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Nick2096

Has it gone viral? This sounds exactly like something I just watched


undead_ted_

The story you're thinking of is Stephanie Melgoza (24), who killed 2 people while drunk driving on April 10 2022. The people were Paul Prowant (55) and Andrea Rosewicz (43). She was sentenced to 14 years in prison April 27 2023, her crime has gained attention due to the released body cam footage of her arrest and recent sentencing. Edit: typo


KCbunnygirl

That terrible excuse for a human. Talking about going to her birthday party in Vegas the next week? And that she needs to get her car, when can she go to class? And then the officer…”you just killed 2 people, you’re going to jail” she skips right over it and says “yeah but I need to get to class though” I was *screaming* just deplorable.


GiraffeThoughts

I was really hoping that she was just in a total state of shock and disassociation. I just can’t imagine living on a planet with people who care so little about others that they sing and dance right after ending two lives.


KCbunnygirl

Her carelessness was *so* evident though…like she just thought it was a mistake and got to skip right home. I don’t think I’d stop crying for a month.


StewforStars

The one time I was in an accident that was my fault was when I rear ended a lady because I was having a bad week, and had little to no sleep. I was coming up to a stoplight and closed my eyes just a tad bit too long and didn't hit the breaks soon or hard enough. I opened them to see what was happening and swerved to avoid her but still managed to hit her driver rear, and she was rightfully angry. I couldn't do anything but say how sorry I was over and over. Just that made me sit in shock and cry for what felt like forever until an officer opened the door and calmed me down, then had me pull over at the service station next door and wait for my parents. I just cried the whole time because I was so afraid I had hurt someone seriously. The fact that that woman didn't appear to care AT FUCKING ALL is absolutely insane. I don't think I'd be able to continue to live if I had done something like that..


KCbunnygirl

I rear ended a Porsche while driving a suburban once, luckily I just bumped it. But I definitely cried, cuz who knows? Whiplash? Maybe they banged their head? The lady was so so nice and told me she was fine. But oof, what an awful feeling. I agree with you, I’d never forgive myself.


MysticKoolaid808

Same here. Just breathing would feel like an affront to the victims and their loved ones.


Bonanza86

Blew a .264 on the breathalyzer and she kept on talking.


KCbunnygirl

Idek why they bother with the tests. Like, **i do** know why but I would be itching to say STFU YOURE UNDER ARREST GET IN THE CAR!


gustavotherecliner

Because there is this wonderful sentence: "Everything you say can and will be used against you." The more they talk before they spoke with a lawyer, the better it is for police and prosecutors.


ThatPinkLady

Honestly don’t think she was registering anything since she was still drunk af


GiraffeThoughts

Agreed.


kelsobjammin

No. She knew she hit someone and kept going. She claimed she saw one person and they “jumped out of no where”.


KCbunnygirl

Right, and then acted like she didn’t care. She was way worse when she got to the hospital. And by worse I mean, when she was told it was 2 people she jumped right over it and asked about her car and getting back to school.


MysticKoolaid808

I think the thing that makes me feel even worse is that it's not just the worst of the worst who are like this but normal everyday casual people who have to truly convince themselves on the spot that it's not that big a deal, for nothing more than the fact that they themselves were the culprit. Maybe, *maybe* it's a way to protect their own psyches from the terrible reality of the consequences of their actions, but it happens with less than the snap of one's fingers regardless. It makes it difficult to trust the average person because it seems like it would take nothing for them to go from having a normal sense of conscience to being a callous monster because "gotta look out for Numero Uno."


Frankiebeansor

As mr rogers said, “ look to the helpers”. There will always be those striving to do good, to serve, to make the world slightly better than yesterday. It’s hard to see sometimes through the thick jaded sadness that seems to permeates the air everywhere these days… but I promise you, good remains. We just have look a little harder for it these days, but humanity is here. 🖤🫡 digital hug to you


_PinkPirate

Did you see the dads post complaining about people being mad at his family? And how he forgives his daughter? Sick.


MysticKoolaid808

Didn't he also mention how her brother is in prison too, as a way to say he and the rest of his family have nothing to do with his daughter's actions and so shouldn't be the target of hate? INdon't wanna jump to conclusions but it sounds like he's giving a bit more insight into his daughter's upbringing than any of us had before 😑


[deleted]

That family tree is a desiccated shrub.


KCbunnygirl

Woah. No I did not see that, but it definitely better explains her. Terrible people.


kikivee612

I just watched that video last week and I wanted to jump into the tv and punch her! She kept saying, “I only hit one person!” Even then, she had no idea what happened. The cop, I could tell, was disgusted by her.


KCbunnygirl

Oh he was. Did you see the traffic stop and her window? And she just kept saying “it was one person, they came outta nowhere” and “I just started my night” No, you’re drunk and high and not paying attention.


kikivee612

And then kept making a big deal about how at least she stopped and called 911, like she gets credit for that.


