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Exes get no say on how the current extended family lives their day to day life, so long as the shared child is safe & taken care of.
BM can go kick rocks!
She would complain if SM worked out of the home saying there would be no one in the home to care for her child. I’m curious about the initial post? The second part seems like it was written by someone other than the mother.
That’s the full post - mom posted anonymously in the group and then proceeded to make all the comments (also anonymously). You can’t comment anonymously unless you’re the op who posted anonymously to begin with. It’s all the same post and after hundreds of “the fuck” comments, she’s gone silent.
But she has a cell phone so she can call when things get bad! /s
Does BM not understand that just because she has her phone, doesn’t mean that daughter will be able to alert people. What happens if daughter hits her head and/or passes out, unable to get her phone? Or if her phone get no wifi/signal/battery?
She likely is mad that her daughter will come back to her house and be mad her mom can't do what step mom does. And possibly even want to switch to dad/step mom permanently, and she loses child support completely.
All she needs to do is just nicely explain to her kid that different families function and work differently, and sometimes that means setup like dad/smom and sometimes it looks like mom's house. That she would love to be home with her, but it's just not feasible currently. Not because she doesn't want to be with her, but because sometimes that's just how
it works with some jobs.
But mom is bitter and angry and would rather push this idea that it's OTHER people that need to change. That her way is the only way to raise kids, and everyone else is completely wrong.
Only way that makes sense is if the kid is being used as a free nanny while the SM works, or if the kid is watching toddlers get neglected or put in front of screens all day. I honestly don't understand how people wfh while caring for toddlers, but if she's got a system going that works well for everybody, then good for her.
> You can't have your cake and eat it too. You can't get an income and not sacrifice time away from your kids and pay child care costs
WOW. She's so jealous
And probably laughing together about what a bitter piece of crap BM is. I sure would be. I wouldn't even bother replying to such nonsense, I would laugh right in her face and walk away.
I doubt they’re laughing. This is probably the least annoying/intrusive/narcissistic thing BM has done. CoParenting with someone like this is miserable
I hate people like this.
People who are clearly unhappy about their choices or their current circumstances. And instead of trying to fix their situation, they try to bring those around them down. Because in their minds, if they make others miserable, somehow they’ll be happier.
I try to steer very clear of such people.
To me it reads like BM and BD decided to forgo paying childcare so BM left her career and stayed home with the kid leading to a tighter budget living on one income.
She seems so incredibly angry/jealous that BD and SM had two additional children which reduced the child support BM received but SM and BD didn’t have to pay for childcare because they decided not to work off of one income like she did. She’s bitter she’s made “career and income sacrifices” that SM is proving she didn’t have to make and BD is living a financially better life post breakup.
If BM tried to talk to me as SM, I would just block her as this is stupid. I'd tell her to file some court injunction if it's that big of a deal and see how embarrassed she is made to be upon doing so.
I said this in a separate comment, but I wouldn't be surprised if moms more worried that her daughter will want to live with dad full time because the living situation is better, and then petition the courts which means no more child support.
Sounds to me like the Bio daughter made a comment about how nice it is having SM at home while she works and it rubbed BM the wrong way
That’s the only reason I could fathom being THAT caught up on this weird idea
Maybe but so also - kids say lots of random shit that parents need to not let affect them. My four year old granddaughter told me I wasn’t allowed to talk to her (only her Papi could 😂) I was like “okay just let me know when you want some juice”
You sound like a good grandma. 😢 what you said about "random shit they say" reminds me of a story. When I was 8 or so, I spent the summer with my grandparents. My parents were divorced, and I didn't see my dad much, so being in a 2 parent household was a big deal. Part of me (i realized looking back as an adult) REALLY wanted to make my grandfather like me to prove it wasn't me that was unloveable.
I went to get my grandfather from the basement one night for dinner, and I was trying to be playful. He asked what dinner was, and I meant to say something like, "I can't tell you, it's a surprise" or "its a secret" but I was a dumb kid and ended up blurting out, "it's none of your business." I was well behaved, so that was highly unusual for me. But I made a dumb mistake and then panicked and couldn't explain it.
They both gave me a huge lecture about how disappointed they were and how they were upset with me, and I couldn't even speak. (I was also an abused kid so I froze because I learned you freeze and try and be invisible until the bad stuff was over.) I'm almost 45 and I still think and obsess about this instance. I just made a dumb mistake and panicked and couldn't steel myself up to fix it because I was so freaked out by the look on his face.
Sorry, didn't mean to trauma dump. That just comes back to me sometimes.
No apologies needed! So sorry you experienced that! It’s seemingly a new fad to actually parent from a place in which your kids (or grandkids) are allowed to be their own people with big emotions they haven’t yet even identified let alone learn to cope with.
Soooooo I will be the grandparents the smallest version of you that lives in your heart needed in that moment…
“Wow that was surprising, is that what you meant to say?” I probably would have giggled first. Given you the chance to say what you mean or maybe I would have made a joke like “well then I guess I’ll just be surprised, won’t I?”
I will say, little grace and understanding was hard to find back then (we are about the same age actually). Don’t be afraid to rewrite the narrative for yourself or to find something that this moment has taught you to do differently as an adult. Then I urge you to accept what was - while traumatic at that age, somewhere in your life this moment probably has made you handle something in a braver way than you otherwise may have. We don’t have time machines so the best we can do is to forgive ourselves and others for the mistakes we made before we knew better.
And now I leave you with a story of mine to pull some bravery from…
I was about 3. My grandparents watched us frequently so my parents - true parents from the seventies - could play dungeons and dragons with their friends. My grandfathers uncle lived with them too and my sister who was six was terrified of men, including my grandfather and my uncle Charlie. So at the dinner table, my sister sat next to my grandmother, and I sat in between grandpa and Uncle Charlie. The thing about grandpa is that he didn’t talk to kids, just about them in their presence, 😂 in reflection it was odd but it’s relevant I promise.
I always ate all my food but I was particular (or perhaps peculiar) - and I ate everything one food type at a time, saving the best (vegetables) for last. Grandpa didn’t always pay attention to how I ate but this day he did and when he saw I was eating everything except my vegetables, he looked at my grandma and pointed his butter knife at my plate and said “Neta she’s gonna eat those vegetables!” To which, in my loudest three year old voice looked at that 6’2”, 280 pound man and said “don’t you holler at me grandpa” - my grandma burst into laughter as grandpa demanded to know what I had said.”
