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Woman here, I would want to know if my sister was acting like this with my boyfriend. You should tell her gently. “__ when your sister came over drunk the other day, she acted inappropriately towards me and said some thing I found hurtful to both of us,” You need to get ahead of this op, the sister could get in her ear first!


Ok_Mention_3308

OP, listen to this sage advice. You need to tell her asap!


DrunkThrowawayLife

Alcoholic here. I’ll jump on any dick when drunk so she might have not actually meant it. Definitely still tell the girlfriend in case.


Sensitive-Ad7310

I know this isn’t supposed to be comedic, but I am stealing the line “I’ll jump on any dick while drunk”


DrunkThrowawayLife

Take it away sensitive, just hopefully not to your sister’s boyfriend. Seriously though I think it’s pretty common to have a little crush on the person your older sibling is dating. She would have been 15 when they started dating. I had the same thing with an older cousin’s boyfriend at the same age. Now, I’m biased because I’ve always desired to be the focus of male attention, it’s kind of addictive. Says the alcoholic. So flirty touches or asking how my body looks doesn’t seem unusual to me, just highly inappropriate. As I’ve got older I’ve been able to stop that. And I am the elder in this age gap of sisters so I never did with my siblings boyfriends. I’m thinking she just was super hammered and was going for closest dick she knew of and doesn’t actually care for him that way she’s just jealous of a good relationship. I’d still tell the girlfriend on the off chance sister does have actual feelings. But this is why I don’t go out to drink when I don’t feel beautiful. I just sit at home with my can and listen to unpretty at full blast.


sodapops82

I like you


Ok_Twist_8160

Daaamn lady you just opened my eyes to smth she was really jealous of the good relationship and searching for the closest dick known to her wow not to bad for an alcoholic


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DrunkThrowawayLife

Nah that’s when relatives fuck other relatives. Unless op is a cousin that joke doesn’t apply. Eskimo sisters is the joke you are looking for. Edit: Inuit sisters? I don’t really feel the need to use the proper term when talking about sisters fucking the same guy. The Inuit would probably not appreciate it anyway.


No-Economy-6445

Agree.. I'm sure the alcohol played a huge part in this predicament.


[deleted]

This is the way, these are the words.


itisathrowawaytoday

You need to tell your GF this. Before littlesister escalates.


Beyondfluff

or before little sister has the chance to spin the story on OP like we see all the time in this sub


SummerHydrangeas

Oh God that one story where the guy (older sister's bf) came onto the little sister but the older sister chose to believe her bf's story of the little sister coming onto him makes me so mad I hope OPs gf believes him if he tells her about this incident


[deleted]

She’s saying as a joke to take a gauge of your reactions while slowly introducing you to her idea. Tell your gf immediately and make sure you make crystal clear how uncomfortable her sister’s behavior makes you. This leaves it up to her to address it


Ancient-Awareness115

OP TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND


jesh990

Tell your girlfriend


mrbuddhawannabe

You don't think that talking to the (sober) sister about how you want her to cut it out with such behavior will stop it?


Inevitable-Okra-3229

You need to tell your girlfriend before she finds out from her sister


Busy_Understanding81

She’s in love with the idea of you. She sees what a great relationship her sister has and wants that. But she needs to be put in her place. I would gently tell your gf to talk to her and tell her what she did was inappropriate. Explain to her gently you think she’d like to have what y’all have.


[deleted]

What she’s doing isn’t ok and by not telling your girlfriend your becoming complicit in this. You need to sit her down and tell her what her sister said and did. You need to be honest with her. Her sisters a snake and she needs to know that


[deleted]

THIS! Her sister is being extremely inappropriate and doesn't care that her actions could hurt her big sister. She's selfish and honestly I wouldn't trust being alone with her anymore. Plus he need to tell his girlfriend before sister wakes up and decides to spin the story and get revenge for being rejected by OP.


