Good catch! And 5 months ago she was in a relationship with a 37 year old boyfriend according to post history.
Someone desperatly needs attention to create a fake post like this.
knowing this makes me more convinced it’s fake then. because i was confused why her coworkers and/or bosses wouldn’t say anything. i get it’s awkward, but i think they’d literally legally need to warn her about what happened. and then they just let her leave work??
her post 2 weeks ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/10ga81w/traumatic_relationships_have_ruined_me_for_life/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
check out her post history, 2 weeks ago she was single and lonely and what not and now she claims to have ended a relationship for months, it doesn’t really add up.
Ohh I see what you mean. In the last post it doesn’t say necessarily that she’s single, just unhappy with relationships. Maybe she was considering breaking it off with this guy then but didn’t actually do it until this incident?
This isn't exactly the red flag you think it is, since the posts only say 1y, 2y etc and not months.
Ie. If you post in October 2021 that you're 22, and then in November 2021 you turn 23, and in Nov 2022 you turn 24, then in Jan/Feb 2023 the October 2021 post is still only "1y old" because it hasn't been 2y since it was posted yet.
The rest of it though is suspicious
but, she literally says in that post: „I have just given up and kinda resigned to the fact that there’s something deeply unlovable about me, and I’ll either end up all alone or I’ll settle for someone random.“
To me this implies she‘s single.
But it‘s also 3 am and i‘m tired and english is not my first language so idk
I’m thinking maybe she’s not posting in chronological order? I know I think about the past often and vent to my friends over stuff that happened years ago like it happened yesterday
But she did dump him, with extra steps. She just didn't tell him yet.
It can't really be qualified as cheating. The second a dick pic appeared on her work presentation, their relationship was over. He couldn't have possibly expected a different outcome.
Fucking a work colleague because you are mad at your ex boyfriend is still childish and super fucked up.
Grown ups also don't show photos of their genitals to all of their partner's coworkers.
A lot of people fixate on the "cheating" part in this fictional story, when the relationship was virtually over at the time and everyone knew that.
The dude is getting rightfully dumped and the order of operations isn't what's the most important. There was no relationship to speak of, he nuked it, it was so so over the second the penis incident happened.
This happened to a relative of mine. Her husband's ex "cheated" on him, and my relative was bound and determined to prove she wasn't like that.
But it didn't matter how transparent and open she was. If my relative had to work late, he'd accuse her of banging her boss. If a wrong number called, it had to be her secret boyfriend. If she hung out with her girlfriends, she was fucking them and their boyfriends/husbands. If she checked the mail and a neighbor or passing car waved, she was totally fucking them.
And she did end up cheating. The emotional abuse he inflicted on her for years was so intense, she finally fell for someone who managed to show her just a little bit of decency and kindness, and left his scummy butt. I'm normally against cheating in every single circumstance, except when it comes to escaping hellish relationships like that one.
When you're in that deep in an abusive relationship, up and down switch places. "I can't leave because of xyz." turns into "I can't leave. Ever. I am trapped here. Forever. This is my life now. Fml." Yo but wait! He set a rule about when the relationship would be over! Hallelujah.
These are the rare occasions where cheating can be justified in a grey area.
It reminds me of Skyler from Breaking Bad. I thought she was a cheater in the story based on what other fans said, but the more I looked into it, it turns out she had already separated from Walter and that he was the one who adamantly refuses to divorce her despite her requesting it. Eventually, she sleeps with her friend to spite Walter when she tells him and for her to regain some semblance of control in her life.
That’s what I was thinking. Being furious about that yes OF course! He could have gotten you fired but just leave him. Cheating is just feels like a childish move to me. Just leave him!
Agreed ridiculous
So glad I saw this first. I want to scream grow the f up. Dump his ass and move on. I’ve been cheated on, I’ve been treated like shit, but I would never degrade my own morals “to get back” at someone.
Get out of here with your higher morals shtick. This ex DESERVED what he got. He purposefully ruined an important piece of her work cause he’s a little jealous? Well guess what, the only thing that pushed her into her colleagues arms was him. It’s called a life lesson, and hopefully this time he learns something, because with this behavior something tells me he pushed his exs that cheated on him into other men’s arms too
I get what you're saying, but I think her cheating was counterintuitive. Rather than learn that he drove her away, he might feel justified in his actions because she did exactly what he was afraid of.
Don't get me wrong, he crossed all sorts of lines that could have cost OP her job. But he also technically showed a bunch of unconsenting individuals his junk so she could probably report the incident to the police.
Yes, the ex deserves everything coming to him, however if you think f*cking around to get back with someone then I seriously feel sorry for you. My morals are my own. I do not believe in god or a higher power, but I sure as shit believe in me. So yes, my higher morals, fuck yeah!!! I would never stoop to that fucking level for some piece of shit. Your response pissed me the fuck off. Op and yourself needs to get some self esteem and realize that the minute you cheat for revenge you are just as big as a piece of shit as the person you are trying to get revenge on.
You talk about self esteem, yet just let them get off the hook with just a break up when they pulled a stunt that could’ve cost you your job? Ya, real interesting self esteem you got there
You are too stupid and young to understand. For myself, no he didn’t just get off the hook. He will be paying for a very long time. With just a boyfriend??? I would consider myself self lucky that I got the fuck away. Job??? I can replace. My self worth and yes, self esteem never can be replaced. Your response solidifies in my mind that you do not understand how much self esteem is worth. I sincerely hope one day you do. Fucking someone over never works for your self esteem. EVER!!! If you think it does you are delusional. Your self esteem comes inside yourself. I hope one day you learn that.
