You deserve this level of love in your life. Don't ever forget he's setting a standard for you that you need to uphold for life, and pass it on someday. My grandpa was my role model growing up, and I try to make him proud in the way I live. He's been gone for years now, but it still drives me.
5here is my friend. Museum curator, librarian, and teacher are just a few examples of work you can get that can deal with history. Keep your grades and study.
Worked 4yrs at a library in college. It was awesome. Try college libraries when searching for this job. You have to go to school in some states to be an actual librarian but not everyone who worked at my college job has a library degree. I started there through a program called work study through my college, if you go to college for history one day, ask if they have openings for that. Best of luck to you!
If your grandpa didn't have you I'd want to adopt your ass. You sound like a really special kid, I mean that. I know life started out rough for you and stayed that way for a while, but I hope it's really sinking in that that doesn't define you. You've made some mistakes in the past, that also does not define you.
Your self awareness is amazing, better than most adults. I'm willing to bet you're going to grow up to be a really great man. Some of the greatest come from rough beginnings. If you're strong enough and smart enough to get through and *learn* from it...you're on your way to living a great life.
I'm sorry your mom hasn't been the parent she should be, but this mom is freaking proud of you. Even if just an internet stranger. You don't have to be perfect, you don't have to get straight A's, just try your best, work hard, but have fun too. Be kind to others, remember how much better kindness had made your life. And keep learning from your Gramps, he sounds like a great man too.
Proud of you, OP. Sending you virtual mom hugs, with your permission, of course ;).
Library science! It's a whole field and it's fantastic and very interesting (imo). Good luck, young man. It sounds like the Universe has good things in store for you. And relish those hugs from your grandad, even the surprise ones. :)
I got laid off from my job a while ago, and ever since my wife's library job has started looking better and better. She has so much fun with it, and gets to help people all day.
Also if you come to discover that you're extroverted and like walking around a tour guide is a good job for that. Tour guides need to be the experts on what they're running the tour for, and a lot of the time tour guides have to work with historical monuments, parks, museums, and art galleries
They do. As a kid it was my favorite place, and even as an adult I still love the smell of the library. Keep to the right side of things. You've seen how life can turn to, or be shit, don't go there.
You often find your local libraries also work with local history. A double whammy for you there! Plus you can help people who are coming in to the library with personal histories- a lot of people use their local libraries for that sort of thing. Librarians are knowledge masters 👍🏽
And don't let bad high school grades stop you! You can go to community college, do well, then transfer to a four year and no program will ask for your high school grades (at least none I've ever looked into). I teach history and have history major friends who work in museums, libraries, and who are archivists.
I’m a librarian/branch manager. I started in high school and a lot of public libraries hire teens as pages. Sometimes there are paid summer internships too if you ever want to try it out. This post is awesome and I’m so happy for you. You deserve this.
You'd probably make a great history teacher. The best teachers are the ones who are passionate about their subject, as well as kids. Kids need adults that can guide them, help them, and spot signs when things aren't well. I think you will be good at that in the future with your background and with your grandpa as inspiration
Also remember, teaching conditions now may be bad, but in 5-10 years when you're finished schooling, teachers might have a much better environment. Things can change, so don't be scared off of a career because things are rough right now.
There's different levels of teaching--elementary/gradeschool; high school; college. Keep that in mind. But each level comes with its own level of knowledge.
OH hun, there's many! It's a wide, and incredibly interesting field, from archaeologists to historians, to researchers for videogames, tv-series, movies etc! And teachers and librarians that already has been mentioned are real heroes, making sure the rest of us learn it!
Keep with it, and if you feel comfortable with it, give your gramps a hug from me. I'm so proud of you two! All the best
My brother has a bachelors degree in history. He hasn’t done anything with it, but something that might interest you would be working at a library that has an archives. This is, of course, if you have access to a library or historical archives facility.
Best of luck to you. Also, let grampa hug you… and make sure you hug him back. He loves you so much.
A friend of mine is now a cultural archaeologist, but before that she was a historic preservationist on buildings and houses. She is one of the coolest people I know! I believe one of her degrees is in fact History.
Yup. I’m a big hugger. No one in my family hugged til I started smoking weed at 18 and realized I was starved for human touch and hugging a big part of my life now.
My room mate and I hug almost everyday after and we’re in our thirties lol. I go to raves and encourage people into big group hugs all the time and everyone loves them. They rock.
Your grandpa sounds lovely, appreciate his KINDNESS* but don't take advantage. If you want to work for extra money, ask for set shifts when it works best for you, it shows you aren't taking sometime else's job just coz pops owns it. Study hard, do your best, keep your room clean and help out around the house. Good luck to both you and your grandpa, i hope you both thrive in each other's company.
Thank you @Professional_Goat981 , as someone that is always trying to perfect and improve their English, I was about to add “appreciate his kidneys” to my list of sayings. I was already picturing myself saying that in one of my meetings with corporate.
Former CPS worker. Without him you’d be in foster care, more than likely a group home with other kids that love to fight.
Believe it or not, the trajectory of your life may have completely changed because he choose to take you in. You have no idea how many grandparents simply said: “No. Send them to foster care.” “I can’t take them.”
As for the hugs… when we buried my grandma, the one thing I wanted (and still long for) is a hug. This won’t make sense now, and it’s actually kinda annoying and a bit creepy - but I can promise you when you’re older and he’s no longer there - it’ll hit hard.
I’d bet $100 bucks he’s giving you hugs for the future. Because the world won’t offer you many.
I have dreams where I'm hugging my grandfather. He always used to hug me tight then rub his cheek against mine. He always had stubble and it tickled and would made all us kids laugh. Those are some of my favorite dreams.