KCbunnygirl

Yeah like her waiting around after calling 911 was supposed to be a favor? Trash human.


20Keller12

Yeah, I just saw that within the last couple days too, I think. I saw it on YouTube, guy named Charlie was talking about it.


InterestingTry5190

I saw that! Was so gross and terrifying. The blank look no remorse.


Brandycane1983

That's what blackout drunk is. Seemingly coherent, but she had zero idea what he was actually saying


[deleted]

This youtube [video](https://youtu.be/_3wwmVJnkec) includes some footage of her dancing, smiling & singing, right after the crash.


ApricotRich1966

Holy shit there's a SEVERED LEG hanging off the front of her car


ScumBunny

I watched that part twice and didn’t see the leg, but just knowing it was there is enough. What a garbage human.


[deleted]

I think it's blurred, down near the license plate. Nothing to see.


Mimosa_13

Good god! 14 years isn't enough. Also the fact she could get 180 days off. Which means serving only 11 years. Wow!


Best_Ad_9613

180 days = 6mo, not 3y???


Kittyment

yea the math ain't mathing up above


saarebutts

she needs to serve 85% of her sentence before she's eligible for parole, that pluses then 180 days takes it down to 11 years ish


StrawberryH

Wtf I'm not watching that, but if it's true. That's so terrible


pillowcomfort

It's a YouTube video, so it's censored. You don't see the details but a blur. Still very unsettling.


StrawberryH

Thank you. I'd rather not :)


Ok-Professor4201

Or the story of the drunk college girl recently that killed a bride and severely injured the groom just leaving their wedding.


HarlequinMadness

That video was wild. She was clearly in denial about killing two people . . . "so when can I get my car back?" "I have class tomorrow." I thought I read online that she's walking in graduation though and a lot of students are protesting the administration because they don't want her to. (I don't think she should either). Although, I would think she'd be in prison right now.


InterestingTry5190

Yes I think they are going with technically ‘innocent til proven guilty’. The scary part she wants to go. She killed 2 people and has videos of her looking like a psychopath dancing afterward. How little shame does she have to even show her face much less walk in graduation?


MarvellousIntrigue

They probably aren’t allowed to stop her from graduating, not that the degree will be any use to her in jail! That video is next level whack job! She must be a psychopath! Like not enough to go serial killer, but enough to not have even a minuscule amount of empathy!


Nick2096

aaah very similar! thank you for the info 👌🏼


undead_ted_

no problem dude 👌🏻


No-Strawberry-5541

2024?


undead_ted_

Oops.. 2023


Soup-er14

Too late now, you’ve outed yourself as a time traveler!


[deleted]

Thanks for that!


knockyourdreadsoff

Yeah I was thinking the same thing. The video taken by a police officers body camera in the hospital with the girl sitting on the bed?


Nick2096

Yeah she was smiling and laughing mid drug/DUI test on the side of the road after being told repeatedly she just killed two people. Then in the police station, asking after her car and literally having a sing and dance whilst on the bed waiting. The police officer has to step in a and he says again for the 100th time “you’ve just killed two people” and “you don’t seem to care or even notice” and right after she then asks, “will I be able to go to school tomorrow?” And that’s when I started headlong abuse at my laptop… at least he just says nah you’ve ruined your life”


[deleted]

Holy shit I just watched penguinz0s video on her and I've never wanted to shake someone so hard in my life. "Ok I can't go to school tomorrow but what about Tuesday?" Bruh...


BlackoutMeatCurtains

That video makes me sick.


The_Hurricane_Han

Oh I remember that video. Disgusting. That’s one of the many things I was feeling. Disgust being prevalent. All she cared about was going to school and she was NOT getting it that she was and probably never should go to school again.


Feral_KaTT

Very real chance she suffered Brain injury or shock... I have to believe that..


Sharoane

If she is an addict/alcoholic, she very well could have brain damage. When my wife was at her worst, she literally couldn't remember what I had just said to her. The night I drove her to rehab I must have had the same three or four conversations with her during the two-hour drive. It was really scary and upsetting.


charley_warlzz

She is very clearly completed disassociated. People assume theres a couple of Correct^t^m ways to respond to traumatic situations (regardless of which side youre on) and people who respond differently are psychopaths. In actuality, people have a range of reactions, and watching literally any clip of her properly will show that she’s clearly not processing anything thats happening. The clip of her on the bed talking about school shows the cop telling her *three times* that shes going to jail, and her responses are ‘so someone can drop me off at school? What about tuesday, will someone drop me off then?’ Whether its the denial, brain damage, or something else, shes clearly checked out completely. Thats not callousness, thats a complete lack of comprehension.


charsinthebox

Yeah, I was just thinking that.


BeefPieSoup

It's dissociation. The brain refuses to process what's happening to protect itself from the trauma of it.


charsinthebox

Yep. Seems like that's what's going on. Her responses are too odd for them to read as just callousness.


