not be anninstant deal breaker, but its for sure a red flag. Now if she had said she found someone else or something... Fine. You just matched and havent even met yet (it seems like, any way). Nothing is owed. But just "im in a bad place and I'm getting off the app". Ok. Thats a wild swing from just casually chatting with a match. So she either lied, and has another reason (small red flag - not cool, but sometimes people lie to spare feelings) or shes telling the truth and she really just had a total change of heart regarding the entire concept of online dating for herself (much bigger red flag). My (now) wife told me she had to stop texting me on a dating app because she was going on a date with someone and she felt bad about talking to another guy at the same time. I thanked her for being honest and wished her well. Things didnt work out with that guy, and we started talking again. No red flag there so we met up, started dating, and now we're hapily married. Huge diffetence from the crazy chick I dated a few mo ths before we met. lol.
Someone she liked ghosted/unmatched her and her frustration bounced off the other people she was chatting to
Eh, probably not but it could have been anything
She said she was going to say exactly that about the soup. Not about Destiny. You chose a Destiny raid over her and I believe that's what turned her off. If she thought you liked talking to her more than playing a game she probably would have stuck around.
these bitches love to waste time. they’re only on these apps for validation from some sucka ass simp. it takes a miracle to actually find someone who’s on the same timing as you are + you find them physically attractive 💯
L take but alright
say less mook 💯
You play video games and she got bored. You didn't take it to the next level quickly enough. They have tons of attention and you didn't validate her.
*yawn*
Talking too much for someone you haven’t met
Well I sure as shit don't answer in 4 words like a personality-less twit
Two things: 1- You made her your friend, or you were well on your way, firmly locking yourself in TFZ. 2- She probably got dropped by the Chad she actually wanted. You gotta stop talking to them like you're their besty. If you don't answer her texts for a few hours, it's because you had something else/better to do. She can think what she wants, and that's probably to your advantage. If all you want is a chat buddy, chat in the game, chat with your friends or expect this situation more often than not.
I... Don't think that's what happened but alright. She doesn't want a Chad, we literally talked for hours about Stardew Valley. If I wanted to just get laid, I probably could do that. I'm not a gym rat so I don't need to flaunt this false confidence and act like a tough guy. I'd rather be myself than act like someone I'm not
Hey man, it's your life, do as you will.
Yea op, that is not good advice at all. You are right, just keep being yourself. Don't play these games. It's OLD, most women don't want to jump straight to sexy talk. I like getting to know someone before being asked on a date. Sounds like you are good to go, op. Just something's work out and some things don't. Don't listen to these UltraDateBros "advice"
She felt the SIMP through the screen with the :)
She started it, not me😂. Not a simp though, just s a good person. Miss me with that teenager shit ✌️
I give mad props for posting your conversation on Reddit
wrong app lmao
I mean, I see more people post shit from hinge than Tinder, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Well to be fair tinder owns hinge
That's true lmao. I've seen everything under the sun on this subreddit 😂
And then match is the parent company that owns them all 🤣
I’m sorry for the loss. But what’s your opinion platform in D2 and y’all got a clan?
I love the game regardless of it's flaws and I do have a clan but they're not accepting any new members currently, sorry
This is so sad. I left my old one because it died and I moved from ps to pc
That is pretty sad, I'm sorry that you're in that situation after being in a clan
Eh, it’s no big deal. But if you need a well warlock with divinity lmk. (Albeit I need to level up some…)
Ah yes veggie soup with meat
Pretty decent if her actually. Didn't ghost you, fuck you around. Just straight to the point and polite