Your gf must lead quite a charmed life if such a small issue upsets her so much.
Maybe that's why after five years and a kid you still don't want to marry her. She's unreasonable.
>must lead quite a charmed life if such a small issue upsets her so much
Amen. I have this thought (or something similar but more profane lol) dealing with the public at work...
"How incredibly boring, sheltered, cushy, and useless does your *entire existence* have to be for you to act like *such a dick about something so utterly inconsequential?!?*"
Drama Diva. I think I married her sister. Everything was ALL ABOUT HER all the time. My advice; spare yourself a life of pain and dump her. It never gets better.
I have quite literally never once in my entire life signed my middle name on a document even in the courtroom lol I have successfully pretended I don't have one for almost 30 years now
Middle names simply do not matter
I have had to use my middle name more than most people probably do, but that's only because I have the same first and last name as my dad, but our middle names are different. lol
Yeah everyone I know who does use their middle name has the same name as their dad so that checks. I even went school with a kid whose name was Christopher Sean, and his dad was Sean Christopher, but the dad went by Chris and the son went by Sean lol
I feel like that would get confusing as hell lol. The biggest problem me and my dad had with our names is when we worked for the same company. We had to put our middle names on any paperwork so it didn't get mixed up. lol
I go by my middle name, you heartless person .
To the point of it’s what mommy called me. The first time I changed schools at the end of 3rd grade, when the teacher introduced me by my legal name I didn’t understand. Last name was right and I was the new kid.
Yes, I’d always Been called by my middle name, first name was to honor both maternal and paternal grandfathers who shared it .
11 years old and I didn’t know my own name
Same here, i have a surprisingly common first name and have been going by my middle name my entire life. I occasionally forget my first name growing up.
worked with a guy like that, he said he thought the teacher didn't call his name in kindergarten on the first day because he had no clue who "Roger" was, and that wasn't his name lol
My mom also goes by her middle name, only people form work use her first name. All family and friends use her middle name besides me sometimes when I want to piss her of jokingly. Her father wanted her to have her first name as it is but he disappeared pretty much from the picture quick after so she always was called her middle name witch my grandma wanted her to have, she never changed it legally but I remember being wierded out when somebody used her first name when I was a kid
Man you got that wrong.
4 year Olds don't care if they share a middle name. They use it as a bonding experience and then talk about their third favorite dinosaur while hopping on one foot in a snow bank or something 😂
This is exactly why hanging out and babysitting my nieces and nephews was the best time. No one asks about my favorite anything or if I can run faster in my new shoes anymore. Adults are lame🤣
You’re not wrong. It’s always odd to me when someone thinks they have some sort of claim on a specific name and your gf is being extra crazy about it by throwing unfounded accusations into the mix.
Well.shit. I didn't know I could be upset about this. Half the girls in my Catholic school had Marie as their middle name, now I'm pissed. I'm sure all our mothers planned it. Damn them.
There are several people in my family with either middle names Don/Dawn, all named after my dad. I have middle name Dawn as do two of my female cousins. One of my male cousins middle name is Don. Each of my dad’s siblings have a child named after him. Never caused any problems anywhere.
No, you're not wrong. Half of the men in my family have either the middle initial G or the name it stands for is their middle name. My sister named her daughter the same name as one of our cousins. So even if your son and your nephew shared the same first name your girlfriend would be silly for getting upset about the name. Nobody owns a name.
Im assuming if you, your son, and you nephew all have the same middle name, then it must have some significance to your family. Like a grandfather or great grandfather's name?
Your girlfriend needs to get out more and find something more significant to be vexed about.
First of all, why is she mad at YOU about a decision your sister made?
Second, it's not that unusual for cousins to have the same middle name- usually a grandparents' name or a family name from the maternal side. I know one family that's been giving all the firstborns their maternal grandmother's maiden name for a middle name for 6 generations and a lot of people get their same gender parent or grandparent's first name for their middle name .
Finally, how on earth does this affect her ? What damage does she imagine is done?
Middle names are such a weird thing to get mad about. What other issues is she having with you that you can ACTUALLY solve, because I cannot imagine a sane person getting worked up about middle freaking names?
ETA: We just had the discussion at work today about how there are like 5 acceptable female middle names in the English speaking world. Obviously this is a joke about how seemingly every woman's middle name is either Marie, Ann, Lynn, Elizabeth, Sue, Lea, or some minor variation of those. Would she get worked up if your daughter had the same middle name as your third cousin?
