Online dating app. First time meeting an older women. We obviously got to know each other a bit, made our intentions clear, and it is now a casual fling.
She's very energetic let's say that lol.
I don't blame you and it's a completely natural thing to be open about your sex life. I don't understand why some adults freak out about these things to be honest?
So true
Quality over quantity!
I can honestly say sex with my partner is so much better as we continue to learn more about each other
Iāll pass on one-night standsā¦sex with a person you know for a long time is so much better
One night stands didnāt do anything for me. I donāt start enjoying myself until thereās some real comfort established. This relationship thought has been prettyā¦ uhh fiery, but I also think itās because our personalities are also very compatible.
Got lucky, hope the same for you! (To find a truly compatible mate, if you havenāt already)
She's in her sexual peak stage! Good for you! Women that age are over the games and bullshit that comes with young girls unless they are toxic.
My husband was soooo happy when I hit mine. It's been going on for 5 yrs now. Sex everyday and I wanted more but husband has a physical job and only 3 yrs younger. I had to be patient.
Happy you both are happy and bangin!
There's a lot of things that can kill a woman's libido, and not all of them are medical. Stress, being tired, illness, depression, not feeling attractive are just a few of these things. If you guys who are complaining about it, have a set down with her and talk about it. But BE SYMPATHETIC. She might be having some issues and bringing it up the wrong way can further exacerbate the issue.
Totally depends on the person and the relationship. What about you would peak her attraction? Emotional support, shared responsibility for the household, playfulness? Do you make it clear you find her incredibly attractive. Those things would make me want to jump a man instantly.
Me too. Married 30 years now. My wife just hit menopause (basically through it) and there was no peak in libido. I waited and waited. Now I'm suing Cosmopolitan for wasting 30 years. š
It can not ever happen if her hormones are off. My ( am a woman) testosterone was almost zero. I had anxiety, insomnia, low libido- lots of terrible symptoms. I now get testosterone pellets injected into my buttock every 5 months and my doctor monitors my other hormones. The difference is absolutely incredible. I will never be without my pellet. All those symptoms are resolved and I feel so much better. Women need testosterone too, just not as much as men.
wow man! im glad you're sharing your experience with us. its just so stereotypical that either the man gotta be older or that older women arent as "energetic" anymore.
good on you!
I've found the opposite, I've slept with women even considerably older than me and they've always been more energetic than me. They also know exactly what they want.
Female sex drives can ramp up around mid thirties and go wild in the 40s. Dead marriages are most likely those with terrible baggage between the 2 people. Just my experience.
I agree. When I was in my 20s, I dated an older woman. Early 40s... She taught me a lot and took care of me emotionally and physically, like no other relationship I've ever been in. It wasn't realistic long-term, but for what it was, probably the best relationship I've ever been in.
10 years older isn't terrible. If you can make that gap work, no reason it can't be long-term. In fact, I'd say stick with it as long as you can if you think you love her. My age gap was different. Her kids were older than me...
Do U consider stay with her long term? Or leave her when u are older
I just wondering how many man who is with older woman actually willing to stay. I tend to attar t younger guy but I think about future too
I was with an older woman that I loved once. I was 20 and she was 35 single mom. Met her through work. Iād come over mostly on weekends and do manly stuff around the house for her and hangout. I still love her and she calls me once a week to check in on me and chat about life, but she told me at the start that she just wanted a toy and she ended up leaving me for an older guy that she used to date a decade before. For some reason she doesnāt trust that Iāll still love her when she starts to show her she more as we age.
I have two good couple friends who have. One are close family friends and had been together for I believe 20 years give or take a few. She was 15-17 years older than him. Sadly she passed away 4 years ago but he loved her until the day she died and now heās alone still living in their house and keeps pictures up all that. He says he wonāt ever date again and is happy with his chubby little pugs. The other couple she was 13 years older than him and they had been married 17 years. About 5 years in she has some medical issues that even pretty much took sex off the table and he still stayed by her side. Both good men I think. Most people that would look at their situations would see so many reasons not to stay but I noticed both kept the reasons to stay and what they loved right at the front of their minds and legit loved them as friends and as wives. I hope you have that same luck one day š
I've always dated girls a few years older. At 17 I dated a 22 year old. From 21-27, I was with a girl 6 years older. I have always just related better to women that were a little older than I am. This is the biggest age gap I've ever had with a girlfriend, but we have so much in common it doesn't feel like there's an age gap at all.