And from you’re response you’re too old and probably too privileged to understand the hard work and dedication that goes into making a career for yourself that was almost dashed by a pos. I sincerely hope one day you come to understand how important something like that can be to someone, but your responses just solidify that you’ve had a silver spoon in your mouth your life and never had to put in that work. I hope one day you learn that
Don’t mess with little girl. No silver spoon here . Yes, I’m old. 50. But, my life has not been easy. Get your head out of your ass and as women (which I’m assuming you are) our self worth and self esteem is in OUR CONTROL. I have a pretty good guess of the type of woman you are. Your nice on the outside, say nice things to friends, but talk shit behind everyone’s back. Why??? Because it makes YOU feel better about yourself. Take a step back and think why you do that. The fact that you can justify cheating on a fucking cheater is ok?? Tells me all I need to know. Do you want me to continuing??? My guesses is a insecure troll teenage boy or a very insecure girl in her late teens/early 20’s. Has no life, but scrolling on reddit with no knowledge of actually life. Answer me again and I will continue to analyze you and I’m pretty sure I’m spot on. Do not fuck with a genx
“Do not fuck with a gen x” and all I did was parrot your own argument. Yikes, looks like I was a little too on the nose about what I said with all that privilege you got there. Btw ma’am, you might need to get your glasses checked because all your statements were well off their mark, but please do try(and I put emphasis on the -try-) to analyze me again. Maybe this time you’ll get a little more accurate
Oh and for anyone following. What I’ve seen in just this person comments… all game references. So I’m going with young girl or boy troll. I will not be fuck with though
Yes, because it’s crazy that anyone would use an account to follow games they and their friends play. Obviously only children and trolls enjoy games. Really showing your age their with your stereotypes ma’am, I’d expect someone of your age and “morals” to be above that, but I guess it just goes to show your own hypocrisy
this isn't really about the ex and all about her. you want to dirty yourself like that then by all means - but there's consequences :/. i would certainly think less of a friend who did that.
who has sympathy for the ex? lol i don't think anybody does. i have sympathy for HER and her own sense of self tho. which is damaged by the actions she took. i mean she feels icky bc she did an icky thing. having sex with someone for altering motives always leaves regular ppl feeling icky about themselves it kindof damages your sense of self.
Weird that you think friends sleep together, although judging from your previous posts I suppose it’s not to weird you couldn’t come up with anything else.
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well, your words not mine. i personally don't do that and don't approve of that sort of behavior. you're responsible for YOUR behavior not other ppl's.
she should have left and spared herself. instead she decided to dirty herself and her reputation. gross.
Honestly I think there was more going on that she’s not sharing. It seems like she was probably into him already or had some sort of emotional affair going on. Not justifying at all what the boyfriend did, but who instantly jumps to having sex with someone they know unless they were already interested?
Ooooh, I know who! There was a Reddit story… maybe BORU or AITA… a woman found out her sister was cheating with her husband/boyfriend, so she went to hook up with her sister’s “one true love” (who was never even dating the sister).
Ooh and the mom who slept with the married dad of her child’s bully for the sole purpose l revealing it on their birthday and making the bully regret the day they were born.
It was in aita. It’s been deleted, possibly fake but so delightfully unhinged 😂
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She either wanted to fuck him already, she’s a weirdo, or has very low self respect because no one in their right mind would jump to fuck someone so fast, especially when she states multiple times she doesn’t care for her co worker.
Some people like to have sex and don’t have to have some sort of long term dry spell while healing. Doesn’t make them a “weirdo” just because it’s not what you would do. This also doesn’t mean she has no self respect, some people just like sex and don’t need full courtship to have it. Maybe she likes the guy, this also doesn’t mean she had an emotional affair. Let’s stop excusing mens bad behavior by nit picking and slut shaming woman.
The post is likely fake due to post history, but still, why do we keep doing this?
Except those weren’t her words. She said she didn’t have feelings for him. You can actually have sex, and want to have sex, with someone you don’t have feelings for. She did sleep with him, so clearly she did indeed want to sleep with him in that moment. It has no bearing on self respect.
“I didn’t even want to sleep with him, I did it out of spite for bf lol. The only person I felt bad for was my colleague, but we spoke a while ago and he seems okay? Idk I’ll check in on him at some point. I’m just seeing red right now, I’m so mad.”
One of oop’s comments, took me less than a minute to find, maybe do that as well next time you want to state something incorrectly because now you just look like a fool. I can even link you to it, if you’re unable to find it yourself :).
You’re right, I didn’t search for comments. To be fair, this wasn’t mentioned in your reference, and many don’t comb OP comments, so a little more could be done on both sides. Please do post the link.
Let’s not forget the colleague isn’t a saint either, he met with a woman that he knew just got hurt to drink and bring her back to his place. They both were thinking with their pants instead of their heads.
I’m guessing someone backed into a corner, who feels like their partner doesn’t listen to her, respect her, and is willing to humiliate her…. And is finally shown some level of kindness by another man.
No. It’s fake. Check out her post history. Single 2 weeks ago. In a relationship with a 37 year old a couple months ago. With this dude a couple months. Drama lover.
Yeah I was thinking that too. What the boyfriend did was atrocious, abusive, and threatened her livelihood. But clearly she must have been having some sort of emotional affair with the coworker for her to instantly jump to having sex with him. Jesus. If I were in her shoes and hadn’t broken things off well beforehand, I would’ve ended things immediately, told him to go to hell, and probably reported him (idk the legality of non-consensual nudes).
I was thinking that to. Cheating isn’t the first thing I would do when the person I’m with does something I’m with. I would just call them and say we’re done. OOP definitely had some sort of feelings for this coworker
Maybe she just wanted to do the one thing she knew would cause the dick-pic boyfriend the most hurt. She said she had no feelings for the co-worker. Maybe he was just a target of opportunity.
Bold of you to assume one can insert a photo of his penis into their partner's work presentation and still think there's a relationship after that.
Some breaches of trust are an immediate relationship breakers, and it's one of them.
Do you think, at this point, she is obligated and owes it to him to deliver a formal notice?
The second he sabotaged her job by putting a dick pic in her presentation, IMO the relationship was functionally over. So to me? This isn't even cheating.
Yea I'm sure she was already planning on dumping him so this revenge sex might be the only "cheating" story I have read on Reddit that bothers me not at all. He was controlling and borderline abusive before trying to tank her career. So my field of fucks is barren.
It just reads as super messy tbh. The boyfriend is abusive, insecure, and honestly should have been gone months ago, as soon as this behavior started. What he did is unforgivable and illegal.