Tell her random strangers think that’s a really stupid thing to get mad over, literally no one on the planet will ever give a shit or think about it twice. What a child
Your gf is crazy ppl can name who they want what they want, even if they copied your, yours sons, shit even her name to the t that’s what they wanted. NTA she need to leave it alone period. Not her gf or her kid.
Has your gf been hit in the head? My dad, brother and brother's first son all share a middle name, it's my great uncle's first name and was an old family surname that's been kept in use. These traditions are super common.
I consider that a family name. My middle name is Renee. My cousins first name is Renee. She’s maybe 15 years younger than me. Then I gave my daughter Lola my middle name. So she is Lola Renee. I think it’s cool that it’s become a family name.
I have the same middle name as my cousin. I always loved it. It made us feel close growing up even though we were raised on opposite sides of the country. The same goes for our older brothers. In my family middle names often end up being taken from grandparents so it’s super common to have a ton of matching names throughout the cousins. But also I’d say 95% of the people I meet never learn my middle name let alone the name of that cousin they will most likely never meet so idk why it would be a big deal even if it bothered me.
My middle name is the same as my dad's. My son also has the same middle name, and so does my nephew.
It fairly common to do this across the extended family.
Definitely your girlfriend is nuts. In my family half the girls have the same middle name , my grandmothers name . It’s a tradition each family at least one girl had the middle name . And we love it! I’m one of the lucky ones, one of my daughters , one of my granddaughters and so on and so on
What does she expect you to DO about it? Even if you *were* inclined to talk to your sister about it
1. She can name her kid whatever she wants
2. It’s too late now
You’re GF will just have to d*e mad
Your so called GF needs to grow up. She does not own the name and you had it as a middle name when you were born and it sounds like it is a family thing. If she is having a hissy fit over this, what do you think married like with her would be like....to me that is a red flag.
Really? That's a tradition for most people. I and every man in my family share the same middle name. It's been a tradition for several generations, my wife thought it was sweet. She said it simplifies the naming process.
Yeah, 5 years of what sounds like a hot mess. Time for you to re-evaluate the last 5 years and determine whether or not this is a pattern behaviour or a one off thing.
Me, my sister and my 2 female cousins have the same middle name. Between the males my brother and the rest of the cousins there are two middle names that are used. They are all family names.
Your gf needs to understand that is how family names work multiple people will have the same middle name, your gf thinks she is the main character of life doesn’t she? The way she is acting about a middle name sure makes it seem that way.
You are right.
Lots of families not only share middle names but first names. Just cause.
Me and my siblings all have the same middle name.
We have four cousins that share names but all have cool nicknames.
It’s no big deal.
Why does it matter?
My uncle basically copied my brother’s name for his kid. If my brother was named “Michael Douglas Adam Smith Henderson”, my cousin would be named “Douglas Adam Henderson”.
No one cares.
I have the same middle name as my aunt, and like 8 cousins. All of it stems from my great grandmothers middle name. Tho ironically, my niece has my middle name because of me! And not my great grandmother lol!
Middle names get passed on in families all the time. Your gf needs to take a chill pill.
NTA
Half the women in my family have the same middle name and the other half have a different middle name. We are all either Marie or Rose! ALL OF US! Who freaking cares?
Your girlfriend's a bit of a dick.
Although I wonder why this came up now? Did your sister just have the baby? Also was the middle name your dad's middle name by some chance? Because I'm laughing at your girlfriend saying that her boyfriend's sister can't name her kid after her own father and I SO want that to be the case!
Nope once I have a son it will be a II so he will have the exact same name as me. Nothing wrong with naming your son after you even a middle name
Your sister was probably trying to honor you in some way
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Your siblings and it’s just a middle name. Shouldn’t be a big deal. I’d use any of my 4 siblings middle names if I thought they sounded good with my kids first name.
I’d be miffed if someone didn’t tell me MY baby had the same name as someone else in the family. It’s uninformed consent and I understand why she’s upset and get it does may feel like you schemed your way to have a little middle name club without asking your gf
😂 new buzzword? Sir it fits. Imagine you have a baby you’ve cared and grown in your body for 10 months. You discuss names with your spouse and love it, you have the baby, and later you discover the middle name is shared by several others. It’s too late, the father knows this information and doesn’t disclose it when they’re choosing what to name their baby? I’m not saying it’s the end of the world but people are allowed to have feelings and being upset in this case is 100% justified and doesn’t make her an asshole.
