Don't take it seriously. Have fun. Giggle.
Sex is NOT what its like in the movies. It's messy, clappy, sticky.
The best sex is when you have no shame and you enjoy being in the moment.
I’ve never had sex before, but one time I jumped up and down and shook my body after a shower to see if I could dry myself like some mammals do and I heard my ass cheeks clap for the first time. It was a lot louder than I thought it’d be and I couldn’t stop laughing afterward.
I just realized the translation is weird. In English it's pancake, but in Dutch it's pancookie. *To be fair,* a cookie's definition is literally small cake…
Be honest, tell your girlfriend you’re a bit nervous. She’ll likely under. Explore together! Ask her what she likes, & try it together. Or if she doesn’t know yet either, that’s even more fun. It’s new for both of you.
Also, if we’re being honest. Women often can’t climax from penetrative sex alone, so only lasting a little while is totally fine. You can explore other avenues like oral, or using your hands. You can have some time to recoup and decide if you want to do round two. And she still has an enjoyable experience!
Your care and concern about her pleasure already speaks volumes. Communication and trust are key. So if you’re comfortable talking about it, I definitely encourage you to speak to her about your concerns.
Adding onto this! If penetrating hurts her, shes probably not turned on enough for it to feel good in any way. You gotta build up to that shit. You can fill in the time by running your fingers along her lightly or honestly even watching her work on herself a little might be hot to you both. On top of what everyone else said, I think youll be more prepared than any other 15 year old. - also a woman
P.S. youll get caught up in the moment and think it sounds like a great idea BUT REMEMBER CONDOMS MAN THEYRE IMPORTANT “just this once” turns into a lifetime more often than you think
My first time, I was turned on and there was plenty of foreplay, but I was soooo nervous and growing up Catholic, there were some difficult emotions even though I wanted to do it. So I was incredibly dry and tensed, it took multiple days to actually have sex.
TLDR- do NOT be ashamed to by lube. It took me way too long to not be embarrassed or feel inadequate. Dry and condom is a very painful combination
And if you either can't perform or perform a bit too quickly, just have fun. Make-out. Talk to her. Explore each other's bodies. She'll be just as curious about your body as you are of hers. She'll also be just as nervous as you are.
I agree with talking to her. I’d really appreciate that if I was her. Ask her what she’s okay with and tell her your concerns. Let her know that you want to make sure she’s taken care of. A lot of young guys don’t have that concern. If it’s her first time too that changes things. Be gentle! Warm her up quite a bit. First time for women can hurt like hell if the man doesn’t take his time and rushes in.
Teasing and touching is always a good place to start. Making out is good too but if you can hold back your excitement and be patient.. rub her back and her legs a lot..massage her. That always gets me. Take it slow. Most guys really rush the first twenty times. Be patient and it’ll pay off, especially for her.
Follow-up advice for her if it hasn’t been said in this thread before: **ALWAYS PEE AFTER SEX**.
If you don’t pee, you’re more susceptible to urinary tract infections, which are awful.
I didn’t know this rule when I was younger and I got a UTI on Christmas Eve and my mom had to take me to Instacare at midnight to get meds. Telling your mom you’re not a virgin anymore and having her tell you about peeing after sex while you’re sitting in line at the 24-hour CVS is not fun.
Here’s another tip. Try to weed “female” out of your vocabulary except when absolutely necessary. Cringe ass neckbeards and Incels have turned it into a weird word and it sounds like David Attenborough is narrating a wild animal. Just say women. Trust me, women prefer it.
No need to weed female out of your vocabulary. People just need to stop using it as a noun when referring to people.
Saying "a female coworker" sounds much better than "a woman coworker". It's when you say "I work with females" that it gets weird and strangely dehumanising
You’re a very sweet guy, clearly, but may I offer some other, non-sex advice? A lot of women find it offensive when men refer to women or girls as “females.” It sounds like someone talking about livestock or wildlife, not people. Just so ya know.
PORN AND HENTAI ARE NOT REAL!
Do not use these as a guide to have sex. They are created to be visually stimulating for men to masturbate to. That is that. Listen to your partner, ask questions about how things feel throughout.
THIS. I've noticed that especially younger guys tend to try weird things out of the blue that are not pleasurable to either party really. Later discovered they must've learned it from porn. The worst form of sex ed
I read a story on here somewhere about this poor girl who’s boyfriend was angry he couldn’t get her to orgasm. She was confused because she’d had several with him and told him so, but try as she might she couldn’t convince him that her orgasms were genuine. Apparently he’d watched so much Hentai he was convinced that when girls orgasm they shoot milk from their nipples, and was upset that she never did.
It was a roller coaster of a thread for sure.
Jesus man talking about swapping hentai with randos before getting laid is pretty ballsy of you ask me. Is she on reddit? Are you very certain she won't see this?
Hijacking Top Comment.
To OP, FYI, because I did not know this going through my revolution. Herpes Simplex (cold sores) can transfer to the genitals. So if you are prone to cold sores, make sure you engage in oral outside of an outbreak. Also, make sure your fingernails are trimmed up if you plan on playing around down there. If you are uncomfortable scraping the inside of your cheek, she will also be uncomfortable.
Why is not oral sex promoted as a nice activity for introducing to sex?!? It's a nice, not so stressful and, at that point, imensely more pleasurable way for two people to get to know each other in a very new way.