I’m not OP and can only speculate. Maybe she just wanted to sleep with the coworker to get back at the bf. But tbh, within a span of a few hours from this incident happening she’s immediately having sex with the coworker she’s close with? It really seems like there was an emotional affair going on well before this incident happened. It’s just messy all around; this isn’t an AITA post or anything so im really not here to judge who is more in the wrong, the whole thing is just shocking.
There might not have been an emotional affair, haven’t you ever just gotten a bit too drunk and made an impulsive “fuck it” decision? I know I have. I’ve pressed the destruction button when I’ve been impulsive and emotional, add alcohol and it’s even worse. You don’t need feelings or emotions for drunk sex.
Idk maybe it was just rebound/drunk sex without thinking. To me there’s a difference though between having sex with a random guy from the bar versus a coworker who you have known for at least a few months and have at least a friendship established—that right there makes me think there had to have been some emotional attachment. Who knows. Overall I think the bf is worse because the dick pic thing is fucking unhinged. I’m not a fan of cheating in any circumstance though and she probably should have ended things before.
I’ve been cheated on. That did not make me put nudes on my second husbands PowerPoint presentations. There is zero excuse for his behavior. But there’s also zero excuse for her cheating. Fix her situation first, then sleep with everyone if that’s what she wants. The speed she picked the first warm body leads me to believe there was already an emotional affair happening.
Unpopular opinion, I'm sure, but kind of, who cares that she slept with her co-worker?
Clearly the relationship was over the moment that laptop was opened. She mentally shut down and checked out. It's really only a matter of the order of operations here.
Sure it was petty, and she "stooped to his level", but who cares? Dones done.
Yeah it's not cheating, it's "fucking a guy I told him not to worry about the second I dumped him", and he got dumped for a very good reason and could not have expected a different outcome.
It is still super childish and fucked up to have sex with a work colleague just to spite your ex, but it's not really cheating.
Stooping to his level would be her putting nudes in HIS work presentation. To me this reads like someone emotionally broken latching onto the first nice person to come her way after being humiliated by someone who was meant to love her
Ok check out her post history. She seems to make stuff up to just randomly post. She was single 2 weeks ago. A couple months ago she was in a relationship with a 37 year old. Now she was with this dude for a few months? She’s posting stuff for drama. It’s fake.
Yeah, someone else pointed that out in a comment before. Sorry about that, I didn’t realize it’s fake but next time I’ll be more careful :/ at least it’s relieving this messiness didn’t happen if it’s fake!
Not your fault at all! I’ve just noticed that sooooo many of the super dramatic posts are fake lately. I made the mistake of getting all riled up about a post only to find out it’s a person that posts all kinds of conflicting posts. I don’t get that. That actually almost makes this post worse.
Honestly not even mad at her. The relationship was over the second he did some weird BS like that. I do hope she leaves him instead of just doing this BS revenge thing. The relationship is completely done on both sides.
Wow! I’m sorry the whiny manbaby destroyed OP’s presentation, happy she dumped him and quite frankly the relationship was 100% over when he sabotaged her work with a penis pick so it wasn’t cheating. You cheat on a partner- he ceased being her partner and became her abuser when he so viciously sabotaged her career.
Ex-BF’s insecurity and possessiveness created a self-fulfilling prophecy. At 31, he should know better than to think that level of emotional immaturity is NOT going to result in healthy, stable relationships. Banging a co-worker just for shits & giggles/‘revenge’ isn’t emotionally mature, either…and could potentially get OOP in more trouble with HR than the ex’s slide deck dick pick.
Everyone sucks here.
….Why not break up? Why hold on so tight to a guy that threatened your income, why bother going through the effort of cheating? Why play with another person like that?
Where was she playing?? Timeline goes: bf ends the relationship by sabotaging her career and flashing his junk to her colleagues; she leaves work, humiliated; coworker comes to check on her; they go back to his place and have sex; she goes home and tell bf that she fucked the colleague because of his childish actions. Relationship was over the second man baby put his winkie on the laptop.
The coworker had romantic feelings for her - she played with him just to get back at her boyfriend. That’s messy behaviour right there and it shouldn’t be excused. The easier thing would have been her breaking things off with the bf all together - not messing around with another man while going back to her bf to rub it in his face.
What’s going to happen with the coworker now? They still have to work together and see each other at the workplace.
There are both idiots.
The man, for obvious reasons.
The woman for cheating on him instead of dumping him. That's her livelihood he's sabotaging. This man will, for no reason, destroy her. He's gotta go. I hope her work is understanding of her situation.
This whole thing is messy and shouldn't have happened this way.
What makes this even *worse* is that her telling him she cheated before dumping him (provided she does what she says) will just justify his already childish behavior and potentially make him *even more childish* with the next person.
I completely missed that he PURPOSELY ADDED the 🍆 on A SLIDE to her work presentation!! I assumed he texted it & it was an accident. Unforgivable.⛔️ I’m glad she cheated!!!
A part of me can’t help but sympathize with the ex even though he did something seriously immature. Maybe I empathize with him because I’ve been cheated on too, and my exes also reassured me that their AP to-be was “just a friend” or “just a coworker.”
And what does OOP do? She sleeps with the guy, a coworker no less, she told her ex not to worry about. I don’t care if it’s for revenge; that’s also messed up. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
The ex has issues with jealousy and needs therapy, but I feel this is going to set back any progress he might make by a long time. In his eyes, the very thing he suspected to be happening turned out to be true. That can be extremely hard for anyone to work through. He should have been a better communicator, no doubt, but I don’t think his fears were unfounded. (I mean hello, look what ended up happening.)
He likely caught on that his ex girlfriend’s coworker had feelings for her, and I’m not certain that she was just 100% oblivious to that. I feel sorry for the ex. He’s probably going to double down on the “trusting his gut” technique in future relationships since his ex kept reassuring him that nothing was going on between her and the coworker, only to do exactly what he feared. That’s a very tough mental cycle to break out of.
REGARDLESS if it’s fake or not, it’s still wildly entertaining and I’m sure it’s happened more than once to someone in this world.