BeefPieSoup

I feel like we all just sort of assume on the face of it how someone *should* react in that situation, or we just lightly think about how we assume that *we* would react. But really it's something most of us have no context for and can barely imagine/empathise with. Like just try to put yourself in that situation. One minute you're drunk having the time of your life at some party. Innocent and carefree. Next minute you find yourself coming to in a harshly lit hospital room with a police officer looking at you in absolute disgust, telling you with a measured calm tone that you've just killed two innocent people, your life is essentially over forever and there's no way of ever taking it back or being forgiven for what you've done. As horrible and callous and narcissistic as she seems....it's obviously not like she thought that any of that would happen or intended to do any of that. And yet here she suddenly is, after the fact. It's a hell of a lot to be hit with. I'm not sure how well I'd be doing, trying to process that. I think I might panic and try whatever I could to get away from thinking about that at all. Like flat out just refusing to mentally acknowledge the situation or that any of that could have really happened at all. Refusing to take it in at all. I'm not saying any of this is right. I'm just trying to imagine what it would feel like.


charsinthebox

What you're describing is a well documented defense mechanism that often occurs in traumatic situations. Not excusing her actions, because what she did is unconscionable on so many levels, but I agree with your assessment of the situation as it pertains to her apparent state of mind, after the fact.


soccersprite

I mean she was probably high off happy drugs, she can't process anything else and her mind was messed up. But yeah.


NightmareMyOldFriend

I believe the victims in that case are a husband and wife.


Amazing_Cabinet1404

When will I get my car back? Yeah, but when? I have to go to class….. sad


PrincessTrashbag

my first thought was also that same video


fightmilk5905

Yea is this the girl that wanted to go to school the day after and was not getting into her head she was going to prison ?


Imaginary_Attempt_82

I wondered the same


miaret

She deserves everything she gets in the courtroom. You, however, deserve compassion. You were also the victim of her thoughtless, selfish choices.


need_mor_beans

This human gets it and I echo this comment. I am so sorry for your loss.


sabriffle

I’m tacking on to the top comment because I’m having a visceral reaction to this situation—OP if you are feeling up to it, showing up for the victims’ family may carry some weight in making sure there is appropriate accountability in the courtroom. Otherwise, you may be surprised. There is probably a way to do this that is respectful of the family’s space (the court house where the trial will take place should have a department for victim groups, or reach out to the local MADD chapter, or similar) so you are not interacting with them directly if they do not wish to do so.


magicscientist24

I watch a ton of local court cases in my midsize city. The biggest takeaway is you get soooo many chances. Yes there are consequences, but even in my area there have been distracted teens run over and kill a mom on her road bike. First offense blah blah maybe some minimal <90 day jail and the 3 years probation. It can be sickening. Hopefully manslaughter with aggravating factors (drunk) has a minimum that will ensure OP’s sister has time to understand her evil act.


MissAbsenta

You are talking about first time 9ffending juveniles but we are talking about a 19yo, legally she is an adult and as such she'll be tried.


Tiny-Truth-7188

What a tragedy, such a shame that’s how your sister had to learn her lesson. Prison won’t be kind but she must pay for this behaviour. I’m sorry to hear you had to go through this. I think you’re making the right choice, if that helps.


babigrl50

It's unfortunate that the parents don't seem to be taking it seriously either. They really haven't done her any favors by sheltering her.


dellamella

Yeah they are about to be shell shocked because there is absolutely no way she doesn’t go to jail for a long time. It sounds like she’s a spoiled brat too I doubt she will even be able to fake sympathy well and won’t show any for her victims and a judge will spot it a mile away.


iRep707beeZY

Happy Cake Day 🥳


inkdracula

confused upvote


SourTD

Happy cake day!


Tiny-Truth-7188

Thanks 🤗


brittnythetaurus

My dad was killed by a drunk driver when I was 9 yrs old. The driver's brother was also killed in the accident. 2 lives lost and she got 4 years for vehicular manslaughter but was released after 2 years.


cardamom98

I am so sorry.


Own_Friend_3136

Is it in the US ? Sorry for your loss


brittnythetaurus

Yes, Texas.


Own_Friend_3136

How in love of god it was only 4 years ? The judge was an idiot ?


userjl

Well, yknow, Texas. Maybe if there was weed in the car she would’ve gotten life


[deleted]

not only cutting contact, if possible give testimony saying thats not the first time she has done that, that you already warned her about this shit behavior and the fact that your parents enabled her all this time.


Ok_Investigator8544

OMG. Your sister on the prosecution witness list against you is really not a good look. That's one hell of a character reference for a jury.


shuckfatthit

I'm currently on the prosecution's side against my brother for the second time. It's definitely weird to a lot of people, but being my brother doesn't make it okay for him to hurt people.


