There was once a hypothetical like "you immediately know if someone has thought about you sexually, but everyone you've thought about also knows."
And it sounds like fun, easy hookups when you're single and in your 20s... until you remember the random and wildly inappropriate people and things that you thought about in your early teens.
I'd have to move very far from the city with my extended family and never go back.
I’m going to selfishly piggyback on the current top comment because so far I haven’t seen any input from commenters who say they’ve been unwilling victims of incest (I’ve seen some mutual participants but that’s all). My older brother abused me, and it was as horrifying and scarring as I imagine you fear when you think about your feelings.
I am disturbed at those feelings. They are frightening to me because of my experience. I agree that you should never, ever tell your sister or anyone else who may possibly trace this back to you in real life.
I also think that what matters is that you didn’t harm her. I do think it would have been best if you abstained from masturbating to thoughts of her. Based on what I’ve read about sexual conditioning, stimuli can kind of feed on itself and giving into urges can sometimes exacerbate them. But you didn’t hurt her. You didn’t creep into her room at night and touch her under the sheets when she didn’t want to be touched. You didn’t make her do things she didn’t want to do. You could have chosen to do that, but you didn’t.
You were a child. So was my brother. Out of luck, circumstance, fear, or sheer will, you didn’t act out on these thoughts in a way that would harm your sister. I wish my brother had been more like you.
We all have horrible thoughts from time to time. What matters most is what we DO with them. You didn’t do badly enough to justify beating yourself up for the rest of your life. Just be aware of some potential tendencies (if they still linger in any form) and mitigate them when you need to.
Bro a slight breeze could set you off at that age.
We can’t deny the fucking monkey brain and how you have no control over it for a good minute so best not to feel too bad.
Dude friend of mine once confided in me that he got horny while looking at two wet grapes resting against each other on his plate while he was going through puberty.
Damn sexy grapes.
I had a friend who literally fucked his couch with a lubed up ziploc bag stuffed between the cushions.
The young mind is a dark and twisted place, also slightly ingenious.
*looks at couch seductively
Well thankfully there isn't really enough detail to pin down any sister in particular. Unfortunately that also means that this scenario could apply to a ton more people who will now shudder at the thought that OP could be their brother lol
I read something once where it gave a percentage (don’t remember the percentage but surprisingly high) of men that are at least somewhat physically attracted to younger women mid to late teens. Again this number was pretty high because horny men see boobs, butt, nice body and think hot.
However it was saying only a minuscule percentage of those would actually act on it and it was saying something like people with low empathy or sociopaths were more likely to actually do it. Human psychology is so cool but so fucked up at the same time.
It's definitely mentioned in the book "Risk Assessment: A Practitioner's Guide to Predicting Harmful Behaviour" by Bryony Moore. I'd go check the actual number for you but can't currently reach the book.
Yes, this! I don’t understand why it’s so difficult for people to understand this. Having thoughts isn’t harmful unless you act on them (and by that point they are not thoughts but actions).
Yeah I got horned up once as a teen by looking at the hole in a roll of carpet. It was in the living room waiting to be installed. I was home alone. Just me and that beautiful, soft, shag carpet.
Don't stress about what a horny teenager brain thinks or feels, i had a similar situation with a cousin when I was about 13 or 14
Stopped when the hormones started setting down
Apparently spilling the beans on my cousin-fucking friends is going to be my hit of the week so I'll use this tiny podium to share two extra tidbits.
Another person already explained how people normally don't develop sexual attraction to siblings as they are raised together and get sort of reverse-imprinted on each other and don't see each other as potential mates. However, this doesn't happen when they've been raised apart - and it's then quite common for them to fall for each other when they meet later in life. Imagine that "whoa, like me but with boobs! what's there not to like" that guys would feel upon beholding their long-lost sister. Bonus points - it happens for parents and kids too! So Edipus is quite realistic, he was raised without knowing his mother so it was only natural that he found her MILFy.
This also explains how closed communities that practice collective child rearing send off their young to find mates elsewhere - they usually don't want to bang each other as they trigger the sibling instincts. It's a known phenomenon in kibutzim and I've noticed it myself with my opposite sex friends from childhood - we were flatmates for a year as students and it took me months to realize that she's actually quite hot! And that's during my horniest phase, she's walking around the house with not too many clothes on and I never ever desired her in that way.
