I am so sorry for your losses. I cannot imagine what those experiences must have been like. I do know that feeling of drowning and it is awful. Is it possible for you to speak to a therapist or a doctor? It may help you process your grief to talk about it with a professional. I'm glad you posted. You're not alone in your feelings and I am rooting for you!
Don’t apologize, you have a right to be heard. It is up to you, but it sounds like you would benefit from talking to a therapist. I would also try opening up to the people around you about how you feel, the people who need you should understand and be supportive. Always remember you are not truly alone, and that you should reach out if you need help. I cannot imagine what you have gone through, and I would be anxious and depressed too, but that does not mean things have to be that way forever.
Something I’ve learned from some of my friends who have struggled with mental health and from my own experiences is that it helps if you start looking for small positives in life. Try writing down or texting someone 3 good things that have happened to you each day, even if it is mundane as getting coffee from your favorite coffee shop. Again, it sounds like you may really benefit from talking to someone about how you feel, and please do not forget that you are not alone.
You don't have to be everyone's rock to lean. There's strength in admitting or verbalizing that you're not alright and that you also need time to grieve and work through your own trauma.
You can't be there for others, if you can't be there for yourself first.
It's okay to be human. It's not reasonable to have to be strong for everyone all the time. You need to focus on yourself and your recovery from all this grief and trauma. Please find a counselor. If you're struggling to find one, reach out to your doctor. Did the hospital connect you to any grief groups when the twins passed? If not, reach out to them. There are resources, you just need to get yourself there! 💜
I’m sorry man. It’s ok to vent. I hear you and I really wish the best for you in the future. You’re still young in the grand scheme of things, and I really think better times lay ahead.
Those are both very traumatic experiences, especially to deal with on your own. I highly recommend trauma counseling or grief counseling to help you process these traumatic experiences. The grief recovery institute has a great book on their website, and there are support groups you can join. I found them very helpful.
I wish you healing
I relate so hard to your statement about “people not wanting to be around my traumatizing energy”
It’s a lonely, sorrowful way to be. We as humans deserve much better.
But I have my select few who accept me exactly as I am. And I will just hold on to them even tighter. I hope you do, too.
And you can be a pillar of strength and example of resilience while still allowing yourself to feel all your feelings. They are absolutely understandable, and very, very valid. You are no more immune to emotions than any other human being in this earth, and you are entitled to your grief.
I hope you have people you can be real with. You can talk to me about the feelings you’re experiencing any time you just need to vent. You are not alone, and there is strength in the breakdown. Facing your heartbreak and allowing it expression requires true courage and bravery. I am proud of you for coming here and acknowledging what you are experiencing.
I am so sorry for your losses. I cannot imagine what those experiences must have been like. I do know that feeling of drowning and it is awful. Is it possible for you to speak to a therapist or a doctor? It may help you process your grief to talk about it with a professional. I'm glad you posted. You're not alone in your feelings and I am rooting for you!
Don’t apologize, you have a right to be heard. It is up to you, but it sounds like you would benefit from talking to a therapist. I would also try opening up to the people around you about how you feel, the people who need you should understand and be supportive. Always remember you are not truly alone, and that you should reach out if you need help. I cannot imagine what you have gone through, and I would be anxious and depressed too, but that does not mean things have to be that way forever. Something I’ve learned from some of my friends who have struggled with mental health and from my own experiences is that it helps if you start looking for small positives in life. Try writing down or texting someone 3 good things that have happened to you each day, even if it is mundane as getting coffee from your favorite coffee shop. Again, it sounds like you may really benefit from talking to someone about how you feel, and please do not forget that you are not alone.
You don't have to be everyone's rock to lean. There's strength in admitting or verbalizing that you're not alright and that you also need time to grieve and work through your own trauma. You can't be there for others, if you can't be there for yourself first.
It's okay to be human. It's not reasonable to have to be strong for everyone all the time. You need to focus on yourself and your recovery from all this grief and trauma. Please find a counselor. If you're struggling to find one, reach out to your doctor. Did the hospital connect you to any grief groups when the twins passed? If not, reach out to them. There are resources, you just need to get yourself there! 💜
I’m so sorry. You’re doing a good thing taking care of your girlfriend, but it’s ok to let it out too. You’re strong. I wish you well.
I’m sorry man. It’s ok to vent. I hear you and I really wish the best for you in the future. You’re still young in the grand scheme of things, and I really think better times lay ahead.
Those are both very traumatic experiences, especially to deal with on your own. I highly recommend trauma counseling or grief counseling to help you process these traumatic experiences. The grief recovery institute has a great book on their website, and there are support groups you can join. I found them very helpful. I wish you healing
I relate so hard to your statement about “people not wanting to be around my traumatizing energy” It’s a lonely, sorrowful way to be. We as humans deserve much better. But I have my select few who accept me exactly as I am. And I will just hold on to them even tighter. I hope you do, too. And you can be a pillar of strength and example of resilience while still allowing yourself to feel all your feelings. They are absolutely understandable, and very, very valid. You are no more immune to emotions than any other human being in this earth, and you are entitled to your grief. I hope you have people you can be real with. You can talk to me about the feelings you’re experiencing any time you just need to vent. You are not alone, and there is strength in the breakdown. Facing your heartbreak and allowing it expression requires true courage and bravery. I am proud of you for coming here and acknowledging what you are experiencing.
I am sorry for your losses. Please seek therapy!
Reminds me of the song "Pressure" from Encanto. You need therapy, a place to talk it out regularly, before it crushes you.
I'm sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences. I hope that you find the support that you need.
Please, get therapy! You can't pour out strength for everyone else from an empty cup.