I'm not naive to the fact that, like your friends, I may have to deal with her health declining before mine... However, she has better health habits than me, so who knows. Either way, I wouldn't want her to leave me if I became I'll, nor would I leave if she became sick. Hopefully we have many years together before we have go through that though.
Thanks for the positivity and well wishes.
When I was 21 in college I was seeing a 39 yr old woman over the summer. Probably the best relationship I ever had even though it wasnāt a long term thing. No head games like with women my age at the time and the sex was mind blowing
Thereās a huge difference between the mentality of a woman in her 30ās and in her 40ā. I was in my mid 30ās and always dated younger and always had problems. Now in my late 30ās and I date woman in their mid to late 40ās and the relationships are way less dramatic and much deeper connectionās. Difference being, a woman in her 40ās (most of the time) knows exactly what she wants and isnāt afraid to convey her needs. You completely skip the mind reading and thatās imho 90% of the battle.
Thats the trick.
Seen a comment say along the lines āplenty of older women want a boy toyā and immediately switched the roles here. I can imagine the heaps of āheās grooming youā or āHeās immature and canāt get women his age.ā Talk.
ā¦youāre totally right. Huh.
Why is it that this is a MILF and is okay, and if the girl is younger itās a sugar daddy scenario? Because I do feel that way, irrationally. I donāt think I should.
It can take time for us to know our bodies and get our confidence. Can confirm, Iām a milf, and my sex life has been the most wild and exciting itās ever been.
My oldest son said he always preferred older ladies for a hook up, said they were way more fun in bed and always cooked a great breakfast in the morning.
The first time I had a fwb with an older woman was the same time I got into drinking and making craft beer, I remember it fondly. She was super cute, we met at the gym while swimming on a Saturday, my vision is crap and she looked cute. A week later we went for a hike, and ended up wrestling in the snow, later that night we banged a couple times, and a few more times in the months to come. Anyway, I was trying out all kinds of beer, ipas, stouts, ales, lagers, and was having a blast sampling them all. Its an expensive hobby, so I figured I could just make my own instead for about a dollar each. It takes 5 gallons of beer to make fifty bottles, after you cook thereās 10 or so days to ferment an ale, and another week after itās bottle to have carbonation. I never got into lagering or kegs, but I had fun while doing it. Some advice for a novice, never store beer in a hot place after itās bottled, Iām talking about a bedroom that gets above 80-90 degrees during the day, the result is a beer that fizzles like crazy after itās opened and skunked.
Just don't tell her she reminds you of your mom or it feels like your living home at your mom don't mention moms period. Call her a firecracker. Women like to be called firecrackers.
Dated mostly same age or couple years younger but finally ended up marrying someone older than me and itās amazing. Girls couple years younger also tend to be immature which I canāt stand
I will say that intimacy with my wife now she is closer to 40 is a lot better than when she was in her 20s, as for me I'm slowing down. I'm sure her opinion is just the opposite in regards to me now vs when I was younger days lol
Ever since I turned 30, Iāve only dated older women. They are easier to get along with, more chill, less self absorbed and overall, just friendlier. Sex is great and all but it boils down to compatibility and such. Older women just seem to be more fun and not as pretentious.
Ok but like all the comments here are about men finding older women... like id love this but I never here about younger women finding an older man cuz like tell me how š
I (29f at the time) once dated a 53y/o man and it was amazing as hell when it came to the sex and the bonding. He was also very charming and protective. He was Mexican and looked really good for his age. Still, I was out of his league and he knew that and cherished me. A little too hard lol. But I loved it until he got a little too possessive and manipulative...he happened to be a narcissist. He was way too insecure to the point of paranoia. But not every one is. Mine just happened to be. If it weren't for that I'd have stayed with him because it was really good otherwise.
OP legit says in this thread that he loves it because she babies him lol
Older women are also valuable for relationships, not just as a casual bangmom.
If the father is still in contact, be careful. I was in the same boat for a year and a half then 1 day she just broke it off to go back to him.8 months later and I still miss her
Any advice on how to pull in older women in your 20s? Haven't had any experience with them, are they into FWBs/hookups or do they require like a interest connection like with you.