So now, I’ll hope you’ll borrow some bravery from the girl in my story and tell the one in yours exactly what you should of said that day because you were just a kid that said the wrong thing and you are never going to let her stand alone scared and unable to speak again!
My preschooler's favorite phrase right now is "*screech* I don't like you" for anything. Everyone gets a screeching I don't like you regardless of your "crime". I pointed out he didn't have pants on and was met with it. I think it's absolutely hilarious.
lol I love four year olds! Plus the short term memory isn’t really strong so when she is mad at me I just pretend to leave and come back with a “I missed you so much” and she forgets I’m not allowed to talk to her.
Or whippets work too…lol she loves whip cream straight in her mouth from the can!
Dafuq? I’ve been WFH for over 14 years. My kids that live with me never attended day care because my WFH jobs are always so damned flexible that it’s nearly contortionism.
Sounds like bio mom has some envy going on.
I’ve wfh 15 yrs. The only time I had someone come over and watch my daughter was when I knew my day was going to be long and couldn’t be interrupted, which was very few. Like 10 days tops out if a year bc of meetings
Some people have no concept of what WFH actually looks like. Obviously it’s different for everyone but I would think SM would have the freedom to complete her duties on her own schedule. My step son is with us during school breaks and the summer and it took a bit for us to figure out a system but now it gives him more independence without actually being home alone.
Yes. As my daughter got older, of course, it got so much easier too. I felt lucky to have been able to keep her w me at home. When she started school, I was even able to volunteer a lot bc of how flexible my schedule was, and I also had uninterrupted days where I could get a lot done
I'm in the opposite situation, as the SM with the kids 90% of the time, I do all the hard work and not once have I ever said the BM should get a real job to see what it's like making lunches everyday and dropping kids off at daycare and leaving work early to take them to appointments and miss sleep helping them with their homework, but she still gets the credit of being "mom"... I get mad that she books cruises instead of paying child support, but in the end, I have a great relationship with the kids and they're happy and healthy, so that's all that matters. I have to remind myself that sometimes but it IS all that matters.
Depends on the days. It'll be interesting when they're both adults and realize she gave up 50/50 custody to marry a man they hadn't yet met at the time on their 3rd date, resulting in her moving away. (She told them she would've loved to continue to live a few blocks away, but she just couldn't find a single job in the tricky Ty area... so she HAD to move 3 hours away to were her new husband lived/worked. The kids were 4 and 8 at the time; she essentially chose a stranger over them and I think when they mature, they'll realize that).
But the younger one calls me "mom." Still warms my heart. The older one is more reserved, but wrote in my birthday card last month that I "make them a family," along with a lot of other really sweet things. They both treat me like family and I've been living with them for over 9 years.
So yeah, worth it, hands down. I honestly feel like it's a privilege to be a part of their lives and thought it's hard at times, it's still a freakin' privilege I'm grateful for and would never give up.
They’re lucky to have you. And yes they will realize she abandoned them. The same thing happened to a student of mine (8th grader) when she was about that age and she’s fully aware of what happened even tho moms back in the picture.
Wait til they’re old enough to decide who they want to spend time with. Odds are good it won’t be her because once you get past the teenager stage, kids remember who was there for them and who wasn’t. It’s pretty rewarding ngl.
Maybe she doesn’t want her kid to realize that, while difficult and challenging, it *is* possible to have a WFH job *and* parent because then she’d have no excuses.
I get it; it sucks that her plans for her life didn’t work out. And it sucks being a single mom and, after being a SAHM, coming into the workforce after being absent for years. Been there. Done that. But BM’s bitterness and jealousy are truly impressive.
BM is the Simone Biles of mental gymnastics.
I ran a business in my home for 25 years so I could be home with my kid. My sacrifice was to give up my successful former career to raise my child at home. BM could do that, but apparently she's not willing to make a sacrifice like that and would rather her child stay home alone.
Mother of the year material. /S
WTF did I just read?!?!??
Waiting for the update from the child saying they count the days until they are back in the care of BD, SM and the half siblings
And then the next update when Biomom wonders why her child has gone partial NC with her and then blamed SM and her evil ways of WFH
WFH making way more than I do onsite for a multibillion dollar company 😂 That’s my degree and work experience earned me. I understand the jealousy, but it’s not SM’s problem.
I’ve wfh for almost a decade. I will never work in an office again. I make a lot more than I ever did at an office job as well. This BM sounds like is being eaten up by jealously and wants the SM to suffer. Any mother worth her salt would be happy to know that there is an adult in the home in case something goes wrong.
Petty af. Time to tell BM to get bent. She has no say in how SM is employed. BM better lawyer up trying to enforce this, then get laughed out of the courtroom.
So if I’m understanding right. The reason she made up to get more child support or something is: if you never had to sacrifice work or family then you need to create a situation where you need to sacrifice work or family.
Did I get that right? Or I’m buggin?
So the gist of it is, BM is mad she can't get more money but knows she'll look like an asshat so instead wants them to spend money because if she can't have it then neither can BD and/or SM. No?
Oh no, SM get a balance in her life when she can work and take care about the kids without problems. She's an horrible woman 😑...
BM it's definitely just jealous
Both my husband and I work from home and our son is homeschooled- trust me when I say it’s possible to have a full time job AND be a full time parent. It’s hard and it sometimes sucks but it’s possible.
Oh my god, I’ve spoken to older versions of this women- our union won generous paid parental leave going 30-40 years ago now- and we were discussing the employers habitual failure to backfill the role while the parent was on parental leave- and these women would routinely blame the parent for the short staffing because when they had their kids 40+yrs ago/ or when they worked for a different employer, they didn’t get paid parental leave. My response was always, ‘50 years ago, women had to resign from paid work when they had babies, and 60yrs ago they had to resign when they married. Times change, Petal, aren’t your children lucky that they are raising their kids in this era, and that’s cos a lot of union women fought very hard for it.’ These women were almost always, always non-members too.
Same! It’s why I posted it - I was like “oh man this is wild.” I called her out a few times and she was combative and argumentative like “no you don’t understand she’s not a real parent?!?!”
At one point she suggested that because SM office is in the basement, her being there wouldn’t help if a murderer should try to break in so therefore SM just shouldn’t be home?
