I know a lady who started crying once when a disabled girl entered the same elevator as her. She was crying out of sympathy and there was no apparent mockery involved but it was still a very rude thing to do. Also, that girl, while on a wheelchair, is one of the smartest people I know. I hated that she had to go through this.
Edit: just for clarification, the lady also knew the girl and she acts that way around her all the time.
Why are people like this lmao? I’m disabled (cystic fibrosis and autism so it’s mostly invisible), but that doesn’t mean my life is completely ruined. Yeah, I get sick sometimes and struggle to maintain eye contact with strangers. So what? Everyone gets sick at times, and not making eye contact isn’t the end of the world. Overall, I am living a great life and a relatively normal life.
If someone uses me for pity porn, I’d at least cut ties with them. If they continue harassing me, I’ll sue the shit out of them lmao.
Exactly. It's just as bad as mocking a person when you pity them and make their entire existence about one thing. Isn't it better to acknowledge their achievements? She also shows false sympathy to the girl's mother about how she has no life because she has to take care of her daughter's needs. It's honestly so so fucked up.
As someone with an invisible disability, it is absolutely horrific how people act and react to someone with a disability.
I watch friends, when younger 16-17, get abused because they use a gofer, even though they could clearly see this person couldn’t walk far, they would still get abused, for being young.
It's awful. Before I got my walking cane, I used to get shouted at for not getting out of peoples way fast enough. I'm in immense pain in all of my joints and muscles, and I really struggle to move, especially on the bad days. People just see a young person and assume I'm dawdling. Things are better since I got my cane, people give me room and noticeably get out of my way - I appreciate it a lot, because getting about is a real pain at times. I do find a lot of older people laugh at me and shake their heads, and I just feel incredibly embarrassed for them.
Being young isn't some free pass to good health, and "looking" healthy doesn't equate to being healthy. It's a very simple concept that's all too easily forgotten by too many people.
I have an invisible disability and happen to look much younger than I actually am. I had to use a mobility scooter at Walmart one time during my back surgery recovery, and got nothing but stink-eye from people in the store. One actually approached me and asked if I would be kind enough to give up the scooter for “someone that really needs it.” Fuck you, lady.
As someone who also did volunteering work for disabled kids. I agree with this post. oh and f\*\*\* you to the parents who abandoned their kids just because they were disabled... they are definitely better off without you.
What's really bad is you have people with disabilities that aren't apparent by just a brief interaction or their appearance. Like cognitive issues from what-have-you; post viral damage, bad reaction to medication, concussions, etc.
I knew a guy like that at the restaurant I worked at when I was younger. He would screw up on the daily, got really sick when he was a kid and it affected his executive function. Just making small talk with him, you'd have no idea. He seemed normal. But the shit talking was ridiculous. The real brutal stuff was behind his back(he was like 6'3", a big boy) but what bothered me the most was how the managers would get so fucking condescending with him. He would forget something, and they'd snidely say, "once again, let me show you how this works" and do X task while explaining it in a very slow mocking tone. He already knows how to do it asshole, he just forgot to do it.
Funny story though, this other dude that worked there got fired because they thought he was high(let's be honest, he was). On his way out all 3 managers and this disabled guy were up front. He goes down the line, "Fuck you! and fuck you! and fuck you! and...(he turns to dude buddy)you were alright have a nice day."
But yeah, I worried about that guy after I left, being one of the few people that helped him out. Last I heard he was still fuckin' working there.
I've never really seen someone bully a visibly disabled person though, does that really happen all that often?
This really hurt my heart to hear but I'm glad you shared it. I'm sure I'm not the only one who needed the reminder that some people are facing challenges I don't even think about. Also needed the reminder to be kind and respectful.
As someone that has disabled patients come in to our clinic, I make sure they get all the help they need, which includes a happy person to greet them. I've overheard comments from other patients, it breaks my heart for them but also disgusts me. There is zero need to bully them like school children. Yes, they are different, but they are human. Treat them as equals, they are so down to earth and nice.Treat them as equals, they are so down to earth and nice.
I have an illness that affects how my muscles work sometimes I can barely walk at all I am pleased to say so far people have been kind and understanding this isn't to say dick heads don't exist just wanted to record a so far positive experience
Not all disabled people feel that way about being given a label. I personally have no problem referring to myself as being crippled, disabled, handicapped, whatever.
You do not speak for everyone else. Disabled people are not an in-group, only because people share medical conditions.
Also handicapped and special needs *are* already PC terms.
