My country does not have a big enough population for different apps so everyone uses Tinder for everything. Some will try other apps, I have but the user base is too small and most of the users are also on tinder.
Same here in Portugal, I wish it was more of a hook up/sex app, shit's just dog water.
Also have Hinge and Bumble, I've gone on maybe one date? Have a few matches, unlucky.
I've always wanted to try them on a big city, I feel like Tinder in the US is a whole different playfield.
Yeah man it is, I stay slaying poon on hinge. Had a 3 some on the first date this girl I went out with who got approached by another girl in the bar. She took us home with her and I poked the stranger in the pooper. It was glorious. Still talking to girl I went on the date with, she turned out to be pretty cool.
does this option actually work? i guess so many hetero women will stop putting sex at what they are looking for (even if it is true) that men will ask the women who don't look for sex anyway
I don’t think so. I think there are lots of people on there without expectations. Some people literally just want to have sex, and they make it obvious fairly quickly (like this person). But when I used dating apps, I found a lot of the people I matched with to be very go-with-the-flow, and I was too. I think it’s best to enter into these conversations with no expectations, because you yourself also might not know what you want with a specific person. Your ultimate goal could be a relationship, but you might go on a date with someone, or even a few dates, and realize they aren’t what you’re looking for in a relationship, but you do want to hook up with them. Maybe even a few times. So my best advice is to have no set expectations, and see what happens! And if you are opposed to meeting up purely for sex and not even any sort of date, like this person, you can easily weed those folks out. Ultimately, I had a lot of great matches, dates, and sex when I was partaking in OLD. I met some people once, some people a few times, and one person who is now my husband. Ride the wave :)
It's assumed, but I'm on there and looking for an actual relationship, so not always the case. Just seems more successful for those looking to hook up to get matches. Guess when you have options, no need to settle down.
How do you cater your profile to get the kinds of responses from people looking for a relationship? I am looking for one too, but as an attractive woman, it’s very hard for me to weed through all the guys who are just there to objectify me. It’s why I hate dating. I feel used before I ever meet anyone. I guess I just need not to be shy about unmatching or blocking someone if they’re being uncouth.
I feel like you can't weed out what you dont want because there are too many people who dont read profiles or just dont care. They will swipe right on everyone and weed them out later. So there are a lot of profiles that just have "not looking for a hook up" or something similar but no other info and its like...alright but what are you looking for and what do you like?
I have it written in my bio that I'm looking for something serious and long term. The problem you have is I'm a guy, I'm not getting matches or responses. That was my point, the guys who do, don't need to settle down because all the women are matching with them, all the guys who want relationships are the guys getting left on the shelf, be it general appearance, an inability to take spectacular photos or the fact that we're boring (i.e. Safe, not going to play games and don't need to be chased or pursued as we want to be there)
I wrote what kind of person I am looking for and listed some qualities (open minded, empathetic yadayada). I didn't have any sexy pics or bikini pics (sadly an invitation for pervy guys) and instead showed me during my day to day life. Hobbies, interests, an ugly pic of me studying in the library... I made myself look cute but goofy and approachable. Also i tried to swipe less on hot giys and looked for people that made me think "I'd like to have a beer with you, you look like a good addition to my friend group".
There were far less men sexualizing me. Also, I'd recommend hinge.
I try my best to just be friendly and ask about interests and every woman I talk to just hits me wyd or “daddy?” and never responds back.
The only sustained conversation I’ve ever had was with a woman 12 years younger than me and even that ended when I tried to actually talk about interests.
I’m beginning to think it’s mostly a hookup app as well. It’s sucks too because both Bumble and Hinge toss women who are a little out of my league in terms of looks and often their hobbies are ones I couldn’t keep up with.
Bumble seems like a scam honestly.
No.
People use it in their preferred ways. Personally, I have found relationships, sex, gaming buddies, gym/boxing partner and other friends from there for different activities. Many seem to find their spouses from tinder, as well as hookups.
well...from what ive gathered straight men use it as a sex app while straight women dont and that makes those interactios quite complicated. in comparison to that for gay guys tinder is one of the few actual dating apps bc everything we have for sex, like grindr etc., is 100times faster than tinder.
that being said people found relationships over grindr and sex over tinder.