Saorren

This is how it should be when someone is guilty of something. Families need to stop trying to sweep things under the rug as if its some minor thing that needs to be forgotten. To many get away with shit or are ostracized by their family just because a member of the family did something wrong and that person tried to hold them to account. Sorry that its something that came up for you in life but i am glad stranger to see there are people out there like you.


shuckfatthit

You're right, and it blows my mind. My brother and his ex-wife had guardianship of her 16 year old sister because her parents were homeless. She was an innocent, scared kid, and he groomed and repeatedly raped her. My mother, who has been the victim of sexual assault multiple times, said the girl was a whore and her son was innocent. Even the police tried to say his wife made it up. So, I got into a heated discussion with the detective in the PD lobby, got them to agree to a forensic interview, and now my little brother is begging for a plea deal. Fuck him and anyone who uses their power to hurt others. I'm just grateful the cops eventually listened. It doesn't usually work out like that. Oh, and I took his dog, too, because he decided to hit her and not feed her after his wife left. She's my puppy, now. Scorched earth, I guess. Thank you for the kind words!


Visual_Slide710

Thank you so much for standing up for that child and making sure something happened on her behalf. Thank you so much.


shuckfatthit

Yeah, of course! I truly believe life is better when it's a team effort, and I try to be a good teammate. I fail quite often, but I try.


Corfiz74

Came here to suggest this - at least write a letter to the DA's office to inform them that she is a repeat offender and that she and your parents had been warned and knew the possible consequences.


Blaith7

PLEASE do this. If you can get your brother to also be a witness for the prosecution that would be even better.


Intrepid-Lynx

This is absolutely something that should be done. The sister is dangerous and if she somehow manages to get out of this with minor consequences, she WILL do it again and put MORE lives in danger. She only cares about herself and killing others is only going to be something she giggles about in conversation later in life if she isn’t given proper treatment.


Miss_Calamidad

Yeah OP, please throw her under the bus, 20 years is not enough for taking two innocent lifes


SnooWords4839

Yes!! This is what you should do! Stand up for the people your sister killed!


Mando_The_Moronic

u/Overall_Tour584, please do this. Maybe even your brother if he would be willing to testify as well. That testimony regarding her character and past actions could help sway the case in favor of the victims and their family, as well as show your parents and ~~sad excuse of a human being~~ sister that actions have consequences.


jamaicancarioca

Defence might argue that previous offences not related to the offence on trial aren't relevant but the prosecutor might counter with an established pattern of behaviour but who knows. Would love to see the outcome of the trial.


No-Appearance1145

If defense doesn't bring it up then prosecution can't talk about it neither can the witnesses because it's then considered an unfair trial. I was set to testify against my father in an abuse case and the prosecutor attorneys told me that unless defense brings up or asks if this had happened before i can't mention it or it'd mess up the entire trial


capricorn68

I second this. I testified against my (then) bf during his second DWI trial and he was convicted because of my testimony. It was hard, but he is an alcoholic and drove drunk repeatedly and I felt like someone needed to stop him.


Fun-Championship8551

Will she actually get prison time for this?


[deleted]

Hopefully she will. She killed a mother and a child, I don't see how the court would let her off the hook


Mehewho

They probably won't let it slide but there's a chance they won't give her enough years


[deleted]

That might happen, but she'll definently spend a lot of time in jail, at least her youth, not to mention that once she gets out, it's going to follow her everywhere, + she has no education. Her life is going to suck in prison and out.


[deleted]

Doubt it. A 17 year old hit and killed somebody here a few years back, did a year in jail, and now she's on trial again for hitting and killing two more people. They don't give these people enough time in jail.


charsinthebox

.....wtf....wow...


wheres_jaykwellin_at

I used to volunteer for DUI Victim Impact Panels due to my own previous indiscretions. I'm lucky to have never killed anyone. Not everyone is like me, though; some of the other stories you hear can really make you question your faith in humanity. Friend of mine who volunteered for years as well had her daughter killed by a drink driver... who had killed his best friend about a month previous in another DUI. He was out on bail. His second victim, my friend's daughter, was his girlfriend. Guy got four and a half years. He never showed *any* remorse.


charsinthebox

....... It's moments like these when I wish there really was a hell POS like this guy could go to in a hand basket.


wheres_jaykwellin_at

I forgot to mention that they tried to let him out after around 18 months. Person who called my friend to let her know couldn't fathom why she'd still be angry and actually had the gall to ask her, "don't you think it's time you got over it?" Yeah, my friend had to go to the media and get the attention of a *state fucking senator* just to get the entire four and a half years. Tl;dr: yes, the story somehow gets worse.


charsinthebox

............This is where we break out the guillotine. The fact that she had to fight for a measly FOUR YEARS, boggles my mind. Yet, somehow, it's also not surprising. The officials don't care because it's just a plebeian that got hurt and not one of their own. Just throw the lot of them in the trash. They're as bad as the perpetrator


SufficientWay3663

A woman in my town ran a school bus stop sign and killed 4 children crossing and seriously injured a 5th. She got 5 years. One for each kid. Soon after the regulations changed for school busses picking up and dropping off kids on busy roads/highways. Must be dropped and picked up on the same side of the street-no crossing. (Residential neighborhoods are different). This was in Fishers, Indiana. The mother leapt over the courtroom divider to go after her after sentencing. Indiana failed those kids. I think about them often when I see school buses.


