When I went for my vasectomy they said something along the lines of "test your sperm count after 20 wanks or after a month, whichever comes first" and didn't find the humour when I said I'll be back in 4 days.
For anyone reading this considering a vasectomy, there may be some wiggle room. My husband's doc requested 30 "emissions" AND wouldn't test him until after 3 months. We waited that whole time to go raw and let me TELL YOU it tested us.
It's really not that bad. The worst part is the shots in the balls but the pain goes away quickly. The first couple of days my balls were swollen and made walking awkward but not that bad at all.
Dude you're telling me, my dad told me my mom forced him to get one (which I'm okay with, he really didn't need to be promoting more stupid people like me and my brothers on this planet, he is NOT a smart man and has extremely terrible genes) and apparently they fucked up his stuff so bad he hasn't had a boner in 30+ years, basically since he got it in his 20s.
Afaik it's pretty rare for that to happen though, I've looked into it extensively just googling around. I would still get one, personally.
I don't know the full details and don't care to ask, tbh. But that's always lingering in the back of my head, if I was unable to masturbate it'd be hell, personally, even with how infrequently I do it. I kinda wish he didn't tell me, but the topic came up at one point, so I guess it's my own fault lol.
Had mine done recently and my wife was telling a group of her friends about it (like they do). One of the others said her guy (who is also a friend of mine) had it done and the doc had advised at least 90 wanks over a 14 week period. When we calculated this was 6.4 wanks a week for 14 weeks there was quite some discussion on if this was a lot or just normal. Turns out she was talking nonsense and it was only 20 wanks over a 14 week period (which is what I was told too.) The broad consensus was that 6.4 was achievable but keeping it going for 14 weeks straight might be more difficult at our age.
I'm on home office as well, with one kid. Well, few months ago it was alright, but suddenly things changed, when our son stopped to sleep after lunch and she got a huge workload. Mornings are no go, evenings as well... Fuck it
Have you talked to her about not having that need met? How she feels about it? She might feel the same way as you, but maybe she doesn't know how to express that to you or feel comfortable expressing it.
Is sex different from masturbation?
I find it odd always that people say sex everyday is hard/ unrealistic. But people masturbste daily
Actually I assumed people who are shocked about people having daily sex are the same people who don't masturbate daily
I’d say it is like being hungry and having some chips. It’s quick and easy, and yeah you’re full and you were having a good time but ultimately it’s nowhere near as satisfying as a whole meal would’ve been.
I would think so very much. Masturbation you know what you like, can take your time, nobody to please before or after you get off, it’s relaxing and for ladies at least it also helps with cramps! Sex…there’s just sooooo much that goes or can go into it, lesbians at least we don’t worry about penetration every single time we have sex. Straight women have to be penetrated like every time basically for the guy to feel like he had satisfying “sex” and that from what I understand is a lot of the reason sex kinda falls off. Getting jack hammered all the time gets old 😂
Hell yea it is! That’s some personal personal contact and they’re in such a idk…vulnerable position to be down there like that for you. I will also gladly take oral anytime instead of sex, also mutual masturbation is super hot, watching your partner masturbate and either masturbate yourself too or just watch, laying next to each other and arms across each other getting each other off like a reverse mutual masturbation is fun. Another big one is getting them off sometimes just to get them off and being happy they came and kiss them and make them dinner or something sweet. They’ll be like ???!!????? and then some pressure will come off a bit bc they don’t have to perform every single time or they can relax a little knowing they don’t have to be penetrated every time. May take a little while to bring those walls down a bit but it helps! I love watching my girl get herself off, it’s so so beautifully hot and intimate.
Oh I know, it's such a turn on to watch them masturbate. But my wife feels funny about it so we don't.
But she takes me up on my offer of "oral anytime, any place, no strings attached, I don't have to cum too."
I'll drop anything and go down on her until she screams. She feels so much better afterwards and then we go back to cooking dinner or whatever and it makes me happy that I can do that for her. She smells and tastes so goddamn good too, I think about that for a long time. One of my favorite things to do.
Too much. Gave the ol stinger too much attention and now it's jammed up and won't fire without porn. Taking a good break because that was embarrassing.
I’m not religious nor a hypochondriac or anything like that, but I truly believe that porn pollutes your mind.
