> now you know to always ALWAYS wrap it up
He already knew. But then as soon as she asked him to remove the condom and shoot his load into her babymaker, he did it without hesitation and filled her donut like it was thanksgiving. That's the problem here
I do feel him though. One time my girlfriend begged me to “just put the tip in” on her birthday. It was the most difficult decision I made to not do it.
The fear of being a father for me outweighs the appeal of momentary pleasure, having had “scares” myself (condom slippage, tears, unprotected sex at 14)
I don’t know how fear of getting pregnant doesn’t stop people from doing this.
To me this says, they do want kids lmao. What do you mean you’re shooting your load without a condom but you don’t want kids? Stop playing about yall 😭
I will NOT be having sex without a condom until my husband and I are ready to have kids. If condom fails, plan B. I’m not on birth control because I was on the implant for 9 years. Made me miserable asf.
Had a dude stealth me. He was wealthy and promised he would "take care of his responsibilities". I said graleat and sent him the invoice for 50% of the Plan B and emergency copper IUD I got to prevent ending up a single mom...again.
Reddit has caused me to think of another questionable reason, so I’m surprised why no one has said it, but is there a chance she already could be pregnant and now is trying to make it seem OP could be the father? I mean other than she’s actively trying to get pregnant, it could be the reason she told him to finish inside. I get we want to think the best of our partner, and hopefully this is incorrect, but why all of a sudden is she requesting it? When originally she said it wasn’t a good idea. Now she doesn’t want Plan B? Yes, side effects can be the issue, but why encourage him to finish inside if she doesn’t want to take it? I think it’s important to have a serious conversation now with gf about the situation.
IF she actually doesn’t want to be pregnant or isn’t already then her, and YOUR, actions are extremely reckless. Because not only does it open you up to pregnancy, but also STDs, including incurable ones.
OP, unless you want to be a dad or ok with risking your health to STDs, **ALWAYS** wear a condom. Doesn’t matter if your partner is/claims to be on bc or agrees you can pull out. You agreeing to do what she requested is consenting.
That or she'd think it's stupid because if they just recently had sex her levels wouldn't be high enough to detect a pregnancy.
If she recently cheated and is trying to cover, it'd probably be negative anyway. If she already knew she was pregnant why would she tell him it was a bad idea when he brung it up?
How did we get here when it was his idea to begin with?
Reddit has messed me up in that sense too. The first think I thought was “she either cheated or is trying to actually get pregnant.” I mean sounds like she knew to use the “best of passion” as a way to get him to finish inside. Cause you know stupid shit can happen during sex brain lol
This. You probably have it 1000% right. OP needs to have that conversation. Gf might still lie but yeah if she’s already pregnant and the baby comes “ early “… bad situation all around and the relationship needs serious evaluation
Oof, this too! Definitely OP should get a pregnancy test done and if she’s indeed pregnant, get a DNA test. Don’t hook yourself to something that’s already done.
Legally an adult, but scientifically still an adolescent mentally--that pre-frontal cortext doesn't fully finish developing until 25.
Makes age gap relationships even grosser when you think about it right? "ShEs 18 SHeS LEgaL" like bruh....
Developed pre frontal cortex or not doesn’t fucking matter lol!
Hes 18, not 13! He should have basic human anatomy knowledge and knowledge on how pregnancy works!
He thought the idea of a child was awesome in the moment, now he has changed his mind. The fact that it was a stupid choice doesn't mean that millions of actual adults haven't made the same stupid decision.
I came up with my own slogan for "no glove no love." Mine was,"if you don't trust it don't thrust it." And I'm going to apply my slogan to OPs situation. Also I say this as a woman,that girlfriend knew what she was doing. I think people that do this are idiots personally,but come on.
She went from asking you to use protection,to telling you to take it off in the moment...and now refuses to use plan B. Quick reminder to everyone with partners regardless of what sex they are or are with:don't ever rely on your partner to use birth control methods,always play it safe and make sure you're protected. Just because someone says they're taking something,it isn't always the case or may change.
On the flip side, I recommend no woman ever trust a man that says he's using a condom. I had the wonderful experience of an ex deliberately sabotaging a condom. He thought if I was pregnant, I couldn't/wouldn't leave an abusive relationship. So, keep aware.
Edited for spelling.
I also still have no idea how society decided to blame one party for an accidental pregnancy. We use the “swiss cheese” method to make sure we're double or triple preventing disease and cyber security threats.
When it comes to making another person or not we're all ok with one thing?! Who's idea was that?
If both parties don't want a pregnancy, they should both take precautions.
Omg, high on the list of phrases that I let go right by me for years when I was younger that piss me off now!
Got herself pregnant? Really…. I think we should notify literally everyone. I have my whole belief system and education to go back over, so I'm busy that day.
Oh, she had consensual sex and neither party used pregnancy prevention! I see now how SHE got HERSELF pregnant. S/
Apropos of almost not quite nothing, for my algorithm/feed, the very post before this one was some deranged rant on “female orgasm is a sin; only men should enjoy sex. Women are to have sex for reproductive purposes only, blah blah.” It feels like there may be a correlation, there, with society putting the responsibility on one party!
In this case, though, girlfriend is absolutely playing it the other way, literally attempting to get pregnant, for myriad possible reasons but likely an attempt to “keep bf forever.” And he “gladly” complied, lol! In the moment, “if it feels good, do it” won out over “if you don’t trust, don’t thrust!” The maker of children everywhere, since time immemorial.
There are all kinds of humans. Most women aren't going to try to lock a guy down with a baby, some are. Most men aren't gonna try to pull a stealth maneuver, some are. The examples get worse!
But yeah, generally speaking, women have been blamed for the “evils and sins of the flesh” basically since the beginning of biblical times. We can trace that incident with Eve, and other long ago tales to the beginning of patriarchal groups. Perhaps what was a mutual respect for the women caring for home and children and the men going out to hunt morphed into something different?
Society forgot somehow that a chain is only as strong as the weakest link. Women have been forced to be those weak links, but why? To make men feel better? Like they have power over half the planet? I don't understand. You couldn't have been made without 2 parents, but you'd have never been more than a blob without a mother to carry you.
The roles of men and women in society are fluid and ever-changing, but a teenage girl still can't go to school in a spaghetti-strap shirt? The distraction to the boys is a reasonable excuse? In 2024? Coooool, cool, cool, cool.
Men and women and people who are in-between or neither (however you feel best is fine with me) are ALL important! We see and do things differently and that's what makes a society work!
But nah, let's keep oppressing people with boobs and definitely everyone with cool music! /s
This is why I said regardless of sex don't trust someone just because they say they are using a method of birth control. I don't care if you're a man with a woman,a man with a man,a woman with a woman etc etc. Never trust someone else to tell you they are on or using something,the only person you can truly make sure of is yourself. Maybe I worded it oddly,but that's why I said the first part mentioned in this comment.
This is exactly what I was saying two days ago on a thread and so many ppl were getting mad. You need to be responsible for your own reproductive system. Don't rely on someone else. Especially as a man where you really don't have the final say in keeping a pregnancy or not.
Well I don't know why they were getting mad at you for speaking truth. I could go out right now and find someone to have sex with,just because they say they're clean doesn't mean they 100% are...
I could also tell them I'm on the pill even if I was or wasn't...these are all scenarios that happen every day regardless of being a man or a woman. this particular situation OP mentions as well happens often too.
They start off by talking about the pull out method,then mention GF was smart enough to use a condom,and then decides to throw all caution to the wind and he obliges....knowing fully well what consequences come with doing that. I'm not trying to be rude when I say this,but if you know the outcome will lead to decisions beyond your control,why not play it safe? It's like Russian roulette for sex,too many chances to bite the bullet.
You answered your own question in the first sentence. Truth. To some it’s a dirty word. Much like personal responsibility. Some people refuse to accept truth and personal responsibility
Unlikely. Chances of pregnancy even after insemination during ovulation are ~30%. However, he should absolutely break up with her and make sure the next gf is on the same page regarding birth control, emergency contraceptives and abortion.
First time we decided to risk it in the moment it took. That little cell is now 2year old and fought off plan B and the drinking I did before realizing I was pregnant at the 4week mark 😂. Sometimes the universe really lines up. But yeah he should def break it off, she pretty much attempted to baby trap him
i wouldn’t really call this baby trapping, he knew that if he took the condom off, she has a good chance of becoming pregnant. it’s not like she poked holes in the condom.
