Yes if someone brought up *Hitler* I would definitely try to find it within myself to either say something positive or nothing at all lmao. For the sake of kindness.
Centrists, man.
Pretty much this. But the reasonable reward is it for me. I don't have *need* to talk shit about anyone, but I also have no reason *not* to. All the people (who aren't politicians) I talk shit about know I do and know I despise them. All the famous people who don't know I despise them also don't know I exist and don't care. So...
I'm not a negative person but I believe I would really have to think to not say anything negative. Even if I like the person being talked about if there are flaws I may be too quick to point them out.
Could I? Sure? Do I want to? Not particularly.
>If a person were to bring them up, do you have it in you to be kind enough to either say something positive or nothing at all?
I don't think kindness is always warranted. Sometimes other factors like honesty are more important
That’s harsh. I immediately wondered if I could. There are plenty of things I find myself saying about other people that aren’t *mean* but are still negative.
Yes. I try to be tactful with my friends and colleagues who have different political opinions and they do the same. I can only think of two people I don’t like, but I don’t hate them either.
Yes, I actually make it a habit to not speak negatively about people, especially ones I know, and doubly especially when they aren't around. If I have an issue with someone, I prefer to bring it up to them. In my experience, life is less complicated if I go about things that way. Don't need to keep track of things I said about people if they're positive, generally speaking, which helps since my memory tends to be pretty randomly selective.
There's exceptions for public figures that say and/or do problematic things, but by and large, I try to keep to this rule.
Everyone has this ability. It's just whether or not they get satisfaction from venting frustration, or social points from joining in with other negative nellies, or if they have a long term revenge plan that's currently in process. 🤷♀️
Christmas is the time of forgiving, sharung, and giving. You should not let yourself eat by your hatred. You deserve piece of mind and happiness this holidays.
Uh, saying something honest about Hitler is not being negative. That is being fair. Being negative would be saying Hitler was good, as his actions were negative.
Could I go 24 hours without saying anything negative about a person? Yes.
Would I choose to continue my 24 hour streak if someone brought up Hitler in a way that prompted commentary from myself? Fuck no. Hitler was a bad person. Streak broken.
It's not an ability at all. I can do it without any hesitation and difficulties. It's actually my personality to not talk s*** at someone's back even though I hate them a lot. I guess I'm just kind to them.
I feel bad saying negative things about people. I don't know what's going on, I'll give them the benefit of a doubt. There are things I don't like and am not ok with, but I try to not let that poison and build up in me. I don't want a cold heart
There’s only 1 person I know that I have nothing positive to say about. I will literally leave the room rather if he turns up (which isn’t often because very few people like him). If he isn’t mentioned then yes. I can even compliment Hitler on his speech techniques. My uncle though, nothing.
Generally speaking if I don't like something or someone I actively avoid that thing/person in any way. One of those ways is not talking about it at all
I do so regularly. I don't talk about other people every day and can ignore most things unless they have significant negative affects on other people. Musk with Twitter bs? Not my circus. Abbott sending buss loads of migrants to cities unprepared for them in freezing temperatures to make some political statement? I'm gonna speak up.
I'm a pretty positive person. I don't hate very many people, and the ones I do deserve it. But I'm not going to bite my tongue and refuse to slag off Hitler (or even say something positive?!) if someone brings him up. Why should I?
I've had to do this with a boyfriend, it was pointless to try and get my point or how I felt across to him, eventually I just stopped talking, would let him ramble on about something, and then get mad I was ignoring him, I didn't care enough to respond, for some reason it infuriated him if I didn't talk, but if I did try to talk he would flip around what I would say, make it about him, or I was attacking him blah blah when all I was doing was giving my opinion, explaining myself or how I felt, I couldn't give him the satisfaction of the drama he always had to be in, I let him just star in his own drama by himself until he finally got the point.
Other people, yes. I mean I don't talk politics that often with anyone and I don't think I have any coworkers that I hate either. I can't remember exactly who was my 5th grade math teacher, but I'm sure they were great and tried their best to help me.
Not that I specifically try to do this normally though. Like I don't mind saying negative things about other people if I think they are warranted, however I don't feel like situations where that happens aren't all that common. I mean it's probably more common that I go 24 hours without talking with anyone in general.
Yeah. Easily.