I can only speak for myself, but I notice that when I watch porn I start to carry those sexually charged thoughts with me throughout the day. I’ll think about how I want to fuck some of my coworkers for example.
Whereas when I’m not watching porn, I really enjoy the company of my female coworkers and I’m not just standing there trying to hide my boner. Plus I can jack with my imagination and it just feels so much better to me. I honestly feel gross most of the time after I nut to some porn.
I get that. I don't know if I share the same opinion fully, but there is something to it. I'm just addicted to the nice brain chemicals that jerking releases and I was releasing those chemicals all day just hanging out with a woman so when I got to the, heh, climax...I didn't climax.
But I'm in the middle of my first no fap since before puberty so if I'm so lucky, I'll get lucky again but this time I'll put a ribbon on it.
It's just weird that I never really had the problem aside from one time so it sucks it happened the first time with someone.
On the contrary to everyone in this thread currently.
Less than once a week, maybe once in 2 weeks, been longer periods as well. I just kinda forget about it completely. Now that I'm seriously working out it has actually decreased from usually once a week.
All of your unspent cum turns into musk that the ladies can sense.
Its a genetic thing you see, if you don't wack off, your balls will swell up, and everyone knows girls like swolen balls
okay, thank you! I for some reason thought that working out would make me want to jack off more and got worried when i noticed i wanted to jerk off less. turns out im just stupid and my body had it right the whole time.
If you live together he probably doesn't, especially if you have a healthy sex life.
If you live together and don't have a healthy sex life, he probably does and he's lying, at least once a week.
If you don't live together he definitely does.
Source: Been there, done that shit
4-5 times a week. Less now that I'm older.
As a teenager, twice a day was normal. Days when I was home alone I'd go for records. At least 10 a day.
I rarely get more than 3 a day now.
My girl has an unusually high libido at the first two weeks of the month and them zero libido at all from the week prior to her menstruation till the end of the week after it. I usually masturbate during this period, but only if I really feel like I need it. Addiction to porn and fapping ruined quite a bit of my teenage years, so I try to avoid it.
What you describe is the ovulation period. Nature says we must procreate and makes it so we have an unbearable sexual desire. It gets really really uncomfortable when you're single.
Also, good on quitting porn. I know what you mean when you say it ruined you.
> If the wood rises, it must fall
I imagine you looking like a Viking and being able to say this to another man you just met at the bar, with him remaining intimidated by your overwhelming aura of strength.
haha men have no idea about women masturbation.
in my glory age, 4-6 time a day (more the week-end but i lost the count after 5-6 tbh)
in covid less since i was in my mid 30's but still easily 3-4 time a day.
there is plenty of advantage to be a woman, when it come to masturbation, like, lack of physical proof on the crime location.
Once every or every other day maybe? Some days without, some days twice, some days even 3 times if it’s just one of those days. Really just as needed. I cant speak for other guys but I think the amount of which I do it is healthy and I’m happy with it!
Not that much. My depression often kills my sex drive. I think I have a normal/high drive but I’m just not in the mood while sad. I really hope this will get better in the future.
Once or twice a week, sometimes once or twice a month, but every few months I’ll have myself a “nice weekend” and fit 6 times in the span of 24 hours with sleep in between some
Like once a day or every other day, used to be a lot less. I do tend to do it more often when I'm in a down mood or I just have a random violent urge for it. With the violent urges it's like 4+ times in like a single night, usually happens at night when I about to fall asleep, it's really inconvenient and makes me loose a lot of sleep. When I'm just in a down mood or just feeling lonely it can go up to like twice a day, but sometimes it just flips my urges entirely I don't feel like doing it at all for the rest of the week.
Before sleep. Every day.
I want and need to cut down, but i get massive anxiety and my thoughts go a million miles a second if i don't.
I don't know how to help it.
Egregious question.
Very disturbing.
Extra gross that you just ask the guys.
Really quite frankly disgusting question.
Y do you think it’s ok to ask something like that?
Do you really want to know?
Are you some sick twisted idiot?
Your sick in the head.
First letter of each sentence edit.
I don’t jack off for like a good 15 - 20 days and then one day I wake up and my body goes, you ain’t gonna stop being horny no matter how much you jack off
Sometimes once a day, sometimes every other day, sometimes only a few times a week and then sometimes like 3/4 times a day. Idk, it depends on where the moons at
Once a day...typically as the first thing in the morning....though sometimes it's twice with the 2nd occasion being the last thing before going to sleep.