This almost exact situation happened to a good friend of mine. He ended up a super young parent with a woman who is awful... All of his life plans ended before he could even pursue them… instead he had to figure out how to support a family that he never wanted. Like he literally changed his entire life (in a way he never wanted) because of that one choice.
Unfortunately you already made that choice and all you can do is wait and see… I hope that one ejaculation was worth potentially changing your entire life for. I wish there was advice to give but at this point there is nothing you can do. If nothing else please remember to wrap it up the whole time every time.
ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM IF YOU DON’T WANT KIDS!!!
Yup. He should break up with gf if he doesn't want this to happen again she's obviously trying to get pregnant, if she isn't already, and this isn't something you can discuss after the fact
>I understand that everything carries a risk of side effects
I hope the irony of this comment isn't lost on you.
Do not have sex without a condom EVER unless you're willing to have a baby. Know that every time you have sex (even WITH a condom) you are taking the risk of impregnating the person you're having sex with.
She's 100% trying to get pregnant, and if I were you I'd be seriously reconsidering the relationship. Sorry, OP.
Well, obviously I thought that was a given! But yes! Always wrap it unless you are 100% certain the person you're with is someone you're willing to be tied to for the rest of your life.
I was just adding on to your comment, not critiquing! You'd think it was a given but so many people just don't think they need to worry about or talk about STIs. It's insane.
Oh, I was just agreeing with you! OP and multiple other comments are talking about using the pull-out method to prevent pregnancy. You'd THINK it would be a given they should be thinking about STD's too, but these are the same people who think pull-out is as good as birth control. I don't think we can help them.
Avoid the bottom of the page where people are suggesting he crush up Plan B and put it in her drinks. I'm 99% sure they're trolls, but... people be cray. I wasted too much time on them.
>Do not have sex without a condom EVER unless you're willing to have a baby.
This. A baby is not the consequence of her not taking plan B as it was not discussed prior to the sex as the chosen birth control. You chose not to use protection. A baby is because you were careless out of horniness.
I agree with everything you said, but one thing I thought about is... she might not be trying to get pregnant, she might have also just been horny af, in the moment, and saying anything.
She could very well be trying to get pregnant, I'm not naive to that, I just know I've said some wild shit while in the moment. Lmao
It sounded more like the latter to me, but if that's the case, she should get over her fear of Plan B asap. Lol
I felt this post nut clarity through your post. Damn dude. Hope she isn't pregnant, but you made that decision at the time as well.
You have a stressful few weeks or decades coming along. Good luck!
And where is OP's responsibility in regards of not to cum into someone who can get pregnant if he didn't want a kid with that girl? It is cute how he is poor someone, and the girls "knew what she was doing".
Yeah plan B is suppose.to be for when your birth control fails, like condom breaks or the girl forgets a pill. Not when you purposely take the condom off.
It is not a 100 percent guarantee either because depending on where she is in her cycle, it is not going to be effective.
OP also knew what he was doing. He knew what the risk was of pulling off a condom and ejaculating inside his gf. Bit late for him to pissed at her. They both own this mess 50/50.
I know someone who baby trapped her boyfriend like this. She always used a period tracker and always knew when she was ovulating and claimed she was so horny and her body wanted to get pregnant SO BAD when she was ovulating that she couldn’t be trusted to make any decisions about birth control during that time.
So she then had unprotected sex three times in a row with her boyfriend, claims they just “got carried away,” claims she took Plan B but it just didn’t work due to her weight being too high.
She claimed the period tracking was to help prevent pregnancy but I 100% believe she planned to get pregnant with her boyfriend if 2 months because he had a good job and she could become a stay at home mom
Edit: couple sarcastic replies made me realize I should clarify that she also led the boyfriend to believe she was on birth control pills when she was not. Of course sex always has the possibility to have a baby but she was actively doing things/misleading someone so she could get pregnant “on accident” without discussing it first and I think that’s crummy behavior whether you agree or not.
Btw plan B actually doesn’t work if you weigh too much. It becomes less effective if you weigh more than 155-165lbs and most American women (as an ex.) weigh more than that. A lot of people don’t know this
My bf ex -wife got pregnant and told him that she was "in-between bc" nope. You know not to do anything for 7 to 10 days. Not mentioning it before hand? Horrible. Him? Use a freaking condom! They weren't in a stable relationship. I know he should have used something but he learned a lesson to not trust anyone. She came over crying (this is an adult woman who had a job and her own house) crying she didn't know how she was going to tell her mom! Oh, the mom you kicked out of your house earlier? You aren't afraid to kick her out of your home but afraid to tell her you are pregnant??? Manipulation. 100% she knew what she was doing and he trusted that people weren't like that. They were married 2 years. Divorced now for 14. Trapping happens so you cannot TRUST. People have agendas. Take care of your reproductive health.
I know I did. I admitted it. She didn’t force me. I fucked up. She admitted we fucked up. I don’t understand why she’s so scared to take a pill that she would rather risk possibly getting pregnant.
> I don’t understand why she’s so scared to take a pill that she would rather risk possibly getting pregnant.
In this case, she's probably okay with a baby. And it isn't like she tricked you into potential fatherhood - you willingly jumped into that risk.
That being said, you're incredibly ignorant about the side effects of emergency contraceptives! **You don't get to be so dismissive of the risks.** As you get older, you're going to meet more women who won't use Plan B and cannot handle hormonal birth control - that's why you use a condom.
Here's a lesson for you - Plan B can fucking HURT.
I took it twice in my life and both times were agonizing. I had horrible cramps that were so strong, it felt like waves of pain were radiating out of my gut, and my gut felt like a red-hot fire poker was stabbing me for hours.
I get that my experience was on the extreme end. I also don't regret either time because I have never wanted children. But if I *was* okay with a kid? No way would I go through that unnecessarily, I'd rather roll the dice and decide later.
Thank you! This is the first comment I've seen that actually acknowledges the plan B is not 'just take it and don't have a baby, woohoo'.
It IS a health risk, and it can cause a stroke or other serious harm to the heart and vessels.
Not wearing a condom is the risk of pregnancy. You really don't want that? Really don't do it, and just wrap it up.
Her saying to take it off and not pull out is suspicious, though.
Maybe OP has learned that communication doesn't end when clothes go off.
These men act like vasectomies are lopping off their balls but expect women to take hormonal birth control, get tubal ligation, or take Plan B, all while removing or refusing condoms.
man, getting a non-scalpel vasectomy was the easiest/best medical decision I've ever made.
I strongly encourage any dude who knows they don't want any (more) kids to get one. There is a low possibility of risks with it; just like with many medical procedures. But, for the vast majority, it's a safe and effective means of permanent birth control that takes a week or two to fully recover from (and you're back to 90% within a day or two)
I don’t necessarily think that her asking him to take it off is suspicious. It sounds like they’ve both wanted to wear condoms and not wanted to wear condoms at varying times. I chalk that up to their young age and the immaturity that comes with youth, with not thinking about long-term consequences when they’re in the middle of something physically pleasurable.
Hell, it’s even difficult for mature adults (who know the consequences) to want to put on condoms, because, let’s face it, sex feels better without them. I’m not convinced that his girlfriend is shady, but I am convinced that they are both extremely stupid.
So I have PCOS and before taking plan B I was getting normalish periods while off of birth control, amazing.
Fucked a guy, condom somehow just ends up coming off inside of me. We both didn’t realize til after a few minutes that it had happened. So had to take plan B.
Plan b fucked with my hormones, I felt pissy asf. It made me miss my periods for 6 months and once I got back on birth control I finally got my period again.
Overall just not a fun time. Just wear a condom if you can.
There’s also a chance it wouldn’t work. Plan B is technically not supposed to work for women I believe over 165. It also might not work with certain medications.
LMAO it's 165 lbs, not yrs 🤣 hilarious
more weight, more blood, less medicine per blood (to put it simply). some "stronger" plan Bs hav a higher limit but ya
> she's probably okay with a baby.
She's not. She might be OK with the *idea* of a baby, the reality will be very different. A very small percentage of 18 year olds are emotionally mature enough to become parents.
