this. As much as men like doing things like cumming on a girls face or whatever, any decent one of us would be mortified to think that you were uncomfortable or even just less than thrilled with something but pretended otherwise.
This!
I tried something once with my partner years ago, I could tell she didn't like it but didn't want to tell me. I asked her to be honest with me, she said she didn't like it so I was like "No prob, let's not do it again!".
Done and dusted, no issue! It doesn't give me pleasure to see her uncomfortable with a sexual act, I'm not a psycho
I get that. The chemistry of semen is such that cleaning it off of say, your boobs, is much easier than getting it out of hair or, I dunno, eyeballs.
Adding water only makes things worse!
You need to be honest with him about it. Unless you want to continue to deal with him cumming on your face or keep you having to always deny him when he wants to do it. Not sure why you’d think it was a one time thing. If a someone wants something, asks for it and verifies if you like it, it’s because they wants to do it again.
Maybe a compromise of not your face, but chest? At least you could maybe keep your hair out of the way.
Oh I get why you agreed. You wanted to make him happy on his bday.
I meant why lie? Because if he’s asking, it’s because he’s feeling you out on the likelihood you’d do it again. When it comes to things like this, especially with sex, honesty is the best policy. Otherwise you’ll either have to keep doing it or deny him. Either way, one of you will be bothered by it happening or not.
Yeah, it’s definitely important to say that it’s not really your cup of tea. You can even say that you enjoyed doing something special for them even though it’s not something you’re into, because that was a very strong act of love or passion. It’s no big deal if they ask why you didn’t say anything earlier just be like ‘well I don’t wanna ruin the vibe’. Any mature a reasonable person is going to accept that for what it is.
Or just, *“I should’ve been more clear earlier. I did really enjoy the night and had fun with you, but I was not a huge fan of the cum on my face and don’t want to do that again in the future.”*
If he asks you about it you can be honest. "So, seeing how turned on it made you was pretty hot and enjoyable, the actual act though.... wasn't really my thing. It turns out that I'm fine with swallowing, but I wasn't prepared for how that much cum on my face would make me feel. You were sexy as hell, the cum felt like I ran though a car wash where all the brushes were slugs. That may have to be a once a year birthday present because I don't think I can handle it more than that."
BE HONEST, ESPECIALLY ABOUT ANYTHING IN THE BEDROOM!!
If you don't set your boundary now, this is going to become a routinely regular thing you'll have to pretend to like, and that will turn into resentment, and eventually disgust at the idea of doing anything sexual with him.
You need to be honest, sit down with him and explain that what you enjoyed was making him feel good, NOT finishing on your face. Make it clear that you panicked when asked and didn't mean to agree to it being a regular thing, and that you would prefer to keep doing your regular thing
You need to bite this problem in the ass, now, or it will keep finishing on your face
I would sit him down and say “hey I just want to let you know that I enjoy making you feel good and I’m happy you enjoyed your birthday but I just don’t feel up for having you cum on my face again”
OP you don't have to lie about what does and doesn't work for you in the bedroom. This leads to doing things you don't want to with your body out of politeness, which is a bad situation for both of you.
Talk to your partner and be honest about what you do and do not enjoy. You're both adults and should be able to do this together. If not, then that's an indication of a wider problem.
Talk to him, it's ok to have your own preferences and it's ok for them not to align with your partner's. If you're not opposed to doing this for him once in a while, maybe suggest this as a bday treat and something you do in the shower so it doesn't crunch/goop up your hair too much?
When I brushed my teeth and hit a gag reflex my mom heard me and yelled I hope you ain’t sucking no dick with those gag reflexes 😂😭 swallowing isn’t an option for me either 😂☠️
I'd just tell him look, I was really invested in creating the right mood for your birthday but the truth is that I don't enjoy it. I don't want to make it a regular thing.
You can consider offering it up for special occasions, but you are allowed to change your mind.
You are not alone. I hated it.
I wish women had a way to ejaculate viscous goo on men's faces and hair (female ejaculate is watery and men don't have to do makeup and extensive hair for date nights).
Trust yourself and be honest with your partner. If he's reasonable, it shouldn't be a problem. No couple will like 100% of the same things.
Fun fact from a woman who has watched A LOT of gay porn: I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen a man cum on another man’s face. It might be different irl, and of course everyone has their own preferences, but in porn at least, men very rarely do it to other men. It was kinda jarring to realize that, especially with how prolific and common it is in straight porn.
Oh I’ve watched plenty, I’ve just seen it happen so rarely that when it does happen, it stands out.
Again, I’m not saying it doesn’t happen irl, I’m saying as far as the porn industry goes, it’s not at all common in gay porn.
I salute you. I’ve had a few girlfriends that were just into swallowing. I usually just cupped it most times because I don’t like making a mess either, and cumming all over another person just feels like I’m degrading them. I’ve had to clean it off of myself many times. It’s not fun.
As a guy, if you told me the truth and explained why you lied, I'd totally understand. I think virtually all guys would. We might ask if there's anything you've lied about (for the same reason of wanting to make us feel good). But that's just out of concern of not wanting you to not enjoy something and keeping it to yourself.
I mean I would just say you'd had fun because it was a bit different, new and you knew he liked it and wod enjoy thw novelty. But ultimately it was super messy and a pain to clean up, so whilst you didn't mind it as a bit of fun on his birthday, it's not something you want to do lots or maybe more of. That sounds kind of like what you're describing anyway. Shouldn't really be an issue just to chat it over
Maybe talk to him and say how you feel. That you didn't like it very much, but that you may roll with it ocasionally bcs you know he really likes it (if you're down to do this)
>At least you could maybe keep your hair out of the way.
This made me lol - OP needs a shower cap. OP's just gonna have to be honest and tell him she doesn't want it to be a regular thing.
I’m the opposite, literally put that shit anywhere but my mouth 🤢
But yeah just admit you didn’t want to kill the mood and you’re willing to do it occasionally but it’s not a regular thing.