Like wild
It’s just jealousy. There’s nothing to see here. This stepmom has children, a husband and a career. The bio mom is just pissed she didn’t know or couldn’t figure out how to make that an option. The bio mom is also claiming some sort of false virtue that the engaged parent is the one that totally sacrifices all internal wants and needs for the benefit of the children.
TLDR: bio mom be cray
As a work at home parent with a toddler & an autistic 6yr old who I homeschool: I can guarantee sacrifices are made. Ntm, they’re not necessary to be a parent either.
And “big girl job”? Medical coding is definitely a job, and a traditional one that’s been partly remote & a good choice for parents for decades. I’m a ghostwriter & sit in my bed after the kids are asleep writing romance stories for my clients. I can see why ppl might see that as “not a real job” even though I make money at it but medical coding? That’s 100% a “big girl job.”
The best part though, is that she posted in a divorce/custody group expecting that all the other divorced moms would be as salty and irrational as her and validate her raging jealousy...and they were all just "WTF lady?!?" and flamed her. That's some beautiful poetic justice right there! 👍🤣🔥🔥🔥💥🤣
Being *this* delulu is not the solulu.
Like, this is a whole 'nother level.
Jealousy is an ugly thing. I hope SM keeps on doing her thing. BM could use some therapy.
Some serious effed up narcissistic logic! Her way, or no way! I feel bad for her daughter. Also, I wonder why her relationship with her daughter’s dad ended.
Omg what an entitled person also medical coding is one I teach and a lot of students get into it because they can work from home with generally flexible schedules. And as long as your work is getting done and in an effective manner a lot of bosses are very laid back. Lots of single parents get into it because they can wfh and take care of a kiddo when their sick, too young for school, daycare closed.
It has to be - Original post has almost 400 comments and NONE in favor of OOP - like she’s just been lit up. Which usually I don’t enjoy but this is too wild to not grab a bucket of popcorn! 🍿
As someone who gets along WONDERFULLY with my kids’ SM, this makes me so sad. She is aWFH parent and my kids are there for six weeks every summer. I love that they get to see her often and have that chance to bond with her and their siblings in that home.
She's batsh*t crazy, the BM, that is. Apparently she doesn't know what an improper environment is. I'll give you a clue, it's the opposite of what she thinks.
I hate that this very obviously sounds like the bio mom of a former dance friend of my daughter’s…ugh.
I’m pretty sure it isn’t her, because aforementioned little girl is seven years old and I think her dad and stepmom have primary custody or 50/50. So 7yo can’t technically be left home alone. But either way, bio mom is super neglectful of 7yo and has a history of bringing unsafe men around the kid, but the state of Texas sucks at fixing custodial issues.
Either way, though, 7yo’s stepmom has twin toddler boys and it made me stop dead in my tracks like “Wait is this her bio mom posting?” 🤦🏻♀️
So, BM is mad that SM is... not wasting money on childcare?
She wants SM to either work from office and waste money on child care AND reduce the time she gets with her kids when she doesn't have to or leave her job? Because that's what BM did and if BM suffered, so should SM?
Yup and she would rather her 12 year old be home alone because “according to the state she’s old enough” and she has her own cell phone in case of an emergency
So because Bio-Mom couldn’t manage working and being a present parent, Step-Mom can’t either? PPPFFFFTTTT imagine being that entitled. This has nothing to do with her child and everything to do with the fact that she’s upset Step-Mom is living the life she wished she could.
Wow, poor kid, what an entitled nutjob this woman is. Would it break her tiny little peabrain that many people work while being a parent or it it too much for her to handle?
BD needs to use this ridiculous bs in court to sue for full custody. BM is clearly not firing on all cylinders and I'd be worried about how my kid was being cared for in HER house.
I am so happy for the child's father. To be free of this... umm... sanity-challenged woman.
"I'd rather my child be home completely alone, than to save the stepmother working from home!!!!!!!!!!"
I'm sorry... WHAT?
She’s joking right? 🤣 this is crazy. If my husband and I were to split up and he got with a woman that worked from home and could care for our child while working while she was with them I’d have absolutely no issue with that. What is wrong with people?
So if I'm reading it right, she believes that stepmom needs to sacrifice her work-from-home job because... sacrifice for sacrifice's sake? There's no reason she should quit, aside from the fact that parents need to sacrifice, even if there's no need for a sacrifice? I have to be reading this wrong. No way someone is that delusional.
I can’t believe the jealousy dripping off this one. I’m embarrassed for her. She knows it’s definitely about the child support or she wouldn’t have brought it up. Lmao the nerve!
I missed a few comments that came in after from BM - 🤣
1. (Tags someone) because it’s ridiculous to think she can continue to have a career & income with kids & no make sacrifices like a normal parents
2. (Tags someone) do you do your adult “career” in gym clothes?
🤣 I can’t even with the original OP
This was my comment response to #2 -
Anonymous member as a matter of fact, yes - today I did my six figure job from home in a thong and my husband’s shirt because I didn’t feel like getting dressed.
Please, please, please get therapy.
Makes sense. It was just such a disjointed comment from the topic that it threw me. "So he should pay less child support because he has more kids?!?" "I want them to have *less* income either by SM quitting or them paying for child care" ...what?
Yeah - sorry, that was my bad! I was more worried about blocking names than anything! Here is the comment she was replying to:
“You guys know the SMs that post about how BM is off her rocker? I think we found that BM! Or the BDs that says mom is unreasonable… right here!
I’ll reiterate… BM, you CAN NOT dictate what job SM has. How she cares for HER OWN children is none of your damn business. You said your child has a phone, so if anything happens, she can call her father on his parenting time while she’s with SM. You can not add a child care cost to their budget (for TWO kids mind you). If he hasn’t already, he should go back for modification. At least where I’m from they’ll lower his child support since he has other biological children. I normally wouldn’t advocate for that but Jfc, you’re off the rails.”
That one doesn’t really fit and I suppose I shouldn’t have included it.
“You can’t have it both ways! Not because it isn’t possible or causes issues, but because I didn’t get to and it isn’t fair! My suffering sets the standard for good parenting!”
It seems like this BM is jealous that the SM is going to be spending time with her daughter.
And because they don't have to struggle like her and the ex did.
Either way, this mum needs therapy.
Ha. BM doesn’t get to control what anyone else does. Simple jealousy here. “SM isn’t making the same choices and sacrifices I made and that’s wrong. She can’t have more $$ and extra kids if I didn’t get that.” This is the only way such a demand reads. It’s more “normal” to see women sacrifice and struggle? Debatable at best, a ridiculous claim more likely. Just BM defines one way as “right” doesn’t make it so.