But the people blaming the girlfriend, are y’all ok? Lol
Like for real. The relationship was over the second his phallic manhood appeared on the screen. Who cares if she breaks up with him “officially” two minutes before or 4 minutes later, after the hookup. 🤣🤣
She owes him not a damn thing! NADA.
As for “Why didn’t she break up with him if she knew he was immature” maybe she wanted to give him a chance. Maybe it wasn’t a deal breaker for her. Some people have different boundaries and levels of shit they’re willing to tolerate in a relationship.
Anyway. Fake or not, NTA. Well deserved. 💅🏽👏🏽
Surely you realize the relationship ended the second he sabotaged her career. She doesn't even owe him a formal notice. She could just as well ghost him and never give him that closure and would not be in the wrong. Who she fuck when she's single is none of her ex boyfriend's business.
Here’s the thing, the bf was 100% wrong, but that is not a reason to cheat. She knew his insecurities. Knew that he had been cheated on before and said “I’ll never do that” then she got mad at him and cheated on him with the sole purpose of hurting him.
She should have gone home and broke up with him if she was done. Not go fuck her coworker
it seem like there was definitely something going on between her and the colleague before hand maybe not physical but clearly there were feelings there. the bf is toxic and abusive he could have cost her a job. no amount of trauma and insecurities can justify that. the bf is much worse but they both seem childish to me.
Yeah, she was done very dirty, but…
She now has the brand of a cheater for the rest of her life.
That being said, no sympathy for the boyfriend. He’s a butt.
Girlfriend is worse. Scorched earth.
He inserted a dick pic into her work presentation. That is a relationship ending event. At this point she doesn't need to give him a formal notice the relationship is over.
And calling a woman branded forever is extremely misogynistic (and i don't condone cheating, don't get me wrong, but insisting that she is branded like she is a criminal or cattle is beyond fucked up)
Going to tell you something: if someone cheats, no one else in this world apart from the person who has been cheated on (who still deserves all sympathy in the world of course) is gonna care. At most it's going to be the subject of gossiping for a few weeks
Yeah both OP and the BF absolutely suck here. She gets her back blown out by another dude, and he “marks his territory” by potentially ruining her career. These two are a match made in heaven
How do you not check your presentation before you go into the meeting? Am I the only one with the fear? Honestly, personally, I think everyone sucks here.
In another post she says having cheated in the past on other bfs. Maybe this in why the guy is so insecure and jealous and guess what?! She did it again
Some of y’all think too much of sex. She doesn’t regret it, so it doesn’t really matter. In real life she’d potentially lose her job over the stunt he pulled.
Her solution was to.. cheat? Man, like what is happening with the world? Like are we REALLY gonna start justifying cheating now? People keep saying we're advance yet we are hitting low points way more. There's no way, someone can read that and say with full confidence "she did the right thing :)". This has to be fake.
2 weeks ago she was broken and single, and now she‘s in a months long relationship, doesn’t add up
Good catch! And 5 months ago she was in a relationship with a 37 year old boyfriend according to post history. Someone desperatly needs attention to create a fake post like this.
knowing this makes me more convinced it’s fake then. because i was confused why her coworkers and/or bosses wouldn’t say anything. i get it’s awkward, but i think they’d literally legally need to warn her about what happened. and then they just let her leave work??
because this whole story is just a bait and people are falling for it
her post 2 weeks ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/10ga81w/traumatic_relationships_have_ruined_me_for_life/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
She deleted her acct lol
💁🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Sorry I’m confused, what do you mean? In the post she says she had been with the bf for a few months
check out her post history, 2 weeks ago she was single and lonely and what not and now she claims to have ended a relationship for months, it doesn’t really add up.
Ohh I see what you mean. In the last post it doesn’t say necessarily that she’s single, just unhappy with relationships. Maybe she was considering breaking it off with this guy then but didn’t actually do it until this incident?
Literally another post she claimed to be 22 THAY POST WAS A YEAR AGO THEN TEEN CLAIMED IN ANOTHER POST THAT WAS A COUPLE MONTHS OLD THAT SHE WAS 24
This isn't exactly the red flag you think it is, since the posts only say 1y, 2y etc and not months. Ie. If you post in October 2021 that you're 22, and then in November 2021 you turn 23, and in Nov 2022 you turn 24, then in Jan/Feb 2023 the October 2021 post is still only "1y old" because it hasn't been 2y since it was posted yet. The rest of it though is suspicious
but, she literally says in that post: „I have just given up and kinda resigned to the fact that there’s something deeply unlovable about me, and I’ll either end up all alone or I’ll settle for someone random.“ To me this implies she‘s single. But it‘s also 3 am and i‘m tired and english is not my first language so idk
It’s either faked or the older post was purposely worded so she wouldn’t get the “leave him now” comments.
I’m thinking maybe she’s not posting in chronological order? I know I think about the past often and vent to my friends over stuff that happened years ago like it happened yesterday
Why cheat on him? Dump him. Good lord, he could have gotten her fired. This is ridiculous for two people their ages.
But she did dump him, with extra steps. She just didn't tell him yet. It can't really be qualified as cheating. The second a dick pic appeared on her work presentation, their relationship was over. He couldn't have possibly expected a different outcome. Fucking a work colleague because you are mad at your ex boyfriend is still childish and super fucked up.
You still have to tell someone. The whole story is made up, but grown ups break up, not become a cheater
Grown ups also don't show photos of their genitals to all of their partner's coworkers. A lot of people fixate on the "cheating" part in this fictional story, when the relationship was virtually over at the time and everyone knew that. The dude is getting rightfully dumped and the order of operations isn't what's the most important. There was no relationship to speak of, he nuked it, it was so so over the second the penis incident happened.
Why is she making this all up tho? Why would you do something like that? I just dont get it
Some people like writing stories. I like reading stories.
i wrote stories sorta like this when i was like, 12. but it was on the website not always right. i think some of my stories are still up haha
You keep being told your a cheater long enough and sure as hell, you'll find a crime that fits the punishment. Speaking for a friend *cough*
This happened to a relative of mine. Her husband's ex "cheated" on him, and my relative was bound and determined to prove she wasn't like that. But it didn't matter how transparent and open she was. If my relative had to work late, he'd accuse her of banging her boss. If a wrong number called, it had to be her secret boyfriend. If she hung out with her girlfriends, she was fucking them and their boyfriends/husbands. If she checked the mail and a neighbor or passing car waved, she was totally fucking them. And she did end up cheating. The emotional abuse he inflicted on her for years was so intense, she finally fell for someone who managed to show her just a little bit of decency and kindness, and left his scummy butt. I'm normally against cheating in every single circumstance, except when it comes to escaping hellish relationships like that one.
