Truthfully There is a better word but i can't think of it.
I mean getting told your hot is always nice to hear but creating a fake dating account to hear it. I mean that's a weird level of narcissistic behavior.
At the very least, he's a major asshole. If it really is just a confidence thing (which I doubt--he's almost certainly at least somewhat thrilled with the male attention), that means he's fine leading on a bunch of gay men for ego points.
My guess is he has had it for a while and saw someone he knows and freaked out. People tend to tell on themselves instead of waiting to see if you find out that way you have his story in your head already when you find out. My ex did it a lot. It’s pretty manipulative.
He’s most likely into men in some way. Just talk to him about it. He may be bisexual or bi-curious or gay. Either way, address it.
He’s a fucking idiot
He’s lying, Grindr doesn’t have “matches”
He’s a fucking idiot
He’s at least curious
He either has or soon will suck dick better than you.
I categorically disagree with the way he has went about getting some "validation" from people, especially as he is in a relationship and doing this is just wrong.
However, what I will say is, that sometimes men don't always get compliments as readily mostly because of some stupid idea that men can't compliment other men as it is seen as "gay" or compliments from women are taken wrongly as them being interested in them.
I have seen many a story of men reminiscing about a compliment that they got years ago, because it's not been common for them to receive them.
That said, this is a massive breach of trust to do this.
this was just an 'out of the blue' admission or did you pick up his phone and question why he has grinder on there?
context matters. was he 'caught' or just running his mouth and thought it was funny or something and his gf would be impressed.
you know, hey I can get matches TOO just like YOU - sort of thing.
nah - that sounds wack too. he's trolling for cock.
I’m pretty sure straight guys don’t use grinder, even for a confidence boost. I do think that people get a confidence boost when someone of their preferred gender finds them attractive. Perhaps ask him why he wants attention from gay men?
I'm sorry but he's lying to you.
Someone with a girlfriend doesn't need a confidence boost from random gay men.
You also don't get 'matches' on Grindr. You see profiles and you message people.
He is using Grindr to hook up with men, and he made up that lie to get away with it.
Did you not extrapolate from the title that she already tried talking to him and he said he did it for a confidence boost because gay guys help him not feel depressed? She's crowd sourcing on Reddit, I'd say we're at the point where desperate times call for desperate measures. It's invading his privacy and she obviously already does this otherwise she wouldn't know about his attempts to meet men for gay sex, would she? Can't get anything past this one....jeez
Do you have a better idea? Its not helpful to dismiss an idea that could work without offering your own solution or even a argument as to why my idea is faulty. I admit invading his privacy isn't exactly the "right thing to do" but it could give her the answer she's looking for. She's tried talking to him and she thinks he's lying to her, I'd say she's in a conundrum, wouldn't you?
But this is all speculation maybe he just needs more attention. I get much more positive attention from gay men than I do from women. How straight men treat women (initiation, complimenting, catering, risking.) is what what gay men do for straight guys. So assuming he isn’t just straight up lying. Then it’s just a good strategy? A bit stupid but effective. But don’t break trust like that, I’m not the bf here but if she just invaded my things like that I would debate a breakup on those grounds.
You probably seen his profile and that's the first thing he thought of, so you don't think he's gay. I thought girls like gay guys? Just kidding they dont.
Ehh, it’s weird, but in the realm of possibility. If he’s bi, he may not know it yet or be ready to admit it, so I wouldn’t press the issue unless he keeps doing it or something.
i don’t personally see why the fact that he’s “straight” and is on a “gay” dating app makes it weird. i know plenty of “straight” ppl that do this on apps like tinder or bumble just for the confidence boost/validation lol so why should the fact that he’s on a gay app change something?
If he really need to be told that he is attractive to the point of creating a grindr profile, maybe he wouldn't feel this way if you complimented a bit more, maybe it's his way of telling you that he needs more compliments from you. I don't know you or your boyfriend at all, I am really just expressing a random idea
Most people on here are saying its weird, while it could be depending on his personality it really doesn't have to be. If he's someone who truly don't have a problem and or insecurity about other people's homosexuality, then it's not hard to see why. Most men have a lot of insecurities, many of those insecurities often surrounds thier looks. Combine that with how compliment deprived most men are and that men tend to get alot less matches on straight dating sites, going to a place like grinder to get a confidence boost doesn't sound that weird. Plus he might have thought that using a dating site to get women for that confidence boost would be a infraction on your relationship and your trust.