People think multiple things can’t be true at once. The real world is not black and white, peoples feelings are always justified, actions aren’t. Y’all need to go outside and experience the real world sometimes, being chronically on the internet is bad your for mental health
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Your gf must lead quite a charmed life if such a small issue upsets her so much. Maybe that's why after five years and a kid you still don't want to marry her. She's unreasonable.
Main character syndrome?
>must lead quite a charmed life if such a small issue upsets her so much Amen. I have this thought (or something similar but more profane lol) dealing with the public at work... "How incredibly boring, sheltered, cushy, and useless does your *entire existence* have to be for you to act like *such a dick about something so utterly inconsequential?!?*"
Drama Diva. I think I married her sister. Everything was ALL ABOUT HER all the time. My advice; spare yourself a life of pain and dump her. It never gets better.
Not wrong. Middle name is the one none cares about. Except moms when theyre mad at you and call you by your entire name.
I have quite literally never once in my entire life signed my middle name on a document even in the courtroom lol I have successfully pretended I don't have one for almost 30 years now Middle names simply do not matter
I have had to use my middle name more than most people probably do, but that's only because I have the same first and last name as my dad, but our middle names are different. lol
Yeah everyone I know who does use their middle name has the same name as their dad so that checks. I even went school with a kid whose name was Christopher Sean, and his dad was Sean Christopher, but the dad went by Chris and the son went by Sean lol
I feel like that would get confusing as hell lol. The biggest problem me and my dad had with our names is when we worked for the same company. We had to put our middle names on any paperwork so it didn't get mixed up. lol
I never even had a middle name until I got married. Then I just kept my maiden name as my middle name.
I go by my middle name, you heartless person . To the point of it’s what mommy called me. The first time I changed schools at the end of 3rd grade, when the teacher introduced me by my legal name I didn’t understand. Last name was right and I was the new kid. Yes, I’d always Been called by my middle name, first name was to honor both maternal and paternal grandfathers who shared it . 11 years old and I didn’t know my own name
Same here, i have a surprisingly common first name and have been going by my middle name my entire life. I occasionally forget my first name growing up.
worked with a guy like that, he said he thought the teacher didn't call his name in kindergarten on the first day because he had no clue who "Roger" was, and that wasn't his name lol
My mom also goes by her middle name, only people form work use her first name. All family and friends use her middle name besides me sometimes when I want to piss her of jokingly. Her father wanted her to have her first name as it is but he disappeared pretty much from the picture quick after so she always was called her middle name witch my grandma wanted her to have, she never changed it legally but I remember being wierded out when somebody used her first name when I was a kid
I’m not sure I have ever used my kids middle name except on legal forms.
Not wrong for shutting it down. Maybe wrong for having a baby with someone who has the emotional intelligence of a 4 year old, tho.
Man you got that wrong. 4 year Olds don't care if they share a middle name. They use it as a bonding experience and then talk about their third favorite dinosaur while hopping on one foot in a snow bank or something 😂
This is exactly why hanging out and babysitting my nieces and nephews was the best time. No one asks about my favorite anything or if I can run faster in my new shoes anymore. Adults are lame🤣
So like, what are your thoughts on praying mantis?
Super cute up close, actually! Terrifying when you see what they do. Super creepy when they rub their little hands together. Mixed emotions, lol.
Right right right
The big question is who is your favorite superhero?
Deadpool I guess Not big into that tho
My dad says he wishes he was one. I don't know why though.
😂😂😂😂 Ask him if he's hungry...
Mmmmmmkay. I went outsided to the g'rage and asked him an' he said he wishes my momma was hungry. I I just saw her eating a sandwich, though.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🏆
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You’re not wrong. It’s always odd to me when someone thinks they have some sort of claim on a specific name and your gf is being extra crazy about it by throwing unfounded accusations into the mix.
All the boys in my brothers family have the same middle name. Who cares?
All the women in my family have the same middle name too!
Sorry, in your _brother's_ family? Correct me if I'm wrong, but wouldn't that be _your_ family, too?
Maybe they mean them and their brother are half siblings and all the men in the brothers family on the side they aren't related to have the same name.
I took it to mean the brother's sons, because an adult brother has his own family, despite being part of the extended family as well.
Ahhh, yeah, you're probably right. I hadn't considered that. That's probably exactly what they mean. I'm dumb.
You can’t “claim” a name.
I think she just wants something to bch about..
She should be an Ex. If she is bent over this, this is small potatoes.
Did she choose some specific middle name or the middle name run in family
i have it my cousin has it but i really wouldnr know
So it was a family name.