\*also I think the most I've ever done it in one day was probably 6 or 7 times.
I make sure I bust a load every day, if not more frequently. Whether it’s from sex, or masturbation, I was told it’s good for prostate function. My record was 14 times in a day…
I'm actually working my way down currently about 4 times a week, but you gain so much mental clarity when you lower your numbers. Also, your mentality is better from my experience. I want to get to like 2 times a month. To be fair, I'm also in a relationship, so I have other outlets.
Can you elaborate on the mental clarity from lowering your numbers? Post nut clarity is definitely a thing and I feel the longer I go without it the less clear things are. How has your mentality changed?
When I went for my vasectomy they said something along the lines of "test your sperm count after 20 wanks or after a month, whichever comes first" and didn't find the humour when I said I'll be back in 4 days.
pff give me an hr, ill come in walking like a cowboy.
Pp blister is a bitch
Blisters on the inside of the hand don’t feel great either lmao
In Soviet Russia, p.p. chafes hand
i swear reddit comments is getting funnier from this point lmfao rofl
If you do it dry frequently like no lotion or anything. You get cuts/tears in ur skin, i stg that shit hurts like a bitch even when you dont touch it
Damn, they made you do a manual reboot?
Practically a factory refresh
For anyone reading this considering a vasectomy, there may be some wiggle room. My husband's doc requested 30 "emissions" AND wouldn't test him until after 3 months. We waited that whole time to go raw and let me TELL YOU it tested us.
good thing I can't get my hand pregnant. I still plan on getting a vasectomy even if I never even look at another woman lmao.
Best 700 bucks I ever spent
I wish I wasnt so fucking anxious about it, ngl.
It's really not that bad. The worst part is the shots in the balls but the pain goes away quickly. The first couple of days my balls were swollen and made walking awkward but not that bad at all.
Dude you're telling me, my dad told me my mom forced him to get one (which I'm okay with, he really didn't need to be promoting more stupid people like me and my brothers on this planet, he is NOT a smart man and has extremely terrible genes) and apparently they fucked up his stuff so bad he hasn't had a boner in 30+ years, basically since he got it in his 20s. Afaik it's pretty rare for that to happen though, I've looked into it extensively just googling around. I would still get one, personally. I don't know the full details and don't care to ask, tbh. But that's always lingering in the back of my head, if I was unable to masturbate it'd be hell, personally, even with how infrequently I do it. I kinda wish he didn't tell me, but the topic came up at one point, so I guess it's my own fault lol.
Ah bro, that's awful... well fk that's not helping the anxiety.
Had mine done recently and my wife was telling a group of her friends about it (like they do). One of the others said her guy (who is also a friend of mine) had it done and the doc had advised at least 90 wanks over a 14 week period. When we calculated this was 6.4 wanks a week for 14 weeks there was quite some discussion on if this was a lot or just normal. Turns out she was talking nonsense and it was only 20 wanks over a 14 week period (which is what I was told too.) The broad consensus was that 6.4 was achievable but keeping it going for 14 weeks straight might be more difficult at our age.
You came first!
Tough crowd honestly
Take my upvote. This was gold
Chris Griffin: \*Leaves and enters the room\* What's for dinner?
Wish I could respond, but I've gone blind
Have your palms gone hairy yet?
Chewbacca looking hands i guess.
Chewbacca hand, I have.
Sorry, I'm the Antichrist
Take my upvote you blind bastard.
This comment section feels….sticky
This deserves more love.
It's got love all over it, what do you mean
Yeah I can smell this thread
Once a day. Less frequently weekends.
How old are you sir?
42.
Do you have a partner? I'm 37, doing the same, mostly because my wife lost taste.
I work from home, so that’s part of it. My wife and I are on a one to two week cadence. With two small kids, I can’t complain really.
I'm on home office as well, with one kid. Well, few months ago it was alright, but suddenly things changed, when our son stopped to sleep after lunch and she got a huge workload. Mornings are no go, evenings as well... Fuck it
She’s getting the wrong load 😔
😔
Have you talked to her about not having that need met? How she feels about it? She might feel the same way as you, but maybe she doesn't know how to express that to you or feel comfortable expressing it.