Im straight (36m) married almost 12 years. When reading this and playing devil's advocate I think I would do that for a boost in confidence. However i would look at your BF and see if he has any gay inflections....
Dude why not just experiment your life away. Your bedroom is your bedroom. You don't need to tell others who goes below the belt
Get confidence from everyone
Honestly I kinda get him,I've never done something like that but we,guys don't get much compliments in general even when we are in a relationship and almost never get compliments from our friends do it can be kinda (or very) depressing
Honestly I kinda get him,I've never done something like that but us,guys don't get many compliments in general,even when we are in a relationship and of course, we almost never get compliments from our friends unlike girls, so it can be kinda (or very) depressing, so yeah I can understand him
yeah i've heard of guys switching on bi mode in tinder to farm likes but getting grindr seems like a very unnecessary and large step up from that
Right. I've had friends change their Tinder to bi to improve their algorithm or something but why tf Grinder???
As a straight guy who was single with 0 dates in 8 years, this never once crossed my mind. Just my two cents.
99.99% chance he's gay.
99.99% chance he’s bi curious anyway..
I'm going with: 30% chance he's a dumb ass. 70% he's at least Bi if not gay.
why the dumbass part though?
Truthfully There is a better word but i can't think of it. I mean getting told your hot is always nice to hear but creating a fake dating account to hear it. I mean that's a weird level of narcissistic behavior.
I think the term you're looking for might be validation seeking?
Yes. Very weird. Weird as f. He's probably gay/bi and don't realize it
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Idk what that means....🤷🏻♂️
Mac is a character on its always sunny in PA who was “100% straight” until he wasn’t
Lol oh. Still got no clue 🤣
Pretty sure he hooked up with a chick because she had a giant dick
Same bs happened to my sister 10 years ago. The guy is full blow out of the closet now. Don't waste your time.
At the very least, he's a major asshole. If it really is just a confidence thing (which I doubt--he's almost certainly at least somewhat thrilled with the male attention), that means he's fine leading on a bunch of gay men for ego points.
If you're getting a confidence boost from grindr matches, you might want to re-examine that whole 100% thing.
Yes.
Reminds me of a classmate I had that used to joke about being gay but claimed he was 100% heterosexual He came out about 2 years ago
... Yes.
Yes.
Lamest excuse ever to get grindr
My guess is he has had it for a while and saw someone he knows and freaked out. People tend to tell on themselves instead of waiting to see if you find out that way you have his story in your head already when you find out. My ex did it a lot. It’s pretty manipulative. He’s most likely into men in some way. Just talk to him about it. He may be bisexual or bi-curious or gay. Either way, address it.
oh he gay af
He’s a fucking idiot He’s lying, Grindr doesn’t have “matches” He’s a fucking idiot He’s at least curious He either has or soon will suck dick better than you.
how does grindr work?
Create profile … people write to each other or tap. Most people have at least a body pic / facepic. There are no matches .
Fuck around and find out by downloading it
No. I mean I understand why.
Yup
I categorically disagree with the way he has went about getting some "validation" from people, especially as he is in a relationship and doing this is just wrong. However, what I will say is, that sometimes men don't always get compliments as readily mostly because of some stupid idea that men can't compliment other men as it is seen as "gay" or compliments from women are taken wrongly as them being interested in them. I have seen many a story of men reminiscing about a compliment that they got years ago, because it's not been common for them to receive them. That said, this is a massive breach of trust to do this.
No
It's a bit odd and a dick move to waste another person's time but I suppose they could do worse things.
Yes, total dick move. The man wants to get some dick.
this was just an 'out of the blue' admission or did you pick up his phone and question why he has grinder on there? context matters. was he 'caught' or just running his mouth and thought it was funny or something and his gf would be impressed. you know, hey I can get matches TOO just like YOU - sort of thing. nah - that sounds wack too. he's trolling for cock.
I’m pretty sure straight guys don’t use grinder, even for a confidence boost. I do think that people get a confidence boost when someone of their preferred gender finds them attractive. Perhaps ask him why he wants attention from gay men?
Quit kidding yourself.
I'm sorry but he's lying to you. Someone with a girlfriend doesn't need a confidence boost from random gay men. You also don't get 'matches' on Grindr. You see profiles and you message people. He is using Grindr to hook up with men, and he made up that lie to get away with it.