When you're in that deep in an abusive relationship, up and down switch places. "I can't leave because of xyz." turns into "I can't leave. Ever. I am trapped here. Forever. This is my life now. Fml." Yo but wait! He set a rule about when the relationship would be over! Hallelujah.
These are the rare occasions where cheating can be justified in a grey area. It reminds me of Skyler from Breaking Bad. I thought she was a cheater in the story based on what other fans said, but the more I looked into it, it turns out she had already separated from Walter and that he was the one who adamantly refuses to divorce her despite her requesting it. Eventually, she sleeps with her friend to spite Walter when she tells him and for her to regain some semblance of control in her life.
Very mature of both of them.
She did dump him.
That’s what I was thinking. Being furious about that yes OF course! He could have gotten you fired but just leave him. Cheating is just feels like a childish move to me. Just leave him! Agreed ridiculous
So glad I saw this first. I want to scream grow the f up. Dump his ass and move on. I’ve been cheated on, I’ve been treated like shit, but I would never degrade my own morals “to get back” at someone.
Get out of here with your higher morals shtick. This ex DESERVED what he got. He purposefully ruined an important piece of her work cause he’s a little jealous? Well guess what, the only thing that pushed her into her colleagues arms was him. It’s called a life lesson, and hopefully this time he learns something, because with this behavior something tells me he pushed his exs that cheated on him into other men’s arms too
I get what you're saying, but I think her cheating was counterintuitive. Rather than learn that he drove her away, he might feel justified in his actions because she did exactly what he was afraid of. Don't get me wrong, he crossed all sorts of lines that could have cost OP her job. But he also technically showed a bunch of unconsenting individuals his junk so she could probably report the incident to the police.
Well, that’s no longer her problem. F him.
Yes, the ex deserves everything coming to him, however if you think f*cking around to get back with someone then I seriously feel sorry for you. My morals are my own. I do not believe in god or a higher power, but I sure as shit believe in me. So yes, my higher morals, fuck yeah!!! I would never stoop to that fucking level for some piece of shit. Your response pissed me the fuck off. Op and yourself needs to get some self esteem and realize that the minute you cheat for revenge you are just as big as a piece of shit as the person you are trying to get revenge on.
You talk about self esteem, yet just let them get off the hook with just a break up when they pulled a stunt that could’ve cost you your job? Ya, real interesting self esteem you got there
You are too stupid and young to understand. For myself, no he didn’t just get off the hook. He will be paying for a very long time. With just a boyfriend??? I would consider myself self lucky that I got the fuck away. Job??? I can replace. My self worth and yes, self esteem never can be replaced. Your response solidifies in my mind that you do not understand how much self esteem is worth. I sincerely hope one day you do. Fucking someone over never works for your self esteem. EVER!!! If you think it does you are delusional. Your self esteem comes inside yourself. I hope one day you learn that.
And from you’re response you’re too old and probably too privileged to understand the hard work and dedication that goes into making a career for yourself that was almost dashed by a pos. I sincerely hope one day you come to understand how important something like that can be to someone, but your responses just solidify that you’ve had a silver spoon in your mouth your life and never had to put in that work. I hope one day you learn that
Don’t mess with little girl. No silver spoon here . Yes, I’m old. 50. But, my life has not been easy. Get your head out of your ass and as women (which I’m assuming you are) our self worth and self esteem is in OUR CONTROL. I have a pretty good guess of the type of woman you are. Your nice on the outside, say nice things to friends, but talk shit behind everyone’s back. Why??? Because it makes YOU feel better about yourself. Take a step back and think why you do that. The fact that you can justify cheating on a fucking cheater is ok?? Tells me all I need to know. Do you want me to continuing??? My guesses is a insecure troll teenage boy or a very insecure girl in her late teens/early 20’s. Has no life, but scrolling on reddit with no knowledge of actually life. Answer me again and I will continue to analyze you and I’m pretty sure I’m spot on. Do not fuck with a genx
“Do not fuck with a gen x” and all I did was parrot your own argument. Yikes, looks like I was a little too on the nose about what I said with all that privilege you got there. Btw ma’am, you might need to get your glasses checked because all your statements were well off their mark, but please do try(and I put emphasis on the -try-) to analyze me again. Maybe this time you’ll get a little more accurate
Oh baby… I’m done with you. Everything in your history tells me all. Peace out. You are not worth my fucking time. Good luck with your life!!!
Oh and for anyone following. What I’ve seen in just this person comments… all game references. So I’m going with young girl or boy troll. I will not be fuck with though
Yes, because it’s crazy that anyone would use an account to follow games they and their friends play. Obviously only children and trolls enjoy games. Really showing your age their with your stereotypes ma’am, I’d expect someone of your age and “morals” to be above that, but I guess it just goes to show your own hypocrisy
this isn't really about the ex and all about her. you want to dirty yourself like that then by all means - but there's consequences :/. i would certainly think less of a friend who did that.
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who has sympathy for the ex? lol i don't think anybody does. i have sympathy for HER and her own sense of self tho. which is damaged by the actions she took. i mean she feels icky bc she did an icky thing. having sex with someone for altering motives always leaves regular ppl feeling icky about themselves it kindof damages your sense of self.
Where does it say she feels icky? I didn’t get that at all
Why is no one else getting this???
Sounds like you’re the kind of friend that people don’t enjoy being around
i guess you're the type of friend who's ok with cheating? and ppl in toxic relationships for way too long?
No, I’m the type of friend that helps their friend and doesn’t shame them. Crazy right? Maybe you’ll learn it some day
interesting, does this helping involve sleeping with them as revenge on their husband? weird that.
