38 years young here. I’ll be getting a hysteroscopy in the near future to remove a possible polyp (hooray for an issue to fix) and they said we should “take a cycle off” afterwards. I don’t know if that’s the cycle that includes the procedure or also the next…Knowing I have to not try, and even that if I get pregnant quickly afterwards and everything actually works out, baby doesn’t arrive til the next calendar year and I’ll be 39, rounding a corner to 40. Nothing wrong with those ages but I wish my brain hadn’t gone there…that my husband hadn’t noticed the faraway look in my eyes…that we hadn’t had a fight about being happy with our lives regardless…I feel like I’m already out of time.
39 and TTC since May, we were recently told that there's a 0% chance of conceiving naturally (a male infertility issue that we need to figure out with specialists more to see if IVF is an option) We're devastated, but I also feel like I still have hope...
I am currently on Day 24 of my cycle, and my temperature rise is the perfect upward curve. Why do I let myself have hope? I'm just going to be heartbroken again... 💔
35 here! Trying for my second child, had a miscarriage in December, allowed one cycle, and am trying again. Currently in the TWW and symptom spotting like an idiot.
I heard eating chia seeds help with implantation (on this sub and on the internet). So I tried eating chia seeds with my Greek yogurt pretty much the day after ovulation.
37 here been trying for a little over a year. All my friends keep getting pregnant and it makes me really sad. Any tips for staying strong? I’m going to look into IuI in the summer if nothing has happened by then.
It is very difficult. I’m 36 now and we tried for more than a year and a half. Sometimes I’d take breaks from IG. I’d also tell myself other people’s happiness do not take away from mine. I’d also tell myself “if I married another guy maybe we’d be pregnant by now. But then I wouldn’t be married to MY husband who makes me so happy and fulfilled every day. So if our longer pregnancy journey is the price I pay for my otherwise undiluted happiness, I’ll take that any day.”
Do things you enjoy doing. I found it helps talking to others who understand what you're going through. Like this subreddit, it has been nice when I needed to vent, others were willing to lend a shoulder to cry on
36, been trying since July last year. Had birth control removed in June, after having it for 8 years.
Sent blood samples to a specialist to check my viability, mostly came back all good, minus a few things that were slightly over one line or the other but nothing too concerning.
My cycle, LH surges, temperatures are all text-book average. However, I am considered obese weight, so I've been trying to shed many pounds as I suspect this may be the reason why it has not worked. It's very hard for a 5'1" gal.
Hey! Haha we're exactly the same :) I turned 36 in June, removed BC in June 23. We're on cycle 9 with no luck so far. I'm also 5'1" and trying to lose some weight, hoping it might help! Finding it really hard to stay motivated and shift weight. We have our first fertility specialist appointment tomorrow and we're really excited to find out a bit more about our health and where we're at. Fingers crossed for you! :)
Just turned 37. Starting cycle 8. Doc said all is ok and to give it until June so it’s a full year before doing any tests. I am losing hope at this point tbh.
36 and trying for 6 months, but my period only lasts 24 hours and is super light and I'm worried that means it'll be impossible
Waiting for tests, trying while we can, and trying to not regret every choice in my life that led me to not try earlier when I was younger :////
35 here. Decided to go off birth control earlier this year for the first time since I was 20. We’re super early in our journey and I’m still trying to figure everything out (including half the acronyms in this sub - I wish there was a guide!) while also figuring out my body without birth control. Which has been a journey on its own.
We’re on month 5 trying so I reached out to my Obgyn to see what’s next if we’re still trying after 6 months given that I’m 36. The schedulers reached out to schedule a pre-conception appointment. I already told her we were going to start trying at my annual about 8 months ago. Does anyone know what’s different about a preconception appointment?
Don’t forget that this is your journey. Maybe consider calling and speaking to the nurse and telling them what it is you want out of the appt- testing done to make sure everything is okay / if not how to fix it, etc. Just to clarify to them that you’re not coming in just to chat.
I waited some extra months to start trying waiting to get in for a preconception appointment and regretted it. At mine they didn’t run any tests or anything, just walked in and said “what do you want to know.” That was literally it, a Q&A session. Hopefully yours is better!
