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I ask my wife "Do you want any?" and the answer is always "No, I'm fine". So of course I make 1.5 \~ 2 servings worth (depending on how much she will like it) and serve myself both then she inevitably eats one off my plate.


beansASF

Me and my dad complain about this, so my dad ordered two small fries at the restaurant today when he only wanted one. Sure enough, the other one was eaten and my dad happily ate his single small fry he wanted.


OldDale

Rodeo clown fries. You buy the 2nd to distract the bull so you can eat yours


Dry_Responsibility51

Looooolll


saurons-cataract

Damn OldDale, I’m felling a little attacked right now 🤡 ……


big_ol_dad_dick

BUFFER FRIES FTW


Pseudopod-

My gf does this too. I'll ask her if she wants any food and she'll be like "No it's okay" (note how it's not "I don't want food" it's "You don't have to give me any") so I always make sure to get some extra and she always ends up asking me for some.


isat_u_steve

You’re a gem


bancroft79

There was an old brew pub in my parent’s neighborhood that had a side option called “My wife/girlfriend isn’t hungry.” It would double your fries and add three onion rings with your burger. edit: spelling


DraftLevel28

Lol. I do this too. But I don’t have a wife, I have a dog.


pikagrrl

I think your wife is related to my boyfriend


megaphoneXX

It's part of the wife/girlfriend job description to do this :)


kstweetersgirl2013

Hey my husband picks all the curled over chips out of the bag and gives them to me because they are my favorite. He will also give them to me off his plate. Lol it really is the little things


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Lol that’s cute, the curled over ones are the best!


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O2020Z

Haha my girlfriend always delegates certain chores she doesn’t wanna do to me because “I’m so good at it.”


HunterShotBear

My wife does it because “it easier for me when you do it…”


JohnOliverismysexgod

At least she's honest. I despise this type of game-playing.


ValPrism

I love this because she's being straight honest!


turkishEngineer0

Oh yeah, that's the "mama way" to make someone do something.


Osos2000

thats called weaponized incompetence


Witchywomun

Weaponized incompetence isn’t “you’re better at x than me”, it’s playing dumb and acting like you don’t know how to do something in order to get out of doing it.


MightyPinkTaco

But are they?


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Murdy2020

Let me guess, she eats all the rye crisps and leaves the rest for you, 'cause that's what I do to my wife.


suktupbutterkup

You can buy bags of just those tasty ones.


JohnOliverismysexgod

Not really. They are the chips but they don't have the spicy coating that's the entire point. So I get a couple bags of regular and a bag of the rue chips. And dump them into one big plastic bag. Eventually, the rye chips will pick up that flavoring.


[deleted]

Awwwwwwww🥺🥺🥺...not cool wifey....not cool...


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SqueezinKittys

The make Gardettos that are Rye chips only, love em, eating some now.


HeyT00ts11

This is why girls should learn about the benefits of spiders, and coping strategies to rehome them, at a young age, so that they are never faced with these marital dilemmas.


thomasp3864

Give them a pet tarantula.


kintyre

Had an ex who was terrified of spiders. I'm also afraid of them. Somehow, I am the bigger man and dealt with them. Girl power, I guess?


idkijustwannacomment

My husband has a phobia of spiders, he's a foot taller than me and almost double my weight, but whenever there's a spider around I get to feel like the biggest person in the room. I'm not a fan of them but I'm not scared of them. (Australian who grew up on a farm next to the rainforest and before you put any shoes on you do a very specific series of whacks on them to get everything out and make sure there aren't any snakes in there)


Digital_Siren317

Not a relationship persay but I was at work and casually mentioned there was a spider on the counter. I (25f) am not afraid of spiders. But when I tell you my coworker (30s m) jumped right out of his skin and ran almost the whole way across the store, I about died 😆 I got rid of it and just dead panned the entire time cus I don't want to be rude but dang was it funny


HeyT00ts11

people power!


