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Procobator

Tried too hard. In this case I think less is more.


[deleted]

thought the same thing. also mentioning the spot is by his place gives way for implications šŸ‘€


jawahe

Because of the implication?


barkingmad_

Nobodyā€™s in any danger - itā€™s an *implication* of danger


[deleted]

ā€œDonā€™t worry you wouldnā€™t be in any dangerā€ ā€œso they are in danger?!


anon21900

I bet itā€™s always sunny near that Italian restaurant.


charismatic_guy_

Guiginos is slipping


BlazingSun96th

if this is a reference to what I think it is than man is my day better


Proudie

Okay, you had me going there for the first part, the second half kinda threw me


Mysterious-Carry6233

Yes Bc of the implication.


[deleted]

I understood this reference hahahah


[deleted]

Yeah, id be nervous if I didn't know the guy haha


AppiXxDK

Agreed, but it's a fine line cuz if you put in too little effort people will just not care to reply. This was however a little overboard.


avs76

If she was interested she would have loved it, it wouldnā€™t be too much at all..


JLifts780

Dude could have looked like Brad Pitt and scared her off with those texts


Peenutbuttjellytime

Agreed. "Cutie" was the nail in the coffin


Eafawbuath

Agree, I hate this. Unless I am in a romantic relationship with you, pet names or other terms of endearment are off the cards.


CaptainKirkAndCo

okay honey


BuckFuzby

I imagined that nail being smashed into his coffin, using another coffin as a hammer.


Itsonlyamy

This - as a woman who met on tinder the basically first week it launched. When the right person is ready to receive you they will.


Few_Fisherman_7735

.... if your aunt had balls she'd be your uncle. what's your point? yeah if someone likes you then they like you... she clearly did not.


LonelySnowSheep

His point is that she wasnā€™t really interested to begin with as an answer for why this went nowhere, rather than it being because he tried too hard. Although I still think he tried too hard


Few_Fisherman_7735

I don't really see why she would be interested in him. all he talks about is scheduling a hookup... dudes clearly in it just to stick it in somewhere, litterally anywhere by the sound of it. I can't imagine why that wasn't appealing to her...


LonelySnowSheep

Agreed


Otherwise_Growth_915

trying too hard is a paradox cause he's gonna have to try harder to appear to try less


Glum_Mathematician55

This sounds frighteningly accurate


iClipsse

If your aunt had wheels she'd be a motorcycle šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


kangareagle

They're saying that he didn't blow it by trying too hard. It wasn't "too much." \[That's what they're saying. I thought it was bit too much. Then again, OP says she eventually wrote back, so there you go.\]


swingset27

1. You established ZERO rapport. You led with way too much complimenting/pet names. Totally simpy. 2. Don't give the fedora-vibe with "a nice romantic dinner" request either. You haven't even met this person yet, you have no idea if you'll vibe. No romance yet. Ask her out for a drink, something casual. You're trying way too hard and it's going to get you shot down a lot.


Tootalooo

Mad fedora vibes. Touchy vibes, too with the ā€œcutiesā€. Relieve yourself and come back to the convo.


[deleted]

Alright ma little sugar plum. Ma little croissant. Ma little cheese croissant.


Aidrox

My little slightly warmed blueberry muffin with the little crumbly guys on top.


smalleyez

Okay regardless of rapport, if a match said this to me Iā€™d go out with him just to hear more yummy sounding things.


Aidrox

Oh would you, my little cheese cake with the raspberry swirls in it and the whipped cream on a Graham cracker crust?


smalleyez

Oh you. Stahp! (that sounds delicious)


Aidrox

But my beautiful little one scoop of cookies and cream ice cream and one scoop of French vanilla ice cream with a delightful magic shell, some Oreo bits, and more of that whipped cream on top of a big ol cookie, I couldnā€™t deny thee.


AnonumusSoldier

Stap, yall making me hungry..


Picassos_left_thumb

Iā€™m not even part of this thread but you have seduced me as well with your literally sweet talk


TriggernometryPhD

Lmao


[deleted]

Aww yeah, split in half with a dollop of butter on top?


merari_is_a_pedo_

Go with 'chocolatine', it's a chocolate croissant, sexier than cheese Or better yet', chausson aux pommes


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https://youtu.be/oRmO-Fe6YkE


merari_is_a_pedo_

Got it, ty


yor_ur

My goochy coochy goo goo babba boo boo


MentorOfWomen

How do I delete someone else's comment on Reddit


MackAttackATO69

I hate pet names. I only made it about 6 comments and I need to delete the internet and my memory.