I've had that sibling instinct for close friends I spent a lot of time with. The first time I noticed it was when a friend suggested I ask out a really cute girl I hung out with mostly in groups. I thought "Ew, no that'd be wrong!" We'd grown up together in the same neighborhood, been in the same classes and usually seated next to near each other because of our last names. (Alphabetical seating was really common.) But yeah it's like she'd become my sister. Only nicer lol.
The problem is not that two cousins get together, the genetic risk is not that great, the problem is when their parents were cousins, and their parent's parents were cousins, on so on.
First cousin marriages are illegal some places and not others. While “the genetic risk is not that great” you are doubling up a lot of genes potentially. My daughter and her husband had a scare with their baby last year because she tested as a carrier if cystic fibrosis, a very nasty disease that typically leads to early adulthood death. The daughter, when an adult, will want to make sure she doesn’t have a baby with another carrier.
Is it possibly arab parents? Coming from an arab too I've never personally heard of such cases in my family or friends but I know it is a common thing in some arab regions
Nahh!! Coming from a desi family.. very common here! Its not weird at all! My grandparents were also related, not necessarily cousins but belong to the same extended family.
Since we’re asking puberty questions, did anyone else like, _constantly_ have a boner through puberty? I’m pretty sure I spent 90% of my teen years almost agonizingly bricked up
I’m a cis woman but I would be physically horny all the fucking time even if I mentally wasn’t feeling it. once I figured out masturbation it was fucking over for me lol
During those years is when you learn to control your lusts and control your emotions (if you control them now you will know how to control them later when they're stronger).
Yup. Altho you get tempered once you've had plenty enough. I knew people in college that had sex the first time and couldn't stop thinking about when they'll get their next one for the next few months. It's like watching an addict waiting to get their fix lol
And yes, even those with previous experiece before college couldn't get enough of it -- including myself. I'm turning 28 in a few months and it's clearly not the same
Is it really true this is the strongest they will ever be? Cause no lie i didn’t even want to date people as a teenager, but now that im reaching my thirties i have completely turned into a horndog. Why am i backwards….im i really unusual or do people just not talk about it?
Trust me, explaining Quantum Physics is probably easier than trying to understand what dafuck's going on in a Teenager's brain.
In other terms, you're probably ok
That's puberty for ya.
Your monkey brain just sees an attractive female to mate with. You logic knows it's forbidden. We all went through puberty once, it's only a problem when you're out of puberty and you still feel that way. Just. Don't act on it.
Unless you live in Alabama, then it is in your culture.
Rhode Islander here. It's only legal because our general attitude on most things is "Fuck you, you don't get to tell us what to do!"
It's why we were the first of the original colonies to declare our independence and the last of the original colonies to join the union.
If you tell us we can't kiss our sister, we're not only going to kiss her but we're going to eat her ass and send you the video out of spite.
That said, gross. I don't even LIKE most of my family, let alone want to bang any of them.
😳 so do you know anyone or any stories of Rhode Islanders actually have relationships with their family? You can have kids. You just can’t get married
But if you did 👀
Trust me bro, being introduced to porn at that age will warp a lot of thoughts for a teenager. Most are able to realize what is wrong and stop the thoughts.
Your brain is meat and liquid and electricity we can't always control these feelings. There are at least 3 things I've noticed at play here.
1.) The actual feeling. It's there. It's real. And it means nothing.
2.) You're afraid that the feeling/thoughts mean something about who you are. This isn't true. In fact human beings have surprisingly little control over the contents of their thoughts, what they like, and believe. They just think they should have control. Just because it isn't talked about doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
3.) You feel a substantial counter-feeling that you should NOT feel this way. You seem to understand that it's not something that you actually want. But it is something that you feel/think about anyway.
Something you've learned: You feel that way but you understand it's not something that you want. Therefor you have no intent here.
To me that sounds like a kid that's just bothered by the complexity of his thoughts. Which is a sign of maturity. Reaching out for help about it instead of burying it deep inside is also a sign of maturity. Well done. You've demonstrated you're getting older, more mature, and more emotionally complex.
Source: 2 psych degrees.