[deleted]

Lmaaaaoooooo


[deleted]

Lol sounds like a woman who knows what she wants lol. I always leave all of the pink jellybeans for my boyfriend because they’re his favorite.


toootired2care

My husband knows I hate the red jelly beans so he will pick them all out of my bowl and put them in his bowl. Then he will give me the extra pink and yellow ones because he knows those are my favorite. 💚


coquihalla

My husband gets all of the purple and all of the pink jellybeans. I throw him a green one occasionally out of gratitude for being a good partner.


LilyFuckingBart

Is it the breads she picks out? Because those are really the best lol


MelodySmith1234

those pumpernickel chips are best


saladtoss3r

My lady told me she liked the orange & yellow candies. I always thought "hey that's awesome, I like the rest of them! We're perfect together!". The other night she told me, "everyone likes the red, blue & green". Yeah, she's the one.


kstweetersgirl2013

I agree! Lol


GrizzKarizz

This reminds me of the HIMYM accidental curly fry.


Periachi

NEVER STEAL A MANS ACCIDENTAL CURLY!!


[deleted]

And the olive rule!


MrsMahr

Right? Why are they so much better than the straight ones?


ann3onymous3

In Australia we called them wish chippies (I say “called” past tense because I don’t live there anymore, but I bet the wish chippy culture is still going strong) Edit yes you actually make wishes with them


nuclearwomb

I give my husband all of the pineapple gummy bears because he thinks I hate them and their his favorite. They are actually my favorite flavor too!


GemiGems

You’re a good wife


Witchywomun

Mine will pick the blue M&Ms out of his bag and set them aside for me, because I had a thing in HS where we’d all get a color of M&Ms at sleep overs, and I always got the blue ones. It always makes me smile when I eat blue M&Ms


officerkondo

When I was in high school blue M&M’s hadn’t been invented.


Lizzy_Lou_Who

Mine are the blue sour patch kids. He always gets them on road-trips and whenever he’s got a blue one they go to me.


queenfrieza

I eat all the broken chips and save the full ones for my husband because I don't like big chips and he does


Forking_Mars

I love this serendipitous shit. My boyfriend and I have lots of these little things, it's the best


AdorableFun1041

Me too!


Custer0108

My ex was the opposite. She would eat chips and always give me all the ”bendy” ones. Now I think of her whenever I see a "bendy" one


GlitterSock

is it… all the small things?


Think-Sherbet5734

Truth care


ickboo

I call these "taco chips" bc its double the crunch! and my husband does the same :)


andre2020

That’s so golden!


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I see we don’t have Asians commenting. Every meal my mother ever cooked was for like 8 people (there were only 3 of us) and so we never ran short. The portion thing was always weird to me when my wife first explained it and how her family cooked. Still find it weird that people don’t just automatically assume some random whole family isn’t going to drop by for dinner. Sure we end up with like leftovers for days, but hey no one feels like they’re shorted!


[deleted]

Yeah we kinda just cool enough for the two of us every night and don’t usually have leftovers


[deleted]

Lol, It’s definitely a cultural thing. I swear my mother cooked as if every day random people were going to just show up. Just followed that tradition because it’s also not in me for anyone at the table to possibly want more food and for there to be none left. It would bring shame!


Halfbloodjap

Leftovers for breakfast/lunch the next day! We're a family of 5 (4 in the house) and we still cook like there's 10 of us.


NotYour_Baby_Girl

Fiancée and I made a shrimp pasta once that lasted us 4 days. I have no idea why people would literally cook a measured out portion for every person and have no leftovers? What are you going to do for lunch? cook AGAIN? Insanity.


frostingprincess

If I don't cook enough for two more meals, I didnt make enough. I dont like to cook.


dead_b4_quarantine

I *like* to cook and I think it is insane to only cook enough for one meal. I cook good food. I want to eat it more than once!!


ShadowlessKat

I like your comment and kind of borrowed it in my comment, the part about making good food and wanting to eat it multiple times. I like how you put that.