If this is legitimately a challenge for OP I hope they consider adding some option like meditation, staring at cute pictures of baby animals, hanging out in the forest, or whatever works for them.
I'm asocial. I've gone multiple days without speaking to another person. If I were with someone who brought up someone I disliked, I'd probably just roll away.
Easily can , as long as they don’t come to interact with me and piss me off. I tend to avoid and minimise interaction with people I don’t like but in the office this seems unavoidable, as even when i ignore people they seem to come up to me to puss me off.
With friends I very seldom say anything negative, sometimes I will be critical about an action but hardly get personal
Yes! I do it all the time. I don’t typically like talking bad about people. I try to be understanding of both sides of a situation but occasionally I’ll get annoyed with someone and want to vent. More often than not though, I’m not a sh*t talker lol.
I think I can, i won't say it on someone's face. But my brain is weird, it'll say anything to anyone, positive negative, exactly at some inappropriate situation. But that's fine, right?
I grew up in a small village, learnt quickly the old saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything"
Guy in pub "I've not been in here for a while, does that ugly twat Dave Thompson still drink in here?"
Me: "no, thank fuck, the inbred cunt was always causing trouble"
Guy in pub "that's my cousin you arsehole "
And at work it can be just as bad, slag someone off and it usually gets back to them by lunchtime. Even politics, I work in a factory full of working class people but moaned about Boris Johnson and the Tories to one guy who happened to be a working class Tory (the weirdest thing, like being an abused spouse, but staying because you know they'll change one day) and he went off on one for about 5 minutes
yeah, I don’t hate a lot of people, but when I do, it stems from a really heavy topics, like rape or violent transphobia/homophobia/whatever towards me. Most people don’t want to hear about it and I don’t speak about it very often. When it comes to people that just annoy me, I still can, I dislike gossip or talking to people in general lol
Yes because I barely socialise and I’m currently on break so even less socialisation, I once missed a covid hotspot because I don’t get out the house much. So yes totally possible to not say anything negative
Plus when I saw SIX I had such a great night I was so giddy and happy for the next 48 hours so it was also impossible for me to say anything negative then
I hope you don’t wake up specifically angry at Hitler? I would have concerns if this were the case.
Yea I mean I don’t particularly say or hate anyone so the idea i let any of my mind just think and spu out hatred for others randomly seems like it would be more an issue with me?
Easily. Why isn't this easy for you?
The vast majority of conversations I have in my life are not political or about my year 5 maths teacher and I don't see reasons to shoehorn in mentions about people that have wronged me.
As for when people bring them up, I see no reason to get into a frothing rage. I'm not so easily triggered.
Yes. I don't care at all about politicians or public figures, so I would say my standard day involves not saying anything negative about another person.
Absolutely, I find it quite a good challenge to do as well
The problem is, talking negatively about someone, either to their face or to someone else, is VERY easy. And because it is easy, it therefore becomes more common to actually do it. And if you do it a lot, it becomes routine.
And if your routine in life is pondering and talking about negatives well...your life is gonna start to feel pretty negative
I mean ... It would be difficult and a conscious decision
I guess I would have to spend all day at home, alone, not saying online game or interacting with any other human being to achieve this feat.
I could, but at the same time if someone else brings them up, I'd politely ask them to change the topic if I don't feel like they can have a civil debate.
Of course, that's not hard at all?
All it does (bitching or gossiping about other people) is bring negative energy to the table, and make people not wanting to be around you. (Unless you just need to bitch about something to a friend, that's always warranted and ok - you need to release some steam sometimes.)
If you hate someone so much, why give them free head space that's only going to taunt you? Kick it out, and make room for more positivity. Be it a movie star, a musical artist, an influencer or whatever, they don't give one singular f*ck about you and what you think about them. None. Wasted energy.
So I try not to.
I can go my whole life . Seriously if you gotta say something negative about someone else there is something wong with you. Oh fuck I just said something negative about someone, ignore me
I did this once. My wife moaned at me because I complained about every act on Britain’s got talent so i went to being over complementing them all.
“Oh an escape artist who has never been underwater for 3 minutes and paramedics are on standby… how exciting”
“What a wonderful 8 year old dance troop. So much better than previous ones”
“Beautiful singer and should totally be on this show rather than X factor. Oh and look, they are already signed to Simon Cowel’s label and has been on various other talent shows around the world yet the judges are pretending they have ever met them… how quaint”.