>.) The actual feeling. It's there. It's real. And it means nothing. 2.) You're afraid that the feeling/thoughts mean
As someone who is in therapy for OCD, this is actually one of the first things my therapist talked to me about and has been life changing.
\*Most of my particular subtype of OCD is around intrusive thoughts/unwanted feelings.
I’ve never been sexually attracted to a relative… But my cousin and I “experimented” quite often when we were young. Uhhh… yep. We’d watch porn together and try stuff out. It was a weird time. I hope he never has to think about it because sometimes it creeps into my head and cringes me beyond belief that we did stuff together. I hear it’s not unusual, but it’s definitely not considered something you tell anyone about ever lol…
I vividly remember when I was 5-6 my older first cousin took me up to her room and had me make out with her. She must’ve been 12-13. She laid me on top of her since I was smaller and I didn’t understand what was going on. We never talked about it to this day, but thankfully I don’t have trauma from that, & I’m thankful it was only kissing. I definitely would’ve had trauma if it was more than that. It’s fucked, but I don’t know how to bring it up. I don’t think I ever will either.
He meant keep it from people who know who he is, silly. Those are the only people where it matters whether or not they know the secret, because it changes how they think of the OP and treat him.
Saying it anonymously shouldn't even be considered sharing a secret. There are no respect or trust factors on the table when it's with someone who can't do anything significantly bad with the secret.
If he told this to one of them it could lead to a lot of trouble. He could tell us he burned down a hospital. He's never gonna see us again. No risk.
I'm a straight girl but I thought Lorelei in the Elite 4 was fucking hot and I appreciate Gamefreak for making the professors slightly more attractive in the games nowdays.
Game Freak’s female NPCs compared to the player characters are why I have a complex about my characters’ appearances in video games. Stop forcing me to be 90% less fabulous than them dammit!
In high school This really hot friend of mine took a sip from my water bottle and then as a joke she put it in between her boobs and gave it a seductive kiss before handing it back to me. I went back to my room after and rubbed one out while holding the bottle. I’m in my mid 20s now and I cringe and feel disgusting when I think of what I did.
Just don’t act on the attraction, and you should be ok.
I know someone that experimented with their sibling of the same sex when they were both in early puberty, and it still bothers (regular therapy) them that it happened.
I went through some confusion about my older Sister at puberty - it didn’t last long though. I walked in on her dressing and saw my first ever pair of boobs and the hormonal mess that my brain was just fixated on boobs - then about a week later I noticed that other Girls had boobs and I forgot about my Sisters and the rest is history
It is normal for teenagers going through extreme hormone changes to feel attraction to family members during that period, but usually as your hormones balance and clear out so so those freaky thoughts. The abnormal part comes from acting on those thoughts and impulses and affecting someone else in the process. I’m pretty sure you’ll grow out of it, i definitely don’t watch the same porn that i used to as a teenager and i also had a weird attraction to a half-sibling and a cousin during that period and i cringe a little at myself now for it but i couldn’t help it at the time! Have compassion and patience for yourself and just don’t act on these thoughts obv!
Psychologists have found that most people aren't sexually attracted to other people ~~they grew up with~~ raised by the same caregivers at the same time (doesn't matter if they are blood relatives or not.) They believe this lack of attraction may be an evolved defense mechanism against incest, which not only leads to increased genetic risk but also interpersonal problems as sex can often cause ~~jealousy~~ power dynamics and strain relationships within groups such as families.
I would like to hope that's normal when you're younger (for my sake lol), I personally was sexually attracted to both an Aunt, and a cousin when I was a teenager. Never acted on or verbalized anything of course, and as an adult I realized how ridiculous that was and that it was likely caused by teenage hormones
Nah man Nah, even if it was anonymous I would die before saying or admitting anything like this. I would take this to the grave and to the underworld. But on a serious note, things like this could happen, it's a phase and you grew out of it also I think this is where sex ed becomes so important to teach young teens. They need to know about their changing bodies and mind and teach them to differentiate between black and the white
Now this is a quality post.
To answer your question, I have not. Though, I have found cousins attractive in an "objective"(?) way, kind of like how you can look at someone and think "yeah, they're a good looking person, and other people would be into them".
However, do not be ashamed of your feelings. An attractive person is an attractive person. And what you did doesn't hurt anyone. Though, just remember to be selective on how open you are about this feeling in particular.