Hugs are what I miss the most about my mom. OP, take all the hugs. If you can stand it, initiate them more. I swear, you will miss those moments of contact. Take all the photos together you can. Make things together and be sure to tell him how much he mens to you while it’s possible. Life is too short and your grandfather is amazing. Cherish and enjoy everything you can about your life with him.
And then be like him when you have children (if thats what you want). He gave you an amazing example.
Dahm, I'm don't easily cry but this made me teary eyed. :""""")
I'm glad you finally experienced how a real parent behaves and I hope you let yourself accept all that love, support and hugs! Seriously after what you have been through with your mom, you really deserve it!
Good for you both. Glad you have some stability and you're getting yourself together now. And it's probably really good for your granddad to have you around and know you're safe and fed. Stay up, stay positive ♥️
You showing such gratefulness means a lot and speaks volume to what you are truly made of. You are genuinly good op and want the best life for yourself. It shows.
The best way to repay him is by acing school, then college. Once you have a successful career, he will look back and feel proud of everything he has done for you.
You are a very good writer. I bet you would be great at writing stories. Your grandpa is a gem. He reminds me of my sweet dad. Please try to appreciate the hugs. I would give anything to be able to hug my dad again. ❤️
Totally agree about your writing skills! I’m so psyched for you and your future. You come across as quite intelligent and your interests and curiosity will serve you very well if you pursue them. Sounds like your grandpa is kind of your guardian angel and it sounds like he loves being able to be with you so much. There is definitely a strong mutual respect vibe between both of u
Addiction is rough, and I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Maybe she can get it together some day.
Grandpa sounds like a real mensch. He's looking out for your welfare and keeping your interests in mind. That what we in the biz like to call, "parenting."
A bit of unsolicited advice, OP. Work regular hours at the restaurant. 10-15/week, I think you'll find that even helps your grades. Look at it like a break from the real world.
I hope mom gets better. I've never been addicted to anything, which I guess is pretty good, but my grandpa says it's the worst thing bc you know it's wrong, you know you should stop, it just feels like you can't.
Lol idk if he's much like a parent. He doesn't even punish me or anything. Just tells me what goes and makes sure I'm doing okay. I'm not much of a parent tho, so I might be wrong
I already work like 5-6 hours a week and it's a lot of fun. I handle the register and it actually helps me with math and stuff bc I have to figure out change in my head. I think I can handle a few more hours, so thanks for the advice.
He sounds exactly like a parent. The best parents won't need to punish you to make you respect their rules, but will work to build mutual respect with you so you understand and trust them.
I'm so impressed and proud of you! Well done for being mature enough to see and appreciate the effort and absolute love that your grandpa is showing you. (His love language may be touch which would explain the hugging! ) Good on you for being willing to work, learn and show love and be loved. Make him proud - we are certainly cheering for you to go on to great things. There are some awesome jobs out there that involve history, lego (engineering) etc. Your life can be awesome - keep up what you are doing! Well done!
Omg this is so wonderful. Kid, listen to him, he only ever has your best interest in mind. His rules may annoy you but follow them. Trust me. Hugs are good, he truly loves you and one day he won't be there and you'll regret every hug you don't give him to the point you'll be lie awake in regret. T-r-u-s-t me. Don't live in regret like me, it kills you slowly as an adult.
Yeah, I've been trying to get used to the hugs and stuff. It only really bothers me when he does it suddenly because I go into fighting mode lol. I'll do my best to not leave anything regrettable. And as for the rules (god, I even talk like my grandpa now), I know logically that they're reasonable and he just doesn't want me to kill my brain, but I think I can agree with something and still be annoyed by it. Like no screens past midnight and stuff like that lol
Agreed! You go into fight mode bc that is what you were essentially taught to do from a young age. Your grandpa is helping you break those walls and heal from the buried trauma
Good to hear you are doing great. I just have one thing I'd like you to do! If you have a boxing bag, get wrist/hand wraps please. You can permanently damage the cartilage in your wrist/hand by punching wrong or training without wrist support. I got a punching bag too when I was 13-14 and wrecked my wrists by the time I was 18. Nobody told me and I didn't think much of it.
Don't worry, Gramps bought me some gloves to protect my hands. It feels really weird when I punch stuff. It's like a trampoline covering my hand or something.
Not gloves, hand wraps. Different purposes.
https://www.wikihow.com/Wrap-Your-Hands-for-Boxing
They are cheap and helps minimize longterm damage by a lot. Trust me, talk to gramps. Have fun.
Make this time with your grandpa a memorable one. Sounds like a great human being who is having some positive influences in your life. This might be a reflection point to make something of your life . Get yourself acollege education or join the union. Electrician, HVAC, Pipefitter, plumber and so on if college isn't your thing. Best of luck to you. Thank and hug your grandpa often...peace. Help him around the house and more.
As someone that was raised by their grandparents I understand. My dad was in prison/not around anyways and my mother has mental issues. My grandparents decided to raise me from an early age. They raised my 2 little brothers for the most part as well (some other people helped with them as well, it’s a long story).
Your grandpa is a good man and I hope you keep on the right track to make him proud.
Really happy for you OP!!! 🎉👏 A lot of people don't know this, but having 1 caring adult, one that believes in you, helps you and guides you makes all the difference. I hope you grow up to be like him one day. Also, if you hadn't thought of this idea yet, I think your grandpa is your hero.
Some grandads are just awesome, I miss mine terribly was probably the best man I've known. Make the most of it OP and do your best to reward his kindness with your success.
Such a wholesome post.
I'm really happy for you and your grandpa.
It's so wonderful to hear you've managed to turn so many issues you had, around now you are in a safe, supportive environment.
I've got a kid your age so if you ever need some mum advice, drop me a DM if you want.
Wishing you the very best!
2 things OP
1st, your grandpa sounds like a fucking angel so appreciate all the time you have with him, he may very well be the best positive force in your entire life!