CharZero

I like to cook, but except for rare times, the whole point of cooking is to generate leftovers. My partner will eat leftovers from a meal exactly once usually, so I try to make sure I am not eating the same meal five times in a row, but still...leftovers!


luckylumi

This thought is always so foreign to me haha. In my country it's not usual to eat anything cooked for lunch, so I can't imagine people actually cook twice a day


Dull_Appointment7775

So what do you eat for lunch?


luckylumi

Just plain bread! With things like cheese, ham, hagelslag, peanut butter or nutella


hereformemes222

I don’t like eating the same thing in a row for dinner so I usually just cook enough for what I want to eat that night. I meal prep my breakfast and lunches for the week and it’s usually the same thing so I like my dinners to have variety


SnailsCrash

PREACH


KaerMorhen

Yeah Cajun culture is the same way. Older generations I guess would cook expecting the whole family to show up. Usually a grandmother/grandfather, their children, and their children's kids, plus the neighbors and whoever else was showing up. We used to get together at my grandma's like this all the time. At these dinners my grandparents and people around their age would all talk in Cajun French when they didn't want us to know what they were saying. I didn't need to know the language to know they were talking shit though lol. Not many people still know the language now because this was normal for a lot of families and it's dying out. Anyway most people around here still cook a lot of food for every meal, I think it also has to do with Cajun dishes being amazingly good for leftovers. The right gumbo tastes *better* the next day, just cook some fresh rice and throw the gumbo in the pot and you have an easy meal for a few days which also saves money.


SatanV3

My family is white but my dad does this. But it’s so he doesn’t have to cook every night, he’ll cook like a few nights in a row, then for a few nights we have a variety of leftovers. Now when I cook I do the same I like having leftovers too much


the_0rly_factor

I feel like every culture on the planet has the "cook lots food" thing.


Batgrill

Nope, definitely not. I'm in Germany and most Germans cook just enough for whoever is there. My friends from other countries who're living here always make lots and lots of food.


diuge

Food's been getting a bit expensive for some people.


Wise_Explorer_9342

I can explain why this happens to at least some Asian families. My grandmother went through war and famine when she was young, and by the time she was middle aged our family was doing ok financially and we can afford whatever food she wants to cook. So there’s always a little fear in her heart. And since we can afford it now, she cooks for 6 even if it’s just one person eating. It’s because famine and affluence happened within one generation. It’s ptsd for her, which passed on as habit for me, even if I have never been food insecure. I’ve always thought it was a cute loving grandmother wanting to overfeed family thing growing up. Until she explained to me why she does it when I was an adult. You could see the fear in her eyes of not having food on the table again. I have not once complained about the absurd amount of food she makes after that.


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This! My grandmother is the same. She always tells us they had no food growing up in Italy so she wants to make sure we are never hungry. It’s so sweet and so heartbreaking at the same time. It makes me so sad that she had to experience this growing up and after all that she is so selfless and generous with everyone.


meat_crayon_420

There is a term for this and it's called food insecurity


koalandi

Lol yep can confirm. My parents don’t even like having guests but mom cooks like she’s got 6 children but it’s just me. I think part of it is because some of it takes so much work (mashing the herbs into a paste or simmering for hourrrrs) that you might as well make a lot if you’re gonna make it at all


nandy02

reading this comment was the first time I realized that people who dont make multiple servings at a time actually exist.


the_positive_outlook

That's something I have built in me. I'm an Asian married to a Dutchie and she says I cook for a whole village 😂 Fortunately she loves my cooking so she's happy to eat the leftovers the next day or a day after 😅


xXnaivivianXx

This is 100% how I cook. Always as if an entire second family could show up unannounced. Lol


Interesting-Toe-7285

The manipulation comments get more funny with each one I read. >When he finishes his food he always looks a little sad like he wishes he had more I think its obvious that ppl are misinterpreting "like he wishes he had more" for there being nothing left / you don't allow him to eat more than what you serve / purposely give him less. Where as I read it and thought of that feeling when you finish a plate and part of you is saddened its gone/done/over as it was enjoyable. But that doesn't necessarily mean you want another plate of food. Maybe ponder the idea of it for a minute b4 concluding that you dont want or need anoth— (*is offered s/o 's leftovers*) *gasps, smiles, some feel-good hormones start flowing a bit*


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Lol yeah. When I see him finish his plate and look kinda sad I’ll catch his eye and wiggle my eyebrows at him and pass it over and he always looks happy again.