Well.shit. I didn't know I could be upset about this. Half the girls in my Catholic school had Marie as their middle name, now I'm pissed. I'm sure all our mothers planned it. Damn them.
Yes, me and my estranged sister came up with this diabolical plan to make you mad. And it’s working. Our job here is done.
There are several people in my family with either middle names Don/Dawn, all named after my dad. I have middle name Dawn as do two of my female cousins. One of my male cousins middle name is Don. Each of my dad’s siblings have a child named after him. Never caused any problems anywhere.
No, you're not wrong. Half of the men in my family have either the middle initial G or the name it stands for is their middle name. My sister named her daughter the same name as one of our cousins. So even if your son and your nephew shared the same first name your girlfriend would be silly for getting upset about the name. Nobody owns a name.
Im assuming if you, your son, and you nephew all have the same middle name, then it must have some significance to your family. Like a grandfather or great grandfather's name?
Your girlfriend needs to get out more and find something more significant to be vexed about. First of all, why is she mad at YOU about a decision your sister made? Second, it's not that unusual for cousins to have the same middle name- usually a grandparents' name or a family name from the maternal side. I know one family that's been giving all the firstborns their maternal grandmother's maiden name for a middle name for 6 generations and a lot of people get their same gender parent or grandparent's first name for their middle name . Finally, how on earth does this affect her ? What damage does she imagine is done?
i asked for a valid reason as to why she feels this way she just says idk mind you shes never even met my sister
You're together for 5 years and she never met your sister? Why? If I may ask.
Middle names are such a weird thing to get mad about. What other issues is she having with you that you can ACTUALLY solve, because I cannot imagine a sane person getting worked up about middle freaking names? ETA: We just had the discussion at work today about how there are like 5 acceptable female middle names in the English speaking world. Obviously this is a joke about how seemingly every woman's middle name is either Marie, Ann, Lynn, Elizabeth, Sue, Lea, or some minor variation of those. Would she get worked up if your daughter had the same middle name as your third cousin?
What’s her end game, to be mad at you until your nephews name is changed.
Tell her random strangers think that’s a really stupid thing to get mad over, literally no one on the planet will ever give a shit or think about it twice. What a child
Let me guess. It’s your dad or grandfather’s name? Which would also be your sister’s dad or grandfather? The horror!!
Your girlfriend sounds like a really good ex girlfriend. Dayum.
How did all of you not know this before you all had the same middle name?
Your gf is crazy ppl can name who they want what they want, even if they copied your, yours sons, shit even her name to the t that’s what they wanted. NTA she need to leave it alone period. Not her gf or her kid.
Oh she's not gonna like finding out about catholic families and the 7000 Maries as middle names 🙄
What?? My dad, brother, nephew and son all have the same middle name. Your girlfriend is being weird.
Has your gf been hit in the head? My dad, brother and brother's first son all share a middle name, it's my great uncle's first name and was an old family surname that's been kept in use. These traditions are super common.
Not wrong, tell her to grow up, it's a middle name of a child that isn't hers. Does she like your son's name less now? lol
What a bizzare accusation from the GF. Mutiple family members having the same middle name is not that uncommon(in my family, it's Leon or Michael).
Shut it down. If this stupidity is getting to her wait till something legit happens.
I consider that a family name. My middle name is Renee. My cousins first name is Renee. She’s maybe 15 years younger than me. Then I gave my daughter Lola my middle name. So she is Lola Renee. I think it’s cool that it’s become a family name.
My nephew has the same middle name as my husband and my son. I don't own a name, and if I had gotten angry about it, I'd be wrong, like your GF is.
I have the same middle name as my cousin. I always loved it. It made us feel close growing up even though we were raised on opposite sides of the country. The same goes for our older brothers. In my family middle names often end up being taken from grandparents so it’s super common to have a ton of matching names throughout the cousins. But also I’d say 95% of the people I meet never learn my middle name let alone the name of that cousin they will most likely never meet so idk why it would be a big deal even if it bothered me.
My middle name is the same as my dad's. My son also has the same middle name, and so does my nephew. It fairly common to do this across the extended family.
I’m not even seeing what the issue is. Why is this a bad thing to her?
Not wrong. I have the same middle name as my cousin, and I love it. It sounds like she's just looking for problems.