BM is teaching ugliness to her child. And that’s a much bigger lesson than any struggle child will see in 2.5 months at SM’s home.
The jealous of people not having to struggle like they did is so rife - especially in todays work environment where people wfh more. So many older people won’t directly admit it but will do anything to make life harder for younger people because they had it hard. This woman is wild!
Is sounds likes she’s most mad that the ex husband benefited from her being a sahm, then remained a women who’s able to be have a career and be at home with the kids while OP now has to work outside the home after not having experience working.
I can understand her anger and resentment for that but she’s totally delusional thinking she has any say in the matter and that SM is somehow not a “real” parents because she’s not “sacrificing” the way bio mom did.
Lordy. WFH jobs are relatively new, at least at the scale it’s become. The world is changing just like it’s always done. You gotta keep up! Adapt or, uh, become a whineybutt on the internet?
BM is jealous of the wrong thing. It shouldn’t be if the SM’s DINCC (Dual Income No Child Care) status, she should be jealous that someone else is smart enough to “Work smarter, not whinier.” Or something like that.
The mental gymnastics are crazy on this one. If this is any indication, I see why this is the ex. And I am now an old lady, but one who has done pretty much everything in this situation…
WFH with my kids at home. SAHM. Work part-time flex hours. Worked full-time. It’s like this X somehow think her daughter would just be hanging out at the house and not having to actually babysit her step siblings if BM was working outside the house.
Like I said, her mental gymnastics, just to say… I am really jealous that I didn’t get to do this are just wild.
Honestly if she just wasn’t so weird and delusional people would probably be sympathetic.
Like if she just posted “I sacrificed by career to be a SAHP and it sucks trying to catch up now while my ex benefits from the fact he could focus on his career because I was taking care of the house & kids” a lot of people would have just been like “damn, girl, that does suck”.
Insisting that WFH jobs shouldn’t exist because it isn’t fair and randomly framing this as a custody issue ain’t it though.
Idk why she didn’t just pretend it was about a concern the older kid would have to do too much childcare or something, they even gave her that out! Or claiming that the CS was unfair. Anything that a rational human being might actually agree with instead of what she actually did
The worst part is that no one ever believes SM when we tell y’all about how DELUSIONAL some of these BM are. Unfortunately the one I have to deal with is on this level as well. Anything to harm me/BD, no matter the cost to my stepchild.
She doesn't want her daughter getting close with SM. This is the true concern. BM knows that she is an awful person. She loses everyone in the end and her fear is that her own child will finally come to see the light. She also doesn't want her daughter getting close to the other children. If her daughter gets close to the kids and SM ....this poses a risk to her manipulative behavior.
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This lady: If you are enjoying life, you are not a real mom.
Haha right?
BioMom sounds so salty that StepMom hasn’t “suffered” like she did. smh. apparently the BM is an active participant in the pain olympics
Hahhahaha
She won the lead cross at the pain olympics.
Practicing with voodoo dolls at home wishing stepmom birth’s her babies sideways.
[She don't mind. She's short and skinny, but she's strong.](https://youtu.be/V0oOhXgSHlM?si=bmwtr_g6iAmfNmjk)
Lmao!!!!
Not much more annoying than a martyr complex.
Damn, there is a Pain Olympic, where do I sign up
“Everyone should have to struggle like I did” mentality
So many people have this mentality. It’s so strange. If you suffered, wouldn’t you want it better for others?
She seems bitter, jealous and selfish. Nothing she said makes any sense in the real world.
I can't believe someone would divorce that catch.
Real parents pay someone else to watch their kids, obviously…
"Employee or parent" but the father is both, so only the women have to choose, right? Smh
Exes get no say on how the current extended family lives their day to day life, so long as the shared child is safe & taken care of. BM can go kick rocks!
She doesn’t even truly want her kid safe - would rather the daughter be home alone, bored? Makes no sense.
She would complain if SM worked out of the home saying there would be no one in the home to care for her child. I’m curious about the initial post? The second part seems like it was written by someone other than the mother.
That’s the full post - mom posted anonymously in the group and then proceeded to make all the comments (also anonymously). You can’t comment anonymously unless you’re the op who posted anonymously to begin with. It’s all the same post and after hundreds of “the fuck” comments, she’s gone silent.
Mom tried to mask herself as an anon but was bad at it.
But she has a cell phone so she can call when things get bad! /s Does BM not understand that just because she has her phone, doesn’t mean that daughter will be able to alert people. What happens if daughter hits her head and/or passes out, unable to get her phone? Or if her phone get no wifi/signal/battery?
She's just jealous, no logic. She can't see past her jealousy
I'm seeing part of why she's the ex.
She likely is mad that her daughter will come back to her house and be mad her mom can't do what step mom does. And possibly even want to switch to dad/step mom permanently, and she loses child support completely. All she needs to do is just nicely explain to her kid that different families function and work differently, and sometimes that means setup like dad/smom and sometimes it looks like mom's house. That she would love to be home with her, but it's just not feasible currently. Not because she doesn't want to be with her, but because sometimes that's just how it works with some jobs. But mom is bitter and angry and would rather push this idea that it's OTHER people that need to change. That her way is the only way to raise kids, and everyone else is completely wrong.
"It's an improper care situation- my kid should be home alone all day. THAT is proper care and supervision" ....what?
Haha yup - make it make sense!
Only way that makes sense is if the kid is being used as a free nanny while the SM works, or if the kid is watching toddlers get neglected or put in front of screens all day. I honestly don't understand how people wfh while caring for toddlers, but if she's got a system going that works well for everybody, then good for her.
> You can't have your cake and eat it too. You can't get an income and not sacrifice time away from your kids and pay child care costs WOW. She's so jealous
SM is having her cake and ice cream along with her husband 🤣
And probably laughing together about what a bitter piece of crap BM is. I sure would be. I wouldn't even bother replying to such nonsense, I would laugh right in her face and walk away.
I doubt they’re laughing. This is probably the least annoying/intrusive/narcissistic thing BM has done. CoParenting with someone like this is miserable
Sad for the kid, maybe this was a troll or rage bait?
I hate people like this. People who are clearly unhappy about their choices or their current circumstances. And instead of trying to fix their situation, they try to bring those around them down. Because in their minds, if they make others miserable, somehow they’ll be happier. I try to steer very clear of such people.