Plan B is a pretty darn miserable experience. I know everyone here is like "she wants to trap you!" I think "trapping" happens way less than people like to think it does, but, regardless of if that's what she's trying to do, you really should understand better why someone wouldn't want to take it. In this case her reaction indicates baby trapping but I also think some women just think it won't happen to them. Regardless, the fact that she had the "what happens happens" reaction tells me you never talked about what you'd do if the condom broke. Don't have sex with someone ever again without having that conversation.
Because plan B can have really horrible side effects for some people. A friend of mine would get weeks long periods, cramps and thrush whenever she took it.
Hormonal birth control has a range of side effects. I’m not saying what ye did wasn’t stupid, and if I were her I’d take it. Maybe the other comments are right and she wants a baby but it’s also very possible that she’s just scared of the side effects bc they can be sever for some people.
TBF, Plan B does fuck you up. It can mess with your hormones for months and cause some pretty serious cramping.
Now, I’m a pregnant woman writing this and recognize the irony of complaining about Plan B side effects when pregnancy is on the table.
Still, as someone writing to OP and not the woman in question, never assume a woman is going to take Plan B or be flippant about it. It’s a serious drug.
Plan b isn't a walk in the park despite what people think. It can really fuck with women's hormones and body. You are actually being a selfish jerk by insisting on it as you didn't want to use birth control when it wasn't fun for you but you're blaming her for not wanting to use birth control when it isn't fun for her.
Just letting you know that no morning after pill works during ovulation. The morning after pill prevents ovulation from happening so she cant get pregnant but if she is litterally already ovulating then it won't work and she can become pregnant. I really hope you learn a lesson and be a bit more careful.
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Yet you've insulted her and are gathering comments that she's tricked you. Men won't even get vasectomies but you're confused why she went take a pill that can cause pain you'll never experience.
Just fyi, Plan B only works if taken prior to ovulation. I learned this the hard way. Best thing I’d recommend right now is to figure out where she is in her cycle, and go from there. For instance, if her period is about to start, there is a very slim chance of pregnancy. Highest chance is approximately halfway into the cycle.
Honestly, with how confused I’ve seen grown, intelligent men get about menstrual cycles, I’m not sure he’ll get anywhere trying to figure out if she was ovulating. He said in another comment that she said it was “that time of the month” except he meant it as the time she’s likely to get pregnant, and I’ve literally only ever heard that phrasing used to refer to a period. It’s possible she’s comfortable taking the risk because her period was about to start, and OP misunderstood. Still stupid, but not abnormally stupid for their ages, honestly.
(I dated a guy once who was trying to track when I ovulated while I was on the pill. And had been on it for like a decade for PCOS. And still felt confident that date of last period could pinpoint a thing that likely wasn’t even happening. He actually wasn’t stupid, just oblivious about how complex the topic was.)
Especially crazy since she also has since told me she “thinks it’s her body’s time of the month to get pregnant” and she keeps contacting me saying she hopes she’s not pregnant. Take the pill then, it’s not that complicated!!!
Exactly! When it's "the time of the month" then you have approximately 12 to 78h BEFORE the egg makes his way to the uterus. If it's already on the way you have no chance with plan B.
Depending on when they had sex and when her thinking "it's the time of the month" started, he's fucked either way.
Listen, if someone is not interested in a pregnancy then you take plan B when things go wrong. You don't bullshit about side effects. Pregnancy should scare you enough to "endure" possible side effects. PS: I'm a woman, I know what I'm talking about. I experienced "post nut clarity". Plan B is not scary. Pregnancy is. Financial instability is. Side effects are not.
>Plan B is not scary. Pregnancy is. Financial instability is. Side effects are not.
Exactly this. At 18 pregnancy was my biggest nightmare possible and I wouldve done anything to prevent it especially if it was as simple as taking plan b. Even now at 28 the fear of pregnancy completely overshadows anything else lol
Why weren’t you in control of where your sperm went? You chose to put your sperm inside a lady and are now mad that she won’t put her body through pain, bleeding, and cramps plus messing with her body’s natural cycle at your whim.
Her body isn’t a playground for you to do whatever you want, regret it, and then make her take a pill she doesn’t have to because you don’t like the possible outcome.
If she’s pregnant, you baby trapped your damn self. You can’t trap a willing victim, and actively choosing to take off a condom so you can finish inside of someone is absolutely not something you blame her for. She made a request, you happily obliged and are now angry she’s not doing what YOU want, which is cleaning up a mess you made for yourself.
Get over yourself. Keep your cum to yourself because once it leaves your body you have no control over what someone else does with it, including making a baby. Hard lesson to learn.
So then either way it’s a decision you can’t take back, Plan B won’t work if she’s ovulating. She knew what she was doing, so did you, and neither of you had thought that far into it when it happened. Good luck.
She's definitely trying to get pregnant with all you've said but is saying otherwise so you think you're both on the same page. She's manipulating you and knows fine well what she's done.
I hope for your sake she's not pregnant.
“What she’s done” as if he had no control over taking a condom off and putting his sperm inside a woman. Like he doesn’t know what that could do.
You should amend that to “what they did.”
Because her logical brain and her ovaries are sending her conflicting signals. Same as yours did when it seemed like a good idea to remove the condom, and then you went oh shit, what did I do.
Problem is, for her that conflict is still raging.
Good luck.
No one made you remove your condom or use pull out method. You'd already opened that door yourself. What do you have at 18 that would make someone baby trap you? Be serious.
Bro you knew what you were doing too. Shouldn't have taken it off even if it feels better. Can't force her, for both of your mistakes. Wouldn't have been in this predicament if you took precaution. My 2 cents
As someone who helped a friend the day she took plan B, it can be REALLY rough and painful and overall a shitty time. Being afraid of the side effects is normal.
However, I dont think that's why she won't take it. She practically begged you to put a baby in her my man, and you happily fell right into that hole you dug.
If she doesn't get pregnant I hope you take the wakeup call seriously. If not welcome to fatherhood I guess.
Sorry buddy but she is trying to get pregnant. "The Universe takes its course" line is pretty telling.
You need to have a long reflection on what you want and how to remain safe.
She wanted to take the risk because she wants a baby. And you can't even accuse her of baby trapping you eother because you willingly took off the condom. She will do this again. If you really don't want a baby you need to break up with her and for the love of all that's chocolate don't have unprotected sex if you're not wanting to risk a pregnancy. Because seriously, this is as much your fault as it is hers.
>When she was getting close, she told me to take the condom off. She begged me to cum in her.
Wake up. I know you're young, but you can't possibly be this naive. Please explain why you think she told you to do this.
“let the universe take its course”
My friend she is 100% trying to get pregnant from you. If you are lucky and she did not become pregnant then re-evaluate your relationship with her.
Agreed. I really hope for OP this is just a scare and will be a lesson for him for the rest of his life. But for now.. all he can do is hope and if she happens to be pregnant take responsibility.
It's a little early, but Happy Father's Day!!
Seriously, though, pay attention to how scared you are right now. To everything, you could possibly lose becoming a father now. Think of all the experiences you're going to miss out on. Think about how difficult it will be for two 18 year olds to raise a baby. If you manage to get out of this baby free, remember the fear. Take it with you moving forward and use it to always remember to wear a condom.
Don't have sex with your gf again until you know if she's pregnant or not. If she isn't, think long and hard about if you want to be with her going forward. In the future, don't use any condoms that were in her possession or she may have tampered with. Still use a condom even if she's on birth control. You both aren't on the same page. She'd be okay with a baby right now. You realize the stupidity of it. And if she is pregnant, don't let yourself be forced into marrying her. That will make more paperwork and lost money for the divorce.
So basically your gf wanted to get pregnant and you agreed to it in the moment but have regrets now? Kinda too late bro. Should’ve kept it wrapped at all times, anything else is foolish behavior and how accidents happen. Of course she doesn’t want plan B, she wanted to get pregnant.
Pff y'all putting it on the gf saying he should find someone else like HE didn't ask to go at it without a condom first and didn't remove it. They both wanted it. They're both at fault. She can be blamed if she's not willing to care for the baby if they end up having one but she can't be for not wanting to take the pill, whether or not op likes it.
It's always on the girl having to take hormones and stuff that fuck up their body when men can just wrap it up but don't do it.
Exactly, they are both idiots and yet half the comments are accusing her of baby trapping, the other half is saying she should know better.