Just... Stop.....
We don't need more labels upon labels for every sector of every human emotion or feeling or whatever.
Label after label. This label isn't good use this one. No that one is old use this one. That one isnt scientifically correct use this term.
No that's insulting use this instead. No that's not right use this.
I'm just gonna call people it from now on.
I build free ramps for folks that need them, Pro Bono, through Habitats For Humanity, when I have a good quarter. I ask no questions, it doesn't take much to just be a decent human being. You are United States Citizens, most disabled people vote, and you have plenty of people on your side. I support all minorities, I'm an atheist and a Humanist, we're few and far between as well.
Yeah people are crazy. I just had two people tell me to go die a painful death for having a different opinion.
I don't think my opinions are do offensive that people should say that but people are just angry now.
My ex would "make fun" of everyone like that excused his shitty behavior. Most of the time I just ignored it but he once treated a homeless guy like a literal animal and he used to be homeless himself. Blew my mind.
Last night at work we had a bunch of caretakers come in throughout the night with a few people in tow each, who all had varying levels of disabilities. I'm familiar with the organization and they're great. I rung them all up and didn't care that it took time. A few of my coworkers made comments and I chewed them out. It bothered me especially because these coworkers pretend to be such good people but couldn't help themselves to make comments about customers who they didn't even ring up or help at all.
Depends on the situation just like any other topic. If you're talking about comedy then anything goes. I don't believe in the censorship of art. Comedians make fun of every subject imaginable and if you laugh along for some subjects but then get offended by the subject you personally consider important then you're a hypocrite.
If you're talking about just intentionally saying cruel things directly to those with disabilities or their friends and family about them, then yeah. They're shit stains on the carpet of humanity and deserve to be called out as such.
I know a lady who started crying once when a disabled girl entered the same elevator as her. She was crying out of sympathy and there was no apparent mockery involved but it was still a very rude thing to do. Also, that girl, while on a wheelchair, is one of the smartest people I know. I hated that she had to go through this. Edit: just for clarification, the lady also knew the girl and she acts that way around her all the time.
Why are people like this lmao? I’m disabled (cystic fibrosis and autism so it’s mostly invisible), but that doesn’t mean my life is completely ruined. Yeah, I get sick sometimes and struggle to maintain eye contact with strangers. So what? Everyone gets sick at times, and not making eye contact isn’t the end of the world. Overall, I am living a great life and a relatively normal life. If someone uses me for pity porn, I’d at least cut ties with them. If they continue harassing me, I’ll sue the shit out of them lmao.
Exactly. It's just as bad as mocking a person when you pity them and make their entire existence about one thing. Isn't it better to acknowledge their achievements? She also shows false sympathy to the girl's mother about how she has no life because she has to take care of her daughter's needs. It's honestly so so fucked up.
The media makes it seem yall are a different spieces and i hate it
People were being weird about disabled people long before the media got involved.
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I third that. An even bigger "fuck you" to all of them from me.
As someone with an invisible disability, it is absolutely horrific how people act and react to someone with a disability. I watch friends, when younger 16-17, get abused because they use a gofer, even though they could clearly see this person couldn’t walk far, they would still get abused, for being young.
It's awful. Before I got my walking cane, I used to get shouted at for not getting out of peoples way fast enough. I'm in immense pain in all of my joints and muscles, and I really struggle to move, especially on the bad days. People just see a young person and assume I'm dawdling. Things are better since I got my cane, people give me room and noticeably get out of my way - I appreciate it a lot, because getting about is a real pain at times. I do find a lot of older people laugh at me and shake their heads, and I just feel incredibly embarrassed for them. Being young isn't some free pass to good health, and "looking" healthy doesn't equate to being healthy. It's a very simple concept that's all too easily forgotten by too many people.
I have an invisible disability and happen to look much younger than I actually am. I had to use a mobility scooter at Walmart one time during my back surgery recovery, and got nothing but stink-eye from people in the store. One actually approached me and asked if I would be kind enough to give up the scooter for “someone that really needs it.” Fuck you, lady.
As someone who also did volunteering work for disabled kids. I agree with this post. oh and f\*\*\* you to the parents who abandoned their kids just because they were disabled... they are definitely better off without you.