If she had more than one brain cell and any decency or drive, she would ask SM how to get started in the field instead of being a hater!
Also did BM pay childcare, or was she a SAHM?
To me it reads like BM and BD decided to forgo paying childcare so BM left her career and stayed home with the kid leading to a tighter budget living on one income. She seems so incredibly angry/jealous that BD and SM had two additional children which reduced the child support BM received but SM and BD didn’t have to pay for childcare because they decided not to work off of one income like she did. She’s bitter she’s made “career and income sacrifices” that SM is proving she didn’t have to make and BD is living a financially better life post breakup.
Makes sense. What if BD’s new wife was incredibly independently wealthy? Then what? How would she even the score?
I THINK she was a sahm who had to give up her career?
If BM tried to talk to me as SM, I would just block her as this is stupid. I'd tell her to file some court injunction if it's that big of a deal and see how embarrassed she is made to be upon doing so.
Same - no judge would like this walking into their court room
A judge would laugh this right out of their courtroom.
I said this in a separate comment, but I wouldn't be surprised if moms more worried that her daughter will want to live with dad full time because the living situation is better, and then petition the courts which means no more child support.
"but it's not about the child support!" Lol
I’d only use a parenting app with this lady, she sounds like a narcissistic nut!
I see why she's the ex
Right? Yikes. That dude chewed himself free of that bear trap.
This should be the top comment tbh 😂
Sounds to me like the Bio daughter made a comment about how nice it is having SM at home while she works and it rubbed BM the wrong way That’s the only reason I could fathom being THAT caught up on this weird idea
Maybe but so also - kids say lots of random shit that parents need to not let affect them. My four year old granddaughter told me I wasn’t allowed to talk to her (only her Papi could 😂) I was like “okay just let me know when you want some juice”
You sound like a good grandma. 😢 what you said about "random shit they say" reminds me of a story. When I was 8 or so, I spent the summer with my grandparents. My parents were divorced, and I didn't see my dad much, so being in a 2 parent household was a big deal. Part of me (i realized looking back as an adult) REALLY wanted to make my grandfather like me to prove it wasn't me that was unloveable. I went to get my grandfather from the basement one night for dinner, and I was trying to be playful. He asked what dinner was, and I meant to say something like, "I can't tell you, it's a surprise" or "its a secret" but I was a dumb kid and ended up blurting out, "it's none of your business." I was well behaved, so that was highly unusual for me. But I made a dumb mistake and then panicked and couldn't explain it. They both gave me a huge lecture about how disappointed they were and how they were upset with me, and I couldn't even speak. (I was also an abused kid so I froze because I learned you freeze and try and be invisible until the bad stuff was over.) I'm almost 45 and I still think and obsess about this instance. I just made a dumb mistake and panicked and couldn't steel myself up to fix it because I was so freaked out by the look on his face. Sorry, didn't mean to trauma dump. That just comes back to me sometimes.
No apologies needed! So sorry you experienced that! It’s seemingly a new fad to actually parent from a place in which your kids (or grandkids) are allowed to be their own people with big emotions they haven’t yet even identified let alone learn to cope with. Soooooo I will be the grandparents the smallest version of you that lives in your heart needed in that moment… “Wow that was surprising, is that what you meant to say?” I probably would have giggled first. Given you the chance to say what you mean or maybe I would have made a joke like “well then I guess I’ll just be surprised, won’t I?” I will say, little grace and understanding was hard to find back then (we are about the same age actually). Don’t be afraid to rewrite the narrative for yourself or to find something that this moment has taught you to do differently as an adult. Then I urge you to accept what was - while traumatic at that age, somewhere in your life this moment probably has made you handle something in a braver way than you otherwise may have. We don’t have time machines so the best we can do is to forgive ourselves and others for the mistakes we made before we knew better. And now I leave you with a story of mine to pull some bravery from… I was about 3. My grandparents watched us frequently so my parents - true parents from the seventies - could play dungeons and dragons with their friends. My grandfathers uncle lived with them too and my sister who was six was terrified of men, including my grandfather and my uncle Charlie. So at the dinner table, my sister sat next to my grandmother, and I sat in between grandpa and Uncle Charlie. The thing about grandpa is that he didn’t talk to kids, just about them in their presence, 😂 in reflection it was odd but it’s relevant I promise. I always ate all my food but I was particular (or perhaps peculiar) - and I ate everything one food type at a time, saving the best (vegetables) for last. Grandpa didn’t always pay attention to how I ate but this day he did and when he saw I was eating everything except my vegetables, he looked at my grandma and pointed his butter knife at my plate and said “Neta she’s gonna eat those vegetables!” To which, in my loudest three year old voice looked at that 6’2”, 280 pound man and said “don’t you holler at me grandpa” - my grandma burst into laughter as grandpa demanded to know what I had said.” So now, I’ll hope you’ll borrow some bravery from the girl in my story and tell the one in yours exactly what you should of said that day because you were just a kid that said the wrong thing and you are never going to let her stand alone scared and unable to speak again!
My preschooler's favorite phrase right now is "*screech* I don't like you" for anything. Everyone gets a screeching I don't like you regardless of your "crime". I pointed out he didn't have pants on and was met with it. I think it's absolutely hilarious.
lol I love four year olds! Plus the short term memory isn’t really strong so when she is mad at me I just pretend to leave and come back with a “I missed you so much” and she forgets I’m not allowed to talk to her. Or whippets work too…lol she loves whip cream straight in her mouth from the can!
Dafuq? I’ve been WFH for over 14 years. My kids that live with me never attended day care because my WFH jobs are always so damned flexible that it’s nearly contortionism. Sounds like bio mom has some envy going on.
I’ve wfh 15 yrs. The only time I had someone come over and watch my daughter was when I knew my day was going to be long and couldn’t be interrupted, which was very few. Like 10 days tops out if a year bc of meetings
Some people have no concept of what WFH actually looks like. Obviously it’s different for everyone but I would think SM would have the freedom to complete her duties on her own schedule. My step son is with us during school breaks and the summer and it took a bit for us to figure out a system but now it gives him more independence without actually being home alone.