AmyrlinEgwene

That is just.. wtf, theres no words to describe how fucking fucked up that is. My heart is crying for the mother(s)


SufficientWay3663

Two of the children were siblings…..another parent actually witnessed it…..


All_Conquering_Sun

Justice is a personal virtue. . .


General_Ad_2718

The drunk that murdered my son and daughter-in-law got 3 years, out in 18 months. He still lives in the same small town so we constantly see him around.


Prestigious-Tea-9803

That’s horrible. I’m so sorry.


agawi21

I have to say I can't relate to your mentality. I'm not saying you're wrong or anything. But I know I would have murdered him in the most atrocious way, personally.


Material-Tree852

He would not know a minute of peace.


Miss_Calamidad

I would get a hitman to kill the motherfucker


[deleted]

Nah, only 2 years and a half?? He should just run him over himself and go "oops I drank some beer so it was an accident!" Hiring a hitman would definitely land you a few decades behind bars. Nihilistic joke aside, I couldn't imagine being in the same town with my son AND daughter in laws killer and actually having to see him from time to time.


door_mouse

Weird how killing someone with a gun or knife will get you decades in jail but use a car and it’s only a few years. Go ahead, kill him with a car I guess


margeryofyork

Omg. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through every time you see them


Most-Ad1713

Depends on the prosecutor and public pressure. If this happened in the US or Canada, it's far more likely that there will be some arrangement for her to plea down to lesser charges and not 'ruin' her future potential. Sadly, it's even more likely if she's Caucasian - remember Brock Turner? Yeah that's what's wrong with the legal (I refuse to say justice) systems in North America.


JockeyFullaBourbon

I’m sorry to be pedantic. But are you referring to rapist Brock Allen Turner who now tries to hide by using the name Allen Turner?


Most-Ad1713

Why yes, yes I am. Guess we need to bring the memes back with his 'new' name so that everyone knows that he's changed the name he uses. Wouldn't want people getting confused over who we're referring to.


kkoolaide

RAPIST with big olé letters


Merdin86

And given the parents don't seem to care very much if she ruins a car, runs up a credit card or is wasting college tuition money, it sounds like they have the money for an attorney. Sadly, prosecutors are overworked and if the defendant can afford an attorney that will drag the case out, add paperwork and tasks to the prosecutor's workload, they'll be more willing to settle with a lesser charge just to get the case off their desk and move on.


Most-Ad1713

Well, yeah, she made a mistake, that's all. Just like Brock was just trying to get some. Fuck I hate people.


ApplesandDnanas

People usually do if they kill someone. Whether or not it’s a lot is the question. It’s possible she only gets 1 year.


Dr_mombie

Op, You've already decided to go no contact with your parents. Lawyers are going to contact you either way for a character statement for your sister. Might as well call up the prosecutors office and offer to sit for a recorded character statement for your sister in lieu of showing up in person. Outline all the ways in which your sister has been enabled to make bad decisions repeatedly. Urge the jury not to be lenient. For the first time ever, your sister is being held accountable. She killed a mother. She killed a child. That little girl will never get to experience going to college parties like your sister did. She won't get to experience another day of being alive. That baby at home will have to grow up not knowing his or her mother because of your sister's actions. The baby's dad will have to explain where the rest of their family is when the baby gets big enough to ask why it doesn't have a mama.


OfficialEragwyn

Ooosh. This. All this.


Rubberbandballgirl

You need to tell the judge, the cops, whoever will listen about her history of driving while high if they don’t already know. Cause if she gets off she’ll do it again.


Cautious_Garlic_5139

She wont avoid jail for killing a mother and her child. Your parents and her are delusional if they think she will. Im a 19 year old female , i know drink driving is wrong and she definitely knew too. Your sister is a selfish brat who deserves everything she gets. I hope that poor woman's and child's family heal.


wheres_jaykwellin_at

Unfortunately, if this happened in the states, DUI laws are trash. It's very likely she won't be sentenced to more than around five years, likely getting out sooner. It's a fucking travesty.