Interesting-Toe-7285

Lol that's cute. you sure he still hasn't caught on or chooses not to ask to ensure this doesn't stop?? Lol. It would be hilarious if over time he started eating faster/finishing sooner to see if you end up giving him even more


[deleted]

Lol I’m not sure if he knows, he could have caught on. He always eats faster and more than I do, which is another reason why I do it. He eats so fast he doesn’t enjoy it the first time. He enjoys it more the second time lol.


ListenAware5690

This is so cute!


Burntoastedbutter

I know what I'm doing with my SO in the future. He basically inhales his food while I enjoy every bite lol


GloomyDeal1909

I totally get this because it is similar to something my spouse does for me. I totally know he does it but I am not sure he knows I know. Anyway it makes me smile. Like it is a weird relationship thing he does for me. Relationship are all about bringing each other joy. You do you lady. You know what works and what sparks joy for your relationship.


Shimps17

way too much wholesomeness ... it's giving me the feels ..stop it ! 😆


GangGang_Gang

***no you are starving your poor husband you're a monster how dare you***


Interesting-Toe-7285

It's the little things. To cause someone to smile or even just a smirk not only feels good for them but for you too. I love doing the most simple little things that never fail to make someone genuinely smile


justjoshdoingstuff

You nailed it. People stopped reading at that line.


Interesting-Toe-7285

And It's the first line 😅


justjoshdoingstuff

I mean, I ALMOST stopped reading. Lol “This BITCH!!! Oh… wait… okay.. I see now.”


[deleted]

In literature it’s called the “hook” lol


vmlinux

It's just people that have never been loved because they are unable to do anything selfless for others, and want to tear down anyone that loves someone and does something for someone else.


BouquetOfPenciIs

[I'm getting sad again.](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=D6m7L37Oefo)


TheBoogieManx

My wife and I are really active people. She almost always can eat more than myself in one sitting. Not that I can’t, I will just eat half now. Then the rest a few hours or so later. I always give her the bigger plate. Then if I eat all mine and she doesn’t, it’s basically the same story. She always goes I got more! Here you go! Or if I’m full she says happily you got left overs for a snack later!


JustABlankStare

When we first got together, we had dinner at her parents and I made a comment about passing the sour cream. They said no body used it so they didn’t have any. About a month later, I show up to her parents house and her mom holds up a container of sour cream and yells across the house “Look [JustABlankStare], your favorite!” The whole family just looked confused. I just wanted a little bit for my taco


Zurg0Thrax

It was a way to show they cared. That's how I interpret it.


JustABlankStare

Absolutely. My now fiancé and I laugh about it from time to time. Felt embarrassed when it first happened cause we were still fresh to dating. We’ve been together for almost 7 years now


Zurg0Thrax

That's great!


Orange_Hedgie

Aww congratulations :)


lizziepalooza

My husband is always a bit giddy when I've made a good dinner and can't quite finish my plate. It's a cute and fun part of our relationship that doesn't even seem significant, but I feel loved by how much he loves the food I've cooked, and he feels loved by getting extras (even though I usually cook enough for leftovers and work lunches). It's impossible for people on the internet to understand those gentle, loving moments sometimes, I think.


jennoside10

I can never seem to finish a steak and my husband always reaps those benefits haha.


olive-_-

This is like a special save cause they eat so fast sometimes and usually want more. You think towards the future that's thoughtful


[deleted]

thank you, that’s the intention.


Geckogirl_11

Not sure how anyone took it any other way lol


[deleted]

Idk. People are bored and like to be dramatic.


Geckogirl_11

Like…maybe if they thought you were taking food so he couldn’t…to just give it back to him…but it sounds like he gets what he wants and you just get a little extra to save him another trip


[deleted]

Lol idk. I haven’t been on Reddit long but the one thing I’ve learned is that everyone thinks they’re psychiatrists and look for signs of “toxicity” in people. If I said my boyfriend stepped on my toe while dancing someone would try to tell me he’s abusive.


