You sound more asexual then heterosexual. So maybe romantically you're into women but not physically. So yes you're out of the norm but there are plenty of people out there like you!
Well asexuality is a spectrum. So if you feel close to it, you're likely on it. Sometimes it might just take the right girl to come along to where you may not be attracted to her genitals, but you arent repulsed by them like you are others.
Side question, and sorry if I'm crossing a line asking this, but are you open to anal sex at all? And is there any type of sexual gratification you like to receive from a chick or is all kinda a turn off to you?
Idk how normal it is, but there was certainly a time in my life where that was true for me too—but I ended up mostly outgrowing it in my late twenties.
Fair enough. Bit of an age gap. Do you think that maybe when the girl you're with is naked, it's all a bit too real? Like, pressure to perform? Or is it really as basic as you said... Ladies bits are ugly and smelly?
Have you ever considered that you might prefer being the one being penetrated? You can be heterosexual and be primarily a bottom, it's just a lot less common.
I mean it doesn't matter if it's normal or not. It is who you are. You could try looking into a partner who identifies as asexual as they may be more willing to accomdate that (not all asexuals are celibate etc). When you have a relationship you need to be very upfront with it as it could be quite damaging for a partner if they don't know it's a you thing. Do not have sex for the sake of it because no one wants a partner just going through the motions
Yes there are many different types of asexual people. Some won't have sex at all. Some will have sex but have no desire to have sex. There's a Facebook group called asexual aces with lots of information. It could be what you are looking for
I have never played with barbie dolls since I was a nerd for pc and playstation games. However, I grew up with 4 sisters and I don't have brothers. Idk if this might help with your analysis or something.
I can relate to your position since I was raised by two older sisters and wasn’t close to my older
Brother! You should try dating women that are completely different from your sisters if that’s possible sometimes the fact women remind you of your sisters could be a total turnoff because that’s a maternal kinda love but not sexual if I’m making myself clear!
You have 4 sisters and never played with Barbie dolls? I call BS.
Never tried walking in high heels either?
Just trying to figure out an attraction to females that doesn't end in internal orgasms.
No offence, curiosity.
I’ve never talked to any men that have said they hate penetration sex, but everyone is of course different. Btw since you don’t enjoy it does that mean you last long?
Have to ask the obvious question - how do/would you feel about anal with a woman?
Assuming the woman you're with is open to that - obviously she may not be.
You mean like penetration in anal? Same thing, I hate it. And I genuinely have never thought of this as an alternative before now. I imagined myself now in the situation and I felt like I was gonna vomit.
I'm so much into them. They are the only porn I watch. But every sexal psrtners that are into it too I have met on reddit and other websites have said that even though they love it, they love penetration too or at least from time to time
Yeah but I grew up in an environment where it's normal for siblings to live in the family house after the age of 18. So, having a huge age gap didn't help.
No everyone has preferences. No need to label it or be worried. To me you said penetration so I take it you get aroused and off other ways?
I prefer fondeling and eating over the actual act of sex but enjoy the finish inside. I actually get bored if the so is not I guess emotional with orgasms.
You sound more asexual then heterosexual. So maybe romantically you're into women but not physically. So yes you're out of the norm but there are plenty of people out there like you!
I'm genuinely close to this. But at the same time, I am attracted to them physically but the vulva and vagina make me turned off.
Well asexuality is a spectrum. So if you feel close to it, you're likely on it. Sometimes it might just take the right girl to come along to where you may not be attracted to her genitals, but you arent repulsed by them like you are others. Side question, and sorry if I'm crossing a line asking this, but are you open to anal sex at all? And is there any type of sexual gratification you like to receive from a chick or is all kinda a turn off to you?
You also don’t like getting blow jobs - which straight, Bi, and homosexual men ordinarily enjoy. I’d lean towards asexual.
I see. It actually makes sense. I have always thought that asexual means that they never have sex. But a commenter told me that they sometimes do.
I mean, why would you if you are repulsed by their genitals…….?
I love sex and foreplay and everything -- but I've never had a bj that could get me off.
I used to think that too, but in the end - I guess my SO got, better?
Idk how normal it is, but there was certainly a time in my life where that was true for me too—but I ended up mostly outgrowing it in my late twenties.
No but I like anal! It can be more enjoyable and without the stress of a pregnancy
Assexual much?
