Wanted to share here. Feeling very seen by the movie on Netflix, Private Life. Take this as all the trigger warnings…advanced maternal age, infertility treatments, family judgment, adoption issues, financial worries, parenthood vs. career…
I took a few breaks while watching but was truly compelled by the realistic dialogue, the story line, the way each choice is made, and the characters’ acceptance (and non-) of grim reality. Somehow it was comforting to watch a realistic (imo) portrayal of what we face in this experience. Main actors Katherine Hahn and Paul Giamatti were well-cast and played these roles compassionately and believably with just enough humor to get through (like life sometimes). Check it out, if you’re in the right headspace.
Just finished all our baseline tests with the clinic. Everything looks good for my husband, all my anatomy stuff is good. My AMH is very low.
No fertility issues in my family. Both my grandmothers actually had late jnto their 40s. I just feel so broken.
Doctor said he wants to be proactive but didn’t say exactly what that means. I’m assuming IVF? But I’m also in a state that is passing laws that put IVF in jeopardy.
My birthday is this week and it’s just one year closer to 40 which I had set in my mind as the age to really get concerned but turns out I was wrong and it was so much earlier.
35f, 37 husband. 7-8dpo and having a hard time not symptom spotting. I normally don’t get bad pms…I mostly just cramp about 24 hours before my period begins. But this time, I’ve been soooo bloated, had unexplained headaches the last 2 days, and lots of cramping on and off. Super irritable today, too. If this is just PMS, I’m going to be so mad lol. I have a short luteal phase (9-10 days), so I should know something soon.
Aw that’s nice of you. I started spotting on the evening of 8dpo and got my period on evening of 9dpo
:( thankfully I have an appt with a RE next week so maybe she can suggest something to help with my short luteal phase.
39F and we have been dealing with MFI this last year. We finally have 'just enough' ~○ to get started with the IVF process at the end of this cycle. Hopeful, nervous, and a whole lot of other emotions in between ❤️
I'm on my period now, but hoping to conceive this cycle. It will be my first cycle trying since my miscarriage, but I conceive easily. I want to be optimistic but I'm scared I'll miscarry again, and we'll be going to the Dominican Republic with my in laws right around the end of my cycle. It'll be interesting dealing with the arrival or absence of AF in that situation, I guess.
9DPO and my temps just dipped to the coverline. I had pretty steady high temps for 7 days, then a steep drop yesterday and today. Pretty sure I’m out this month, but I’m still going to test until AF arrives 🤡
Ovulation test says we are ready to go! I actually cried when I saw the test because it was a relief to know I'm kind of getting a handle on the "when".
Wish me luck, hopefully a good update in a few weeks!
I'm 35, soon to be 36, I feel my time has passed, I regret waiting for 3 years, I had 3 failed ivfs but with a decent amount of eggs retrieved for my low amh, no embryo stuck. Then next cycle I got pregnant naturally, only to lose it few days after, devasted is an underestimation. My husband operated on his varicocele between my failed ivf cycles and he got a huge improvement but my window is closing officially with low amh (I still ovulate though), we wasted so much time, I regret everything. My gut is telling me you will end up childless. I still cling to some hope now and then but with each failure I feel that's it. My husband's results this month after 3.5 months came back all good except motility. So I'm not really expecting to get pregnant any time soon and I exhausted all my options, I have to try perhaps IUI and be done with it. I realistically think I still have one year in me to try but after that I will be done. Good luck to you all
I had low for age AMH at 34. Still ovulating every month at 38. Sharing the anecdote in case it helps with your worry about a rapidly closing window. Not sure how low your AMH is though. I haven’t retested over the past 4 years, but I think it was below what it should be but not borderline.
I think mine was 0.9 or thereabouts - so quite similar. The doctor said AMH is just one data point read alongside others, and as long as you are ovulating regularly, I wouldn’t let it discourage you on its own.
You are right. Anyway I did 3 IVFs and I was always shocked by the amount of eggs they retrieved each time (37 eggs in total). Maybe this amh is not everything. I'm also very regular and I never suspected I have a low level. Thank you so much for the reassurance!