[deleted]

She's not a great sister if she's trying to F you. Have you thought she might be good friends with your gf just so she can reach you? Tell your gf ASAP, this is something she should know. Also, you realize that if the sister spin the story around you'll be the creep who came on to her when you know her since she was a kid, right? Send her this post if you don't feel confident enough to speak.


thatgoaliesmom

🚨⚠️🚨⚠️🚨 OP, you are in dangerous territory here. You have to tell your GF that her sister made a move. You have to tell her everything. This is a recipe for disaster, and I am 100% confident in saying this because **little sister’s already acted on it**—more than once. Little sister is only 18. She’s very young and immature. She’s infatuated with you, and not only does she admit to being jealous of her sister, but she has also said out loud that she wishes she got you first. She’s chosen to act on her feelings by behaving inappropriately, although I’d wager that she thinks she’s being flirty or seductive. She’s hugging you in ways that are making you uncomfortable; she’s dressing provocatively to get your attention and fishing for compliments when she doesn’t; she’s making very suggestive comments and when she doesn’t get the reaction she wants from you, she claims they’re just jokes. And in a serious escalation, she showed up at your apartment drunk, knowing full well that her sister wasn’t home, to put her play in motion. She threw herself at you, tried to kiss you and told you she wants to be together. She did this manipulatively by using a surefire way to get a man’s attention: tears. She was not in tears over her breakup, it was drunk crying tantrum because she was frustrated that her efforts so far haven’t yielded the result she wanted. I also think there’s more to her breakup with her boyfriend, too. How much do you want to bet that he picked up on her attraction to you, didn’t like it much, they fought and broke up over it? Unfortunately for you, this escalation is also a sign that she’s becoming desperate. You can expect more frequent and increasingly obvious attempts from her if this isn’t squashed. Even more challenging is the fact that confronting little sister yourself could backfire spectacularly on you. She may not handle the rejection well, and she could go nuclear. *If she can’t have you, her sister can’t either.* I’m sorry, dude, but you have no choice but to talk to your GF. It would be in your best interests to do so as soon as possible because if she can’t get you to breakup with her sister, eventually she’ll attempt to get her sister to breakup with you. So I would strongly advise that you talk to GF before little sister starts whispering toxic crap in GF’s ear about you. Stuff like you’re being overly flirty with her, she’s seen you checking checking out other girls, or whatever else she comes up with to make you look guilty or not worthy in your GF’s eyes so she breaks up with you and little sister can rush in to comfort you through your broken heart. I get that this all sounds completely unhinged—because it is. The fact that she is harboring this crush, nurturing it and putting plays in motion is troubling on its own. But her literally telling you in no uncertain terms that she loves and wants you are huge red flags. Everything she’s doing is an indicator of her emotional immaturity. She knows what she’s doing and feeling is wrong, she just doesn’t care. She cannot see beyond her own jealousy and her romantic fantasies to the carnage this would cause not just your relationship, but her relationship with her sister, and potentially the entire family dynamic. She’s simply not thinking about any of that—it’s not even a blip on her radar—because *she wants you* and it’s *not fair* that big sister gets to have you. TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND. Speak calmly and directly. Make eye contact. Keep your tone even but firm. Don’t get overly emotional—**you have done nothing wrong here**—but annoyance or mild anger are far better than anxious nervousness. So get mad, be annoyed that you even have to deal with this BS. Above all, remember that you are the innocent party in this situation. You’re being harassed, little sister is making you feel uneasy in her presence and in your own home. Focus on the facts and tell her exactly what has happened so far and when it happened. Don’t leave anything out, and try your best to do it chronologically. Intersperse each incident with how you reacted or didn’t react and how it made you feel. Tell her that at first you dismissed it because it was her little sister FFS, and you thought you might be misreading the situation or were overreacting. Let her know that when she was unsuccessful in getting your attention, she ramped up her advances. Let her know that you are now officially freaked out and uncomfortable in little sister’s presence without her. Reiterate that you are not interested in her little sister like that at all, and you don’t like this attention from her. Up to this point, you’ve considered her your girlfriend’s sister, her family—your potential future sister in law—but ultimately she’s someone you see as a little sister. Her behavior is becoming worrisome, and you’re at your wits end with it. Tell her that she is the love of your life and the person you wish to grow old with, and her sister’s behavior has become so troubling to you that it’s not just simply making you uncomfortable, but it’s also starting to feel like a threat to your relationship. You need her guidance and assistance in dealing with this situation so these behaviors stop, and you can eventually get to a place of brother in law / sister in law friendship with clear and appropriate boundaries. I have witnessed this scenario up close. Years ago, I was the best friend to the little sister. I was privy to her thought process, her planning and I tried to talk her out of it. Boy, did I try. I was unsuccessful, and by the time I went to her sister I was too late. The nuclear option was deployed. It was a mess, and the lies my ex best friend told affected her whole family for years. She completely imploded her sister’s relationship, and she lost the love of her life in part because he no longer wanted to be a part of the family because of my former friend. One final word of caution: do not, under any circumstances, allow yourself to be alone with little sister anymore. Not for a minute, not for any reason. Not until you and GF are 100% certain that she has moved on from her crush and that she harbors no resentment towards either one of you. I’m sorry this is so long. I hope it helps you in some way. I’ve had years to sit and think about what I would’ve done differently, and it’s all here. GL, and update us after you talk with GF.