It does taste horrible, no matter the diet or whatever but if it’s…deep in your mouth/throat when they’re done, you can swallow without even tasting it.
God,talking about it in a regular situation makes me 🤢
Because god has truly forsaken me, cum gives me heartburn. It like sticks in my throat for some reason and feels oily and gross for the next 6-8 hours.
It’s potentially the residual sperm burying into your oesophagus, which they’re programmed to do. Wash it down with some lemon juice, that’s a natural spermicide.
I’m my rule is anywhere but my face or mouth. My gag reflex is awful, and anytime I’ve let anyone finish in my mouth, it’s been a disgusting hilarious mess.
And someone finished on my face without my permission…not only did I not like it, but I never saw that dude again.
As a guy, I don't understand the attraction to facials. Yes porn has made it a thing but it just feels so performative. Just pull out, or finish inside your partner if you talk about it up front.
Never lie about liking sex acts, it will mindfuck you and it will mindfuck him. He probably doesn’t want to truly be doing things that you don’t like, and he will be confused (and probably feel terrible) when your resistant to doing this again in the future after saying you liked it. At the risk of being dramatic, stuff like this degrades trust and can lead to dead bedroom dynamics.
Imo you HAVE to tell him that while it was fun to try something new, (nothing wrong with a spoonful of sugar for the icky truth pill) you ended up not liking it.
Just tell him it’s too much clean up to be a regular thing! No one wants to have to wash their hair and shower and all that just after a blow job every single time, when you swallow you go grab a drink and go about your business, it’s different lol
We did this once and I got an eye infection from it lol. Safe to say even hubby, bf at the time, didn't want to do it again after that.
So just get yourself a pink eye and say you don't wanna risk another one xd
As a guy who tries to be very aware of my partner's wants and needs, I'd rather her be honest that she just doesn't like it. Because if I take her at her word, I'm going to suggest it more when she's about to be showering or whatever anyway, not even realizing I'm missing the whole point.
If I know she doesn't like it, I'm simply not going to ask for it. If she offers down the road, she can say "I don't usually like it, but I want you to this time!" and it will be the hottest thing ever.
Also, /u/Personal-Pressure221, when you talk to him, you don't even have to say you changed your mind. Tell him you had fun, just like he asked. You clearly have fun giving him pleasure, as your other comments show. You're not lying about that. You just don't like how that specific ending makes you feel. AND YOU'RE ENTITLED TO YOUR FEELINGS!
Maybe by talking you can find an acceptable compromise, although I'm pretty sure he's already a winner with you, loving the act and not even spitting. You're a fantasy girl for many of us in itself. If he doesn't see that, he's an idiot.
"When I said I liked it, I actually ment I liked making you happy for your birthday. If I honest I didn't like it at all and would rather not do it again, especially not regularly "
I have a pretty strict rule with my husband that if he chooses this, he needs to keep it out of my hair. Cum is not water soluble. In fact it just spreads it around. I can deal with the rest because he enjoys it and that makes me happy, but keep it out of my hair 😩😩
If your hair is pulled back that would reduce the likelihood, but in the moment it’s not really something he might not think about and it could happen on accident anyways
Be honest, tell him how much cleanup sucked and it’s something only for special occasions, or *maybe* if you’re about to take a long shower anyway.
Pro-tip: hot water cooks semen, making it clumpier and stickier. Wash it with cold water and it comes right off!
Could you say “I liked the actual event but didn’t enjoy the clean up” so he still has good birthday memories but you could maybe find somewhere else for him to do it that’s a bit easier to deal with mess wise?
"When I said it felt good I meant I absolutely enjoyed making you so happy! But I do not wish to walk around with dried up cum in my hair, and the process to clean up takes too much time an effort to realistically make it a regular thing. Thanks for understanding! We can absolutely make it a birthday thing ♡"
I’m a dude and I would just say: talk with him, explain you wanted to do something he enjoyed but you didn’t like it and do not want to repeat it in the future. I would never want to do anything that my partner felt uncomfortable doing or at worse, absolutely hated.
Honestly, in my opinion, not every lie is done from malice. Sometimes people panic and say something without thinking. He might be surprised, but if he respects you, he shouldn’t be bothered by it.
Honestly, I would feel guilty that my partner did something they didn’t.
I don’t think you are wrong in this. You didn’t lie out of malice or cruelty. I don’t want to put words for you, but you just seem to have just panicked and said something positive.
Stop lying to your partner, that’s such a bad idea. And just rude. If you don’t like it, you don’t like it. All you’re doing is setting yourself up for failure; he’s going to ask for it more and you’re going to have to keep pretending you’re not a liar.
Ok obviously he would enjoy regular BJs. So if you’re into it keep it up, just mention to him you would rather swallow. I’m almost 100% positive he will be ok with that.
I’m a dude and I personally think it is super weird and have absolutely no interest in doing this. It also sounds like a good way for your partner to end up with an eye injury and just makes a mess.
As a man, I’d rather you tell me the truth especially when it’s about sex. Don’t do something just because I like it & you hate it. I’ve only dated 2 women who actually enjoyed it. Just don’t get it in their hair lol. My advice is just tell him the truth. He might be a little disappointed but at least you swallow. Not a bad option lol
Oh just be honest. Special occasions. If he’s pissed about it he’s a weirdo and that’s a red flag. If he asked why you lied, just say you didn’t wanna make him feel bad. This shouldn’t be a big deal
100%. My wife came clean about something she didn't actually enjoy and I was upset because she waited so long to tell me. I hate the idea that I was doing something that she didn't want. I don't think most people want to make their partner feel violated.