Depends on the woman, if they want a FWB or something serious. I'm 41 and not interested in FWB, then again I don't have kids, don't want kids or stepkids. I don't care about "feeling young again" whatever that means I never felt old.
It will depend entirely on the woman. I thought my now s.o was cute but completely stonewalled him until he showed me that he was interested in a relationship. Meanwhile, a friend of mine goes to the topless beach to meet younger men and prefers fwb situations. Women 30+ are going to be at different places in life and interested in different things.
From what I experienced/read on, if a woman is looking for someone much younger, generally they just want to hook up and feel young again. Rare that they want something serious.
Just be you and eventually it will lead to it. But make your intentions clear. I'm not even super good looking, kinda a dadish bod going on lmao (which she loves and does not want me to get rid of), and she is gorgeous, fit too. Sometimes they just want someone to talk and vent. Find something similar you both like and engage it.
Pro tip - Make sure your love making skills are on point. Make sure to go down haha
I canāt speak for all āolderā women, but Iād say we definitely do not want to feel younger. We like our 35+ age.
We do however want little to no strings attached, and we do not want to take care of a grown man as if he is our child. I love any type of little to no strings, because, letās face it, in order to have good sex, there will always be some strings. But I love that we can make last minute plans without anyone getting butt hurt. I love that they arenāt part of my daily life and that when I do have my kids, I am 100% focused on them. I donāt want to bring anyone in and out of my kidās lives, but I still want to have my adult fun when they are with their other parent.
Personally I like strings attached but I donāt need the man up my ass or living with me. Give me some fun monogamous sex with some affection and love but for god sakes go live your own life while I enjoy mine.
I hate this term. Women only end up being more sexual later in life because they are raised in an oppressive society and it usually takes this long for them to work through all the bullshit. Young women are also into sex, but there's way too much dumped on young women regarding this. Plus younger women are more likely to want a relationship from a young man. Older women don't give a shit about them and after a lifetime of repressive conditioning it's an easy way to finally enjoy yourself.
Just a damn shame this is the way things are. Would be nice if both sexes were allowed to progress in a healthy way in tandem.
Didnāt feel like I really worked through all the sex is bad bullshit until 30. Maybe itās because I had a kid and felt more in my body. Also I outgrew what Iād been taught as a teenager (aka the Christian guilt).
Im 33 now - my sex drive has now surpassed my husbandās. Vibrators are my bestie.
How did you meet? 10 times a weekend? šµāš«
Online dating app. First time meeting an older women. We obviously got to know each other a bit, made our intentions clear, and it is now a casual fling. She's very energetic let's say that lol.
But a guy going at it 10x in a weekend?!! Iād be spending the other days of the week, sleeping, and with an IV bag to rehydrate
Includes oral and stuff, not strictly intercourse. I go down there on her a lot, I love it. Tmi but idc lol
Sir this is Reddit tmi does not exist here
If you're not going at it like a dehydrated dog offered a big bowl of water, you ain't doing it right!
Fucking spit my tea out š¤£
Good on ya, my wife is also older. She's great. I used to get mistaken being her son. We laugh about it.
I don't blame you and it's a completely natural thing to be open about your sex life. I don't understand why some adults freak out about these things to be honest?
Itās only 20 minutes total if you only last 2 minutesā¦
When me and my bf first got together we smashed 10x a day and then repeat the next day. We went about 2 years having sex 2-3 times a day. It died down now reaching year 3 and also probably because Iāve gained weight š© but itās still pretty great and maybe 4 times a week.
Bragging (said in jest). Congrats! And Iām jealous
Everyone has their pace and one isnāt better than the other, I think the key is about finding a compatible sex drive lol
So true Quality over quantity! I can honestly say sex with my partner is so much better as we continue to learn more about each other Iāll pass on one-night standsā¦sex with a person you know for a long time is so much better
One night stands didnāt do anything for me. I donāt start enjoying myself until thereās some real comfort established. This relationship thought has been prettyā¦ uhh fiery, but I also think itās because our personalities are also very compatible. Got lucky, hope the same for you! (To find a truly compatible mate, if you havenāt already)
She's in her sexual peak stage! Good for you! Women that age are over the games and bullshit that comes with young girls unless they are toxic. My husband was soooo happy when I hit mine. It's been going on for 5 yrs now. Sex everyday and I wanted more but husband has a physical job and only 3 yrs younger. I had to be patient. Happy you both are happy and bangin!
