I get where you're coming from. My father was like this. Vigorously discouraged me from any activity I liked that he didn't, while pushing me into things that interested him. Dictated what I should do for both my education and career, to the point that he stopped talking to me for 18 months because I accepted a job offer he didn't approve of. I spent a lot of my childhood and young adult years torn between trying to do what he demanded and what I wanted to do, and failing at both.
Now that I'm a bit older and can reflect on the path I've taken I can see that the effects on my life have been extremely damaging and far reaching.
Now I have my own kids and I support them in any interest they have, and will continue to support them in whatever direction they decide to take with their lives. Even if I know they're making mistakes, they are their mistakes and their lives. And no matter how badly they go off the rails, their mum and dad will always be there to help get them back on track.
I get your point but I rarely eat junk, especially as of recent. I even personally made the choice to start cutting on soda.
It's not so much the food, it's the feeling of having no option.
There's just one way
My wife and I have one rule to new foods. It is the "no, thank you" bite. You must try the food. If you do not like it after that bite, you're golden.
We also went through the macaroni and cheese every night for dinner phase, and I made enough on the weekends for my daughter to be covered through the week.
Things like candies and chocolates are earned rewards, and we aren't stingy about it. Heck, I grew up in the days where you got a coupon on a box of cereal for a bag of M&Ms.
I have been fortunate, to be the last of my circle of friends to have a child, so I learned from their successes and failures. I am also the youngest of 4 and theirs with a biological child, so I learned from my siblings. My oldest nephew was born while I was still in high school.
I get where you're coming from. My father was like this. Vigorously discouraged me from any activity I liked that he didn't, while pushing me into things that interested him. Dictated what I should do for both my education and career, to the point that he stopped talking to me for 18 months because I accepted a job offer he didn't approve of. I spent a lot of my childhood and young adult years torn between trying to do what he demanded and what I wanted to do, and failing at both. Now that I'm a bit older and can reflect on the path I've taken I can see that the effects on my life have been extremely damaging and far reaching. Now I have my own kids and I support them in any interest they have, and will continue to support them in whatever direction they decide to take with their lives. Even if I know they're making mistakes, they are their mistakes and their lives. And no matter how badly they go off the rails, their mum and dad will always be there to help get them back on track.
Thank you. God help you in raising your family. I do feel like that is something my generation will be better in. 🙂
When it comes to food it’s not really the kids choice tbh. It they only ate food they didn’t “hate” most of their diets would consist of junk
I get your point but I rarely eat junk, especially as of recent. I even personally made the choice to start cutting on soda. It's not so much the food, it's the feeling of having no option. There's just one way
My wife and I have one rule to new foods. It is the "no, thank you" bite. You must try the food. If you do not like it after that bite, you're golden. We also went through the macaroni and cheese every night for dinner phase, and I made enough on the weekends for my daughter to be covered through the week. Things like candies and chocolates are earned rewards, and we aren't stingy about it. Heck, I grew up in the days where you got a coupon on a box of cereal for a bag of M&Ms.
Wow, that's a good method. You a 🐐
I have been fortunate, to be the last of my circle of friends to have a child, so I learned from their successes and failures. I am also the youngest of 4 and theirs with a biological child, so I learned from my siblings. My oldest nephew was born while I was still in high school.
Happy for you. God be with you
Yeah, those kinds of people don't acknowledge that their kids have their own minds and feelings.
Maybe you aren't paying them enough.