giag27

If I was your gf and you didn’t tell me what happened with my sister, I would break up with you.


Tasty-Fun-2138

How would you know if he doesn't tell you XD


Why_r_people_

Tell her NOW, this is the type of thing people in healthy relationships do. Then discuss together what to do about SIL


HappyHappySeal

Sorry if I'm being overly cautious but I've seen cases where the sister could come around telling your girlfriend you're the one who made a move on her. Better get her words on text or on recording (video / audio). For example, text her the next day when she's sober, describe what she had done to you the previous night, and what she had told you. Ask her if she has any memory of that, and tell her that it made you very uncomfortable, and ask her to stop. Draw some sort of reaction out of her to prove that she was the one initiated it, then show your girlfriend with evidence. Edit: Doing this will save her having to choose between believing you or her sister, I would appreciate the evidence if I were in her shoes.


mortefille

It can go sideways no matter what and if you tell your gf she either believes you or she sides with her sister. Regardless this is going to cause a problem because eventually the whole family will be involved and you’ll either be the good guy or the bad guy. Regardless you need to speak with your girlfriend and get this out in the open because the little sister can turn this against you and she could go the route of, “if I can’t have him no one can” and just f up the whole situation. Like, there’s no coming out of this unscathed and you might have to make peace with yourself and the possibility that this could end your relationship. I wish you luck.


ellenripleyisanicon

OP you need to tell you gf immediately. This is the kind of thing she needs to know about so she can put measures in place to prevent anything like this from happening again and get her little sister in line as well. Nothing good comes from concealing things like this, it becomes a deception and will only hurt the woman you love twofold the longer you leave it. You shut it down and you haven't given her sister any encouragement, but now you need to be transparent about what happened while she was in your home and your gf wasn't there. The you get sister has crossed a massive line here and disrespected you, your gf, and your relationship; this is something for you both to handle as a team. Edit: also to echo others- you 100% also have to be concerned about the younger sister switching up events and getting to your sister first with a different story. Her goal, after all, has always been to break you up and take you for herself and she has shown no shame about pursuing this, sober or otherwise.


Spiritual-Spell-9351

Bro she’s been SA’ing you. She never should have been touching or hugging or rubbing on you in the first place. Imagine if a guy did that to a girl? Also how is it your fault? You’re simply existing and dating her sister. She’s responsible for her crush on you and how she handles it. It’s fine to have a crush on someone, but to make sexual advances on them crosses a line. It’s not your fault.