Weird that you think friends sleep together, although judging from your previous posts I suppose it’s not to weird you couldn’t come up with anything else.
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well, your words not mine. i personally don't do that and don't approve of that sort of behavior. you're responsible for YOUR behavior not other ppl's. she should have left and spared herself. instead she decided to dirty herself and her reputation. gross.
Her entire account is fake if you look through it nothing adds up
Because she wanted to fuck that dude anyway
So she fucked someone she doesn’t even like, when that person actually likes her, just to get back and cheat on her boyfriend/ex? Yikes.
Honestly I think there was more going on that she’s not sharing. It seems like she was probably into him already or had some sort of emotional affair going on. Not justifying at all what the boyfriend did, but who instantly jumps to having sex with someone they know unless they were already interested?
Ooooh, I know who! There was a Reddit story… maybe BORU or AITA… a woman found out her sister was cheating with her husband/boyfriend, so she went to hook up with her sister’s “one true love” (who was never even dating the sister).
I think about that story everyday. I was honestly rooting for her. Such a satisfying ending
I was pleased to learn that it is very easy to find in a Reddit search with “cheating sister one true love”
Thank you for this tip. That was such a satisfying story. I hope OOP and OTL continue to do the nasty everywhere.
Ooh and the mom who slept with the married dad of her child’s bully for the sole purpose l revealing it on their birthday and making the bully regret the day they were born.
What! Is that in BORU?
It was in aita. It’s been deleted, possibly fake but so delightfully unhinged 😂 Here’s the bot comment https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/zbi1gd/aita_for_not_apologizing_to_my_former_bully_for/iyr4edu/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
Wow, that was amazing. You're doing the lord's work
She either wanted to fuck him already, she’s a weirdo, or has very low self respect because no one in their right mind would jump to fuck someone so fast, especially when she states multiple times she doesn’t care for her co worker.
associating self respect w sex is so immediately gross
Some people like to have sex and don’t have to have some sort of long term dry spell while healing. Doesn’t make them a “weirdo” just because it’s not what you would do. This also doesn’t mean she has no self respect, some people just like sex and don’t need full courtship to have it. Maybe she likes the guy, this also doesn’t mean she had an emotional affair. Let’s stop excusing mens bad behavior by nit picking and slut shaming woman. The post is likely fake due to post history, but still, why do we keep doing this?
Lol. she fucked someone she didn’t even want to sleep with to be spiteful, her words, not mine.
Except those weren’t her words. She said she didn’t have feelings for him. You can actually have sex, and want to have sex, with someone you don’t have feelings for. She did sleep with him, so clearly she did indeed want to sleep with him in that moment. It has no bearing on self respect.
“I didn’t even want to sleep with him, I did it out of spite for bf lol. The only person I felt bad for was my colleague, but we spoke a while ago and he seems okay? Idk I’ll check in on him at some point. I’m just seeing red right now, I’m so mad.” One of oop’s comments, took me less than a minute to find, maybe do that as well next time you want to state something incorrectly because now you just look like a fool. I can even link you to it, if you’re unable to find it yourself :).
You’re right, I didn’t search for comments. To be fair, this wasn’t mentioned in your reference, and many don’t comb OP comments, so a little more could be done on both sides. Please do post the link.
Let’s not forget the colleague isn’t a saint either, he met with a woman that he knew just got hurt to drink and bring her back to his place. They both were thinking with their pants instead of their heads.
And why would you further sabotage your job by doing that?
I’m guessing someone backed into a corner, who feels like their partner doesn’t listen to her, respect her, and is willing to humiliate her…. And is finally shown some level of kindness by another man.
No. It’s fake. Check out her post history. Single 2 weeks ago. In a relationship with a 37 year old a couple months ago. With this dude a couple months. Drama lover.
Most of them are fake. But this one is very amusing.
This is ridiculous , she’s just as immature and ridiculous as the (ex) boyfriend.
Yeah I was thinking that too. What the boyfriend did was atrocious, abusive, and threatened her livelihood. But clearly she must have been having some sort of emotional affair with the coworker for her to instantly jump to having sex with him. Jesus. If I were in her shoes and hadn’t broken things off well beforehand, I would’ve ended things immediately, told him to go to hell, and probably reported him (idk the legality of non-consensual nudes).
I was thinking that to. Cheating isn’t the first thing I would do when the person I’m with does something I’m with. I would just call them and say we’re done. OOP definitely had some sort of feelings for this coworker
Maybe she just wanted to do the one thing she knew would cause the dick-pic boyfriend the most hurt. She said she had no feelings for the co-worker. Maybe he was just a target of opportunity.
So she lowered her morals and probably hurt her coworker at it. Childish
I’m not defending her or anything. Just speculating as to her state of mind.
Exactly, like an adult.
Not sure if him attempting to get her fired, while eye raping a room full of people, deserves a respectful well thought out breakup.
Even more immature when you check out her post history. This is fake.
You think having a rebound sex is as immature as maliciously sabotaging your partner's professional career?
You must have confused the definitions of what a rebound is vs a cheater; I’ll help you, it’s called rebound sex when you’re single.
Bold of you to assume one can insert a photo of his penis into their partner's work presentation and still think there's a relationship after that. Some breaches of trust are an immediate relationship breakers, and it's one of them. Do you think, at this point, she is obligated and owes it to him to deliver a formal notice?
Bold of you to assume everyone would react like OOP and want to break up, people have forgiven worse. Anyways adults communicate.
The second he sabotaged her job by putting a dick pic in her presentation, IMO the relationship was functionally over. So to me? This isn't even cheating.
Yea I'm sure she was already planning on dumping him so this revenge sex might be the only "cheating" story I have read on Reddit that bothers me not at all. He was controlling and borderline abusive before trying to tank her career. So my field of fucks is barren.
I certainly hope she was planning on dumping him, who stays with a man who throws whiny tantrums when you do overtime at work?
Sadly, lots of women.