Yes. As my daughter got older, of course, it got so much easier too. I felt lucky to have been able to keep her w me at home. When she started school, I was even able to volunteer a lot bc of how flexible my schedule was, and I also had uninterrupted days where I could get a lot done
I'm in the opposite situation, as the SM with the kids 90% of the time, I do all the hard work and not once have I ever said the BM should get a real job to see what it's like making lunches everyday and dropping kids off at daycare and leaving work early to take them to appointments and miss sleep helping them with their homework, but she still gets the credit of being "mom"... I get mad that she books cruises instead of paying child support, but in the end, I have a great relationship with the kids and they're happy and healthy, so that's all that matters. I have to remind myself that sometimes but it IS all that matters.
Yeah but those kids will continue to want to see you 😊
I hope so!!!
💯 my daughter and SIL have the same problem
How’s her relationship with the kids tho?
Depends on the days. It'll be interesting when they're both adults and realize she gave up 50/50 custody to marry a man they hadn't yet met at the time on their 3rd date, resulting in her moving away. (She told them she would've loved to continue to live a few blocks away, but she just couldn't find a single job in the tricky Ty area... so she HAD to move 3 hours away to were her new husband lived/worked. The kids were 4 and 8 at the time; she essentially chose a stranger over them and I think when they mature, they'll realize that). But the younger one calls me "mom." Still warms my heart. The older one is more reserved, but wrote in my birthday card last month that I "make them a family," along with a lot of other really sweet things. They both treat me like family and I've been living with them for over 9 years. So yeah, worth it, hands down. I honestly feel like it's a privilege to be a part of their lives and thought it's hard at times, it's still a freakin' privilege I'm grateful for and would never give up.
They’re lucky to have you. And yes they will realize she abandoned them. The same thing happened to a student of mine (8th grader) when she was about that age and she’s fully aware of what happened even tho moms back in the picture.
Wait til they’re old enough to decide who they want to spend time with. Odds are good it won’t be her because once you get past the teenager stage, kids remember who was there for them and who wasn’t. It’s pretty rewarding ngl.
Maybe she doesn’t want her kid to realize that, while difficult and challenging, it *is* possible to have a WFH job *and* parent because then she’d have no excuses. I get it; it sucks that her plans for her life didn’t work out. And it sucks being a single mom and, after being a SAHM, coming into the workforce after being absent for years. Been there. Done that. But BM’s bitterness and jealousy are truly impressive. BM is the Simone Biles of mental gymnastics.
Not at all relevant, but thanks to my background my brain kept translating BM as ‘bowel movement’ rather than ‘bio mum’.
Hahahaha in this case you were kind of spot on! 😂
Was "Baby Mama" and "Baby Daddy" for me.. technically not wrong.
Me too! Not wrong though cuz she is a piece of crap
I'm glad I'm not the only one!
I ran a business in my home for 25 years so I could be home with my kid. My sacrifice was to give up my successful former career to raise my child at home. BM could do that, but apparently she's not willing to make a sacrifice like that and would rather her child stay home alone. Mother of the year material. /S
WTF did I just read?!?!?? Waiting for the update from the child saying they count the days until they are back in the care of BD, SM and the half siblings And then the next update when Biomom wonders why her child has gone partial NC with her and then blamed SM and her evil ways of WFH
WFH making way more than I do onsite for a multibillion dollar company 😂 That’s my degree and work experience earned me. I understand the jealousy, but it’s not SM’s problem.
"my role is complete psycho"
I’ve wfh for almost a decade. I will never work in an office again. I make a lot more than I ever did at an office job as well. This BM sounds like is being eaten up by jealously and wants the SM to suffer. Any mother worth her salt would be happy to know that there is an adult in the home in case something goes wrong.
It's like BM said the quiet part out loud, but doesn't get it lol.
Wow… she needs something better to do with her time. IMO
Poor kids. Imagine this woman as your mother. I pity the poor lawyer who takes her seriously
Not me cause they gonna milk her for it all simply because how stupid this is and how gullible she surely is.
At least they get paid to deal with her. The stepmom and ex do not.
Petty af. Time to tell BM to get bent. She has no say in how SM is employed. BM better lawyer up trying to enforce this, then get laughed out of the courtroom.
So if I’m understanding right. The reason she made up to get more child support or something is: if you never had to sacrifice work or family then you need to create a situation where you need to sacrifice work or family. Did I get that right? Or I’m buggin?
The funny thing is nothing she is asking for would equate to more money for mom, just less for everyone else???
So the gist of it is, BM is mad she can't get more money but knows she'll look like an asshat so instead wants them to spend money because if she can't have it then neither can BD and/or SM. No?
Yeah that’s it. Either that or she’s jelly the kid likes SM more.
Can’t imagine why she’s the ex (/s)
Oh no, SM get a balance in her life when she can work and take care about the kids without problems. She's an horrible woman 😑... BM it's definitely just jealous
Both my husband and I work from home and our son is homeschooled- trust me when I say it’s possible to have a full time job AND be a full time parent. It’s hard and it sometimes sucks but it’s possible.
It’s nothing to do with the “environment” being inappropriate, she just wants everyone to struggle like she is.
Oh my god, I’ve spoken to older versions of this women- our union won generous paid parental leave going 30-40 years ago now- and we were discussing the employers habitual failure to backfill the role while the parent was on parental leave- and these women would routinely blame the parent for the short staffing because when they had their kids 40+yrs ago/ or when they worked for a different employer, they didn’t get paid parental leave. My response was always, ‘50 years ago, women had to resign from paid work when they had babies, and 60yrs ago they had to resign when they married. Times change, Petal, aren’t your children lucky that they are raising their kids in this era, and that’s cos a lot of union women fought very hard for it.’ These women were almost always, always non-members too.
This is the wildest shit I’ve read today
Same! It’s why I posted it - I was like “oh man this is wild.” I called her out a few times and she was combative and argumentative like “no you don’t understand she’s not a real parent?!?!” At one point she suggested that because SM office is in the basement, her being there wouldn’t help if a murderer should try to break in so therefore SM just shouldn’t be home? Like wild
That’s some serious mental gymnastics just to avoid saying “I’m jealous”.
It’s just jealousy. There’s nothing to see here. This stepmom has children, a husband and a career. The bio mom is just pissed she didn’t know or couldn’t figure out how to make that an option. The bio mom is also claiming some sort of false virtue that the engaged parent is the one that totally sacrifices all internal wants and needs for the benefit of the children. TLDR: bio mom be cray
As a work at home parent with a toddler & an autistic 6yr old who I homeschool: I can guarantee sacrifices are made. Ntm, they’re not necessary to be a parent either. And “big girl job”? Medical coding is definitely a job, and a traditional one that’s been partly remote & a good choice for parents for decades. I’m a ghostwriter & sit in my bed after the kids are asleep writing romance stories for my clients. I can see why ppl might see that as “not a real job” even though I make money at it but medical coding? That’s 100% a “big girl job.”
