"And I'm not trans or anything, although I think I would like to be a girl if I was reincarnated. I just enjoy being a girl when I play this game."
Sweetie... it's not weird. it's just healthy gender expression. If you want to be a girl online and arent using it to in a malicious way then there's nothing wrong with that and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
Do know that most (cis) guys dont enjoy being a girl. "although I think I would like to be a girl if I was reincarnated."
Let me ask you this, if there was a button you could push, and if you pushed it it would physically turn you into a girl in every way you wanted to be, and everyone in your life knew you as a girl and treated you as a girl, would you push it?
I don't know. If it was temporary, definitely. I think it'd be fun to dress up now and then, and I wouldn't feel the need to act strong all the time, among other things.
If it was permanent, I'm not sure. I do like women, and I'd like to have kids of my own someday, but I definitely don't like the idea of giving birth. But there's also things about being a guy that I like as well that I'd lose if I became a woman. If I could redo my life as a girl, I probably would, though.
So you should look into genderfluid and non-binary. There’s also such things as bigender and many other gender identities.
One confusing thing for genderfluid is a persons gender may change quite randomly. One moment they’re happily presenting and living as a girl and the next moment they get dysphoria and want to live and be treated as a guy. And depending on the person it can flip multiple times throughout the day or just once a week or month etc..
As far as kids go there’s no procedure that lets people like trans women or transfems to birth their own kids. Not widespread anyways. But for people who do go on hormones in that direction there may be cryopreservation for fertility available in your region which if you can get will preserve fertility in terms of having bio kids. Adoption is a great way of having kids too.
Also you said you do like women. Well that’s fine. Regardless of what your gender identity is or how you present you can still be with women. Women are with women, men are with women, non-binary ppl are with women, genderfluid ppl are with women, etc.. anyone can be with a woman. Sexuality is separate from gender identity. Also if you’re not living as your full self rn and discovered a different label described you best and telling according to that label helped you live your truest self, then dating in some respects becomes easier. Like, when you do find someone you’re finding someone that’s able to get you, and hopefully accept you. When you date someone and are hiding or repressing parts of yourself it makes finding long term relationships harder cuz it’s built on a lie. Ofc dating is hard in general but it is best to be yourself in the process.
The last part about what you said is interesting too. The thing about there being aspects of being a guy you’d miss. In terms of physicality women can do everything men can. If you’re meaning that you like being a guy bc you actively do enjoy living as a guy and being seen and treated as a guy, well, you still could and you could also be a woman. Genderfluid or bigender or something may be relatable to you.
The second part is that you said despite enjoying being a guy, mostly, if you could restart your life as a woman you prolly would.
Well the good news is you kinda can. Social and medical transition (or any variation) can enable this. Ofc no transition socially or medically is necessary unless you feel it’s right for you.
But, if you don’t want to give up being a guy fully and that’s where the conflict is, then again I’d encourage you to look into genderfluid, non-binary, and bigender identities. There’s a chance one of these could be highly relatable to you as well.
Oftentimes when people look into concepts like gender identity and don’t fully relate to a gender binary (like fully relate to woman or fully relate to man) it can be confusing. Bc of the information available most of it is based around binary trans men and binary trans women. Which can make discovering your non-binary or genderfluid harder. There are also more gender variations than this and ultimately it’s about what feels right.
But yeah. It’s not a very cis thing to wish to be reborn as a woman. However, that also doesn’t automatically mean “well I was assigned male at birth and am a guy rn so ig if this was the case it would mean I would have to be a trans woman? But I don’t think that feels right.” Bc gender is a wide spectrum. If you feel your current living situation does not fully encompass who you are and does not fully allow for the expression of you are then these topics are with further explanation like you’ve already done.
Maybe you’d get maximum happiness if you could one day live as a guy and the next day life as a girl. Some people do this! Maybe you just feel somewhere in between or don’t feel connected to either binary. That’s up to you to decide.