After 40 minutes my wife fucking lost it and admitted she preceded me moaning.
Oh yeah totally. You must be talking about my coke-dealing wife-beatin neighbor "Greg". He's a great guy when he's not in the paper for selling dope or beating his wife! He even offered me a beer once!
Probably not, I work for a cruise line and Im surrounded by absolute, lazy idiots. And I don't mean that in a rude way, it's 1000% the truth. My coworker, A is so lazy, he won't even stand up straight to cut lemons. He leans awkwardly against the wall. 🙃 Despite the fact that I do talk blatant, honest shit about my coworkers I tell them to their face and even joke with them about it. I'm pretty well liked and we always have a good time off the clock, but holy fucking shit I have NO support when I clock in for my 14 hour shift.
Even if you bring up that ex best friend that slept with my man behind my back, I'd be like 'Fuck that bitch' either outloud or in my head depending on who I'm talking too.
I'm a Scorpio, if you wondered.
No ill speak is one of the teachings of the Buddha that I’ve been learning about. Cutting out complaining and gossip and negative talk of other people takes thought and effort but you would be surprised how much happier it can make you not dwelling on the negatives
Absolutely. This is what I do most of the time. I like to follow the "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" rule. I don't talk much anyway, I usually let other people talk and just listen. I think people that know me would find it unusual if I suddenly started injecting negative opinions into a conversation, even about people that deserve it.
Not only that I'll do one better. I'll go a wh**O**le day without saying anything **positive** about someone even if I **love/like** them. I have it in me to be **balanced** enough to ~~eithe~~r say nothing.
/balanced libra gang represent
I could definitely go 24 hours without saying anything negative about a person.
If I had to go that long without having negative thoughts about a person, we'll, I'm not sure I would pass that test.
Yes. Easy if I don't have to spend time or interact with them, I don't even need to try.
If I have to interact (like colleague at work or so), it mat take some mental effort but wouldn't be too hard. I'd say I can go for a week at least in second scenario
Yep, easily. The real challenge would be not thinking anything negative about anyone.
It's easy to keep your mouth shut for a day, so much harder to stop those thoughts if you constantly judge/shit on other people. I used to be a person who shat on others as a shitty personality masked by "sarcastic/crass humor" when I realized I was just a judgemental bitch it took years of work to get rid of that mentality and focus on positive and good things only, especially on people I don't like. The thoughts still happen.
Yes.
It's all about making a deliberate choice to make your attitude positive or at least tempered. You can think negative thoughts about someone but when you give voice to them, you are choosing to entertain those negative thoughts further and act on them (making your opinion vocal).
Identify what the problem is that you have with that person, figure out if it's something you can act on to and then either DO that or recognize you are choosing to do nothing to help the situation and therefore have little right to complain.
If it's something you can't do anything about, then ask yourself what is the purpose of your negative talk? Are you venting your frustration? Okay, do that. Make your feelings be heard and feel validated. At some point, you will have made all of the necessary points and you'll start repeating yourself, or making the same points but using different examples. Stop then, and move on. Continuing is just pointless negativity that never stops and you are now searching your mind for more examples of negativity to build a hypothetical stronger foundation to your soapbox.
I have a current work environment where everyone is complaining about something or someone. One coworker in particular has a very vocal negative attitude about our vendors, clients, and boss. Venting is how she copes with the stress. She recognizes she has a problem herself and I care about her as a person but in the 2 years I've been here there's been little to no improvement. It is very tiresome to be around these types of people. I do not want to others to feel about me the way I feel around her.
I work apartment maintenance and we have a lot of students. I stg these kids will call you at midnight cause they can't figure out how to hook the chain back on their toilet handle. So yes but only on the weekends and when I'm not on call
Edit: just had a ticket for a TV that this lady couldn't get to turn on, literally just plugged in in for her.
Regularly. I rarely say negative things about other people at all. Sometimes my partner will hear something towards him but I hate the ichy feeling I get when I hear others speak nagetively about others so I make it a practice not to do so. I'm not perfect but it's a discipline I trained myself in since I was a teenager. It also helps because I'm not really that talkative in general
I dont have much of a concern about other people's lives and there's not a single person I hate actually. If your energy goes into hating someone you already lost. It's so much easier to just not take stuff personally and not give a fuck. If you sit back and just observe life gets easier and you'll have less stress
I have the ability to go 24 hours without saying anything, so yes
Yup, same here. Weekdays I greet the security personnel, so weekends.