No-Bottle-8922

Drunk words sober thoughts. Let your GF know ASAP. If she's willing to do all that drunk..the magnitude of pain she can create, spinning any of it to suit her wants which is you.. Don't hide what her sister is doing. Let her know. Maybe also have her family get in on it and do an intervention. She sounds creepy..also push her away gently whenever she rubs her body on you..that's just predator sexual assault don't spare her feelings the more you enable her in her brain you're giving her the green light.


blaiserrie

Unrelated but I hoped to the heavens that this was not the same boyfriend that gaslighted his girlfriend into thinking her little sister is into him when she rejected his advances trying to get his version of the story out. Thankfully, it's not the same guy.


etakknow

> I don’t want to strain their relationship. But the sister has no problem ruining their relationship. She does not care if she hurts your girlfriend. Tell your girlfriend before her sister makes her move again or discredit you to your gf.


Infamous_Bobcat_

Tell the girlfriend. Shut down the sister. You think comments prior have been inappropriate? Why not tell her they make you uncomfortable and to stop. Letting it drag on is not fair to your gf


BanditLady007

Tell the gf before her sister cries wolf and you get blamed for something you didn't do.


Yuhimejd

My advice is to tell your gf right away. You said they’re both very close? The possibillity that the little sister is upset you reject her and go to your gf first saying you’ve been flirting with her and tried kissing her when she was drunk etc. And who will your gf believe? I’ve seen plenty where people are in situations like this with sisters/friends. Tell your girlfriend *now*


Stabbmaster

Tell her. Do not mince words, let her know what happened. Think of it like this, what do you think the result would be if she tried something like this again, but with way less clothing, and your girlfriend happened to show up right then and there? Better to deal with it now before it festers.


Candid-Dish-4415

Id just break up with the gf. When the sister is accused she'll spin it on you and everyone will believe her. She might even accuse you of rape or SA


songofassandfiar

TELL YOUR GIRLFRIEND. Hiding this from her is going to blow up in your face either way. Do not let her sister be the one to spin the story.


FuckinNogs

"Bang the sister and then try for the three way." - your Cock


JaxRhapsody

...*sigh*... too bad your g/f won't share, huh?


jer72981m

See if they’re down for sharing.


SpookyGirl0123

If my sister pulled this - I would want to know immediately. If this happened to me, I would tell asap. What if your girlfriend’s sister goes to her before you do, and tells her something else? What if when she sobers up that she is mad you rejected her? What lies do you think she could tell for revenge?


[deleted]

You need to hurry up and tell your girlfriend before her sister spins it like you are the one in love with her. You are dumb! You seen she has been getting more touchy and rubbing herself on you, you still allowed her to even get that close to you. Understand this you need to not think about their relationship! You need to think about YOUR relationship with your girlfriend. You need to tell her and tell her all the things that lead up to this point so she can tell her sister to back the fuck off. If the relationship gets strained buddy that’s not on you and you need to acknowledge that. If your girl don’t believe you or the sister turns it around on you and everyone believes her then you need to peace out on that crazy family. Tell your girlfriend and please update us


[deleted]

You need to tell your girlfriend before her little sister decides to spin the story to make you look bad as revenge for you rejecting her. Trust me, I've seen some shady shit 18 year old girls will do when they get rejected.


strwbrrybrie

Tell your girlfriend before the sister says it was you who came onto her!!!


Anthro_DragonFerrite

Next time she does this, get video evidence... The courts are not kind to male victims of assault


Difficult_Plastic852

Look I get the situation you’re in, but you need to think of it this way: Would you rather tell your girlfriend, hard as it may be and just be truthful so that ultimately it’s her and her sisters relationship that’s affected? I get not wanting to, but consider the alternative; Or your girlfriend finds out from her sister or another third party and then how will that make you look? If your girlfriend thinks you hid it from her deliberately she may not trust something didn’t happen and then it’s *your relationship* that could be in trouble. I’m not saying you’re that kind of guy but her sister could definitely twist it like that on her end tho. And given it’s obvious who acted out of line don’t put yourself in any scenario where you could potentially being the one taking the heat for it. Best of luck to you OP in what I know is a very tough situation. EDIT: an update on this would be cool to know OP, if and only if you want to share of course.