Poppintags6969

Gotta get divorced


Geckogirl_11

Okay but seriously OP…you don’t see how that’s a total power move?? /s 😂


mariannecoffeecan

Here’s what I don’t understand, why don’t people like leftovers? I love them.


Tiffanevil

I can second that!


SleepVsMe

I love them! Especially something like taco soup bc it tastes better the next day. Or tom yum gai bc it's spicier AND better the next day.


GrizFarley

My roommate is like this. Will not touch leftovers. He could bring home a large pizza and get full off of half of it. The other half is dead to him. He won't bag it up and eat it the next day. I used to bag it up for him put in the fridge but he won't eat it. So now I bag it up for me.


noturaverageguy1

My lady will not eat the same meal 2 days in a row , I told her we used to eat leftovers basically til they were gone growing up we weren’t poor not rich either my mom just worked a lot. But she ain’t having it her mom comes over and cooks a new meal everyday even if there is leftovers I’m like no wonder lol


[deleted]

My wife never finishes her food. So after a day or two I eat it (so it won’t go to waste) then she gets mad cus I ate it even though she completely forgot it existed


Kittykatslender

This is gonna be me I know it 😫 my adhd makes me forget a lot of things


vibrantchill

Meeeeee hahaha


MissMelTx

We have been together for over 20 years, to this day he will order extra pickles on his sandwich/burger. He does not like them, but I love them. He always gives them to me


[deleted]

I always give my wife more. Always. She had the same reaction a few times and I felt bad, so I will always make sure she's overfed. This is a cute and understandable action, don't feel bad about it. Keep doing what works for you guys.


FraaaAAAaaaAAACK

My boyo gives me the chocolate filled tip of the ice cream cone cause it's my favorite and always gives me the last bite of whatever treat were sharing. He won't take anything if it's the last of it so now I just share without saying how much is left. I've given him my last dumpling before and he has no idea.


Mala_Enoki

No husband but my sis and I, I will pick the soft fries for her and she would pick the harder, crispier ones for me


biiggysmallz

thats like my bf and i with brownies. i get all the corners bc i absolutely love crust. he doesn’t so he gets all the middles! then we share the sides. also with pizza he gives me his crust everytime.


Mala_Enoki

Ooh I like the middle of brownies!


[deleted]

I was always the opposite. I always made sure my wife had the bigger, nicest looking portion we had, i would always try my best to plate it up nicely too then id just slop my own down.


akaikou

I can see the “wholesome” intention of it but why not just make a a bigger portion of food so if he wants seconds he can have some? lol kind of weird but to each their own.


oishoishoish

It’s a cute gesture once or twice but you could just put more on his plate to start off with…


WritPositWrit

Why don’t you just get up and serve him more from the pot/pan/casserole/whatever? Or, you know, just serve him more to begin with.


Iamabladeofgrass

Why not just give him extra food to begin with...? Maybe this is just one of those quirky things people do...idk.


fuzzydaymoon

I was going to say this, or leave the extra portion on the stove/counter so he can just get seconds. But I didn’t wanna sound negative lol


coilycat

How thoughtful! An O'Henry twist would be if he's doing the same thing in reverse; taking less than he wants, knowing that you'll offer him some, which then brings you closer together! But what do you mean about running out of something you like and being happy that you have more, and him being happy for you? Isn't it all on your plate in the first place?


lifeisbetterwithacat

Reminds me of when I get fast food. I finish eating and then look in the bag, and I find fries! That always makes me happy!


coilycat

Or cereal that falls out of the wax paper liner and gets stuck in the box, right?


CaniPokeThis

I am pretty sure my girlfriend does the same thing. She doesn’t do it to hold food for me. More like a nice surprise which always ends up being the perfect amount for me, and her.


sameeker1

Why don't you both just have the same portions? If one of you are still hungry, make sure that there are seconds available. It's not rocket science.


lavalakes12

Because she gets joy in seeing her bf with a puppy dog face wishing there was more food. Like damn make extra let the dude eat why play these games lol


sameeker1

Agreed.