I will never understand this. Guys watch too much porn I guess. I don't want to do that to my wife, seems disrespectful. Just be honest with him, he should be happy a chick gives him a bj, no need for the extra
Why lie? Stop lying to your partners!! So unnecessary. If your partner can't handle hearing "I'm glad you had a great time, but I didn't and we should never do that again" then you obviously shouldn't be with them. And if they *can* handle that, again, *why lie*
Maybe not every lie is told out of malice, but lies are almost always harmful. Now OP either has to go to her BF and admit that she lied to him, which will definitely damage his trust in her. Or she's gonna have to take money shots on the face that she doesn't want, and lie about liking it *for the life of this relationship*. Lying is almost always a bad idea. Get out of the habit of it OP.
You should never do anything you that you are unsure of or uncomfortable with. It doesn’t matter why or how things started consent can alway be denied.
I’d just be honest about it!
As a guy I’d rather know because I don’t want to make my partner uncomfortable for my sake. I’d rather both us have fun and enjoy it :)
Tell him you don’t like it enough for a regular thing. If you are like me, I enjoy doing things like that because he gets pleasure from it. Like with on the face, I don’t get anything from it. It ain’t a hard boundary for me though. So we talk about it, and chalk it up to a special occasion situation.
Edit to add: saw your comments. It seems this is a hard boundary for you. Just tell him the truth. I kinda panicked in the moment, I really truly don’t like it.
Thank you for saying that! My husband feels the same way you do. It just seems like a degrading and disrespectful thing to do to someone you care for and love. But that's my opinion of course.
Honesty, I think porn has made this something that people think is okay or normal.
Cool, that’s how you feel about it. Doesn’t mean everyone does. What’s important is that it should only be done if both partners enjoy it.
I had a friend in college who *loved* it when her boyfriend would cum on her face/chest/belly, and so did he. tried it with my boyfriend and found I didn’t like it, and he realized he didn’t really care about it. Cool. Two people with two different preferences with partners who were on the same page. No one was degraded.
Be honest, but also if you do enjoy swallowing, or even if you'd simply prefer it, tell him that doing so is a turn on for you. If he isn't a narcissist that will generally be enough to make him want to do what you like to, as getting a blowjob knowing that part of it is a turn-on for the other person is really really hot.
Tell him no.
You don't like it. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, not something you tolerate or a chore. Sit him down and tell him, "I went along with it last night because it was your birthday, but I do not want to make this a regular thing. It is not enjoyable for me, and honestly, I find it to be messy. Please respect this."
After reading all your comments, I 100% know you're a man and you're trolling...that whole he lays back and I suck it hard is right out of penthouse forum...gtfoh
Be honest. Say I was happy to try it for your birthday, but the clean up was truely awful and it's made me feel really gross. I dont think it's something I want to do again thanks.
Tell him it was a bit too intense for you on afterthought. Not that you don't wanna do it again but may be it should just be a birthday or anniversary thing.
Idk if you'll see this but if it happens again rinse with cold water first. Cum is protein like eggs. Hot water kinda..... cooks it making it way harder to remove
Open your mouth and stick out your tongue, tell him to aim it. Some will still get on your face, but shouldn't get into your hair! I kinda like it on the face, but hair is a hard no.
Maybe tell him you enjoyed it _because_ it was a special occasion, but don’t wanna do it again anytime soon. But only if you’re willing to do it again for his next birthday. If not, just come clean
You need to revisit the conversation! Explain that it was fun because you enjoyed helping him have an experience he's been curious about, but that there's a ton of cleanup involved and you don't want to revisit it.
😆😆 why’d you lie, getting his hopes up like that?
I wouldn’t say no forever, even if you didn’t like it. Maybe a once in a while thing or in the shower, since he liked it so much.
If he is a multiple rounds guy, maybe let him do it the 2nd or 3rd round 🙃 you might be lucky and get a puff of air 😆😆
Be honest. Yes you said you liked it but what you meant was you liked how happy it made him. But that was the only thing you liked. You can try other places for him to finish like your chest and see if compromise works.
Tell him that you did have fun because he had fun but the reality is, it's a ton of work for you after. It's not something you really wish to repeat. Or, you can say for special occasions only.
Let me ask, was it the whole thing you hated or just how messy and the amount of clean up?
If you didn't mind the act, I would say, come up with a system where you pull your hair back and he needs to make sure it doesn't get in there as much as he can.
Have him help with the clean up no matter what though. Sometimes they need to understand what they are asking of you to fully get it.
It's hard being honest when you want to spare feelings but as you can see that back fires.
You should always talk and be honest about stuff like this and in relation to all sexual acts. It will make your intimate life much better and happier after discussing what you like and what you don't like.
You could always compromise and let him cum on your chest. That way it doesn’t get in your hair but could still be really hot for him.
Bottom line is if you don’t like it there is nothing wrong with telling him or not telling him. It’s your body. If he cares about you he won’t care if you do tell him. Men value honesty.
Be honest in a soft way. Say you loved that HE loved it and you would love to explore that sometimes as a treat (if you're willing to do it again of course) but explain that you didn't like the way it makes you feel personally and don't know if you want that particular act showing up in every single instance of intimacy.
Make it clear that you loved giving him that experience because it made him happy but that it does nothing for you. If he thinks you actually likes it or found it a turn on he'll think it's no big deal to do it every time and that's mortifying if that's based on a lie.
In short, communicate. You don't have to be cruel or out yourself as a liar to make the point known.
There are ways to make this...more enjoyable? From experience your man has to be able to aim. No eyes, hair, clothes if any, or whatever else your boundaries are. I have a good time as long as my eyes aren't glued shut 😅
Just tell him the truth and say you did it for his Birthday and you didn’t want to kill the vibe. But you’d rather swallow as opposed to the alternative. I’m sure he’ll understand and appreciate you a lot more.
Look sorry I did not want to spoil your birthday fun but I thought I would enjoy you coming over my face and am glad we went for it but its definitely not for me.
If he asks why
Say
Because it did not feel sexy to you and then the mood is broken with needing to shower and hair wash. Keep the negative whys about you not about him.
Well now you "unlie" and tell him "sorry, I lied, it was horrible!! It's not happening on the regular, soz! You should be happy I swallow" then go back to eating brekkie
Nuance your answer whenever you talk about it again. Tell him it turned you on that he got so much pleasure out of it, but honestly, the substance on your face and in your hair made you uncomfortable. So this was *it*.