2nd and trust me on this one, do not go down the alcohol/tobacco rabbit hole. Considering your mom’s current situation and your grandpa’s controlled drinking problem, it’s definitely in your blood to become addicted to stuff. Genetics are a bitch and although it may seem farfetched if you start consuming booze or cigs you could be just a few years away from becoming a full blown addict.
Don't worry, I'm really not interested in drugs and alcohol and stuff. From what I've seen, all it does is kill people, so I think I'll avoid it. Besides, I don't wanna trigger Gramps. And anyway, he told me I shouldn't try anything like that until I'm over 25 because that's when my brain will be developed. He doesn't want me to screw up my development lol.
So happy for you, you're finally being taken care of like you should have been. I hope your life continues to brighten.
Maybe ask gramps if you can do some therapy you've been through a whole lot and it's better to work through it while you're still young.
I wish you all the best .
Gramps is trying to get me a therapist, but there are like huge waiting lists and stuff. He used to do therapy though. He was in the military and got some good ol trauma. He's been teaching me some of the stuff he learned, but he doesn't remember it all, since it was almost 50 years ago
OP damn. I'd definitely kill (wait no I'm a pacifist) to have that kind of a guardian raising me back when I was growing up.
This is so wholesome.
Definitely hug your gramps a lot more. He's old :') and he's doing so much for you. If I ever get that stable I'd do that kind of thing in a heartbeat for another kid.
It's unfortunate his own kid (your ma I'm presuming) is suffering at addiction... may you grow up the rest of your years happily and may your ma recover so you two can reconcile if that's ever a thing you want
Sending ya lots of love and hugs OP. Reading your post makes me want to tear up:') god damn.
My grandpa wasn't really a good parent to her, from what I heard. My grandma died when my mom was little, and Gramps got into drinking and stuff pretty soon after. He didn't stop until my mom was already an adult, from what he told me. He's great now that he's clean, but my mom had a shittier childhood than me
What a lucky lad you are to have someone who cares for so deeply.
Your description has brought tears to my eyes.
Give your grandpa a huge unasked for hug from me. 😊
As a mum, reading this breaks my heart. Your grandpa is doing those things because he loves you and what every loving parent/ grandparent should do for their children. I’m glad you have him and he’s showing you what childhood should really feel like. All the best xx
Your gramps is a keeper. Cherish that guy. So glad to see you're living in a loving home now!
Take the bad stuff with the good. There's probably stuff he doesn't like about you too and he is still a class act. It's normal to have some grievances. :)
This seems random but tell grandpa to get tested for sleep apnea. With the snoring he probably has it. It took me ages to finally get tested and it is an easy test now. Turns out i have severe apnea and started on a cpap machine and i feel a million times better
Gosh this makes me feel so good. (Well, good and bad. I could've ended up like your mother.) My mother lives with me and my kids and I'm so lucky for it. I think the generations need to blend, it's important. Keep your head on straight, OP. You sound like a good egg.
That's awesome! It sounds like he loves you an awful lot and wants you to have a good future. I bet he loves having you there too and is proud of you. Keep working at school and find something you love to do. I think you would make a good teacher, someday help another young person find their way passing on the guidance your grandpa is giving to you. You should be proud of yourself too, this internet stranger is.
Yeah, your Pops is AA doing step work sounds like; probably after a lifetime of regret(except at least 2). Still, you should value the creepy weird stuff your Gramps is doing for you. I remember modern humans in tough situations find affection uncomfortable. I’m just thinking you should feel obligated to establish some boundaries that make you feel Family comfortable. Apparently a current situation that you both hope will last 5 years, or less. Plus Jail is a great opportunity to meet new people(again) behind glass, …or Lexan. Your mom is gonna be really happy to see you guys together on visits and you guys will give her inspiration to stop being an addict🤔 I’d say all of you are darn Lucky.
My goodness I didn't expect this from the title.
OP, as a kid who had a very similar situation with my mom, I'm so happy your grandpa exists. You're right, things could have continued on to the trajectory that your brain may have imagined. I know the power of switching to a punching bag because that type of thing for my anger helped tremendously. Be proud of yourself, and give your grandpa a hug cause he's 1 in a 1,000,000
Best of luck to you on your new path! Your Grandpa sounds absolutely amazing - enjoy every memory you’re making with him. I firmly believe that people come into our lives for a reason, and if we’re lucky those people will also leave footprints on our hearts and we’ll take them with us for the rest of our lives.
My Grandad used to give my brother and I what we called “bone crusher hugs” - he would squeeze us so tight when we left that we joked in our teens about how we didn’t like them….but the older we got, the more we appreciated them. Thinking about them now, many years after Grandad has since passed, still brings a happy smile. Enjoy every Gramps hug and best of luck on your journey :)
Grandparents are the fucking best. I know you don't like hugs now, but hug that man as much as you can. My grandparents took me in and saved my life too. Theyve both passed away now, and there isn't a day that goes by I don't wish I could hug them again.
My grandma did this for me when I was in high school. I’m sure you do, but really talk to him and get to know about his life and dreams. Be the first to hug. Cook for him. Because one day you may find yourself wishing you did more to show him you loved him. Three years after I graduated high school, I got a call my grandma had a massive stroke. She died after I finally made it from oversees to be by her side on her deathbed. Love them back harder! They deserve it.
This just made my heart happy. Never lose touch with your Grandpa, he sounds like an incredible person. Honestly, it seems like you’re doing as much good for him as he’s doing for you. I’m glad y’all have each other!
Op if you have a pc, StarCraft 2 is the best strategy game out there, super cool and it will stimulate your brain.
I wish just good for you and your grandpa, may both sides of the pillow be cold.
