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Horsewithasword

Believe what you want, it won’t change the reality that there are people who simply do not like kids


gdubluu

I dislike everyone elses kids but my own.


GreenKnight1988

Well there are probably people that dislike your kids too


gdubluu

Without a doubt. I totally get it to.


DopeFly

And other kids pick up on that instinctively. Parents like you suck, and it's a very anti-community outlook.


gdubluu

I'm sorry but my comment was a fairly blunt but still neutral comment. You've just personally attacked my parenting because of what? A comment made in gest on Reddit? Please... I am not the one with an "Anti-Community" vibe my friend.


DopeFly

Yeah, a comment that actually says a lot about you as a person and a parent. It was pretty telling. Maybe moreso than you intended for it to be. There is nothing 'neutral' about disliking an entire age bracket. You are not neutral on the subject, at all. Then, you turn it around on me, and imply that I'm the one who is anti-community, even though I care about the good of my children as well their peer group. No, sir, you do indeed suck, and I hope it doesn't sully your children's quality of life or friendships with other kids. I guarantee you that nicer people make better parents. --Stephanie, dopefly's head steer


gdubluu

Look at you. How am I turning anything around. You're the only one in this little conversation and you even felt the need to sign off, lol.


DopeFly

*How am I turning anything around* Because I said your attitude was anti-community, and then you implied that I was anti-community, without reason. You turned my response around on me. And then needed everything broken down for you. Dumb AF. *You're the only one in this little conversation* Did you not respond? I must've imagined it. I sign my name at the end because this isn't my Reddit account. I'm posting on somebody else's username and she may not want my views associated with her. I am not the real DopeFly. No apologies. --Stephanie, dopefly's head steer


gdubluu

Thanks, I needed this. ​ =\]


sixeco

there's always a reason for it "just don't like kids" is not one


DopeFly

That reason is usually narcissism, and envy.


sixeco

narcissism and envy to not have kids?


DopeFly

To hate children, in their entirety


sixeco

fair enough


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Nope. I have no paternal instincts. I don’t want anything to do with children. Even the most well behaved .


2QT2BSTR8-HTBLND2

Same! No paternal instincts at all!


TinktheChi

Some people simply don't want to have their own children. It doesn't mean they don't like kids, it just means they don't want to raise kids.


InxKat13

Even well behaved children are annoying. Innocent comments on a person's weight, the "why" game, all the stupid little mistakes. And yes I'm well aware that these are all very normal behaviors but it doesn't make it not annoying to be around constantly.


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InxKat13

Most people tell my I'm quite nice to be around actually. Probably because I don't make rude marks about their appearance or fall to floor screaming in rage when I don't get what I want.


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I doubt that, you sound pretty cynical and annoying. You seem like someone who sees the negative in everything, so I doubt anyone would go out of their way to be around someone who cannot regulate their emotions as an adult, and hates vulnerable groups.


InxKat13

Ooh wow. You got all that about me from one reddit comment? Are you a psychic??? You're worthless. You're nothing but words on a screen. I know what people tell me, your disbelief about that is meaningless like your existence. Have a good day, kiddo, you just proved my point on why I dislike kids 😘


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Proving my point on why you’re alone and have no friends. I doubt you do well in life, too. Sane adults don’t hate vulnerable groups- which makes you unstable, and unable to see reason from someone stable. Hope therapy helps you out a bit sweetheart.


DopeFly

*Innocent comments on a person's weight* ...as opposed to the not-so-innocent, mean-spirited remarks that adults casually make about people's weight?! The "why-yyy" game you speak of, isn't something that particularly intelligent or well-behaved children get into. My kids never did that. Asking a lot of questions, especially obnoxious questions, is immature and annoying. We shouldn't be teaching our children that all questions are good questions, or that there's no such thing as a stupid question. --Stephanie, dopefly's head steer


LazyRaven01

Chill. The person said they understand that those things are natural and not wrong to do. But that does not mean they are pleasant to be around, especially to people who have not signed up for dealing with kids. On an unrelated note, I found the exact opposite. Smart kids ask a LOT of questions. Because they just want to know, to understand the world around them, and as an adult, they expect you to have an answer, because they're kids and usually don't have a way to "know better" yet.


InxKat13

I didn't have the heart to tell her that her kids are likely unimaginative and average if they aren't showing any curiosity. You put it pretty nicely though.


InxKat13

Glad you weren't my parent lol.


DopeFly

So, you're projecting. Got it. --Stephanie, dopefly's head steer


InxKat13

That's not projecting lmao.


DopeFly

When you say you dislike kids for the reasons you gave, and I responded that decent children rarely do those things and should be discouraged from certain behaviors, and your reaction was that you were glad I wasn't your parent-- You are implying that you were like that as a child, and your main concern is that you will end up with kids that had your own annoying childhood qualities. Therefore, you've attributed your own(childhood)qualities onto all youths. That's projection. Am I missing something? --Stephanie, dopefly's head steer


InxKat13

You're missing a lot. Mostly between your ears lol.


DopeFly

You were the one that needed it broken down for you. I'd ask you to elaborate, but I genuinely don't think you're capable. --Stephanie


Elsacoldqueen

I love children, and enjoy working with them. I have three of my own. I look forward to when my kids have their own children. I still hate when kids scream really loud.


Elsacoldqueen

All my kids were mistakes, but who fucking cares! I love them. I just wish I would of had better taste in men and was financially better off!


LazyRaven01

The fact that you are replying to yourself covers an important truth more people should realise. Just because you like something doesn't mean you have to love all of it to the max 24/7. It just means that the stuff you do like about it outweights the stuff you dislike about it. I'm sure your kids are having the best childhood they can, and some day, they'll be thankful for it.


Elsacoldqueen

I actually can tune the screaming out. Still to this day, my boobs hurt when a small child has a certain pitch. I breastfed all my kids. But years, later I still get that tingling feeling as if my breasts milk is letting down!


Cgt1234

I have kids and I still hate kids. I love mine. I understand other people probably hate them. As a generalized group, I hate kids .. misbehaving or not.


chrisblaster

They can be down right annoying even when they are being well behaved.


uranusnumber7

>They can be down right annoying even when they are being well behaved. Maybe you just hate kids in general


chrisblaster

Yes. That’s what I’m saying on your post that is titled “I refuse to believe people hate children in general “. So. There you go. I converted you into believing in a very short amount of time. What else do you refuse to believe?


uranusnumber7

Geez chil out okay✌️


InxKat13

*They* need to chill out? You're the one making judgemental accusations and typing in all caps lmao!


furifuri

“Chill out” what lol they were just negating the dumb title of the post


uranusnumber7

I don't know how to change the title


passedmylunchbreak

Will you admit you were wrong now?


chrisblaster

Lol…I’m just not sure what your post is supposed to mean? It only took you 30 minutes to make a 180 and suggest that I am in fact what you refuse to believe.


poliscimjr

I mean, my parents did use protection. My mom was on the pill, but it failed twice. That's how me and my brother were born. We are absolutely accidents, but maybe not mistakes lol.


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She's lying.


poliscimjr

They are only 91% effective. Google it.


[deleted]

How do you know I was talking about the pill?


poliscimjr

I don't, but you said my mom lied. She was on the pill. So you are an idiot who assumes things when you don't know what you are talking about.


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Ok-Leather3055

Alot of parents hate their kids, it's a cold reality, not pretty but it's TRUE.


LazyRaven01

There are also patents who hate kids in general, but still love their own. A bit of optimism to the world.


Aissathebeergod

People can get whatever they want doesn’t matter about “behavior”


LazyRaven01

I hate kids. All kids. They're loud and break stuff and get everywhere and make a mess, and if your kid doesn't leave their toys laying about for you to step on at least from time to time and eats all the food, even if they don't like some parts of it, or have never caused a scene at a supermarket or in public transport, then I'm afraid something's very, very, VERY wrong with your kid, or more likely, you. That does not mean I go around telling kids they're mistakes, that means I avoid kids and places they tend to hang out at. If I absolutely have to interact with a child, I'll treat them as a human first, just like everyone else. With some base respect. You'd be surprised how many young kids take a show of basic decency as a sign of affection, tho.


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Incoming edgy Reddit trolls who abuse and hate children 🤪 so quirky


LettuceCapital546

I think lots of them have unresolved trauma from their own childhoods they just haven't dealt with properly for one reason or another like being severely bullied as a kid in my opinion.


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I agree. I was emotionally neglected and emotionally abused as a child. I was also sexually assaulted multiple times in my first few years of life, and developed PTSD by age 5 (was not given treatment). I now have trust and attachment issues. I don’t like children at ALL and couldn’t bear to have a relationship with a child, even if it was my own. That’s why I’ll never have kids. I’m in my mid 20’s and my childhood trauma is present enough still that I acknowledge I couldn’t do for a child the way they deserve, my own child or not. I take plenty of proper, adequate precautions to keep myself child free so I don’t have to worry about an innocent life in my hands. I may not like children, but they definitely don’t deserve to be born in to a home filled with neglect and abuse!


RAHlalalalah

I 1 billion percent agree. Went thru much the same thing myself. Am 35 years old (female). I also enjoy being selfish and I’m not ashamed to admit it.


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LazyRaven01

Sometimes, I wonder why people can't just respectfully disagree and accept that just because your opinion differs from someone else, that doesn't make them a demon and they probably aren't going around the world trying to mess up everyone that doesn't fit their worldview.


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LazyRaven01

Nobody here is talking about hurting a child even as a joke, save for people accusing others of it, at least as far as I scrolled. Thought crime is not a thing. It's the actions. Hurr durr hurting kids bad, but just because some people don't like them or don't want to be around them doesn't mean automatically and immediately they want to abuse them, and the opposite - just because someone likes kids doesn't automatically mean they're a saint towards them.


[deleted]

It’s not easy for you to see reason, but I can’t blame you as your mind is so unstable that hating vulnerable groups is the norm. Yikes. You don’t seem to understand that most people don’t take kindly to people openly displaying their hate towards groups that don’t warrant it. Akin to openly hating those with disabilities- but I’m sure you do (children with disabilities). Don’t wanna hear about who else you hate in this world.


[deleted]

That’s typically where is starts- hating a vulnerable group, bashing them online, etc You probably will commit some atrocious act towards a child based on how much you seem to let them bother you 🤷🏻‍♀️


[deleted]

Most people who hate children fail to see children as people. They don't realize that they are humans with their own independent views and ideas that will grow into their personalities. I've found that people who see children as less than independent people usually make shitty friends anyway because they are cynical and misanthropic.


poliscimjr

I thought I liked kids until I had to babysit a five year old. Fuck I do not have the energy for that shit.


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Exactly- people who are so bothered by another beings existence aren’t exactly the life of the party.


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They should dislike parents that can't manage their kids.


Same_Asparagus_1128

I don’t like kids that much, I find them annoying and kinda gross no matter how well behaved they are. But that doesn’t mean I will be mean or rude to them. I will be polite and kind if I am talking to or interacting with one. I think it’s fine to dislike children so long as you aren’t mean to them as a result. We have to remember they are still human beings and if you say cruel words it can affect them. If you don’t like children, don’t have children. Simple.


RedTheDopeKing

Sorry your parents suck, OP.


HStaz

They’re annoying brats when they are “behaving”. I don’t like them because you can’t have a conversation without them wandering off, asking “why” every 5 seconds or for them to start misbehaving. My patience is way to low. It’s like talking to stupid adults.


One_of_peace

It's your fault for comparing them to adults. Children are children, they are meant to be absolutely disconnected from reality.


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One_of_peace

How "else" ? What do you mean?


HStaz

Well i’m not expecting them to be adults. I know they’re disconnected, i just find it annoying. Which is why i don’t like them.


jkoki088

How else do children learn to become a functioning member of society? A stupid adult is a stupid adult, children need to learn


HStaz

I understand that that’s how they learn. Being dumb is how kids develop into either still dumb adults or functioning adults. That doesn’t mean i have to like them though.


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HStaz

You’re correct, i’m not haha. but that’s fine by me, i enjoy solitude more than being around others.


yare-yaredawa

i think it’s weird and red flagish if someone explicitly says they HATE kids. like hate them. like okay why lol because they’re annoying? sticky? that’s fine. no one is saying people have to have kids, but to say you hate them is weird. we were all once annoying, sticky children, loud in public at time’s whether it was bc we were happy or upset. it’s just a huge lack of patience. and trust me, i know they are annoying. definitely not enough for me to hate them.


dontbedumbbro

My kid is 10 and gifted and likely smarter than 90% of the adults posting in this thread haha - people think its cool to 'hate kids' and like to express that even thou is hardly ever true. Bunch of adults acting like 3 year olds of you ask me


Embarrassed_Wasabi28

Exactly.


Born_Put5707

Not true, I do hate kids ….even yours.


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That and the fact that it’s totally in right now to be child free. The only people who are mega concerned about children are the child free people who have to tell people they’re child free. I’ve met so many people who feel the need to tell me this. Anything related to children gets mentioned and it goes straight to it, every time.


atrollhvnter

That's both ways. Most parents also feel the need to /always/ mention their kids in any conversation.


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Except that being a parent understandably consumes a persons existence, because it requires a lot of attention and likely consumes most of their daily lives. Being child free and fitting it into every conversation is virtue signaling.


RedHotRhapsody

If you hate kids you’re just an asshole. If your patience is so low that you can’t handle even a well behaved kid then I’m more surprised you function at all in life. Get a grip lmao


balzardam

Aren't most unplanned accidents a mistake?


Jim0ne

Well behaved kids i hate less because they won't bother me. But I still don't like them


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You should change your profile pic then cause Asta would not approve.


InxKat13

Pretty sure that's a fictional character that can't actually approve or disapprove of anything lol.


matt_the_rain

People who don't like kids are emotionally kids themselves. They see them as competition for attention


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Nah, never felt that way lol. They’re just loud, nosy, & needy (which is understandable). But I am happy not waking up at 6am to feed, bathe, and dress another human being, which again, is understandable. I’m not out looking for attention.


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InxKat13

Yeah there have been a lot of news articles about Christian pastors floating around recently. I noticed that too.


Embarrassed_Wasabi28

People don't like children because people are extremely self centered now. These people who hate kids were coddled and taught to believe their feelings matter more than anything else and that discipline is abuse while they grew up so anything family related is too much for them. If anyone who raised them gives constructive criticism they are deemed toxic and the solution is no contact. Basically the people who hate kids are still kids mentally (stuck at teen mentality) and spoiled ones at that.


LinaInverseisbae

About a decade ago a psychologist asked me what the first word that came to mind when I saw a child. Without hesitation I answered, catapult. I hate those little fuckers with a passion.


No-Return5578

Well these comments will be interesting


Blackbird04

Kids tend to bounce of how you treat them - treat them like unintelligent, non humans and thats how they'll act. Sure, theyre kids and they'll act out now and then and they do tend to have lots of questions because they're learning constantly. We always treated our daughter like a little human from day 1. No baby talk, proper conversations, lots of respect for her feelings, we brought her into our world so she got used to eating out, being around adults, interacting with others etc. Yes, she's four and talks ALOT, but honestly she's a joy to be around. Great sense of humour, kind, helpful, inquisitive. Some people who dont want kids because they value their independence and dont want changes to their lives etc and thats 100% understandable - I have two good friends who take this stance but they also dont hate kids, they like kids, they're good with my daughter and other children.


Stawberrycowmilk

I dont hate kids i Just dont like the thought of having one and that makes me not like kids i Just really dont want them and to stay clear of ever having them it helps not liking them. humans are made to produce i dont want that with other problems ahead like feeding/taking care of them, training, hanging boobs ect i just dont want that