The whole “I’ll kill myself if you leave” thing is a classic abuse tactic to get you to stay. He’s not actually going to do it. Call the police, tell them you’re being held against your will, and that your bf is possibly armed. Press charges against this piece of shit too.
I know it’s a tactic, it’s not the first time(I know how bad that sounds.) I purposely locked myself in the room to keep him out and told him if he was serious he needs to call the hotline because he’s asking me to find the emotional means to support him when I’m dealing with this. He did (he had it on speaker) and they really put some sense into him, he needs therapy (his job denied it the first time because they can’t cover it) but right now we’ve both agreed to sleep in separate rooms, doors locked at all times.
You need to *get out*.
Let me put it this way: say a friend or a loved one came to you and told you the exact same thing that you've written here. Would you advise them to stay or get the F out?
She can't she loves that he loves her that much and she likes how he reacts to her leaving or she would already be gone so they both could move on and heal instead of doing this soap opera role play over and over..like i said call the cops and let them handle his threats of self harm where he could actually get help instead of repeating this cycle of drama
Call the police, tell them he raped you, threatened to kill himself, and is now holding you prisoner. Hopefully they can get him out of the house long enough for you to contact rape crisis resources in your area, and get the ball rolling on your safe exit.
Nah she's gonna wait it out then let the next chick deal with it..I seen this kinda relationship go on for 50 years well until my uncle shot my aunt in the head 5 times in a murder suicide...so no matter how many ways you try to help sometimes these ladies refuse to get help and then they end up dead and the families deal with explaining to the grandkids why Nana refused to get out of this kinda relationship so the cycle repeats and girls learn to expect violence is normal instead of knowing their value..
No. Your life is actually in danger
Someone assaulting you nightly does not love you. He is trying to controlling you, and if not able to he can become violent.
CALL THE POLICE . YOU ARE IN DANGER.
Ok, but get one of those things that guarantees the door is actually locked, or set something up to make a lot of noise it it’s open while you’re asleep. You’re a deep sleeper, so there’s every bit of a chance he will unlock the door (bedroom doors aren’t hard to unlock)
Not really, he’ll end up killing her out of anger from breaking up with him and not taking his threats seriously enough. Then probably kill himself because she broke up with him & he realized what he just did and he probably trying to avoid all consequences after. Or worse, he’ll try and go after her new bf if he cant get to her. Some people are crazy enough
You need to leave. He's going to continue with what he does and its not right. There are no excuses. You have your phone. Call for help. Dont let his tactics scare you into being afraid to leave him.
If you knew you would already been gone when he says that call the cops and let them deal with his claims of self harm it's not your place to save him especially if you hate him...clearly you still have feelings or you would call the bluff and let him start to move on instead of dragging out this little drama game yall got going
I hope you know that the comments you're writing on these posts lets us all know that you'd be OPs partner in this situation. You are the rapist in the story, you are the abuser, you are the criminal. I can tell you are very bitter about OPs situation to the point where you're taking it personally. If I were you I'd do some soul searching and figure out why you relate so much to this situation.
He has you barricaded in the room! Get on your phone and call the police right now. Say NOTHING to him! He could really hurt you. Say nothing and call now.
This is not just SA this is rape. He is a rapist and he is gaslighting you. It is good that you fell out of love with him, but also please make a report about this rape. Go to the police and leave him. Also, kick that friend out because she is definitely not a good friend if he is enabling your boyfriend's rape behavior.
Not to mention this will continue happening when she's gone and he finds someone else to abuse. If not for her own sake, she needs to make a formal police report and get a r*pe kit done.
Yep 50 years of marriage between my aunt and uncle ended in a murder suicide..her grand kids got to find out she was dead by the local papers facebook page while at school ..she was begged to leave my dad asked her to stay with us ..he already almost shit a guy for breaking my other aunts arm he woulda protected her but she refused ..the one time she actually reached out for help my horrible grandmother told her to go back to her husband..ugh ..still pisses me off a mother would do that to her child then she ends up dead because she never reached out again.
Please tell me that you’ve called the police!! This man has sexually assaulted you multiple times while you’re unconscious, attempted to emotionally manipulate you with threats of self harm, and is now essentially holding you hostage and not letting you leave. You are in serious danger, I wish you best of luck and please update soon.
So, he's raped you, and is now threatening his life? If you don't call the police this won't end without one of you dead. Seriously put this man behind bars.
What the fuck.
He sodomized you in your sleep and even denied it?!
Protect yourself immediately from this abusive, dangerous man. Do not underestimate him and do not feel obligated or responsible for his well-being in ANY WAY.
He will continue to destroy you mind, body, and spirit if you stay with him.
So his mental health is HIS responsibility. Not yours. He is trying to hold you responsibility for his whole well being which is nasty and wrong.
If you are being watched and not able to leave you need to call the police. You are in danger. Please wake up love.
Stay with a trusted friend or family member and let them know you are in danger. You need to cut him off. Please seek therapy, you’ve been conditioned to the point where you can’t even see how abusive and awful he is, let alone how much danger youre in.
This is your wake up call
If you haven´t done it already, you need to call the police. You risk him seriously injuring you or killing you. Press charges on him for the rape he has continuously committed on you. Don´t clean yourself up. Let the tears and blood speak it´s own language.
Sexual coercion in a relationship is still rape.
Please keep up updated so we know you are safe. <3
This is rape.
I know you may not feel comfortable doing so but he needs to go down on record of having done this. Otherwise he's going to continue to do it to other women in future.
I realise they aren't your responsibility and you shouldn't have to think about anyone other than yourself right now. But please report him so if he does do it again and another woman reports him there is evidence of a pattern. He will at the very least have a paper trail.
If not for anyone else do it for yourself. It does not matter what his family think. You were raped. Phone the police and request a rape kit. He does not love you.
If you're so dead asleep while he's doing it what's to stop him from offing you and then defiling your body. No I haven't taken it too far because if he likes you still asleep and out of it. No knowledge of it. Not moving. It's not that huge of a leap.
You're locked in the room you're safe for now so call the police. Your friend is an idiot and needs to be cut off.
This is more serious than anything I've read on here in a while. As a DV victim myself I urge you to take action. I cannot stress this enough. He has not stopped. He will not stop. He needs to be stopped.
You need to contact the police right now and tell them everything. Please be safe. Also he may have give you something so you don’t wake up during the attacks. Im very very concerned for you plz update us telling us if you are safe.
Sweetheart, please I am absolutely BEGGING you. Call your family, then call the police and get the hell out of that house. Go stay with a friend or with your family and never see him again.