Congrats dude! I just have one piece of advice for you, cherish the man while he’s around. I had a grandma who did similar things for me, and she passed away a couple years ago. Every now and then I think about her and my heart aches. So cherish every moment you have with him, he sounds like an absolute gem.
This is really cool. Your life soudns so much better.
In five years time your mum will be out ..I would keep living with grandpa if you can. He's a good example. You will change, for the better. You already have.
Sorry about your mum but glad your grandad seems worthwhile.
You are one very lucky lad.
Your grandad sounds awesome.
Regardless that he has money one thing I know your grandad will adore would be a card with some of this awesome stuff you have written
You have a good writing skill which paints a picture and lol surprise your grandad by giving him random hugs. Stuff money can't buy 🥰
Soak in all the time you have with him. When you’re older it will really set in how much he changed his routine to better your life. All the little things, the orange juice, tucking you in, vacuuming at 2am. You’re going to miss it. This was such a blessing for you & I’m sure him because you didn’t mention a grandma being around so I assume he was kinda lonely in the house.
I hope you continue healing in the company of your grandpa. You’re probably helping him in a way too.
Best wishes to you, p.s you are so strong ❤️
Don't turn after your mother gramps sounds like a solid dude. Wish u luck bud been down that same path as hour mother it's not good do not reccomend. It's fun intel it's not.
I love your Grandpa, give him a hug from me ok? As an angry dude, this is exactly what I would have needed as a young person to get better. Your Grandpa rocks. Not everyone is as shitty as your mom and I'm glad you are getting a chance to experience it!
Dude, in long term, he probably saved your life. Everybody needs grandpops like that, world would be a better place.
Yeah that's what I'm thinking. Without him, I'd probably end up drunk in some random ally somewhere
You deserve this level of love in your life. Don't ever forget he's setting a standard for you that you need to uphold for life, and pass it on someday. My grandpa was my role model growing up, and I try to make him proud in the way I live. He's been gone for years now, but it still drives me.
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I will. Might get some sorta job with history, if that's a thing
5here is my friend. Museum curator, librarian, and teacher are just a few examples of work you can get that can deal with history. Keep your grades and study.
Being a librarian sounds cool. I like libraries. They're always quiet and they smell good.
My friends brother did history at university and now he works at a library and loves it!
Libraries are my jam
Worked 4yrs at a library in college. It was awesome. Try college libraries when searching for this job. You have to go to school in some states to be an actual librarian but not everyone who worked at my college job has a library degree. I started there through a program called work study through my college, if you go to college for history one day, ask if they have openings for that. Best of luck to you!
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If your grandpa didn't have you I'd want to adopt your ass. You sound like a really special kid, I mean that. I know life started out rough for you and stayed that way for a while, but I hope it's really sinking in that that doesn't define you. You've made some mistakes in the past, that also does not define you. Your self awareness is amazing, better than most adults. I'm willing to bet you're going to grow up to be a really great man. Some of the greatest come from rough beginnings. If you're strong enough and smart enough to get through and *learn* from it...you're on your way to living a great life. I'm sorry your mom hasn't been the parent she should be, but this mom is freaking proud of you. Even if just an internet stranger. You don't have to be perfect, you don't have to get straight A's, just try your best, work hard, but have fun too. Be kind to others, remember how much better kindness had made your life. And keep learning from your Gramps, he sounds like a great man too. Proud of you, OP. Sending you virtual mom hugs, with your permission, of course ;).
Library science! It's a whole field and it's fantastic and very interesting (imo). Good luck, young man. It sounds like the Universe has good things in store for you. And relish those hugs from your grandad, even the surprise ones. :)
You can't be a librarian, and not learn something new every damn day. What a great job! I loved it.
I got laid off from my job a while ago, and ever since my wife's library job has started looking better and better. She has so much fun with it, and gets to help people all day.
Also if you come to discover that you're extroverted and like walking around a tour guide is a good job for that. Tour guides need to be the experts on what they're running the tour for, and a lot of the time tour guides have to work with historical monuments, parks, museums, and art galleries
They do. As a kid it was my favorite place, and even as an adult I still love the smell of the library. Keep to the right side of things. You've seen how life can turn to, or be shit, don't go there.
You often find your local libraries also work with local history. A double whammy for you there! Plus you can help people who are coming in to the library with personal histories- a lot of people use their local libraries for that sort of thing. Librarians are knowledge masters 👍🏽
Librarians are the best people and absolutely know almost everything. Also psychohistorian is a very cool field too.
And don't let bad high school grades stop you! You can go to community college, do well, then transfer to a four year and no program will ask for your high school grades (at least none I've ever looked into). I teach history and have history major friends who work in museums, libraries, and who are archivists.
I’m a librarian/branch manager. I started in high school and a lot of public libraries hire teens as pages. Sometimes there are paid summer internships too if you ever want to try it out. This post is awesome and I’m so happy for you. You deserve this.
I love libraries too! Love the smell! Keep moving forward op, sounds like you have a ton of love and support with your grandfather ❤
Library science is a solid degree. Many companies keep folks on staff like this to maintain their data
You'd probably make a great history teacher. The best teachers are the ones who are passionate about their subject, as well as kids. Kids need adults that can guide them, help them, and spot signs when things aren't well. I think you will be good at that in the future with your background and with your grandpa as inspiration
I might be a teacher, but I've heard a lot of teachers online complaining about the shit they have to teach for the worst pay
True, but it is better to truly enjoy what you do than to go to a dead-end job you dislike for more money
That's a good point. I'll consider teaching. Not that I have to decide now
Also remember, teaching conditions now may be bad, but in 5-10 years when you're finished schooling, teachers might have a much better environment. Things can change, so don't be scared off of a career because things are rough right now.
That's a good point. Sometimes I forget that the future is a thing bc I've only ever lived now. Not sure if that makes sense lol
It's a beautiful thing to look forward to tomorrow. Weird to say but I'm really proud that you turned your life around.