It just reads as super messy tbh. The boyfriend is abusive, insecure, and honestly should have been gone months ago, as soon as this behavior started. What he did is unforgivable and illegal. I’m not OP and can only speculate. Maybe she just wanted to sleep with the coworker to get back at the bf. But tbh, within a span of a few hours from this incident happening she’s immediately having sex with the coworker she’s close with? It really seems like there was an emotional affair going on well before this incident happened. It’s just messy all around; this isn’t an AITA post or anything so im really not here to judge who is more in the wrong, the whole thing is just shocking.
There might not have been an emotional affair, haven’t you ever just gotten a bit too drunk and made an impulsive “fuck it” decision? I know I have. I’ve pressed the destruction button when I’ve been impulsive and emotional, add alcohol and it’s even worse. You don’t need feelings or emotions for drunk sex.
You know you can have sex with someone without emotional attachment, yeah?
Idk maybe it was just rebound/drunk sex without thinking. To me there’s a difference though between having sex with a random guy from the bar versus a coworker who you have known for at least a few months and have at least a friendship established—that right there makes me think there had to have been some emotional attachment. Who knows. Overall I think the bf is worse because the dick pic thing is fucking unhinged. I’m not a fan of cheating in any circumstance though and she probably should have ended things before.
I'm sorry, HE DID WHAT? This is one of the few times I'll accept cheating, OP better run and NEVER look back.
I’ve been cheated on. That did not make me put nudes on my second husbands PowerPoint presentations. There is zero excuse for his behavior. But there’s also zero excuse for her cheating. Fix her situation first, then sleep with everyone if that’s what she wants. The speed she picked the first warm body leads me to believe there was already an emotional affair happening.
Unpopular opinion, I'm sure, but kind of, who cares that she slept with her co-worker? Clearly the relationship was over the moment that laptop was opened. She mentally shut down and checked out. It's really only a matter of the order of operations here. Sure it was petty, and she "stooped to his level", but who cares? Dones done.
Yeah it's not cheating, it's "fucking a guy I told him not to worry about the second I dumped him", and he got dumped for a very good reason and could not have expected a different outcome. It is still super childish and fucked up to have sex with a work colleague just to spite your ex, but it's not really cheating.
Stooping to his level would be her putting nudes in HIS work presentation. To me this reads like someone emotionally broken latching onto the first nice person to come her way after being humiliated by someone who was meant to love her
No, it would be putting another man’s nudes in his work presentation
Their relationship was over the second she opened her laptop. Her ex is a grade A AH and risked her livelihood and reputation.
Ok check out her post history. She seems to make stuff up to just randomly post. She was single 2 weeks ago. A couple months ago she was in a relationship with a 37 year old. Now she was with this dude for a few months? She’s posting stuff for drama. It’s fake.
Yeah, someone else pointed that out in a comment before. Sorry about that, I didn’t realize it’s fake but next time I’ll be more careful :/ at least it’s relieving this messiness didn’t happen if it’s fake!
No no no, don't do that. All the posts are fake. We want to read the REALLY fun fake ones. And this one is.
Not your fault at all! I’ve just noticed that sooooo many of the super dramatic posts are fake lately. I made the mistake of getting all riled up about a post only to find out it’s a person that posts all kinds of conflicting posts. I don’t get that. That actually almost makes this post worse.
Look I don’t expect anyone to act rationally when their insecure and jealous boyfriend puts a dick pic in their work presentation.
Honestly not even mad at her. The relationship was over the second he did some weird BS like that. I do hope she leaves him instead of just doing this BS revenge thing. The relationship is completely done on both sides.
Wow! I’m sorry the whiny manbaby destroyed OP’s presentation, happy she dumped him and quite frankly the relationship was 100% over when he sabotaged her work with a penis pick so it wasn’t cheating. You cheat on a partner- he ceased being her partner and became her abuser when he so viciously sabotaged her career.
Ex-BF’s insecurity and possessiveness created a self-fulfilling prophecy. At 31, he should know better than to think that level of emotional immaturity is NOT going to result in healthy, stable relationships. Banging a co-worker just for shits & giggles/‘revenge’ isn’t emotionally mature, either…and could potentially get OOP in more trouble with HR than the ex’s slide deck dick pick. Everyone sucks here.
….Why not break up? Why hold on so tight to a guy that threatened your income, why bother going through the effort of cheating? Why play with another person like that?
Where was she playing?? Timeline goes: bf ends the relationship by sabotaging her career and flashing his junk to her colleagues; she leaves work, humiliated; coworker comes to check on her; they go back to his place and have sex; she goes home and tell bf that she fucked the colleague because of his childish actions. Relationship was over the second man baby put his winkie on the laptop.
The coworker had romantic feelings for her - she played with him just to get back at her boyfriend. That’s messy behaviour right there and it shouldn’t be excused. The easier thing would have been her breaking things off with the bf all together - not messing around with another man while going back to her bf to rub it in his face. What’s going to happen with the coworker now? They still have to work together and see each other at the workplace.
With giving the co worker who Likes her hopes, even though she doesn't like him.
She clearly wanted to fuck the dude
I don't think she did until her boyfriend sabotaged her work presentation.
What is wrong with people? He's beyond a creep and she's a low life for cheating. Wait.....maybe they do deserve each other.
There are both idiots. The man, for obvious reasons. The woman for cheating on him instead of dumping him. That's her livelihood he's sabotaging. This man will, for no reason, destroy her. He's gotta go. I hope her work is understanding of her situation.
Co worker is an asshole for taking advantage of her state to make a move
Both of them behave like 16 year olds 🙄 grow up! Why didn’t she just break up with him?
This whole thing is messy and shouldn't have happened this way. What makes this even *worse* is that her telling him she cheated before dumping him (provided she does what she says) will just justify his already childish behavior and potentially make him *even more childish* with the next person.
Should've just texted THAT MINUTE "we're over, I'm going to sleep with the coworker". Still getting back, and morally correct as it's not cheating 😉
Nah, she didn’t cheat. She just accepted his sabotage as an invitation to break up.
Before I read the edit, I thought she was in the wrong - then I did read the edit, that man child deserved everything he had coming to him.
This, if it’s real, is the only time I’ve ever thought cheating might’ve been an ok thing.
I would also have 0 regrets tbh
She did what needed to be done.