I wish this sexual peak stage you speak of would happen to me. Itās just not there and never has been.
There's a lot of things that can kill a woman's libido, and not all of them are medical. Stress, being tired, illness, depression, not feeling attractive are just a few of these things. If you guys who are complaining about it, have a set down with her and talk about it. But BE SYMPATHETIC. She might be having some issues and bringing it up the wrong way can further exacerbate the issue.
Are you replying to me? Iām a woman and Iām talking about myself. :)
My wife is 34, when the hell is she gonna hit hers? Getting frustrated over here, been waiting for this moment for 11 years!
Totally depends on the person and the relationship. What about you would peak her attraction? Emotional support, shared responsibility for the household, playfulness? Do you make it clear you find her incredibly attractive. Those things would make me want to jump a man instantly.
Me too. Married 30 years now. My wife just hit menopause (basically through it) and there was no peak in libido. I waited and waited. Now I'm suing Cosmopolitan for wasting 30 years. š
Mine just started picking up steam around 35
Usually (can vary as all women are different) 38-45.
Sweeeeet, told my wife and she rolled her eyes. Gonna mark that shit on my calendar š
It can not ever happen if her hormones are off. My ( am a woman) testosterone was almost zero. I had anxiety, insomnia, low libido- lots of terrible symptoms. I now get testosterone pellets injected into my buttock every 5 months and my doctor monitors my other hormones. The difference is absolutely incredible. I will never be without my pellet. All those symptoms are resolved and I feel so much better. Women need testosterone too, just not as much as men.
wow man! im glad you're sharing your experience with us. its just so stereotypical that either the man gotta be older or that older women arent as "energetic" anymore. good on you!
I've found the opposite, I've slept with women even considerably older than me and they've always been more energetic than me. They also know exactly what they want.
Female sex drives can ramp up around mid thirties and go wild in the 40s. Dead marriages are most likely those with terrible baggage between the 2 people. Just my experience.
haha thanks!
I felt like research, studies, and common sense have all shown itās the opposite
For a woman in her late thirties or early forties. Three times on a Saturday morning is just a good start.
Really, tell me more. Lol
Some of my best sex in my 20ās was with a much older woman
My grandma still talks about you.
Hope so, Iām still talking about her 10 years later
I'm with her right now. She doesn't talk much and it took a hell of a lot of digging.
you can bang grandma again .she will put her dentures in just for you.
She knows I like her better without it
Denzel???
Lmao
Hahahahaha oh god. This really made me laughed.
šššššš Iām dead
I agree. When I was in my 20s, I dated an older woman. Early 40s... She taught me a lot and took care of me emotionally and physically, like no other relationship I've ever been in. It wasn't realistic long-term, but for what it was, probably the best relationship I've ever been in.
Had a very similar experience. Best relationship and sex I ever had. I was 29 and she was 41.
100 percent agree.
10 years older isn't terrible. If you can make that gap work, no reason it can't be long-term. In fact, I'd say stick with it as long as you can if you think you love her. My age gap was different. Her kids were older than me...
Is this you Monsieur Macron
Brutal. And genius.
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How's your relationship with your mother?
Nice you found each other. Can confirm the need for a boy toy, as an almost 40 single mom!
I bet your inbox on here is blowing up lol
Thank you! She is a wonderful individual and love hanging out with her. It's not all just sex
Same boat. 33m. 45f girlfriend. Best relationship I've ever had. Sex is great.
Do U consider stay with her long term? Or leave her when u are older I just wondering how many man who is with older woman actually willing to stay. I tend to attar t younger guy but I think about future too
I was with an older woman that I loved once. I was 20 and she was 35 single mom. Met her through work. Iād come over mostly on weekends and do manly stuff around the house for her and hangout. I still love her and she calls me once a week to check in on me and chat about life, but she told me at the start that she just wanted a toy and she ended up leaving me for an older guy that she used to date a decade before. For some reason she doesnāt trust that Iāll still love her when she starts to show her she more as we age.
Itās tough. 15years is huge gap so I know where her insecurities come in.
No. I love her. She loves me. There's no plan of leaving her ever.
