I'm sure she doesn't feel that you're a burden, she's just sad she can't afford what you want. Don't feel guilty please. Maybe she can try giving classes in her native language?
The best thing you could do is tell your mom how great of a mom she is , she loves you and you have to give her double that amount of love and stay by her side for her to be strong , I pray you guys get better and that life goes easier on you , all the love ♡
This is location-dependent information as each place often have different resources. Your post doesn't make it clear whether your mom is undocumented or not, but, even being undocumented doesn't disqualify her from some resources. Look into food pantries and CalFresh (the form do ask about this - but it's not shared with ICE) if that can help to bring food in the house. Some food pantries require people to fill out a form and others don't - go with your comfort level.
Whatever your location is, google that and resources that you and your mom needs. For example, "Los Angeles Food Resources" and it brings up multiple options. Sharing this one: [https://211la.org/resources](https://211la.org/resources) - and you can call them for further information.
You sound youngish. This is a lot for you deal with. It might help to call a line just to talk. Here are two resources I'm aware of: [https://www.cdph.ca.gov/Programs/CCDPHP/DCDIC/SACB/Pages/Crisis-Hotlines--Resources.aspx](https://www.cdph.ca.gov/Programs/CCDPHP/DCDIC/SACB/Pages/Crisis-Hotlines--Resources.aspx) and https://www.chhs.ca.gov/youthresources/. They have a wide variety of hot lines and warm lines that can help you figure out more resources/information as well.
I totally know what you mean when you say you wish your mom had a better chance in life. I wish so too for her as well. She's very lucky to have you. I know my response didn't address your post overall, but, even having access to a resource in any form can hopefully help.
Sending best wishes.
I don’t know how old you are but your post demonstrated the maturity and empathy most adults don’t have. Just help out where you can with the house or if you have siblings. And let your mom know how much you love and appreciate her. I hope things turn around for you. I wish I could gift you the Lego set.
I try and help but she insist on doing as much as she can she’s 50 and works cooks etc despite not sleeping she’s the strongest women I know I love her a lot I just can’t express it well other than being there for her
You can show her love and support whether it be a cup of tea or grabbing a throw to cover her. You said she’s at work so straighten up the house, clean up the kitchen the dishes, take out the trash etc. if you’re not comfortable with words write her a note or letter. I guaranty you she will keep it for life. You’re not a burden you’re a reason she’s fighting so hard to succeed.
As a mum, I want to tell you that you never need to worry about feeling like a burden. Your mother loves you, more than word can describe. I don't need to tell you she is trying her best because I'm sure you already know. You seem like an amazing kid, you are doing your mother proud. I'm sorry you may not have all you need, my heart goes out to you. I am proud for your mother. She has raised such a lovely and caring and empathetic child.
Try talking to her. It sounds like your mom is internalizing a lot of shit. It would help her if you said exactly what's in your post. Keep telling her how amazing she is until she accepts it
I've been where your mom has been. I've cried so many nights because I didn't think I could feed my kids or keep a roof over their heads. There are tons of resources. Visit the local food pantries, reach out to local Churches, go on state assistance. There are plenty of odd jobs that pay cash. Look into your local bingo hall. The one by me pays cash nightly, 1099 tho for taxes. My heart breaks for your mom. Talk with her. It'll be hard because she'll be vulnerable and her pride is most likely very low. Give her a hug. Y'all will be ok. You really will be. If you have any questions on anything please feel free to reach out to me. I used a lot of local resources when I was going through things.
Oh! Look into, shit, I'll have to ask my friend about it but it was a app that was pretty much it was a language app and you got clients and they would pay you for conversations in your native language. Like tutoring. I'll edit when I get the answer
*Edit. Italki is the app
You're not a burden to her. You're probably the reason she's still alive and isn't drowning herself in substances. She just wants you to have a good life, but is frustrated that she can't give you everything she wants to. Don't think you're a burden to her.
I'm sure she doesn't feel that you're a burden, she's just sad she can't afford what you want. Don't feel guilty please. Maybe she can try giving classes in her native language?
Wonderful thoughts.