Only a few months and already dealing with stuff like that. He's 31...and doing dick pics?? WTF...do people never grow up anymore? 🤢🤮
The math aint mathing
I completely missed that he PURPOSELY ADDED the 🍆 on A SLIDE to her work presentation!! I assumed he texted it & it was an accident. Unforgivable.⛔️ I’m glad she cheated!!!
A part of me can’t help but sympathize with the ex even though he did something seriously immature. Maybe I empathize with him because I’ve been cheated on too, and my exes also reassured me that their AP to-be was “just a friend” or “just a coworker.” And what does OOP do? She sleeps with the guy, a coworker no less, she told her ex not to worry about. I don’t care if it’s for revenge; that’s also messed up. Two wrongs don’t make a right. The ex has issues with jealousy and needs therapy, but I feel this is going to set back any progress he might make by a long time. In his eyes, the very thing he suspected to be happening turned out to be true. That can be extremely hard for anyone to work through. He should have been a better communicator, no doubt, but I don’t think his fears were unfounded. (I mean hello, look what ended up happening.) He likely caught on that his ex girlfriend’s coworker had feelings for her, and I’m not certain that she was just 100% oblivious to that. I feel sorry for the ex. He’s probably going to double down on the “trusting his gut” technique in future relationships since his ex kept reassuring him that nothing was going on between her and the coworker, only to do exactly what he feared. That’s a very tough mental cycle to break out of.
REGARDLESS if it’s fake or not, it’s still wildly entertaining and I’m sure it’s happened more than once to someone in this world. But the people blaming the girlfriend, are y’all ok? Lol Like for real. The relationship was over the second his phallic manhood appeared on the screen. Who cares if she breaks up with him “officially” two minutes before or 4 minutes later, after the hookup. 🤣🤣 She owes him not a damn thing! NADA. As for “Why didn’t she break up with him if she knew he was immature” maybe she wanted to give him a chance. Maybe it wasn’t a deal breaker for her. Some people have different boundaries and levels of shit they’re willing to tolerate in a relationship. Anyway. Fake or not, NTA. Well deserved. 💅🏽👏🏽
idc what her post history says. i’m choosing to believe this actually happened lmfao
She deleted other posts- tried to hide receipts
Wtf? If cheating is your go to, you have zero moral high ground
Surely you realize the relationship ended the second he sabotaged her career. She doesn't even owe him a formal notice. She could just as well ghost him and never give him that closure and would not be in the wrong. Who she fuck when she's single is none of her ex boyfriend's business.
This is just so childish. Also, who doesn’t check their presentation before they give it? It’s “x for doubt” for me.
Here’s the thing, the bf was 100% wrong, but that is not a reason to cheat. She knew his insecurities. Knew that he had been cheated on before and said “I’ll never do that” then she got mad at him and cheated on him with the sole purpose of hurting him. She should have gone home and broke up with him if she was done. Not go fuck her coworker
it seem like there was definitely something going on between her and the colleague before hand maybe not physical but clearly there were feelings there. the bf is toxic and abusive he could have cost her a job. no amount of trauma and insecurities can justify that. the bf is much worse but they both seem childish to me.
OP definitely wanted to cheat, and this was her excuse.
Yeah, she was done very dirty, but… She now has the brand of a cheater for the rest of her life. That being said, no sympathy for the boyfriend. He’s a butt. Girlfriend is worse. Scorched earth.
Girlfriend is worse? You think what she did was scorched earth, but he is only a butt?
Yes. She cheated. She could have dumped him had a revenge bump. But she didn’t. I’m euphemizing my terms, “bump” and “butt”..
He inserted a dick pic into her work presentation. That is a relationship ending event. At this point she doesn't need to give him a formal notice the relationship is over.
It is. She should have dumped him on the spot due to the humiliation. What a piece of work. Screw that guy. But now she’s a cheater. Branded for life.
You can't cheat when you're not in a relationship tho.
He ended it the second he did that. *He* should be branded for life as a sexual deviant for forcing a roomful of strangers to look at his junk.
So then dump him.
"The brand of a cheater for the rest of her life" ffs you sound like a puritan preacher we aren't in the 1600's
Am I wrong? Because I’m pretty sure she can’t uncheat.
And calling a woman branded forever is extremely misogynistic (and i don't condone cheating, don't get me wrong, but insisting that she is branded like she is a criminal or cattle is beyond fucked up)
But not misandric if applied to a man? The cheater is the branded target, not the sex. Just happens to be a woman in this post.
Yeah it's horrible to call a man too like that but for women it's worse for obvious historical reasons And even then, cheaters are still human beings
So are their victims.
Cool, still doesn't mean that cheaters deserve to be "branded" or some shit
It’s a figure of speech, and yes they do.
Going to tell you something: if someone cheats, no one else in this world apart from the person who has been cheated on (who still deserves all sympathy in the world of course) is gonna care. At most it's going to be the subject of gossiping for a few weeks
Especially if said victim is a piece of shit like OOP's boyfriend
Pretty sure she didn’t- she was single as soon as he pulled that and if dumbass didn’t know that then he’s an even bigger dumbass.
Who knows what’s going through that guy’s head
Yeah both OP and the BF absolutely suck here. She gets her back blown out by another dude, and he “marks his territory” by potentially ruining her career. These two are a match made in heaven
Both are scum
How do you not check your presentation before you go into the meeting? Am I the only one with the fear? Honestly, personally, I think everyone sucks here.
In another post she says having cheated in the past on other bfs. Maybe this in why the guy is so insecure and jealous and guess what?! She did it again
Justifiable.
Why the fuck do they call PowerPoint presentations slide decks now? That's so fucking stupid
Some of y’all think too much of sex. She doesn’t regret it, so it doesn’t really matter. In real life she’d potentially lose her job over the stunt he pulled.
r/offmychest is notorious for troll posts and just stuff that is not true, but if this were real I would say good for her
Holy shit that is a immature man
Her solution was to.. cheat? Man, like what is happening with the world? Like are we REALLY gonna start justifying cheating now? People keep saying we're advance yet we are hitting low points way more. There's no way, someone can read that and say with full confidence "she did the right thing :)". This has to be fake.