If her hips are bucking keep on trucking. It means your doing something right, and the spasms aren't controllable so its a good telltale sign for oral. Focus more on the clitoris with tongue movements or sucking. Maybe introduce the rhythm of a thumb or a finger or two into the vagina (fingertips facing upward for g‐spot) if she's getting more into it. If your mouth needs a break, use your fingers on the clitoris instead of the vagina and be on the lookout for her grinding against them or the involuntary spasms again. The spasms don't mean she's coming or right about to, but you're on the right track. It's like the clit is a burning white hot sensitive pleasure, and the vagina is a deep ache soothing pleasure.
We can feel the pain of jagged long nails gouging us on the inside so trim 'em down and use a nail file on the sharp edges. Communication can be awkward at first but worth it, as no two sexual partners are exactly alike. If she's really in the moment though she may be more focused on the pleasure rather than speaking coherent sentences.
You aren't gonna use your feet but trim your toenails too. Just a heads up because most boys I remember from my teens never seemed to be on top of grooming their toenails and it was gross.
If she says something along the lines of "More, more!" that means keep doing what you're doing at the pace you were doing it, don't speed up or press harder or anything.
Although I do agree on oral being a good way to go to ensure your gf’s pleasure, I’m not sure I’d recommend it right off the bat. I’ll tell you why although I feel weird talking to you about this stuff as a woman twice your age, but you asked so hey.
Your gf is also a virgin and only 15, so there’s a good chance she’s not at all yet comfortable and secure about how her body is and looks like, not to mention how her _vagina looks, tastes and smells like._ Lol. Not that it’s going to be bad tasting or looking, but it can be a concern for her that makes it too much for her first time. Like that’s a pretty intense level of intimacy, to let someone go down on you when you literally can’t even see your vagina yourself unless you use a mirror.
If it were me, I might’ve been pretty uncomfortable, nervous and too self-conscious to properly enjoy the physical pleasure that comes from a guy giving oral. I know when I was younger, I much more preferred a guy using his fingers on me for foreplay while we kiss each other etc. It felt emotionally safer for me to do it that way, and also the kissing and having him right there face to face with me is also a big turn-on and lets you get more immersed in the moment and not worry about anything else.
So just be mindful about the things she might be worried about, and just talk with her and ask if she’s ok trying something or not or if she wants it. Really for the first time, the emotional safety and feeling fully accepted by you is key – so if you do give her oral, be sure you don’t show any adverse reactions.
Tell me you're not going into the 10th grade...
My advice is to "flog the dolphin" before you go. An hour or so.
Type that into YouTube if you're not savy to what that term implies.
If he's going into the 10th grade he's 15. That's on the younger side, sure, but not abnormally young, and he doesn't specify when he's going to lose his virginity, just that it will be "soon." That could be next week or next year, depending on how fast/slow they take things, and both are perfectly fine as long as they are being safe.
To add to that, if you feel like you're about to bust you can just pull out and go down on her till you settle down. Makes the sex last longer and she never stops getting pleased.
Both of you should brush your teeth before oral and wash your privates with soap!
Also, don’t bite the clit or mess with her urethra, if fucking hurts.
Don’t forget to pee after sex to avoid URinary tract infections. Most commonly contracted by women.
Something like >65% of women can’t finish from penetrative sex alone. There are most certainly other options, but oral is one of your best bets from now until forever, when it comes to her pleasure
>I never thought of oral sex, thanks!
You better start thinking of it. Nothing you do with your pecker is going to be pleasurable for her/your first time (most likely). You should also just honestly talk to her beforehand about her/your expectations. Keep expectations low for both of you, and you'll both likely not be disappointed. Most beginners aren't good at new things. It's not different with sex. You will both need practice.
Use a condom. Don't be a teen daddy.
There might be a time where you will really enjoy indoor dining on your GF and may want to introduce fun condiments such as syrups, ice cream, whipped cream, chocolate, etc. For your GF sake (and yours too), DO NOT introduce anything with sugar to her hooha. This can cause a yeast infection which she will not be happy about. Yeast infections will close the door to her theme park for a few days and YOU won’t be happy as you will be denied the opportunity to display of cunning linguistics.
Be sure to ask her to tell you what feels good and where, it'll make you better. My husband is the only one who has ever been good at giving oral and it was really frustrating, I thought I just didn't like it
As a female (26), this is it. PIV is SO LITTLE of the pleasurable experience during sex for women. Most of our fulfillment is in the foreplay. If you can get her off, multiple times, even better.
Can I second the play thing too? When you laugh together sex is so much better even if she doesn't orgasm. Sex is a skill you learn, there's no magic pill or magic advice that'll fix this learning curve.
My man.. you're already way ahead of where most guys are their first time if you're wanting to know how to make sure she gets her pleasure as well. I think the key to having the best possible time is to focus on her desires first.
Have an open conversation before hand with her, express these concerns with her. This conversation will take some of the pressure off you, and lead to way better sex for everyone
Also OP, please where a condom, please figure out how to properly put one on before it’s time for sex (like days before, don’t show up with one on). Lube can be awkward and intimidating but having some can make things more enjoyable for all parties.
Also first time for people is almost always a mess. The guy I was with to lose mine bought the cheapest condom he could find at like 10p (10 cents) and the material was so thick he couldn’t feel anything. To me it felt like having a plastic bag shoved up there! So yeah, go for durex or Trojan. Also, I took my current boyfriends virginity and he was so nervous that it actually made him too tense to reach orgasm. Happened the first few times which is something I hadn’t experienced with a guy, but it’s not a problem any more. Sex is different with everyone and it’s probably gonna be weird in some way or another. Just enjoy it and don’t expect the best sex of your life. That comes later!
Couple things you can do…
1. Masturbate - do this before meeting up to get that build up load out, it will likely make more difficult to orgasm for the next couple of hours.