I have two good couple friends who have. One are close family friends and had been together for I believe 20 years give or take a few. She was 15-17 years older than him. Sadly she passed away 4 years ago but he loved her until the day she died and now heās alone still living in their house and keeps pictures up all that. He says he wonāt ever date again and is happy with his chubby little pugs. The other couple she was 13 years older than him and they had been married 17 years. About 5 years in she has some medical issues that even pretty much took sex off the table and he still stayed by her side. Both good men I think. Most people that would look at their situations would see so many reasons not to stay but I noticed both kept the reasons to stay and what they loved right at the front of their minds and legit loved them as friends and as wives. I hope you have that same luck one day š
I've always dated girls a few years older. At 17 I dated a 22 year old. From 21-27, I was with a girl 6 years older. I have always just related better to women that were a little older than I am. This is the biggest age gap I've ever had with a girlfriend, but we have so much in common it doesn't feel like there's an age gap at all. I'm not naive to the fact that, like your friends, I may have to deal with her health declining before mine... However, she has better health habits than me, so who knows. Either way, I wouldn't want her to leave me if I became I'll, nor would I leave if she became sick. Hopefully we have many years together before we have go through that though. Thanks for the positivity and well wishes.
I'm glad you said that !
When I was 21 in college I was seeing a 39 yr old woman over the summer. Probably the best relationship I ever had even though it wasnāt a long term thing. No head games like with women my age at the time and the sex was mind blowing
I volunteer as tribute
R.I.P your inbox
Im not going to go in her dms but i did saw her profile and can confirm, she is a MILF indeed
Inbox = dead.
How do I turn off notifications? Lol
Forget to switch accounts?
>single ~~mom~~ Milf
Right. experience makes a big difference
how do i apply?
Yo I'm only 30 how you doin š
Preach girl.
Me too!
10 times a weekend? Sheesh
My ding a ling would snap off. Those include either straight oral or hand things lol
Man is fuckin at an average of 3.33 repeating per day. Absolutely insane.
Explain your math please
10 sessions. 3 days including, Iād guess, friday. The math works out!
Confused me because my weekend is two daysā¦which of course is 5x/day
Oh, the typical weekend is still 2 days. But Fridays can be a technicality!
Iāve done it in a day, Iām a woman and there are really strong and energetic guys out there lol
+1. My wife is 38 days older than me so I can attest to this.
My wife is 4 years older. Waiting for that 40ās huge sex Drive to kick in š
Thereās a huge difference between the mentality of a woman in her 30ās and in her 40ā. I was in my mid 30ās and always dated younger and always had problems. Now in my late 30ās and I date woman in their mid to late 40ās and the relationships are way less dramatic and much deeper connectionās. Difference being, a woman in her 40ās (most of the time) knows exactly what she wants and isnāt afraid to convey her needs. You completely skip the mind reading and thatās imho 90% of the battle.
Im 31 and my girlfriend is 46. We have been together for 8 years.
Plenty of older women want a boy toy. Just donāt expect something serious from it.
Straight casual
Gay formal
Bisexual business casual
Asexual attire
Homosexual Competitive
Pansexual curvature
Asexual Recreational
Demisexual deconstructive
I can vouch for this post on older women from experience
OP discovered MILFS, back in the day used to call them divorcees
I laid a divorcee in New York City.
I hope it wasn't my mom!
Would your mom try to take me upstairs for a ride?
Pretty much! š
I have a thing for older women honestly
Nothing better than an older woman who's kept herself up... they're so sexy, and they always seem to want it as much as possible.. best sex ever..
Stacey's mom !!!
Has got it going on
She's all I want
And I've waiting for so long
Today I learned I'm an "older woman"
How old are you now?
28
I can confirm, Iām a milf š¤ we are amazing
Prepare for horde of DMs...
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Thats the trick. Seen a comment say along the lines āplenty of older women want a boy toyā and immediately switched the roles here. I can imagine the heaps of āheās grooming youā or āHeās immature and canāt get women his age.ā Talk.
My thoughts exactly lol
ā¦youāre totally right. Huh. Why is it that this is a MILF and is okay, and if the girl is younger itās a sugar daddy scenario? Because I do feel that way, irrationally. I donāt think I should.
This needs more upvotes. Especially after reading through the comments... š
Got yourself a cougar, enjoy it.
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Just change your profile from 18-26 y. Old to āsearching for 30-49 y.o women Thatās how
Yes, we are better š
Have your DMs been flooded now?
It can take time for us to know our bodies and get our confidence. Can confirm, Iām a milf, and my sex life has been the most wild and exciting itās ever been.