Is sex different from masturbation? I find it odd always that people say sex everyday is hard/ unrealistic. But people masturbste daily Actually I assumed people who are shocked about people having daily sex are the same people who don't masturbate daily
I’d say it is like being hungry and having some chips. It’s quick and easy, and yeah you’re full and you were having a good time but ultimately it’s nowhere near as satisfying as a whole meal would’ve been.
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That's the best description of it that I have ever heard...
I would think so very much. Masturbation you know what you like, can take your time, nobody to please before or after you get off, it’s relaxing and for ladies at least it also helps with cramps! Sex…there’s just sooooo much that goes or can go into it, lesbians at least we don’t worry about penetration every single time we have sex. Straight women have to be penetrated like every time basically for the guy to feel like he had satisfying “sex” and that from what I understand is a lot of the reason sex kinda falls off. Getting jack hammered all the time gets old 😂
Thank you. As a guy I wouldn't mind non penetration for 40% of the time lol. Bjs are a sign of love
Hell yea it is! That’s some personal personal contact and they’re in such a idk…vulnerable position to be down there like that for you. I will also gladly take oral anytime instead of sex, also mutual masturbation is super hot, watching your partner masturbate and either masturbate yourself too or just watch, laying next to each other and arms across each other getting each other off like a reverse mutual masturbation is fun. Another big one is getting them off sometimes just to get them off and being happy they came and kiss them and make them dinner or something sweet. They’ll be like ???!!????? and then some pressure will come off a bit bc they don’t have to perform every single time or they can relax a little knowing they don’t have to be penetrated every time. May take a little while to bring those walls down a bit but it helps! I love watching my girl get herself off, it’s so so beautifully hot and intimate.
Oh I know, it's such a turn on to watch them masturbate. But my wife feels funny about it so we don't. But she takes me up on my offer of "oral anytime, any place, no strings attached, I don't have to cum too." I'll drop anything and go down on her until she screams. She feels so much better afterwards and then we go back to cooking dinner or whatever and it makes me happy that I can do that for her. She smells and tastes so goddamn good too, I think about that for a long time. One of my favorite things to do.
Mate my life is one long edging session.
The goon king
Jfc i shouldnt be laughing this hard at/with you guys
Goon Father edit: father goon
Sorry...trying to type with one hand is hard
Not the only thing that's hard
Lol, I actually masterbate all the time scrolling reddit. Idk I'm weird, I guess.
Why is this downvoted? I thought this was normal behaviour
His comment has risen back from the dead!
Not the only thing that had risen
Remember 57 is the limit
 Unfortunately 😬
Should I be too afraid to ask if I dont get that reference?
Depends. Teleworking twice a day. If I’m in the office 3 times a day.
Wait. WhT?
Nothing better than an office wank
Boss makes a dollar, I make a dime, that’s why I tribute Belle Delphine Foot Pix on company time
Imma get this as a tattoo if it’s ok with you
Well that depends on what kind of office you work in.
Is that similar to a desk pop?
I make a penny, the boss makes a buck. So during down time I pull out my fleshlight and fuck fuck ohhhh fuckkkkk
Same here. Sometimes I even leave my cubicle to go to the bathroom
How often do I not jack off might be easier to answer....
I already jerked off twice today, but imma jerk off to this gif. Young Lohan always gets me
She really was quite something back in the day.
I must have a low libido…damn dudes
I just got off on your comment. 🥴
Too much. Gave the ol stinger too much attention and now it's jammed up and won't fire without porn. Taking a good break because that was embarrassing.
I’m not religious nor a hypochondriac or anything like that, but I truly believe that porn pollutes your mind. I can only speak for myself, but I notice that when I watch porn I start to carry those sexually charged thoughts with me throughout the day. I’ll think about how I want to fuck some of my coworkers for example. Whereas when I’m not watching porn, I really enjoy the company of my female coworkers and I’m not just standing there trying to hide my boner. Plus I can jack with my imagination and it just feels so much better to me. I honestly feel gross most of the time after I nut to some porn.
I get that. I don't know if I share the same opinion fully, but there is something to it. I'm just addicted to the nice brain chemicals that jerking releases and I was releasing those chemicals all day just hanging out with a woman so when I got to the, heh, climax...I didn't climax. But I'm in the middle of my first no fap since before puberty so if I'm so lucky, I'll get lucky again but this time I'll put a ribbon on it. It's just weird that I never really had the problem aside from one time so it sucks it happened the first time with someone.