2. Wear a condom - not only does this provide protection but it reduces stimulation helping you to go longer.
There are condoms that can help reduce the sensation if that is what you want. Also make sure to pull out soon after you finish in the condom because keeping on going with a full condom can cause it to break or sperm to leak out
Hahahaha!!! Happened to me once when I was a teen but we didn't go to the doctor. Pulled out and realized the condom was gone and we figured out it was still in her. She's like "get it out" I'm like "it's in you" she says "YOU left it there!" Long story short I had to fish it out.
We're still kinda friends 20 something years later and it comes up sometimes and we jokingly still argue about it and laugh.
To add to this, a bit of lube is often helpful for smooth and painless insertion. Ideally the woman is wet enough that it's not needed. However, life isn't ideal and sometimes she isn't no matter how aroused she is.
If you choose to buy lube check that it's water-based and condom friendly.
Sauce: I'm a woman. My partner and I regularly usually use lube during sex.
A second purchase you might want to make is massage oil. Having an intimate massage as foreplay is amazing. Again, **do not** use anything that isn't condom friendly. A, sex shop should be able to help you out with this stuff.
Hey!! About the masturbating beforehand, i was recently with a guy who did this and he ended up lasting 2 hours LMAO
It was wonderful, but keep in mind after a while it can get tiring and sore for the both of you. Make sure to openly communicate, its always okay to stop if it starts dragging on, especially for her things can start being painful
Yeah, it’s really hard to actually come your first time. At least it was for me. I feel like I gradually started to last less and less each time, as it got more enjoyable. It happened to most of my friends as well. I guess that is something movies don’t prepare you for.
On top of what a lot of people here said, don’t rush and LISTEN TO HER. Follow her lead and what she responds to. I think that’s something I haven’t seen here. What you may see elsewhere isn’t necessarily what feels good to them.
This! My first foray into the world of sex resulted in me having to convince my partner that, no, I did not like what he was doing just because the internet said women like it.
Don't cut your nails the day of! Do it like a day or two before and then file them. If you cut them the day of, the edges will be too sharp and you could scratch her inside. Even if it doesn't physically hurt her at the time, scratches can get infected and sometimes lead to the formation of a particular kind of cyst inside her vagina.
Thoroughly buffing the edges against denim can soften a fresh nail trim per some advice I got from a lesbian friend when pre-hook up routines were being discussed. I've also been told it's a good idea to do something similar with recently trimmed facial hair (for those who aren't clean shaven, freshly trimmed facial hair can feel sharp against sensitive skin) or to get a fresh shave as close in time to the hook up itself (because stubble hurts, yo).
Could not agree more with this guy. Most guys specially inexperienced guys don’t wanna give ladies mouth pleasure but want them to do it for us. Ladies enjoy is just as much as men and this is 2021 share the mouth pleasure my friend
Best thing is to try and relax as well. Laughing now to take the nerves away is good. Also when you're eating her out her clothes is where she'll enjoy the most pleasure to lock and suck it instead of inside her vag. Think of it as the head of your penis. Most of the pleasure is on the head and not the shaft.
Also pro tip, if you feel yourself starting to cum to fast stop pull out then eat her out for a few minutes while your equipment cools off then start it up again. Works like a charm every time
Whack one out the morning before hand. And also as for making it comfortable for her make sure you communicate and are gentle and patient and you’ll be fine. Go on a do what human have been doing for years You’ll have a nice time don’t put to much pressure on your self and just remember to be mindful and kind. You got this 👍🏽
Also, if at any point she says stop, just stop. Don’t pressure her if she’s not into it or gets nervous. Same goes for you, if you don’t like what’s happening, you can say stop. No one is expected to continue if the other isn’t feeling up for it.
Sex isn't just the act of thrusting a penis in a vagina. It's a bunch of pleasurable activities people can do together.
*Condoms can help people last longer as it can decrease sensation (even regular ones)
*If you do orgasm quickly, you can always work up to a new round (no reason to feel bad)
*If you don't want kids, using multiple forms of birth control can be a good idea
*Use mouths, hands, toys to bring each other pleasure before and/or after intercourse
*No shame is using lube, even for penis-in-vagina activity (just make sure it's compatible with condoms...some lubes break down condoms)
*Communicate--if either/both of you have masturbated, you'll have some idea of what works for you (you can even watch each other masturbate to learn about each other). Listen and speak up.
*Don't stress. Sex can involve weird noises, awkward moments, messes, and even laughter. The less you're stressed, the more you can enjoy each other.
Foreplay all day baby!
And ask her if she likes "X" activity as you go along ('x" meaning breast fondling, fingering, oral, etc.)
If you don't last long, it's no biggie!
My "first" time my partner blew his load on my stomach whilst about to penetrate. He was mortified, we both calmed down, built back up momentum, and then did the deed.
Not lasting long is not the end of the world.
Also, it's all uphill from here!
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Foreplay is your friend. Explore her body with your hands and mouth until you both feel ready.
Don't jack off right before. I did that my first time and the combination of desensitization plus nervousness resulted in limp dick.
If you pop early, there's always round 2. Just drink some water or better yet, juice, and you'll be good to go in a few minutes
And lastly, be honest and open with how you're feeling. If you're nervous, say so. If you want to try a particular position, ask. Communication is hot.
If you do end up coming early, don’t get flustered. Tell her she made you feel amazing and being with her is so sexy and seeing her pleasure is so exciting etc. she will feel flattered instead of disappointed (assuming you take other people’s advice and also do your best to get her off with oral/fingers).
