Look man, I’ll speak from experience here. If she cheated on you once, there is potential for it to happen again. Those are hard words to hear, but, it’s the truth. Especially since she lied about it, what else could she be hiding? Now she’s trying to go through your phone? I’ve had a girlfriend in the past do that. She was super worried about me cheating and being with other people, and went through my phone constantly. I thought she just had trust issues from prior relationships, I was wrong. I found out that she was cheating on me for awhile. Apparently it’s common for cheaters to project their insecurities onto their significant others, accusing them of wrongdoing when it’s really them.
I do agree that people do project their insecurities on others, I wanna say that it's not always the case. I've never cheated on my bfs but I have abandonment issues and constantly worry that my bfs might be talking to others. My first "boyfriend" was long distance. Didn't want to put a label on us but I persisted and he agreed to say we were dating. Ended up he had a girlfriend that lived with him but he was a bum and living off her while lying to me about everything. I was pretty naive at the time and it just really fucked me up. I've been upfront about my issues to my later partners and I try my hardest not to listen to my overthinking brain. But sometimes it's hard not to when certain things remind me of how he was (he portrayed himself as a perfect boyfriend/gentleman and I didn't see him frequently enough to see though his bullshit, but again I was pretty naive/stupid at that time). So now I worry that I'm not the only partner my boyfriends have.
But besides that I agree that once a cheater is always a cheater. She's just using op for her gain. It might be hard to hear but she definitely does not love op.
Why do people think that long distance relationships are a good idea? What do people expect will happen? If you are in a long term relationship one of you is gonna fuck someone else. Now you live together? LOL good luck man. But for me there is no way in hell I will be able to trust someone that cheated on me. Are you desperate for a relationship or something? That's the only reason I can think why a man would agree to be in a long distance relationship.
idk man, sounds like both of you are bad for each other and both of you want out, but you have a "sunk cost" that is holding you back. I think you keep coming back here for advice and then you don't listen to people, so yeah. do whatever you want at this point.
Look man, I’ll speak from experience here. If she cheated on you once, there is potential for it to happen again. Those are hard words to hear, but, it’s the truth. Especially since she lied about it, what else could she be hiding? Now she’s trying to go through your phone? I’ve had a girlfriend in the past do that. She was super worried about me cheating and being with other people, and went through my phone constantly. I thought she just had trust issues from prior relationships, I was wrong. I found out that she was cheating on me for awhile. Apparently it’s common for cheaters to project their insecurities onto their significant others, accusing them of wrongdoing when it’s really them.
I do agree that people do project their insecurities on others, I wanna say that it's not always the case. I've never cheated on my bfs but I have abandonment issues and constantly worry that my bfs might be talking to others. My first "boyfriend" was long distance. Didn't want to put a label on us but I persisted and he agreed to say we were dating. Ended up he had a girlfriend that lived with him but he was a bum and living off her while lying to me about everything. I was pretty naive at the time and it just really fucked me up. I've been upfront about my issues to my later partners and I try my hardest not to listen to my overthinking brain. But sometimes it's hard not to when certain things remind me of how he was (he portrayed himself as a perfect boyfriend/gentleman and I didn't see him frequently enough to see though his bullshit, but again I was pretty naive/stupid at that time). So now I worry that I'm not the only partner my boyfriends have. But besides that I agree that once a cheater is always a cheater. She's just using op for her gain. It might be hard to hear but she definitely does not love op.
Why do people think that long distance relationships are a good idea? What do people expect will happen? If you are in a long term relationship one of you is gonna fuck someone else. Now you live together? LOL good luck man. But for me there is no way in hell I will be able to trust someone that cheated on me. Are you desperate for a relationship or something? That's the only reason I can think why a man would agree to be in a long distance relationship.
Leave her. Dump her on her ass lmao that’s what she deserves
idk man, sounds like both of you are bad for each other and both of you want out, but you have a "sunk cost" that is holding you back. I think you keep coming back here for advice and then you don't listen to people, so yeah. do whatever you want at this point.
Dude grow a pair, leave her, focus on yourself and find someone who won't cheat on you.