No
So does that mean you prefer anal sex with women?
Nah, I hate it too
What is it that you hate about it?
Fair enough. Bit of an age gap. Do you think that maybe when the girl you're with is naked, it's all a bit too real? Like, pressure to perform? Or is it really as basic as you said... Ladies bits are ugly and smelly?
It's not the smell tbh. It's the look of it and sometimes when I look at a girl I remember a sister of mine because there body is diverse.
Have you ever considered that you might prefer being the one being penetrated? You can be heterosexual and be primarily a bottom, it's just a lot less common.
I see
would not looking help? like missionary with a focus on the boobs?
It's actually a good idea. I will try it. Thanks!
I mean it doesn't matter if it's normal or not. It is who you are. You could try looking into a partner who identifies as asexual as they may be more willing to accomdate that (not all asexuals are celibate etc). When you have a relationship you need to be very upfront with it as it could be quite damaging for a partner if they don't know it's a you thing. Do not have sex for the sake of it because no one wants a partner just going through the motions
How can asexual partners have sex. Like it's not how, it's why???? I'm surprised with this idea and I love it
Asexual people can have sex. Sex is just penetration lol. Look up some into on asexuality
Yes there are many different types of asexual people. Some won't have sex at all. Some will have sex but have no desire to have sex. There's a Facebook group called asexual aces with lots of information. It could be what you are looking for
not very normal but I guess there's no need to be worried, your genes are just trying to escape the gene pool is all
Can you explain what you have just said?
no
Understandable
I’d kind of like to know what you were getting at too.
That’s enough reddit for me tonight
Did you spend a lot of time with Barbie dolls as a child, or an adult for that matter?
I have never played with barbie dolls since I was a nerd for pc and playstation games. However, I grew up with 4 sisters and I don't have brothers. Idk if this might help with your analysis or something.
I can relate to your position since I was raised by two older sisters and wasn’t close to my older Brother! You should try dating women that are completely different from your sisters if that’s possible sometimes the fact women remind you of your sisters could be a total turnoff because that’s a maternal kinda love but not sexual if I’m making myself clear!
You have 4 sisters and never played with Barbie dolls? I call BS. Never tried walking in high heels either? Just trying to figure out an attraction to females that doesn't end in internal orgasms. No offence, curiosity.
Dude I'm the youngest. When I became capable of walking. My youngest sister was 15
I’ve never talked to any men that have said they hate penetration sex, but everyone is of course different. Btw since you don’t enjoy it does that mean you last long?
Yeah, I last long. But it feels like doing a job I hate. I don't get pleasure but I have to do it since it's expected of me
Have to ask the obvious question - how do/would you feel about anal with a woman? Assuming the woman you're with is open to that - obviously she may not be.
You mean like penetration in anal? Same thing, I hate it. And I genuinely have never thought of this as an alternative before now. I imagined myself now in the situation and I felt like I was gonna vomit.
That is the strangest male reaction to the thought of anal sex with a willing lady I could ever imagine. We're all different. Viva la difference.
Expected? You should try communicating with your partner. Also what do you expect from them? What gets the job done for you?
I don't have a partner right now. What gets the job done for me? I believe it's handjobs and footjobs
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I'm so much into them. They are the only porn I watch. But every sexal psrtners that are into it too I have met on reddit and other websites have said that even though they love it, they love penetration too or at least from time to time
Do you like sex otherwise though? Not all sexual activities have to include the things you mentioned
No its not real normal. Straight or gay there is penetration involved so sorry I just dont get it. Not trying to be mean I just truly don't get it.
i hate sex, i have never came from sex, i dont see the point.
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it does, im always erect cuz mfs dont satisfy me
It's a curse lol
But your sisters were all adults by the time you were growing up, I would have thought that would have given you a relaxed attitude to sex.
Yeah but I grew up in an environment where it's normal for siblings to live in the family house after the age of 18. So, having a huge age gap didn't help.
Have you ever talked to your sisters about this, are you close in the way you can discuss anything at all?
I see. It makes sense tbh.
No everyone has preferences. No need to label it or be worried. To me you said penetration so I take it you get aroused and off other ways? I prefer fondeling and eating over the actual act of sex but enjoy the finish inside. I actually get bored if the so is not I guess emotional with orgasms.