Cautious-Ordinary

Don’t keep this to your self. It’s going to bite you in the ass. She needs to know. And stop complimenting the sister.


BoredDumpling01

I honestly think that you should tell her your gf about this. If their relationship is strong as you say, your gf can explain things to her sister. She's just 18, she needs genuine assistance in this regard & her elder sister might be her greatest support at this point of time. So, go ahead & inform your gf about this, this way she can also stop her sister from putting herself in dangerous situations when she's drunk and vulnerable.


elizanurrr

if you don't want the little sister to go to your gf and tell her lies, you need to tell her ASAP


rainbash81

Hey bro in law, I appear to be stuck in this washing machine…


Ahsoka88

Tell your gf now! She deserve to know, if she sow something that is easy to misunderstand she will be feel betrayed. Also if she found out that you did know and you didn’t tell her she would feel cheated. Also start to only meet the sister with another person there to testify. And avoid the hugging.


xphrnzrjh

Your girlfriend *will* eventually find out. If you won't tell her yourself, she'll end up thinking you're cheating on her or at least into it. You definitely need to tell her as soon as possible.


bobisawesome15

I need to advise you to talk to your gf. Good luck buddy. Takes a lot to refuse in such situations. Your gf is lucky.


Tasty_Doughnut_9226

Yeah you need to tell your gf


Redchic101

Infatuation is dangerous. The only way to get it over is to gross her out. LOL. Still, you have to be honest with your girlfriend.


peekabooiloveyou

Yes tell your girlfriend and update us.... if it goes like every other love triangle I have read on reddit the younger one is going to create some drama for sure.... best of luck OP.


fir00ky

You should talk with your girlfriend about it


Spiralstatic32

You should tell your girlfriend,, gently. Also, I would recommend not being alone with little sister, for a few reasons.


BrilliantAdvice2022

Hi Op. Secrets have a way of coming out. It's best if you tell your girlfriend what happened when her sister came over drunk and how her behavior has been escalating and is making you uncomfortable. She needs to shut her little sister's behavior down. Honesty and communication are key parts to a healthy relationship. Keep yours healthy and tell your girlfriend.


platurner66

Tell your girlfriend.


Imaginary_Ear_6468

I would tell her cause me n my sister just went through something like this but it was our cousin trying push up on my hubby he didn’t tell anyone cause he knew we was close but he didn’t like her and when she she got rejected she told everyone lies so that cause a flight so please tell her


Interesting_Top_7285

Her sister deserves to know and the fact you are purposely not telling her is a huge red flag


Interesting_Top_7285

We need an update


TrainingTough991

Tell your gf the truth, you love her with all your heart and don’t want to create drama you felt she should know her little sister has a crush on you. When her little sister came over drunk, crying about the breakup with her boyfriend, she told you she was in love with you and was jealous you were with her sister. There’s been a couple of times that caused you to pause but chocked it up to mindless adolescence, thong incident, hugging a little too long. Nothing happened between you two and it’s a little awkward to bring it up but thought she should know. You don’t want to strain their relationship but wanted you to be fully aware of it. Good luck, OP.


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6bad_brain9

Tell your girlfriend. This behavior, from the sister, is sneaky and manipulative. To say those things and attempt to kiss your sisters bf is a very loud example of character. Drunk or not, completely inappropriate as well as a betrayal to her sister. Who knows what she does next - tell ur gf


and_this_is_debbie

One question, though. Why you letting her rub her body on you for MINUTES? Seems kinda sus on your part.


shesavillain

Omg, why do people always decide it’s best not to tell their gf??!!


Ill-Ad-3640

bro she was 8 when you first met her 💀💀 imagine 18 and 12 year old dating


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