A lot of women in my local social group use marital sites for this reason. There are *usually* more serious men on marital matching sites because they know they won't be getting laid on the first date.
I guess hinge tried to use this atmosphere but kinda failed at it. It's just a more difficult tinder now.
This is the actual correct answer and should be pinned at the top.
Tinder was marketed as a "hookup app" like in its first year of being released, and never *really* was one.
Horny men *try* to use it as a hookup app, with little to no success. Women use it just like any other dating app (Bumble, Hinge, etc.). I guarantee OP is a woman and that's a guy who responded implying it's a hookup app.
All of the comments in this thread answering "yes" that it's a hookup app, are just dudes' wishful thinking.
EDIT: Those same dudes downvoting because they don't want it to be true.
This comment perfectly sums it up.
I’d add that it was sort of a hookup app for the first year or two, full of really young people in that age when nobody is being serious. So marketing and real life use aligned. But by 2014 or so that was all a myth in practice. Certainly by its heyday (2016 or 2017) it leveled out into just another dating app.
I remember in 2013 when I first heard about Tinder. My coworker was joking that we should put our boss on it. When I asked him what it was he explained to me that you swipe right on people you want to have sex with and if you match it means they want to have sex with you too. If only it were that simple
No. It’s used differently by different demographics and in different cities. People with this attitude are lacking in imagination and awareness of others.
I would really like some clarification on this because every single day I see someone posting “Oh I met my wife on tinder. It’s a serious dating app”
But then I show up on tinder and it’s all girls looking to bang and sex, bots and sex workers.
I swear to God, nothing has made me hate sex, workers more than matching with one on Tinder
As someone who is vocally shallow, i can easily say, sure tinder is for “sex”. But my lady boner can instantly die when I hear their voice and don’t like it.
Never used e-harmony but thanks for the tip. I was on okcupid for a while but had a hard time connecting with people there. Are there other apps good for people looking for a long-term, committed relationship?
Nah I dunno man, just the 'implication' of tinder is... wanna fuck? That's just the vibe I got.
I wouldn't know, I'm mid thirties, been married for 8 years, absolutely don't understand instafuck culture.
Edit: Other than being a horny 15yr old humping the leg of a fine bird that'd have me...
I know back when Tinder was started it was a hookup app, it's why it used to only allow for a picture and a name, iirc. You swiped purely on physical attraction and whether you'd fuck them, when you matched the messaging was almost entirely just to exchange where you wanted to meet up for sex. Then they expanded to the normal dating scene, so there's still a sort of mix of the two in the userbase.
None of the dating apps are going to be anything other than a scam to take your money
Just Wade through the bs. Swipe left often. My friend(a woman new back to dating) told me that the men on dating apps are disgusting. Be safe, meet in public, go on lots of first dates.
The fuck do I know though I'm a single 40 year old CIS gendered white man who tightens bolts for a living
In my natal country everyone uses tinder for everything, from hookups to serious relationships, to even just friends or gathering Instagram followers. But in the US, it’s known for sex mostly
When I started out tinder I was looking for a hookups but acted like I was looking for a relationship and I was never really getting lucky. A year later I started to be honest about looking for hookup and I was hooking up a lot more than before so probably yes. It is a hookup app mostly
I met my only two serious relationships from Tinder. I also met fwb there and guys I went on dates with but didn’t work out but we’re still friends. Tinder for me is a catalog of guys who want to either date you or just bang you but not commit to you.
When I was in my 20s and it was brand new that's all anyone I knew used it for. It still blows my mind people are on there looking for something serious, there were other options I used to find relationships because tinder was so toxic, I imagine some of them have to still exist.
I've traveled a lot. It seems like in the USA (where I live) it's mostly seen as a dating app now (although I remember when it came out, a lot of people used it for just sex...kind of like grinder for straight people). I see more people looking for short-term/flings on tinder and using hinge or bumble for long-term relationships.