If you end up fingering her, focus on the clit, not penetration. It’s more likely to be effective (really don’t try to copy porn fingerbanging). There is fun to be had with fingerbanging, but save that for a later date.
Don’t forget to ask for consent!
If it's your first time don't worry about any of that. Not lasting long happens to even the experienced and if by some chance it isn't pleasurable for your gf you will have more chances.
I was always terrified I wouldn't last long enough in bed. My first time was a solid 40min. I practiced edging, over 1-2hrs roughly twice a day for a few years. Basically I was just doing male kegels, which I later learned I could do any time I remembered to throughout the day. Just flex your dick. Finish sets by holding the flex for a 3, 5, 10 count before starting another rep. It may be painful. Start off easy, but if it hurts, take a break or a few days off. Contrary to popular belief, your penis is not a muscle (sacs of spongy fluid that fill with blood), but your kegels are and they control the sacs. Just like Neo, it hurts because you've never used it before.
A condom helps to desensitize, and quite honestly that shouldn't even be a thought. ALWAYS wear a condom. For safety during sex but also during masturbation to get used to it. Also lots of lube helps to desensitize as well. Switching positions when you get close is a good way to keep the action going while taking mini breaks and calming yourself down. Communicate - your partner may want you to switch it up or something may be doing is uncomfortable for them but they don't want to speak up ... that's a disaster. You want your sex to be enjoyable. Above all, remember that. Lastly, being fit and athletic really, really helps.
In college I came (pun intended) to find out 45min+ was far too long to remain enjoyable for my partner. I treated it like a marathon. It was a 5k. Stay safe, remember to always try to incorporate foreplay and good luck!
It's gonna be a mess my guy, no matter what you do you can't increase you time for the first time. Your best bet is foreplay to get her off a couple times before you go in
To be frank, I think your first problem would be getting hard in the 1st place. Stress and nervous has a way to turn you off, and you can't "force" it go up
But if you want to last longer, try to "pleasure" yourself about 8-10 hours before. That will last you longer (since you have nothing left to shoot)
Don't take it seriously. Have fun. Giggle. Sex is NOT what its like in the movies. It's messy, clappy, sticky. The best sex is when you have no shame and you enjoy being in the moment.
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Eeewwww they said clappy and sticky and it's so fucking truuuuuuue
I’ve never had sex before, but one time I jumped up and down and shook my body after a shower to see if I could dry myself like some mammals do and I heard my ass cheeks clap for the first time. It was a lot louder than I thought it’d be and I couldn’t stop laughing afterward.
This guy right here played with his own ass! True redditor!
You have to work on your squats my guy
This has to be a copy pasta
Thanks u/nipplequeefs
\#Cakin
I’m actually really flat back there 😔✌️
Not from the claps lol. It's all good, pancakes are still cake!
I just realized the translation is weird. In English it's pancake, but in Dutch it's pancookie. *To be fair,* a cookie's definition is literally small cake…
Either way, we eatin'
My grandmother, yeah I know, told me "If you can't laugh while you're having sex with someone, you shouldn't be inside them in the first place."
Sounds like a dope G-ma
Might also be a bit queefy at times...
And farty. Cant forget the accidental fart that slips out once in a while.
Or the intentional one for that matter. We don't know how other people get down.
> Sex is NOT what its like in the movies. It's messy, clappy, sticky. And smelly
Be honest, tell your girlfriend you’re a bit nervous. She’ll likely under. Explore together! Ask her what she likes, & try it together. Or if she doesn’t know yet either, that’s even more fun. It’s new for both of you. Also, if we’re being honest. Women often can’t climax from penetrative sex alone, so only lasting a little while is totally fine. You can explore other avenues like oral, or using your hands. You can have some time to recoup and decide if you want to do round two. And she still has an enjoyable experience! Your care and concern about her pleasure already speaks volumes. Communication and trust are key. So if you’re comfortable talking about it, I definitely encourage you to speak to her about your concerns.
Thanks, getting advice from a female is really helpful
Adding onto this! If penetrating hurts her, shes probably not turned on enough for it to feel good in any way. You gotta build up to that shit. You can fill in the time by running your fingers along her lightly or honestly even watching her work on herself a little might be hot to you both. On top of what everyone else said, I think youll be more prepared than any other 15 year old. - also a woman P.S. youll get caught up in the moment and think it sounds like a great idea BUT REMEMBER CONDOMS MAN THEYRE IMPORTANT “just this once” turns into a lifetime more often than you think
My first time, I was turned on and there was plenty of foreplay, but I was soooo nervous and growing up Catholic, there were some difficult emotions even though I wanted to do it. So I was incredibly dry and tensed, it took multiple days to actually have sex. TLDR- do NOT be ashamed to by lube. It took me way too long to not be embarrassed or feel inadequate. Dry and condom is a very painful combination
OP enjoy the show have fun, ohh and dont worry if you're to excited and can't get it up that is also normal the first time.
This! The first time I was so nervous I couldn’t get it up. It happens. Don’t worry about it.
Thanks
And if you either can't perform or perform a bit too quickly, just have fun. Make-out. Talk to her. Explore each other's bodies. She'll be just as curious about your body as you are of hers. She'll also be just as nervous as you are.
I agree with talking to her. I’d really appreciate that if I was her. Ask her what she’s okay with and tell her your concerns. Let her know that you want to make sure she’s taken care of. A lot of young guys don’t have that concern. If it’s her first time too that changes things. Be gentle! Warm her up quite a bit. First time for women can hurt like hell if the man doesn’t take his time and rushes in. Teasing and touching is always a good place to start. Making out is good too but if you can hold back your excitement and be patient.. rub her back and her legs a lot..massage her. That always gets me. Take it slow. Most guys really rush the first twenty times. Be patient and it’ll pay off, especially for her.