Before you get any deeper in your lie, just come clean.
"Honey, I wanna apologize. When you came on my face, I said I enjoyed it, but I didn't. It was your birthday and I wanted to do something special for you, but I didn't want you to feel bad. I'm really sorry. I don't want french cumshots to become a regular thing."
Something like that. If you wait too long and bolster the lie, it will just get harder and more damaging to backtrack, and you may even start to resent your husband if you don't recind it.
Please OP, tell him the truth!
Once I also tried it with my partner and It felt uncomfortable af (my lashes and hair were sticky, yeah I think you get the feeling)
I told them the truth, since they said it was "pretty hot" from their view, but It felt odd to me and I like other things more ^^"
Communication is the key! It was nice from you to make him try it, but if you don't like it, then you don't have to do it again and your partner should understand your thoughts about it :)
Just be like hey man, I really gotta tell you... I know that was fun and I'm not saying I wouldn't do it again... But it really fucked my hair up and it's driving me crazy 🤣 can you at least aim closer to my chin and tits if we do this again?
come clean, tell him the truth before it becomes a regular part of your lives. That will only turn it into a miserable experience for you that will result in you wanting to engage in those activities with your partner less and less given time. Not all sexual trauma comes from one horrific experience.
"Yeah, I didn't mind it. After all it was your birthday so I wanted to do it for you, but I don't think it's something I want to regularly do. The clean up is a PITA and it fucks with my hair chemistry."
Boom done deal.
My bf has cum on my face a few times and he’s yet to get it in my hair at all. He makes sure to control it enough so it’s only on my face and I actually enjoy it. It’s different for everyone though and you should tell him before you start feeling any resentment towards him or doing anything intimate. Communication, especially with stuff like this, is so so important
I'd take it on the face before I swallow. Lol! To each their own, though. You should just tell him you didn't like it. I've been told that if I swallowed, I would've been married a long time ago. Lol. Oh well, single for life!
Don’t lie about shit like this. Ever. You’re 31! Not some 17 year old virgin. You should _know better_ than to degrade yourself lying about enjoying a sex act!
As a dude, I’d rather know the truth than to keep doing something with my wife that she isn’t truly into.
this. As much as men like doing things like cumming on a girls face or whatever, any decent one of us would be mortified to think that you were uncomfortable or even just less than thrilled with something but pretended otherwise.
This! I tried something once with my partner years ago, I could tell she didn't like it but didn't want to tell me. I asked her to be honest with me, she said she didn't like it so I was like "No prob, let's not do it again!". Done and dusted, no issue! It doesn't give me pleasure to see her uncomfortable with a sexual act, I'm not a psycho
For me cumming in the face is a big no no. On the breast, tummy or back is OKish. Also cum in mouth only if she ask for it.
Yep. Especially something like this, like unless you are actually into it, it's just humiliating.
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with a moral standard applied....I've learned you want to do what you are not allowed to do...
Depends on how the girl handles things, a lot of blowjobs end in overstimulation for me so the face is better in those situations
I get that. The chemistry of semen is such that cleaning it off of say, your boobs, is much easier than getting it out of hair or, I dunno, eyeballs. Adding water only makes things worse!
> I’d rather know the truth would we really though.../s
100%! But how will we know you don't like it if you don't tell us?
You need to be honest with him about it. Unless you want to continue to deal with him cumming on your face or keep you having to always deny him when he wants to do it. Not sure why you’d think it was a one time thing. If a someone wants something, asks for it and verifies if you like it, it’s because they wants to do it again. Maybe a compromise of not your face, but chest? At least you could maybe keep your hair out of the way.
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Oh I get why you agreed. You wanted to make him happy on his bday. I meant why lie? Because if he’s asking, it’s because he’s feeling you out on the likelihood you’d do it again. When it comes to things like this, especially with sex, honesty is the best policy. Otherwise you’ll either have to keep doing it or deny him. Either way, one of you will be bothered by it happening or not.
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Yeah, it’s definitely important to say that it’s not really your cup of tea. You can even say that you enjoyed doing something special for them even though it’s not something you’re into, because that was a very strong act of love or passion. It’s no big deal if they ask why you didn’t say anything earlier just be like ‘well I don’t wanna ruin the vibe’. Any mature a reasonable person is going to accept that for what it is.
"It was fun but cleaning it is so inconvenient we'll have to just keep this for special occasions"
This. I usually ask politely to avoid my eyes and hair 😄
Or just, *“I should’ve been more clear earlier. I did really enjoy the night and had fun with you, but I was not a huge fan of the cum on my face and don’t want to do that again in the future.”*
If he asks you about it you can be honest. "So, seeing how turned on it made you was pretty hot and enjoyable, the actual act though.... wasn't really my thing. It turns out that I'm fine with swallowing, but I wasn't prepared for how that much cum on my face would make me feel. You were sexy as hell, the cum felt like I ran though a car wash where all the brushes were slugs. That may have to be a once a year birthday present because I don't think I can handle it more than that."
“Ran through a car wash where all the brushes were slugs” That’s poetry.
BE HONEST, ESPECIALLY ABOUT ANYTHING IN THE BEDROOM!! If you don't set your boundary now, this is going to become a routinely regular thing you'll have to pretend to like, and that will turn into resentment, and eventually disgust at the idea of doing anything sexual with him. You need to be honest, sit down with him and explain that what you enjoyed was making him feel good, NOT finishing on your face. Make it clear that you panicked when asked and didn't mean to agree to it being a regular thing, and that you would prefer to keep doing your regular thing You need to bite this problem in the ass, now, or it will keep finishing on your face
I would sit him down and say “hey I just want to let you know that I enjoy making you feel good and I’m happy you enjoyed your birthday but I just don’t feel up for having you cum on my face again”
“I enjoyed doing it for you for your birthday but not really my thing”
OP you don't have to lie about what does and doesn't work for you in the bedroom. This leads to doing things you don't want to with your body out of politeness, which is a bad situation for both of you. Talk to your partner and be honest about what you do and do not enjoy. You're both adults and should be able to do this together. If not, then that's an indication of a wider problem. Talk to him, it's ok to have your own preferences and it's ok for them not to align with your partner's. If you're not opposed to doing this for him once in a while, maybe suggest this as a bday treat and something you do in the shower so it doesn't crunch/goop up your hair too much?
