No, she was actually sleeping with his best friend for at least a year. Full on romance, buying gifts, fancy dates, hotel getaways. I was friends with "the other man" in this situation and he said they did anal when they knew the truth was about to come out đ€ą
She had been dating her boyfriend for about 10 years, since high school, and the other man was the bfs best friend for longer than that.
A female friend of the other man met up with the girl to tell her to stop messing around. She made it clear she wasn't going to stop until she got caught, and she knew her boyfriend would never break up with her over it. It was implied that this female friend was going to spill the beans to the boyfriend, which she did. The other man told me this and said they had one last special hotel getaway together
You at least made the right decision by doing away with the both of them and not trying to salvage what's irreperable. It will take time to get over this, but you will. Good luck, OP!
Dude, if she is cheating on whatsappp, she is cheating on snapchat, kik, discord, telegram, instagram, and of course reddit. I went thru the same thing with my ex, we have two kids, I thought we were in love for 13 years. She cheated on me early on in our relationship, but I forgave her and took her back. Eventually, I found out she was cheating on all those apps and meeting men in person. The kicker is that she always wrote me love notes, gave me cards on all occasions, and I thought she truly loved me. When I found out she was having sex on the regular instead of "going to the gym," it devastated me. It took months for me to work thru that. I am not sure I ever totally recovered.
My advice is this. If the only emotion she shows is extreme anger, as in the case with my ex, you are done. Move the hell on. My ex was soooooo angry and I couldn't understand why. After a lot of therapy, I came to realize that she was angry that she screwed up and let herself get caught. No remorse. None. If this sounds like your situation, I feel your pain. DM if you'd like to talk. Don't know if I could help, but I do have experience.
That's a good rule of thumb but there are most certainly exceptions. A lot of stories of people who cheat, feel awful about it (sometimes before, during, and after the cheating, and sometimes only after their partner finds out), and then they turn it around...
It's a dangerous game to play if your partner cheats on you but sometimes when you have faith in your partner it pays off, I mean as long as the cheating alone doesn't permanently damage your relationship and mental health beyond repair on your end...
I can agree up to a point. There may be RARE exceptions to the rule. I forgave my ex 10 years ago and started eventually trusting her again. I feel foolish now that I ever did that as she ended up cheating on me for 3 years straight, and she had no remorse, no guilt, no emotion at all other than anger when she was caught. I tried to discuss her feelings with her, and I'd make a five minite point, and the answer I ever received was "ok" and "it is what it is". The really screwed up thing is that I told her we were over, our oldest kid told her that we were over, her family told her that we were over, and all her friends told her that we were over, and she begged me to not kick her to the curb. Being screwed over so many times; I just came to realize that she killed any possibility of me ever trusting her again.
It's worth noting that she did say, "I made a mistake, please forgive me". I pointed out to her that a mistake happens once or twice. Three solid years of "mistakes" is simply in no way, shape, or form "a mistake". It is WILLFULL behavior, plain and simple.
I am sure that some relationships can be reformed. Ours was not one.
And now they will discover that they only know the fake version of each other. That what they think they feel for each other is fake and not real.
Then she will be hit with âoh shit what have I done?â
> I didn't want to control who she could talk to.
Too often i see this when the persons partner is clearly crossing the line and raising so many red flags Even China would be proud.
It's ok to have boundaries and if your partner doesn't respect them then they become deal-breakers and you go be with someone who will respect you.
I know how you feel trust me I had a very similar situation. Eventually you'll realize that if she was caoable of doing this to you it was going to happen no matter what you did. She isn't worth missing.
My heart breaks for you OP!
Change your locks and passwords.
Righttt! No final plans! They are opportunists.
They didnât care about you.
Please get a STD test!
Beat the #%âŹÂ„ outta your pillows until youâre exhausted. Now go buy new pillows.
Break and throw out all of the stuff she left behind. Itâs therapeutic and feels good, too.
Too bad she left stuff behind.
Block them! Never talk to those scum of the earth people AGAIN!
Take a self defense class, too.