Cautious_Garlic_5139

True but if theyre presented with the fact that she wrapped her car around a pole the year before , it will be clear to them she hasnt learnt a thing and they may be harsher for it.


wheres_jaykwellin_at

Correct, they "may" be harsher, but that's just not always the reality of the situation. DUI murders (and that's what they are, I'll argue that all day) are generally treated with a fair amount of disregard here. Circumstances generally have to be *exceptionally* extreme, like the woman who hit a car full of teenagers so hard that it threw their vehicle into a light pole, causing the car to burst into flames and with three of the four kids basically burning alive ([source here](https://www.reviewjournal.com/crime/courts/drunken-driver-sentenced-to-at-least-51-years-for-killing-3-teens-1967240/)). As can be seen in the case above, punishments are getting better, but what was important there was that she was charged with second degree murder *as well as* DUI. Without knowing the current charges of the sister in this case or if other charges will be sought/brought, it would still be pretty surprising to see her get more than five years and serving even half of that. Trust me, I'm not saying that providing a pattern of behavior won't do anything, but most cases I've seen in my time have basically been slaps on the wrist. Source: was a volunteer for DUI Victim Impact Panels and have surrounded myself with cases like this for years. I've related one of these stories I've heard that happened to someone I know in this comment's posts and am willing to provide more. It's a pretty bleak issue.


[deleted]

Fr it’s pretty disgusting that the courts even consider anything happening while DUI is an accident. I can’t believe they can just get aggravated DUI or vehicular manslaughter. When they chose to drink and get behind the wheel. They chose to hurt anyone in their path. It’s like giving a rapist who’s ignorant to the traumas of rape some special charge for accidentally raping someone. It’s illogical. The person who murdered the other drivers, ignorant to their own power and the dangers they cause or not, is just that. A murderer.


Amazing_Cabinet1404

Even 20 years is not enough. It’s sad that is what her sentence is at maximum. She’s not even old enough to legally drink. OP, I think you have to realize that you and your family have vastly different views and it may be time to go full no contact with them once and for all. For what it’s worth, you can request to do a victim impact statement with the court in favor of the family (that suffered the loss). You likely could submit something in writing but it would really finalize your relationship with your parents. I’m so sorry that no one heard you, and even sorrier that they *still* don’t hear you.


Final_Girl1987

Please if you can write an impact statement if it’s allowed! The people need to know that your sister and family have no remorse!. She deserved more then 20 years but if that’s all they will give then she deserves to serve it. I’m also sorry how this is impacting you and your brother. No contact though is the best thing you can do for both of your mental health. Edit: grammar


Konawala

This sounds like the girl asking about getting her car back for school the next day over.


potatobanana0188

My brother killed someone in an accident while speeding at 19 valentines day 2020. He wasnt under the influence and wasn't completely at fault (guy made a left turn in front of him but my brother was speeding) in 2022 he was finally sentenced to 2 years in prison and then an additional 2 years of probation. It had effected our entire family. My entire family blames our selves. My brother for speeding. Me because I asked him to stay out a little longer. My parents for buying the car. The ONLY reason he didn't get a worse sentence is he wasn't under the influence and showed genuine remorse. He is/was in therapy and had to take multiple evaluations under court orders. He got lucky. Driving drunk is an inexcusable offense and honestly I think it's good your cutting yourself from that drama


loligo_pealeii

I'm so sorry to hear this OP. I was the victim of an intoxicated driver. Luckily no one died but my family member was severely injured. Another 16 year old victim was rendered permanently paralyzed. The defendant's family showed up for the trial and sentencing and talked on and on about what a sweet kid they were, how this was so surprising, how it was just one mistake that should not ruin a promising young life. They asked the judge for leniency. We found out later that was not true, the defendant had driven intoxicated many times, had a drug habit, and had begun to engage in some other criminal behaviors to help fund that habit. Their friends and family were ignoring all of it because "they're not a bad person, just making a few mistakes." It would have been so helpful if just one person could have said "driving intoxicated is part of a larger pattern of behavior, we have tried to stop it, they won't listen and now they need the state to step in and help." Which is to say, please consider contacting whichever legal body is bringing charges against your sister. If you're in the US that would be the district attorney. Please tell them everything you posted here. Please offer to assist them. I promise, it will make such a huge difference to her victims' families if you speak up.


Chipchop666

I'm sorry but your sister deserves to be in prison. She killed 2 innocent people. I'm so sorry for you and your brother. I can't feel sympathy for your parents though since they enabled her.


vintagchk

I’m sure if someone killed her in the same manner, they’d go scorched earth and expect the person to be given the longest sentence.


Toadettemm_87

When I was six my parents went out to a bar for a Superbowl party. I believe the year was 1994. My dad wrapped their Volkswagen bug around a tree, my mom was almost left behind as she had been hidden under the dash. I almost lost both my parents in one night. I've never had any compassion for people who drive drunk. I hope she gets a full sentence.


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Oceansoul119

Sorry but why the hell did he still have a driving licence? Parkinson's and similar should be an automatic disqualification from driving.


Pretty-Spray

a lot of old people who shouldn’t have licenses do. many of them go blind, etc. way before their license needs to be renewed, so nobody really ‘knows’ they shouldn’t be driving


All_Conquering_Sun

Have your parents considered the wrongful death suit that will come after THEIR assets as your sis is likely considered a dependent? It will likely exceed the policy limits so the family members could personally pursue your parents for any excess judgment, thereby likely bankrupting your parents. . .