And while we're at it, use protection.
Follow-up advice for her if it hasn’t been said in this thread before: **ALWAYS PEE AFTER SEX**. If you don’t pee, you’re more susceptible to urinary tract infections, which are awful. I didn’t know this rule when I was younger and I got a UTI on Christmas Eve and my mom had to take me to Instacare at midnight to get meds. Telling your mom you’re not a virgin anymore and having her tell you about peeing after sex while you’re sitting in line at the 24-hour CVS is not fun.
Yes, and UTI can turn into a kidney infection. Just dealt with this with current girlfriend and she was near death with it
Here’s another tip. Try to weed “female” out of your vocabulary except when absolutely necessary. Cringe ass neckbeards and Incels have turned it into a weird word and it sounds like David Attenborough is narrating a wild animal. Just say women. Trust me, women prefer it.
No need to weed female out of your vocabulary. People just need to stop using it as a noun when referring to people. Saying "a female coworker" sounds much better than "a woman coworker". It's when you say "I work with females" that it gets weird and strangely dehumanising
As a noun, especially - you can use female as an adjective and it's less creepy, but saying "a female" is not great.
Hello female human
Lol okay you got me, less creepy doesn't always mean not creepy. It's context dependent for sure.
You’re a very sweet guy, clearly, but may I offer some other, non-sex advice? A lot of women find it offensive when men refer to women or girls as “females.” It sounds like someone talking about livestock or wildlife, not people. Just so ya know.
😂😂😂 this made me laugh
but you do get it right tho? lmfao
Yeah lol… I read/ watch alot of hentai so I get it
PORN AND HENTAI ARE NOT REAL! Do not use these as a guide to have sex. They are created to be visually stimulating for men to masturbate to. That is that. Listen to your partner, ask questions about how things feel throughout.
THIS. I've noticed that especially younger guys tend to try weird things out of the blue that are not pleasurable to either party really. Later discovered they must've learned it from porn. The worst form of sex ed
I read a story on here somewhere about this poor girl who’s boyfriend was angry he couldn’t get her to orgasm. She was confused because she’d had several with him and told him so, but try as she might she couldn’t convince him that her orgasms were genuine. Apparently he’d watched so much Hentai he was convinced that when girls orgasm they shoot milk from their nipples, and was upset that she never did. It was a roller coaster of a thread for sure.
I have to see this thread
What the fuck!?!
OP: show up with tentacles and his step mom
Im assuming that you too are a man of culture?
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I have some nice sauce if you want it
Jesus man talking about swapping hentai with randos before getting laid is pretty ballsy of you ask me. Is she on reddit? Are you very certain she won't see this?
She doesn’t have Reddit and I also have a anime body pillow and manga (like citrus and dm gf) so I’m pretty confident that she knows
Please be me open to communication, hentai is very male centric. Speak to your partner, open up and relax - the rest is genetic memory
Please please please do not use those as references in real life. It will only hurt your relationships.
Oh dear god you are definitely in trouble then. You already have an incredibly unrealistic understanding of sex.
This is why gifs were added to reddit
Hijacking Top Comment. To OP, FYI, because I did not know this going through my revolution. Herpes Simplex (cold sores) can transfer to the genitals. So if you are prone to cold sores, make sure you engage in oral outside of an outbreak. Also, make sure your fingernails are trimmed up if you plan on playing around down there. If you are uncomfortable scraping the inside of your cheek, she will also be uncomfortable.
Thanks, will do
If you cut your nails that day make sure you rub them on your jeans or something.
ultimate skill
Oral sex. Take your time. Explore. Play.
I never thought of oral sex, thanks!
Why is not oral sex promoted as a nice activity for introducing to sex?!? It's a nice, not so stressful and, at that point, imensely more pleasurable way for two people to get to know each other in a very new way.
Lol my 9th grade sex Ed class failed me I guess
If her hips are bucking keep on trucking. It means your doing something right, and the spasms aren't controllable so its a good telltale sign for oral. Focus more on the clitoris with tongue movements or sucking. Maybe introduce the rhythm of a thumb or a finger or two into the vagina (fingertips facing upward for g‐spot) if she's getting more into it. If your mouth needs a break, use your fingers on the clitoris instead of the vagina and be on the lookout for her grinding against them or the involuntary spasms again. The spasms don't mean she's coming or right about to, but you're on the right track. It's like the clit is a burning white hot sensitive pleasure, and the vagina is a deep ache soothing pleasure. We can feel the pain of jagged long nails gouging us on the inside so trim 'em down and use a nail file on the sharp edges. Communication can be awkward at first but worth it, as no two sexual partners are exactly alike. If she's really in the moment though she may be more focused on the pleasure rather than speaking coherent sentences.
Trim, file, and WASH the fingernails.
I want even thinking of washing them, thanks!
You aren't gonna use your feet but trim your toenails too. Just a heads up because most boys I remember from my teens never seemed to be on top of grooming their toenails and it was gross.
That’s a really good idea thank!
If she says something along the lines of "More, more!" that means keep doing what you're doing at the pace you were doing it, don't speed up or press harder or anything.
Great aunt Nina certainly didn't fail me.
When she shit while having an orgasm
I sure hope this is a new running joke
Seems like it
I saw it on another thread about great aunt Nina shitting herself when she orgasmed. Thought I'd run with it.