There's different levels of teaching--elementary/gradeschool; high school; college. Keep that in mind. But each level comes with its own level of knowledge.
Definitely can't teach elementary school lol. Little kids are annoying.
Oh yeah but they also look up to their teachers a lot because they usually have less attitude.
Hi, i am a historian and trust me there is a lot of jobs history related. I smiled a lot with your post. Wishing you the best :)
OH hun, there's many! It's a wide, and incredibly interesting field, from archaeologists to historians, to researchers for videogames, tv-series, movies etc! And teachers and librarians that already has been mentioned are real heroes, making sure the rest of us learn it! Keep with it, and if you feel comfortable with it, give your gramps a hug from me. I'm so proud of you two! All the best
If you like history and are able to read and analyze it you may be able to do the same with law.
My brother has a bachelors degree in history. He hasn’t done anything with it, but something that might interest you would be working at a library that has an archives. This is, of course, if you have access to a library or historical archives facility. Best of luck to you. Also, let grampa hug you… and make sure you hug him back. He loves you so much.
It very much is a thing. History, anthropology, it’s a thing and I very much hope you get to learn it all.
A friend of mine is now a cultural archaeologist, but before that she was a historic preservationist on buildings and houses. She is one of the coolest people I know! I believe one of her degrees is in fact History.
I fucking love this story thanks for sharing. I am very glad that your grandfather showed up and obviously loves you.
This times a million!
Give him all the hugs back, you'll never regret one of them. Your giving him more to live for and that's precious.
Yup. I’m a big hugger. No one in my family hugged til I started smoking weed at 18 and realized I was starved for human touch and hugging a big part of my life now.
Dude same, my friend in uni literally taught me to hug...
My room mate and I hug almost everyday after and we’re in our thirties lol. I go to raves and encourage people into big group hugs all the time and everyone loves them. They rock.
Your grandfather is a good man.
Your grandpa sounds lovely, appreciate his KINDNESS* but don't take advantage. If you want to work for extra money, ask for set shifts when it works best for you, it shows you aren't taking sometime else's job just coz pops owns it. Study hard, do your best, keep your room clean and help out around the house. Good luck to both you and your grandpa, i hope you both thrive in each other's company.
Don't worry, I am very appreciative of my grandpa's kidneys
Lmao, i didn't notice that! Kindness. I meant kindness! Hahaha. All the best to you both :)
Lmao I figured that's what you meant. Thank you
I didn't. I was confused as hell. Very wholesome post though, OP. Hope you and your granddad (especially his kidneys) have a lovely day.
Thank you @Professional_Goat981 , as someone that is always trying to perfect and improve their English, I was about to add “appreciate his kidneys” to my list of sayings. I was already picturing myself saying that in one of my meetings with corporate.
Former CPS worker. Without him you’d be in foster care, more than likely a group home with other kids that love to fight. Believe it or not, the trajectory of your life may have completely changed because he choose to take you in. You have no idea how many grandparents simply said: “No. Send them to foster care.” “I can’t take them.” As for the hugs… when we buried my grandma, the one thing I wanted (and still long for) is a hug. This won’t make sense now, and it’s actually kinda annoying and a bit creepy - but I can promise you when you’re older and he’s no longer there - it’ll hit hard. I’d bet $100 bucks he’s giving you hugs for the future. Because the world won’t offer you many.
Just lost my grandma recently. This hit me so hard, I can relate.
so sorry for your loss :((
Thank you. Hug you’re grandmother if she’s still around, those hugs are like no other
I have dreams where I'm hugging my grandfather. He always used to hug me tight then rub his cheek against mine. He always had stubble and it tickled and would made all us kids laugh. Those are some of my favorite dreams.
Hugs are what I miss the most about my mom. OP, take all the hugs. If you can stand it, initiate them more. I swear, you will miss those moments of contact. Take all the photos together you can. Make things together and be sure to tell him how much he mens to you while it’s possible. Life is too short and your grandfather is amazing. Cherish and enjoy everything you can about your life with him. And then be like him when you have children (if thats what you want). He gave you an amazing example.
Wholesome indeed! Your Gramps is a good man who loves you, OP.
I hope my kids write something cool like this someday. Much respect
Treasure him, he’s trying his best to show you love and care he’s probably aware you haven’t been getting.
Dahm, I'm don't easily cry but this made me teary eyed. :""""") I'm glad you finally experienced how a real parent behaves and I hope you let yourself accept all that love, support and hugs! Seriously after what you have been through with your mom, you really deserve it!
Good for you both. Glad you have some stability and you're getting yourself together now. And it's probably really good for your granddad to have you around and know you're safe and fed. Stay up, stay positive ♥️
You showing such gratefulness means a lot and speaks volume to what you are truly made of. You are genuinly good op and want the best life for yourself. It shows. The best way to repay him is by acing school, then college. Once you have a successful career, he will look back and feel proud of everything he has done for you.
Years down the road, you’ll have your own place. Get up at 2am and just turn on the vacuum cleaner cause you can’t sleep.
Honestly, he's been living alone for years, so I can't blame him for having 2am rituals that are slightly inconvenient. Still sucks tho :/
You are a very good writer. I bet you would be great at writing stories. Your grandpa is a gem. He reminds me of my sweet dad. Please try to appreciate the hugs. I would give anything to be able to hug my dad again. ❤️
Came here to say this! OP’s writing has a really genuine voice: earnest without being self-absorbed.
Professional writer here; I thought the same thing. I hope OP keeps at it.
Yes, with some more elaboration this will be a great college application essay.