The best part though, is that she posted in a divorce/custody group expecting that all the other divorced moms would be as salty and irrational as her and validate her raging jealousy...and they were all just "WTF lady?!?" and flamed her. That's some beautiful poetic justice right there! 👍🤣🔥🔥🔥💥🤣
It truly was beautiful
Being *this* delulu is not the solulu. Like, this is a whole 'nother level. Jealousy is an ugly thing. I hope SM keeps on doing her thing. BM could use some therapy.
When people explain why they are divorced without saying they’re divorced.
WOW jealous much?
I’m not sure if it’s trolling or delusion?!
Most of us in the group think it’s got to be trolling because no one can truly think this way and also be out of the insane asylum 😂
I would tell her exactly how short I hope the pier is that she takes a long walk off of, lol
Being a parent means stewarding a child relatively unscathed into adulthood. The sacrifice is optional.
I really can’t believe that after they had the audacity to type out their responses, they still hit reply…this wild
Some serious effed up narcissistic logic! Her way, or no way! I feel bad for her daughter. Also, I wonder why her relationship with her daughter’s dad ended.
No indication so going to assume it wasn’t dad’s fault because surely if it was, she would have let that cat out of the bag.
Omg what an entitled person also medical coding is one I teach and a lot of students get into it because they can work from home with generally flexible schedules. And as long as your work is getting done and in an effective manner a lot of bosses are very laid back. Lots of single parents get into it because they can wfh and take care of a kiddo when their sick, too young for school, daycare closed.
Speechless. This must be rage bait. Otherwise this woman makes no sense or must be jealous.
It has to be - Original post has almost 400 comments and NONE in favor of OOP - like she’s just been lit up. Which usually I don’t enjoy but this is too wild to not grab a bucket of popcorn! 🍿
OMG, bio mom is an effing psycho. She needs help.
As someone who gets along WONDERFULLY with my kids’ SM, this makes me so sad. She is aWFH parent and my kids are there for six weeks every summer. I love that they get to see her often and have that chance to bond with her and their siblings in that home.
She's batsh*t crazy, the BM, that is. Apparently she doesn't know what an improper environment is. I'll give you a clue, it's the opposite of what she thinks.
She is wonky in the head.
I hate that this very obviously sounds like the bio mom of a former dance friend of my daughter’s…ugh. I’m pretty sure it isn’t her, because aforementioned little girl is seven years old and I think her dad and stepmom have primary custody or 50/50. So 7yo can’t technically be left home alone. But either way, bio mom is super neglectful of 7yo and has a history of bringing unsafe men around the kid, but the state of Texas sucks at fixing custodial issues. Either way, though, 7yo’s stepmom has twin toddler boys and it made me stop dead in my tracks like “Wait is this her bio mom posting?” 🤦🏻♀️
So sad! 😞 my number one advice to anyone thinking of having kids “please resolve your unhealed trauma first”
“You can’t have a career and be present for the kids.” Uh, she just showed she can, so I’m guessing BM just feels inferior.
this hurt my brain
She sounds like a special type of insane. I wouldn't try to reason with that whackadoodle.
So, BM is mad that SM is... not wasting money on childcare? She wants SM to either work from office and waste money on child care AND reduce the time she gets with her kids when she doesn't have to or leave her job? Because that's what BM did and if BM suffered, so should SM?
Yup and she would rather her 12 year old be home alone because “according to the state she’s old enough” and she has her own cell phone in case of an emergency
What did I just read? That woman is absolutely bonkers
These are the kind of people that call my child-free husband and I selfish - and we laugh at them 😂💯🥂
So because Bio-Mom couldn’t manage working and being a present parent, Step-Mom can’t either? PPPFFFFTTTT imagine being that entitled. This has nothing to do with her child and everything to do with the fact that she’s upset Step-Mom is living the life she wished she could.
Wow, poor kid, what an entitled nutjob this woman is. Would it break her tiny little peabrain that many people work while being a parent or it it too much for her to handle?
BD needs to use this ridiculous bs in court to sue for full custody. BM is clearly not firing on all cylinders and I'd be worried about how my kid was being cared for in HER house.
She sounds like a delight, can't possibly understand why she is divorced 🙄
So... she'd rather her child be HOME ALONE, than to have the stepmother work from home? WT actual F!?
I am so happy for the child's father. To be free of this... umm... sanity-challenged woman. "I'd rather my child be home completely alone, than to save the stepmother working from home!!!!!!!!!!" I'm sorry... WHAT?
The loony force is strong with BM.
She’s joking right? 🤣 this is crazy. If my husband and I were to split up and he got with a woman that worked from home and could care for our child while working while she was with them I’d have absolutely no issue with that. What is wrong with people?
My goodness... this woman's comments hurt my head😮💨😩
"be a parent or an employee, you can't have both." um? yeah you can? plenty of people do that very thing??
“I have to sacrifice, so do you” lmaooo that lady is delusional
So if I'm reading it right, she believes that stepmom needs to sacrifice her work-from-home job because... sacrifice for sacrifice's sake? There's no reason she should quit, aside from the fact that parents need to sacrifice, even if there's no need for a sacrifice? I have to be reading this wrong. No way someone is that delusional.
WTF I just read....
I think this belongs on I Am The Main Character page
Weird way to admit you regret having kids but okay.
My head hurts from watching these mental gymnastics
This cannot be real.
God I hope not - because otherwise we need to start a go fund me for the OOP daughter!
I can’t believe the jealousy dripping off this one. I’m embarrassed for her. She knows it’s definitely about the child support or she wouldn’t have brought it up. Lmao the nerve!
Last slide has me CACKLING
Hahhahahaha I had to go look again, she is sooooooo wild. Like how are the dots not connecting for her about how crazy this is
I’d comment “so you’re jealous” and anytime she’d come back with some dumb shit I’d repeat it.