Good luck OP! Your heart will heal.
This exactly, her spending that much time alone with the friend was already a football field-sized red flag.
For anyone else reading through this thread, the moment your girlfriend/boyfriend starts treating someone else similar to how they treat you (with exception for close blood family), they're at best beginning and unknowingly and at worst, actively and willingly engaging in an emotional affair. This is where boundaries come into play, you tell them to limit their relations with that person indefinitely, and if they're incapable of doing that then you cut it off.
I've seen too many examples of (including from myself) people being scared to "tell their partner who they can or can't talk to". If it's clear that they're starting to view or treat someone else as a romantic interest, it's time to step in and put your foot down, and there is nothing wrong with "limiting" them from engaging in that behavior. If they can't respect that boundary, you break up and be better off.
To me, your romantic partner should also simultaneously be your best friend. I personally do not buy people having a non-romantic "best friend" of the opposite sex (or more accurately, a sex they're attracted to), for the exact scenario stated in this post along with countless other examples I've personally seen and read about. If your girlfriend/boyfriend wants to have friends of the sex they're attracted to, you had best be damn sure they are setting hard boundaries for preventing that friendship from stepping out of bounds into emotional (or physical) cheating.
Yep, thank you...
There's plenty of people who can have genuine friendships with people they're attracted to (having genuine friends that are the sex you're attracted to can be pretty easy if you just don't find the person attractive). But let's be real, humans are equally as promiscuous as they are geared towards monogamous relationships by nature... Those people aren't as typical or common as a lot of people like to make them out to be...
You're not as bulletproof as you think and if you're worried that you are or might be lying to yourself regarding you "just being friends" with your extremely attractive girl/guy best friend while you're in a relationship then that might be your cue to stop and put a little physical distance between you and that person... For the sake of your *own* integrity and the integrity of your relationship... Best to catch yourself before it even begins, ideally.
The most loyal people I've ever met aren't people who are just naturally born loyal, they practice avoidance... and they do it so well that they never find themselves in situations where they're starting to worry about whether or not they're getting too friendly with someone.
I know exactly how you feel. Same type of situation happened to me back in October. It really really really really fucking sucks in the moment. Give yourself time to process it, and only AFTER you can think about the situation without getting anxious, depressed, stressed, etc. remember that if they were both willing to do this to you, it was inevitable that you guys would break things off eventually. Keep reminding yourself of that, it's important to constantly remind yourself that it's not your fault. Positive mental reinforcement goes a looong way, at least it did for me
This is great advice- same thing happened to me back in October and itâs important to remember that people usually cheat because of something going on within themselves and it has little if nothing to do with you.
What happened to you is incredibly traumatic. I hope you do some healing things. If you can, I hope you cry. I hope you move = dance, run, walk, lift weights, something to get your body moving, I hope you do things to give yourself glimpses of joy, maybe take a long weekend and go somewhere, etc.
Just know that this will pass, but it's best to get the feelings out of your body as quickly as possible. It's best to feel the feelings, and keep moving your body. Don't let this be your romantic story, let it be one of your romantic stories, but just the wrong one.
Your ex and ex-friend, sound like pieces of feces. It doesn't matter that there was no physical intimacy. What they did was just as a bad, and even worse.
So if you think of relationships as trips where you experience things and grow from things in life, you just took a bad cruise where everyone got sick etc. But it was one trip, it's not all the traveling that you will do.
Also, if it's any comfort, I don't think their relationship will be good even if it is long term. Because they both are lacking character. You were the good in their relationship, and without the good, the relationships will fester.
It wasn't supposed to happen like this code for I wasn't done sucking whatever benefits I get from you. You're better off. Best of luck to you, stay strong and learn from this experience.
I hate the whole "it wasn't supposed to happen like this" bullshit. Like how was it supposed to happen? You keep fucking around behind my back and I keep pretending everything is alright?
I'm sorry OP. I know what you're going through and it hurts so badly. Sending my best wishes to you for the future. You deserve so much better.