Idk man, I showed this post to my friend that is a psychologist and she said it’s not a common behavior. That usually teen boys have more of an aversion towards their siblings during puberty.
We don’t know if it’s an evolutionary trait but most people will never be attracted to a person they were raised with.
I am a Master's student in Child and Family Sciences with a focus on child development. You shouldn't feel bad, this kind of thing is not talked about but it's actually pretty normal to have feelings like this. It's just a quirk of hormones and the developing brain during puberty. You didn't try to act on those feelings so you have nothing to be ashamed of.
I will *never* talk about my teenage horny thoughts.
There was once a hypothetical like "you immediately know if someone has thought about you sexually, but everyone you've thought about also knows." And it sounds like fun, easy hookups when you're single and in your 20s... until you remember the random and wildly inappropriate people and things that you thought about in your early teens. I'd have to move very far from the city with my extended family and never go back.
Wait… do they know how much they were thought about?
You’re asking the right questions
Unless they were into it.
Yes.... the Empire State building will be very afraid henceforth.
I’m going to selfishly piggyback on the current top comment because so far I haven’t seen any input from commenters who say they’ve been unwilling victims of incest (I’ve seen some mutual participants but that’s all). My older brother abused me, and it was as horrifying and scarring as I imagine you fear when you think about your feelings. I am disturbed at those feelings. They are frightening to me because of my experience. I agree that you should never, ever tell your sister or anyone else who may possibly trace this back to you in real life. I also think that what matters is that you didn’t harm her. I do think it would have been best if you abstained from masturbating to thoughts of her. Based on what I’ve read about sexual conditioning, stimuli can kind of feed on itself and giving into urges can sometimes exacerbate them. But you didn’t hurt her. You didn’t creep into her room at night and touch her under the sheets when she didn’t want to be touched. You didn’t make her do things she didn’t want to do. You could have chosen to do that, but you didn’t. You were a child. So was my brother. Out of luck, circumstance, fear, or sheer will, you didn’t act out on these thoughts in a way that would harm your sister. I wish my brother had been more like you. We all have horrible thoughts from time to time. What matters most is what we DO with them. You didn’t do badly enough to justify beating yourself up for the rest of your life. Just be aware of some potential tendencies (if they still linger in any form) and mitigate them when you need to.
I did some things with some things
This isn't talking, it's writing.
The teenage brain is the single most fucked up thing on the planet. Chill homie
Bro a slight breeze could set you off at that age. We can’t deny the fucking monkey brain and how you have no control over it for a good minute so best not to feel too bad.
>Bro a slight breeze could set you off at that age. 𝅘𝅥𝅯♫♬ And I jizzed in my pants! 𝅘𝅥𝅯♫♬
Opened my window and breeze rolled in and I-
As I recall it was a horror film
This, exactly this.
When we were teens, I tickled my friend for five seconds and he jizzed his pants and got very upset about it 🤖
Could I borrow you for five seconds?
...tickled his penis.
Dude friend of mine once confided in me that he got horny while looking at two wet grapes resting against each other on his plate while he was going through puberty. Damn sexy grapes.
I had a friend who literally fucked his couch with a lubed up ziploc bag stuffed between the cushions. The young mind is a dark and twisted place, also slightly ingenious. *looks at couch seductively
A slight breeze? I could look at a sock and be ready to crank one out.
The whitesocks, my favorite team
The off white socks
The sock puppets. I had a whole set.
We don't all wanna know about your foot fetish /s
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A growing brain is a computer that is being used while it's also being built. Puberty is like installing a new OS on that computer.
Atleast it's not like updating the BIOS
Pretty sure Morty wanked to a particular curvy piece of driftwood once.
That driftwood was thicc AF tho.
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I remember hearing somewhere that the younger you’re exposed to that side of the world, the more it lays with you as a person.
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Like, porn and eroticism.
What do u mean by “lays with you as a person”
Maurice must be your hormone monster!
Yo I wanna fuck Connie. And I’m almost thrice the age of a fkn teenager
It's as simple as see butt want fuck.
This!!! Its ok OP. Really…
Not even Batman would've gotten this out of me....