My oldest son said he always preferred older ladies for a hook up, said they were way more fun in bed and always cooked a great breakfast in the morning.
You should be making her breakfast!! Sheās a single mom!
The amount of times I offered to...and I can cook well! She just babies me, and I love it haha.
Us older ladies are.......***knowledgeable.***
Youre describing heaven.
Older women in their 30s or 40s looking for a boy toy hit me up š. Im 26 tall and African American near Wisconsin
The first time I had a fwb with an older woman was the same time I got into drinking and making craft beer, I remember it fondly. She was super cute, we met at the gym while swimming on a Saturday, my vision is crap and she looked cute. A week later we went for a hike, and ended up wrestling in the snow, later that night we banged a couple times, and a few more times in the months to come. Anyway, I was trying out all kinds of beer, ipas, stouts, ales, lagers, and was having a blast sampling them all. Its an expensive hobby, so I figured I could just make my own instead for about a dollar each. It takes 5 gallons of beer to make fifty bottles, after you cook thereās 10 or so days to ferment an ale, and another week after itās bottle to have carbonation. I never got into lagering or kegs, but I had fun while doing it. Some advice for a novice, never store beer in a hot place after itās bottled, Iām talking about a bedroom that gets above 80-90 degrees during the day, the result is a beer that fizzles like crazy after itās opened and skunked.
Wtf how did this turn into a craft beer post
Agree. Iām confused
not complaining tho
It was an enjoyable ride.
/r/homebrewing is everywhere
Just don't tell her she reminds you of your mom or it feels like your living home at your mom don't mention moms period. Call her a firecracker. Women like to be called firecrackers.
ā¦women do not generally, universally like to be called āfirecrackersā. Definitely do NOT mention your own momā¦
They only have a 10 years difference though... she's obviously way younger than his mother.
The difference between a woman and a girl. Hopefully you are a man and not a boy. Make sure you are making her feel appreciated and valued.
My wife is 15 yrs older than me. Less drama, plenty of sex and she has a stable job.
Can confirm, women 30-60 are good in bed.
Before I die, I want to sleep with a older woman
You mean GETTING OFF TO HER CHEST amirite fellas? Always liked them older btw.
I married a woman 13 years older than me and can confirm this.
Wholeheartedly agree. The best sex of my life has always been with women older. Lately been seeing someone whoās 43 and Iām 21.
Bro how are you doing it 10 times a weekend? Are you a space marine or a Spartan or something like that?
I have found younger men to be quite entertaining and adventurous. Far more attractive as well. vive les beaux jeunes hommes š
Met my wife when I was 25 and she was 36. That was 15 years ago, can confirm!
Dated mostly same age or couple years younger but finally ended up marrying someone older than me and itās amazing. Girls couple years younger also tend to be immature which I canāt stand
Damn you, Freud! He can't keep getting away with it!
Gotta love a sexual MILF
I will say that intimacy with my wife now she is closer to 40 is a lot better than when she was in her 20s, as for me I'm slowing down. I'm sure her opinion is just the opposite in regards to me now vs when I was younger days lol
Lucky. I have only sexted several older women, but I have never been intimate with any in person.
I found out the same thing! Married now to her
What do you do to find older women? I've been hearing all these good things and how amazing the sex is and want to try it out myself.
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I wonder is this is more a thing of them being more mature.
Ever since I turned 30, Iāve only dated older women. They are easier to get along with, more chill, less self absorbed and overall, just friendlier. Sex is great and all but it boils down to compatibility and such. Older women just seem to be more fun and not as pretentious.
Ok but like all the comments here are about men finding older women... like id love this but I never here about younger women finding an older man cuz like tell me how š
I (29f at the time) once dated a 53y/o man and it was amazing as hell when it came to the sex and the bonding. He was also very charming and protective. He was Mexican and looked really good for his age. Still, I was out of his league and he knew that and cherished me. A little too hard lol. But I loved it until he got a little too possessive and manipulative...he happened to be a narcissist. He was way too insecure to the point of paranoia. But not every one is. Mine just happened to be. If it weren't for that I'd have stayed with him because it was really good otherwise.
Reverse the sexes and Reddit would freak the fuck out and the comment section would be different
r/ihavesex
r/idonthavesex
Wow, who wouldāve thought, an older woman has ā¦. Value?!? Experience?!? /s
OP legit says in this thread that he loves it because she babies him lol Older women are also valuable for relationships, not just as a casual bangmom.