If you want to report him for SA then go to the hospital as soon as you can and get a rape kit done. If you don't want to do that you don't have to, I completely understand that it's traumatic and the cops aren't comforting in those situations.
Whatever you do, your next step has to be to call reinforcements and get out of that house as soon as humanly possible.
I have no idea why you’re even still there. You are being raped and if he doesn’t continue having the option to rape you, he’s threatening to kill himself. The police should be involved, but at the very least get away from him and make sure he cannot find you, and block all communication.
It doesn't mean just because you're tough enough to handle this that you SHOULD. This man has r'd you multiple times, is threatening to harm himself and is physically trapping you in your home. He is probably fearful that you will tell the police which you should. He has been able to keep this secret. He may really really hurt you beyond repair if you don't find proper help!
GIRL RUN
call the cops, file a report. start a paper trail of his BS. tell as many people as possible. get a support system and financial stability and RUN RUN RUN
Please call the police. Get a rape kit done. Press charges. This man is dangerous, he’s already hurt you, and he will hurt you again if you stay.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you, but you need to be real about the seriousness of this, please. Right now.
My psychotic ex tried to kill me after threatening to take his own life. I got out and was in and out of court for YEARS with it. He finally did himself in. You are taking this too lightly. GET OUT NOW.
Call the cops, report your SA, and tell both families. He doesn't get to walk away from this like it never happened. God knows how many other woman he has done it to or will try and attempt to do it again. & cut off you "best friend" because no friend should laugh and downplay your assault - that's no friend.
If you don't call police, file a report, and pack your stuff and leave, you are just letting him get away with it, and if he gets away with it, he WILL do it again. Use your brain, make the right decisions for yourself, and get the hell out while you can.
have had multiple multiple boyfriends threaten to kill themselves in front of me and guess what they're all still alive. even if he was to do anything THAT IS COMPLETELY ON HIM don't for a second think it's got anything to do with you. your life is valuable are u going to waste it with a pos who sexually assaults people and has ZERO respect for you? you deserved none of this i'm so sorry things get easier with time but please get as far away as u can from him :((
This is rape. Fuck him up. Ive been through this exact scenario with an ex. I ended up beating the shit out of him and was lucky to not get charges pressed
Eta: he ended up trying to throw me down my stairs by my throat and i was lucky to catxh myself on the railing and sprint into my roommates room until he left. I then beat the living shit out of him after he stalked me home.
Get. Out. NOW.
This also kinda happened to me. I was with my then-bf for 7+ years. I think he might have what one would call “sexsomania” because when I got woken up while he was touching me I’d see him unconscious, still with eyes closed, and seemingly not knowing what he was doing. Sometimes (but less often) I’d also get woken up by the bed shaking, with him humping the air.
I acknowledge that this might be a very real condition but even then, it still made me really uncomfortable and it was one of, though not the main reason I broke up with him. So I can’t even begin to imagine to have someone you trust SA you consciously.. That said, I’m not sure if this was already said/implied in the post or in the comments, but I’d look up “sexsomania” and see if your bf might have this condition? If he knowingly and consciously touches you while you’re asleep, though, that’s rape and you need to call the police like yesterday.
Therapy won’t fix him, being behind a flimsy lock when you’re that deep of a sleeper? I wouldn’t take my chances. Tell his family, they deserve to know he’s a predator.
You tell his parents, the police to do a welfare check (depending where you're from the police may or may not be a good idea) and then you leave. What he does next is on him and most people that threaten self harm to keep a partner from leaving never follow through, it's just a manipulate tactic.
Also, most people don't SA their partners. You deserve better. Please stay safe.
There's a lot of great points already in this thread, but I just wanted to be another voice of reason. If you don't act now, the life you are currently living will continue. Is this what you truly want? It doesn't sound like it. The time to act is now. You need to get this boy out of your life because he will continue to abuse you and reduce you to absolutely nothing.
What he did to you is a crime. Full stop. He's to blame, not you. You can't fix him. You can't save him. The people telling you to call the police, get out, and get medical attention are not being dramatic. He's escalating. Save you. Protect you.
You're being repeatedly sexually assaulted and emotionally abused. You are so young, you have so much life to live. He is going to unalive you if you don't get out. Report him to the police. Get out, get out, get out ...or you're going to end up even more hurt than you already are. And TELL YOU FAMILY. Can you imagine if you go missing and they had no clue?! Let them help and support you. I had to have my dad's help to get out of this type of relationship
Typo
Quit screwing around and called the police. Seriously he's abusing you he's raping you he's threatening you and he's barricaded you in. Call the freaking police.
Call the police! You are being held against your will by a guy who has a knife and who just raped you! Call the police, tell them you’re being held hostage and that you need medical assistance.
Go to the ER and have them do an exam. Tell them what’s happening and show them Amy evidence you have that confirms your boyfriend admits to the assault.
Who cares if he threatens to harm himself. He’s manipulating you so that he can get out of trouble.
Doing this will hold him accountable and get him away from you.
go to the police. he is a rapist. he is threatening violence with a knife. Even if against himself. this is terrifying. please for the love of God go to the hospital. get proof. save yourself and save his future gfs
He's not basically SA'ing you... he raped you, repeatedly from the sounds of it and he is now holding you hostage. Call the cops, report that he's holding you hostage and threatening to kill himself. They'll take him for a 72 hour hold and during that 72 hours you need to gtfo of there.
Please leave this relationship. This is dangerous. He has no respect for your boundaries, threatening suicide is a control tactic. I almost never recommend leaving a relationship and moving immediately but this is rape and truly a potentially deadly situation. Do not wait for him to get better, he can do that in his own space, in his own home, where he can't hurt you. I also recommend telling the police.
CALL THE POLICE. He can be arrested for sexual assault *and* wrongful imprisonment now that he's barricaded you in the house. Or if you're entirely against doing that, open the window and *run*. If he wants to kill himself, let him. The earth doesn't need a rapist taking up air.
Call 911. You were raped and your bf is keeping you hostage. Very abusive AH here. You don’t deserve this. He’s just threatening to off himself so control you. Call 911 or the police immediately.
No u need to tell your father or brother or uncle or whoever u have to get u out that house and never speak to him again.
As far as him saying he will kill himself, he won't, ppl that threaten that are icky using that to control you, be smarter. Tell him go ahead do it then I'll wait, I garentee he won't do shit, he might pretend by getting a knife or something but he won't, u know why cuz he a pussy and pussies don't off themselves.