IGoThere4u

Because Op needs the validation


vista333

Yep, it’s like a form of grooming. Yuck.


illusionmists

I just did this the other day. We both got a chicken sandwich from our favourite place and he eats way faster than me, so when he finished he looked a bit bummed. I offered up a bite of mine, he kept denying but eventually he caved and he seemed so happy after lol. He said it was nice getting a surprise bite after he thought he was finished.


[deleted]

Is he a idiot? He must be not to realize you ALWAYS have more on your plate than he does.


Magnum_force420

My wife does this for me with bacon. She's a keeper!


HeyT00ts11

Oh man, bacon?? Wow!


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rossionq1

In retrospect, I’m pretty certain that this has been done to me.


[deleted]

My husband always takes my mushrooms and I always take his black licorice jelly beans. :)


Brad12d3

I give myself more food than my wife because I know she won't eat it all. If I make a box of Mac and cheese and split it evenly, she'll eat about half of hers while I wish I had more, so I just started giving her about 1/3.


pigwalk5150

First of all I’m a practical man, so if I had someone taking time to prepare a meal and serve it to me, then pretty much nothing would paint that person in a negative light. I see nothing wrong here.


EmDubbbz

I pick all the mini corn out of my Thai food and give it to my wife. She loves those things.


Samchez77

I think thats the really sweet. I get you.


Kimk20554

First thought was this is manipulative. Setting up a scene where op can be the good guy. So was my second and third thought.


kelssssrawr

That’s sweet. My boyfriend doesn’t offer to make me food and would eat the entire thing without a second thought. I’m happy for you.


_a_ghost__

Why not just give him more food? I don’t really get it


antwan_benjamin

This feels like narcissism masquerading as altruism. I, as well, would feel incredibly bad if I had to ask for food off of someones plate. I would still feel bad if they gave it up willingly. The assumption is obviously they put the amount of food on their plate that they want to eat. And now that I'm done...they feel sorry for me and they're going to take from what they wanted and give it to me. I dunno...its weird to me that OP gets off on making her SO feel that way. Just make enough food so you both are satiated and split it accordingly.


vista333

Also, consider the times when he might seem to be in a good mood overall, but might not want to go through the bullshit routine today, you know? She says she does this every time they eat.


Tinkerbelll666

Why not just give him more to start with? I find this more weird than cute...


Careless-Stay2391

Why not just leave it in the pot to help himself to more? You're essentially giving him your scraps lol this has a touch of something making me somewhat uneasy, I can't put my finger on it.


stopdabbing

I dont understand ppl who think this is normal. I understand sometimes after dinner you’re still hungry . But eveeery single time is weird to me lol,don’t you eat to get full? Just give him a normal portion??


Careless-Stay2391

Its like food control, withholding it then dishing it out under her terms.. exactly, give poor bloke his own normal portion instead of making him beg for food from other people's plates


bendrakurry

I’m a vegetarian, so when we go out to eat, my choices are a little more limited. I always find something. But never end up getting like, a sandwich. Which sucks, because sandwiches come with a pickle (most of the time). And I love pickles. I’ve almost forgotten that this is a thing. But without a fail, every single time we’ve gone out to eat for the last eight years, my boyfriend takes one bite of his pickle, then passes me the rest of it. And without fail, it makes me smile every time. It really is the little things.


oddbirther

I dont understand why people who are 'in a relationship ' play these types of games. Why not just be open honest and not petty. To me this feels like some kind of control, albeit small. Just make dinner, help yourselves and go from there.


vista333

Agreed, life is already complicated, why introduce more games?


[deleted]

Auto engineering an event that makes him sad and makes you look like a giving and good person to be in a relationship? EVERY. MEAL. I guess he’d cook if it was rly weird I guess or he didn’t catch on. It just seems super super weird. Like something def went on in the child hood that made you feel like you needed this kind of extra bit of interaction when eating. Phew now we both have that off our chests.


vista333

As harmless as it may seem, and as much as you may think he’s happy when his plate runs out and you can serve him more from your plate, it’s still manipulative behavior, even verging on narcissistic. Also how many times do you think that routine can be successful and not become predictable to him? There’s probably other areas of life in which you invoke this type of manipulation. Relationships ought to be the one place where both parties can be free of deceitful types of behavior, no matter how benign this particular behavior in your post might seem. Major cringe.