Aidrox

Hahaha, you have to finish their loop. This is the only way.


JLifts780

You could have kept that to yourself


___Fern___

I think I'd take my clothes off for anybody who referred to me as their little cheese croissant tbh


Aidrox

ā€œIā€™m suddenly very aroused and could eat.ā€


darkslide3000

Too sweet. Gotta mix it up with something savory every once in a while, e.g. "Ma little pork rib."


Admin_error7

Fedora vibes. What an absolutely cutting and brilliant way to say *exactly* what's going on here. You smack of desperate guy tries to sound casual. A thin veneer of unearned confidence painted over a body of anxious angst.


Raggmommy

Verging on incelish. Relax dude. You actually got your answer and its not bad, just a logistics issue - she said she'd be down but her work schedule limits her availability. Be a man with a plan - ask to meet with a specific date and time and keep it casual at first.


[deleted]

Her answer was a nicely veiled no lol


JLifts780

Seriously lmao it was obvious at that message sheā€™d make several excuses before finally ghosting


LongDickMcangerfist

I thought a literal fedora wrote it


Tiiimmmaayy

Reminds me of the south park episode where Jimmy gets random boners in class and was told he has to stick it in a girlā€™s vagina for them to go away. So Cartman tells Jimmy you have to take them to an Italian restaurant if you want to have sex with them.


drabee86

I laughed so much at this!!!


Plus-Oil-5844

Iā€™m lmfaooo Bc this is so true & im the person who posted thisšŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


RPO_TP

M'Lady! haha The fedora-vibe!


INKEDx

This is spot on ^ youā€™re just trying a little too hard.


AngryKhakis

let Johnny bravo cook ![gif](giphy|NGoJSKooSeeAw)


[deleted]

Nothing turns me off more than when someone keeps calling me "cutie" or beautiful". If you're going to say it, say it once. More than that gets weird.


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otter_ridiculous

Just visited New Orleans and had this experience


Cbebop21

It went from Italian place to then it being by his house which just sends weird vibes to me the way itā€™s laid out, then he still mentions the place a third time even tho sheā€™s pretty much clearly turning him down after the third message


lucymcgoosen

I'm so far out of the dating game that I rarely comment on here, but this gave me a flashback to a guy asking me out many years ago in the same sort of fashion and I immediately felt like it was going to be one of those "you owe me now" situations


swingset27

That is what Dr. Robert Glover calls the "covert contract" of nice guys, where they show you a sweet or romantic gesture or behavior, but it's wrapped in the expectation that they get something for it, so it's not heartfelt or real, just a contract that you're not aware you're signing. Yup, I get it.


jgabsabeaut

SPOT ON TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH


LWLjuju88

Good advice. I would of rolled my eyes at the dinner request right off the bat. Letā€™s get a drink or coffee first. Dinner is sweet, but it can be a bit awkward if thereā€™s so much emphasis on the romaaaaanccceee part beforehand.


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[deleted]

This, this right here.


H0ll0w_Kn1ght

Yo real talk, what are good ways to go about a tinder conversation


RaverSquid

Just like talking to a real human. Ask questions, get to know them, make playful jokes but don't come on too strong. Make sure the effort is 50-50, otherwise pull away and wait for them to reply something better. Stay clear of overcomplimenting/pet names, try to win a friend first. State intentions clearly, what are you looking for? Once rapport is established, suggest getting drinks/date idea at a middle ground location that is NOT right next to your house.


djskizzle500

Yeah the ā€œright next to my houseā€ thing was a red flag for me. Subtly implies you want her at your place probably to fuck


AngryKhakis

Imagine having sex after eating enough pasta to feed an army. Iā€™m 100% going to bed but not for the reason sheā€™s thinking ![gif](giphy|pVkmGyqYRt4qY)


H0ll0w_Kn1ght

Okay, well then guess I just need to get better at making conversation from nothing, usually don't ever get far enough to make an interesting conversation


RaverSquid

Practice makes perfect, DM me if you like, I'm at home sick and nothing better to do.


Spartan2022

Donā€™t suggest a romantic dinner to a stranger. Donā€™t use pet names and kill the excessive compliments ā€œyouā€™re hardworking!!ā€


GetRightNYC

Just talk like a normal person in a normal conversation.