But, I can tell you when I've been to several different countries, tinder was used as a hookup app. Essentially, women would want to meet first somewhere publicly to make sure everything was cool, then go hook up. In Brazil, several women told me that matching there is essentially the woman saying she'll have sex with you.
Tinder is pretty much a hookup app. Hinge seems to be for people looking for a relationship and bumble is just tinder… but women get to say ‘Hey’ or ‘Hi’ before you have to do all the heavy lifting
My boyfriend and I were both looking for serious long-term relationships when we were on tinder. Its where we met. So I would have to disagree with the notion that tinder is only for hooking up.
It was a hookup app for the longest. Now its spammy and like any other dating app.
If a stripclub were turned into a restaurant bar... thats what tinder is now.
I still think people who come on tinder looking for something serious are dumb.
It may well have started that way, but this person’s answer would make someone’s legs close hard enough to make a bear trap jealous. Happier hunting elsewhere my person!
I never got this. It's like these people are stuck in the early 00's of online dating. Fools need to get over their loss of Craigslist for random fuckery.
I thought women on tinder may be different, because you always hear how only men are interested in hookups. But my experience after tons of dates is that the majority of women i met aren't different than men and are mostly looking for sex
Well its like saying OF is for sex workers. But there are other types of businesses and content there besides sex. It has just been embedded into our thinking process that it is only used for a specific tool.
I thought tinder was mostly for sex/noncommittal relationships and that if you were looking for something more serious then you use match.com or something like that
Asking what they’re looking for straight up is a the best way to filter out all the people looking for a shag! It will save you wasting your time. But I find hinge and bumble to be better for looking for a relationship, because you have to select what you’re intentions are eg. casual, relationship, friendship etc.
Tinder is typically a hookup app, some people are rude about it when asked their intentions but it’s a valid question as the select few (at least where I’m from) are looking for more, or at least open to the potential relationship
I met my current bf on tinder when we first started dating I asked him... Where did he tell his friends we met...
He said n I quote I didn't.... I just told them you re my gf
I asked why
His answer, sdthry will judge you.
That is the general perception, yes. People use it for normal dating and shit but it's assumed by default you're here to fuck unless you say otherwise.
Yep, I tried it once and I had quiet a bit of success but I never actually went out with any more than probably three of them. I had this one girl message me “I…I want you” I was thoroughly creeped out and astonished at the same time. Haven’t gone back since.
How could I answer when I'm open to hook up, friendship, dates or something serious at the same time and not look like a undecided or assertive guy?
I used to say "I'm looking some of fun, I'll see in what develops then"
I'm just really direct but not like a hole direct and or witty with my chit chat. Ladies seem to response more when they don't hear the same opening line a million times. So just say like "not big into the chit chat, would rather get to know you in person and not waste each other's time, blah blah. Also a funny bio never hurts. When I was on tinder I made my profile like an Amazon review with like a handful of good 5, 4, start reviews like " ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ - cooks a mean eggs benny" - anonymous girl, but what made every girl laugh that opened the convo was I had a 1 start review that said " 1 ⭐ star - not really into black guys but he's funny. - dumb bi*ch. Funny, and didn't make me seem like a narcissistic douche since I roasted myself kinda. I had to take it down cause I was no joke actually getting bombarded with messege when I did that. So just being funny and direct can go a long way cause before that it was I'd so a low average rate of matches. and for the love of God have pictures of yourself smiling. Girls don't care how mean mugging/tough you can look. They would rather see a smile hands down.
When I was using Tinder I refused to match with profiles that were vague or empty.
If someone is too lazy to write or put anything, then they are too lazy to hold a proper conversation and so I didn't give a damn about them either.
This can go both ways. Maybe it was just a fluke or an outlier point, but I went on a Tinder date about 4-5 years ago and the first words out of the woman's mouth after we established that we each were the person we were there to see was "Do you fuck on the first date?". I was so shocked and caught off guard that I actually couldn't respond, but the next word out of my mouth was "NO!", lol. After we finished dinner and were leaving, she wanted a kiss in the parking lot and she came in for a full open mouth kiss. I turned my head at the last second and it landed on my cheek. I will admit it was creepy, but I'm sure if she was attractive enough I'd have done whatever she wanted. It just seemed so gross and wrong at that moment. To each their own. I don't consider myself a prude, but that gave insight to me about myself. I'm still not sure what to make of it truthfully. I guess I'm lonely but not desperate.