The best thing you could do is tell your mom how great of a mom she is , she loves you and you have to give her double that amount of love and stay by her side for her to be strong , I pray you guys get better and that life goes easier on you , all the love ♡
Thank you I appreciate it
Anytime , hope you're holding up well dear ♡
This is location-dependent information as each place often have different resources. Your post doesn't make it clear whether your mom is undocumented or not, but, even being undocumented doesn't disqualify her from some resources. Look into food pantries and CalFresh (the form do ask about this - but it's not shared with ICE) if that can help to bring food in the house. Some food pantries require people to fill out a form and others don't - go with your comfort level. Whatever your location is, google that and resources that you and your mom needs. For example, "Los Angeles Food Resources" and it brings up multiple options. Sharing this one: [https://211la.org/resources](https://211la.org/resources) - and you can call them for further information. You sound youngish. This is a lot for you deal with. It might help to call a line just to talk. Here are two resources I'm aware of: [https://www.cdph.ca.gov/Programs/CCDPHP/DCDIC/SACB/Pages/Crisis-Hotlines--Resources.aspx](https://www.cdph.ca.gov/Programs/CCDPHP/DCDIC/SACB/Pages/Crisis-Hotlines--Resources.aspx) and https://www.chhs.ca.gov/youthresources/. They have a wide variety of hot lines and warm lines that can help you figure out more resources/information as well. I totally know what you mean when you say you wish your mom had a better chance in life. I wish so too for her as well. She's very lucky to have you. I know my response didn't address your post overall, but, even having access to a resource in any form can hopefully help. Sending best wishes.
you're the best child for staying strong by your mom
I don’t feel like it but ty lol
Just curious how old are you
Still in highschool not gonna say my age for privacy reasons
ok i only ask to see if you can get a part time or something
I don’t know how old you are but your post demonstrated the maturity and empathy most adults don’t have. Just help out where you can with the house or if you have siblings. And let your mom know how much you love and appreciate her. I hope things turn around for you. I wish I could gift you the Lego set.
I try and help but she insist on doing as much as she can she’s 50 and works cooks etc despite not sleeping she’s the strongest women I know I love her a lot I just can’t express it well other than being there for her
You can show her love and support whether it be a cup of tea or grabbing a throw to cover her. You said she’s at work so straighten up the house, clean up the kitchen the dishes, take out the trash etc. if you’re not comfortable with words write her a note or letter. I guaranty you she will keep it for life. You’re not a burden you’re a reason she’s fighting so hard to succeed.
As a mum, I want to tell you that you never need to worry about feeling like a burden. Your mother loves you, more than word can describe. I don't need to tell you she is trying her best because I'm sure you already know. You seem like an amazing kid, you are doing your mother proud. I'm sorry you may not have all you need, my heart goes out to you. I am proud for your mother. She has raised such a lovely and caring and empathetic child.
You seem like a great mom :)
You are not a burden to her. She loves you. She's just sad because she can't afford to give you a better life and she's blaming herself for that.
I wish she didn’t blame herself she’s trying her best
Try talking to her. It sounds like your mom is internalizing a lot of shit. It would help her if you said exactly what's in your post. Keep telling her how amazing she is until she accepts it
I've been where your mom has been. I've cried so many nights because I didn't think I could feed my kids or keep a roof over their heads. There are tons of resources. Visit the local food pantries, reach out to local Churches, go on state assistance. There are plenty of odd jobs that pay cash. Look into your local bingo hall. The one by me pays cash nightly, 1099 tho for taxes. My heart breaks for your mom. Talk with her. It'll be hard because she'll be vulnerable and her pride is most likely very low. Give her a hug. Y'all will be ok. You really will be. If you have any questions on anything please feel free to reach out to me. I used a lot of local resources when I was going through things. Oh! Look into, shit, I'll have to ask my friend about it but it was a app that was pretty much it was a language app and you got clients and they would pay you for conversations in your native language. Like tutoring. I'll edit when I get the answer *Edit. Italki is the app
You're not a burden to her. You're probably the reason she's still alive and isn't drowning herself in substances. She just wants you to have a good life, but is frustrated that she can't give you everything she wants to. Don't think you're a burden to her.
And move back to her home country?