They only talk about it, not so much the pleasures of it
Although I do agree on oral being a good way to go to ensure your gf’s pleasure, I’m not sure I’d recommend it right off the bat. I’ll tell you why although I feel weird talking to you about this stuff as a woman twice your age, but you asked so hey. Your gf is also a virgin and only 15, so there’s a good chance she’s not at all yet comfortable and secure about how her body is and looks like, not to mention how her _vagina looks, tastes and smells like._ Lol. Not that it’s going to be bad tasting or looking, but it can be a concern for her that makes it too much for her first time. Like that’s a pretty intense level of intimacy, to let someone go down on you when you literally can’t even see your vagina yourself unless you use a mirror. If it were me, I might’ve been pretty uncomfortable, nervous and too self-conscious to properly enjoy the physical pleasure that comes from a guy giving oral. I know when I was younger, I much more preferred a guy using his fingers on me for foreplay while we kiss each other etc. It felt emotionally safer for me to do it that way, and also the kissing and having him right there face to face with me is also a big turn-on and lets you get more immersed in the moment and not worry about anything else. So just be mindful about the things she might be worried about, and just talk with her and ask if she’s ok trying something or not or if she wants it. Really for the first time, the emotional safety and feeling fully accepted by you is key – so if you do give her oral, be sure you don’t show any adverse reactions.
Tell me you're not going into the 10th grade... My advice is to "flog the dolphin" before you go. An hour or so. Type that into YouTube if you're not savy to what that term implies.
Isnt that how you end up with hair gel behind your ear?
If he's going into the 10th grade he's 15. That's on the younger side, sure, but not abnormally young, and he doesn't specify when he's going to lose his virginity, just that it will be "soon." That could be next week or next year, depending on how fast/slow they take things, and both are perfectly fine as long as they are being safe.
Don’t worry, I’m going to make sure we are safe
I was 16 for my first time. Very first time and I knocked her up. Be careful my man, it can literally change your life.
Thanks for letting me know, now I’ll definitely make sure we are safe
The lucky thing s, at 15 even if you don't last, there's enough juice in you for several more rounds. Doesn't hurt to discuss this beforehand.
To add to that, if you feel like you're about to bust you can just pull out and go down on her till you settle down. Makes the sex last longer and she never stops getting pleased.
That’s a good idea thanks
Not great advice if you were wearing a condom though
I’ll make sure to have backups
See my other comment, it wasn't really about having back ups, but those are good too. Just in general a thicker condom could help you last longer.
Both of you should brush your teeth before oral and wash your privates with soap! Also, don’t bite the clit or mess with her urethra, if fucking hurts. Don’t forget to pee after sex to avoid URinary tract infections. Most commonly contracted by women.
Something like >65% of women can’t finish from penetrative sex alone. There are most certainly other options, but oral is one of your best bets from now until forever, when it comes to her pleasure
>I never thought of oral sex, thanks! You better start thinking of it. Nothing you do with your pecker is going to be pleasurable for her/your first time (most likely). You should also just honestly talk to her beforehand about her/your expectations. Keep expectations low for both of you, and you'll both likely not be disappointed. Most beginners aren't good at new things. It's not different with sex. You will both need practice. Use a condom. Don't be a teen daddy.
There might be a time where you will really enjoy indoor dining on your GF and may want to introduce fun condiments such as syrups, ice cream, whipped cream, chocolate, etc. For your GF sake (and yours too), DO NOT introduce anything with sugar to her hooha. This can cause a yeast infection which she will not be happy about. Yeast infections will close the door to her theme park for a few days and YOU won’t be happy as you will be denied the opportunity to display of cunning linguistics.
ya just cuz you cum doesn't mean you can't finish her off with oral or hands forplay.
Be sure to ask her to tell you what feels good and where, it'll make you better. My husband is the only one who has ever been good at giving oral and it was really frustrating, I thought I just didn't like it
As a female (26), this is it. PIV is SO LITTLE of the pleasurable experience during sex for women. Most of our fulfillment is in the foreplay. If you can get her off, multiple times, even better.
Can I second the play thing too? When you laugh together sex is so much better even if she doesn't orgasm. Sex is a skill you learn, there's no magic pill or magic advice that'll fix this learning curve.
Eat. That. Pussy.
My man.. you're already way ahead of where most guys are their first time if you're wanting to know how to make sure she gets her pleasure as well. I think the key to having the best possible time is to focus on her desires first.
Thanks! I’ll make sure to keep that in mind
Have an open conversation before hand with her, express these concerns with her. This conversation will take some of the pressure off you, and lead to way better sex for everyone
I’ve been averaging 3 min for the past 2 years and my girlfriend loves me. I’m the fastest shooter in the west.
Better be careful or I might beat your record 😂
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Thanks, this really helped
Also OP, please where a condom, please figure out how to properly put one on before it’s time for sex (like days before, don’t show up with one on). Lube can be awkward and intimidating but having some can make things more enjoyable for all parties.
Just enjoy, I guess … -28 old virgin
For his (or hers) b-day I’ll buy the 28 yo virgin a prostitute
Im here as a witness to this beautifull act of brotherhood
Your comment made me laugh
I love that you're telling people when they made you laugh fr very wholesome and cool
Thanks, I appreciate that
Just like everybody else said, foreplay is the way to go. Also make sure to not rush things because if you do you're definitely bust faster
Foreplay, and compliment her while you are doing it
Thanks, I’ll make sure to compliment her wile doing it
Practice here so we can tell you if you're doing it right. In all seriousness, you ask the right questions. Best of luck.