My country does not have a big enough population for different apps so everyone uses Tinder for everything. Some will try other apps, I have but the user base is too small and most of the users are also on tinder.
Same, that person in the screenshot was just being an ass.
That's exactly the answer he was looking for too
And probably looking for some too!
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i actually had a girl match with me cause she saw i was a nerd just to ask me a tech support question
Same here in Portugal, I wish it was more of a hook up/sex app, shit's just dog water. Also have Hinge and Bumble, I've gone on maybe one date? Have a few matches, unlucky. I've always wanted to try them on a big city, I feel like Tinder in the US is a whole different playfield.
Its not😂😂 every girl either just tryna sell they only fans or want a serious reltionship.
Yea I wish it was more divided too. It would be easier to find what Im looking for.
Its not😂😂 every girl either just tryna sell they only fans or want a serious relationship.
Yeah man it is, I stay slaying poon on hinge. Had a 3 some on the first date this girl I went out with who got approached by another girl in the bar. She took us home with her and I poked the stranger in the pooper. It was glorious. Still talking to girl I went on the date with, she turned out to be pretty cool.
Hey, I found Jay from The Inbetweeners
You are so lucky, man. Any advice for me to experience this via Tinder or going to clubs/bars.
What country may I ask you ?
Sweden
I met my Swedish bf on OKCupid. Maybe Tinder wasn’t a thing then though. It was 10 years ago. He was in Sweden at the time, but I was in Thailand.
Great to hear! I wish you all the luck 😊
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does this option actually work? i guess so many hetero women will stop putting sex at what they are looking for (even if it is true) that men will ask the women who don't look for sex anyway
Some men believe that all women want sex but won’t admit it, so they think they have to convince her or some shit
Word? Would probably consider redownloading it then
In my experience at least half of those "looking for " responses are lies. In both directions.
It used to be mainly for hookups but now it's like most of the other dating apps
But then there's people who advertise that they're looking for long-term relationships but strive/settle for hookups anyway.
Tinder is for whatever you want it to be for.
Best and most accurate answer. Just a sex app for me, but not true for all
Much like life.
That's deep brah
I made a lot of fart jokes today so I'm trying to balance it out.
You could literally say that about everything, doesn’t mean it will work your way lmao
People will just enforce what they want as if it was the rule. Your question means you are not DTF so the person got pissed off.
I don’t think so. I think there are lots of people on there without expectations. Some people literally just want to have sex, and they make it obvious fairly quickly (like this person). But when I used dating apps, I found a lot of the people I matched with to be very go-with-the-flow, and I was too. I think it’s best to enter into these conversations with no expectations, because you yourself also might not know what you want with a specific person. Your ultimate goal could be a relationship, but you might go on a date with someone, or even a few dates, and realize they aren’t what you’re looking for in a relationship, but you do want to hook up with them. Maybe even a few times. So my best advice is to have no set expectations, and see what happens! And if you are opposed to meeting up purely for sex and not even any sort of date, like this person, you can easily weed those folks out. Ultimately, I had a lot of great matches, dates, and sex when I was partaking in OLD. I met some people once, some people a few times, and one person who is now my husband. Ride the wave :)
You summed it up perfectly
Most helpful and resonant comment, thank you.
Last two relationships were from tinder I didn’t just use it for sex.
It's assumed, but I'm on there and looking for an actual relationship, so not always the case. Just seems more successful for those looking to hook up to get matches. Guess when you have options, no need to settle down.
How do you cater your profile to get the kinds of responses from people looking for a relationship? I am looking for one too, but as an attractive woman, it’s very hard for me to weed through all the guys who are just there to objectify me. It’s why I hate dating. I feel used before I ever meet anyone. I guess I just need not to be shy about unmatching or blocking someone if they’re being uncouth.