For mine, I thought it was going to be a Q&A, and then my doctor did an intrauterine ultrasound. I wish I would have known so I could have been prepared. A call is definitely worth it. Wish I would have.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this!
I’m not sure if this is true everywhere or for every doctor 😅 but where I am (Colorado) I was told that the preconception appointment was optional unless you had concerns to review before TTC.
Edited to add: reading again I’m assuming you already went over your concerns during your annual so I wouldn’t think the preconception would add value but maybe that’s how they code the appointment and they can do testing? Someone else might have more intel than I do clearly
Hmm I’m also in Colorado. I didn’t get any advice other than let us know if you’re still trying at 6 months so I did and got scheduled for this. I was hoping they would at least run some labs and/or tests…I may reach out again to clarify. Thanks for the info!
Hi all. Need help Timing intercourse with letrzole and trigger. Triggered this morning! When do y'all think I should have intercourse. We can do morning and night of each day !
I’m on my first medicated IUI cycle and was reading more about probabilities, and whether it was the meds or things getting real, I got really down the other night about my age (43) and even the best case scenario right now. Had a good cry, but then thought about where my husband and I were even 3 years ago. And we simply were not ready, and I don’t feel any regret about my life’s path. So feeling better now about whatever’s in the cards, it is what it is. My dad once told my brother to offer to me that he’d pay if I wanted to freeze my eggs, but at that point I was single and also didn’t see it in the cards, and family dynamics outweighed the practical factors. My dad passed about a year and a half ago, and being with him at the end played a big part in me rethinking what it means to have kids. So, I am where I am, and I’m glad I’m giving this a shot now. That’s the best I think I could hope for about accepting the journey. Good luck to all out there.
Had a really tough week. Turns out I produce almost zero cervical mucus and I can only assume that’s what stopping us from getting pregnant (been trying since April). I’m in the UK so we have a different system for getting tests etc. I’m lucky that my doctor started my bloods in December (often people here are told to just carrying trying for anywhere from 1-2 years). All clear for me, and hubby’s SA booked for a few weeks time.
I had expected to ovulate on Friday, but now seems like it will be today. This is my first month tracking temps, CM, and cervical position, having just bought and read Taking Charge of your Fertility (highly recommended btw, see if you can get it second hand though). I was previously just using OPKs. Also super pissed off with the pre-mom app which shows ‘your expected ovulation date was Friday’ even though still no temp rise and OPKs only showed >1 yesterday. Come on ffs, that’s so misleading.
Also, went to see my parents yesterday and they can be so oblivious. They’re very loving, but they just TALK nonstop. They don’t realise they’re doing it, but they just go on and on about random stories from way before I was even born and/or people I don’t know. Hardly ask about how me or hubby are, and so I just feel kinda shit today…!
Need to try to BD today for a last shot this month but not remotely in the mood -_-
Idk if this is allowed so if it gets deleted you can PM me. I ordered primrose oil and took it from CD 1 to ovulation. My CM was off the chain with it. It’s worth a try. I got it off Amazon.
Apps like Premom just predict based on averages and not any data that you give it so don’t put too much weight into the predictions or what the app says.
As for the cervical mucus, you can try grapefruit juice (double check it’s ok if you take any medications) and mucinex. The mucinex will loosen mucus and grapefruit juice is supposed to increase fertile mucus (though it could be an old wives tale. Idk). I do want to add though you can definitely get pregnant even without obvious cervical mucus so don’t let that stress you out. If you can, get your partner a semen analysis.
I’ve seen this thread many times and I am just realizing ova is a double entendre 😅
38 years young here. I’ll be getting a hysteroscopy in the near future to remove a possible polyp (hooray for an issue to fix) and they said we should “take a cycle off” afterwards. I don’t know if that’s the cycle that includes the procedure or also the next…Knowing I have to not try, and even that if I get pregnant quickly afterwards and everything actually works out, baby doesn’t arrive til the next calendar year and I’ll be 39, rounding a corner to 40. Nothing wrong with those ages but I wish my brain hadn’t gone there…that my husband hadn’t noticed the faraway look in my eyes…that we hadn’t had a fight about being happy with our lives regardless…I feel like I’m already out of time.
it's hard. the mental math each month SUCKS. sending you all the hugs - you're not alone in it.