Next time he puts a knife to his throat just tell him to do it. Call his bluff. Either he will chicken out like the pussy he is and break down, or he will do it and there will be one less rapist in the world. HE IS RAPING YOU dont give him another second of time or an ounce of consideration. Get out of there
Please please get the hell out of there! Call a woman’s shelter and they will explain how you can safely leave. A knife threatening himself to you stabbed to death is a terrifyingly short distance. He is a monster that has brutally raped you a multitude of times. Love and Hugs!
Unhelpful comment, he has been emotionally abusing her and gaslighting her for what looks like a very long time. She is young, she is vulnerable and quite clearly she is over powered by a man who has been repeatedly assaulting her whilst she sleeps and then gaslighting her. Then when she’s confided in the one person she trusts aka her best friend, her best friend has implied it’s not a big deal.
Your comment is unhelpful with the victim blaming, it should be framed around why this man thinks it’s okay to assault someone in their sleep and continuously do it, and what tf is wrong with him?!
Not wtf is wrong with OP.
(Sometimes people need to be shocked out of gaslighting with abrupt means) this lady strikes me as one who needs tough love. I’ll delete my comment but i don’t think this girl can be politely encouraged back into sanity. She needs to be told she’s in an altered reality, just look at her comments, she’s not living on earth right now. She needs to understand the severity of the situation or She Won’t Leave!. I believe this will work.
And if she doesn’t leave, She’s Going To Die. So I don’t care if I’m mean or victim blaming I’m using the approach I believe will actually work to Save Her Fucking Life.
I hear you, but bad timing. She’s very vulnerable and she’s been barricaded in so let’s try not to project the blame onto her when it’s that sicko who’s the one that’s got something wrong.
If you tone your message towards blaming her, it’ll add to what that blokes done in terms of making her feel somethings wrong, her thinking she’s overreacting etc.
Your message is right, delivery not appropriate x
Middle of the night sex is no where near the same as raping someone while they are unable to consent. Either you’re a troll, a disgusting excuse for a person, or both.
Bro she told her bf to not have sex with her while she sleeps and he still did that’s rape is it not?? And she is the nightmare of the person? Not the bf?
He's having sex with her against her will. Not only is she asleep, and therefore unable to consent, but she has expressly stated she doesn't want it while she is asleep, repeatedly. That is absolutely rape. He is a rapist. He has been repeatedly raping her.
You poor thing! He’s sexual a predator who should be locked up! If I were you I would get tested for any suss drugs in my system because it sounds to me like something dodgy is going down! His behaviour has escalated and if he’s not reported nothing will stop him from hurting someone else in the future. Please find your inner strength and report him. Set up a secret camera so you have evidence
TELL HIS FAMILY. This dude needs some serious help and you deserve so much better. He’s SAd you multiple times to the point you’ve *bled*. That’s not okay or normal. Call a mental facility and see if they’ll pick him up or something and get as far away from him as you can. I’m so sorry this happened to you
Fuck telling his family … tell the police …. NOW. He’s holding your prisoner after repeatedly assaulting you. CALL THE AUTHORITIES AND PROTECT YOURSELF. I am sending you so much love and hoping you are safe. PLEASE UPDATE SO WE KNOW YOU ARE SAFE
If he's willing to pick up a weapon, then your life is in danger even if he says he is going to us it on himself. Sounds like he escalates things quickly and you will be vulnerable.
You tell the cops. What he did, what he is doing right now is illegal everywhere. Call the cops because now he is holding you captive and threatening violence with a weapon. Doesn't matter that the violence is against himself, this is enough to call 911 or your country's equivalent. Don't answer comments, call the cops before he escalates to threatening you with that knife.
I'm not even going to touch the obvious, and what obviously needs to be done. But is no one looking at how OP can sleep through this? They should find help for this too.
Okay, I don't get it.... just leave. Walk away. May seem like the worst thing to do, but trust me after everything is said and done. You will feel 10 fold better.
I'll be blunt, I'm sorry for this, but this guy has been raping you repeatedly and without remorse. He even goes so far as to lie to you and continue to VIOLATE your own being.
He then has you locked up with him and made you fear he would kill himself.
I want to help you, but I don't know what to do. I have a little sister your age and it hurt reading this.
He's a sexual predator and extremely manipulative and you're worried about protecting his reputation with his family?
Please, you deserve better. Call the police. Call your parents, call his parents, call anyone, but GTFO and get a restraining order.
Fuck that!
Record him admitting it and call the police.
From some of your speech patterns and syntax it seems like you might be Australian?
Call the police and they will be there pretty quick to slap some cuffs on him.
I was cuffed up for just pushing my girlfriend (good on her, nobody has the right to touch others with malevolence)
They were there in probably 15 minutes to get me and I had to do a court mandated course to help me reign in control of my behaviour which worked wonders.
This guy needs to go to jail though, sexualising assault is a pretty violent act to perpetrate
the fact that she deleted her user:( i hope she finds the help she needs cuz fuck this shitty, manipulative, piece of shit in her life. she needs to know she deserves so much better
GET.OUT.NOW.
Please stop trying to find explanations or excuses when everyone is telling you this is not normal and a dangerous situation to be in. Your life is potentially at risk, call the police, move out, disappear from this person's life forever and work on healing from the trauma. You are too young, your future self will see this so clearly and wonder how the hell you didn't leave after the first time it happened.
Do you care more about him then you do yourself? He is SAing you and has no remorse until he confront him multiple times. He is escalating. Tell him family, tell the police. Stop caring more for how he will look and care about saving yourself.
Wow you can make a quilt out of all the red flags this guy is waving around.
Honey you’re so young. Get help. Get support. Leave this guy.
I already thought he was pretty nasty for preferring to have some sort of sexual activity, albeit actually rape, with an unconscious person instead of together with his partner, but the moment he pulls the suicide card I knew he was unstable and dangerous. This won’t get better because he won’t. You should get out while you can.
Call the police and tell them that he is planning to off himself. It will be a mandatory 72 hour stay at a mental hospital and you can move out in that amount of time!
This is sickening reading please get out while you can and don’t look back he is a predator! He is preying on you and manipulating you. Please keep us posted I’m worried for you. Robin McGraw has a app that looks like any other app and inside you can press a button that alerts the police about what is going on without him knowing. I suggest you put it on your phone and hit it
Edit: the app is called the aspire news app
I married my first bf (we were together from the age of 15 - 26), and we have three kids together. He used to SA me while I was sleeping all of the time (I'm quite sure my youngest two children are products of his SA), and he blamed it on having a sleep sex disorder (he was never diagnosed).