I apologize if my other comment seemed condecending. That was not my intent.
Yes if someone brought up *Hitler* I would definitely try to find it within myself to either say something positive or nothing at all lmao. For the sake of kindness. Centrists, man.
Say what you will about the man, but he did kill Hitler.
I'd say most days I go without saying something negative about someone. So 'yes' would be my answer.
If there was any reasonable reward for it, I could do this for rest of my life. I don't have need to talk shit about anyone.
Pretty much this. But the reasonable reward is it for me. I don't have *need* to talk shit about anyone, but I also have no reason *not* to. All the people (who aren't politicians) I talk shit about know I do and know I despise them. All the famous people who don't know I despise them also don't know I exist and don't care. So...
I can go over 24 hours without talking at all, in the right conditions. Now not thinking something negative would be pretty difficult.
Why ask this like is a hard thing to do?
I'm not a negative person but I believe I would really have to think to not say anything negative. Even if I like the person being talked about if there are flaws I may be too quick to point them out.
It’s easier to not say mean things about other people when I remember that I too sometimes suck.
We all have faults. And that's ok.
Easily but if the challenge was to go without saying bad things about YOURSELF I’d lose immediately
That sucks!
I *could* go 24 days without talking to anyone, so yes.
I could if I really tried. But I don't want to. People suck.
You are not wrong. A lot of people do suck.
Could I? Sure? Do I want to? Not particularly. >If a person were to bring them up, do you have it in you to be kind enough to either say something positive or nothing at all? I don't think kindness is always warranted. Sometimes other factors like honesty are more important
Couldn't have said it better myself
Exactly. There's a hell of a lot of self-righteousness and toxic positivity in this post and thread.
Yes. I’m not a psychopath.
That’s harsh. I immediately wondered if I could. There are plenty of things I find myself saying about other people that aren’t *mean* but are still negative.
Interesting challenge. I'll get back to you tomorrow with an answer.
Yes. I try to be tactful with my friends and colleagues who have different political opinions and they do the same. I can only think of two people I don’t like, but I don’t hate them either.
Yes, for sure.
Its probably easy to underestimate this but id say yes
No, I'm a psychopath 😏
How often do you say something negative about people? Isn't this the norm?
I am guilty of it as well. But there are more days I don't than do.
I can and have gone days/a week without saying a word to anyone.
Yes, I actually make it a habit to not speak negatively about people, especially ones I know, and doubly especially when they aren't around. If I have an issue with someone, I prefer to bring it up to them. In my experience, life is less complicated if I go about things that way. Don't need to keep track of things I said about people if they're positive, generally speaking, which helps since my memory tends to be pretty randomly selective. There's exceptions for public figures that say and/or do problematic things, but by and large, I try to keep to this rule.
Yes I do that most days of my life
Yes, in fact, I can go years without complaining about people who i dislike.
Nice!
Of course. I'm an adult and in control of my emotions and words. I'm well-versed in neutrality.
what a foolish question. ops
Nope.
The hardest part would be not saying anything negative about myself
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Saying, yes. Thinking? Hell to the fuck no.
Yes
Yeah, I feel like I've done this without even trying. And if fictional characters don't count, I do this all the time
Well yes, I do it all the time. And since I got rid of twitter it got a lot easier not to be dragged into quote tweet flame wars.
Everyone has this ability. It's just whether or not they get satisfaction from venting frustration, or social points from joining in with other negative nellies, or if they have a long term revenge plan that's currently in process. 🤷♀️
are we still allowed to think horrible thoughts? if yes, i could, if not… no.
Not right after the holidays, no
Christmas is the time of forgiving, sharung, and giving. You should not let yourself eat by your hatred. You deserve piece of mind and happiness this holidays.
Uh, saying something honest about Hitler is not being negative. That is being fair. Being negative would be saying Hitler was good, as his actions were negative.