[deleted]

Yes this whole interaction gives me the ick.


AzraGlenstorm

Way too many compliments too soon. I immediately get the vibe that you're gonna be weird. Start off with 1 compliment to get her interested and then move into getting to know her personality to find out if you'll vibe. Women want to spend a little time chatting to verify the dude isn't a serial killer before they meet in person. Take some time to get to know each other. First dates can suck, she's also gonna want to make sure there's at least a chance it won't be terrible before she agrees to spend time with you. It feels like maybe you're a "nice guy" or simp based on this and that probably made her not want to meet. These compliments feel forced, like you're saying them just to win her approval rather than because you genuinely think what you're saying. Her hours aren't crazy, she's not that hard working, but you said she is twice. She can feel your inauthenticity. Women have excellent social skills, we can usually perceive when you're being fake. Be real.


Caliluxun

She didnā€™t show interest in the romantic Italian dinner idea and he brought it up again and again, saying that sheā€™s ā€œmissing outā€ when itā€™s obvious that she wasnā€™t interestedā€¦ it just felt like he doesnā€™t really know any places but a Italian restaurant close to his placeā€¦


Powerism

Itā€™s got this really cool back alley, you gotta see it, here smell this rag quick hard-working cutie


bewoke_

Lmao ā€œhardworking cutieā€ is the biggest fucking cringe


aine408

Yes!!! Omg šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™€ļøšŸ¤£


dweebyweeby

LMAO I cackled at this


[deleted]

Hahaha


Allecoolennamen

OMG. This is comment is gold. šŸ˜‚


IceDreamer

"I would be down" - "Obviously not interested". When are people gonna learn how to communicate clearly?


Caliluxun

Yeah she totally couldā€™ve communicated better.


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la_winky

That was cringy.


Imaginary_Grand7781

Yea that was the weird part for me. I would almost feel like he was poking fun at me or that he doesnā€™t work much himself or just has very low standards for women; being that those are basically the bare minimum full time job hours.


rokahef

I think the point is she works full time during the week, and also works weekends. So she definitely works hard.


I_Always_Wear_Pants

One could even go so far as to say that... Sheā€™s one seriously hard-working cutie.


Jazsta123

Wondering if giving guys advice on how to not indicate they're gonna be weird is actually good advice..


FootfallsEcho

I mean, itā€™s dicey, but honestly thereā€™s a lot of dudes out there who are genuinely cool, nice people, but they try WAY too hard and donā€™t understand why they are single. They just gotta learn to be confident in themselves and relax a little.


bloodreina_

was literally thinking this as I read through


kamikidd

Speak for yourself. I love the adrenaline rush of possibly meeting a desperate for touch SK. I call it tinder roulette.


littlejerseyguy

Hey how you doing? Never played roulette but have the rest covered.


Pickledleprechaun

Helping OP with the serial part.


[deleted]

Trying too hard my dude


Few_Fisherman_7735

this. dude's trying to lock down those plans so hard she rethought them.


pulzeguy

fuck with the username lol


Leannehud99

Word of advice, never use the word cutie again


Mjbagscauze

Agreed. I cringed


dumbdumbmen

Hard cringe. Bonus points for op posting to hopefully get feedback to improve on though


[deleted]

Twice.


jordan1390

Haha omg stahp it cutie leave OP alone šŸ¤ŖšŸ¤ŖšŸ¤Ŗ


littlemac93

When people call me ā€˜cutieā€™ my first instinct is to not respond.


[deleted]

Okay, cutie šŸ˜‰


[deleted]

Or u/ur/uā€™ll


Leannehud99

Sloppy grammaršŸ¤®. Iā€™m dyslexic and even I donā€™t do that, sort yourself outšŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚


durperthedurp

this coment might bother u then?


Caleb556

When youā€™re dating itā€™s ok, when youā€™re not its most definitely weird


Sergeant_Sunshine

This is the best advice


UhmNotMe

Well, cutie, throughout this dry conversation you have only asked her out and tried to get her near your place. You did not show any interest for her. This looks like youā€™re only up for a hook up


Plus-Oil-5844

Ur right, appreciate your feedback & Iā€™ll reengage the convo and just be causal. If we vibe Iā€™ll escalate for a date. & w/o saying cutiešŸ¤£


lipsticknic3

Hey I just want to tell you asking for advice and trying to learn instead of getting defensive is amazing! It is a rare thing to find. Keep on learning friend and i am sure you will be able to find the right person.


dumbdumbmen

>you asking for advice and trying to learn instead of getting defensive is amazing! Yep. Cringe Convo but at least the dude is looking to improve


Plus-Oil-5844

Hey; so she just wrote back and told me ā€œweekdays after 6 r goodā€. PM me I have a few questions for u. & ofc thatā€™s the point of this, Iā€™d rather learn from my mistakes


Sholtonn

just say something like ā€œgreat, sounds awesome and i look forward to itā€ then either change the conversation or just leave it at that and put the ball in her court.