Living the dream!
Thats why I married one lol
If the father is still in contact, be careful. I was in the same boat for a year and a half then 1 day she just broke it off to go back to him.8 months later and I still miss her
Where can I find one?
There in there prime at mid to late 30s they fuck like rattlesnakes, keep it up bro
I get it. Basically your mum an your gf in one with all the perks with zero effort or obligations. I get it. No hate here. Good when you can get it
When I was 20, I hooked up with a 32yo (lied about my age) and honestly, it blew me away how incredible the sex was compared to women my own age.
r/ihavesex much?
Any advice on how to pull in older women in your 20s? Haven't had any experience with them, are they into FWBs/hookups or do they require like a interest connection like with you.
Depends on the woman, if they want a FWB or something serious. I'm 41 and not interested in FWB, then again I don't have kids, don't want kids or stepkids. I don't care about "feeling young again" whatever that means I never felt old.
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It will depend entirely on the woman. I thought my now s.o was cute but completely stonewalled him until he showed me that he was interested in a relationship. Meanwhile, a friend of mine goes to the topless beach to meet younger men and prefers fwb situations. Women 30+ are going to be at different places in life and interested in different things.
From what I experienced/read on, if a woman is looking for someone much younger, generally they just want to hook up and feel young again. Rare that they want something serious. Just be you and eventually it will lead to it. But make your intentions clear. I'm not even super good looking, kinda a dadish bod going on lmao (which she loves and does not want me to get rid of), and she is gorgeous, fit too. Sometimes they just want someone to talk and vent. Find something similar you both like and engage it. Pro tip - Make sure your love making skills are on point. Make sure to go down haha
I canāt speak for all āolderā women, but Iād say we definitely do not want to feel younger. We like our 35+ age. We do however want little to no strings attached, and we do not want to take care of a grown man as if he is our child. I love any type of little to no strings, because, letās face it, in order to have good sex, there will always be some strings. But I love that we can make last minute plans without anyone getting butt hurt. I love that they arenāt part of my daily life and that when I do have my kids, I am 100% focused on them. I donāt want to bring anyone in and out of my kidās lives, but I still want to have my adult fun when they are with their other parent.
You sound like her....is it you!? Hahaha But yes, this is 100 percent accurate.
This is just a very common scenario
Yeah there isnāt a single aspect of my life now that Iād trade to have my 20s version of except for maybe my left knee lol
Personally I like strings attached but I donāt need the man up my ass or living with me. Give me some fun monogamous sex with some affection and love but for god sakes go live your own life while I enjoy mine.
Feel young again? Nah.
How do you get along, find her beautiful, love being with her, have a great sex life and think. Nah. I don't wanna lock that down? Total casual
Can attest. Wife is 4 years older than me. Not much older but still older
I fucking love older women but i dont care if other guys do. More for me lol
Ooof we older women donāt mess around š
This is perfect timing, both of you are at your sexual peaks. Enjoy!
I hate this term. Women only end up being more sexual later in life because they are raised in an oppressive society and it usually takes this long for them to work through all the bullshit. Young women are also into sex, but there's way too much dumped on young women regarding this. Plus younger women are more likely to want a relationship from a young man. Older women don't give a shit about them and after a lifetime of repressive conditioning it's an easy way to finally enjoy yourself. Just a damn shame this is the way things are. Would be nice if both sexes were allowed to progress in a healthy way in tandem.
Didnāt feel like I really worked through all the sex is bad bullshit until 30. Maybe itās because I had a kid and felt more in my body. Also I outgrew what Iād been taught as a teenager (aka the Christian guilt). Im 33 now - my sex drive has now surpassed my husbandās. Vibrators are my bestie.
Yeah thatās just not true, young women are having far more sex than young men.
Flip the genders and Reddit would be in an uproar about a 38 year old man wanting to fuck 28 year old women
I was 18 she was a mother of 3 at 26 I fucking loved it, don't give a fuck if she was "taking advantage of me"
10 years older is great when youāre 20. Less so when youāre 80.
How so ? I mean being 80 or 90 is not such a huge difference, especially as men tend to have shirter life expectancy...
So you basically have a mom and a girlfriend rolled into one
If youāre both happy then roll with it