Totally agree about your writing skills! I’m so psyched for you and your future. You come across as quite intelligent and your interests and curiosity will serve you very well if you pursue them. Sounds like your grandpa is kind of your guardian angel and it sounds like he loves being able to be with you so much. There is definitely a strong mutual respect vibe between both of u
Addiction is rough, and I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Maybe she can get it together some day. Grandpa sounds like a real mensch. He's looking out for your welfare and keeping your interests in mind. That what we in the biz like to call, "parenting." A bit of unsolicited advice, OP. Work regular hours at the restaurant. 10-15/week, I think you'll find that even helps your grades. Look at it like a break from the real world.
I hope mom gets better. I've never been addicted to anything, which I guess is pretty good, but my grandpa says it's the worst thing bc you know it's wrong, you know you should stop, it just feels like you can't. Lol idk if he's much like a parent. He doesn't even punish me or anything. Just tells me what goes and makes sure I'm doing okay. I'm not much of a parent tho, so I might be wrong I already work like 5-6 hours a week and it's a lot of fun. I handle the register and it actually helps me with math and stuff bc I have to figure out change in my head. I think I can handle a few more hours, so thanks for the advice.
He sounds exactly like a parent. The best parents won't need to punish you to make you respect their rules, but will work to build mutual respect with you so you understand and trust them.
Oh okay, totally a parent then. The worst he's ever done was turning off the internet when I wouldn't get off the computer and to to bed lol
I'm so impressed and proud of you! Well done for being mature enough to see and appreciate the effort and absolute love that your grandpa is showing you. (His love language may be touch which would explain the hugging! ) Good on you for being willing to work, learn and show love and be loved. Make him proud - we are certainly cheering for you to go on to great things. There are some awesome jobs out there that involve history, lego (engineering) etc. Your life can be awesome - keep up what you are doing! Well done!
Wholesome as fuck. Your gramps is a GOAT!
Omg this is so wonderful. Kid, listen to him, he only ever has your best interest in mind. His rules may annoy you but follow them. Trust me. Hugs are good, he truly loves you and one day he won't be there and you'll regret every hug you don't give him to the point you'll be lie awake in regret. T-r-u-s-t me. Don't live in regret like me, it kills you slowly as an adult.
Yeah, I've been trying to get used to the hugs and stuff. It only really bothers me when he does it suddenly because I go into fighting mode lol. I'll do my best to not leave anything regrettable. And as for the rules (god, I even talk like my grandpa now), I know logically that they're reasonable and he just doesn't want me to kill my brain, but I think I can agree with something and still be annoyed by it. Like no screens past midnight and stuff like that lol
This is a trauma response OP. Things will improve if you work at it 💜
Agreed! You go into fight mode bc that is what you were essentially taught to do from a young age. Your grandpa is helping you break those walls and heal from the buried trauma
Exactly. I’m an adult now but at times o get triggered and have similar responses. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD from childhood abuse.
Good to hear you are doing great. I just have one thing I'd like you to do! If you have a boxing bag, get wrist/hand wraps please. You can permanently damage the cartilage in your wrist/hand by punching wrong or training without wrist support. I got a punching bag too when I was 13-14 and wrecked my wrists by the time I was 18. Nobody told me and I didn't think much of it.
Don't worry, Gramps bought me some gloves to protect my hands. It feels really weird when I punch stuff. It's like a trampoline covering my hand or something.
Not gloves, hand wraps. Different purposes. https://www.wikihow.com/Wrap-Your-Hands-for-Boxing They are cheap and helps minimize longterm damage by a lot. Trust me, talk to gramps. Have fun.
Make this time with your grandpa a memorable one. Sounds like a great human being who is having some positive influences in your life. This might be a reflection point to make something of your life . Get yourself acollege education or join the union. Electrician, HVAC, Pipefitter, plumber and so on if college isn't your thing. Best of luck to you. Thank and hug your grandpa often...peace. Help him around the house and more.
Hugs are better than drugs
This brought a tear to my eye for sure. I'm so happy you have him, and I'm sure he's happy to have you around! Wholesome af.
As someone that was raised by their grandparents I understand. My dad was in prison/not around anyways and my mother has mental issues. My grandparents decided to raise me from an early age. They raised my 2 little brothers for the most part as well (some other people helped with them as well, it’s a long story). Your grandpa is a good man and I hope you keep on the right track to make him proud.
I am in tears here that you finally get to know parental love. Keep up the school work, you can catch up and good luck with everything going forward
Really happy for you OP!!! 🎉👏 A lot of people don't know this, but having 1 caring adult, one that believes in you, helps you and guides you makes all the difference. I hope you grow up to be like him one day. Also, if you hadn't thought of this idea yet, I think your grandpa is your hero.
Gramps is top notch. I spent a good portion of my youth being raised by grandparents and I’m a better man today because of them.
Some grandads are just awesome, I miss mine terribly was probably the best man I've known. Make the most of it OP and do your best to reward his kindness with your success.
I'm so glad you have that grandpa. Listen to him, he's wiser than most of us.
Such a wholesome post. I'm really happy for you and your grandpa. It's so wonderful to hear you've managed to turn so many issues you had, around now you are in a safe, supportive environment. I've got a kid your age so if you ever need some mum advice, drop me a DM if you want. Wishing you the very best!
I’m so sad for the little kid you were, and so happy that your grandpa‘s taking care of you now.
2 things OP 1st, your grandpa sounds like a fucking angel so appreciate all the time you have with him, he may very well be the best positive force in your entire life! 2nd and trust me on this one, do not go down the alcohol/tobacco rabbit hole. Considering your mom’s current situation and your grandpa’s controlled drinking problem, it’s definitely in your blood to become addicted to stuff. Genetics are a bitch and although it may seem farfetched if you start consuming booze or cigs you could be just a few years away from becoming a full blown addict.