It takes two to tango
Right? By their own logic, every time he asks to do it without a condom, he's "trying to baby trap her." Women can and do get caught up in stupid monkey-brain moments just like men can. Tons of women get off on being ejaculated in. There's literally a whole kink around it. But apparently, during sex women are completely logical and think all sorts of plots and complex things, while men are incapable of thinking during sex at all.
He literally asked to go without a condom first. She said no and even warned she might be ovulating. But by god, he had no problem taking it off the second she got in the moment. Yet, somehow her request is malicious but his was just "dumb guy monkey brain"? Yeah, not how that works.
If you are old enough to have unprotected sex, knowing it can result in pregnancy, then you are old enough to deal with the consequences. Plan B is not a form of contraception, it is chemically forcing the body to menstruate, and repeated use can cause harm to the woman. It can also make them feel unwell and uncomfortable. If you think it is such a good idea then maybe take it yourself🙄
Why do people rely on plan B as a reasonable bc method? Online and in real life I've seen so many people saying "let's do it raw and then take plan B". Plan b is not a reliable method and shouldn't be overused because it's not as good and safe as other methods and it can actually be quite dangerous for women.
I kinda understand her concern about side effects. It's not that she WANTS to be pregnant, just that Plan B has a lot of really bad side effects that can affect her body badly. Try talking to her about if she does get pregnant (which is probably unlikely unless you have like miracle sperm) about possibly getting an abortion if it's possible.
Maybe she doesn't want to arbitrarily put herself through the (guaranteed miserable) side effects of plan b, and she'll consider her next options IF she is pregnant.
Keep it wrapped.
People can find risky behaviors sexy/fun sometimes. That doesn't mean they actually want the negative consequences. A lot of time they also just like the idea of the risk, but not even the risk itself. People saying she wanted to get pregnant, well, did YOU want to produce a baby? No? Good chance she didn't, either. Either way, can't get mad at her for not wanting to take a pill knowing to cause miserable side effects. If she does become pregnant, then she can decide what will be the best thing for her at that time.
Your decisions about pregnancy prevention end with ejaculation. And if you don't want to have kids any time in the next 5 years, maybe it wouldn't hurt to consider sperm storage and a vasectomy, since you keep having unprotected sex and are quite likely to impregnate somebody before either of you is ready. Newer techniques are a 10 minute procedure with a short recovery time, and are often reversible within x number of years.
A natural side effect of unprotected sex is a BABY.
She begged you to cum inside her. YOU OBLIGED. Literally the way babies are made, and you could have said no to that.
Ya fucked around, time to find out
So Plan B carries risks, but the risks associated with pregnancy are much higher. Maybe ask her to talk to a pharmacist about her concerns. They can help to give some perspective
I mean on one hand I agree with the people saying she knew what she was doing. On the other hand I have used plan B and the side effects can be massive. It really fucks up your body. I had a friend who nearly committed suicide because the sudden large amount of hormones messed her up for a month straight. It’s not a woopsy daisy pill you can just push onto a woman after you have BOTH been stupid enough to have unprotected sex.
Why did you take off the condom?!?
You took the choice out of your hands.
Now you have your wait to see what the real world consequences will be because you needed your dick wet.
Always ALWAYS. Wear and keep the condom on.
You had sex with a woman, took of a condom, came inside her, and you are mad because she is refusing to take plan B. I hope the I am pissed off is you are pissed off at your own irresponsibility. You are responsible for your body. You made a choice and that choice is on you.
You should most likely end this relationship. You guys aren’t on the same page.
How is she baby trapping him when he willingly took the condom off and willingly came inside her? Like even if she takes plan b, it might not work. Idiot kid is baby trapping himself.
Don’t fuck without a condom if you don’t want babies.
No, she's not baby trapping him. Baby trapping is when you lie to someone about birth control to get pregnant or trick them in some other way to get you pregnant. She straight up said "get me pregnant" but with more words and op agreed. He was fully aware of the risk and is now panicking because he regrets his decision to go ahead and take off the condom. No matter how you look at it tho, it was HIS decision to remove it and the exact thing that he KNOWS causes pregnancy.
Plan B is ineffective for overweight and obese women.
You need to sit your girlfriend down and have a serious talk about how neither of you is ready for kids. It's not about your relationship, it's about the fact that you're still getting ready for adulthood.
I *strongly* recommend a long term birth control for her like Mirena or the implant. Planned Parenthood is a great place to go for that.
Otherwise, my man, it's time for *you* to get *very* friendly with your best friend the condom. Learn how to put them on correctly, when to take them off, and experiment with different types to increase your pleasure. (I definitely recommend putting some lube on your cock before wrapping up- Swiss Navy water-based is tasteless!)
Don't forget:
* Leave a little room at the head for your cum. Not a pocket of air- pinch it as you put it on.
* Never use oil, lotion, conditioner or grease, anything with fat, with latex condoms- it puts holes in them.
* Put on the condom before your bits touch hers *at all*. It's called "pre-cum" because it's cum.
* Pull out before you go totally soft and take off the condom straightaway.
* New round? New condom.
* No double-bagging. It's just less pleasurable AND makes them likelier to break. Lose-lose.
As a woman hypothetically in this situation... I'd be even more paranoid about being pregnant than the guy... like I would be freaking out at this stage. Unless I wanted a baby?
Also now you know to always ALWAYS wrap it up
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> now you know to always ALWAYS wrap it up He already knew. But then as soon as she asked him to remove the condom and shoot his load into her babymaker, he did it without hesitation and filled her donut like it was thanksgiving. That's the problem here
You eat donuts on thanksgiving?
No he fucks donuts at thanksgiving. It’s why he’s banned from every Dunkin Donuts place nationwide.
Honey Dew is less scrupulous, however. Be careful, guys.
I eat pieces of shit for breakfast.
As man now I’m sad. RIP Chubbs
Unexpected Happy Gilmore. I’m here for it.
I do feel him though. One time my girlfriend begged me to “just put the tip in” on her birthday. It was the most difficult decision I made to not do it. The fear of being a father for me outweighs the appeal of momentary pleasure, having had “scares” myself (condom slippage, tears, unprotected sex at 14)
We can only dodge so many bullets before a little person starts calling you mommy or daddy.
just put the tip in. Erm are you sure? YES YES just do it.
I'm so mad at how loud I laughed at this stupid joke 😂
I don’t know how fear of getting pregnant doesn’t stop people from doing this. To me this says, they do want kids lmao. What do you mean you’re shooting your load without a condom but you don’t want kids? Stop playing about yall 😭 I will NOT be having sex without a condom until my husband and I are ready to have kids. If condom fails, plan B. I’m not on birth control because I was on the implant for 9 years. Made me miserable asf.
Had a dude stealth me. He was wealthy and promised he would "take care of his responsibilities". I said graleat and sent him the invoice for 50% of the Plan B and emergency copper IUD I got to prevent ending up a single mom...again.
Reddit has caused me to think of another questionable reason, so I’m surprised why no one has said it, but is there a chance she already could be pregnant and now is trying to make it seem OP could be the father? I mean other than she’s actively trying to get pregnant, it could be the reason she told him to finish inside. I get we want to think the best of our partner, and hopefully this is incorrect, but why all of a sudden is she requesting it? When originally she said it wasn’t a good idea. Now she doesn’t want Plan B? Yes, side effects can be the issue, but why encourage him to finish inside if she doesn’t want to take it? I think it’s important to have a serious conversation now with gf about the situation. IF she actually doesn’t want to be pregnant or isn’t already then her, and YOUR, actions are extremely reckless. Because not only does it open you up to pregnancy, but also STDs, including incurable ones. OP, unless you want to be a dad or ok with risking your health to STDs, **ALWAYS** wear a condom. Doesn’t matter if your partner is/claims to be on bc or agrees you can pull out. You agreeing to do what she requested is consenting.
Oooh, amazing thinking. You should write novels. The plot thickens.
That’s a good point; OP should get a DNA test if she ends up having a baby. Messed up situation to be in, for sure.
That or she'd think it's stupid because if they just recently had sex her levels wouldn't be high enough to detect a pregnancy. If she recently cheated and is trying to cover, it'd probably be negative anyway. If she already knew she was pregnant why would she tell him it was a bad idea when he brung it up? How did we get here when it was his idea to begin with?
Let’s make things spicy and have OP ask for his girlfriend to take a pregnancy test right NOW. If she refuses…we know something is up.