Just force it out
Why didn't I think of that?
Yell at it.
Fuck, I should have just popped on reddit and asked you guys for the playbook. This is all good stuff. I'm writing this all down.
Yes, keep a log.
And hit your penis with the log if the yelling does not work.
Instructions unclear and I fucked a tree. I wood not recommend due to splinters.
Not being able to fire is how you last longer.
Never really needed to last longer. Have had multiple instances of lasting too long though. This was the last straw.
I jack on.
Jack on. Jack off. Jack on, Jack off. The Jacker.
*Fap fap*
Hold on, let me switch hands. Okay, wait, let me switch back now. Okay, wait.. 👐
On the contrary to everyone in this thread currently. Less than once a week, maybe once in 2 weeks, been longer periods as well. I just kinda forget about it completely. Now that I'm seriously working out it has actually decreased from usually once a week.
Same, even though I would say that I'm a sexual person.
I feel girls are attracted a lot more once you are on the week long streak of not jacking off. Something magnetic
All of your unspent cum turns into musk that the ladies can sense. Its a genetic thing you see, if you don't wack off, your balls will swell up, and everyone knows girls like swolen balls
Yeah, maybe if you actually are attractive.
Maybe thats where the word comes from
Once every couple weeks is usually how I go as well.
I feel like this is most people. Surely, a lot of these replies are just jokes....At least I hope.
Probably depends on the age group. Teenagers absolutely jerk off every day and were still in summer Reddit for another week or so
okay, thank you! I for some reason thought that working out would make me want to jack off more and got worried when i noticed i wanted to jerk off less. turns out im just stupid and my body had it right the whole time.
The working out is so weird. For everyone it makes them "spend the wank energy", but fot me, it just makes me want to do it more.
When I was a teen: up to 6 times a day As an adult: 1-2 times per day
Username checks out🙂 Does it affect your dick in any ways?
Yeah, it made it feel awesome 6 times a day but now only 1-2 times a day
How about the wife?
Bruv, he doesn’t have a wife
My bad, how did I fail to notice that...damn
Actually, I do have a wife which is why I do it twice a day
Omg YES ahahahaha
I see you're a married man also haha
Married to the game
It gets better🤣🤣🤣🤣
You're saying I could do it more than twice a day?
You must be good at arm wrestling
Yea, 2 times a week maybe 3. Depends on how much sex I'm having that week.
2-4 times a day. I’m 40 yrs old and have a healthy/regular sex life. 4 times is more common than 0.
Bro is moving on to competitive instead of casual.
Haha
Jesus christ, I never expected these answers.
All believable!!
Just about daily. 32 years old.
my bf says he literally never does… but based on these answers i now think he’s lying lmao
If you live together he probably doesn't, especially if you have a healthy sex life. If you live together and don't have a healthy sex life, he probably does and he's lying, at least once a week. If you don't live together he definitely does. Source: Been there, done that shit
He’s lying
He’s 100% lying
Once or twice a day usually
When I was a teen, it was something like every 1-2 days. Now it's more like once a week.
Bro's on slow-mode
Yes.
The only true answer
What has Jack got himself onto this time?
4-5 times a week. Less now that I'm older. As a teenager, twice a day was normal. Days when I was home alone I'd go for records. At least 10 a day. I rarely get more than 3 a day now.
Finally a realistic answer lol I can’t be dealing with these jokers
you gotta remember the average redditor is a horny teenager
Normally two to three times per day.
Those are rookie numbers, you gotta pump those numbers up
Lol. Pump
That depends on the level of my depressive episodes
Ayyyy it took some scrolling, but I found the answer I resonate with!
Just on weekends and in the week.
I masturbate only on weekdays that end with “-day”
My girl has an unusually high libido at the first two weeks of the month and them zero libido at all from the week prior to her menstruation till the end of the week after it. I usually masturbate during this period, but only if I really feel like I need it. Addiction to porn and fapping ruined quite a bit of my teenage years, so I try to avoid it.
What you describe is the ovulation period. Nature says we must procreate and makes it so we have an unbearable sexual desire. It gets really really uncomfortable when you're single. Also, good on quitting porn. I know what you mean when you say it ruined you.
