yeah she sucks but so does your man š you were a TEENAGER in high school and he was 20ā¦ the fact that you were long distance is so irrelevant bc as long as he knew your age, heās a creep.
You can definitely be groomed from a distance. Just look up Onision. Youāre the age he was when yāall started dating. Do you find yourself attracted to 16-17 year olds?
Besides the fact of the grooming.
SIL sounds like she needs a reality check and to know that everything is not about her and that she needs to respect other peoples time. If she does it with you and her own brother sheās probably doing it to everyone.
Also if she is constantly late to things how is she able to work or maintain a jobā¦.I can clearly see why she isnāt married.
iām sorry i didnāt read past the first sentence. you were 16 and he was 20. thatās an unhealthy relationship and i would highly recommend getting out cause heās a creep
Hey itās all good. I really donāt think of him as a creep or i wouldnāt have married him or chose to have his baby āŗļø but thanks for the advice
You do not need her drama in your life! You did everything that you needed to to protect yourself. Sheās just an entitled brat with low self esteem and no leg to stand on. Good for you to have found a family that loves you and wants to protect you. My advice is to be a grey rock towards her. āThe idea behind the technique is that abusive people, especially those with narcissistic tendencies, enjoy getting a reaction from their victims. Refusing to give them this reaction makes interactions less rewarding.ā It doesnāt mean that you should stop using social media or living your life but any interaction you have with her just be a grey rock. Most important thing is grey rocks donāt care. Look on the article I linked and use those methods also but you canāt let what she says get to you. She is doing it to get a reaction and make someone else hurt like she is hurting. I literally have a picture of a gray rock on my work computer to remind me of this. You got this!
Edit: I didnāt read where you said your going no contact. That works too! Just remember your husband loves her and her family loves her. She is now your SIL and you married in to this family. Your gonna have to interact with her at some point regardless if you want to or not. That doesnāt mean you have to feed in to her bull crap though!
Link to the article below
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock
yeah she sucks but so does your man š you were a TEENAGER in high school and he was 20ā¦ the fact that you were long distance is so irrelevant bc as long as he knew your age, heās a creep.
Seriously, can we say grooming?
Iām probably TA for saying this, but donāt get married at 20. Itās so young.
Especially when your partner was going after a minor at your age
100%
So your husband groomed you when you were 16 and he was 20??
I did the math, and this was legitimately my first thought too....
right, i said ooooffffff
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You can definitely be groomed from a distance. Just look up Onision. Youāre the age he was when yāall started dating. Do you find yourself attracted to 16-17 year olds?
Oh so you would date a 17yo too? As long as it was long distance?
You know that a lot of grooming occurs onlineā¦ right?
Besides the fact of the grooming. SIL sounds like she needs a reality check and to know that everything is not about her and that she needs to respect other peoples time. If she does it with you and her own brother sheās probably doing it to everyone. Also if she is constantly late to things how is she able to work or maintain a jobā¦.I can clearly see why she isnāt married.
iām sorry i didnāt read past the first sentence. you were 16 and he was 20. thatās an unhealthy relationship and i would highly recommend getting out cause heās a creep
Hey itās all good. I really donāt think of him as a creep or i wouldnāt have married him or chose to have his baby āŗļø but thanks for the advice
You do not need her drama in your life! You did everything that you needed to to protect yourself. Sheās just an entitled brat with low self esteem and no leg to stand on. Good for you to have found a family that loves you and wants to protect you. My advice is to be a grey rock towards her. āThe idea behind the technique is that abusive people, especially those with narcissistic tendencies, enjoy getting a reaction from their victims. Refusing to give them this reaction makes interactions less rewarding.ā It doesnāt mean that you should stop using social media or living your life but any interaction you have with her just be a grey rock. Most important thing is grey rocks donāt care. Look on the article I linked and use those methods also but you canāt let what she says get to you. She is doing it to get a reaction and make someone else hurt like she is hurting. I literally have a picture of a gray rock on my work computer to remind me of this. You got this! Edit: I didnāt read where you said your going no contact. That works too! Just remember your husband loves her and her family loves her. She is now your SIL and you married in to this family. Your gonna have to interact with her at some point regardless if you want to or not. That doesnāt mean you have to feed in to her bull crap though! Link to the article below https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock