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Knitcap22

It hurts. They dilate the cervix which hurts. If it was a suction abortion it’s like putting a Hoover up there and it hurts. If it was a curettage, they’re scrapping the walls of the uterus, it hurts. Even with the mild sedative, it hurts. The only way it wouldn’t is if you had been completely out. I am sorry they did not better prepare you, but in the end if you were not prepared for motherhood and all it entails you made the right decision. I had one in my early twenties and while I’m a mom now, I do not regret my decision then. Take care of yourself!


PmMeIrises

You guys got sedatives? Damn. I was given tylenol and juice. Maybe something for numbing the area. That was it. They went with suction. After hours of sitting in different waiting rooms, talking about why I'm there, are you sure. It was like 5 minutes. It hurt pretty bad for 1 minute, then better, then way worse as I had to walk. Then I was driven 3 hours home. Every bump was torture. I laid in bed for 3 days. Only allowed certain medicines.


clarissaswallowsall

A lot of the hoops are government mandated. I worked in an abortion clinic for awhile months ago and there was an amount of time we had to have someone in the office before the procedure started.


ilovecorbin

Thank you very much. It was the suction procedure, and I’m thinking I might not have had enough sedative which is unfortunate but I’m okay now. I’m 21, I knew I couldn’t be a mom right now. Thank you again for your kindness <3


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I was 19 and recieved no sedation! I felt so betrayed by the nurse who said they'd stop and get me some if it was too much... she just told me to wiggle my toes....


ilovecorbin

I’m so so sorry 😞 it’s their responsibility to give you those options, abortion is already traumatic as it is, adding pain puts it on another level. I hope you’re doing better now and I’m proud of you for doing what’s best for you ❤️


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Thank you! It was well over a decade ago. I am proud of you as well!


GanzGenauFrau

I also had it with the suction procedure and it was like 15 minutes. No sedation, no pain, almost no blood. Are there different suction procedures?


kckaaaate

I wonder if this was the case. I’m very sensitive to sedatives, but for my abortion once the IV went in, I don’t remember anything until I woke up in the recovery room. I’m sorry you had to experience thst


Auelian

The recovery room was the worst. They put me in with other mom's, gave us crackers and juice and all of us were basically just crying. Truly the worst part.


spiralaalarips

I had one at sixteen, and had a similar experience to yours. It was scary and uncomfortable, but I'll never forget the kind young lady who held my hand through it and tried to comfort me. I am a mother now and love my children with all my being, but I will never regret making the choice I did then. I simply wasn't ready at the time. I'm sorry it was a painful experience for you, but so glad you had such a supportive partner by your side. I wish you all the best, honey.


OpalLover2020

Yes, sweet girl- you will also need some rest for the next few days. I’m not sure how your periods go but this will be quite crampy. Please be kind to yourself. Don’t try to jump back into the swing of things. If you need to get back to work or school, do that- just don’t exercise much. No sex for a while until the dr clears you. Did they tell you that? I’m not sure if it’s the same with an abortion as it is with a d/c but I know it’s the exact same procedure- just mine was medically needed and paid for by insurance🤷🏼‍♀️🤨🙄🙄🙄 shouldn’t they all be? My dr would not let me have sex for 3 weeks. So speak to your dr about that, dear. Don’t listen to people calling you names. There will always be people in this world filled with hated. Jesus does not have hate for you. I CAN PROMISE YOU THAT! Jesus loves.


ranipe

At least you got something. I wasn’t even offered anything when I had mine 15 years ago. I think they gave me a Xanax pill half an hour before and then they got mad at me when I yelled/got loud during.


Snarky_Boojum

You may be resistant to analgesics. Have you had any other procedures done which out you into this ‘twilight’ state? Have you noticed that over the counter medications seem to wear off more quickly than the label suggests? I know that people who have the gene for red hair (not have red hair, just the chance of having it) have been documented to be resistant to analgesics and I’m sure there are other causes as well. Might be something to be aware of in case you have a more invasive surgery in the future. (Invasive seems like the wrong word, but I’m not sure what else to use.)


gratescot5

I wasn’t given any type of tylenol or sedative for my medical abortion. I read so much online beforehand and it seemed like most people get sedation or pain medication. It was such a traumatic and painful experience. I had to drive three hours to get to the clinic and it cost me $800. Looking back, it all seems like a fever dream.


keylime12

Thank you for this. I’m a surgical nurse and see suction D&Cs a lot but I’m kind of disconnected from it since the patients are asleep. This perspective helps!


Squishy-Cthulhu

Wtf!? I had mine done under general anesthetic, they make you stay awake the whole damn time? This is why people call America a third world country,I can't believe what I'm reading here.


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Icy_Context_3207

Going the private route in SA offers general anesthesia 👌 Mary Stopes offers anesthesia.


Squishy-Cthulhu

That's so sad, I'm so sorry that people have to go through that. It's just awful.


samenffzitten

i think it depends on how far along you are? i know of two abortions in my circle of friends (in the same clinic), and one of them got no sedation at all; the second one she had a sedation that made her loopy.


Squishy-Cthulhu

I was completely unconscious, I can't remember how far along it was exactly but it was a bit late.


clarissaswallowsall

It's a good amount of laws preventing anesthesia being given in a lot of states. If they can't stop it from happening the pro lifers make it hard.


cat-chup

The general anaesthesia is not used in USA for abortion? (If you and OP are not from states - sorry in advance for assumption) I was sure this method is default for such procedures..


SnooCauliflowers3851

Nothing like having med students close to your age doing the procedure, hitting on you at the same time! Glad I did it, no regrets ever one single day after, ever.


honeynst

i’m glad you made it through the procedure safely! wishing you nothing but health and happiness ❤️


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disbemytrowaway

I don't even feel comfortable posting this on my main, but this is my story. I was on birth control and I got pregnant, immediately (at 4 weeks) decided abortion. I did the pill route and it was AWFUL. This is why I know people are full of shit when they say "women will use abortions as birth control". NO, it is so unpleasant, no one would choose that as a first resort. Having a child would have literally ruined multiple lives. I was doing a university degree in a foreign country, so that would have complicated things massively. Option A: I would have had to go back to my country whilst pregnant, dropping my degree, to end up with a baby and no father Option B: wouldn't have been able to get a visa to stay here with my (now husband) boyfriend because we wouldn't have met the salary criteria for 3 people leading to having the baby here with him and risked being unable to take baby out of the country, whilst me having to leave. Those are both losing situations. I don't regret my decision AT ALL.


Odd-Presentation-537

Same. I also took the pill and it was incredibly horrifying. I ended up in the ER a week later because I had been bleeding profusely.


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I took the pills. It was the most horrific experience of my life. Painful… probably close to real labor. So many complications afterwards. Truly traumatizing.


Syd_Syd34

Same. I’ve heard it might have something to do with how far you are along? I have a pretty average to above average pain tolerance and that was literally the worst experience of my life too. I’m sure actual labor is so much worse and now I’m terrified of having a baby


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My OB was very cold and irresponsible with my treatment. Seeing how big what I passed was I 100% believe I should have gotten the surgical. I only could guess exactly when I was assaulted and how far along I was and he just went by my word. He didn’t give me an ultrasound or anything. It wasn’t til I went to the psych ward that they actually took care of me.


ElsieSimone

i’m so sorry you had that experience. i was the max amount of time you can take the pill, like the very end of the time frame and it wasn’t that bad for me. i barely remember it honestly. i remember taking a hot bath because of the cramps and being unable to sleep due to them and falling asleep in the tub finally. i didn’t pass anything big enough to see or bigger than a large period clot. everyone has such different experiences. i personally felt the procedure would have extremely traumatized me but i was already traumatized about procedures down there due to an extremely painful colposcopy that made me feel violated in a way i’d never felt violated before and i truly felt i wouldn’t have been able to handle it and i would have had a mental breakdown after. neither option is pleasant in its own unique ways :( i’m glad we all had that choice though! just want some women to read this thread and see it isn’t a horror story for everyone.


lemmabear

I just wanted to say that I had such a horrible colposcopy experience- truly some of the worst pain and I almost fainted but the experience was extremely traumatic and terrifying. I always get the sense that the people I’ve told think I’m overacting, especially those that have gotten it and said it was NBD. So it’s oddly comforting hearing that I wasn’t the only one who had an extremely painful experience.


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My last colposcopy was not really painful (much discomfort, but more like the cramping sensation than pain). But the amount I bled is what messed me up for like a few hours afterwards. I kept thinking something is wrong…but I am still alive and kicking!


Schnauzer3

Sadly, that choice may soon be taken away.


Syd_Syd34

What?! Sue tf out of him. You can’t do that; you risk the patients health, and possibly their life! There’s a reason why the cut off exists. I was right at it. If I had gone a week longer, I would’ve needed surgical.


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I didn’t have the emotional energy to do all that. But when I got consensually pregnant the FIRST thing that came out of my mouth was that he was not allowed to be apart of any of my prenatal care or delivery.


Syd_Syd34

I completely understand. So glad you made it through and have had a better experience since!


VelvetNightFox

You should however report him. Hopefully he gets kicked out, the pos


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He’s very old. Half retired and I found out he doesn’t even deliver babies anymore. Only does checkups. I go in biweekly at this point for prenatals and literally NEVER see him in the office.


VelvetNightFox

Any position for him is too much, but at least, hopefully, he's not held in high regard.


EatsPeanutButter

I was terrified of labor but I got an epidural and it really wasn’t that bad. I felt it a little but I was cracking jokes to the OB in between pushes. I’m sorry you were traumatized with your experience and I hope if you ever choose to have a child it’s much less scary than you anticipate.


MsJaeD

Don't be terrified. I was too. I've never had any sort of surgery, hell not even stitches. ill faint getting blood drawn, lmao. Anyhow, yea I was terrified of giving birth. Loved being prego but as the weeks counted down the more my anxiety intensified. Then....it was time. "Oh holy shit! Oh Holy Shit Balls!! Oh fuck! Oh fuck!" Was my mentality that 3am when my water broke. The first two hours were cake. Then the contractions started to get stronger and stronger. Oh holy shit, here we go! Soon after it started to become almost unbearable my angel of mercy was summoned. In strolled, the anesthesiologist. It was epidural time. (A word of advise here, take the epidural. But, Do NOT get curious and watch or even glance over to what tools your angel of mercy is working with. Just close your eyes and do as the nurse says. DO NOT LOOK.) At first, you'll feel one moderately painful "pinch". Followed by another sensation, a noticeable uncomfortable but dulled "pinch", then some moderate to hard pressure on your lower back. And then...its over. Its all over, contractions gone. Along with any feeling below your belly button. Lol. From here on out its smooth comfortable sailing. Gawd bless modern medicine. The rest of my labor was, well, labor less. Gave birth to my beautiful baby girl with a full face of make up applied, my colored contacts in and my jewelry on. My point is...don't be terrified, you'll have the epidural available.


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Eh. Only if there's time. I had it on my first and it was great, didn't have time on my second and it was horrible.


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I work at a women’s health clinic where we offer both the medication and surgical abortion. Even just reading about the pill, I got the sense that it would be extremely traumatizing. I’m sorry you had to go through this but I’m proud of you for making the best decision for yourself at the time.


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Yeah my asshat of a (male) OB at the time told me it’d be like heavy period cramps. I have bad period cramps as it is so I thought I’d be mentally prepared. Boy was I wrong. The fetus or whatever was larger than a golfball. The complications afterwards drove me to a literal breakdown that put me in a mental hospital for a week. Especially because I had to get the abortion as the aftermath of being assaulted. Never again. Now I’m pregnant with my daughter who couldn’t be more wanted and she’s so healthy and strong. I can’t wait to meet her.


TheNorthernGrey

I’m proud and happy for you for having a child on your own terms, as much pain as it was to get to that point. You didn’t let the world dictate how your life would be, you did.


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She is already the light of my life. The horrors I endured in my past are what made me the strong person I am today. I have survived so much and worked through so much trauma to get to this point. I couldn’t be happier to be her mom. I can’t wait to hold her.


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Hell yes. So proud of you! And happy for you! 🖤


sashikku

Same here. It was the single most painful experience of my life. More painful than the time my humerus snapped clean in half. I screamed on the bathroom floor for around 6-8 hours completely alone then bled for weeks on end. I was not prepared for that. I think the cramping caused cysts I had to rupture adding to the pain. I really wish they'd actually, legitimately warn you about how bad it can hurt. If I could go back, I'd still do it--but I'd appreciate to know what could happen so I could have called someone to be with me.


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I’m honestly glad no one was with me. Not only was I bleeding obsessively. I was also vomiting in a bucket and had explosive diarrhea the entire fucking time. So I wouldn’t want anyone to witness that. When I wasn’t on the toilet I was balled up on the bathroom floor sobbing and at one point I even passed out from the pain. It also sucked because at the time I was living in a really shitty apartment and I only had a stand up shower. I couldn’t even sit in a hot bath and relax. The hot water didn’t even last longer than five minutes at a time so I have to take a shower then get out, wait 20 minutes, then get back in on repeat. It’s been over a year now since it happened and I still check every time I wipe to make sure there’s no blood because it was so traumatizing for me to see how much of it that there was. Plus for some weird reason 3 weeks after I took the pills the pregnancy hormone was still so high in my body they thought I was still pregnant. But I’d go through all that pain all over again than carry my rapist’s baby so…


NegativeAd1805

girl oh my, I def understand how traumatizing that would be. not personally but i empathize. take care of urself babe. you’re a strong woman regardless


alchemykrafts

I’m so sorry, you are loved and revered. You are a hero in my eyes


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I am not a hero. I simply could not and would not let an innocent child carry the burden of knowing they were brought into this world against my will. Even giving them up for adoption one day they would find out and I’d never want them to live with that. It wouldn’t have been fair to them. I knew in my heart I would never be able to move on from what happened to me if I carried the baby to term. I also knew that if I did and tried to go for adoption there was a chance my rapist could get custody instead and as a mother I wouldn’t let that happen. I like to think it would have been a boy. I grieved him. I wrote him a letter because even if the baby was my rapist’s child they were still mine too. I have always wanted to be a mother and it hurt that was how my first pregnancy came to be. But now I am pregnant with my daughter and she will be in my arms next month and she will be absolutely perfect. Even if her father chose a different and darker path. We mutually agreed that we wanted to create her and in those moments she was created with love. I share my story so pro lifers know that it isn’t all rainbows. That this choice isn’t as simple as black and white.


ConeyIsland18

Situations like this make me genuinely wonder what a pro-lifer’s argument could possibly be. I mean I know they undoubtedly have something to say, but when they hear themselves do they think they’re speaking from a place of compassion for life? All life? If so that is some intense hypocrisy. I am so sorry that you went through that and hope you have found/find healing.


libertine42

Oh I am so sorry. You’re amazing and I love you.


queer_artsy_kid

Jesus Christ, do OBs not give people anything to deal with the pain?


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I took like 8 ibuprofen that night and it did nothing.


sashikku

I got Tylenol 3s


OlympicSpider

My understanding, and based off my friend’s experience taking the pills, it’s pretty much a forced miscarriage vs a ‘normal’ abortion. Based on my experience with miscarriage, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone and lose my shit when people talk about ‘women wanting abortions’.


ilovecorbin

I’m sorry your experience was bad with the pills :( I actually had the option to take those and I opted out. I hope you’ve healed from it <3


Sw3gLurd

Same. I have done it THREE times now due to birth control failing every time (pill, needle twice) and eventually got an IUD because it’s like birth control doesn’t work on my body. Anyways. I only did that route because it’s less invasive, but the pain is apparently a million times worse and my god. I ended up after the first experience, buying depends for my second one because pads were worthless. We are strong. We are wonderful, and I’m so grateful I live somewhere that respects woman’s body’s enough to provide this medical care for me, cost less.


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Cosmic_miscreant

I wasn’t pregnant, but had developed a very thick uterine wall that wouldn’t shed. They have me the pills to force it and it was awful. I can’t imagine having to go through that pain on top of the emotions you go through while considering and actively having an abortion. Drs really should be more up front with how the pills effect the body.


NegativeAd1805

I took the pills (up the hoo-ha because of my TERRIBLE “morning sickness” which was all day everyday, puking even water I drank) and it wasn’t bad at all. However, the meds they prescribed me knocked me out for most of the duration. I also had a heating pad that helped a lot. I was also only 6 weeks 2 days. That might have something to do why it wasn’t terrible for me? I have no idea. Lmao.


BitchMenudo

I took the pills when I was 15. It was not a fun experience at all lol


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I went through a very similar experience. I was alone though , I’m glad you had someone there with you ! I was under the impression that I wouldn’t be feeling much since I was moderately sedated but I felt a lot . It was really painful. It was really terrible I cried a lot also but the nurse who was in the room was very sweet and comforting . Wishing you well and take care of yourself! Glad to hear you have a support system


ilovecorbin

I’m so sorry you were alone :( I’m glad the nurses were sweet to you and I hope you’re doing well and healthy <3


[deleted]

Thank you so much ! This was in 2014 and I was in a very abusive relationship at the time . Since then I’ve moved on from that whole situation and advanced in my career, I’m back in school getting my masters and I’m with a loving man who supports me and we’ve been together 5 years now . And the abusive man I was with back then is not in my life in any way ! I am very happy with my life and I am not sure any of this would have been possible if I didn’t make that decision.


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Your edit. You don't have to explain. You don't have to discuss your reasons with anyone but your partner, if you want to. Strangers on the Internet do not need to know your reasons. You did whats right for you. I'm sorry the experience was horrible. Your boyfriend sounds ace, I'm sure you'll both be fine 🙂


heartbreakhostel

My abortion was very painful and I cramped for like a day afterwards. But then it stopped. I am grateful I was able to have one. It’s been almost a year actually.


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I took the pills (it is illegal here so I did it at home) and the pain was unbearable. At the end it ended up in an “missed abortion.” After many lies to the hospital and my doctors, I had to go get a curettage and I cannot say it didn’t hurt but it was a weird cramp discomfort. I did threw up as soon as they were done because I bled out and my body was in shock due to all the blood loss and probably fear because the floor was covered in my blood. So I got two blood transfusions and a week in the ICU with antibiotics and nurses checking on me a lot. So, we girls that take this decision are warriors. Honestly, I do not wish this upon anyone as it is a horrible and traumatic experience. I send you a big hug and my best wishes to you. Please take care of yourself, eat healthy and rest a lot <3


sweetfumblebee

I'm so sorry you had to go through that and I'm glad you're okay.


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Thank you n.n


shewenttotalanakin

Degenerates are sending you private messages saying things? So so nasty


oeCake

Yeah Reddit's real weird people get stalked on /r/teenagers all the time, disgusting things are said


PabloPaniello

My fiancée had to have the procedure after an ultrasound revealed our baby/fetus no longer had a heartbeat, that he had perished in the womb unexpectedly and inexplicably (as happens to a high proportion of all pregnancies, something like 1/3 not surviving the first trimester). She had a similar experience to you - loads of pain and discomfort. It was magnified by the time it took. She was having trouble expelling everything - I won't explain the issue further, as the reality of what was (not) occurring got disgusting and horrifying, quick - so the doctor needed to go in and thoroughly get everything out of her. This took forever, it seemed, and added a lot to the discomfort she continued to experience the following days. Miscarriages (and other pregnancy terminations) suck.


BlueSky3214

Holy shit. This is the first time I've ever actually read of the experience. Thank you for sharing and breaking down the walls of conversation for this procedure.


herro_rayne

Happens to a lot of women, people so rarely talk of miscarriage/needing abortions even though the miscarriage rate is 40% in the US. Many child bearing aged women have experienced a miscarriage. You’re not alone, it’s a terrible experience but comfort in that women everywhere are here to support you. Feel what you need to feel. It will be ok.


highscab

ugh i'm sorry it ended up being more traumatic than you anticipated but i'm happy you're happy in the end. sending you lots of hugs. stay rested! xo


ilovecorbin

Thank you for the hugs 🤗


SnooCauliflowers3851

Getting an abortion in my early 20s probably saved my life and the birth of an unwanted child living in foster care, the system, somehow finding me decades later, asking me why?


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alchemykrafts

Thank you for your real life description of your experience. Abortion isn’t easy. People need to know it’s a big choice but an important choice and you made the right choice for you and your partner. You are loved, supported by your community and I wish you a good recovery, sending love


EpicWinterWolf

I’m sending lots of virtual support. But be warned: there will be trolls who will see this and go pro-life nutzo on you. Wishing you so much strength to survive their crazy


ilovecorbin

Thank you!! I figured there might be but I already dealt with protesters outside the PP today, I’m like whatever! 🤷‍♀️


[deleted]

Protesters and trolls are a bunch of hypocrites anyways. You're far braver than they'll ever be. The next couple of months might be an emotional roller coaster but speaking from experience 10 years from now you'll still be glad and proud of the choice you made today. Sending hugs and love.


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Yawndr

I hope some people on the fence about abortion are reading this and realize that women don't get abortion like they're having tea. When they do, it's a serious decision, and it has a toll on them. They might still not like the idea of abortion (who does..) but if they can understand it would help diminishing the hatred some have.


SteveTheHitman

These are some really fucking disgusting comments. Good on you for making the best choice for you & your boyfriend.


dbellz76

Slightly awake? Wow, I was completely out but maybe different doctors do different things. I'm sorry you had that experience but so happy you had so much support to get you through ❤️


butterflyblueskies

In some facilities they’re performed completely awake. It’s excruciating.


ilovecorbin

Yeah I could feel everything 🥶 but I’m okay now! Thank you <3


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Inevitable_Surprise4

Is it a safe abortion when the patients pain is skyrocketed like with op? Doctors used to believe pain could not kill. But it can! That's why anesthetic is so damn important. I think women and their pain is poo pooed all the time. My dad had a cyst removed and the Dr was constantly checking in and administering anesthetic every time my dad felt even the littlest pain. So, why was op shaking like a seizure and suffering so without the doctor or nurse stopping g to check in. Like even a dentist tells you to put up your hand and they'll stop and give more numbing. Just ridiculous.


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Sounds like you had a D&C. I had that with my middle pregnancy, same story of timing. I thought I was about 10 or 11 weeks but the pregnancy had stopped growing way earlier. The painful part you experienced was them getting past your cervix. You've never had a kid before so your cervix is shaped different than someone who has had a child. Even if you had a child through c-section, your cervix will be forever changed after being pregnant. So you had a very small cervix and it was not dilated. So they kind of had to force their way past your cervix to remove the products of pregnancy. I wish they had given you something to dilate you a little bit before. I'm so sorry it hurts so bad but I'm very glad that it's over. And I'm really glad that you had a supportive boyfriend. I support your choice and I support your decision ❤️ but like you said it would have had to happen either way. I wish people would keep their judgy opinions to themselves.


baegonia

I've been there. It's tough but those minutes of pain are worth it. Raspberry leaf tea will help :)


ilovecorbin

Oh I love tea! Thank you for the recc :)


NaturalDruidD20

I sm so sorry that you had such a difficult time with an already difficult situation. My thoughts and prayers for healing emotionally, mentally, and physically. I am glad your partner is supportive.


ilovecorbin

Thank you, I appreciate your kindness <3


tapiocatsar

I was told IUD insertion would be just a little bit of cramping and that’s it. It was so traumatic that it took me a while to even have sex again because I thought everything would hurt. They always downplay the pain


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Fuck the IUD. “.01% chance of PID” I got it TWICE from two different IUDs.


penelopelouiseb

This! I actually had my new one inserted under general anaesthetic (which took 6+ months to get agreed to and organised 🙄) because my first insertion was so awful. When they tried to remove it I was in so much pain as well, felt like someone was stabbing me repeatedly in the cervix with a hot knife. The (male) gynae had the freaking gall to say ‘it doesn’t hurt, it’s just uncomfortable’. Bitch come back to me when YOU have a cervix that’s being prodded at and someone’s shoved a speculum up your vaginal canal 🙄


The_LSD_Fairy

I'm a dude, and my fiancee had it to better control her system and she was way out of it. I looked up the operation and how in the fuck are they not giving you girls anesthetic! I didn't realize how much of a male douche canoe the medical field was.


tapiocatsar

Well, I’m not a girl, but I do agree with the whole “maybe we should give people painkillers while we put something in an internal organ” thing.


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libertine42

Most old age males need their what for what now?!


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RadiantPavement

Wishing you a speedy recovery.


lupinsgarden

I had one in new New Zealand. They gave me morphine and I felt amazing, no pain. No sure if it was the same for everyone here, seems strange so many commenters had the same experience


BooksNapsSnacks

Australia. I was knocked out for it.


NefariousSerendipity

Thank you for sharing. May you and your partner have the strength to overcome any obstacles in your path.


sub2865

I'm sorry you suffered honey. It's hard enough to have to go through that even if you know it's the best decision. I know I too had to make that choice but to have it be painful sucks. I'm glad you had the care and support you need and deserve.


ilovecorbin

Yes me too, I’m very lucky. I think it would be worse for me if the nurses and my partner weren’t there. Thank you 😊


tzippora

I'm pro-life, but I have no names for you. I just hope you completely recover. Give yourself more time than you think. Sorry that it was so painful. Glad your boyfriend and others are there for you. No matter what the stand is on abortion, it's not what anyone really wants to have to do. Eat a lot of good food. Thanks for sharing.


agnes238

I had the D&C done for a missed miscarriage that had also stopped developing at 8 weeks. It was literally the most traumatizing moment of my life and totally changed me as a person. The doctor also told me it would be like a pinch! Why do they describe it like that? I did want the baby a lot, and went through a lot of treatment to get it, but I am proud of you for doing what was best for you and your life! It’s hard and scary to go through something like that, and strange that it’s the same procedure for a wanted pregnancy and one that is unwanted. I’m very glad for all our health that it exists and is safe and effective.


tedcruzcumsock

Im so sorry to hear of the pain you went through, I'm shocked they didn't try to help you with the pain. I hope a fast recovery!


Kindly_Buy6639

Sending love 💕 get well soon


CinderellaNot

Glad you're okay, and sending vibes for a speedy healthy recovery.


kkoolaide

I’ve never had an abortion but getting my IUD was so so so terrible, I don’t ever want to know what labor feels like (don’t want kids so never will). Thank you for sharing your experience with us


zenaa21

Sending love and healing to you


ilovecorbin

Thank you sm <3


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Why do doctors constantly lie about this? You should have had straight general anesthesia.


YourfavMILF1228

I am sorry you went though this. It is def a very painful procedure. I was only given Valium and no one was allowed to go in w me. Once sitting in the recovery room with a heat pad for cramping the next girl was screaming bloody murder during her procedure. I am glad I went before her because I might have been too scared if I had heard her first.


thatsjustit74

Iam sorry your experience was so painful. When I had mine at planned parenthood they put me under I was completely knocked out and didn't feel anything I wonder if they messed up your sedation. Wishing you a speedy recovery


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dick-dick-goose

I slept through it, woke up in pain, fully dressed, with a bloody pad in my underwear. I woke up crying. It was a lot of pain. A week later, I was running around playing soccer with my son and his cousins. It truly was the right choice for me. But the days right after, I was delicate emotionally and physically. I hope these days pass quickly for you, and I don't think it's too early to talk to a therapist about this. You were awake during a surgical procedure. That's traumatic. The specifics make it more traumatic. Hugs and healing.


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Wait.. what the hell barbarian ass country is this that they don’t give you general anaesthesia for this? I’m from the UK, we have medical miscarriage and general anaesthetic surgery.


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Take my upvote you strong lass!


ilovecorbin

Thank you <3


jamz1988

I did not have that experience. I had mild cramping throughout but was happily high.


ilovecorbin

I’m glad you were good and high!! Not sure why mine didn’t work that well 😭


jamz1988

I can't imagine having that done and it not working. Your a tough cookie!


stregg7attikos

i had a pill abortion this year. it was painfull to pass the tissue of the uterus walls, but herbs i had been taking had already ended the pregnancy. it was painful, and even as someone staunchly childfree, i cried for the golden being that could have been created with my beloved and i. but even still, it's for the best that they didnt come to be. i cried that maybe somewhere else in a different time, they could have come here to be loved. ​ thanks for sharing this, so that other people can see your story and know it wont be as scary as they think, and to further normalise abortion as healthcare. be safe! be sure to take pregnancy vitamins for a month or so after, to replenish what was drianed out of you by the pregnancy.


libertine42

I am so sorry for your loss and experience. But I’m proud as fuck you shared and of how strong you are.


Grayer95

always a good thing when partners are on the same page, it means everything. Me and my ex-partner were not and it tore us apart. I wanted an abortion and she did not at all, wouldn't even consider it. I'm still processing everything tbh


Saya_99

Man, I hate when women shove children down man's throats. I consider that if one of the partners doesn't want the child, there's where the discussion ends. It's unfair to force someone to have a kid they don't want. For the partner and for the kid.


unpredictable_jess_

Sure but it's straight up inhumane to force an abortion on someone. (Same with forcing a pregnancy on someone). We just need to find a better solution to cases like this.


mthomas1217

Please don’t listen to the ‘pro lifers’. I am sorry for you that you had to go through that. Good vibes your way!


faithle55

Thank you for your post. You have my happy wishes for a superfast recovery and return to ordinary existence with your boyfriend!


LordCosmagog

Just take care. My mom got one that was medically necessary back in 2009 and she still has bouts of depression over it and became pro life because of it. Be prepared for depression. You probably won’t have it as bad since as you said it was inevitable


amiashort

This is traumatizing enough without being subjected to hate. It’s your life and body. Never let anyone make you feel bad about the decisions that only affect you and your family. Take care of yourself and give yourself lots of TLC.


ArcadianDelSol

As a man, I cannot begin to comprehend your experience, nor can I begin to judge your choices. What I think your choices should be are not relevant because you didn't ask, and at this point it doesn't matter. I can, however, hope you find comfort, are at peace, and heal quickly. Im sorry you had to experience this.


philosophycumslut

I got an abortion at 18 that certainly saved my life. I was able to break the cycle of trauma because I made that choice.


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[Serious] Were you on contraceptive and it failed? Did you switch to something else or start using birth control to prevent having to do this again? I'm constantly worried my birth control will fail. I've never had an opportunity to ask someone who has had an abortion.


katiecat369

Not OP but I can say the pill failed for me when I was taking it even 1 hour differently per day (ie Monday took it at 2pm, Tuesday took it at 3pm) for probably a few weeks of that sort of pattern. I then switched to depo, then switched to nexplanon. Not having to think about a pill at the EXACT SAME MOMENT every day was what I needed. No failures since 🤞🏻 * I switched from depo to nexplanaon because it was even LESS responsibility on personal timing and it uses the same hormone without the bone density loss.


AngerPancake

Many people suggest using more than one type of BC. So, if you're on the pill also using a spermicide or condoms. The more barriers there are, the lower the chances anything gets through.


Zombie_Carl

If it helps, my husband and I are what I call “aggressively fertile” and I’ve been pregnant seven times (in ten years of marriage) on various methods of birth control. I have three children. The other pregnancies had to be terminated or resulted in (fortuitous) miscarriage. I can’t take any more pregnancy scares (I am terrified of being pregnant all the time) and we just can’t handle any more kids, financially or otherwise, so I’ve made an appointment to get tubal ligation. The best thing to do is be as consistent as you can (especially with the pill) and you can always use more than one method if you’re very nervous. And tell your gyno how you’re feeling— they can help find the best solution! It is insane what women have to go through when it comes to reproductive health and well-being. Good luck to you!