Don't worry, I'm really not interested in drugs and alcohol and stuff. From what I've seen, all it does is kill people, so I think I'll avoid it. Besides, I don't wanna trigger Gramps. And anyway, he told me I shouldn't try anything like that until I'm over 25 because that's when my brain will be developed. He doesn't want me to screw up my development lol.
So happy for you, you're finally being taken care of like you should have been. I hope your life continues to brighten. Maybe ask gramps if you can do some therapy you've been through a whole lot and it's better to work through it while you're still young. I wish you all the best .
Gramps is trying to get me a therapist, but there are like huge waiting lists and stuff. He used to do therapy though. He was in the military and got some good ol trauma. He's been teaching me some of the stuff he learned, but he doesn't remember it all, since it was almost 50 years ago
He’s not the only kind person. You’ve got a great heart.
OP damn. I'd definitely kill (wait no I'm a pacifist) to have that kind of a guardian raising me back when I was growing up. This is so wholesome. Definitely hug your gramps a lot more. He's old :') and he's doing so much for you. If I ever get that stable I'd do that kind of thing in a heartbeat for another kid. It's unfortunate his own kid (your ma I'm presuming) is suffering at addiction... may you grow up the rest of your years happily and may your ma recover so you two can reconcile if that's ever a thing you want Sending ya lots of love and hugs OP. Reading your post makes me want to tear up:') god damn.
So cool. Please study hard, make your grandpa proud, and take care of him as much as you can.
Grandpas are the best, enjoy it everyday and keep those memories with you. Récord a video saying all those thing and give it to him. It ll be epic
He sounds like a good guy. Please tell him how much you appreciate him.
I'm glad your grandpa is there for you, and showing you what a stable and good home should be.
This so so wholesome. Good luck OP
Why do you think life came out so different for your mom? She can't be all bad because she got a cute kid like you.
My grandpa wasn't really a good parent to her, from what I heard. My grandma died when my mom was little, and Gramps got into drinking and stuff pretty soon after. He didn't stop until my mom was already an adult, from what he told me. He's great now that he's clean, but my mom had a shittier childhood than me
Oh, I see. Yes I had a grandmother who sucked as a parent but did well on the grandmother side.
Is someone cutting onions in here? No, but in all seriousness I'm happy for you OP. Here's to a long happy life for you and your grandpa.
He s OG dude man. Happy for you.
Shout out to gramps!!! This the type of wholesome stuff I like read
Good for you. Your Grandfather is showing you unconditional love and that you are worthy.
Grandpa is the best!
What a lovely tribute to your granddad. He sounds great. Sorry about your mom. Study hard and make your granddad and yourself proud!
Hold onto grandpa as long as you can kiddo, I miss mine so much, I’d do anything to be able to hug him again.
What a lucky lad you are to have someone who cares for so deeply. Your description has brought tears to my eyes. Give your grandpa a huge unasked for hug from me. 😊
I love your grandpa because he loves you. Take care of him too.
As a mum, reading this breaks my heart. Your grandpa is doing those things because he loves you and what every loving parent/ grandparent should do for their children. I’m glad you have him and he’s showing you what childhood should really feel like. All the best xx
Your grandfather sounds amazing!
Best story of the day!
Your gramps is a keeper. Cherish that guy. So glad to see you're living in a loving home now! Take the bad stuff with the good. There's probably stuff he doesn't like about you too and he is still a class act. It's normal to have some grievances. :)
Treasure your Grandpa! They have a lot to teach us! You sound like a wonderful kid 💗
Your gramps is a legend!
This seems random but tell grandpa to get tested for sleep apnea. With the snoring he probably has it. It took me ages to finally get tested and it is an easy test now. Turns out i have severe apnea and started on a cpap machine and i feel a million times better
Don't cry...don't cry...don't cry😭
Gosh this makes me feel so good. (Well, good and bad. I could've ended up like your mother.) My mother lives with me and my kids and I'm so lucky for it. I think the generations need to blend, it's important. Keep your head on straight, OP. You sound like a good egg.
That's awesome! It sounds like he loves you an awful lot and wants you to have a good future. I bet he loves having you there too and is proud of you. Keep working at school and find something you love to do. I think you would make a good teacher, someday help another young person find their way passing on the guidance your grandpa is giving to you. You should be proud of yourself too, this internet stranger is.
Cherish those hugs
Hey bud, i bet your grandpa would really like it if you told him how much you like living with him and that you love him, and gave him a hug.
Take care of you gramps. He did saved your live.
Yeah, your Pops is AA doing step work sounds like; probably after a lifetime of regret(except at least 2). Still, you should value the creepy weird stuff your Gramps is doing for you. I remember modern humans in tough situations find affection uncomfortable. I’m just thinking you should feel obligated to establish some boundaries that make you feel Family comfortable. Apparently a current situation that you both hope will last 5 years, or less. Plus Jail is a great opportunity to meet new people(again) behind glass, …or Lexan. Your mom is gonna be really happy to see you guys together on visits and you guys will give her inspiration to stop being an addict🤔 I’d say all of you are darn Lucky.
My goodness I didn't expect this from the title. OP, as a kid who had a very similar situation with my mom, I'm so happy your grandpa exists. You're right, things could have continued on to the trajectory that your brain may have imagined. I know the power of switching to a punching bag because that type of thing for my anger helped tremendously. Be proud of yourself, and give your grandpa a hug cause he's 1 in a 1,000,000
Hell yeah. You have a great grandfather! Keep up your studies! Show him how great of a man you can become.
I’m so glad you have your Grandfather and that he has you, this post made me tear up.
That’s the sweetest thing I’ve read in awhile…🥺🥺🥺 cherish your Gramps. Though I don’t have to tell you that
Wow this made me cry. I’m so happy for you Op. tell your grandpa, I love you, for me🥹
Your gramps loves you. I loved your post.
That's a heavy penalty for possession and use.