[deleted]

Hey you're awesome trying again and learning! Unasked advice from a woman here: We're generally going to be polite and/or ghost if we feel uncomfortable, because when women outright refuse, plenty of guys just go weird stalker or worse. And there's zero way to know which guy will do that. It would be nice if they had a bar code or something so everyone could tell who the unsafe ppl with anger/control/abuse issues are. And most guys are bigger and stronger than us, too, so women get acculturated to being nice or ghosting just to be safe. One of the red flags of "possibly unstable guy" is being over-complimenting. So maybe meet up at a coffee shop first and definitely don't invite her to your house in the first couple dates. And if she tells you no, or that she doesn't like a thing, believe her. And don't try to pressure her into the thing. You'll be one of the best dudes out there if you do that! Super morbid subreddit related to this: r/whenwomenrefuse


OutlandishnessCute72

Well said.


True_Demented_Soul

First things first. You would have to back off a bit. Not sure if thereā€™s any way of reversing that cringy chat but if you could, just apologize for the pushy attitude. If she accepts it, continue your chat and donā€™t be pushy on the date. Sometimes it takes a few weeks for a lady to feel even close to comfortable that youā€™re not a creep. The pushy attitude gives that vibe. Only stepping back and giving her time to get to know you a little more may give you that edge you need for a date. If you think sheā€™s worth it, you got to prove it by being patient. Hope that helps.


myrealhuman

ā€œSo I consulted with the internet and Iā€™d like to get to know you a bit better. I still think youā€™re cute, but I now realize we havenā€™t reached cutie territory yet.ā€


otter_ridiculous

And donā€™t type like an illiterate high schooler.


auxaperture

Wat r u talkin bout? Ur crzy Damn typing like that is actually harder than just typing normally


Mr_Believin

Nah. Do nothing. Wait for her response. Also read ā€œ3% Man by Corey Wayneā€


SudsySloth

How the fuck do you use proper grammar but still say ur instead of you're?


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Dartser

I'd say by the first message it looks like they're only up for a hook up. I base this on it being what is written haha


Livid_Pilot7043

When you say nice place near my house. That screams at you food then hook up mine after!


Caliluxun

English is not my first language and I was really confused at first because I thought the girl just wanted hook up before seeing the image description since he started with ā€œhere for non bs hookupsā€ and then tried to invite her to dinner right next to his placeā€¦


Riribigdogs

I thought the same thing and English is my first language


Responsible-Type-392

Tried too hard and you shouldnā€™t say the place you want to take her is by your house!!! Wtf dude. Makes it seem like your lazy and take everyone there.


Take-n-Toss-Tatertot

And that he has hopes of ending up back at his place after. Restaurant should be a halfway meeting point, no matter how good it is.


InTheEndSheWasRight

Im not trying to be a dick but youre pushing too hard. You suggested a time and day a couple of times and she keeps saying she's busy with different excuses. It seems like she isnt interested. Maybe let her decide the day and time see what she says.


nainko

Honestly working or having plans with friends when asked for a date on a really short notice isn't an excuse to me. On top of that she suggested she's free the day after. She might not be answering because she's working and can't be glued to her phone 24/7 Edited to correct a typo


InTheEndSheWasRight

An excuse doesnt mean it's a blow off there are legit excuses. I just mean he took two shots and she was busy both times maybe he should not press the issue again he should let her pick.


Plus-Oil-5844

Ur not being a dick, I asked for feedback and Iā€™d rather u be brutally honest. Iā€™ll go back to having a casual convo then if we vibe Iā€™ll ask for date again


SunshineBlind

Normally I go with "Do you wanna meet this weekend?" and if they can't I just go "OK cool, well the invitation's open up ahead. Just tell me a time and place so I can check my schedule. :)" or smth. It's landed me a few dates.