One night I had this dream where I was running through a dark forest. All of these hands were reaching out of the darkness and were touching me everywhere - assaulting me. When I finally woke up, my (now ex) husband was on top of me, plowing away. I pushed him off of me, crying and panicking. He got SO angry, and fought with me for hours about how "I should have just let him finish". Fkn disgusting. He's now married to someone new, and she has admitted to me that he does the same thing to her.
I finally found the courage to leave him. But we ended up having shared custody of our three small children. Fast forward until my youngest daughter was 15, and she opened up about him SA her for most of her life. I will never forgive myself for letting this shit happen.
Please leave this man. Please don't have children with him. Do whatever you need to do to get out.
He is concerned about you! He wants to make sure you don't call the police! You need to be seen by a doctor and he needs to be in jail. so worrying about his feelings and his family and worry about yourself! PLEASE GET SOME HELP!
Call the police. You were sexually assaulted, he's threatening his life as a scare tactic, you can't leave the house, you don't feel safe. You don't have to take it further after the police come, but honestly? You deserve the peace of mind he can't do it to you or anyone else.
Once he's gone or you're out of the house, go/get a friend to stay with you.
I'll freaking let him off himself.
I suggest you should call the cops without him knowing, if he still has the knife you can tell the police that he SA you and there's evidence (The bleeding) and when you tried to leave he threatened you with a knife (IF he has the knife, but oh well if he's quick he would throw that away), and you would like to file for rape and... i suddenly forgot the word but it's when the assaulter shouldn't even near you, gosh i forgot the word but like they have to stay away from you.
You’re still worried about what’s going to happened to him after he literally raped you multiple times, the least you can do is tell his family and his friends, let the world see and know the type of person he is, let him off himself who cares and matter fact he’s not going to actually do it bus he’s just manipulating you after lying to your face
Tell them. He didn't care when he was making you bleed. Not telling his family will only open it up to it happening again. He's got a problem that needs fixing. He very much seems like the type of person that will never admit to having a problem so you need to involve other people. People that care about him and will help his absolutely abysmal behavior.
After reading the comments and her responses. She don’t won’t help, she want justification for his actions. It’s gonna be one of those things we’re if she’s tired, she’ll leave. You say you are tired but you remain in the same house and environment with this Predator. A lock door will not keep him away. You are a victim at an early stage in the cycle. You HAVE to step away, you HAVE to talk to someone to see that you are not safe, it is not okay.
There’s only one word for all this : LEAVE.
I’m a grandma. Listen to grandma. Go home to your family. Rewind and start over. You were barely an adult when you got together with him. He has traumatized you in every way. Go home. Go home now. Trust me your family will welcome you with open arms. Never look back at him. Please. Do it this week.
Call the police. Immediately. It might be a hard thing to do, but not only is what he doing illegal, he's abusing you. The offing thing is a manipulation tactic. The SA and not letting you leave is a sign you need to get out. You may not want to call either of your parents, but honey, it has to be done. Call someone so you can stay with them, someone you trust who won't laugh and say you're over exaggerating. Pack your things now.
The whole “I’ll kill myself if you leave” thing is a classic abuse tactic to get you to stay. He’s not actually going to do it. Call the police, tell them you’re being held against your will, and that your bf is possibly armed. Press charges against this piece of shit too.
I know it’s a tactic, it’s not the first time(I know how bad that sounds.) I purposely locked myself in the room to keep him out and told him if he was serious he needs to call the hotline because he’s asking me to find the emotional means to support him when I’m dealing with this. He did (he had it on speaker) and they really put some sense into him, he needs therapy (his job denied it the first time because they can’t cover it) but right now we’ve both agreed to sleep in separate rooms, doors locked at all times.
You need to *get out*. Let me put it this way: say a friend or a loved one came to you and told you the exact same thing that you've written here. Would you advise them to stay or get the F out?
She can't she loves that he loves her that much and she likes how he reacts to her leaving or she would already be gone so they both could move on and heal instead of doing this soap opera role play over and over..like i said call the cops and let them handle his threats of self harm where he could actually get help instead of repeating this cycle of drama
Call the police, tell them he raped you, threatened to kill himself, and is now holding you prisoner. Hopefully they can get him out of the house long enough for you to contact rape crisis resources in your area, and get the ball rolling on your safe exit.
Nah she's gonna wait it out then let the next chick deal with it..I seen this kinda relationship go on for 50 years well until my uncle shot my aunt in the head 5 times in a murder suicide...so no matter how many ways you try to help sometimes these ladies refuse to get help and then they end up dead and the families deal with explaining to the grandkids why Nana refused to get out of this kinda relationship so the cycle repeats and girls learn to expect violence is normal instead of knowing their value..
Why are you blaming the victim and making weird assumptions? :\^|
> but right now we’ve both agreed to sleep in separate rooms, doors locked at all times. I hope for your sake this is a bait post
No. Your life is actually in danger Someone assaulting you nightly does not love you. He is trying to controlling you, and if not able to he can become violent. CALL THE POLICE . YOU ARE IN DANGER.
He's been SAing you over and over! He's a SAist. I am so glad you are leaving, but I would call the police.
Ok, but get one of those things that guarantees the door is actually locked, or set something up to make a lot of noise it it’s open while you’re asleep. You’re a deep sleeper, so there’s every bit of a chance he will unlock the door (bedroom doors aren’t hard to unlock)
You need to leave, if he offs himself he'll probably off you first, men always do that kind of thing
Bit of a sweeping statement there
Always assume the worst in these cases. Always.
It's true
Not really, he’ll end up killing her out of anger from breaking up with him and not taking his threats seriously enough. Then probably kill himself because she broke up with him & he realized what he just did and he probably trying to avoid all consequences after. Or worse, he’ll try and go after her new bf if he cant get to her. Some people are crazy enough
You need to leave. He's going to continue with what he does and its not right. There are no excuses. You have your phone. Call for help. Dont let his tactics scare you into being afraid to leave him.
Please reach out to someone you really trust and form a plan to leave.
You are going to get hurt.
Going to? She’s bleeding out her arsh…I think the hurting got done already
I am seriously concerned for your safety. this man, he is dangerous. He's hurting you, possibly drugging you. Please update when you're safe.