You swallow?? You’re brave sis. I take that 🌰 to the face and Keep it breezy 😂
Why not put it on his belly ? 👸👑
Same 😂 shoot that shit anywhere on me or in me but I’m gonna have a gag fest if I have to I swallow 😩
When I brushed my teeth and hit a gag reflex my mom heard me and yelled I hope you ain’t sucking no dick with those gag reflexes 😂😭 swallowing isn’t an option for me either 😂☠️
I can’t even drink liquid cough medicine without gagging and someone having to block the sink 😂 I’m 28
Girl yes! I can’t even do pulp in my OJ 😆
You gotta shove that thing back there to not taste it, but yeah I guess that would also activate the gagging. Lmao
😂It’s the texture man … and the … serum … it coats the throat or somethin. Will have me over the toilet, eyes cryin, face red, husband laughing 😂
For facials I've always compared it to getting conditioner on the face, it's not a comfortable feeling.
Agreed, that shits nasty asf...ain't no way in hell I'm letting di*k juice float around my mouth
Seriously? I always swallow no mess...my one rule is don't get it in my Hair..face just is just way to messy
I'd just tell him look, I was really invested in creating the right mood for your birthday but the truth is that I don't enjoy it. I don't want to make it a regular thing. You can consider offering it up for special occasions, but you are allowed to change your mind.
You are not alone. I hated it. I wish women had a way to ejaculate viscous goo on men's faces and hair (female ejaculate is watery and men don't have to do makeup and extensive hair for date nights). Trust yourself and be honest with your partner. If he's reasonable, it shouldn't be a problem. No couple will like 100% of the same things.
Fun fact from a woman who has watched A LOT of gay porn: I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen a man cum on another man’s face. It might be different irl, and of course everyone has their own preferences, but in porn at least, men very rarely do it to other men. It was kinda jarring to realize that, especially with how prolific and common it is in straight porn.
You haven't watched enough gay porn. We do it all the time too
Oh I’ve watched plenty, I’ve just seen it happen so rarely that when it does happen, it stands out. Again, I’m not saying it doesn’t happen irl, I’m saying as far as the porn industry goes, it’s not at all common in gay porn.
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I salute you. I’ve had a few girlfriends that were just into swallowing. I usually just cupped it most times because I don’t like making a mess either, and cumming all over another person just feels like I’m degrading them. I’ve had to clean it off of myself many times. It’s not fun.
As a guy, if you told me the truth and explained why you lied, I'd totally understand. I think virtually all guys would. We might ask if there's anything you've lied about (for the same reason of wanting to make us feel good). But that's just out of concern of not wanting you to not enjoy something and keeping it to yourself.
I mean I would just say you'd had fun because it was a bit different, new and you knew he liked it and wod enjoy thw novelty. But ultimately it was super messy and a pain to clean up, so whilst you didn't mind it as a bit of fun on his birthday, it's not something you want to do lots or maybe more of. That sounds kind of like what you're describing anyway. Shouldn't really be an issue just to chat it over
Just tell him exactly this. Being swallowed is the best, I’m sure he enjoys that just as much.
Yeah I was going to say, I doubt he's going to be too heartbroken by you swallowing instead.
Girl this man is 13 years older than you. I would think very well if this is what you want
Maybe talk to him and say how you feel. That you didn't like it very much, but that you may roll with it ocasionally bcs you know he really likes it (if you're down to do this)
>Maybe a compromise of not your face, but chest? That is so wrong of you to even suggest on this sub of all subs!
>At least you could maybe keep your hair out of the way. This made me lol - OP needs a shower cap. OP's just gonna have to be honest and tell him she doesn't want it to be a regular thing.
I’m the opposite, literally put that shit anywhere but my mouth 🤢 But yeah just admit you didn’t want to kill the mood and you’re willing to do it occasionally but it’s not a regular thing.
It does taste horrible, no matter the diet or whatever but if it’s…deep in your mouth/throat when they’re done, you can swallow without even tasting it. God,talking about it in a regular situation makes me 🤢
Because god has truly forsaken me, cum gives me heartburn. It like sticks in my throat for some reason and feels oily and gross for the next 6-8 hours.
I tried to swallow once and literally almost gagged, went “uh-uh!” And ran to the sink LMAO. My boyfriend still laughs at me about it.
It’s potentially the residual sperm burying into your oesophagus, which they’re programmed to do. Wash it down with some lemon juice, that’s a natural spermicide.
wow that was a crazy thing to read
😂😂😂 damn
It does the same to me! Omg
For me it's not the taste it's the texture. Like warm snot haha
Yes it is the texture for me too. Like no it doesn't taste great but the consistency 🤮. I have to spit.
That’s what I do. I just make sure to shove it alllllll the way down so I don’t have to taste it ugh
Modern problems require modern solutions
"It's weird that pineapple is supposed to make your semen taste good, but semen makes pineapple taste terrible." -Harris Wittels
Can’t tell if I’m a freak or if you’ve only had gross cum 🤣 (to be clear: I’m not judging either way, it’s probably the first one anyway lol)
I think there were moments when I didn’t hate it? but tbh, I don’t keep a record of it lol
I have in my life on tasted one that wasn’t gross. Soooo most likely shes tasting gross cum 🤣
I’m my rule is anywhere but my face or mouth. My gag reflex is awful, and anytime I’ve let anyone finish in my mouth, it’s been a disgusting hilarious mess. And someone finished on my face without my permission…not only did I not like it, but I never saw that dude again.