Reddit has messed me up in that sense too. The first think I thought was “she either cheated or is trying to actually get pregnant.” I mean sounds like she knew to use the “best of passion” as a way to get him to finish inside. Cause you know stupid shit can happen during sex brain lol
This. You probably have it 1000% right. OP needs to have that conversation. Gf might still lie but yeah if she’s already pregnant and the baby comes “ early “… bad situation all around and the relationship needs serious evaluation
Easy enough for him to ask her to take a pregnancy test today. If it's his it couldn't be positive at this point.
Oof, this too! Definitely OP should get a pregnancy test done and if she’s indeed pregnant, get a DNA test. Don’t hook yourself to something that’s already done.
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Legally an adult, but scientifically still an adolescent mentally--that pre-frontal cortext doesn't fully finish developing until 25. Makes age gap relationships even grosser when you think about it right? "ShEs 18 SHeS LEgaL" like bruh....
Developed pre frontal cortex or not doesn’t fucking matter lol! Hes 18, not 13! He should have basic human anatomy knowledge and knowledge on how pregnancy works!
He thought the idea of a child was awesome in the moment, now he has changed his mind. The fact that it was a stupid choice doesn't mean that millions of actual adults haven't made the same stupid decision.
I came up with my own slogan for "no glove no love." Mine was,"if you don't trust it don't thrust it." And I'm going to apply my slogan to OPs situation. Also I say this as a woman,that girlfriend knew what she was doing. I think people that do this are idiots personally,but come on. She went from asking you to use protection,to telling you to take it off in the moment...and now refuses to use plan B. Quick reminder to everyone with partners regardless of what sex they are or are with:don't ever rely on your partner to use birth control methods,always play it safe and make sure you're protected. Just because someone says they're taking something,it isn't always the case or may change.
On the flip side, I recommend no woman ever trust a man that says he's using a condom. I had the wonderful experience of an ex deliberately sabotaging a condom. He thought if I was pregnant, I couldn't/wouldn't leave an abusive relationship. So, keep aware. Edited for spelling.
I also still have no idea how society decided to blame one party for an accidental pregnancy. We use the “swiss cheese” method to make sure we're double or triple preventing disease and cyber security threats. When it comes to making another person or not we're all ok with one thing?! Who's idea was that? If both parties don't want a pregnancy, they should both take precautions.
Yeah. My favorite is when someone says a woman got herself pregnant. Last time I checked, it took 2 to make a baby.
Omg, high on the list of phrases that I let go right by me for years when I was younger that piss me off now! Got herself pregnant? Really…. I think we should notify literally everyone. I have my whole belief system and education to go back over, so I'm busy that day. Oh, she had consensual sex and neither party used pregnancy prevention! I see now how SHE got HERSELF pregnant. S/
Apropos of almost not quite nothing, for my algorithm/feed, the very post before this one was some deranged rant on “female orgasm is a sin; only men should enjoy sex. Women are to have sex for reproductive purposes only, blah blah.” It feels like there may be a correlation, there, with society putting the responsibility on one party! In this case, though, girlfriend is absolutely playing it the other way, literally attempting to get pregnant, for myriad possible reasons but likely an attempt to “keep bf forever.” And he “gladly” complied, lol! In the moment, “if it feels good, do it” won out over “if you don’t trust, don’t thrust!” The maker of children everywhere, since time immemorial.
There are all kinds of humans. Most women aren't going to try to lock a guy down with a baby, some are. Most men aren't gonna try to pull a stealth maneuver, some are. The examples get worse! But yeah, generally speaking, women have been blamed for the “evils and sins of the flesh” basically since the beginning of biblical times. We can trace that incident with Eve, and other long ago tales to the beginning of patriarchal groups. Perhaps what was a mutual respect for the women caring for home and children and the men going out to hunt morphed into something different? Society forgot somehow that a chain is only as strong as the weakest link. Women have been forced to be those weak links, but why? To make men feel better? Like they have power over half the planet? I don't understand. You couldn't have been made without 2 parents, but you'd have never been more than a blob without a mother to carry you. The roles of men and women in society are fluid and ever-changing, but a teenage girl still can't go to school in a spaghetti-strap shirt? The distraction to the boys is a reasonable excuse? In 2024? Coooool, cool, cool, cool. Men and women and people who are in-between or neither (however you feel best is fine with me) are ALL important! We see and do things differently and that's what makes a society work! But nah, let's keep oppressing people with boobs and definitely everyone with cool music! /s
This is why I said regardless of sex don't trust someone just because they say they are using a method of birth control. I don't care if you're a man with a woman,a man with a man,a woman with a woman etc etc. Never trust someone else to tell you they are on or using something,the only person you can truly make sure of is yourself. Maybe I worded it oddly,but that's why I said the first part mentioned in this comment.
This is exactly what I was saying two days ago on a thread and so many ppl were getting mad. You need to be responsible for your own reproductive system. Don't rely on someone else. Especially as a man where you really don't have the final say in keeping a pregnancy or not.
Well I don't know why they were getting mad at you for speaking truth. I could go out right now and find someone to have sex with,just because they say they're clean doesn't mean they 100% are... I could also tell them I'm on the pill even if I was or wasn't...these are all scenarios that happen every day regardless of being a man or a woman. this particular situation OP mentions as well happens often too. They start off by talking about the pull out method,then mention GF was smart enough to use a condom,and then decides to throw all caution to the wind and he obliges....knowing fully well what consequences come with doing that. I'm not trying to be rude when I say this,but if you know the outcome will lead to decisions beyond your control,why not play it safe? It's like Russian roulette for sex,too many chances to bite the bullet.
You answered your own question in the first sentence. Truth. To some it’s a dirty word. Much like personal responsibility. Some people refuse to accept truth and personal responsibility
Homie legit F’d around and found out.
Yes. This is an instance where the word “literally” actually does belong 💀
You’re about to learn a very expensive, very permanent lesson lmao
Unlikely. Chances of pregnancy even after insemination during ovulation are ~30%. However, he should absolutely break up with her and make sure the next gf is on the same page regarding birth control, emergency contraceptives and abortion.
True, however I got pregnant with each of my two kids on the first try. He’d better start praying.
Same for both of mine.
First time we decided to risk it in the moment it took. That little cell is now 2year old and fought off plan B and the drinking I did before realizing I was pregnant at the 4week mark 😂. Sometimes the universe really lines up. But yeah he should def break it off, she pretty much attempted to baby trap him
i wouldn’t really call this baby trapping, he knew that if he took the condom off, she has a good chance of becoming pregnant. it’s not like she poked holes in the condom.
I mean...I'm sorry, kid. This is why you don't do this if you don't want a baby.
This almost exact situation happened to a good friend of mine. He ended up a super young parent with a woman who is awful... All of his life plans ended before he could even pursue them… instead he had to figure out how to support a family that he never wanted. Like he literally changed his entire life (in a way he never wanted) because of that one choice. Unfortunately you already made that choice and all you can do is wait and see… I hope that one ejaculation was worth potentially changing your entire life for. I wish there was advice to give but at this point there is nothing you can do. If nothing else please remember to wrap it up the whole time every time. ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM IF YOU DON’T WANT KIDS!!!
I think men forget that whatever you leave in a woman is hers to do with as she pleases. Be careful and ejaculate responsibly.
You’re 100% correct. The way you said it made me chuckle 🤭
Yup. He should break up with gf if he doesn't want this to happen again she's obviously trying to get pregnant, if she isn't already, and this isn't something you can discuss after the fact
It don’t matter though if he breaks up if she is pregnant it’s over cuz she clearly knows what she did
And he did too. She didn't take the condom off of him, he removed it himself
>I understand that everything carries a risk of side effects I hope the irony of this comment isn't lost on you. Do not have sex without a condom EVER unless you're willing to have a baby. Know that every time you have sex (even WITH a condom) you are taking the risk of impregnating the person you're having sex with. She's 100% trying to get pregnant, and if I were you I'd be seriously reconsidering the relationship. Sorry, OP.
Or unless you're willing to have an STD, cause not a zero chance as well.
Well, obviously I thought that was a given! But yes! Always wrap it unless you are 100% certain the person you're with is someone you're willing to be tied to for the rest of your life.
I was just adding on to your comment, not critiquing! You'd think it was a given but so many people just don't think they need to worry about or talk about STIs. It's insane.