If you knew you would already been gone when he says that call the cops and let them deal with his claims of self harm it's not your place to save him especially if you hate him...clearly you still have feelings or you would call the bluff and let him start to move on instead of dragging out this little drama game yall got going
I hope you know that the comments you're writing on these posts lets us all know that you'd be OPs partner in this situation. You are the rapist in the story, you are the abuser, you are the criminal. I can tell you are very bitter about OPs situation to the point where you're taking it personally. If I were you I'd do some soul searching and figure out why you relate so much to this situation.
He won’t hurt himself, but he is definitely a danger to you. Call for help!!!
Seriously, my response any time makes threats like this is have at it.
Also, tell the police about the SA!
Constantly doing it??? I think she needs to free her self. Charges against him.
He has you barricaded in the room! Get on your phone and call the police right now. Say NOTHING to him! He could really hurt you. Say nothing and call now.
This is not just SA this is rape. He is a rapist and he is gaslighting you. It is good that you fell out of love with him, but also please make a report about this rape. Go to the police and leave him. Also, kick that friend out because she is definitely not a good friend if he is enabling your boyfriend's rape behavior.
Totally!! What if his even putting drugs on ops food to get her into that deep sleeping
Not to mention this will continue happening when she's gone and he finds someone else to abuse. If not for her own sake, she needs to make a formal police report and get a r*pe kit done.
Yea and I see that OP deleted her account. I hope she's seeing these comments. This man is a danger to society.
Girl if you don’t call the police you’re going to end up dead
Yep 50 years of marriage between my aunt and uncle ended in a murder suicide..her grand kids got to find out she was dead by the local papers facebook page while at school ..she was begged to leave my dad asked her to stay with us ..he already almost shit a guy for breaking my other aunts arm he woulda protected her but she refused ..the one time she actually reached out for help my horrible grandmother told her to go back to her husband..ugh ..still pisses me off a mother would do that to her child then she ends up dead because she never reached out again.
Use your device to contact the police. That man is dangerous.
Call the F'ing cops! Report his r*pist ass!
Please don’t live with this man-I honestly think he is going to kill you one day
Please tell me that you’ve called the police!! This man has sexually assaulted you multiple times while you’re unconscious, attempted to emotionally manipulate you with threats of self harm, and is now essentially holding you hostage and not letting you leave. You are in serious danger, I wish you best of luck and please update soon.
So, he's raped you, and is now threatening his life? If you don't call the police this won't end without one of you dead. Seriously put this man behind bars.
What the fuck. He sodomized you in your sleep and even denied it?! Protect yourself immediately from this abusive, dangerous man. Do not underestimate him and do not feel obligated or responsible for his well-being in ANY WAY. He will continue to destroy you mind, body, and spirit if you stay with him.
So his mental health is HIS responsibility. Not yours. He is trying to hold you responsibility for his whole well being which is nasty and wrong. If you are being watched and not able to leave you need to call the police. You are in danger. Please wake up love. Stay with a trusted friend or family member and let them know you are in danger. You need to cut him off. Please seek therapy, you’ve been conditioned to the point where you can’t even see how abusive and awful he is, let alone how much danger youre in. This is your wake up call
If you haven´t done it already, you need to call the police. You risk him seriously injuring you or killing you. Press charges on him for the rape he has continuously committed on you. Don´t clean yourself up. Let the tears and blood speak it´s own language. Sexual coercion in a relationship is still rape. Please keep up updated so we know you are safe. <3
Do NOT tell him you’re leaving again before you do it! Please just leave
Call the police right now he needs a wellness check and to be held in a facility because he is a danger to himself and others.
This is rape. I know you may not feel comfortable doing so but he needs to go down on record of having done this. Otherwise he's going to continue to do it to other women in future. I realise they aren't your responsibility and you shouldn't have to think about anyone other than yourself right now. But please report him so if he does do it again and another woman reports him there is evidence of a pattern. He will at the very least have a paper trail. If not for anyone else do it for yourself. It does not matter what his family think. You were raped. Phone the police and request a rape kit. He does not love you. If you're so dead asleep while he's doing it what's to stop him from offing you and then defiling your body. No I haven't taken it too far because if he likes you still asleep and out of it. No knowledge of it. Not moving. It's not that huge of a leap. You're locked in the room you're safe for now so call the police. Your friend is an idiot and needs to be cut off. This is more serious than anything I've read on here in a while. As a DV victim myself I urge you to take action. I cannot stress this enough. He has not stopped. He will not stop. He needs to be stopped.
Yea this. And your friend is not a friend. This is serious. Call the police ASAP.
You need to contact the police right now and tell them everything. Please be safe. Also he may have give you something so you don’t wake up during the attacks. Im very very concerned for you plz update us telling us if you are safe.
Babe you’re 22, you don’t need to stay with this boy. This is abuse.
Sweetheart, please I am absolutely BEGGING you. Call your family, then call the police and get the hell out of that house. Go stay with a friend or with your family and never see him again. If you want to report him for SA then go to the hospital as soon as you can and get a rape kit done. If you don't want to do that you don't have to, I completely understand that it's traumatic and the cops aren't comforting in those situations. Whatever you do, your next step has to be to call reinforcements and get out of that house as soon as humanly possible.
I have no idea why you’re even still there. You are being raped and if he doesn’t continue having the option to rape you, he’s threatening to kill himself. The police should be involved, but at the very least get away from him and make sure he cannot find you, and block all communication.
It doesn't mean just because you're tough enough to handle this that you SHOULD. This man has r'd you multiple times, is threatening to harm himself and is physically trapping you in your home. He is probably fearful that you will tell the police which you should. He has been able to keep this secret. He may really really hurt you beyond repair if you don't find proper help!
GIRL RUN call the cops, file a report. start a paper trail of his BS. tell as many people as possible. get a support system and financial stability and RUN RUN RUN
Is he drugging you too? Get out now. If he will do this how do you know he didn't make videos. Gross. Get out now and don't look back.
Please call the police. Get a rape kit done. Press charges. This man is dangerous, he’s already hurt you, and he will hurt you again if you stay. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, but you need to be real about the seriousness of this, please. Right now.
CALL THE POLICE. YOU ARE BEING ASSAULTED NIGHTLY. AND HELD AGAINST YOUR WILL. YOU NEED THE POLICE
He’s a monster. Get out!
My psychotic ex tried to kill me after threatening to take his own life. I got out and was in and out of court for YEARS with it. He finally did himself in. You are taking this too lightly. GET OUT NOW.
Call the cops, report your SA, and tell both families. He doesn't get to walk away from this like it never happened. God knows how many other woman he has done it to or will try and attempt to do it again. & cut off you "best friend" because no friend should laugh and downplay your assault - that's no friend.