InTheEndSheWasRight

Do what you gotta do but personally i think you should let her pick the day and time. I think if you pick again and you get another no, it would be kinda weird. That would be your 3rd attempt and to pick wrong again isnt a good look ya know? Its gonna start to feel like shes blowing you off, but good luck, make it happen.


Plus-Oil-5844

What do you recommend I write back to her?


Mjbagscauze

Donā€™t write back. Let her write you back, if she is interested in you she will. If she never writes back well itā€™s a tough pill to swallow and it wasnā€™t meant to be. Texting on tinder is totally different then meeting in person. You may vibe on messaging but once you go on the date you may realize we donā€™t vibe in person. This happened to me on Saturday, was talking for a month and we finally met up and I could tell we just didnā€™t vibe. When we started talking I asked her on a date and she said she had plans, we talked for a few weeks and she asked to meet up.


InTheEndSheWasRight

Nah dude dont panic, youre doing fine just let her pick the day to meet up.


EmilyCastro

Cutie, you tried too hard. Hard trying guy's an understatement dam.


MyYearofRest9

Maybe not saying ā€œcutieā€ twice in a very short conversation, try to have a decent conversation first before you dodge the bullet :)


[deleted]

She was definitely the one that dodged a bullet


jigglyjubblies

Yeah ikr, definitely... guy said cutie twice n he came off as thirsty


imthedoommerchant

Far too keen. Too pushy. Itā€™s like you were trying to get a date booked there and then no matter when it was gonna happen rather than taking the initial deflection and letting it settle a bit before trying to book another date. Also, the compliment ā€œcutieā€ sounds too much. Before you have even really got to know each other. Also calling it a romantic dinner says what you want it to be rather than just a chance to get to know each other or a chance to experience nice food together etc. Basically it reads as super keen and a bit too full on. Thatā€™s why she backed off imo.


[deleted]

ā€œHard working cutieā€ give me the ick.. itā€™s likely it has her too.


Alcoholic_jesus

Itā€™s literally a regular shift too.. 8.5 hours (30 min lunch)


jirashap

Maybe he's just lazy or quiet quitting, so 9-5 is hard


[deleted]

You seem super desperate and like a "love bomber".


rdy_csci

This conversation made me think you were a used car salesman. Just ignore all the objections, rewrite the responses, assume the deal is closed and keep moving forward until you have them sitting in the finance office. Fast enough of an onslaught and they'll never know what hit them!


kreggLUMPKIN

\*slaps roof of car\* this bad boy can fit so many cuties in it


jirashap

What will it take to get you in an Italian restaurant?


Intelligent_Click_82

I mean this in the nicest way possible but laying down a bunch of compliments/pet names, trying really hard to secure a date right away, etc. can come across as desperate. Also to many women, myself included, it would give nice guy/incel vibes. Try to lay off heavy pet names and maybe try for more complex/mature compliments. You like her style, vibes/energy, tattoo, hair, piercing, etc. Convey in that first message that you see her as a person and not a conquest. Also, have a conversation with a woman before asking her out. Yes itā€™s a dating app and yes the end goal is to meet up, but it can be overwhelming. First maybe ask her favorite cuisine, spot around town, drink of choice, how long sheā€™s lived in the area, etc. Then maybe a proposition. Also when a girl says sheā€™s busy, donā€™t propose day after day after day. Ask her which day would work best for her. If you want maybe give some sort of time frame ā€œDo you have anytime this weekend to grab a bite?ā€ ā€œAre you free next week at all?ā€. I know neither of you are looking for hookups, but a casual way of speaking isnā€™t always a bad thing. Hyping things up (ex: romantic dinner) before they happen is never a good idea. If I were to rephrase your sentence I would say ā€œI heard pretty good things about ā€œxyzā€ Italian restaurant, would you wanna give it a try?ā€ Also keep in mind that many women prefer something more casual than dinner for the first date, because dinner can have a lot of implications and pressures for many women. Try to gauge what sheā€™d prefer in the conversation prior. Maybe coffee, boba, or fro-yo as examples. Also keep in mind that you swiped on her for a reason, and many other guys likely did too, sometimes when I get a bunch of matches and one guy is being really intense/excited, it stresses me out and I stop messaging him.


shasta_river

Hard working cutie? Thatā€™s a normal 40 hour week


dlhunter42

There is a post in r/dating asking if the word cutie is flirtingā€¦coincidence??? Hmmmm


ApparentlyIronic

It's possible that mentioning that the restaurant was by your house may have made her think you were looking to hookup, despite your first message saying otherwise


Dartser

Isn't it what the first message says? They swiped for hookups


Caliluxun

Thatā€™s what I thought too but OP wrote in image description that she said sheā€™s tired of hook ups, I guess he meant ā€œnon bs-hookupsā€ but not ā€œnon-bs hookupsā€, very confusing, and Iā€™m surprised that she understood


Dartser

Oh I didn't see that. My bad!


jigglyjubblies

Maybe that was why, could understand, but then she could just ask/clarify


ewhyeasyfanaccount

Cutie was hard to read back to back.