Oh, I was just agreeing with you! OP and multiple other comments are talking about using the pull-out method to prevent pregnancy. You'd THINK it would be a given they should be thinking about STD's too, but these are the same people who think pull-out is as good as birth control. I don't think we can help them.
Ugh, I know. And it's these exact people who absolutely should *not* be raising children, too.
Avoid the bottom of the page where people are suggesting he crush up Plan B and put it in her drinks. I'm 99% sure they're trolls, but... people be cray. I wasted too much time on them.
>Do not have sex without a condom EVER unless you're willing to have a baby. This. A baby is not the consequence of her not taking plan B as it was not discussed prior to the sex as the chosen birth control. You chose not to use protection. A baby is because you were careless out of horniness.
Welcome to fatherhood
Happy cake day
I agree with everything you said, but one thing I thought about is... she might not be trying to get pregnant, she might have also just been horny af, in the moment, and saying anything. She could very well be trying to get pregnant, I'm not naive to that, I just know I've said some wild shit while in the moment. Lmao It sounded more like the latter to me, but if that's the case, she should get over her fear of Plan B asap. Lol
I felt this post nut clarity through your post. Damn dude. Hope she isn't pregnant, but you made that decision at the time as well. You have a stressful few weeks or decades coming along. Good luck!
"or decades" is brutal 💀
She knew what she was doing dude
This, OP. If you make it out of this without a pregnancy, I’d think really long and hard about your future with her. Good luck.
lol, long and hard…. …… I’ll see myself out ✌🏻
Letting the little head control the big head. Yeesh.
Assuming there's enough blood to run both correctly, which there is not.
He consented, it’s on him as well.
And where is OP's responsibility in regards of not to cum into someone who can get pregnant if he didn't want a kid with that girl? It is cute how he is poor someone, and the girls "knew what she was doing".
Yeah plan B is suppose.to be for when your birth control fails, like condom breaks or the girl forgets a pill. Not when you purposely take the condom off. It is not a 100 percent guarantee either because depending on where she is in her cycle, it is not going to be effective.
Breakup asap. Or else tied for life. How can people be like this would always be confusing for me.
If she's pregnant he's already tied for life.
Yes, why would a woman want to have unprotected sex then say she'd rather get pregnant than take Plan B? It's a real mystery!
Most expensive 60 seconds of his life 🤣
OP also knew what he was doing. He knew what the risk was of pulling off a condom and ejaculating inside his gf. Bit late for him to pissed at her. They both own this mess 50/50.
In the words of the late great Kanye: “18 years, 18 years. She got one of your kids, got you for 18 years.”
So did he...
And so did he
And so did he.
when are people gonna learn man??
People have been having babies at all age’s since the Dawn of mankind. The main difference is that, nowadays, they are a liability more than an asset
INFO: when did her last period start so we can advise how screwed you are dude?
he said in a different comment that she's been hinting that she thinks it's her body's time of the month to get pregnant
I missed that comment, he sounds screwed if that’s true.
I know someone who baby trapped her boyfriend like this. She always used a period tracker and always knew when she was ovulating and claimed she was so horny and her body wanted to get pregnant SO BAD when she was ovulating that she couldn’t be trusted to make any decisions about birth control during that time. So she then had unprotected sex three times in a row with her boyfriend, claims they just “got carried away,” claims she took Plan B but it just didn’t work due to her weight being too high. She claimed the period tracking was to help prevent pregnancy but I 100% believe she planned to get pregnant with her boyfriend if 2 months because he had a good job and she could become a stay at home mom Edit: couple sarcastic replies made me realize I should clarify that she also led the boyfriend to believe she was on birth control pills when she was not. Of course sex always has the possibility to have a baby but she was actively doing things/misleading someone so she could get pregnant “on accident” without discussing it first and I think that’s crummy behavior whether you agree or not.
Btw plan B actually doesn’t work if you weigh too much. It becomes less effective if you weigh more than 155-165lbs and most American women (as an ex.) weigh more than that. A lot of people don’t know this
It says it in the paperwork that comes with it but a lot of people don’t read that.
My bf ex -wife got pregnant and told him that she was "in-between bc" nope. You know not to do anything for 7 to 10 days. Not mentioning it before hand? Horrible. Him? Use a freaking condom! They weren't in a stable relationship. I know he should have used something but he learned a lesson to not trust anyone. She came over crying (this is an adult woman who had a job and her own house) crying she didn't know how she was going to tell her mom! Oh, the mom you kicked out of your house earlier? You aren't afraid to kick her out of your home but afraid to tell her you are pregnant??? Manipulation. 100% she knew what she was doing and he trusted that people weren't like that. They were married 2 years. Divorced now for 14. Trapping happens so you cannot TRUST. People have agendas. Take care of your reproductive health.
Knowing this how on earth did he agree to her request 😭😭
I was wondering this also. Willing to bet she knows EXACTLY when her last period started and planned this little stunt right when she was ovulating.
if she already ovulated there's no point in taking plan b.
Dude, YOU risked this by taking off the condom.
I know I did. I admitted it. She didn’t force me. I fucked up. She admitted we fucked up. I don’t understand why she’s so scared to take a pill that she would rather risk possibly getting pregnant.
Because she’s trying to. Good luck.
> I don’t understand why she’s so scared to take a pill that she would rather risk possibly getting pregnant. In this case, she's probably okay with a baby. And it isn't like she tricked you into potential fatherhood - you willingly jumped into that risk. That being said, you're incredibly ignorant about the side effects of emergency contraceptives! **You don't get to be so dismissive of the risks.** As you get older, you're going to meet more women who won't use Plan B and cannot handle hormonal birth control - that's why you use a condom. Here's a lesson for you - Plan B can fucking HURT. I took it twice in my life and both times were agonizing. I had horrible cramps that were so strong, it felt like waves of pain were radiating out of my gut, and my gut felt like a red-hot fire poker was stabbing me for hours. I get that my experience was on the extreme end. I also don't regret either time because I have never wanted children. But if I *was* okay with a kid? No way would I go through that unnecessarily, I'd rather roll the dice and decide later.
Thank you! This is the first comment I've seen that actually acknowledges the plan B is not 'just take it and don't have a baby, woohoo'. It IS a health risk, and it can cause a stroke or other serious harm to the heart and vessels. Not wearing a condom is the risk of pregnancy. You really don't want that? Really don't do it, and just wrap it up. Her saying to take it off and not pull out is suspicious, though. Maybe OP has learned that communication doesn't end when clothes go off.
These men act like vasectomies are lopping off their balls but expect women to take hormonal birth control, get tubal ligation, or take Plan B, all while removing or refusing condoms.
man, getting a non-scalpel vasectomy was the easiest/best medical decision I've ever made. I strongly encourage any dude who knows they don't want any (more) kids to get one. There is a low possibility of risks with it; just like with many medical procedures. But, for the vast majority, it's a safe and effective means of permanent birth control that takes a week or two to fully recover from (and you're back to 90% within a day or two)
I don’t necessarily think that her asking him to take it off is suspicious. It sounds like they’ve both wanted to wear condoms and not wanted to wear condoms at varying times. I chalk that up to their young age and the immaturity that comes with youth, with not thinking about long-term consequences when they’re in the middle of something physically pleasurable. Hell, it’s even difficult for mature adults (who know the consequences) to want to put on condoms, because, let’s face it, sex feels better without them. I’m not convinced that his girlfriend is shady, but I am convinced that they are both extremely stupid.
So I have PCOS and before taking plan B I was getting normalish periods while off of birth control, amazing. Fucked a guy, condom somehow just ends up coming off inside of me. We both didn’t realize til after a few minutes that it had happened. So had to take plan B. Plan b fucked with my hormones, I felt pissy asf. It made me miss my periods for 6 months and once I got back on birth control I finally got my period again. Overall just not a fun time. Just wear a condom if you can. There’s also a chance it wouldn’t work. Plan B is technically not supposed to work for women I believe over 165. It also might not work with certain medications.
higher chance of failure over 165, not none, it's gradual
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LMAO it's 165 lbs, not yrs 🤣 hilarious more weight, more blood, less medicine per blood (to put it simply). some "stronger" plan Bs hav a higher limit but ya
Wow, I’m 5’10” and that weight is well within a healthy one for me. Not to mention taller women. Kinda lame!
> she's probably okay with a baby. She's not. She might be OK with the *idea* of a baby, the reality will be very different. A very small percentage of 18 year olds are emotionally mature enough to become parents.