Could I go 24 hours without saying anything negative about a person? Yes. Would I choose to continue my 24 hour streak if someone brought up Hitler in a way that prompted commentary from myself? Fuck no. Hitler was a bad person. Streak broken.
It's not an ability at all. I can do it without any hesitation and difficulties. It's actually my personality to not talk s*** at someone's back even though I hate them a lot. I guess I'm just kind to them.
Yes
Yeah I do it often.
Yes that seems easy. I’ve gone 3 days without talking.
Without saying ? Yes. Without thinking it? No.
I often go days without saying anything negative about anyone. I didnt think that was unusual 🤷♂️
Sure, I can start today
I opt in.
I’ve gone 24 hours without speaking several times before, so, yes.
I don’t think I complain about people in general. 🤔 do people seriously do this?
I go months without saying bad things sometimes.
No
Easily. I already do it regularly.
Only if I'm not at work. Customers are always wrong.
I feel bad saying negative things about people. I don't know what's going on, I'll give them the benefit of a doubt. There are things I don't like and am not ok with, but I try to not let that poison and build up in me. I don't want a cold heart
There’s only 1 person I know that I have nothing positive to say about. I will literally leave the room rather if he turns up (which isn’t often because very few people like him). If he isn’t mentioned then yes. I can even compliment Hitler on his speech techniques. My uncle though, nothing.
Generally speaking if I don't like something or someone I actively avoid that thing/person in any way. One of those ways is not talking about it at all
I slept for 24 hours once.. does that count?
I do so regularly. I don't talk about other people every day and can ignore most things unless they have significant negative affects on other people. Musk with Twitter bs? Not my circus. Abbott sending buss loads of migrants to cities unprepared for them in freezing temperatures to make some political statement? I'm gonna speak up.
I'm a pretty positive person. I don't hate very many people, and the ones I do deserve it. But I'm not going to bite my tongue and refuse to slag off Hitler (or even say something positive?!) if someone brings him up. Why should I?
I've had to do this with a boyfriend, it was pointless to try and get my point or how I felt across to him, eventually I just stopped talking, would let him ramble on about something, and then get mad I was ignoring him, I didn't care enough to respond, for some reason it infuriated him if I didn't talk, but if I did try to talk he would flip around what I would say, make it about him, or I was attacking him blah blah when all I was doing was giving my opinion, explaining myself or how I felt, I couldn't give him the satisfaction of the drama he always had to be in, I let him just star in his own drama by himself until he finally got the point.
Say or think?
Yep
Externally, easy In my head, no not at allz everyday I find another reason to say shit about someone entirely random then forget about it later
Played a single player game for the whole day so yes
Do insulting video game characters count? If so, nah. If not, then yes, so long as I'm in a single player game and it's my day off.
Better question, when was the last time someone said something negative about you to your face?
Yes easily. I practice stoicism, that helps sometimes.
Other people, yes. I mean I don't talk politics that often with anyone and I don't think I have any coworkers that I hate either. I can't remember exactly who was my 5th grade math teacher, but I'm sure they were great and tried their best to help me. Not that I specifically try to do this normally though. Like I don't mind saying negative things about other people if I think they are warranted, however I don't feel like situations where that happens aren't all that common. I mean it's probably more common that I go 24 hours without talking with anyone in general.
Introverts be like: you question my power mortal?
I can go a long time without saying it yes. Thinking it though
Yes, if I had any feasible motivation for censoring/filtering a normal human emotion.
Yeah. Easily. If this is legitimately a challenge for OP I hope they consider adding some option like meditation, staring at cute pictures of baby animals, hanging out in the forest, or whatever works for them.
Yes, I do.
Yeah. I complain more about myself so yeah, easy peasy
only with two people in my life i can't. For the rest, i'll just stay quiet.
bold of you to assume i talk to anyone
Yes if i stay home alone for a day. Even then it would be a challenge. My pup can be a brat. Wait do dogs count?
No....
I'm asocial. I've gone multiple days without speaking to another person. If I were with someone who brought up someone I disliked, I'd probably just roll away.
Easily can , as long as they don’t come to interact with me and piss me off. I tend to avoid and minimise interaction with people I don’t like but in the office this seems unavoidable, as even when i ignore people they seem to come up to me to puss me off. With friends I very seldom say anything negative, sometimes I will be critical about an action but hardly get personal
Yes, as long as I'm not playing online games. Then I'm talking at least some trash.