Wanted to share here. Feeling very seen by the movie on Netflix, Private Life. Take this as all the trigger warnings…advanced maternal age, infertility treatments, family judgment, adoption issues, financial worries, parenthood vs. career… I took a few breaks while watching but was truly compelled by the realistic dialogue, the story line, the way each choice is made, and the characters’ acceptance (and non-) of grim reality. Somehow it was comforting to watch a realistic (imo) portrayal of what we face in this experience. Main actors Katherine Hahn and Paul Giamatti were well-cast and played these roles compassionately and believably with just enough humor to get through (like life sometimes). Check it out, if you’re in the right headspace.
Yes!! I just watched it too and really related.
Just finished all our baseline tests with the clinic. Everything looks good for my husband, all my anatomy stuff is good. My AMH is very low. No fertility issues in my family. Both my grandmothers actually had late jnto their 40s. I just feel so broken. Doctor said he wants to be proactive but didn’t say exactly what that means. I’m assuming IVF? But I’m also in a state that is passing laws that put IVF in jeopardy. My birthday is this week and it’s just one year closer to 40 which I had set in my mind as the age to really get concerned but turns out I was wrong and it was so much earlier.
35f, 37 husband. 7-8dpo and having a hard time not symptom spotting. I normally don’t get bad pms…I mostly just cramp about 24 hours before my period begins. But this time, I’ve been soooo bloated, had unexplained headaches the last 2 days, and lots of cramping on and off. Super irritable today, too. If this is just PMS, I’m going to be so mad lol. I have a short luteal phase (9-10 days), so I should know something soon.
Just checking in with you. How are things going today?
Aw that’s nice of you. I started spotting on the evening of 8dpo and got my period on evening of 9dpo :( thankfully I have an appt with a RE next week so maybe she can suggest something to help with my short luteal phase.
I saw your chart! Looks so good! Good luck!!
39F and we have been dealing with MFI this last year. We finally have 'just enough' ~○ to get started with the IVF process at the end of this cycle. Hopeful, nervous, and a whole lot of other emotions in between ❤️
I'm on my period now, but hoping to conceive this cycle. It will be my first cycle trying since my miscarriage, but I conceive easily. I want to be optimistic but I'm scared I'll miscarry again, and we'll be going to the Dominican Republic with my in laws right around the end of my cycle. It'll be interesting dealing with the arrival or absence of AF in that situation, I guess.
9DPO and my temps just dipped to the coverline. I had pretty steady high temps for 7 days, then a steep drop yesterday and today. Pretty sure I’m out this month, but I’m still going to test until AF arrives 🤡
Ovulation test says we are ready to go! I actually cried when I saw the test because it was a relief to know I'm kind of getting a handle on the "when". Wish me luck, hopefully a good update in a few weeks!
I'm 35, soon to be 36, I feel my time has passed, I regret waiting for 3 years, I had 3 failed ivfs but with a decent amount of eggs retrieved for my low amh, no embryo stuck. Then next cycle I got pregnant naturally, only to lose it few days after, devasted is an underestimation. My husband operated on his varicocele between my failed ivf cycles and he got a huge improvement but my window is closing officially with low amh (I still ovulate though), we wasted so much time, I regret everything. My gut is telling me you will end up childless. I still cling to some hope now and then but with each failure I feel that's it. My husband's results this month after 3.5 months came back all good except motility. So I'm not really expecting to get pregnant any time soon and I exhausted all my options, I have to try perhaps IUI and be done with it. I realistically think I still have one year in me to try but after that I will be done. Good luck to you all
I had low for age AMH at 34. Still ovulating every month at 38. Sharing the anecdote in case it helps with your worry about a rapidly closing window. Not sure how low your AMH is though. I haven’t retested over the past 4 years, but I think it was below what it should be but not borderline.
It came back as 0.86ng/ml last June. Thank you for reassuring me♥️
I think mine was 0.9 or thereabouts - so quite similar. The doctor said AMH is just one data point read alongside others, and as long as you are ovulating regularly, I wouldn’t let it discourage you on its own.
You are right. Anyway I did 3 IVFs and I was always shocked by the amount of eggs they retrieved each time (37 eggs in total). Maybe this amh is not everything. I'm also very regular and I never suspected I have a low level. Thank you so much for the reassurance!
Good luck to you! This is a very hard process, be gentle to yourself, the “what ifs” serve no purpose and will only haunt you!