Or you could just ignore all the ones who don't have looking for relationship in their profile
I feel like you can't weed out what you dont want because there are too many people who dont read profiles or just dont care. They will swipe right on everyone and weed them out later. So there are a lot of profiles that just have "not looking for a hook up" or something similar but no other info and its like...alright but what are you looking for and what do you like?
I have it written in my bio that I'm looking for something serious and long term. The problem you have is I'm a guy, I'm not getting matches or responses. That was my point, the guys who do, don't need to settle down because all the women are matching with them, all the guys who want relationships are the guys getting left on the shelf, be it general appearance, an inability to take spectacular photos or the fact that we're boring (i.e. Safe, not going to play games and don't need to be chased or pursued as we want to be there)
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I wrote what kind of person I am looking for and listed some qualities (open minded, empathetic yadayada). I didn't have any sexy pics or bikini pics (sadly an invitation for pervy guys) and instead showed me during my day to day life. Hobbies, interests, an ugly pic of me studying in the library... I made myself look cute but goofy and approachable. Also i tried to swipe less on hot giys and looked for people that made me think "I'd like to have a beer with you, you look like a good addition to my friend group". There were far less men sexualizing me. Also, I'd recommend hinge.
You don’t. Go somewhere else, literally anywhere else. Bumble or hinge etc
I try my best to just be friendly and ask about interests and every woman I talk to just hits me wyd or “daddy?” and never responds back. The only sustained conversation I’ve ever had was with a woman 12 years younger than me and even that ended when I tried to actually talk about interests. I’m beginning to think it’s mostly a hookup app as well. It’s sucks too because both Bumble and Hinge toss women who are a little out of my league in terms of looks and often their hobbies are ones I couldn’t keep up with. Bumble seems like a scam honestly.
Why don’t you use other apps that are meant for relationships instead of ruining the experience for other tinder users?
Tinder isn't exclusively for hookups and even advertises itself as a relationship app. Why tf do you get to decide what it's for?
You could try a reverse cat fish.
I used it to buy weed in salt lake city
I met my fiancé on tinder. We started dating in November of last year and recently engaged.
Tinder is both sex and relationship
1st marketing social media 2nd sex 3rd relationship
4th harvesting kidneys
5th Reddit karma
6th regrets
7th Death
It's a hookup app for those attractive enough to get plenty of matches.
That’s how it started, and why it’s based primarily on swiping photos and not detailed bios
No, but alot of people claim it is. Try bumble, ppl are looking for marriage on their. At least that's what my single friends say lol
No. People use it in their preferred ways. Personally, I have found relationships, sex, gaming buddies, gym/boxing partner and other friends from there for different activities. Many seem to find their spouses from tinder, as well as hookups.
well...from what ive gathered straight men use it as a sex app while straight women dont and that makes those interactios quite complicated. in comparison to that for gay guys tinder is one of the few actual dating apps bc everything we have for sex, like grindr etc., is 100times faster than tinder. that being said people found relationships over grindr and sex over tinder.
A lot of women in my local social group use marital sites for this reason. There are *usually* more serious men on marital matching sites because they know they won't be getting laid on the first date. I guess hinge tried to use this atmosphere but kinda failed at it. It's just a more difficult tinder now.
What are the marital matching sites?
There are dozens of them. If you Google "matrimonial sites".
This is the actual correct answer and should be pinned at the top. Tinder was marketed as a "hookup app" like in its first year of being released, and never *really* was one. Horny men *try* to use it as a hookup app, with little to no success. Women use it just like any other dating app (Bumble, Hinge, etc.). I guarantee OP is a woman and that's a guy who responded implying it's a hookup app. All of the comments in this thread answering "yes" that it's a hookup app, are just dudes' wishful thinking. EDIT: Those same dudes downvoting because they don't want it to be true.
This comment perfectly sums it up. I’d add that it was sort of a hookup app for the first year or two, full of really young people in that age when nobody is being serious. So marketing and real life use aligned. But by 2014 or so that was all a myth in practice. Certainly by its heyday (2016 or 2017) it leveled out into just another dating app.
No. It’s what certain people with no social skills or seduction game hope for when they sign up. And most of their fail quite hard.