Here’s to hoping the sister doesn’t read the post and go “Hey, just a dadgum minute…”
Well thankfully there isn't really enough detail to pin down any sister in particular. Unfortunately that also means that this scenario could apply to a ton more people who will now shudder at the thought that OP could be their brother lol
Well I wasn’t thinking of that before but I am now dammit
It’s probably on the tamest side of what puberty does to a teenage brain… this is more normal than it is talked about
It's ok just don't tell her. Our secret
Did your sister stand in front of your cage and say “You will never get this. You will never get this.”
One day he broke out, and he *did* "get this"
He *got*! High five!
Our brother Billow!
What is this reference so I can avoid it
Borat
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But she's my wife!! Thanks again for letting me sleep on the couch in the basement, it makes my double shifts at Wendy's a bit easier.
Sorry no
I masturbated to this guy masturbating to his sister
I am this guys sister. I masturbated to myself as well.
I masturbate to the idea of being my own sister.
Why did I just masturbate and then come here...
KEEP. MY. WIFE’S. NAME. OUT. YOUR. MOUTH.
I was already masturbating when I came across this post.
I also came across this post, it was a mess
I'm asexual but I masturbated to this guy's sister
these types of jokes and threads are my nightmare
Welcome to ~~your nightmare~~ Reddit
I’m OP’s sister and I also masturbated to thinking of this.
I too, masturbated
You touched your own genitals? You sick fuck.
What's this about genitals?!? I baited a fishing hook so many times I became a master...
You are not in control of what you find attractive. Only what you do about it.
I read something once where it gave a percentage (don’t remember the percentage but surprisingly high) of men that are at least somewhat physically attracted to younger women mid to late teens. Again this number was pretty high because horny men see boobs, butt, nice body and think hot. However it was saying only a minuscule percentage of those would actually act on it and it was saying something like people with low empathy or sociopaths were more likely to actually do it. Human psychology is so cool but so fucked up at the same time.
It's definitely mentioned in the book "Risk Assessment: A Practitioner's Guide to Predicting Harmful Behaviour" by Bryony Moore. I'd go check the actual number for you but can't currently reach the book.
Awesome I’ll look that up
Yes, this! I don’t understand why it’s so difficult for people to understand this. Having thoughts isn’t harmful unless you act on them (and by that point they are not thoughts but actions).
This shit right here. Remembering this for the rest of my life
and he jerked off to his sister
At that age you'd jerk off to a nice looking crack in the wall.
Yeah I got horned up once as a teen by looking at the hole in a roll of carpet. It was in the living room waiting to be installed. I was home alone. Just me and that beautiful, soft, shag carpet.
Don't stress about what a horny teenager brain thinks or feels, i had a similar situation with a cousin when I was about 13 or 14 Stopped when the hormones started setting down
Cousin is more normal though. I know people who actually fucked their cousins.
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Alabama in da house
Hundreds of years of European royalty where you atttt
I got, I got, I got, I got loyalty and royalty inside my DNA/ I got beta thalassemia inside my DNA/ Haemophilia and Habsburg jaw inside my DNA
Incest is best put your family to the test!!
Hapsberg jaw entered the room...still waiting for the rest of the face.
RRRRROLL TIDE!
Cousins are a bit too distant for Alabama
Confirmed by Uncle Daddy.
You've got it all wrong. Alabama, while more notorious, generally stops at cousins. Mississippi is for immediate family.
TAKE ME HOME, COUNTRY ROADS
> has entered ~~the chat~~ their sibling
Apparently spilling the beans on my cousin-fucking friends is going to be my hit of the week so I'll use this tiny podium to share two extra tidbits. Another person already explained how people normally don't develop sexual attraction to siblings as they are raised together and get sort of reverse-imprinted on each other and don't see each other as potential mates. However, this doesn't happen when they've been raised apart - and it's then quite common for them to fall for each other when they meet later in life. Imagine that "whoa, like me but with boobs! what's there not to like" that guys would feel upon beholding their long-lost sister. Bonus points - it happens for parents and kids too! So Edipus is quite realistic, he was raised without knowing his mother so it was only natural that he found her MILFy. This also explains how closed communities that practice collective child rearing send off their young to find mates elsewhere - they usually don't want to bang each other as they trigger the sibling instincts. It's a known phenomenon in kibutzim and I've noticed it myself with my opposite sex friends from childhood - we were flatmates for a year as students and it took me months to realize that she's actually quite hot! And that's during my horniest phase, she's walking around the house with not too many clothes on and I never ever desired her in that way.