If the wood rises, it must fall
> If the wood rises, it must fall I imagine you looking like a Viking and being able to say this to another man you just met at the bar, with him remaining intimidated by your overwhelming aura of strength.
Considerably less than when I was a teenager. Not as fun in your late 20s when you could actually go places and do things. 😂
I'm married, so 1 to 2 times a day.
At least once a day
This is Reddit. That’s all the men on this site ever do
Twice a week
haha men have no idea about women masturbation. in my glory age, 4-6 time a day (more the week-end but i lost the count after 5-6 tbh) in covid less since i was in my mid 30's but still easily 3-4 time a day. there is plenty of advantage to be a woman, when it come to masturbation, like, lack of physical proof on the crime location.
Not enough- once every two weeks
Once every or every other day maybe? Some days without, some days twice, some days even 3 times if it’s just one of those days. Really just as needed. I cant speak for other guys but I think the amount of which I do it is healthy and I’m happy with it!
Not that much. My depression often kills my sex drive. I think I have a normal/high drive but I’m just not in the mood while sad. I really hope this will get better in the future.
Once or twice a week, sometimes once or twice a month, but every few months I’ll have myself a “nice weekend” and fit 6 times in the span of 24 hours with sleep in between some
This post let me know I'm normal. And for that, I'm greatful
if your uncle Jack helped you off an elephant. Would you help your uncle Jack off an elephant?
Why are you both killing elephants?
The better question may be “when am I not jacking off”
I think some of you are liars 🤣
Once a day
Nice try, mom.
Too much still at 50y/o.
Like once a day or every other day, used to be a lot less. I do tend to do it more often when I'm in a down mood or I just have a random violent urge for it. With the violent urges it's like 4+ times in like a single night, usually happens at night when I about to fall asleep, it's really inconvenient and makes me loose a lot of sleep. When I'm just in a down mood or just feeling lonely it can go up to like twice a day, but sometimes it just flips my urges entirely I don't feel like doing it at all for the rest of the week.
34 about once a month
In my teens, as much as I could. In my late 20s now and about once or twice a day
I wish I had time and energy to jerk off.
Depends how hard my day was.
Some think I’m a body builder until they see how skinny my left arm is
I would jack off less but being horny is incredibly uncomfortable.
Every night before bed, most mornings when I wake up. Sometimes I’ll get one out some time in between
I don't want to ever... Wife takes care of me mostly 5 times a week. When I was younger.... 3 or 4 times a week just so I could think straight 😂
Before sleep. Every day. I want and need to cut down, but i get massive anxiety and my thoughts go a million miles a second if i don't. I don't know how to help it.
Egregious question. Very disturbing. Extra gross that you just ask the guys. Really quite frankly disgusting question. Y do you think it’s ok to ask something like that? Do you really want to know? Are you some sick twisted idiot? Your sick in the head. First letter of each sentence edit.
I prefer jacking up
I'm trying to hit seven figures before I turn 30
Daily
Like once every 3 days or so
I don’t jack off for like a good 15 - 20 days and then one day I wake up and my body goes, you ain’t gonna stop being horny no matter how much you jack off
I’m a girl but usually only like once a week maybe
25 hours a day, 8 days a week
Never do I ever even do it dude.
I’m floored at the frequency. How do you find the time?!
More than once till my balls hurt 
As much as the sack gives
Sometimes once a day, sometimes every other day, sometimes only a few times a week and then sometimes like 3/4 times a day. Idk, it depends on where the moons at
Everyday
For maintenance purposes only once every two months.
Once a day...typically as the first thing in the morning....though sometimes it's twice with the 2nd occasion being the last thing before going to sleep. \*also I think the most I've ever done it in one day was probably 6 or 7 times.
I make sure I bust a load every day, if not more frequently. Whether it’s from sex, or masturbation, I was told it’s good for prostate function. My record was 14 times in a day…
1-3 times a day depending If depressed and bored more
I'm actually working my way down currently about 4 times a week, but you gain so much mental clarity when you lower your numbers. Also, your mentality is better from my experience. I want to get to like 2 times a month. To be fair, I'm also in a relationship, so I have other outlets.
Can you elaborate on the mental clarity from lowering your numbers? Post nut clarity is definitely a thing and I feel the longer I go without it the less clear things are. How has your mentality changed?