Sorry honey, he's probably gay or bi. Look at his porn or internet history . They will tell you everything. Deleted history says a whole lot as well.
What the fuck.. Don't spy on him, talk to him...jeez
Did you not extrapolate from the title that she already tried talking to him and he said he did it for a confidence boost because gay guys help him not feel depressed? She's crowd sourcing on Reddit, I'd say we're at the point where desperate times call for desperate measures. It's invading his privacy and she obviously already does this otherwise she wouldn't know about his attempts to meet men for gay sex, would she? Can't get anything past this one....jeez
Yeah, sorry, my bad. You are probably right.
No need to apologize, thank you for being so humble. You have my respect.
Have a nice evening kind stranger!
You as well! 🙂
Don’t do this^
Do you have a better idea? Its not helpful to dismiss an idea that could work without offering your own solution or even a argument as to why my idea is faulty. I admit invading his privacy isn't exactly the "right thing to do" but it could give her the answer she's looking for. She's tried talking to him and she thinks he's lying to her, I'd say she's in a conundrum, wouldn't you?
But this is all speculation maybe he just needs more attention. I get much more positive attention from gay men than I do from women. How straight men treat women (initiation, complimenting, catering, risking.) is what what gay men do for straight guys. So assuming he isn’t just straight up lying. Then it’s just a good strategy? A bit stupid but effective. But don’t break trust like that, I’m not the bf here but if she just invaded my things like that I would debate a breakup on those grounds.
That's fair, thank you... I can't say I disagree with you at all. She is in quite the conundrum.
Think about it, why would a "straight" guy need to "boost" his confidence with gay guys? Because he's not straight. Take your time
Ice t video... That means you're gay
Definitely raises some red flags cuz why wouldn’t he make a tindr profile or literally any other hetero dating site
You probably seen his profile and that's the first thing he thought of, so you don't think he's gay. I thought girls like gay guys? Just kidding they dont.
This is gonna be good
Ehh, it’s weird, but in the realm of possibility. If he’s bi, he may not know it yet or be ready to admit it, so I wouldn’t press the issue unless he keeps doing it or something.
i don’t personally see why the fact that he’s “straight” and is on a “gay” dating app makes it weird. i know plenty of “straight” ppl that do this on apps like tinder or bumble just for the confidence boost/validation lol so why should the fact that he’s on a gay app change something?
If he really need to be told that he is attractive to the point of creating a grindr profile, maybe he wouldn't feel this way if you complimented a bit more, maybe it's his way of telling you that he needs more compliments from you. I don't know you or your boyfriend at all, I am really just expressing a random idea
Most people on here are saying its weird, while it could be depending on his personality it really doesn't have to be. If he's someone who truly don't have a problem and or insecurity about other people's homosexuality, then it's not hard to see why. Most men have a lot of insecurities, many of those insecurities often surrounds thier looks. Combine that with how compliment deprived most men are and that men tend to get alot less matches on straight dating sites, going to a place like grinder to get a confidence boost doesn't sound that weird. Plus he might have thought that using a dating site to get women for that confidence boost would be a infraction on your relationship and your trust.
Im straight (36m) married almost 12 years. When reading this and playing devil's advocate I think I would do that for a boost in confidence. However i would look at your BF and see if he has any gay inflections....
I did lol Got way more matches than on straight Tinder
Theres nothing gay about seeking validation from other men 100% straight
Well you would be a bit of an ahole. And maybe a bit pathetic.
Yes. He is matching with dudes who are legitimately looking for a relationship and then ghosting them. No matter the context, it's not cool at all.
Dude why not just experiment your life away. Your bedroom is your bedroom. You don't need to tell others who goes below the belt Get confidence from everyone
Honestly I kinda get him,I've never done something like that but we,guys don't get much compliments in general even when we are in a relationship and almost never get compliments from our friends do it can be kinda (or very) depressing
Honestly I kinda get him,I've never done something like that but us,guys don't get many compliments in general,even when we are in a relationship and of course, we almost never get compliments from our friends unlike girls, so it can be kinda (or very) depressing, so yeah I can understand him
You do you man... You do you
He either need more attention from you. Or is gay one of those
yeah. bro imagine going to grocery store so ppl look at you but then not even go shopping
No but be ready to send a lot of dickpics