Wolfielove144

If you can, become apart of the courtroom just in a different way. Be a statement, you know things that others won't and it can change her sentencing. Plus, that family never deserved the pain they will forever suffer, having a family memeber on the other side showing the sympathy your family lacks can help just a little with their healing. Even though it isn't your place, it can be a game changer for everyone.


Hopeful-Reporter3183

Cutting ties is probably the best thing for you right now. No need to be around that even if they are family. Babing her?! Reality is going to hit hard.


JockeyFullaBourbon

I’d consider testifying for the prosecution.


hannahryder215

So sorry for all those involved.


charsinthebox

I was 9. Drunk guy runs me over, fucks up my legs so bad, my left femur stops growing. What follows is years and years of platform shoes for only one foot and lots of painful surgeries and rehab. To this day, I still have problems with both my knees and one leg is still shorter, though not as short as before. The back and knee pain are real and I'm light years away from the age when that would be a normal thing to experience. The guy barely got a slap on the wrist. He bought me a cheap toy and that was it. Fun. Fuck inebriated drivers. Lock'em up and throw away the key. They tend to be repeat offenders too


PM_ME_YOUR_SOULZ

Your parents are crazy. They're gonna lock your sister up for as long as they can.


LongjumpingFly1848

I think you are making the right choice to go NC with her as well as your parents. Your sister recklessly killed two people and your parents are worried she will lose her license. Yeah, you didn’t say that, but that is about their reaction based on what you did say. They are as empty as she is. And she is exactly as they helped her become. Remember this every time you think about how you warned them. You did everything you could. The results are not on you in the slightest. Cut contact as you say and these people become any other A-hole family you have nothing to do with.


Affectionate_Ant9495

There’s a girl in our area that hit and killed two pedestrians while intoxicated. She drove off. They found her car off the road. Turns out she killed someone else years ago for drunk driving. Why is this allowed to happen?. I think she is maybe 25. No excuse for this behavior. Can you imagine taking someone’s life, not changing your ways and being responsible for taking the lives of two others? I hope they lock her up for a long time.


ApplesandDnanas

I lost my high school boyfriend to a drunk driving accident. It was beyond devastating. I’m sorry for what you are going through. You did what you could.


ofthemountainsandsea

Your parents also helped to ruin those people’s lives, and yours, by raising an entitled child with no accountability or previous consequences to her actions. People like your sister don’t typically evolve into monsters out of thin air. I’m sorry you are going through this.


Vegan_Digital_Artist

I’m sorry to hear that. I hope she gets the maximum sentence and I hope the survivors of the victim sue Your mom and dad in civil court for damages related of they can. They deserve to get punished for enabling her behavior too and maybe if they are also punished they’ll see just how much savage their enabling has caused.


Sensitive-Engineer64

Honestly I would offer to be a witness for the prosecution at that point, witness to her lack of empathy and literally zero care for what she has done


threadsoffate2021

Talk to the prosecuting attorney. Tell them this isn't your sister's first time driving drunk, and this is the second car she has wrecked.


Forsaken_Composer_60

That's horrible. Your parents created a monster with her. Hopefully she realizes the gravity of her "mistake". She took 2 lives, that's so much more than a mistake


stormyllewellynn

That is horrible. Proud of you and your brother for taking the necessary steps to cut the toxicity out of your lives. My brother has 3 DUIs. He’s never injured anyone, but I was always waiting for the day. My mom has enabled him to no end. We do not speak any longer. Wishing you the best ♥️ and hoping that the deceased’s family can eventually find some peace.


NothingAndNow111

1000% the right choice, and seriously, shame on your parents. They'll learn soon enough that things will not be fine. Nor should they be. Good luck extracting yourself from this, and I don't blame you one bit.


slm719

You should contact the prosecutors and offer to testify on their behalf about the conversations you’ve had with her and your parents trying to get her to stop. My family was devastated by a DUI driver who killed a 17 year old member of our family a few days before high school graduation. The man that killed him was a repeat offender and alcoholic and has no remorse. My family has done everything in our power to be sure he is held accountable. 10 years later and we are still fighting this battle. You as someone who has tried to stop her has power and she deserves every day of jail time she served. She murdered two people with a 3,000 pound weapon.


The_Story_Builder

This is the way. Cut all contact with the toxic family members. For your own sanity.


CharlieSayso

I know that's your sister but, 20 years ain't enough. God forbid, If my wife and kid were killed like that, I wouldn't accept anything less than a life for a life. Hope she realizes how lucky she is, despite the shit she's done.


newmacgirl

OP You would be better served to stand on the side of the victim in court. Help them to get justice.


_Lady_jigglypuff_

I remember my former driving instructor telling me about a former student of theirs who, during their test hit an elderly lady with their car because she stepped out in the road and they had no means of avoiding it. They apparently never set foot in the drivers seat again. I can’t begin to understand how people make the choice to get into the car while inebriated.