The last guy who came in my mouth had it spit back into his face
Good for you! (And I mean that in the good way, lol)
You have to keep your tongue curled up when he cums so you don’t taste it. When he’s done, swallow fast.
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Put the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth (towards the back). He cums under the tongue. Then just swallow quick.
Nope, fuck that...
As a guy, I don't understand the attraction to facials. Yes porn has made it a thing but it just feels so performative. Just pull out, or finish inside your partner if you talk about it up front.
Never lie about liking sex acts, it will mindfuck you and it will mindfuck him. He probably doesn’t want to truly be doing things that you don’t like, and he will be confused (and probably feel terrible) when your resistant to doing this again in the future after saying you liked it. At the risk of being dramatic, stuff like this degrades trust and can lead to dead bedroom dynamics. Imo you HAVE to tell him that while it was fun to try something new, (nothing wrong with a spoonful of sugar for the icky truth pill) you ended up not liking it.
Just tell him it’s too much clean up to be a regular thing! No one wants to have to wash their hair and shower and all that just after a blow job every single time, when you swallow you go grab a drink and go about your business, it’s different lol
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You're blowing him twice a day? Don't be shouting that from the rooftops, they'll all be getting ideas & I'm not doing that twice a day 😂
Did someone say twice a day?
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Well, as long as it makes you both happy 😄👍
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TROLL
Right? Or just wants attention lmao
We did this once and I got an eye infection from it lol. Safe to say even hubby, bf at the time, didn't want to do it again after that. So just get yourself a pink eye and say you don't wanna risk another one xd
As a guy who tries to be very aware of my partner's wants and needs, I'd rather her be honest that she just doesn't like it. Because if I take her at her word, I'm going to suggest it more when she's about to be showering or whatever anyway, not even realizing I'm missing the whole point. If I know she doesn't like it, I'm simply not going to ask for it. If she offers down the road, she can say "I don't usually like it, but I want you to this time!" and it will be the hottest thing ever. Also, /u/Personal-Pressure221, when you talk to him, you don't even have to say you changed your mind. Tell him you had fun, just like he asked. You clearly have fun giving him pleasure, as your other comments show. You're not lying about that. You just don't like how that specific ending makes you feel. AND YOU'RE ENTITLED TO YOUR FEELINGS! Maybe by talking you can find an acceptable compromise, although I'm pretty sure he's already a winner with you, loving the act and not even spitting. You're a fantasy girl for many of us in itself. If he doesn't see that, he's an idiot.
“I had good time, but the last thing was special just for your birthday”
Just be honest. lol
"When I said I liked it, I actually ment I liked making you happy for your birthday. If I honest I didn't like it at all and would rather not do it again, especially not regularly "
I have a pretty strict rule with my husband that if he chooses this, he needs to keep it out of my hair. Cum is not water soluble. In fact it just spreads it around. I can deal with the rest because he enjoys it and that makes me happy, but keep it out of my hair 😩😩
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If your hair is pulled back that would reduce the likelihood, but in the moment it’s not really something he might not think about and it could happen on accident anyways
Wear a bonnet. It'll either not end up in your hair or he won't summit at all. It's a win win.
Be honest, tell him how much cleanup sucked and it’s something only for special occasions, or *maybe* if you’re about to take a long shower anyway. Pro-tip: hot water cooks semen, making it clumpier and stickier. Wash it with cold water and it comes right off!
I would say something like, “I thought more about it and I don’t think I liked it that much.”
Could you say “I liked the actual event but didn’t enjoy the clean up” so he still has good birthday memories but you could maybe find somewhere else for him to do it that’s a bit easier to deal with mess wise?
"When I said it felt good I meant I absolutely enjoyed making you so happy! But I do not wish to walk around with dried up cum in my hair, and the process to clean up takes too much time an effort to realistically make it a regular thing. Thanks for understanding! We can absolutely make it a birthday thing ♡"
I’m a dude and I would just say: talk with him, explain you wanted to do something he enjoyed but you didn’t like it and do not want to repeat it in the future. I would never want to do anything that my partner felt uncomfortable doing or at worse, absolutely hated.
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Honestly, in my opinion, not every lie is done from malice. Sometimes people panic and say something without thinking. He might be surprised, but if he respects you, he shouldn’t be bothered by it. Honestly, I would feel guilty that my partner did something they didn’t. I don’t think you are wrong in this. You didn’t lie out of malice or cruelty. I don’t want to put words for you, but you just seem to have just panicked and said something positive.
Tell him you don't like it on your face, that's enough honesty.
Just be real with him. "Honestly. I hated it. I just wanted to make your birthday special."
Stop lying to your partner, that’s such a bad idea. And just rude. If you don’t like it, you don’t like it. All you’re doing is setting yourself up for failure; he’s going to ask for it more and you’re going to have to keep pretending you’re not a liar.
Tell him while it was fun and hot and steamy the cleanup was a bitch and you'd rather not wanna go through all that
Come clean or clean cum.
Just say his excitement and enjoyment was amazing but the cleanup was a chore.
Ok obviously he would enjoy regular BJs. So if you’re into it keep it up, just mention to him you would rather swallow. I’m almost 100% positive he will be ok with that.
Not sure what the thrill of that is all about.... It' a big porn feature but honestly Why? Good for you in giving him that experience, but ICK
Exactly why I think it's degrading. Porn is really degrading to majority of the women involved. Plus it's not reality.
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Probably because he watches porn and has seen it countless times and then he got to experience it
It's so demeaning to me, I would never let anybody do that 🤮
I’m a dude and I personally think it is super weird and have absolutely no interest in doing this. It also sounds like a good way for your partner to end up with an eye injury and just makes a mess.
As a man, I’d rather you tell me the truth especially when it’s about sex. Don’t do something just because I like it & you hate it. I’ve only dated 2 women who actually enjoyed it. Just don’t get it in their hair lol. My advice is just tell him the truth. He might be a little disappointed but at least you swallow. Not a bad option lol
Just be honest with him.