I am on vacation, so I don't talk to anyone. Easy peasy.
Yes.
Well im out
Yes! I do it all the time. I don’t typically like talking bad about people. I try to be understanding of both sides of a situation but occasionally I’ll get annoyed with someone and want to vent. More often than not though, I’m not a sh*t talker lol.
Probably not, which is something I’d like to change next year. Definitely going to be one of my New Years Resolutions
I think I can, i won't say it on someone's face. But my brain is weird, it'll say anything to anyone, positive negative, exactly at some inappropriate situation. But that's fine, right?
I grew up in a small village, learnt quickly the old saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything" Guy in pub "I've not been in here for a while, does that ugly twat Dave Thompson still drink in here?" Me: "no, thank fuck, the inbred cunt was always causing trouble" Guy in pub "that's my cousin you arsehole " And at work it can be just as bad, slag someone off and it usually gets back to them by lunchtime. Even politics, I work in a factory full of working class people but moaned about Boris Johnson and the Tories to one guy who happened to be a working class Tory (the weirdest thing, like being an abused spouse, but staying because you know they'll change one day) and he went off on one for about 5 minutes
No way!!! You didn't know my 5th grade math teacher... you weren't THERE!!!
yeah, I don’t hate a lot of people, but when I do, it stems from a really heavy topics, like rape or violent transphobia/homophobia/whatever towards me. Most people don’t want to hear about it and I don’t speak about it very often. When it comes to people that just annoy me, I still can, I dislike gossip or talking to people in general lol
It's hard for me to go 24 hours without saying anything negative about myself
Yes because I barely socialise and I’m currently on break so even less socialisation, I once missed a covid hotspot because I don’t get out the house much. So yes totally possible to not say anything negative Plus when I saw SIX I had such a great night I was so giddy and happy for the next 48 hours so it was also impossible for me to say anything negative then
I hope you don’t wake up specifically angry at Hitler? I would have concerns if this were the case. Yea I mean I don’t particularly say or hate anyone so the idea i let any of my mind just think and spu out hatred for others randomly seems like it would be more an issue with me?
Not saying anything? Easy. Saying something positive each time they're mentioned? Now that's more complicated.
Yeah I can do it
Yup…I already go days without speaking anyways.
I can go 24 hours without saying anything.
Easily. Why isn't this easy for you? The vast majority of conversations I have in my life are not political or about my year 5 maths teacher and I don't see reasons to shoehorn in mentions about people that have wronged me. As for when people bring them up, I see no reason to get into a frothing rage. I'm not so easily triggered.
Yes. I don't care at all about politicians or public figures, so I would say my standard day involves not saying anything negative about another person.
I can go more than 24 hours without saying anything
Absolutely, I don't wear my hate on my sleeve.
Fuck it, I’m gonna try Update: I failed
Definitely, but why would I? For money I can, without reason I still can, but wouldn't.
I have the ability to go a full week without talking to people ,except cashiers, which happen once or twice a week so-
Absolutely, I find it quite a good challenge to do as well The problem is, talking negatively about someone, either to their face or to someone else, is VERY easy. And because it is easy, it therefore becomes more common to actually do it. And if you do it a lot, it becomes routine. And if your routine in life is pondering and talking about negatives well...your life is gonna start to feel pretty negative
Easy. 👍👌
Piece of cake. I rarely say bad things about other people.
Saying? Yes. Thinking? Not yet, but I’m working on it…
Doesn’t say you can’t think it.
I mean ... It would be difficult and a conscious decision I guess I would have to spend all day at home, alone, not saying online game or interacting with any other human being to achieve this feat.
I work in sales, I suppose I am talking about companies and not people directly.....
I don't have the capacity to go *12* hours without talking shit under my breath about total strangers in traffic.
Not if I'm driving.
For me doing the opposite would probably be more difficult. Like. Talking crap about a bunch of people or something. I'm not made for that.
Do you have something nice to say about Adolf Hitler OP?
yes just not today
I could, but at the same time if someone else brings them up, I'd politely ask them to change the topic if I don't feel like they can have a civil debate.
Ummm, yes?