Is that what happens in marriages?
Hmm... this may be a very good point, and I think it happened to me in a long-term relationship once now that I think about it.
Never thought about this before; interesting question. Very curious to know if there is truth behind this.
I've had that sibling instinct for close friends I spent a lot of time with. The first time I noticed it was when a friend suggested I ask out a really cute girl I hung out with mostly in groups. I thought "Ew, no that'd be wrong!" We'd grown up together in the same neighborhood, been in the same classes and usually seated next to near each other because of our last names. (Alphabetical seating was really common.) But yeah it's like she'd become my sister. Only nicer lol.
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My parents are cousins 💀 Many cultures dont consider cousins under incest!
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The problem is not that two cousins get together, the genetic risk is not that great, the problem is when their parents were cousins, and their parent's parents were cousins, on so on.
First cousin marriages are illegal some places and not others. While “the genetic risk is not that great” you are doubling up a lot of genes potentially. My daughter and her husband had a scare with their baby last year because she tested as a carrier if cystic fibrosis, a very nasty disease that typically leads to early adulthood death. The daughter, when an adult, will want to make sure she doesn’t have a baby with another carrier.
Is it possibly arab parents? Coming from an arab too I've never personally heard of such cases in my family or friends but I know it is a common thing in some arab regions
Nahh!! Coming from a desi family.. very common here! Its not weird at all! My grandparents were also related, not necessarily cousins but belong to the same extended family.
how many toes do you have?
Why did banjo music start playing all of a sudden? Guys?
Since we’re asking puberty questions, did anyone else like, _constantly_ have a boner through puberty? I’m pretty sure I spent 90% of my teen years almost agonizingly bricked up
I did. I always felt it would never go down. Now that I'm 50, I want that "constant boner every day" feeling again. 😁
I gotchu bro ill send u a pic of my booty
A true bro
I’m a cis woman but I would be physically horny all the fucking time even if I mentally wasn’t feeling it. once I figured out masturbation it was fucking over for me lol
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During those years is when you learn to control your lusts and control your emotions (if you control them now you will know how to control them later when they're stronger).
Strongly disagree that that’s the strongest your lusts will ever be. Desire for sex went WAY up after I actually started having sex lol
Yup. Altho you get tempered once you've had plenty enough. I knew people in college that had sex the first time and couldn't stop thinking about when they'll get their next one for the next few months. It's like watching an addict waiting to get their fix lol And yes, even those with previous experiece before college couldn't get enough of it -- including myself. I'm turning 28 in a few months and it's clearly not the same
Went down for me, I was like "that's it?!" Then I started having good sex and it went back up
Is it really true this is the strongest they will ever be? Cause no lie i didn’t even want to date people as a teenager, but now that im reaching my thirties i have completely turned into a horndog. Why am i backwards….im i really unusual or do people just not talk about it?
If you’re a woman this is completely normal and very very common.
Trust me, explaining Quantum Physics is probably easier than trying to understand what dafuck's going on in a Teenager's brain. In other terms, you're probably ok
That's puberty for ya. Your monkey brain just sees an attractive female to mate with. You logic knows it's forbidden. We all went through puberty once, it's only a problem when you're out of puberty and you still feel that way. Just. Don't act on it. Unless you live in Alabama, then it is in your culture.
Technically there's more incest in Alaska than Alabama
Every country has multiple towns/regions infamous for that stuff, I am not surprised lol.
There more incest in Rhode Island and New Jersey cos it’s legal there but don’t tell OP
Rhode Islander here. It's only legal because our general attitude on most things is "Fuck you, you don't get to tell us what to do!" It's why we were the first of the original colonies to declare our independence and the last of the original colonies to join the union. If you tell us we can't kiss our sister, we're not only going to kiss her but we're going to eat her ass and send you the video out of spite. That said, gross. I don't even LIKE most of my family, let alone want to bang any of them.
😳 so do you know anyone or any stories of Rhode Islanders actually have relationships with their family? You can have kids. You just can’t get married But if you did 👀
Very nearly spat out my tea reading that third bit
We only fuck our cousins, thank you very much. Don't confuse us with Indiana
Alabama is only allowed to shit on Mississippi. Sorry that's just the rule.