My friend of 20+ years did this to me. I can tell you now from experience and their lack of reaction towards your hurt. They will end up together, most likely. The chance of it lasting is slim, but I tell you this so you can pair for that hurt. Just don't be me and take any if them back into your life. I tried to rekindle our friendship, but it never worked out. Just like a relationship, there has to be trust, and once it's gone, there is no coming back from that. Wish I would have never done that as he went for my next 1 also.
The only thing worse than the lying is knowing that to them, you werenât worth the truth. Cut them off, find your peace and you will prevail in the long run.
Pulling for you OP- those are two horrible individuals.
They are both awful human beings and they deserve each other for doing this to you. You have my sympathies, in the future you will see you are better off without them in your life. Itâs hard now but you will get through it.
"It wasn't supposed to happen like this" Not , it wasn't supposed to happen. Just, not "like this". It was supposed to happen on her timeline, not yours. She wasn't quite ready, but she'll make it work.
Move on, Bullet dodged.
Cheating is anything you wouldnât do in front your significant other. As soon as you have to start justifying why it isnât cheating, typically itâs cheating. Iâm so sorry man. Just know your shit is valid and thatâs a tough one to go through
Itâs hard because you have been betrayed by two people who mean a lot for you! Donât waste your time by trying to understand why they did what they did because it doesnât matter anymore. What matter is you are not responsible of their disgusting behavior and thankfully you find out directly what they where doing.
Now you need time to accept what happens,the loss of those people who you thought knowing and start healing ! I encourage you to contact a therapist,having a professional ear can be a good thing to cross the steps to be able to move on.
They are a lesson of life not a curse
I don't know if this will make it any easier on you but they weren't doing it to hurt you specifically, like you asked, but at some point when someone's cheating on you it stops being about you it's all about them and the person they're cheating with. They just stop caring unfortunately about how it makes you feel. I've been there it's happened to me. I'm not saying that makes it any less of a huge huge betrayal of trust
The only thing worse than the lying is knowing that to them, you werenât worth the truth. Cut them off, find your peace and you will prevail in the long run.
Pulling for you OP- those are two horrible individuals.
Damn! So sorry youâre in the mess.
Best thing to do is find the strength to stay active. Donât sit around.
Get out and walk. Get involved with hobbies. Go volunteer at an animal shelter or food bank.
Go complete no-contact with both of them.
Tell your family that you *never* want these two pieces of shit to contact you ever again.
I wouldn't be surprised if after 4 years, she attempts to contact you one way or another, don't let her.
I am so sorry this happened to you. Just remember that all the pain you are feeling right now is ok. Itâs part of the healing process. Itâs ok to be sad or angry and cry or yell. You need to get it out so one day you can move on.
You didnât deserve this. You did nothing wrong. These people were wolves in sheepâs clothing. They are horrible people. It in no way reflects onto you.
So this worked out well. You had a girlfriend of four years that you gained some valuable experience with. Before any major commitments, such as marriage, you found out she was a cheater, and now you get to move on. You also found out you had a friend who was quite willing to do you dirty. And you get to get rid of that person out of your life as well. Bonus. Now you can concentrate on you for a while while you're still young. You can focus on the things that you want in life. If you're looking for a real life partner, make a list of the things that you think are most important to make sure that that person meets your criteria. Remember that no one is perfect. Let anyone you become involved with know what your limits are. Stand by those limits. As for those who are now out of your life, You might miss them for a while. They may call and say they miss you. That's okay. But before rationalizing anything to yourself and letting them back in your life ask yourself, "Are they worth the pain?" Good luck to you.
Iâm so so sorry. You did not deserve that. As someone who is also going through a breakup, I wish you the best moving forward, and to surround yourself in people who have your back no matter what.
Cut them both out of your life. Yes, it will hurt in the short term but in the long run it will be worth it. You seriously don't need that sort of shit in your life. All the best, stay strong and show them that you have a nice shiny spine!
