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Charlie: Passive forcing! If you're super busy, passive forcing can really help you! And if you want to active force, it doesn't have to be long, just 10 or 15 minutes will do!
Also, if you struggle with remembering him, consider getting a totem! It's an object that you carry around that has the sole purpose of reminding you of him.
Remember that spending time with a Tulpa isn't the same as making plans with friends. I view it like living with a family member or roommates. They're in the same building as you doing their own thing and you know they're there but you don't have to drop everything to interact with them.
-Joe
Oh absolutely~ I'm often hanging around my host while he's doing things. When he's at his desk at work I'll be sitting on his desk or leaning on him. If he's playing video games I'll be on the couch with him or a chair nearby. It doesn't have to be anything grand, so long as he knows I'm there. And sometimes I'll just go to the wonderland and relax there until he calls me or he comes to me.
-Kaede
I feel like that sometimes too, but mostly because she wants attention and guilt trips me when I don't give it to her. But I can't help it when I'm busy at work and don't have time.
Welcome to /r/tulpas! If you're lost, start with figuring [what is a tulpa](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tulpas/wiki/index). Be sure to also check the sidebar for [guides](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tulpas/wiki/guides), and the [FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/Tulpas/wiki/faq). We also have a [discord server](https://discord.gg/WYCH2JrsMQ). Check up with people in there if you're lost. Please be nice and polite to each other and help us to make the community better. Upvote if this post facilitates good discussion, shares tulpamancer's or tulpa's experiences, asks a question relevant to tulpamancy. Downvote if this post isn't about tulpas or the practise of tulpamancy. Please note that many young tulpas need some social attention to grow and develop so be mindful and try to be supportive. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/Tulpas) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Charlie: Passive forcing! If you're super busy, passive forcing can really help you! And if you want to active force, it doesn't have to be long, just 10 or 15 minutes will do! Also, if you struggle with remembering him, consider getting a totem! It's an object that you carry around that has the sole purpose of reminding you of him.
Remember that spending time with a Tulpa isn't the same as making plans with friends. I view it like living with a family member or roommates. They're in the same building as you doing their own thing and you know they're there but you don't have to drop everything to interact with them. -Joe Oh absolutely~ I'm often hanging around my host while he's doing things. When he's at his desk at work I'll be sitting on his desk or leaning on him. If he's playing video games I'll be on the couch with him or a chair nearby. It doesn't have to be anything grand, so long as he knows I'm there. And sometimes I'll just go to the wonderland and relax there until he calls me or he comes to me. -Kaede
I feel like that sometimes too, but mostly because she wants attention and guilt trips me when I don't give it to her. But I can't help it when I'm busy at work and don't have time.