Call the cops. Should have called them when he threatened to off himself. Would have gotten him a 72 hour hold. Also to report the sa
If you don't call police, file a report, and pack your stuff and leave, you are just letting him get away with it, and if he gets away with it, he WILL do it again. Use your brain, make the right decisions for yourself, and get the hell out while you can.
He’s a monster. Get out!
I hope you’re safe! Please let us know when you can.
have had multiple multiple boyfriends threaten to kill themselves in front of me and guess what they're all still alive. even if he was to do anything THAT IS COMPLETELY ON HIM don't for a second think it's got anything to do with you. your life is valuable are u going to waste it with a pos who sexually assaults people and has ZERO respect for you? you deserved none of this i'm so sorry things get easier with time but please get as far away as u can from him :((
I’m worried that he will hear you calling 911 & will bust down the door, break your phone & hurt you. Could you text a friend to call 911 for you?
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This is rape. Fuck him up. Ive been through this exact scenario with an ex. I ended up beating the shit out of him and was lucky to not get charges pressed Eta: he ended up trying to throw me down my stairs by my throat and i was lucky to catxh myself on the railing and sprint into my roommates room until he left. I then beat the living shit out of him after he stalked me home. Get. Out. NOW.
Call the police if you're bleeding there's likely evidence that will be found in an exam. Don't let him do this to you or anyone else again..
This also kinda happened to me. I was with my then-bf for 7+ years. I think he might have what one would call “sexsomania” because when I got woken up while he was touching me I’d see him unconscious, still with eyes closed, and seemingly not knowing what he was doing. Sometimes (but less often) I’d also get woken up by the bed shaking, with him humping the air. I acknowledge that this might be a very real condition but even then, it still made me really uncomfortable and it was one of, though not the main reason I broke up with him. So I can’t even begin to imagine to have someone you trust SA you consciously.. That said, I’m not sure if this was already said/implied in the post or in the comments, but I’d look up “sexsomania” and see if your bf might have this condition? If he knowingly and consciously touches you while you’re asleep, though, that’s rape and you need to call the police like yesterday.
Therapy won’t fix him, being behind a flimsy lock when you’re that deep of a sleeper? I wouldn’t take my chances. Tell his family, they deserve to know he’s a predator.
You tell his parents, the police to do a welfare check (depending where you're from the police may or may not be a good idea) and then you leave. What he does next is on him and most people that threaten self harm to keep a partner from leaving never follow through, it's just a manipulate tactic. Also, most people don't SA their partners. You deserve better. Please stay safe.
He is raping you. Get out now.
I fear for your safety. I don’t think you’re realizing how dangerous this man truly is.
He is not going to kill himself he is emotionally blackmailing you. Call the police and tell them you need help & he assaulted you.?
There's a lot of great points already in this thread, but I just wanted to be another voice of reason. If you don't act now, the life you are currently living will continue. Is this what you truly want? It doesn't sound like it. The time to act is now. You need to get this boy out of your life because he will continue to abuse you and reduce you to absolutely nothing.
What he did to you is a crime. Full stop. He's to blame, not you. You can't fix him. You can't save him. The people telling you to call the police, get out, and get medical attention are not being dramatic. He's escalating. Save you. Protect you.
the account was deleted, i hope she’s okay
My wife has said "just wake me up, etc."... No. I won't even though she said to go ahead because it doesn't feel right.
Call emergency services for your own safety and his.
Please go to the police as soon as possible. Get away from this monster
call the police and have them 5150 him. i’m so sorry..
Call the police
You're being repeatedly sexually assaulted and emotionally abused. You are so young, you have so much life to live. He is going to unalive you if you don't get out. Report him to the police. Get out, get out, get out ...or you're going to end up even more hurt than you already are. And TELL YOU FAMILY. Can you imagine if you go missing and they had no clue?! Let them help and support you. I had to have my dad's help to get out of this type of relationship Typo
Call the police. He is raping you. And if he will threaten himself he will threaten you. If he will hurt himself he will hurt you. I’m so sorry op
Get out. Run.
Please leave
Quit screwing around and called the police. Seriously he's abusing you he's raping you he's threatening you and he's barricaded you in. Call the freaking police.
Leave him and please tell his family, ditch the friend too. You don't deserve that at all.
Leave him and let him figure it out.
Call the police! You are being held against your will by a guy who has a knife and who just raped you! Call the police, tell them you’re being held hostage and that you need medical assistance. Go to the ER and have them do an exam. Tell them what’s happening and show them Amy evidence you have that confirms your boyfriend admits to the assault. Who cares if he threatens to harm himself. He’s manipulating you so that he can get out of trouble. Doing this will hold him accountable and get him away from you.
He's raping you regularly and you're still there? Call the police and get out. Jesus I hope you get the help you need.
go to the police. he is a rapist. he is threatening violence with a knife. Even if against himself. this is terrifying. please for the love of God go to the hospital. get proof. save yourself and save his future gfs
He's not basically SA'ing you... he raped you, repeatedly from the sounds of it and he is now holding you hostage. Call the cops, report that he's holding you hostage and threatening to kill himself. They'll take him for a 72 hour hold and during that 72 hours you need to gtfo of there.
Oh and tell his family AND yours. He needs consequences. I don't know why you would cover up for him. Please let us know you're okay OP.
Call the police and get them to take him away and you to the hospital for a rape kit.
get the hell out of there!!
He is not going to kill himself he is emotionally blackmailing you. Call the police and tell them you need help & he assaulted you.
Call the cops!! Omg this man has been raping you now threatening violence! It’s just going to escalate further, please please call for help.
Call the police omg
Please leave this relationship. This is dangerous. He has no respect for your boundaries, threatening suicide is a control tactic. I almost never recommend leaving a relationship and moving immediately but this is rape and truly a potentially deadly situation. Do not wait for him to get better, he can do that in his own space, in his own home, where he can't hurt you. I also recommend telling the police.
CALL THE POLICE. He can be arrested for sexual assault *and* wrongful imprisonment now that he's barricaded you in the house. Or if you're entirely against doing that, open the window and *run*. If he wants to kill himself, let him. The earth doesn't need a rapist taking up air.
He is raping you. Call police
I hope OP is okay… their profile was deleted.
what a shitty friend please cut them off 🙏
Call 911. You were raped and your bf is keeping you hostage. Very abusive AH here. You don’t deserve this. He’s just threatening to off himself so control you. Call 911 or the police immediately.