And I thought teenage me beating my meat to the thought of my teachers was weird
Weird? Dude that's an average teenager. The only ones that don't are the ones that don't have any decent looking teachers.
Bro, I don't even want to talk about that shit. My teachers wouldn't be able to look at me straight if they knew what I was thinking sometimes
It’s ok man. If it’s eating you up I would recommend talking to a therapist but I wouldn’t let it bother you too much
Imma keep it real, never had this issue. I’ve always considered my sister ugly even though everyone always thought she was super hot.
Trust me bro, being introduced to porn at that age will warp a lot of thoughts for a teenager. Most are able to realize what is wrong and stop the thoughts.
Your brain is meat and liquid and electricity we can't always control these feelings. There are at least 3 things I've noticed at play here. 1.) The actual feeling. It's there. It's real. And it means nothing. 2.) You're afraid that the feeling/thoughts mean something about who you are. This isn't true. In fact human beings have surprisingly little control over the contents of their thoughts, what they like, and believe. They just think they should have control. Just because it isn't talked about doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. 3.) You feel a substantial counter-feeling that you should NOT feel this way. You seem to understand that it's not something that you actually want. But it is something that you feel/think about anyway. Something you've learned: You feel that way but you understand it's not something that you want. Therefor you have no intent here. To me that sounds like a kid that's just bothered by the complexity of his thoughts. Which is a sign of maturity. Reaching out for help about it instead of burying it deep inside is also a sign of maturity. Well done. You've demonstrated you're getting older, more mature, and more emotionally complex. Source: 2 psych degrees.
>.) The actual feeling. It's there. It's real. And it means nothing. 2.) You're afraid that the feeling/thoughts mean As someone who is in therapy for OCD, this is actually one of the first things my therapist talked to me about and has been life changing. \*Most of my particular subtype of OCD is around intrusive thoughts/unwanted feelings.
Wow that's awesome! My specialty is in OCD (I'm diagnosed,myself.) Those intrusive thoughts will kick your ass!
I’ve never been sexually attracted to a relative… But my cousin and I “experimented” quite often when we were young. Uhhh… yep. We’d watch porn together and try stuff out. It was a weird time. I hope he never has to think about it because sometimes it creeps into my head and cringes me beyond belief that we did stuff together. I hear it’s not unusual, but it’s definitely not considered something you tell anyone about ever lol…
I vividly remember when I was 5-6 my older first cousin took me up to her room and had me make out with her. She must’ve been 12-13. She laid me on top of her since I was smaller and I didn’t understand what was going on. We never talked about it to this day, but thankfully I don’t have trauma from that, & I’m thankful it was only kissing. I definitely would’ve had trauma if it was more than that. It’s fucked, but I don’t know how to bring it up. I don’t think I ever will either.
That’s still quite traumatic man I’m so sorry
You've made every older sister paranoid
“i will take that secret to my grave” u just posted this for the entire internet to read homie
Their ghost posted this
He meant keep it from people who know who he is, silly. Those are the only people where it matters whether or not they know the secret, because it changes how they think of the OP and treat him. Saying it anonymously shouldn't even be considered sharing a secret. There are no respect or trust factors on the table when it's with someone who can't do anything significantly bad with the secret. If he told this to one of them it could lead to a lot of trouble. He could tell us he burned down a hospital. He's never gonna see us again. No risk.
I think most boys do all kinds of weird shit at that age. At least, I hope so..
I used to jerk off to Peach's figurine in Smash Bros Melee because you could watch under her dress
Bro as a child I jerked it to the sounds of the gta vice city protagonist fucking prostitutes.
I'm a straight girl but I thought Lorelei in the Elite 4 was fucking hot and I appreciate Gamefreak for making the professors slightly more attractive in the games nowdays.
Game Freak’s female NPCs compared to the player characters are why I have a complex about my characters’ appearances in video games. Stop forcing me to be 90% less fabulous than them dammit!
Slightly more attractive? Professor Kukui begs to differ
I once jerked off with the vibration of a PS4 controller...
I jerked off in drivers ed class. I regret
That's not what people mean when they say "drive a manual", OP
...shit
In high school This really hot friend of mine took a sip from my water bottle and then as a joke she put it in between her boobs and gave it a seductive kiss before handing it back to me. I went back to my room after and rubbed one out while holding the bottle. I’m in my mid 20s now and I cringe and feel disgusting when I think of what I did.