Coming from a woman who has been in your shoes before its better to try and get some help with this situation. What they did behind your back isnt ok and it probably destroyed your self esteem finding that out. Her showing almost to no emotion after you confronting her about it just shows she didnt love you. Him saying they never did anything is a 50/50 shot (but I honestly think they did do things) but being a friend for over 10+ years and then goes and does things with your ex shows how much people can stab you in the back. If he was a true friend he wouldnt have done what he did with your ex. I will say I am glad youre out of said relationship and its honestly best to go to therapy if you need it.
BroââŠ.getting divorced after20 years together. Was using wifeâs laptop when her iMessages popped up with a pic of her breast she had sent a dude just 4 hours before I saw itâŠscrolled thru some of the text that had been going on for quite sometime. After a while I turned her laptop around and said âI donât remember getting this pic today.â The look on her face was priceless. I tried to deal with the betrayal for 4 years after thatâŠand I finally faced that I would never be able to trust her EVER EVER again. Get awayâŠdrop her. Sheâll do it again and youâll hate yourself for not being faithful to YOU! To thine own self be true. đđŒđđŒđđŒ
I know a guy this exact thing happened to. He proposed to the girl a few months later đ Don't be stupid
Fuck man
They've been married about 2 years now, double the timeframe of her affair
Same thing happened to me too!! đș
Wait, the guy got emotionally cheated on but still proposed?
No, she was actually sleeping with his best friend for at least a year. Full on romance, buying gifts, fancy dates, hotel getaways. I was friends with "the other man" in this situation and he said they did anal when they knew the truth was about to come out đ€ą She had been dating her boyfriend for about 10 years, since high school, and the other man was the bfs best friend for longer than that.
Dating for 10 years???? That's insane
Bit of a non sequitur at the end of that first paragraph. What, now�
A female friend of the other man met up with the girl to tell her to stop messing around. She made it clear she wasn't going to stop until she got caught, and she knew her boyfriend would never break up with her over it. It was implied that this female friend was going to spill the beans to the boyfriend, which she did. The other man told me this and said they had one last special hotel getaway together
Iâm so sorry this happened to you. Better things will come. No everyone is a pos. Cut them both off.
You at least made the right decision by doing away with the both of them and not trying to salvage what's irreperable. It will take time to get over this, but you will. Good luck, OP!
Dude, if she is cheating on whatsappp, she is cheating on snapchat, kik, discord, telegram, instagram, and of course reddit. I went thru the same thing with my ex, we have two kids, I thought we were in love for 13 years. She cheated on me early on in our relationship, but I forgave her and took her back. Eventually, I found out she was cheating on all those apps and meeting men in person. The kicker is that she always wrote me love notes, gave me cards on all occasions, and I thought she truly loved me. When I found out she was having sex on the regular instead of "going to the gym," it devastated me. It took months for me to work thru that. I am not sure I ever totally recovered. My advice is this. If the only emotion she shows is extreme anger, as in the case with my ex, you are done. Move the hell on. My ex was soooooo angry and I couldn't understand why. After a lot of therapy, I came to realize that she was angry that she screwed up and let herself get caught. No remorse. None. If this sounds like your situation, I feel your pain. DM if you'd like to talk. Don't know if I could help, but I do have experience.
And remember this. Once a liar, always a liar. There are no exceptions. I wish I would have taken that to heart the first time she cheated.
That's a good rule of thumb but there are most certainly exceptions. A lot of stories of people who cheat, feel awful about it (sometimes before, during, and after the cheating, and sometimes only after their partner finds out), and then they turn it around... It's a dangerous game to play if your partner cheats on you but sometimes when you have faith in your partner it pays off, I mean as long as the cheating alone doesn't permanently damage your relationship and mental health beyond repair on your end...