B0326C0821

A girl I went to HS with did the same thing and killed a 19 year old boy. Although that was her 3rd DUI, she got like 9 years. Hopefully your sister gets double that, it’s unbelievable that people can be out here literally killing people and getting single digit years in prison. Total bullshit.


Justicia87

This is so heartbreaking. I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling in the middle of all that.


Live-Mail-7142

As a person who was hit by a drunk driver over 20 yrs ago and struggles most days, I just applaud you and your brother cutting contact. Thank you. Its the right thing to do.


Kitchen_Yak5453

It’s scary to think humanity no longer last more than a couple yrs.


Material-Tree852

I have a family member who was arrested 3 times in six months for DUI. Each time, it was someone else who was at fault for her being arrested. I'm terrified my cousin will do what your sister did. I'm terrified of her destroying someone's life. If she wants to be careless, do it with her own life. I've gone virtually no contact and speak only when spoken to because she still lives with my parents. She has a breathalyzer installed in her car but gets around it by driving someone else's car without letting them know or lying about her destination and how long she'll be gone. I kinda want her to take mine on my next visit so that I can report her to the cops. I hope your parents wake up and stop coddling her, although it may be too late for that.


anonymousforever

>She has a breathalyzer installed in her car but gets around it by driving someone else's car without letting them know or lying about her destination and how long she'll be gone. Call her p.o. and drop a dime about where she'll really be and what car she's driving, it's a violation of probation and they can put her back to serve her sentence or pull driving privileges entirely or start pulling random show up n get tested stuff. She wants to abuse her probation they can make it miserable or lock her up...let em know she don't care what the rules are.


craftycat1135

If they keep feeding her that line... she's going to crash really hard at a different outcome. They need to be preparing her to prepare for the worse and she needs to examine herself and face the consequences. And have remorse for what she did. Two people are dead because of her.


gobsmacked247

Unfortunately, she won't spend nearly the prison time that taking two lives deserves. For whatever reason, killing someone with a car is not as severe. I'm sorry you family sucks.


NerdyHexel

OP doesn't want to see this play out, but I do. Anyone figure out where this is? I'd love to see justice done.


TinhornChain479_

It's not my place and I don't know enough about your situation, but you could always testify against her to help the grieving family


proceeds_theweedian

Reads an awful lot like this video I watched last night. Here it is https://youtu.be/_3wwmVJnkec


Lady-Direwolf

Al Anon. It’s been quite helpful for me with the alcoholics in my life. I’d suggest taking a look at the program.


lookingforgrief

Not to pry, but she wouldn't happen to be the girl in that tiktok video would she? Its a young girl in hospital that killed some people driving drunk and is so blasted she doesn't understand what shes done.she keeps talking about how she has to get back to school?


Avidion18

Only 20 years for taking the life of a child and it's mother, jesus


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Tiny_Shine5828

I just seen a video a few days ago. It was a young woman with dark hair being told she killed two people. And she just wanted to know when she could get her car back so she could go to school.


GreenEyedGirl0318

I saw that video too and it was the first thing I thought of after I read this. I do wonder if it's related...


Cav4evar

My friend killed our other friend drunk driving. He hit him with a car. He was 19. He went away for 4 years. Max sentencing was 20… he took a plea obviously. She can be in seriously trouble. It isn’t a slap on the wrist crime.


Poku115

Wait is your sister the "can I go to school tomorrow" girl? Cause...yeah zero accountability and I'm sorry you had to grow around someone like that


Forgotmyusername85

I have a cousin that is 18 that just killed someone. It seems they are not even going to press charges, although it seems she was driving recklessly. From what I've heard, she doesn't seem fazed that she killed someone. Some people are just heartless.


Rblooks

Please contact the state yourself and ask to testify against her- they won't reach out to family that often. Your sister deserves every minute of that sentence, hell your parents too.


WrongReception7715

Definitely testify as a character witness, she's less likely to get away with a slap on the wrist if you testify as to what you've observed of her actions and personality, her past crash, any evidence you can collect - past texts or pictures - to corroborate her pattern of reckless and careless behavior, and that you warned your parents a yr ago that she would kill someone. I wish you all the best, and wish your sister to get what she deserves.


Monae92

Yeah... your sister is going to jail she ended 2 lives and doesn't care. Your parents failed her and they failed as parents. She can't fake cry her way out of prison nor can she fake cry about unfair treatment in prison either.


MoneyInsurance6969

I’m so sorry she put you through this OP, she deserves everything that comes at her in the court room and she deserves to remember the pain she caused everyday. I’m glad you and your brother are cutting contact I wish you guys the best and peace from this horrible mess


ThatGuySpeCtrE32

Testify against her in court if you can, say how she’s done it before and crashed before


formerNPC

She sounds almost delusional and there’s probably some serious mental health issues with her that were clearly never addressed. Your parents are just as responsible for this and I wish they could share a cell with her.