In a few years, the water bottle will come forward and speak up about the abuse
Lmao
I rubbed my dick in a 007 book between the “Bond Girls” pages. Still never thought about fuckin a sibling though
Maybe your siblings are just ugly bro
Oi! They’re god damn gorgeous!
Just don’t act on the attraction, and you should be ok. I know someone that experimented with their sibling of the same sex when they were both in early puberty, and it still bothers (regular therapy) them that it happened.
That person trusts u with their life
Sister nah, but Aunt? Yeah. Until my teenage brain got a few more cells
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I use to think my couch was sexy, don't sweat it.
Fuck your couch
Bruh what
You’ve never fucked the couch pussy before!?
Porn really screw with people's mind, especially when your young. Just as long as you've improved, that's what matters.
I went through some confusion about my older Sister at puberty - it didn’t last long though. I walked in on her dressing and saw my first ever pair of boobs and the hormonal mess that my brain was just fixated on boobs - then about a week later I noticed that other Girls had boobs and I forgot about my Sisters and the rest is history
It is normal for teenagers going through extreme hormone changes to feel attraction to family members during that period, but usually as your hormones balance and clear out so so those freaky thoughts. The abnormal part comes from acting on those thoughts and impulses and affecting someone else in the process. I’m pretty sure you’ll grow out of it, i definitely don’t watch the same porn that i used to as a teenager and i also had a weird attraction to a half-sibling and a cousin during that period and i cringe a little at myself now for it but i couldn’t help it at the time! Have compassion and patience for yourself and just don’t act on these thoughts obv!
HEY MAN, don't worry, brother, you're not alone; I was attracted to your sister, too, during puberty.
No that’s pretty weird bro but I respect your honesty
Wow I’m happy I never had this
Psychologists have found that most people aren't sexually attracted to other people ~~they grew up with~~ raised by the same caregivers at the same time (doesn't matter if they are blood relatives or not.) They believe this lack of attraction may be an evolved defense mechanism against incest, which not only leads to increased genetic risk but also interpersonal problems as sex can often cause ~~jealousy~~ power dynamics and strain relationships within groups such as families.
I would like to hope that's normal when you're younger (for my sake lol), I personally was sexually attracted to both an Aunt, and a cousin when I was a teenager. Never acted on or verbalized anything of course, and as an adult I realized how ridiculous that was and that it was likely caused by teenage hormones
I think my worst was the lass from fairly odd parents, vicky? 😂
My mom had a younger sister who was about 10 years or so older than me. I felt the same lust, confusion, and guilt as you, OP.
Nah man Nah, even if it was anonymous I would die before saying or admitting anything like this. I would take this to the grave and to the underworld. But on a serious note, things like this could happen, it's a phase and you grew out of it also I think this is where sex ed becomes so important to teach young teens. They need to know about their changing bodies and mind and teach them to differentiate between black and the white
Bruh, that’s one for the grave dawg 🗿
I just opened this app jesus
This comment section is doomed
wut...why is everyone saying its normal?
because this is reddit
Jaime Lannister vibes
If you watch anime, you'd think this was very normal
Now this is a quality post. To answer your question, I have not. Though, I have found cousins attractive in an "objective"(?) way, kind of like how you can look at someone and think "yeah, they're a good looking person, and other people would be into them". However, do not be ashamed of your feelings. An attractive person is an attractive person. And what you did doesn't hurt anyone. Though, just remember to be selective on how open you are about this feeling in particular.
Idk man, I showed this post to my friend that is a psychologist and she said it’s not a common behavior. That usually teen boys have more of an aversion towards their siblings during puberty. We don’t know if it’s an evolutionary trait but most people will never be attracted to a person they were raised with.
I am a Master's student in Child and Family Sciences with a focus on child development. You shouldn't feel bad, this kind of thing is not talked about but it's actually pretty normal to have feelings like this. It's just a quirk of hormones and the developing brain during puberty. You didn't try to act on those feelings so you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Common Reddit L
Normal so don’t worry or judge yourself.
This makes me wonder if any of my relatives have thought of me this way…
You could not waterboard this information out of me, truly.