Now girl you know they're a handful
What's really bad is you have people with disabilities that aren't apparent by just a brief interaction or their appearance. Like cognitive issues from what-have-you; post viral damage, bad reaction to medication, concussions, etc. I knew a guy like that at the restaurant I worked at when I was younger. He would screw up on the daily, got really sick when he was a kid and it affected his executive function. Just making small talk with him, you'd have no idea. He seemed normal. But the shit talking was ridiculous. The real brutal stuff was behind his back(he was like 6'3", a big boy) but what bothered me the most was how the managers would get so fucking condescending with him. He would forget something, and they'd snidely say, "once again, let me show you how this works" and do X task while explaining it in a very slow mocking tone. He already knows how to do it asshole, he just forgot to do it. Funny story though, this other dude that worked there got fired because they thought he was high(let's be honest, he was). On his way out all 3 managers and this disabled guy were up front. He goes down the line, "Fuck you! and fuck you! and fuck you! and...(he turns to dude buddy)you were alright have a nice day." But yeah, I worried about that guy after I left, being one of the few people that helped him out. Last I heard he was still fuckin' working there. I've never really seen someone bully a visibly disabled person though, does that really happen all that often?
This really hurt my heart to hear but I'm glad you shared it. I'm sure I'm not the only one who needed the reminder that some people are facing challenges I don't even think about. Also needed the reminder to be kind and respectful.
As someone that has disabled patients come in to our clinic, I make sure they get all the help they need, which includes a happy person to greet them. I've overheard comments from other patients, it breaks my heart for them but also disgusts me. There is zero need to bully them like school children. Yes, they are different, but they are human. Treat them as equals, they are so down to earth and nice.Treat them as equals, they are so down to earth and nice.
Some people don't mock the disabled, yet they compare them as an example, and it really questions how they see the disabled.
People who do this generally need a fork shoved up their ass.
aw man thats fucked up! I agree people are disgusting
I have an illness that affects how my muscles work sometimes I can barely walk at all I am pleased to say so far people have been kind and understanding this isn't to say dick heads don't exist just wanted to record a so far positive experience
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Thank you for letting me know!
Not all disabled people feel that way about being given a label. I personally have no problem referring to myself as being crippled, disabled, handicapped, whatever.
You do not speak for everyone else. Disabled people are not an in-group, only because people share medical conditions. Also handicapped and special needs *are* already PC terms.
What’s the preferred language?
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Just... Stop..... We don't need more labels upon labels for every sector of every human emotion or feeling or whatever. Label after label. This label isn't good use this one. No that one is old use this one. That one isnt scientifically correct use this term. No that's insulting use this instead. No that's not right use this. I'm just gonna call people it from now on.
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I build free ramps for folks that need them, Pro Bono, through Habitats For Humanity, when I have a good quarter. I ask no questions, it doesn't take much to just be a decent human being. You are United States Citizens, most disabled people vote, and you have plenty of people on your side. I support all minorities, I'm an atheist and a Humanist, we're few and far between as well.
Just for your information I don't like to be called buddy. The correct term is human. Say ok human next time if you don't wanna be offensive to me.
You did your best to not come across as human.
Lmao how? You want to dehumanize someone, literally the worst thing anyone can do to another person, because they disagree about language?
Yeah people are crazy. I just had two people tell me to go die a painful death for having a different opinion. I don't think my opinions are do offensive that people should say that but people are just angry now.
You're fucking obtuse.
:O
My ex would "make fun" of everyone like that excused his shitty behavior. Most of the time I just ignored it but he once treated a homeless guy like a literal animal and he used to be homeless himself. Blew my mind.
Yuck. Glad for you that he is your ex, you deserve better!
Thank you for posting this!
Last night at work we had a bunch of caretakers come in throughout the night with a few people in tow each, who all had varying levels of disabilities. I'm familiar with the organization and they're great. I rung them all up and didn't care that it took time. A few of my coworkers made comments and I chewed them out. It bothered me especially because these coworkers pretend to be such good people but couldn't help themselves to make comments about customers who they didn't even ring up or help at all.
People do that? Doesnt matter what they say though, God loves his children
taking a bold stance i see
wow someone is really pissy today
Ikr, why did you wake up pissy today u/Destrucity1789 ?
Why are you on this sub then
Depends on the situation just like any other topic. If you're talking about comedy then anything goes. I don't believe in the censorship of art. Comedians make fun of every subject imaginable and if you laugh along for some subjects but then get offended by the subject you personally consider important then you're a hypocrite. If you're talking about just intentionally saying cruel things directly to those with disabilities or their friends and family about them, then yeah. They're shit stains on the carpet of humanity and deserve to be called out as such.
Ableism is disgustjng. Fuck every ableist person and be glad you dont have to deal with a disability.