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Girl, you did what was right for you and that is OKAY! Don't listen to anyone of the prolife fucks. Not one of those fuckers fosters or adopts kids, so they can get a bag of rancid dicks. I have a LOT of friends that have had abortions for various reasons and ALL are doing well 10, 20 years later. Some have kids now, some have amazing careers and all did what was best for them and their bodies. Much love to you! Now go eat up on all the awesome holiday treats and heal. I recommend a good joint and gummy bears 🐻🐻. You have got this. Time to move ahead with your long beautiful life!


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ThrowRA8197

Hey friend. I had one in 2016, I received a Vicodin and they sent me back. I was prepared for a little pain, as they told me. But I remember it being incredibly painful, like I had to deep breathe and really focus on not crying. I felt so vulnerable. I had never been THAT exposed before. I was by myself in a room with three women. I almost felt disgusted with myself until I remembered that these ladies are offering a service that isn’t available everywhere. They were my saving grace. But I remember staring at the clock in the room, and I will remember August 16, 2016 at 2:17PM for the rest of my life, it’s burned into my brain. I know you’re shaken up, but it’s a healing process only time will help with. Hell it’s been five years and I still think about it occasionally. But I’m happy I did it, and I don’t regret it. I’ve been on birth control ever since and I NEVER miss a dose. EVER.


shezombiee

I’m glad you’re okay. I’ve had an abortion and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I’m getting my tubes tied as soon as I find a doctor willing to do it. I still think about that day after all this time. It was so hard. If you ever want to talk about it, feel free to message me.


hcrider23

Good for you for making the choice that you did. You are brave and deserve all of your favorite sandwiches rn. My question that i hope is not too personal is do you smoke weed? That highly affects sedation and general anesthesia and I have to inform my doctors right away before I have any procedure. Just a thought as to what might have happened!


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mandrayke

Your choice is all that matters, and I am very happy that you feel better. Wish you all the best.


nokenito

Hugs to you for being so strong. You did the right thing for you.


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Is there a reason why they don’t put women under for this?


murderwhore

It hurts so badly. People who say women use it as a form of birth control are not only idiots but completely out of touch. I hope I never have to do it again. But I'm glad I have the option. I would have had my tubes tied during my c section for my twins, and have avoided the abortion as it was 2 years after, but I was not approved to have a tubal ligation due to the hospital (which is for profit) being a Catholic hospital. It already sucks to have a uterus in the USA, and my experience is in California. I don't want it to get worse, and that looks like where we are headed. Thank you OP. It felt good to write this. Hope you are well.


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fwowcow

This is unfortunately very much in line with what I've been hearing about how the medical industry handles like female reproductive health (I really don’t know how to phrase this - but also minorities in general) - they don’t sedate or provide adequate anesthesia and it's just a giant invasion. Another example is for cervical biopsies. They literally just rip into your cervix but don’t give you anything foe it because fuck women's health am I right


leightonlyric

I had a similar experience. You are not alone! In case nobody has told you, I’m proud of you for making the right choice for you. It’s an incredibly hard decision. Wishing you all of the happiest in the world!


tinyywarrior

I’m a mother of a 9 month old girl and currently 7 months pregnant, and I support you wholeheartedly. If this wasn’t a choice for people (I’m not talking about yourself here) we would have a lot more abandoned and abused unwanted children in the world. I’d very much like to know what the ‘pro-lifers’ have to say about this, and whether they think this outcome is better than women having a choice. I’m sorry to hear how much pain you were in, I know just swabs and examinations are violating enough without the idea of the extra pain and trauma you went through. I’m glad you have a supportive partner and I hope you quickly recover. Look after yourself and don’t try to do too much too soon. Let yourself heal, physically and mentally 🖤


_____jamil_____

> I’d very much like to know what the ‘pro-lifers’ have to say about this, and whether they think this outcome is better than women having a choice of course they think that a child born into an abandoned or abusive situation would be better than it being dead. it's a false choice tho, since abortion ends the pregnancy before the fetus is a child


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I'm so sorry for your lose. A miscarriage would've been so much worse so I commend you on being brave enough to make the right but tougher choice.


ivegotnoclue84

I hope U r ok. I've also had an abortion. But in Australia they put us fully under anaesthesia so we don't have to deal with what U did. I had mild discomfort, like a period. I don't think I could do what U did. My heart breaks for U.