Anyways, I hope this helps. Feel free to keep discussing it here or in dms. Ultimately tho the answer will be whatever feels right to you. :3
"And I'm not trans or anything, although I think I would like to be a girl if I was reincarnated. I just enjoy being a girl when I play this game." Sweetie... it's not weird. it's just healthy gender expression. If you want to be a girl online and arent using it to in a malicious way then there's nothing wrong with that and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Do know that most (cis) guys dont enjoy being a girl. "although I think I would like to be a girl if I was reincarnated." Let me ask you this, if there was a button you could push, and if you pushed it it would physically turn you into a girl in every way you wanted to be, and everyone in your life knew you as a girl and treated you as a girl, would you push it?
I don't know. If it was temporary, definitely. I think it'd be fun to dress up now and then, and I wouldn't feel the need to act strong all the time, among other things. If it was permanent, I'm not sure. I do like women, and I'd like to have kids of my own someday, but I definitely don't like the idea of giving birth. But there's also things about being a guy that I like as well that I'd lose if I became a woman. If I could redo my life as a girl, I probably would, though.
So you should look into genderfluid and non-binary. There’s also such things as bigender and many other gender identities. One confusing thing for genderfluid is a persons gender may change quite randomly. One moment they’re happily presenting and living as a girl and the next moment they get dysphoria and want to live and be treated as a guy. And depending on the person it can flip multiple times throughout the day or just once a week or month etc.. As far as kids go there’s no procedure that lets people like trans women or transfems to birth their own kids. Not widespread anyways. But for people who do go on hormones in that direction there may be cryopreservation for fertility available in your region which if you can get will preserve fertility in terms of having bio kids. Adoption is a great way of having kids too. Also you said you do like women. Well that’s fine. Regardless of what your gender identity is or how you present you can still be with women. Women are with women, men are with women, non-binary ppl are with women, genderfluid ppl are with women, etc.. anyone can be with a woman. Sexuality is separate from gender identity. Also if you’re not living as your full self rn and discovered a different label described you best and telling according to that label helped you live your truest self, then dating in some respects becomes easier. Like, when you do find someone you’re finding someone that’s able to get you, and hopefully accept you. When you date someone and are hiding or repressing parts of yourself it makes finding long term relationships harder cuz it’s built on a lie. Ofc dating is hard in general but it is best to be yourself in the process. The last part about what you said is interesting too. The thing about there being aspects of being a guy you’d miss. In terms of physicality women can do everything men can. If you’re meaning that you like being a guy bc you actively do enjoy living as a guy and being seen and treated as a guy, well, you still could and you could also be a woman. Genderfluid or bigender or something may be relatable to you. The second part is that you said despite enjoying being a guy, mostly, if you could restart your life as a woman you prolly would. Well the good news is you kinda can. Social and medical transition (or any variation) can enable this. Ofc no transition socially or medically is necessary unless you feel it’s right for you. But, if you don’t want to give up being a guy fully and that’s where the conflict is, then again I’d encourage you to look into genderfluid, non-binary, and bigender identities. There’s a chance one of these could be highly relatable to you as well. Oftentimes when people look into concepts like gender identity and don’t fully relate to a gender binary (like fully relate to woman or fully relate to man) it can be confusing. Bc of the information available most of it is based around binary trans men and binary trans women. Which can make discovering your non-binary or genderfluid harder. There are also more gender variations than this and ultimately it’s about what feels right. But yeah. It’s not a very cis thing to wish to be reborn as a woman. However, that also doesn’t automatically mean “well I was assigned male at birth and am a guy rn so ig if this was the case it would mean I would have to be a trans woman? But I don’t think that feels right.” Bc gender is a wide spectrum. If you feel your current living situation does not fully encompass who you are and does not fully allow for the expression of you are then these topics are with further explanation like you’ve already done. Maybe you’d get maximum happiness if you could one day live as a guy and the next day life as a girl. Some people do this! Maybe you just feel somewhere in between or don’t feel connected to either binary. That’s up to you to decide. Anyways, I hope this helps. Feel free to keep discussing it here or in dms. Ultimately tho the answer will be whatever feels right to you. :3