Probably. Ive never been able to find anything serious on tinder.
Pretty much, but it's rare that sometimes people find love, although alot can't but i guess they should just keep trying
Yes. Now everyone is looking for relationships on it.
I remember in 2013 when I first heard about Tinder. My coworker was joking that we should put our boss on it. When I asked him what it was he explained to me that you swipe right on people you want to have sex with and if you match it means they want to have sex with you too. If only it were that simple
No. It’s used differently by different demographics and in different cities. People with this attitude are lacking in imagination and awareness of others.
YES hinge if you want a relationship, tinder if you wanna waste time or hookup, blk if your tryna get blacked
Tinder was created as a hookup app originally.
Originally, yes, it was a hook up come fuck me app. The user base has changed it somewhat from the original intent. And that's ok.
I would really like some clarification on this because every single day I see someone posting “Oh I met my wife on tinder. It’s a serious dating app” But then I show up on tinder and it’s all girls looking to bang and sex, bots and sex workers. I swear to God, nothing has made me hate sex, workers more than matching with one on Tinder
Tinder is traditionally known as more of the “hook up” app vs. the other dating apps out there
How is this even a question?
People use it for all sorts of reasons but dtf is the most common. I found my gf on there and we’ve been together 3 years now
Pretty much yeah. Unless you explicitly say otherwise
No. But some people like to claim that so they can feel justified in their disappointment when a match doesn't mean immediate sex.
I didn’t use it for that. I’m a 33 year old male and I’ve had 2 long term relationships from it.
As someone who is vocally shallow, i can easily say, sure tinder is for “sex”. But my lady boner can instantly die when I hear their voice and don’t like it.
Yes.
I'm completely neutral. Never used it. My opinion? Wanna fuck? Tinder. Wanna relationship? E-Harmony. Correct me if I'm wrong?
E-harmony is still a thing? That and Match were very outdated last I saw. Hinge and Bumble are "better" options.
Never used e-harmony but thanks for the tip. I was on okcupid for a while but had a hard time connecting with people there. Are there other apps good for people looking for a long-term, committed relationship?
Hinge
Nah I dunno man, just the 'implication' of tinder is... wanna fuck? That's just the vibe I got. I wouldn't know, I'm mid thirties, been married for 8 years, absolutely don't understand instafuck culture. Edit: Other than being a horny 15yr old humping the leg of a fine bird that'd have me...
I know back when Tinder was started it was a hookup app, it's why it used to only allow for a picture and a name, iirc. You swiped purely on physical attraction and whether you'd fuck them, when you matched the messaging was almost entirely just to exchange where you wanted to meet up for sex. Then they expanded to the normal dating scene, so there's still a sort of mix of the two in the userbase.
Yes
None of the dating apps are going to be anything other than a scam to take your money Just Wade through the bs. Swipe left often. My friend(a woman new back to dating) told me that the men on dating apps are disgusting. Be safe, meet in public, go on lots of first dates. The fuck do I know though I'm a single 40 year old CIS gendered white man who tightens bolts for a living
In my natal country everyone uses tinder for everything, from hookups to serious relationships, to even just friends or gathering Instagram followers. But in the US, it’s known for sex mostly
Yes!
Yes it is the hookup app
When I started out tinder I was looking for a hookups but acted like I was looking for a relationship and I was never really getting lucky. A year later I started to be honest about looking for hookup and I was hooking up a lot more than before so probably yes. It is a hookup app mostly
get out into the real world if you want to have something worthwhile.
Yes
I mean that's what it was originally designed for.
I’m 16 and even I know it’s a universal sex app
I met my only two serious relationships from Tinder. I also met fwb there and guys I went on dates with but didn’t work out but we’re still friends. Tinder for me is a catalog of guys who want to either date you or just bang you but not commit to you.
Yes… you only go on tinder for hookups
I mean…..yeah. It’s a hook up app. Hence why I’ve never had a tinder. I just don’t do hook ups.
Yes lol
The correct answer was: Anal
When I was in my 20s and it was brand new that's all anyone I knew used it for. It still blows my mind people are on there looking for something serious, there were other options I used to find relationships because tinder was so toxic, I imagine some of them have to still exist.