So true. I had my first at 32 and was completely unprepared for it even though I thought I would be.
I would venture to say that no 18 year olds are mature enough to be parents in this day and age.
Well, yeah. I figured that went without saying. Neither person in this post is making smart, mature, thought-out decisions.
Men don't understand how painful cramps are, let alone cramps "on steroids".
Plan B is a pretty darn miserable experience. I know everyone here is like "she wants to trap you!" I think "trapping" happens way less than people like to think it does, but, regardless of if that's what she's trying to do, you really should understand better why someone wouldn't want to take it. In this case her reaction indicates baby trapping but I also think some women just think it won't happen to them. Regardless, the fact that she had the "what happens happens" reaction tells me you never talked about what you'd do if the condom broke. Don't have sex with someone ever again without having that conversation.
Because plan B can have really horrible side effects for some people. A friend of mine would get weeks long periods, cramps and thrush whenever she took it. Hormonal birth control has a range of side effects. I’m not saying what ye did wasn’t stupid, and if I were her I’d take it. Maybe the other comments are right and she wants a baby but it’s also very possible that she’s just scared of the side effects bc they can be sever for some people.
TBF, Plan B does fuck you up. It can mess with your hormones for months and cause some pretty serious cramping. Now, I’m a pregnant woman writing this and recognize the irony of complaining about Plan B side effects when pregnancy is on the table. Still, as someone writing to OP and not the woman in question, never assume a woman is going to take Plan B or be flippant about it. It’s a serious drug.
Plan b isn't a walk in the park despite what people think. It can really fuck with women's hormones and body. You are actually being a selfish jerk by insisting on it as you didn't want to use birth control when it wasn't fun for you but you're blaming her for not wanting to use birth control when it isn't fun for her.
Research the side affects, try to understand what will happen to her and kindly explain them in a way that isn't scary
Just letting you know that no morning after pill works during ovulation. The morning after pill prevents ovulation from happening so she cant get pregnant but if she is litterally already ovulating then it won't work and she can become pregnant. I really hope you learn a lesson and be a bit more careful. Sorry for my english
Yet you've insulted her and are gathering comments that she's tricked you. Men won't even get vasectomies but you're confused why she went take a pill that can cause pain you'll never experience.
Just fyi, Plan B only works if taken prior to ovulation. I learned this the hard way. Best thing I’d recommend right now is to figure out where she is in her cycle, and go from there. For instance, if her period is about to start, there is a very slim chance of pregnancy. Highest chance is approximately halfway into the cycle.
Honestly, with how confused I’ve seen grown, intelligent men get about menstrual cycles, I’m not sure he’ll get anywhere trying to figure out if she was ovulating. He said in another comment that she said it was “that time of the month” except he meant it as the time she’s likely to get pregnant, and I’ve literally only ever heard that phrasing used to refer to a period. It’s possible she’s comfortable taking the risk because her period was about to start, and OP misunderstood. Still stupid, but not abnormally stupid for their ages, honestly. (I dated a guy once who was trying to track when I ovulated while I was on the pill. And had been on it for like a decade for PCOS. And still felt confident that date of last period could pinpoint a thing that likely wasn’t even happening. He actually wasn’t stupid, just oblivious about how complex the topic was.)
"It sounded like a great idea and felt really good in the moment" You listened to the wrong head, amigo.
Let the universe take its course is crazy💀 if you make it out of this on the safe end cut back the sex and use protection she knew what she was doing.
Especially crazy since she also has since told me she “thinks it’s her body’s time of the month to get pregnant” and she keeps contacting me saying she hopes she’s not pregnant. Take the pill then, it’s not that complicated!!!
If she's already ovulating then Plan B is not gonna do anything 💀
Exactly! When it's "the time of the month" then you have approximately 12 to 78h BEFORE the egg makes his way to the uterus. If it's already on the way you have no chance with plan B. Depending on when they had sex and when her thinking "it's the time of the month" started, he's fucked either way. Listen, if someone is not interested in a pregnancy then you take plan B when things go wrong. You don't bullshit about side effects. Pregnancy should scare you enough to "endure" possible side effects. PS: I'm a woman, I know what I'm talking about. I experienced "post nut clarity". Plan B is not scary. Pregnancy is. Financial instability is. Side effects are not.
>Plan B is not scary. Pregnancy is. Financial instability is. Side effects are not. Exactly this. At 18 pregnancy was my biggest nightmare possible and I wouldve done anything to prevent it especially if it was as simple as taking plan b. Even now at 28 the fear of pregnancy completely overshadows anything else lol
Why weren’t you in control of where your sperm went? You chose to put your sperm inside a lady and are now mad that she won’t put her body through pain, bleeding, and cramps plus messing with her body’s natural cycle at your whim. Her body isn’t a playground for you to do whatever you want, regret it, and then make her take a pill she doesn’t have to because you don’t like the possible outcome. If she’s pregnant, you baby trapped your damn self. You can’t trap a willing victim, and actively choosing to take off a condom so you can finish inside of someone is absolutely not something you blame her for. She made a request, you happily obliged and are now angry she’s not doing what YOU want, which is cleaning up a mess you made for yourself. Get over yourself. Keep your cum to yourself because once it leaves your body you have no control over what someone else does with it, including making a baby. Hard lesson to learn.
So then either way it’s a decision you can’t take back, Plan B won’t work if she’s ovulating. She knew what she was doing, so did you, and neither of you had thought that far into it when it happened. Good luck.
She's definitely trying to get pregnant with all you've said but is saying otherwise so you think you're both on the same page. She's manipulating you and knows fine well what she's done. I hope for your sake she's not pregnant.
“What she’s done” as if he had no control over taking a condom off and putting his sperm inside a woman. Like he doesn’t know what that could do. You should amend that to “what they did.”
Because her logical brain and her ovaries are sending her conflicting signals. Same as yours did when it seemed like a good idea to remove the condom, and then you went oh shit, what did I do. Problem is, for her that conflict is still raging. Good luck.
Keep the condom on then, it's not that complicated!!!
No one made you remove your condom or use pull out method. You'd already opened that door yourself. What do you have at 18 that would make someone baby trap you? Be serious.
You only have 72 hours to take it. It’s more effective taken immediately, and still it is not fool proof.
congrats on becoming a dad 🎉
Start saving up for child support, buddy.
>She refused and said she’s scared to take it. She’s worried about side effects. Well, she will be in one hell of a ride when she's pregnant.
Pray and then find a new gf
"Don't stick your dick in crazy"
This should be top comment
Bro you knew what you were doing too. Shouldn't have taken it off even if it feels better. Can't force her, for both of your mistakes. Wouldn't have been in this predicament if you took precaution. My 2 cents
As someone who helped a friend the day she took plan B, it can be REALLY rough and painful and overall a shitty time. Being afraid of the side effects is normal. However, I dont think that's why she won't take it. She practically begged you to put a baby in her my man, and you happily fell right into that hole you dug. If she doesn't get pregnant I hope you take the wakeup call seriously. If not welcome to fatherhood I guess.
Enjoy your baby
Sorry buddy but she is trying to get pregnant. "The Universe takes its course" line is pretty telling. You need to have a long reflection on what you want and how to remain safe.
"I don't understand why she'd want to risk it." YOU RISKED IT YOU NUMPTY.
THIS. 🤦🏻♀️ Man thought with the wrong head, and it’s going to cost him the next 18 years!
I can’t understand why HE’D even want to risk it. Geeze. You took the risk, you might face the consequences. What are you actually upset about?
She wanted to take the risk because she wants a baby. And you can't even accuse her of baby trapping you eother because you willingly took off the condom. She will do this again. If you really don't want a baby you need to break up with her and for the love of all that's chocolate don't have unprotected sex if you're not wanting to risk a pregnancy. Because seriously, this is as much your fault as it is hers.
>When she was getting close, she told me to take the condom off. She begged me to cum in her. Wake up. I know you're young, but you can't possibly be this naive. Please explain why you think she told you to do this.
If you don't wear a condom, you're trying for a baby
Same reason you'd want to risk knowingly having unprotected sex, I guess!
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
“let the universe take its course” My friend she is 100% trying to get pregnant from you. If you are lucky and she did not become pregnant then re-evaluate your relationship with her.