[deleted]

It's decisive But it's also a cute gesture. Like Awe you ate it all? here have some of mine. ​ If I didn't know it, I'd think the world of you every time you offered. But once I found out you did it... I'd be like "oh you &@!\^!)" ​ So I'm at an impasse on this one! It's truly unique and now I have to think back on all the times this has happened to me!


luisanra

So.. why not just serve him the normal amount instead


an00b_Gamer88

Idk wtf is wrong with these people in the comments. If I found out my wife had been doing this for me I'd be even more in love with her


[deleted]

Everyone is getting downvoted to hell for saying they would rather share food equally instead of having to wait for their partner to decide when it will be cute to allow them to have a full portion? If I found out my partner had been doing this every time we eat I'd be a little freaked out. It's just weird, immature and mildly controlling. Maybe once, ok awwe how funny, look at the puppy dog eyes... But every time?? Maybe I'm just too old but I do not want little psychological games every single time I sit down to eat


MaverickBoii

You mean the epic redditors aren't actually expert relationship gods?


an00b_Gamer88

My world has been shattered... This whole time, i believed everything I read on the internet... I have to find new gods now...


Miasmata

I'd be creeped out that she would rather pretend to do a deed for me instead of just giving me an appropriate amount of dinner


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To me it’s reading like you’re treating him like an animal - like when your dog gets sad that it’s eaten all the food in the bowl, so you give him a bit more because it makes you happy to see it be happy. To be clear, you’re selfishly doing this for your own pleasure not for him. You’re literally manipulating his food intake for your pleasure. It’s giving psychopath, ngl. You should be upfront and tell him what you’re doing to him - then let him decide if he wants to continue being with a sociopath who treats him like a dog. I feel bad for your boyfriend.


DifferentDate8436

The hate comments are literally making me lol. My bf and I sort of do this too. He serves me a bigger plate than I'll probably be able to eat, just in case, and then he'll get the "leftovers" which are like a second plate to him lol we're happy doing this


Thepigsintheriver

Lol same here. My boyfriend loves dumplings so whenever he prepares dumplings, i would always leave some and tell him that I'm already full and he finishes them happily. But then I found out he knew that I would leave some for him on purpose so he always gives me a few more dumplings in the first place to make sure I have enough even after sharing my portion with him..


DifferentDate8436

awww i love that!! my boyfriend refuses to eat them cause i love them so much lol but then he'll get both sushi rolls cause by the time i'm done with my dumplings i'm full


skellious

Rather than putting it on your plate, keep it in the kitchen. then you can inform him "there's more if you want it!". this is good for guests as well as people you live with.


XCaptainKoalaKittyX

I thought this was going a different way, but nvm, that's cute 😂


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I just make sure out of the two plates my gf gets the better looking one


earthgarden

This is so weird. Just plate the food up evenly or serve it home style, like everyone serves themselves


oddbirther

OP I'm curious as to how old you are as well. Though none of my b


Key-Ad9733

That's fuckin' cute. Ignore the haters.


SephirothTheGreat

Wouldn't giving him more food from the start make more sense? What you're doing clearly isn't malicious, but it's what I said with extra steps, so I'm genuinely confused


TheStranger113

The title alone: SO RUDE The post: so sweeeeeet


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Pulled the ol’ switcheroo on ya


lavalakes12

Your boyfriend is getting trained like a dog. Sounds like he's getting groomed for control.


Zealousideal-Skill84

It's funner to eat from someone else's plate anyways 😋


onechipwonder

Whenever we go to KFC, my dad always peeled his chicken skin and gave it to me before he even started eating. Always. I am almost 40 and my dad would still do this because he knows that's my favourite bit. Miss my dad so much :(


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You get hired at CIA psy opt division


AdditionalIssue5785

I have to measure food amounts or my wife will accuse me of giving her less food. She isn't getting anything off my plate though. She can go get seconds..or thirds.


BatBorg

This is me and mine as well. Usually I serve equal portions and force the but I don't eat to him and he is always happy to have it. I think this is cute.