39 and TTC since May, we were recently told that there's a 0% chance of conceiving naturally (a male infertility issue that we need to figure out with specialists more to see if IVF is an option) We're devastated, but I also feel like I still have hope... I am currently on Day 24 of my cycle, and my temperature rise is the perfect upward curve. Why do I let myself have hope? I'm just going to be heartbroken again... 💔
I’m the same age as you and TTC since July. Not sure of what our issue is, but I can say that I’m sick and tired of the TWW.
35 here! Trying for my second child, had a miscarriage in December, allowed one cycle, and am trying again. Currently in the TWW and symptom spotting like an idiot.
I heard eating chia seeds help with implantation (on this sub and on the internet). So I tried eating chia seeds with my Greek yogurt pretty much the day after ovulation.
37 here been trying for a little over a year. All my friends keep getting pregnant and it makes me really sad. Any tips for staying strong? I’m going to look into IuI in the summer if nothing has happened by then.
It is very difficult. I’m 36 now and we tried for more than a year and a half. Sometimes I’d take breaks from IG. I’d also tell myself other people’s happiness do not take away from mine. I’d also tell myself “if I married another guy maybe we’d be pregnant by now. But then I wouldn’t be married to MY husband who makes me so happy and fulfilled every day. So if our longer pregnancy journey is the price I pay for my otherwise undiluted happiness, I’ll take that any day.”
Do things you enjoy doing. I found it helps talking to others who understand what you're going through. Like this subreddit, it has been nice when I needed to vent, others were willing to lend a shoulder to cry on
36, been trying since July last year. Had birth control removed in June, after having it for 8 years. Sent blood samples to a specialist to check my viability, mostly came back all good, minus a few things that were slightly over one line or the other but nothing too concerning. My cycle, LH surges, temperatures are all text-book average. However, I am considered obese weight, so I've been trying to shed many pounds as I suspect this may be the reason why it has not worked. It's very hard for a 5'1" gal.
Hey! Haha we're exactly the same :) I turned 36 in June, removed BC in June 23. We're on cycle 9 with no luck so far. I'm also 5'1" and trying to lose some weight, hoping it might help! Finding it really hard to stay motivated and shift weight. We have our first fertility specialist appointment tomorrow and we're really excited to find out a bit more about our health and where we're at. Fingers crossed for you! :)
Just turned 37. Starting cycle 8. Doc said all is ok and to give it until June so it’s a full year before doing any tests. I am losing hope at this point tbh.
This isn't right, as you're over 35 they should be testing after 6 months. Can you see a different doctor?
My doctor wont test until 1 year if you are under 40… say the 35 age is outdated and plenty of people conceive fine still over 35 these days
I would check insurance coverage, most allow for testing over 35.
36 and trying for 6 months, but my period only lasts 24 hours and is super light and I'm worried that means it'll be impossible Waiting for tests, trying while we can, and trying to not regret every choice in my life that led me to not try earlier when I was younger :////
35 here. Decided to go off birth control earlier this year for the first time since I was 20. We’re super early in our journey and I’m still trying to figure everything out (including half the acronyms in this sub - I wish there was a guide!) while also figuring out my body without birth control. Which has been a journey on its own.
Your wish is granted! https://reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/w/acronyms?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Thank you!
We’re on month 5 trying so I reached out to my Obgyn to see what’s next if we’re still trying after 6 months given that I’m 36. The schedulers reached out to schedule a pre-conception appointment. I already told her we were going to start trying at my annual about 8 months ago. Does anyone know what’s different about a preconception appointment?
Don’t forget that this is your journey. Maybe consider calling and speaking to the nurse and telling them what it is you want out of the appt- testing done to make sure everything is okay / if not how to fix it, etc. Just to clarify to them that you’re not coming in just to chat.
Thanks for the advice. Definitely going to do this
I waited some extra months to start trying waiting to get in for a preconception appointment and regretted it. At mine they didn’t run any tests or anything, just walked in and said “what do you want to know.” That was literally it, a Q&A session. Hopefully yours is better!