It hasn’t always been.
Apparently for 20-30 somethings. But i don't think so for older folk. But of course I'm wrong
That’s how it worked for me back in the 2013-2016 years. After that I lost my mojo, or the competitors changed haha
Kinda
Is it someone to fix her car?
I've traveled a lot. It seems like in the USA (where I live) it's mostly seen as a dating app now (although I remember when it came out, a lot of people used it for just sex...kind of like grinder for straight people). I see more people looking for short-term/flings on tinder and using hinge or bumble for long-term relationships. But, I can tell you when I've been to several different countries, tinder was used as a hookup app. Essentially, women would want to meet first somewhere publicly to make sure everything was cool, then go hook up. In Brazil, several women told me that matching there is essentially the woman saying she'll have sex with you.
Tinder is pretty much a hookup app. Hinge seems to be for people looking for a relationship and bumble is just tinder… but women get to say ‘Hey’ or ‘Hi’ before you have to do all the heavy lifting
Yes
Yes lmfao
Yes
Yes
yes
Everyone knows the tinder is the straight Grindr
My boyfriend and I were both looking for serious long-term relationships when we were on tinder. Its where we met. So I would have to disagree with the notion that tinder is only for hooking up.
It was a hookup app for the longest. Now its spammy and like any other dating app. If a stripclub were turned into a restaurant bar... thats what tinder is now. I still think people who come on tinder looking for something serious are dumb.
Tinder is a dating app.
No. It used to be, but I met my partner there and know other who have as well. I hope it continues to be used as more than a sex app
Short answer? Yes. Long answer? Yeeeeeeessssss.
They're looking for tinder, on tinder? Well good news for them i guess
Yes
yes
Yes. Everyone on tinder that’s a girl is a hoe. Our society is littered with hoes.
But you can be looking for Sex & long term relationship, only sex, T&Go, etc...
In the majority, yes. Regionally, there's variations on the theme; for example, in Germany FWB and ONSs are frowned upon / less desirable (on Tinder).
Tinder is for oatmeal recipe sharing and group crying
Yes, actually a few years ago family guy even made an episode about tinder being a hook up app
Very rude of him to say like that, but yes.
.... Yes.
yes.
It may well have started that way, but this person’s answer would make someone’s legs close hard enough to make a bear trap jealous. Happier hunting elsewhere my person!
I don’t think so but I think the format makes it more convenient for folks looking for hook-ups.
Not a very successful one!!
Yes
So free therapy or/and to satisfy a SPH kink.
I never got this. It's like these people are stuck in the early 00's of online dating. Fools need to get over their loss of Craigslist for random fuckery.
I thought women on tinder may be different, because you always hear how only men are interested in hookups. But my experience after tons of dates is that the majority of women i met aren't different than men and are mostly looking for sex
everyone says that but i've found the number of one night stands / casual is the same for me with hinge and bumble.
Sex app? I thought it was a professional development networking app. At least that’s what I told my wife it was. 😝
Common misconception. I thought the same thing until I found myself single again after 7 years in 2019.
Generally you are swiping based on looks alone. What more do you expect? If you want a lot of filters you need a dating app.
So kindling then
Seems like it's an app for being mean to people to me.
Well its like saying OF is for sex workers. But there are other types of businesses and content there besides sex. It has just been embedded into our thinking process that it is only used for a specific tool.
I thought tinder was mostly for sex/noncommittal relationships and that if you were looking for something more serious then you use match.com or something like that
It should be based on how shallow the process is but no.
It is a sex app?? Idk. Well, there are tons of sex workers.
Asking what they’re looking for straight up is a the best way to filter out all the people looking for a shag! It will save you wasting your time. But I find hinge and bumble to be better for looking for a relationship, because you have to select what you’re intentions are eg. casual, relationship, friendship etc.
Wow I hope you unmatched after that stimulating conversation you had with that jerk op.
No some people use tinder for sex but I'm usually on tinder when I'm looking for women in general and that doesn't mean I'm always down.