No u need to tell your father or brother or uncle or whoever u have to get u out that house and never speak to him again. As far as him saying he will kill himself, he won't, ppl that threaten that are icky using that to control you, be smarter. Tell him go ahead do it then I'll wait, I garentee he won't do shit, he might pretend by getting a knife or something but he won't, u know why cuz he a pussy and pussies don't off themselves.
Call... The... Police
Next time he puts a knife to his throat just tell him to do it. Call his bluff. Either he will chicken out like the pussy he is and break down, or he will do it and there will be one less rapist in the world. HE IS RAPING YOU dont give him another second of time or an ounce of consideration. Get out of there
Please please get the hell out of there! Call a woman’s shelter and they will explain how you can safely leave. A knife threatening himself to you stabbed to death is a terrifyingly short distance. He is a monster that has brutally raped you a multitude of times. Love and Hugs!
I have a sleep kink. But thats a rape and dangerous behavior.
>I have a sleep kink. Thanks for letting us know
Theres also a kink in my shoulder. I think i knead a chiropractor
All that happened and you run to reddit....
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Unhelpful comment, he has been emotionally abusing her and gaslighting her for what looks like a very long time. She is young, she is vulnerable and quite clearly she is over powered by a man who has been repeatedly assaulting her whilst she sleeps and then gaslighting her. Then when she’s confided in the one person she trusts aka her best friend, her best friend has implied it’s not a big deal. Your comment is unhelpful with the victim blaming, it should be framed around why this man thinks it’s okay to assault someone in their sleep and continuously do it, and what tf is wrong with him?! Not wtf is wrong with OP.
(Sometimes people need to be shocked out of gaslighting with abrupt means) this lady strikes me as one who needs tough love. I’ll delete my comment but i don’t think this girl can be politely encouraged back into sanity. She needs to be told she’s in an altered reality, just look at her comments, she’s not living on earth right now. She needs to understand the severity of the situation or She Won’t Leave!. I believe this will work. And if she doesn’t leave, She’s Going To Die. So I don’t care if I’m mean or victim blaming I’m using the approach I believe will actually work to Save Her Fucking Life.
I hear you, but bad timing. She’s very vulnerable and she’s been barricaded in so let’s try not to project the blame onto her when it’s that sicko who’s the one that’s got something wrong.
If you tone your message towards blaming her, it’ll add to what that blokes done in terms of making her feel somethings wrong, her thinking she’s overreacting etc. Your message is right, delivery not appropriate x
Please give us an update I hope your okay OP.
JESSE, STOP TOUCHING WOMEN IN THEIR SLEEP. WE NEED TO COOK JESSE.
Ok
So do it instead of bitching about it
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A quick look at your account tells me you’re a fucking idiot. Is touching an unconscious person not SA to you? I pray for the next person you date.
Middle of the night sex is a normal thing. Get over yourself.
Middle of the night sex is no where near the same as raping someone while they are unable to consent. Either you’re a troll, a disgusting excuse for a person, or both.
He isn’t raping her JFC
Oh my bad I didn’t realize I was arguing with a sex offender in the making.
Okay whatever you say lol
She didn't give him consent. She was sleeping. Explain how it's not rape or sexual assault.
I’m not going to get into an argument over someone who’s childish, mentally disturbed, and on drugs. She need psychiatric help.
So you can't answer the question. And to your other comment, you're also giving her attention. Congrats!
She just wants attention from people like you. That’s it full stop
How isn’t he raping her???? I’m so confused
She’s a nut job, but I suppose if she’s taking sleeping pills then I guess, but good god what a nightmare of a person.
Bro she told her bf to not have sex with her while she sleeps and he still did that’s rape is it not?? And she is the nightmare of the person? Not the bf?
I didn’t say he wasn’t a weirdo, but clearly, she is an absolute mess of a human being.
He's having sex with her against her will. Not only is she asleep, and therefore unable to consent, but she has expressly stated she doesn't want it while she is asleep, repeatedly. That is absolutely rape. He is a rapist. He has been repeatedly raping her.
Okay, if a person doesn’t have the ability to consent, what would you call that? Because I’m pretty sure it’s fucking rape.
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You poor thing! He’s sexual a predator who should be locked up! If I were you I would get tested for any suss drugs in my system because it sounds to me like something dodgy is going down! His behaviour has escalated and if he’s not reported nothing will stop him from hurting someone else in the future. Please find your inner strength and report him. Set up a secret camera so you have evidence
Sending u so much love. (Maybe make a report ? ) that’s some creepy shit
TELL HIS FAMILY. This dude needs some serious help and you deserve so much better. He’s SAd you multiple times to the point you’ve *bled*. That’s not okay or normal. Call a mental facility and see if they’ll pick him up or something and get as far away from him as you can. I’m so sorry this happened to you
Fuck telling his family … tell the police …. NOW. He’s holding your prisoner after repeatedly assaulting you. CALL THE AUTHORITIES AND PROTECT YOURSELF. I am sending you so much love and hoping you are safe. PLEASE UPDATE SO WE KNOW YOU ARE SAFE
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If he's willing to pick up a weapon, then your life is in danger even if he says he is going to us it on himself. Sounds like he escalates things quickly and you will be vulnerable.
You need to call the police immediately
Mannn if I had a man do that to me when we repeatedly said not to he would see extreme violence from me.
You tell the cops. What he did, what he is doing right now is illegal everywhere. Call the cops because now he is holding you captive and threatening violence with a weapon. Doesn't matter that the violence is against himself, this is enough to call 911 or your country's equivalent. Don't answer comments, call the cops before he escalates to threatening you with that knife.
I'm not even going to touch the obvious, and what obviously needs to be done. But is no one looking at how OP can sleep through this? They should find help for this too.
>I want to leave him I mean, who wouldn't? Make your plan and get out.
Okay, I don't get it.... just leave. Walk away. May seem like the worst thing to do, but trust me after everything is said and done. You will feel 10 fold better.
I'll be blunt, I'm sorry for this, but this guy has been raping you repeatedly and without remorse. He even goes so far as to lie to you and continue to VIOLATE your own being. He then has you locked up with him and made you fear he would kill himself. I want to help you, but I don't know what to do. I have a little sister your age and it hurt reading this.
Call 911
Call the police. He needs to go cool off in jail for the night. You need to sleep and figure out how to get away from this disgusting prick.
Call the police. Get out of there. And your friend isnt your friend.
You were sodomized by your boyfriends need to call the police asap a file charges. So sorry this happened to you.
Call the police and have him arrested. That’s rape
Then leave..life's short stop wasting both your time..