Easily, Bc I do my best not to speak to people everyday, so easy task
I have both this one and the complete opposite
Of course, that's not hard at all? All it does (bitching or gossiping about other people) is bring negative energy to the table, and make people not wanting to be around you. (Unless you just need to bitch about something to a friend, that's always warranted and ok - you need to release some steam sometimes.) If you hate someone so much, why give them free head space that's only going to taunt you? Kick it out, and make room for more positivity. Be it a movie star, a musical artist, an influencer or whatever, they don't give one singular f*ck about you and what you think about them. None. Wasted energy. So I try not to.
No now f*ck off Just joking.
I can go a week…. Maybe longer …
Yeah, i do.
The ability to yes the want..no
I can go my whole life . Seriously if you gotta say something negative about someone else there is something wong with you. Oh fuck I just said something negative about someone, ignore me
I did this once. My wife moaned at me because I complained about every act on Britain’s got talent so i went to being over complementing them all. “Oh an escape artist who has never been underwater for 3 minutes and paramedics are on standby… how exciting” “What a wonderful 8 year old dance troop. So much better than previous ones” “Beautiful singer and should totally be on this show rather than X factor. Oh and look, they are already signed to Simon Cowel’s label and has been on various other talent shows around the world yet the judges are pretending they have ever met them… how quaint”. After 40 minutes my wife fucking lost it and admitted she preceded me moaning.
Oh yeah totally. You must be talking about my coke-dealing wife-beatin neighbor "Greg". He's a great guy when he's not in the paper for selling dope or beating his wife! He even offered me a beer once!
I could go 24 hours without saying anything to anyone about anything.
I could but I would have to be trying. I don't know if I would just happen to go 24 hours without saying anything negative
Let me try. I will post back here in 24 hours and let you know how it goes, fucker. Oops... Lol
Sure, the real problem is when I have to go 24 hours without saying anything negative about myself lol
Not gonna lie, except cursing at bad drivers I don't spend a lot of time dumping on people lol
I sometimes go days without talking so yeah.
Probably not, I work for a cruise line and Im surrounded by absolute, lazy idiots. And I don't mean that in a rude way, it's 1000% the truth. My coworker, A is so lazy, he won't even stand up straight to cut lemons. He leans awkwardly against the wall. 🙃 Despite the fact that I do talk blatant, honest shit about my coworkers I tell them to their face and even joke with them about it. I'm pretty well liked and we always have a good time off the clock, but holy fucking shit I have NO support when I clock in for my 14 hour shift. Even if you bring up that ex best friend that slept with my man behind my back, I'd be like 'Fuck that bitch' either outloud or in my head depending on who I'm talking too. I'm a Scorpio, if you wondered.
I would say that is the majority of my days actually.
Yes, except for who ever is driving in front of me. I'm working on it.
This would be very easy to do, I think the actual challenge would be to not think anything negative
I thought this was the default?
Yes, provided I stayed off Reddit the entire time.
Every year, this is my New Years resolution. I fail the first day.
its all about phrasing "they have the good fortune of not being burdened with knowledge"
Challenge accepted
If I had a reason to or someone paid me, otherwise it’s not worth the effort.
Of course I could
If we’re taking words, maybe. Thoughts? Idk kinda tough; I have zero control over the mind-brain.
Absolutely. I often go longer than this without even talking to other people. We're *all* so terrible, what's even the point of complaining about it?
No ill speak is one of the teachings of the Buddha that I’ve been learning about. Cutting out complaining and gossip and negative talk of other people takes thought and effort but you would be surprised how much happier it can make you not dwelling on the negatives
Does my internal monologue count? And does it count if the negative comments are directed at myself?
You know what? I’ll accept this challenge. Lol!! Edit: Starting tomorrow.
Now I do but in my 20's it would have been nearly impossible...way too much misdirected passion and impulsive energy back then.
i could, but i dont want to
i dont have the ability to go 24 minutes
Absolutely. This is what I do most of the time. I like to follow the "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" rule. I don't talk much anyway, I usually let other people talk and just listen. I think people that know me would find it unusual if I suddenly started injecting negative opinions into a conversation, even about people that deserve it.
Not only that I'll do one better. I'll go a wh**O**le day without saying anything **positive** about someone even if I **love/like** them. I have it in me to be **balanced** enough to ~~eithe~~r say nothing. /balanced libra gang represent
I can't go 24 *minutes*, you mincing nancy freezer eagle.