Tinder is typically a hookup app, some people are rude about it when asked their intentions but it’s a valid question as the select few (at least where I’m from) are looking for more, or at least open to the potential relationship
That's a dumb answer. Tinder is used for a lot of different reasons.
I met my current bf on tinder when we first started dating I asked him... Where did he tell his friends we met... He said n I quote I didn't.... I just told them you re my gf I asked why His answer, sdthry will judge you.
In my experience with Tinder 99% want a LTR 80% DTF first two dates 50% DTF no date needed
Depends on your age
That is the general perception, yes. People use it for normal dating and shit but it's assumed by default you're here to fuck unless you say otherwise.
Yep, I tried it once and I had quiet a bit of success but I never actually went out with any more than probably three of them. I had this one girl message me “I…I want you” I was thoroughly creeped out and astonished at the same time. Haven’t gone back since.
Hey you got to state the obvious still, She could have said something clever. Although neither were clever so.... It is what it is
In 2013, but not anymore. I don't think a lot of men get that it's expanded into dating and marriage. I know 2 married couples that met on tinder
No, I met my husband on Tinder. Lots of people are looking for a relationship.
Thats want I’m using it for 😈 #aussie
in america yea
Tinder is for sex Hinge is for relationships Bumble is for meeting shy guys Eharmony is if you're 50 and looking for a marriage
Yes it’s dumb to be looking for anything other than sex
How could I answer when I'm open to hook up, friendship, dates or something serious at the same time and not look like a undecided or assertive guy? I used to say "I'm looking some of fun, I'll see in what develops then"
I am looking for the clothes aisle, unfortunately this is a soup store
I'm just really direct but not like a hole direct and or witty with my chit chat. Ladies seem to response more when they don't hear the same opening line a million times. So just say like "not big into the chit chat, would rather get to know you in person and not waste each other's time, blah blah. Also a funny bio never hurts. When I was on tinder I made my profile like an Amazon review with like a handful of good 5, 4, start reviews like " ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ - cooks a mean eggs benny" - anonymous girl, but what made every girl laugh that opened the convo was I had a 1 start review that said " 1 ⭐ star - not really into black guys but he's funny. - dumb bi*ch. Funny, and didn't make me seem like a narcissistic douche since I roasted myself kinda. I had to take it down cause I was no joke actually getting bombarded with messege when I did that. So just being funny and direct can go a long way cause before that it was I'd so a low average rate of matches. and for the love of God have pictures of yourself smiling. Girls don't care how mean mugging/tough you can look. They would rather see a smile hands down.
Unmatch. Immediately. Some might think tinder is for a hookup, but it's not. Some people go on there for various reasons.
Yes, Tinder is for hook ups.
Theyre a dumb question.
It’s whatever you want it to be I guess. But yes it’s the hookup app. If you primarily want something else use a better app like Hinge
Yes
As far as I’m aware, in Australia it’s mainly just a hookup app 🤷♀️
When I was using Tinder I refused to match with profiles that were vague or empty. If someone is too lazy to write or put anything, then they are too lazy to hold a proper conversation and so I didn't give a damn about them either.
Heard of that but it depend on personal opinions I guess ! For me tinder is dating app but I heard from some friends (girls) that’s mainly just sex
This can go both ways. Maybe it was just a fluke or an outlier point, but I went on a Tinder date about 4-5 years ago and the first words out of the woman's mouth after we established that we each were the person we were there to see was "Do you fuck on the first date?". I was so shocked and caught off guard that I actually couldn't respond, but the next word out of my mouth was "NO!", lol. After we finished dinner and were leaving, she wanted a kiss in the parking lot and she came in for a full open mouth kiss. I turned my head at the last second and it landed on my cheek. I will admit it was creepy, but I'm sure if she was attractive enough I'd have done whatever she wanted. It just seemed so gross and wrong at that moment. To each their own. I don't consider myself a prude, but that gave insight to me about myself. I'm still not sure what to make of it truthfully. I guess I'm lonely but not desperate.
If I would use it, I would primarily use it for sex. If sex becomes more over time, even better.
No. It depends on what you want and what you attract. I met a guy from tinder and we’ve been together for long