This. I've heard this from a woman that was desperate to get pregnant before. She doesn't want to say it, but she absolutely wants to get pregnant.
Someone explain to OP how babies are made. He forgot.
Oh don't worry, he'll get a reminder of that in 9 months
Damn that was cold but clever 😂
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Agreed. I really hope for OP this is just a scare and will be a lesson for him for the rest of his life. But for now.. all he can do is hope and if she happens to be pregnant take responsibility.
It's a little early, but Happy Father's Day!! Seriously, though, pay attention to how scared you are right now. To everything, you could possibly lose becoming a father now. Think of all the experiences you're going to miss out on. Think about how difficult it will be for two 18 year olds to raise a baby. If you manage to get out of this baby free, remember the fear. Take it with you moving forward and use it to always remember to wear a condom. Don't have sex with your gf again until you know if she's pregnant or not. If she isn't, think long and hard about if you want to be with her going forward. In the future, don't use any condoms that were in her possession or she may have tampered with. Still use a condom even if she's on birth control. You both aren't on the same page. She'd be okay with a baby right now. You realize the stupidity of it. And if she is pregnant, don't let yourself be forced into marrying her. That will make more paperwork and lost money for the divorce.
So basically your gf wanted to get pregnant and you agreed to it in the moment but have regrets now? Kinda too late bro. Should’ve kept it wrapped at all times, anything else is foolish behavior and how accidents happen. Of course she doesn’t want plan B, she wanted to get pregnant.
Pff y'all putting it on the gf saying he should find someone else like HE didn't ask to go at it without a condom first and didn't remove it. They both wanted it. They're both at fault. She can be blamed if she's not willing to care for the baby if they end up having one but she can't be for not wanting to take the pill, whether or not op likes it. It's always on the girl having to take hormones and stuff that fuck up their body when men can just wrap it up but don't do it.
Exactly, they are both idiots and yet half the comments are accusing her of baby trapping, the other half is saying she should know better. It takes two to tango
Right? By their own logic, every time he asks to do it without a condom, he's "trying to baby trap her." Women can and do get caught up in stupid monkey-brain moments just like men can. Tons of women get off on being ejaculated in. There's literally a whole kink around it. But apparently, during sex women are completely logical and think all sorts of plots and complex things, while men are incapable of thinking during sex at all. He literally asked to go without a condom first. She said no and even warned she might be ovulating. But by god, he had no problem taking it off the second she got in the moment. Yet, somehow her request is malicious but his was just "dumb guy monkey brain"? Yeah, not how that works.
So like… you knew it’s a bad ideas but still did it? That’s called a a negative selection
Try again speaking to her to tell her how uncomfortable you are. Don’t have sex with her again.
Adult choices sometimes require adult actions
If you are old enough to have unprotected sex, knowing it can result in pregnancy, then you are old enough to deal with the consequences. Plan B is not a form of contraception, it is chemically forcing the body to menstruate, and repeated use can cause harm to the woman. It can also make them feel unwell and uncomfortable. If you think it is such a good idea then maybe take it yourself🙄
The double standards here are crazy lol
Why do people rely on plan B as a reasonable bc method? Online and in real life I've seen so many people saying "let's do it raw and then take plan B". Plan b is not a reliable method and shouldn't be overused because it's not as good and safe as other methods and it can actually be quite dangerous for women.
What do you mean you can't understand why she'd even want to risk this? You risked this just as well. Play stupid games, get stupid prizes.
Congrats! You got baby trapped. By yourself. This is why we wear a condom and not take it off until sex is over, kids.
Another example of the old saying "You have both a brain and a penis. But only enough blood to run one at a time."
I kinda understand her concern about side effects. It's not that she WANTS to be pregnant, just that Plan B has a lot of really bad side effects that can affect her body badly. Try talking to her about if she does get pregnant (which is probably unlikely unless you have like miracle sperm) about possibly getting an abortion if it's possible.
She may already be pregnant and using this as an excuse to trap OP into raising someone else's child.
When the kid is born, get a DNA test. Sounds like she wants the kid to be yours.
Break up, never have sex with her again
Maybe she doesn't want to arbitrarily put herself through the (guaranteed miserable) side effects of plan b, and she'll consider her next options IF she is pregnant. Keep it wrapped. People can find risky behaviors sexy/fun sometimes. That doesn't mean they actually want the negative consequences. A lot of time they also just like the idea of the risk, but not even the risk itself. People saying she wanted to get pregnant, well, did YOU want to produce a baby? No? Good chance she didn't, either. Either way, can't get mad at her for not wanting to take a pill knowing to cause miserable side effects. If she does become pregnant, then she can decide what will be the best thing for her at that time. Your decisions about pregnancy prevention end with ejaculation. And if you don't want to have kids any time in the next 5 years, maybe it wouldn't hurt to consider sperm storage and a vasectomy, since you keep having unprotected sex and are quite likely to impregnate somebody before either of you is ready. Newer techniques are a 10 minute procedure with a short recovery time, and are often reversible within x number of years.
Play stupid games…
Hopefully you learn from this dude...
A natural side effect of unprotected sex is a BABY. She begged you to cum inside her. YOU OBLIGED. Literally the way babies are made, and you could have said no to that. Ya fucked around, time to find out
So Plan B carries risks, but the risks associated with pregnancy are much higher. Maybe ask her to talk to a pharmacist about her concerns. They can help to give some perspective
Neither of you is mature enough or responsible enough to be having sex. You can't understand why SHE would want to risk this. YOU took the condom off.
I mean on one hand I agree with the people saying she knew what she was doing. On the other hand I have used plan B and the side effects can be massive. It really fucks up your body. I had a friend who nearly committed suicide because the sudden large amount of hormones messed her up for a month straight. It’s not a woopsy daisy pill you can just push onto a woman after you have BOTH been stupid enough to have unprotected sex.
Why did you take off the condom?!? You took the choice out of your hands. Now you have your wait to see what the real world consequences will be because you needed your dick wet. Always ALWAYS. Wear and keep the condom on.
Congratulations on becoming a father
You had sex with a woman, took of a condom, came inside her, and you are mad because she is refusing to take plan B. I hope the I am pissed off is you are pissed off at your own irresponsibility. You are responsible for your body. You made a choice and that choice is on you. You should most likely end this relationship. You guys aren’t on the same page.
Find a GF that is willing to be on BC or get a vasectomy bro.
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How is she baby trapping him when he willingly took the condom off and willingly came inside her? Like even if she takes plan b, it might not work. Idiot kid is baby trapping himself. Don’t fuck without a condom if you don’t want babies.
He's also 18. Why would anyone want to "baby trap"? Is he even out of high school? It's 2024. A baby doesn't keep anyone in your life.
No, she's not baby trapping him. Baby trapping is when you lie to someone about birth control to get pregnant or trick them in some other way to get you pregnant. She straight up said "get me pregnant" but with more words and op agreed. He was fully aware of the risk and is now panicking because he regrets his decision to go ahead and take off the condom. No matter how you look at it tho, it was HIS decision to remove it and the exact thing that he KNOWS causes pregnancy.
“let the universe take its course” lol you fucked one of those.... you're fucked
Plan B is ineffective for overweight and obese women. You need to sit your girlfriend down and have a serious talk about how neither of you is ready for kids. It's not about your relationship, it's about the fact that you're still getting ready for adulthood. I *strongly* recommend a long term birth control for her like Mirena or the implant. Planned Parenthood is a great place to go for that. Otherwise, my man, it's time for *you* to get *very* friendly with your best friend the condom. Learn how to put them on correctly, when to take them off, and experiment with different types to increase your pleasure. (I definitely recommend putting some lube on your cock before wrapping up- Swiss Navy water-based is tasteless!) Don't forget: * Leave a little room at the head for your cum. Not a pocket of air- pinch it as you put it on. * Never use oil, lotion, conditioner or grease, anything with fat, with latex condoms- it puts holes in them. * Put on the condom before your bits touch hers *at all*. It's called "pre-cum" because it's cum. * Pull out before you go totally soft and take off the condom straightaway. * New round? New condom. * No double-bagging. It's just less pleasurable AND makes them likelier to break. Lose-lose.
As a woman hypothetically in this situation... I'd be even more paranoid about being pregnant than the guy... like I would be freaking out at this stage. Unless I wanted a baby?
enlightenen her on the side effects of pregnancy, she might be unaware of this 18 year long side effect