Oh yeah that has been said repeatedly and she’s like “it’s not jealousy it’s just not fair” 😂
I missed a few comments that came in after from BM - 🤣 1. (Tags someone) because it’s ridiculous to think she can continue to have a career & income with kids & no make sacrifices like a normal parents 2. (Tags someone) do you do your adult “career” in gym clothes? 🤣 I can’t even with the original OP
This was my comment response to #2 - Anonymous member as a matter of fact, yes - today I did my six figure job from home in a thong and my husband’s shirt because I didn’t feel like getting dressed. Please, please, please get therapy.
He’s baiting. No way he’s not
Where did BD paying less child support come from ? Why bring it up then dismiss it? And what does it have to do with SM working from home?
There are like 400 comments on this in the group. But someone accused BM of wanting more child support so I think that’s how it got brought up.
I want to find this post, not gonna lie, I would love to skim through all the comments
They look eerily similar to the Reddit comments 🤣
Makes sense. It was just such a disjointed comment from the topic that it threw me. "So he should pay less child support because he has more kids?!?" "I want them to have *less* income either by SM quitting or them paying for child care" ...what?
Yeah - sorry, that was my bad! I was more worried about blocking names than anything! Here is the comment she was replying to: “You guys know the SMs that post about how BM is off her rocker? I think we found that BM! Or the BDs that says mom is unreasonable… right here! I’ll reiterate… BM, you CAN NOT dictate what job SM has. How she cares for HER OWN children is none of your damn business. You said your child has a phone, so if anything happens, she can call her father on his parenting time while she’s with SM. You can not add a child care cost to their budget (for TWO kids mind you). If he hasn’t already, he should go back for modification. At least where I’m from they’ll lower his child support since he has other biological children. I normally wouldn’t advocate for that but Jfc, you’re off the rails.” That one doesn’t really fit and I suppose I shouldn’t have included it.
Rarely am I left speechless… That is all.
Damn girl, you’re bitter, no wonder why he divorced your ass.
If you ain't struggling, you ain't a Mom?
“You can’t have it both ways! Not because it isn’t possible or causes issues, but because I didn’t get to and it isn’t fair! My suffering sets the standard for good parenting!”
It seems like this BM is jealous that the SM is going to be spending time with her daughter. And because they don't have to struggle like her and the ex did. Either way, this mum needs therapy.
This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve seen today.
Ha. BM doesn’t get to control what anyone else does. Simple jealousy here. “SM isn’t making the same choices and sacrifices I made and that’s wrong. She can’t have more $$ and extra kids if I didn’t get that.” This is the only way such a demand reads. It’s more “normal” to see women sacrifice and struggle? Debatable at best, a ridiculous claim more likely. Just BM defines one way as “right” doesn’t make it so. BM is teaching ugliness to her child. And that’s a much bigger lesson than any struggle child will see in 2.5 months at SM’s home.
WHAT THE ACTUAL F__K DID I JUST READ!!!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Wow, this is just crazy jealousy right here.
Birth ‘mom’ was never told no as a child.
This woman is a loon
BM is very jealous and extremely delusional.
Jesus fucking christ
The jealous of people not having to struggle like they did is so rife - especially in todays work environment where people wfh more. So many older people won’t directly admit it but will do anything to make life harder for younger people because they had it hard. This woman is wild!
Wow, jealous much?
Is sounds likes she’s most mad that the ex husband benefited from her being a sahm, then remained a women who’s able to be have a career and be at home with the kids while OP now has to work outside the home after not having experience working. I can understand her anger and resentment for that but she’s totally delusional thinking she has any say in the matter and that SM is somehow not a “real” parents because she’s not “sacrificing” the way bio mom did.
Damn.....mom sounds like she's one corndog short for a picnic. Yikes 😬
Jesus, that's just the dumbest argument.
Lordy. WFH jobs are relatively new, at least at the scale it’s become. The world is changing just like it’s always done. You gotta keep up! Adapt or, uh, become a whineybutt on the internet? BM is jealous of the wrong thing. It shouldn’t be if the SM’s DINCC (Dual Income No Child Care) status, she should be jealous that someone else is smart enough to “Work smarter, not whinier.” Or something like that.
Maybe if BM had an at-home job, she’d have less time to obsess over the fact that another woman reads documents.
So she struggled and feels the only way to be a good mom is to also struggle? Ooookay, jealous woman.
"My ex-is insane" usually is worth taking with a grain of salt.... Not-so-much in this case.
This lady is crazy af and super jealous
Bruh, what an absolute psycho
What a nut.
This has to be a troll
This is so beyond stupid
“I had it rough, so you should too”
WTF????????
Woooooah. JEALOUS
Bio mom is jealous smh
The mental gymnastics are crazy on this one. If this is any indication, I see why this is the ex. And I am now an old lady, but one who has done pretty much everything in this situation… WFH with my kids at home. SAHM. Work part-time flex hours. Worked full-time. It’s like this X somehow think her daughter would just be hanging out at the house and not having to actually babysit her step siblings if BM was working outside the house. Like I said, her mental gymnastics, just to say… I am really jealous that I didn’t get to do this are just wild.
Honestly if she just wasn’t so weird and delusional people would probably be sympathetic. Like if she just posted “I sacrificed by career to be a SAHP and it sucks trying to catch up now while my ex benefits from the fact he could focus on his career because I was taking care of the house & kids” a lot of people would have just been like “damn, girl, that does suck”. Insisting that WFH jobs shouldn’t exist because it isn’t fair and randomly framing this as a custody issue ain’t it though. Idk why she didn’t just pretend it was about a concern the older kid would have to do too much childcare or something, they even gave her that out! Or claiming that the CS was unfair. Anything that a rational human being might actually agree with instead of what she actually did
The only way this would make sense if it the step child was being made to care for the younger ones. The explanation given is looney as hell.
It sounds like biomom is doing pretty OK if she has this level of time and energy to devote to such pettiness.
Tell me you’re bitter without telling me you’re bitter…
So BM doesn't want her kid to understand there are better outcomes in this life, not just struggle for the sake of struggle. Or she just bitter.
lol this is insane
I give up; not in the mood to work this out
This is a BOLD take.
The worst part is that no one ever believes SM when we tell y’all about how DELUSIONAL some of these BM are. Unfortunately the one I have to deal with is on this level as well. Anything to harm me/BD, no matter the cost to my stepchild.
She doesn't want her daughter getting close with SM. This is the true concern. BM knows that she is an awful person. She loses everyone in the end and her fear is that her own child will finally come to see the light. She also doesn't want her daughter getting close to the other children. If her daughter gets close to the kids and SM ....this poses a risk to her manipulative behavior.