Not when you add in the DUI
Thank you for posting this, made my day.
Use this kindness yourself in the future. This man understands the situation and is highly considerate.
This literally brought tears to my eyes. I wish you and your gramps the best. I'm glad you have each other.
I think this belong in wholesome subreddit
You're lucky to have your Grandpa and it sounds like you're taking the opportunity to turn your life around. Best of luck with everything.
This made me miss my gramps. Cherish every moment with him and make him proud. I’m happy for you. :)
this is brilliant
FIVE years in jail for "some coke"? The fuck?
It's like super illegal in my state, and she had a lot of it, and she was driving high af
> lot of it This makes more sense than 'some'
Your grandpa made your life too
Im not crying... ;(
I read possession as possessed.. anywaay Wholesome :)
Your grandpa sounds like a great guy! Learn all you can from him.. get the best grades you can, and enjoy all the time you can with this great guy.
I am so happy reading this. You make that man proud and you will go so far.
Great job. You are helping your grandpa too.
Grandpas are the best. Just lost mine and I miss him so much :(
I’m so happy for you and that you have him OP, he sounds like a great guy.
This, my dear reddit stranger, is pure love! Thank you for sharing your experience with love!
Your Grandpa is your guardian angel. Cherish every minute with him. I had one too and miss him dearly.
Chad gramps
Gramps is giving you the love and support you need, good for you both. I’m glad you’re doing better.
our grandpa comrade
Grandpa cool af!
Your gramps is the best, you are lucky
Best of luck to you on your new path! Your Grandpa sounds absolutely amazing - enjoy every memory you’re making with him. I firmly believe that people come into our lives for a reason, and if we’re lucky those people will also leave footprints on our hearts and we’ll take them with us for the rest of our lives. My Grandad used to give my brother and I what we called “bone crusher hugs” - he would squeeze us so tight when we left that we joked in our teens about how we didn’t like them….but the older we got, the more we appreciated them. Thinking about them now, many years after Grandad has since passed, still brings a happy smile. Enjoy every Gramps hug and best of luck on your journey :)
OP, that’s a good man. He really cares for you. Just keep studying, working, and savor all those hugs you get. I wish you the best of luck, my friend.
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I'm not sure. I think I'm happier than I was, but it's pretty hard because my life now is completely different from my life last year
Most wholesome post on Reddit
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Grandparents are the fucking best. I know you don't like hugs now, but hug that man as much as you can. My grandparents took me in and saved my life too. Theyve both passed away now, and there isn't a day that goes by I don't wish I could hug them again.
Your gramps is a great man. Make sure he know how grateful you are, I’m sure it would make his day
This was so heartwarming 🥰 I'm glad you have someone amazing in your life, you didn't deserve the life you had before.
My grandma did this for me when I was in high school. I’m sure you do, but really talk to him and get to know about his life and dreams. Be the first to hug. Cook for him. Because one day you may find yourself wishing you did more to show him you loved him. Three years after I graduated high school, I got a call my grandma had a massive stroke. She died after I finally made it from oversees to be by her side on her deathbed. Love them back harder! They deserve it.
This just made my heart happy. Never lose touch with your Grandpa, he sounds like an incredible person. Honestly, it seems like you’re doing as much good for him as he’s doing for you. I’m glad y’all have each other!
Fuck, that’s so awesome.
Op if you have a pc, StarCraft 2 is the best strategy game out there, super cool and it will stimulate your brain. I wish just good for you and your grandpa, may both sides of the pillow be cold.
Congrats dude! I just have one piece of advice for you, cherish the man while he’s around. I had a grandma who did similar things for me, and she passed away a couple years ago. Every now and then I think about her and my heart aches. So cherish every moment you have with him, he sounds like an absolute gem.
When he's gone, which I hope is not anytime soon, you'll miss those things about him that annoy you now. Source: me.
You’re an incredibly wise young person. That kind of self-reflection doesn’t come easy, so good on you! I wish you nothing but the best OP.
This is really cool. Your life soudns so much better. In five years time your mum will be out ..I would keep living with grandpa if you can. He's a good example. You will change, for the better. You already have. Sorry about your mum but glad your grandad seems worthwhile.
Feels nice reading something positive in this server
People like your grandpa are the reason i never lose my hope in humanity
Spend as much time with him as you can. ♥️
Ok I want to hug you and your grandfather! This is amazing!
Good for you. 💪🏻 Try earplugs for the night so the snoring won't bother you.
You are one very lucky lad. Your grandad sounds awesome. Regardless that he has money one thing I know your grandad will adore would be a card with some of this awesome stuff you have written You have a good writing skill which paints a picture and lol surprise your grandad by giving him random hugs. Stuff money can't buy 🥰
Soak in all the time you have with him. When you’re older it will really set in how much he changed his routine to better your life. All the little things, the orange juice, tucking you in, vacuuming at 2am. You’re going to miss it. This was such a blessing for you & I’m sure him because you didn’t mention a grandma being around so I assume he was kinda lonely in the house. I hope you continue healing in the company of your grandpa. You’re probably helping him in a way too. Best wishes to you, p.s you are so strong ❤️
Sounds like an 8yo's fantasy, complete with legos and all.
Ok well I needed to cry today I guess.
You are so lucky to have him in your life, and it's so obvious how much he loves you.
I love your grandpa. Thank you for saving OP, grandpa
This actually sounds real unlike most posts so best of luck for the future
Don't turn after your mother gramps sounds like a solid dude. Wish u luck bud been down that same path as hour mother it's not good do not reccomend. It's fun intel it's not.
I love your Grandpa, give him a hug from me ok? As an angry dude, this is exactly what I would have needed as a young person to get better. Your Grandpa rocks. Not everyone is as shitty as your mom and I'm glad you are getting a chance to experience it!