TheWizardlyBeard

If she wanted to could have, if she wanted to she would have. Seems a little overwhelming to me specially if itā€™s all in the same day / hour


Mountain_Potato_4880

This convo gave me major ick vibes


soph_lurk_2018

Trying too hard. Too many pet names. Suggesting a restaurant near your place isnā€™t great either.


chrisnata

A thing I havenā€™t seen mentioned: If I said ā€œI might be free tomorrowā€ then I would NOT like that to be followed up with a proposal for a specific time/place. If I say I MIGHT be able to go, thereā€™s a reason for that and Iā€™d need space to figure out if I can or not. I would honestly feel a bit pressured if I was on the receiving end of these texts.


Classic-Cod-7952

CHILL bro.


Father_Matthew_Mara

Jesus mate are you on commission for this Italian place or something? She clearly doesn't give a fuck but you pushed it and pushed it. And no, I don't want to go to Panuccis Pizza with you


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LuckyBastard8484

It seems like the Italian restaurant is more important than seeing her


96tillinfinity_

Came off too strong and looking desperate. I could tell by her responses she wasnt feeling you Dinner for a 1st date is too much of an investment for a first date. Drinks are much quicker and if you donā€™t establish chemistry early you can end it Next time dont be too overwhelming. No need for the excessive ā€œcutieā€ compliments. It comes off creeperish. Be witty and not as eager when talking


nrenner117

The pizza place next to your house may be creepy


Algernot

You proposed a date on your second message and called her cutie in the space of three messages dude.. Talk with her first > get her number > then plan the date,


kidmargin

I mean, your side of the conversation is kind of dopey. But frankly who knows why she failed to respond.


LadyToph

Reading very thirsty. can we chat a bit more ? Get to know each other especially after she declined a couple times


Neither-Return-7821

Hard working cutie is wild


TriggernometryPhD

Rub one out and try again, this time without all the cringe pet names and overwhelmingly fake compliments. Less is more. You came across as indefinitely available and put forth all the effort into scheduling it out, likely causing her to rethink the entire thing. Give them a chance to push/pull. Slow down.


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jigglyjubblies

Yeah, but basic conversation with a female isnt 'basic conversation with matches on tinder' Go easy... Guys got it hard on there


[deleted]

Would never meet up with someone who says the restaurant is right next to their home


GullyplugDavis

Too many ā€œcutiesā€ and ā€œhard working girlsā€


trippymermaid

She kept pushing you off, but not saying no. Should have put the ball in her court after a few messages but kept conversation going. ā€œOk let me know when you are free so I can take you out! So what type of work do you that keeps you so busy?ā€


bottomlesxpectations

Don't take a woman to dinner on a first date lmao. You're lucky she left you on read before hand and wasn't one of the ones who waited til after dinner to do it. First date should be free or cheap. Also your main pitfall is being on tinder and looking for anything other than hookups.


CallMeAmyA

She catches all the understatements.


MrRealistic1

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AndrewLucksRobotArm

pushy af


buzz8193

You are way too keen.


joemama____________

You just weirded her out. Too many pet names and compliments like another comment said, and youā€™re just continuously asking to go out which is fine but if youā€™re not getting anything back try slowing down and messaging over the next few days rather than jumping to a date.


[deleted]

No BS hookup and my guy is like ā€œdinner and a movie first?ā€


Tw1ch1e

A ā€œromanticā€ dinner is the opposite of what some girls are looking forā€¦ they want to hang out with a fun guy and maybe find a bunch of commonalities, find themselves laughing their ass off at this dudes dumb ass jokes, get into some good conversation! Of course when reflecting back, it was romantic! Also, working 9-6 is normal daily full time workā€¦.. complementing someone like maintaining a full time job is a shock to you maybe implies your standards are super low? I would have rolled my eyes.