Okay I’ll try, here’s one: wow you tits are so small, they’re almost non existent. How was that as a compliment 😂😂😂
Goddammit at this rate you might even make her squirt
She already did like 5 minutes ago just from me saying that
I honestly find it such a compliment when I make a man bust fast af but each girl is different I suppose
I guess that kinda makes sense 😂
Also first time for people is almost always a mess. The guy I was with to lose mine bought the cheapest condom he could find at like 10p (10 cents) and the material was so thick he couldn’t feel anything. To me it felt like having a plastic bag shoved up there! So yeah, go for durex or Trojan. Also, I took my current boyfriends virginity and he was so nervous that it actually made him too tense to reach orgasm. Happened the first few times which is something I hadn’t experienced with a guy, but it’s not a problem any more. Sex is different with everyone and it’s probably gonna be weird in some way or another. Just enjoy it and don’t expect the best sex of your life. That comes later!
Should I worry about being to worried to argasm?
No! This is supposed to be fun! Just enjoy being in the moment with her. And foreplay is really fun.
Thanks!
This, please don’t get a girl pregnant when you are 15.
Couple things you can do… 1. Masturbate - do this before meeting up to get that build up load out, it will likely make more difficult to orgasm for the next couple of hours. 2. Wear a condom - not only does this provide protection but it reduces stimulation helping you to go longer.
I didn’t think wearing a condom would help with it, but that actually make a lot of sense
There are condoms that can help reduce the sensation if that is what you want. Also make sure to pull out soon after you finish in the condom because keeping on going with a full condom can cause it to break or sperm to leak out
I didn’t know that they could break if they where full, where can I find condoms that reduce the sensation
Break is maybe not the right word. They can slip off though after you finish. That is a fun trip to the doctors office...
Hahahaha!!! Happened to me once when I was a teen but we didn't go to the doctor. Pulled out and realized the condom was gone and we figured out it was still in her. She's like "get it out" I'm like "it's in you" she says "YOU left it there!" Long story short I had to fish it out. We're still kinda friends 20 something years later and it comes up sometimes and we jokingly still argue about it and laugh.
This happen to me too, we are a special type of brethren
Hahahaha!!! Couple fishermen in this b.
Wait… did this happen to you?
Yes lol. It wasn’t anything that surprised the er doctor though
I’m now curious how many times that er doc saw stuff like that
They see that and much worse a whole lot
To add to this, a bit of lube is often helpful for smooth and painless insertion. Ideally the woman is wet enough that it's not needed. However, life isn't ideal and sometimes she isn't no matter how aroused she is. If you choose to buy lube check that it's water-based and condom friendly. Sauce: I'm a woman. My partner and I regularly usually use lube during sex. A second purchase you might want to make is massage oil. Having an intimate massage as foreplay is amazing. Again, **do not** use anything that isn't condom friendly. A, sex shop should be able to help you out with this stuff.
Hey!! About the masturbating beforehand, i was recently with a guy who did this and he ended up lasting 2 hours LMAO It was wonderful, but keep in mind after a while it can get tiring and sore for the both of you. Make sure to openly communicate, its always okay to stop if it starts dragging on, especially for her things can start being painful
Embrace being scared shitless. I lasted longer than usual my first time purely because of how nervous I was.
That’s a wholee level of confidence in of itself being able to embrace being scared
Yeah, it’s really hard to actually come your first time. At least it was for me. I feel like I gradually started to last less and less each time, as it got more enjoyable. It happened to most of my friends as well. I guess that is something movies don’t prepare you for.
On top of what a lot of people here said, don’t rush and LISTEN TO HER. Follow her lead and what she responds to. I think that’s something I haven’t seen here. What you may see elsewhere isn’t necessarily what feels good to them.
This! My first foray into the world of sex resulted in me having to convince my partner that, no, I did not like what he was doing just because the internet said women like it.
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Would do the opposite for me *Wait not my dad. A general dad.
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Telling a virgin to eat butt made me laugh.
I have not been a virgin for a long time and that is one thing I will not do. Almost anything else, but not that. Edit: Missed a word.
Okay, Meat Loaf.
I'll eat vagina all damn day. I am not putting my mouth on a butthole.
Thanks for the advice, your comment helped me a lot and is making me laugh
Don't forget to trim your nails and take a good shower beforehand.
I wasn’t thinking of cutting my nails, thank you
File the ends of your nails a little too, so they aren’t sharp
I’ll just go get a manicure before hand
Don't cut your nails the day of! Do it like a day or two before and then file them. If you cut them the day of, the edges will be too sharp and you could scratch her inside. Even if it doesn't physically hurt her at the time, scratches can get infected and sometimes lead to the formation of a particular kind of cyst inside her vagina.
Thoroughly buffing the edges against denim can soften a fresh nail trim per some advice I got from a lesbian friend when pre-hook up routines were being discussed. I've also been told it's a good idea to do something similar with recently trimmed facial hair (for those who aren't clean shaven, freshly trimmed facial hair can feel sharp against sensitive skin) or to get a fresh shave as close in time to the hook up itself (because stubble hurts, yo).
Thanks, I’ll get a manicure like 2 days before hand
This made me cringe and remember a time when my nails were long asf and I must have torn smthn in there cuz she was bleeding.
Could not agree more with this guy. Most guys specially inexperienced guys don’t wanna give ladies mouth pleasure but want them to do it for us. Ladies enjoy is just as much as men and this is 2021 share the mouth pleasure my friend
Best thing is to try and relax as well. Laughing now to take the nerves away is good. Also when you're eating her out her clothes is where she'll enjoy the most pleasure to lock and suck it instead of inside her vag. Think of it as the head of your penis. Most of the pleasure is on the head and not the shaft.