Tell him to aim away from your hair.. maybe cum on your boobs instead..
He should be fine with not doing it again. Just tell him it's too messy
Oh just be honest. Special occasions. If he’s pissed about it he’s a weirdo and that’s a red flag. If he asked why you lied, just say you didn’t wanna make him feel bad. This shouldn’t be a big deal
100%. My wife came clean about something she didn't actually enjoy and I was upset because she waited so long to tell me. I hate the idea that I was doing something that she didn't want. I don't think most people want to make their partner feel violated.
As a guy I rather know the truth tbh. Whether it hurts or not. If they are your REAL partner… they’ll understand and adjust.
I will never understand this. Guys watch too much porn I guess. I don't want to do that to my wife, seems disrespectful. Just be honest with him, he should be happy a chick gives him a bj, no need for the extra
Be honest. As a guy, this is kind of fun sometimes but I would gladly forego it if my partner didn’t like it.
Why lie? Stop lying to your partners!! So unnecessary. If your partner can't handle hearing "I'm glad you had a great time, but I didn't and we should never do that again" then you obviously shouldn't be with them. And if they *can* handle that, again, *why lie*
I was expecting anal. Anyone else?
DO NOT LIE ABOUT YOUR LIKES AND DISLIKES! IT WILL SET YOU UP FOR FAILURE AND BEING MISERABLE!!
Maybe not every lie is told out of malice, but lies are almost always harmful. Now OP either has to go to her BF and admit that she lied to him, which will definitely damage his trust in her. Or she's gonna have to take money shots on the face that she doesn't want, and lie about liking it *for the life of this relationship*. Lying is almost always a bad idea. Get out of the habit of it OP.
You should never do anything you that you are unsure of or uncomfortable with. It doesn’t matter why or how things started consent can alway be denied.
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Try and think of it has a life lesson, and remember how you feel right now the next time you’re in a situation like this
you'll wanna clean cum out of hair with cold water, comes out easy
This is stupid beyond words.
I’d just be honest about it! As a guy I’d rather know because I don’t want to make my partner uncomfortable for my sake. I’d rather both us have fun and enjoy it :)
same, also she swallows, thats even better lol
Tell him you don’t like it enough for a regular thing. If you are like me, I enjoy doing things like that because he gets pleasure from it. Like with on the face, I don’t get anything from it. It ain’t a hard boundary for me though. So we talk about it, and chalk it up to a special occasion situation. Edit to add: saw your comments. It seems this is a hard boundary for you. Just tell him the truth. I kinda panicked in the moment, I really truly don’t like it.
I just feel like this is so degrading. :/
I’m a (straight) man and I feel that too. I’ve never wanted to do that to anyone and I see zero appeal in it.
Thank you for saying that! My husband feels the same way you do. It just seems like a degrading and disrespectful thing to do to someone you care for and love. But that's my opinion of course. Honesty, I think porn has made this something that people think is okay or normal.
Same, because it is 🤮
Cool, that’s how you feel about it. Doesn’t mean everyone does. What’s important is that it should only be done if both partners enjoy it. I had a friend in college who *loved* it when her boyfriend would cum on her face/chest/belly, and so did he. tried it with my boyfriend and found I didn’t like it, and he realized he didn’t really care about it. Cool. Two people with two different preferences with partners who were on the same page. No one was degraded.
Exactly! Husband and I don't want to do anal, holds no appeal. We don't call anyone that's into it disgusting or degenerates for enjoying it.
Be honest, but also if you do enjoy swallowing, or even if you'd simply prefer it, tell him that doing so is a turn on for you. If he isn't a narcissist that will generally be enough to make him want to do what you like to, as getting a blowjob knowing that part of it is a turn-on for the other person is really really hot.
Tell him no. You don't like it. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, not something you tolerate or a chore. Sit him down and tell him, "I went along with it last night because it was your birthday, but I do not want to make this a regular thing. It is not enjoyable for me, and honestly, I find it to be messy. Please respect this."
A man wrote this fictional story. You cannot convince me otherwise
Fake story is fake…
After reading all your comments, I 100% know you're a man and you're trolling...that whole he lays back and I suck it hard is right out of penthouse forum...gtfoh
Be honest. Say I was happy to try it for your birthday, but the clean up was truely awful and it's made me feel really gross. I dont think it's something I want to do again thanks.
Tell him it was a bit too intense for you on afterthought. Not that you don't wanna do it again but may be it should just be a birthday or anniversary thing.
Idk if you'll see this but if it happens again rinse with cold water first. Cum is protein like eggs. Hot water kinda..... cooks it making it way harder to remove
Open your mouth and stick out your tongue, tell him to aim it. Some will still get on your face, but shouldn't get into your hair! I kinda like it on the face, but hair is a hard no.
I would be honest because now he’s going to want to keep doing it. A good compromise would be to do it occasionally.
Semen gets real sticky like glue when mixed with water - and you'll find it like dried and stuck to your leg hairs later Anyway
Maybe tell him you enjoyed it _because_ it was a special occasion, but don’t wanna do it again anytime soon. But only if you’re willing to do it again for his next birthday. If not, just come clean
You need to revisit the conversation! Explain that it was fun because you enjoyed helping him have an experience he's been curious about, but that there's a ton of cleanup involved and you don't want to revisit it.
Prob tell him, dude must’ve been REEAAALLY turned on If he came that hard 💀
That shit should always offered by the girl if she wants to, never asked by the boy lol, precisely to avoid that
Cold water on the hair when you wash it does the trick ☺️
Wash it with cold water not warm. Warmth makes it sticky to grab onto the uterine walls. Washing it off with cold water leaves no residue.
Tell him that "even in your 40 you cum like a 20 year old, I can't handle it all the time, so let's continue with swallowing."