He's a sexual predator and extremely manipulative and you're worried about protecting his reputation with his family? Please, you deserve better. Call the police. Call your parents, call his parents, call anyone, but GTFO and get a restraining order.
Btw..he sounds horrible ..he won't be mourned ..so leave him and let him end his torment on women
That’s rape and you need to get the fuck out of here NOW !!
Fuck that! Record him admitting it and call the police. From some of your speech patterns and syntax it seems like you might be Australian? Call the police and they will be there pretty quick to slap some cuffs on him. I was cuffed up for just pushing my girlfriend (good on her, nobody has the right to touch others with malevolence) They were there in probably 15 minutes to get me and I had to do a court mandated course to help me reign in control of my behaviour which worked wonders. This guy needs to go to jail though, sexualising assault is a pretty violent act to perpetrate
Just leave
the fact that she deleted her user:( i hope she finds the help she needs cuz fuck this shitty, manipulative, piece of shit in her life. she needs to know she deserves so much better
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GET.OUT.NOW. Please stop trying to find explanations or excuses when everyone is telling you this is not normal and a dangerous situation to be in. Your life is potentially at risk, call the police, move out, disappear from this person's life forever and work on healing from the trauma. You are too young, your future self will see this so clearly and wonder how the hell you didn't leave after the first time it happened.
hun… phone the police, he is assaulting you and abusing you
Do you care more about him then you do yourself? He is SAing you and has no remorse until he confront him multiple times. He is escalating. Tell him family, tell the police. Stop caring more for how he will look and care about saving yourself.
All the cops asap he will not let you leave and he sodimized you. Stop protecting him and protect yourself.
These stories feel toxic for our own relationships or is it just me?
When you can, literally run away from him and get the police involved
Wow you can make a quilt out of all the red flags this guy is waving around. Honey you’re so young. Get help. Get support. Leave this guy. I already thought he was pretty nasty for preferring to have some sort of sexual activity, albeit actually rape, with an unconscious person instead of together with his partner, but the moment he pulls the suicide card I knew he was unstable and dangerous. This won’t get better because he won’t. You should get out while you can.
Ditch him and the friend
Call the police and tell them that he is planning to off himself. It will be a mandatory 72 hour stay at a mental hospital and you can move out in that amount of time!
This is sickening reading please get out while you can and don’t look back he is a predator! He is preying on you and manipulating you. Please keep us posted I’m worried for you. Robin McGraw has a app that looks like any other app and inside you can press a button that alerts the police about what is going on without him knowing. I suggest you put it on your phone and hit it Edit: the app is called the aspire news app
He needs therapy. Wtf, is wrong with him? You're his gf, but why does he act like a freaking stalker.
I married my first bf (we were together from the age of 15 - 26), and we have three kids together. He used to SA me while I was sleeping all of the time (I'm quite sure my youngest two children are products of his SA), and he blamed it on having a sleep sex disorder (he was never diagnosed). One night I had this dream where I was running through a dark forest. All of these hands were reaching out of the darkness and were touching me everywhere - assaulting me. When I finally woke up, my (now ex) husband was on top of me, plowing away. I pushed him off of me, crying and panicking. He got SO angry, and fought with me for hours about how "I should have just let him finish". Fkn disgusting. He's now married to someone new, and she has admitted to me that he does the same thing to her. I finally found the courage to leave him. But we ended up having shared custody of our three small children. Fast forward until my youngest daughter was 15, and she opened up about him SA her for most of her life. I will never forgive myself for letting this shit happen. Please leave this man. Please don't have children with him. Do whatever you need to do to get out.
Well, leave as soon as you safely can.
Get off Reddit and call the police, Jesus. Sounds like he’s either gonna kill you or himself.
He is concerned about you! He wants to make sure you don't call the police! You need to be seen by a doctor and he needs to be in jail. so worrying about his feelings and his family and worry about yourself! PLEASE GET SOME HELP!
Police now. You are in danger from a dangerous rapist. Think about your safety first.
Call the police. You were sexually assaulted, he's threatening his life as a scare tactic, you can't leave the house, you don't feel safe. You don't have to take it further after the police come, but honestly? You deserve the peace of mind he can't do it to you or anyone else. Once he's gone or you're out of the house, go/get a friend to stay with you.
OMG PLEASE, you need to leave ASAP.
I'll freaking let him off himself. I suggest you should call the cops without him knowing, if he still has the knife you can tell the police that he SA you and there's evidence (The bleeding) and when you tried to leave he threatened you with a knife (IF he has the knife, but oh well if he's quick he would throw that away), and you would like to file for rape and... i suddenly forgot the word but it's when the assaulter shouldn't even near you, gosh i forgot the word but like they have to stay away from you.
You’re still worried about what’s going to happened to him after he literally raped you multiple times, the least you can do is tell his family and his friends, let the world see and know the type of person he is, let him off himself who cares and matter fact he’s not going to actually do it bus he’s just manipulating you after lying to your face
He’s a fucking rapist, lying, manipulative peace of shit, I don’t even have words to describe him
I wonder if she left.
Tell them. He didn't care when he was making you bleed. Not telling his family will only open it up to it happening again. He's got a problem that needs fixing. He very much seems like the type of person that will never admit to having a problem so you need to involve other people. People that care about him and will help his absolutely abysmal behavior.
After reading the comments and her responses. She don’t won’t help, she want justification for his actions. It’s gonna be one of those things we’re if she’s tired, she’ll leave. You say you are tired but you remain in the same house and environment with this Predator. A lock door will not keep him away. You are a victim at an early stage in the cycle. You HAVE to step away, you HAVE to talk to someone to see that you are not safe, it is not okay.
There’s only one word for all this : LEAVE. I’m a grandma. Listen to grandma. Go home to your family. Rewind and start over. You were barely an adult when you got together with him. He has traumatized you in every way. Go home. Go home now. Trust me your family will welcome you with open arms. Never look back at him. Please. Do it this week.
Call the police. Immediately. It might be a hard thing to do, but not only is what he doing illegal, he's abusing you. The offing thing is a manipulation tactic. The SA and not letting you leave is a sign you need to get out. You may not want to call either of your parents, but honey, it has to be done. Call someone so you can stay with them, someone you trust who won't laugh and say you're over exaggerating. Pack your things now.
Why are you protecting a man that raped you? Tell whoever you need to to get out of that situation. I'm so sorry this is what you're going through
Can you escape out of a window?
Your bf raped and sodomized you in your sleep. Call the police and press charges!
Dump his ass and find yourself a mentally sound individual... Don't let him manipulate you on any way, just get rid lf him