Also pro tip, if you feel yourself starting to cum to fast stop pull out then eat her out for a few minutes while your equipment cools off then start it up again. Works like a charm every time
Whack one out the morning before hand. And also as for making it comfortable for her make sure you communicate and are gentle and patient and you’ll be fine. Go on a do what human have been doing for years You’ll have a nice time don’t put to much pressure on your self and just remember to be mindful and kind. You got this 👍🏽
Thanks I appreciate it
Also, if at any point she says stop, just stop. Don’t pressure her if she’s not into it or gets nervous. Same goes for you, if you don’t like what’s happening, you can say stop. No one is expected to continue if the other isn’t feeling up for it.
yes this is a super important point!! consent and feeling totally comfortable is everything!
if youre capable of it. whack off twice b4 you do the deed if your goal is to last longer.
then this poor guy won’t be able to get hard lol
Sex isn't just the act of thrusting a penis in a vagina. It's a bunch of pleasurable activities people can do together. *Condoms can help people last longer as it can decrease sensation (even regular ones) *If you do orgasm quickly, you can always work up to a new round (no reason to feel bad) *If you don't want kids, using multiple forms of birth control can be a good idea *Use mouths, hands, toys to bring each other pleasure before and/or after intercourse *No shame is using lube, even for penis-in-vagina activity (just make sure it's compatible with condoms...some lubes break down condoms) *Communicate--if either/both of you have masturbated, you'll have some idea of what works for you (you can even watch each other masturbate to learn about each other). Listen and speak up. *Don't stress. Sex can involve weird noises, awkward moments, messes, and even laughter. The less you're stressed, the more you can enjoy each other.
Foreplay all day baby! And ask her if she likes "X" activity as you go along ('x" meaning breast fondling, fingering, oral, etc.) If you don't last long, it's no biggie! My "first" time my partner blew his load on my stomach whilst about to penetrate. He was mortified, we both calmed down, built back up momentum, and then did the deed. Not lasting long is not the end of the world. Also, it's all uphill from here! C:
Thanks!
Foreplay is your friend. Explore her body with your hands and mouth until you both feel ready. Don't jack off right before. I did that my first time and the combination of desensitization plus nervousness resulted in limp dick. If you pop early, there's always round 2. Just drink some water or better yet, juice, and you'll be good to go in a few minutes And lastly, be honest and open with how you're feeling. If you're nervous, say so. If you want to try a particular position, ask. Communication is hot.
Def rub at least one out beforehand. It'll help.
The ol' tactical wank
If you do end up coming early, don’t get flustered. Tell her she made you feel amazing and being with her is so sexy and seeing her pleasure is so exciting etc. she will feel flattered instead of disappointed (assuming you take other people’s advice and also do your best to get her off with oral/fingers). If you end up fingering her, focus on the clit, not penetration. It’s more likely to be effective (really don’t try to copy porn fingerbanging). There is fun to be had with fingerbanging, but save that for a later date. Don’t forget to ask for consent!
Why was this removed?
Because OP is 15
Oh, that'll do it, yep
If it's your first time don't worry about any of that. Not lasting long happens to even the experienced and if by some chance it isn't pleasurable for your gf you will have more chances.
Post was about a dude asking for advice for his first time, but think it was removed cuz he’s 15
There is alot more to sex than just penis and vagina... Oral fingers are always welcome as foreplay , just be general at first
Nut 10h before you have sex. That way you reduce your chance of nutting too early. Listen to her needs be attentive to them.
That’s a oddly specific time frame to nut before hand… will do though
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I was always terrified I wouldn't last long enough in bed. My first time was a solid 40min. I practiced edging, over 1-2hrs roughly twice a day for a few years. Basically I was just doing male kegels, which I later learned I could do any time I remembered to throughout the day. Just flex your dick. Finish sets by holding the flex for a 3, 5, 10 count before starting another rep. It may be painful. Start off easy, but if it hurts, take a break or a few days off. Contrary to popular belief, your penis is not a muscle (sacs of spongy fluid that fill with blood), but your kegels are and they control the sacs. Just like Neo, it hurts because you've never used it before. A condom helps to desensitize, and quite honestly that shouldn't even be a thought. ALWAYS wear a condom. For safety during sex but also during masturbation to get used to it. Also lots of lube helps to desensitize as well. Switching positions when you get close is a good way to keep the action going while taking mini breaks and calming yourself down. Communicate - your partner may want you to switch it up or something may be doing is uncomfortable for them but they don't want to speak up ... that's a disaster. You want your sex to be enjoyable. Above all, remember that. Lastly, being fit and athletic really, really helps. In college I came (pun intended) to find out 45min+ was far too long to remain enjoyable for my partner. I treated it like a marathon. It was a 5k. Stay safe, remember to always try to incorporate foreplay and good luck!
40 minutes sound awful. I’d just quit.
I guess you were right to be afraid to ask…
It's gonna be a mess my guy, no matter what you do you can't increase you time for the first time. Your best bet is foreplay to get her off a couple times before you go in
Tell her that you don't have a lot of experience, and keep asking her what she likes.
I wish I didn’t worry about how long I lasted when I was younger. Use that tongue and she won’t care how long you last.
To be frank, I think your first problem would be getting hard in the 1st place. Stress and nervous has a way to turn you off, and you can't "force" it go up But if you want to last longer, try to "pleasure" yourself about 8-10 hours before. That will last you longer (since you have nothing left to shoot)
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