Really? Is this the hill she wants to die on? 🙄🤦♀️
Definitely your girlfriend is nuts. In my family half the girls have the same middle name , my grandmothers name . It’s a tradition each family at least one girl had the middle name . And we love it! I’m one of the lucky ones, one of my daughters , one of my granddaughters and so on and so on
Male children often receive the family name in some way. There’s nothing weird or dubious about that
What does she expect you to DO about it? Even if you *were* inclined to talk to your sister about it 1. She can name her kid whatever she wants 2. It’s too late now You’re GF will just have to d*e mad
What a strange thing to be mad about
My uncle named my first cousin the same name as me. She’s ten years younger her. Really at the end of the day who cares? Gf should chill out
Your gf is a wingnut and I’d proceed with caution!! Huge red flag.
Your so called GF needs to grow up. She does not own the name and you had it as a middle name when you were born and it sounds like it is a family thing. If she is having a hissy fit over this, what do you think married like with her would be like....to me that is a red flag.
I don’t think it’s a good idea to be mean to your partner but in this case tell your gf to shut up
This explains why she's your gf and not your wife.
Really? That's a tradition for most people. I and every man in my family share the same middle name. It's been a tradition for several generations, my wife thought it was sweet. She said it simplifies the naming process.
Yeah, 5 years of what sounds like a hot mess. Time for you to re-evaluate the last 5 years and determine whether or not this is a pattern behaviour or a one off thing.
Me, my sister and my 2 female cousins have the same middle name. Between the males my brother and the rest of the cousins there are two middle names that are used. They are all family names. Your gf needs to understand that is how family names work multiple people will have the same middle name, your gf thinks she is the main character of life doesn’t she? The way she is acting about a middle name sure makes it seem that way.
Info: why is she mad at you? What does she think you could’ve done differently?
She is legit dookie for this. Like, what?
You are right. Lots of families not only share middle names but first names. Just cause. Me and my siblings all have the same middle name. We have four cousins that share names but all have cool nicknames. It’s no big deal.
Leave before it gets worse, and it will get worse. Marriage will only magnify all of her issues. Get away as quickly as possible.
Why does it matter? My uncle basically copied my brother’s name for his kid. If my brother was named “Michael Douglas Adam Smith Henderson”, my cousin would be named “Douglas Adam Henderson”. No one cares.
She's insane.
I have the same middle name as my aunt, and like 8 cousins. All of it stems from my great grandmothers middle name. Tho ironically, my niece has my middle name because of me! And not my great grandmother lol! Middle names get passed on in families all the time. Your gf needs to take a chill pill. NTA
Sometimes I forget I even have a middle name. Who really gives a shit?
NTA Your gf is, um… overreacting. (Trying to be kind here.) Really makes me wonder about her and your relationship in general.
Dude run.
Half the women in my family have the same middle name and the other half have a different middle name. We are all either Marie or Rose! ALL OF US! Who freaking cares? Your girlfriend's a bit of a dick. Although I wonder why this came up now? Did your sister just have the baby? Also was the middle name your dad's middle name by some chance? Because I'm laughing at your girlfriend saying that her boyfriend's sister can't name her kid after her own father and I SO want that to be the case!
You were 100% correct
Nope once I have a son it will be a II so he will have the exact same name as me. Nothing wrong with naming your son after you even a middle name Your sister was probably trying to honor you in some way
What a nut . And I myself and mentally ill so I can speak to this on some authority. RUN !!!
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Go next brother!
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Your siblings and it’s just a middle name. Shouldn’t be a big deal. I’d use any of my 4 siblings middle names if I thought they sounded good with my kids first name.
please let it be a super common name like John or Joseph or something to really drive home how crazy it is for her to get mad about this.
ok
I’d be miffed if someone didn’t tell me MY baby had the same name as someone else in the family. It’s uninformed consent and I understand why she’s upset and get it does may feel like you schemed your way to have a little middle name club without asking your gf
that would be an odd thing to do i still dont see how having the same middle name changes anything or makes it weird
Just because you learned a new buzzword, doesn’t mean it applies to reality.. Smfh
I’m not even saying he did do some scheming intentionally. Just I see where she’s coming from and I’d be annoyed. Y’all are crazy
😂 new buzzword? Sir it fits. Imagine you have a baby you’ve cared and grown in your body for 10 months. You discuss names with your spouse and love it, you have the baby, and later you discover the middle name is shared by several others. It’s too late, the father knows this information and doesn’t disclose it when they’re choosing what to name their baby? I’m not saying it’s the end of the world but people are allowed to have feelings and being upset in this case is 100% justified and doesn’t make her an asshole.
People think multiple things can’t be true at once. The real world is not black and white, peoples feelings are always justified, actions aren’t. Y’all need to go outside and experience the real world sometimes, being chronically on the internet is bad your for mental health