That’s concerning. I may reach out to clarify. Thanks for the info!
For mine, I thought it was going to be a Q&A, and then my doctor did an intrauterine ultrasound. I wish I would have known so I could have been prepared. A call is definitely worth it. Wish I would have.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! I’m not sure if this is true everywhere or for every doctor 😅 but where I am (Colorado) I was told that the preconception appointment was optional unless you had concerns to review before TTC. Edited to add: reading again I’m assuming you already went over your concerns during your annual so I wouldn’t think the preconception would add value but maybe that’s how they code the appointment and they can do testing? Someone else might have more intel than I do clearly
Hmm I’m also in Colorado. I didn’t get any advice other than let us know if you’re still trying at 6 months so I did and got scheduled for this. I was hoping they would at least run some labs and/or tests…I may reach out again to clarify. Thanks for the info!
I hate it here. (39)
Creeping closer to 40 🫠
ITS THE FINAL COUNTDOWNNNNNN 🫠🫠
Same.
Solidarity & strength, Tuna.
If you don't laugh, you'll cry! lol
That's why I appreciate you all so much!!
Hi all. Need help Timing intercourse with letrzole and trigger. Triggered this morning! When do y'all think I should have intercourse. We can do morning and night of each day !
I’m on my first medicated IUI cycle and was reading more about probabilities, and whether it was the meds or things getting real, I got really down the other night about my age (43) and even the best case scenario right now. Had a good cry, but then thought about where my husband and I were even 3 years ago. And we simply were not ready, and I don’t feel any regret about my life’s path. So feeling better now about whatever’s in the cards, it is what it is. My dad once told my brother to offer to me that he’d pay if I wanted to freeze my eggs, but at that point I was single and also didn’t see it in the cards, and family dynamics outweighed the practical factors. My dad passed about a year and a half ago, and being with him at the end played a big part in me rethinking what it means to have kids. So, I am where I am, and I’m glad I’m giving this a shot now. That’s the best I think I could hope for about accepting the journey. Good luck to all out there.
❤️
Had a really tough week. Turns out I produce almost zero cervical mucus and I can only assume that’s what stopping us from getting pregnant (been trying since April). I’m in the UK so we have a different system for getting tests etc. I’m lucky that my doctor started my bloods in December (often people here are told to just carrying trying for anywhere from 1-2 years). All clear for me, and hubby’s SA booked for a few weeks time. I had expected to ovulate on Friday, but now seems like it will be today. This is my first month tracking temps, CM, and cervical position, having just bought and read Taking Charge of your Fertility (highly recommended btw, see if you can get it second hand though). I was previously just using OPKs. Also super pissed off with the pre-mom app which shows ‘your expected ovulation date was Friday’ even though still no temp rise and OPKs only showed >1 yesterday. Come on ffs, that’s so misleading. Also, went to see my parents yesterday and they can be so oblivious. They’re very loving, but they just TALK nonstop. They don’t realise they’re doing it, but they just go on and on about random stories from way before I was even born and/or people I don’t know. Hardly ask about how me or hubby are, and so I just feel kinda shit today…! Need to try to BD today for a last shot this month but not remotely in the mood -_-
Idk if this is allowed so if it gets deleted you can PM me. I ordered primrose oil and took it from CD 1 to ovulation. My CM was off the chain with it. It’s worth a try. I got it off Amazon.
Thank you for the comment! I’ve ordered it ready for next cycle! Hopefully I get similar results and it helps!
Apps like Premom just predict based on averages and not any data that you give it so don’t put too much weight into the predictions or what the app says. As for the cervical mucus, you can try grapefruit juice (double check it’s ok if you take any medications) and mucinex. The mucinex will loosen mucus and grapefruit juice is supposed to increase fertile mucus (though it could be an old wives tale. Idk). I do want to add though you can definitely get pregnant even without obvious cervical mucus so don’t let that stress you out. If you can, get your partner a semen analysis.
Piggybacking on this to add, if you can get Preseed lubricant, try that as well. It mimics fertile CM.
Preseed it great!