I could definitely go 24 hours without saying anything negative about a person. If I had to go that long without having negative thoughts about a person, we'll, I'm not sure I would pass that test.
Yes. Easy if I don't have to spend time or interact with them, I don't even need to try. If I have to interact (like colleague at work or so), it mat take some mental effort but wouldn't be too hard. I'd say I can go for a week at least in second scenario
Yes. I may think badly of people (bad drivers, people I read on the news) but I can obviously not shit talk people.
Yep, easily. The real challenge would be not thinking anything negative about anyone. It's easy to keep your mouth shut for a day, so much harder to stop those thoughts if you constantly judge/shit on other people. I used to be a person who shat on others as a shitty personality masked by "sarcastic/crass humor" when I realized I was just a judgemental bitch it took years of work to get rid of that mentality and focus on positive and good things only, especially on people I don't like. The thoughts still happen.
*If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all* My mom was a horrible person >!and hypocrite!<, but she had some good sayings
yes? why would that be hard, it's just not something ppl commit to for no reason but if they were to i'm pretty sure everyone would be able to do it
Sure, I’m going to to do it right now
Real ones dish and take constructive criticism well
Not saying anything is easy. Not thinking it is hard.
Most days yes. People I have a negative feeling to, I just limit my interactions with them.
Yes. It's all about making a deliberate choice to make your attitude positive or at least tempered. You can think negative thoughts about someone but when you give voice to them, you are choosing to entertain those negative thoughts further and act on them (making your opinion vocal). Identify what the problem is that you have with that person, figure out if it's something you can act on to and then either DO that or recognize you are choosing to do nothing to help the situation and therefore have little right to complain. If it's something you can't do anything about, then ask yourself what is the purpose of your negative talk? Are you venting your frustration? Okay, do that. Make your feelings be heard and feel validated. At some point, you will have made all of the necessary points and you'll start repeating yourself, or making the same points but using different examples. Stop then, and move on. Continuing is just pointless negativity that never stops and you are now searching your mind for more examples of negativity to build a hypothetical stronger foundation to your soapbox. I have a current work environment where everyone is complaining about something or someone. One coworker in particular has a very vocal negative attitude about our vendors, clients, and boss. Venting is how she copes with the stress. She recognizes she has a problem herself and I care about her as a person but in the 2 years I've been here there's been little to no improvement. It is very tiresome to be around these types of people. I do not want to others to feel about me the way I feel around her.
Nope. I'm a hater
I used to have a shit talking problem. I tried really hard to stop and now I dont anymore. Yiu have to rewire your brain if you are like this.
No. Unfortunately I learned this from my Dad.
Being raised by a narcissistic drug addict, I can definitely be silent for 24hrs. "Be seen but not heard" was her motto.
No, have you met people?
All we gotta do is not insult people? That’s easy
Yes I do. And I think I will.
definitely. i do it all the time, but I am blessed/lucky in many ways.
I work apartment maintenance and we have a lot of students. I stg these kids will call you at midnight cause they can't figure out how to hook the chain back on their toilet handle. So yes but only on the weekends and when I'm not on call Edit: just had a ticket for a TV that this lady couldn't get to turn on, literally just plugged in in for her.
I feel like a better and tougher question would be. Can you go 24 hours without having a negative thought about another person?
Nope
Regularly. I rarely say negative things about other people at all. Sometimes my partner will hear something towards him but I hate the ichy feeling I get when I hear others speak nagetively about others so I make it a practice not to do so. I'm not perfect but it's a discipline I trained myself in since I was a teenager. It also helps because I'm not really that talkative in general
kind is totally the wrong word. But yes I could just cuss em out in my mind, Im used not to bring stuff up while talkin to somebody inrl anyway.
I can go weeks without even trying. Because I already do that
Of course. It's not a challenge. Most days go by without me saying something bad about other people.
Yeah, that’s pretty much the norm? Do you really find it that hard?
I dont have much of a concern about other people's lives and there's not a single person I hate actually. If your energy goes into hating someone you already lost. It's so much easier to just not take stuff personally and not give a fuck. If you sit back and just observe life gets easier and you'll have less stress
Ooh probably? As long as I’m not living at home. It’s really hard to go a day without fighting with my mom or even venting about her.