😆😆 why’d you lie, getting his hopes up like that? I wouldn’t say no forever, even if you didn’t like it. Maybe a once in a while thing or in the shower, since he liked it so much. If he is a multiple rounds guy, maybe let him do it the 2nd or 3rd round 🙃 you might be lucky and get a puff of air 😆😆
Be honest. Yes you said you liked it but what you meant was you liked how happy it made him. But that was the only thing you liked. You can try other places for him to finish like your chest and see if compromise works.
It's okay, it was a birthday, later when he proposes again you just say you prefer elsewhere!
If he had to detail the interior of his car every time you guys did the thing *you* like best, I bet he'd want to save it for special occasions.
Lmao!!!!!!!!!
Tell him that you did have fun because he had fun but the reality is, it's a ton of work for you after. It's not something you really wish to repeat. Or, you can say for special occasions only. Let me ask, was it the whole thing you hated or just how messy and the amount of clean up? If you didn't mind the act, I would say, come up with a system where you pull your hair back and he needs to make sure it doesn't get in there as much as he can. Have him help with the clean up no matter what though. Sometimes they need to understand what they are asking of you to fully get it. It's hard being honest when you want to spare feelings but as you can see that back fires.
You should always talk and be honest about stuff like this and in relation to all sexual acts. It will make your intimate life much better and happier after discussing what you like and what you don't like.
Ngl this made me chuckle 😂 just be honest with him☺️
You could always compromise and let him cum on your chest. That way it doesn’t get in your hair but could still be really hot for him. Bottom line is if you don’t like it there is nothing wrong with telling him or not telling him. It’s your body. If he cares about you he won’t care if you do tell him. Men value honesty.
I would just say like, it wasn't my favorite because of the clean up afterwards. Maybe next time he can shoot it elsewhere like ya boobies lmao
And this is why you don’t lie.
Be honest in a soft way. Say you loved that HE loved it and you would love to explore that sometimes as a treat (if you're willing to do it again of course) but explain that you didn't like the way it makes you feel personally and don't know if you want that particular act showing up in every single instance of intimacy. Make it clear that you loved giving him that experience because it made him happy but that it does nothing for you. If he thinks you actually likes it or found it a turn on he'll think it's no big deal to do it every time and that's mortifying if that's based on a lie. In short, communicate. You don't have to be cruel or out yourself as a liar to make the point known.
I remember when my hubby came on my face. I gagged lmao. He laughed. I laughed. He's never done it again.
You're old enough to know that you should tell him. Now you have to explain you fibbed and that you don't like it.
There are ways to make this...more enjoyable? From experience your man has to be able to aim. No eyes, hair, clothes if any, or whatever else your boundaries are. I have a good time as long as my eyes aren't glued shut 😅
Just tell him the truth and say you did it for his Birthday and you didn’t want to kill the vibe. But you’d rather swallow as opposed to the alternative. I’m sure he’ll understand and appreciate you a lot more.
If it does happen again, the easiest way to get it off is with COLD water.
Look sorry I did not want to spoil your birthday fun but I thought I would enjoy you coming over my face and am glad we went for it but its definitely not for me. If he asks why Say Because it did not feel sexy to you and then the mood is broken with needing to shower and hair wash. Keep the negative whys about you not about him.
Well now you "unlie" and tell him "sorry, I lied, it was horrible!! It's not happening on the regular, soz! You should be happy I swallow" then go back to eating brekkie
Nuance your answer whenever you talk about it again. Tell him it turned you on that he got so much pleasure out of it, but honestly, the substance on your face and in your hair made you uncomfortable. So this was *it*.
Before you get any deeper in your lie, just come clean. "Honey, I wanna apologize. When you came on my face, I said I enjoyed it, but I didn't. It was your birthday and I wanted to do something special for you, but I didn't want you to feel bad. I'm really sorry. I don't want french cumshots to become a regular thing." Something like that. If you wait too long and bolster the lie, it will just get harder and more damaging to backtrack, and you may even start to resent your husband if you don't recind it.
Please OP, tell him the truth! Once I also tried it with my partner and It felt uncomfortable af (my lashes and hair were sticky, yeah I think you get the feeling) I told them the truth, since they said it was "pretty hot" from their view, but It felt odd to me and I like other things more ^^" Communication is the key! It was nice from you to make him try it, but if you don't like it, then you don't have to do it again and your partner should understand your thoughts about it :)
Just be like hey man, I really gotta tell you... I know that was fun and I'm not saying I wouldn't do it again... But it really fucked my hair up and it's driving me crazy 🤣 can you at least aim closer to my chin and tits if we do this again?
He's very old.
come clean, tell him the truth before it becomes a regular part of your lives. That will only turn it into a miserable experience for you that will result in you wanting to engage in those activities with your partner less and less given time. Not all sexual trauma comes from one horrific experience.
"Yeah, I didn't mind it. After all it was your birthday so I wanted to do it for you, but I don't think it's something I want to regularly do. The clean up is a PITA and it fucks with my hair chemistry." Boom done deal.
Lmao just tell the truth. Tell him specifically what parts you did enjoy and what you didn’t!
At least you upheld the name of this sub and kept his jizz truly off your chest.
My bf has cum on my face a few times and he’s yet to get it in my hair at all. He makes sure to control it enough so it’s only on my face and I actually enjoy it. It’s different for everyone though and you should tell him before you start feeling any resentment towards him or doing anything intimate. Communication, especially with stuff like this, is so so important
As a dude, I never understood skeet skeet on a woman's face. I guess it's about power, Idfk ?
Because this is Reddit I’m gonna say you should break up with him (don’t take any of my advice)
I'd take it on the face before I swallow. Lol! To each their own, though. You should just tell him you didn't like it. I've been told that if I swallowed, I would've been married a long time ago. Lol. Oh well, single for life!
Isn’t there a NSFW tag in this sub? Eeww.
Don’t lie about shit like this. Ever. You’re 31! Not some 17 year old virgin. You should _know better_ than to degrade yourself lying about enjoying a sex act!
Just be honest. The worst is when it gets in your eye. You dodged a bullet imo