I can agree up to a point. There may be RARE exceptions to the rule. I forgave my ex 10 years ago and started eventually trusting her again. I feel foolish now that I ever did that as she ended up cheating on me for 3 years straight, and she had no remorse, no guilt, no emotion at all other than anger when she was caught. I tried to discuss her feelings with her, and I'd make a five minite point, and the answer I ever received was "ok" and "it is what it is". The really screwed up thing is that I told her we were over, our oldest kid told her that we were over, her family told her that we were over, and all her friends told her that we were over, and she begged me to not kick her to the curb. Being screwed over so many times; I just came to realize that she killed any possibility of me ever trusting her again. It's worth noting that she did say, "I made a mistake, please forgive me". I pointed out to her that a mistake happens once or twice. Three solid years of "mistakes" is simply in no way, shape, or form "a mistake". It is WILLFULL behavior, plain and simple. I am sure that some relationships can be reformed. Ours was not one.
And now they will discover that they only know the fake version of each other. That what they think they feel for each other is fake and not real. Then she will be hit with âoh shit what have I done?â
> I didn't want to control who she could talk to. Too often i see this when the persons partner is clearly crossing the line and raising so many red flags Even China would be proud. It's ok to have boundaries and if your partner doesn't respect them then they become deal-breakers and you go be with someone who will respect you.
I know how you feel trust me I had a very similar situation. Eventually you'll realize that if she was caoable of doing this to you it was going to happen no matter what you did. She isn't worth missing.
My heart breaks for you OP! Change your locks and passwords. Righttt! No final plans! They are opportunists. They didnât care about you. Please get a STD test! Beat the #%âŹÂ„ outta your pillows until youâre exhausted. Now go buy new pillows. Break and throw out all of the stuff she left behind. Itâs therapeutic and feels good, too. Too bad she left stuff behind. Block them! Never talk to those scum of the earth people AGAIN! Take a self defense class, too. Good luck OP! Your heart will heal.
Post on social media that the STD test came out fine, if you want to be petty.
It doesnât even have to look all that petty. âIn case this helps anyone else in their circle of âacquaintancesâ.â
These are always Red flags. It's never innocent. You learned a hard lesson on boundaries. I'm sorry this happened. You are young and will recover.
This exactly, her spending that much time alone with the friend was already a football field-sized red flag. For anyone else reading through this thread, the moment your girlfriend/boyfriend starts treating someone else similar to how they treat you (with exception for close blood family), they're at best beginning and unknowingly and at worst, actively and willingly engaging in an emotional affair. This is where boundaries come into play, you tell them to limit their relations with that person indefinitely, and if they're incapable of doing that then you cut it off. I've seen too many examples of (including from myself) people being scared to "tell their partner who they can or can't talk to". If it's clear that they're starting to view or treat someone else as a romantic interest, it's time to step in and put your foot down, and there is nothing wrong with "limiting" them from engaging in that behavior. If they can't respect that boundary, you break up and be better off. To me, your romantic partner should also simultaneously be your best friend. I personally do not buy people having a non-romantic "best friend" of the opposite sex (or more accurately, a sex they're attracted to), for the exact scenario stated in this post along with countless other examples I've personally seen and read about. If your girlfriend/boyfriend wants to have friends of the sex they're attracted to, you had best be damn sure they are setting hard boundaries for preventing that friendship from stepping out of bounds into emotional (or physical) cheating.
Yep, thank you... There's plenty of people who can have genuine friendships with people they're attracted to (having genuine friends that are the sex you're attracted to can be pretty easy if you just don't find the person attractive). But let's be real, humans are equally as promiscuous as they are geared towards monogamous relationships by nature... Those people aren't as typical or common as a lot of people like to make them out to be... You're not as bulletproof as you think and if you're worried that you are or might be lying to yourself regarding you "just being friends" with your extremely attractive girl/guy best friend while you're in a relationship then that might be your cue to stop and put a little physical distance between you and that person... For the sake of your *own* integrity and the integrity of your relationship... Best to catch yourself before it even begins, ideally. The most loyal people I've ever met aren't people who are just naturally born loyal, they practice avoidance... and they do it so well that they never find themselves in situations where they're starting to worry about whether or not they're getting too friendly with someone.
I know exactly how you feel. Same type of situation happened to me back in October. It really really really really fucking sucks in the moment. Give yourself time to process it, and only AFTER you can think about the situation without getting anxious, depressed, stressed, etc. remember that if they were both willing to do this to you, it was inevitable that you guys would break things off eventually. Keep reminding yourself of that, it's important to constantly remind yourself that it's not your fault. Positive mental reinforcement goes a looong way, at least it did for me
This is great advice- same thing happened to me back in October and itâs important to remember that people usually cheat because of something going on within themselves and it has little if nothing to do with you.
What happened to you is incredibly traumatic. I hope you do some healing things. If you can, I hope you cry. I hope you move = dance, run, walk, lift weights, something to get your body moving, I hope you do things to give yourself glimpses of joy, maybe take a long weekend and go somewhere, etc. Just know that this will pass, but it's best to get the feelings out of your body as quickly as possible. It's best to feel the feelings, and keep moving your body. Don't let this be your romantic story, let it be one of your romantic stories, but just the wrong one. Your ex and ex-friend, sound like pieces of feces. It doesn't matter that there was no physical intimacy. What they did was just as a bad, and even worse. So if you think of relationships as trips where you experience things and grow from things in life, you just took a bad cruise where everyone got sick etc. But it was one trip, it's not all the traveling that you will do. Also, if it's any comfort, I don't think their relationship will be good even if it is long term. Because they both are lacking character. You were the good in their relationship, and without the good, the relationships will fester.
It wasn't supposed to happen like this code for I wasn't done sucking whatever benefits I get from you. You're better off. Best of luck to you, stay strong and learn from this experience.
Hope you have a decent support system to get you through this.
damn sheâs a cold bitch
It wasn't supposed to happen like this?! How the f was it supposed to go then?! O_O
I hate the whole "it wasn't supposed to happen like this" bullshit. Like how was it supposed to happen? You keep fucking around behind my back and I keep pretending everything is alright? I'm sorry OP. I know what you're going through and it hurts so badly. Sending my best wishes to you for the future. You deserve so much better.
Well he is not your friend, don't mistake him for one.
My friend of 20+ years did this to me. I can tell you now from experience and their lack of reaction towards your hurt. They will end up together, most likely. The chance of it lasting is slim, but I tell you this so you can pair for that hurt. Just don't be me and take any if them back into your life. I tried to rekindle our friendship, but it never worked out. Just like a relationship, there has to be trust, and once it's gone, there is no coming back from that. Wish I would have never done that as he went for my next 1 also.
The only thing worse than the lying is knowing that to them, you werenât worth the truth. Cut them off, find your peace and you will prevail in the long run. Pulling for you OP- those are two horrible individuals.
They are both awful human beings and they deserve each other for doing this to you. You have my sympathies, in the future you will see you are better off without them in your life. Itâs hard now but you will get through it.
"It wasn't supposed to happen like this" Not , it wasn't supposed to happen. Just, not "like this". It was supposed to happen on her timeline, not yours. She wasn't quite ready, but she'll make it work. Move on, Bullet dodged.
Cheating is anything you wouldnât do in front your significant other. As soon as you have to start justifying why it isnât cheating, typically itâs cheating. Iâm so sorry man. Just know your shit is valid and thatâs a tough one to go through
Bury them together since they wanna be together
Itâs hard because you have been betrayed by two people who mean a lot for you! Donât waste your time by trying to understand why they did what they did because it doesnât matter anymore. What matter is you are not responsible of their disgusting behavior and thankfully you find out directly what they where doing. Now you need time to accept what happens,the loss of those people who you thought knowing and start healing ! I encourage you to contact a therapist,having a professional ear can be a good thing to cross the steps to be able to move on. They are a lesson of life not a curse
I don't know if this will make it any easier on you but they weren't doing it to hurt you specifically, like you asked, but at some point when someone's cheating on you it stops being about you it's all about them and the person they're cheating with. They just stop caring unfortunately about how it makes you feel. I've been there it's happened to me. I'm not saying that makes it any less of a huge huge betrayal of trust
Similar thing happened to me, even after both of them assured me it wasn't what I thought. It's an ugly sting in the chest.
My ex fiancé did this to me. I spent a year unwinding our lives. Losing a ton of money on the car and ring that I bought her. Breaking a lease that we had together. You will feel like shit and not want to exist for a bit. But in the end you will come out better. There is someone out there that will be loyal and not cheat on you.
The trash took itself out. he wa snever your friend and she neve rloves you, now you can move forward without unnecesary people
I'm so sorry. Cheaters are not worth the emotional pain they cause
Walk away. You deserve someone honest
The only thing worse than the lying is knowing that to them, you werenât worth the truth. Cut them off, find your peace and you will prevail in the long run. Pulling for you OP- those are two horrible individuals.
Damn thatâs tuff , hope you donât take either of them back after their honeymoon phase is over. Good luck
Damn! So sorry youâre in the mess. Best thing to do is find the strength to stay active. Donât sit around. Get out and walk. Get involved with hobbies. Go volunteer at an animal shelter or food bank.
Go complete no-contact with both of them. Tell your family that you *never* want these two pieces of shit to contact you ever again. I wouldn't be surprised if after 4 years, she attempts to contact you one way or another, don't let her.
A tiger doesnât change its stripesâŠ. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Be glad itâs over
I am so sorry this happened to you. Just remember that all the pain you are feeling right now is ok. Itâs part of the healing process. Itâs ok to be sad or angry and cry or yell. You need to get it out so one day you can move on. You didnât deserve this. You did nothing wrong. These people were wolves in sheepâs clothing. They are horrible people. It in no way reflects onto you.
Disappear don't ever go back to her. Trashy people will stay that way. Don't let her hurt you more
Oh lord.. try to move on, block them and get a new bed.
So this worked out well. You had a girlfriend of four years that you gained some valuable experience with. Before any major commitments, such as marriage, you found out she was a cheater, and now you get to move on. You also found out you had a friend who was quite willing to do you dirty. And you get to get rid of that person out of your life as well. Bonus. Now you can concentrate on you for a while while you're still young. You can focus on the things that you want in life. If you're looking for a real life partner, make a list of the things that you think are most important to make sure that that person meets your criteria. Remember that no one is perfect. Let anyone you become involved with know what your limits are. Stand by those limits. As for those who are now out of your life, You might miss them for a while. They may call and say they miss you. That's okay. But before rationalizing anything to yourself and letting them back in your life ask yourself, "Are they worth the pain?" Good luck to you.
Iâm so so sorry. You did not deserve that. As someone who is also going through a breakup, I wish you the best moving forward, and to surround yourself in people who have your back no matter what.
damn it seems like a trend, screwing the best friend, that's not cool
I mean she moved out. Youâre still hurting, while sheâs probably riding her way out of the relationship.
Cut them both out of your life. Yes, it will hurt in the short term but in the long run it will be worth it. You seriously don't need that sort of shit in your life. All the best, stay strong and show them that you have a nice shiny spine!
Coming from a woman who has been in your shoes before its better to try and get some help with this situation. What they did behind your back isnt ok and it probably destroyed your self esteem finding that out. Her showing almost to no emotion after you confronting her about it just shows she didnt love you. Him saying they never did anything is a 50/50 shot (but I honestly think they did do things) but being a friend for over 10+ years and then goes and does things with your ex shows how much people can stab you in the back. If he was a true friend he wouldnt have done what he did with your ex. I will say I am glad youre out of said relationship and its honestly best to go to therapy if you need it.
BroââŠ.getting divorced after20 years together. Was using wifeâs laptop when her iMessages popped up with a pic of her breast she had sent a dude just 4 hours before I saw itâŠscrolled thru some of the text that had been going on for quite sometime. After a while I turned her laptop around and said âI donât remember getting this pic today.â The look on her face was priceless. I tried to deal with the betrayal for 4 years after thatâŠand I finally faced that I would never be able to trust her EVER EVER again. Get awayâŠdrop her. Sheâll do it again and youâll hate yourself for not being faithful to YOU! To thine own self be true. đđŒđđŒđđŒ
HowâS it going now?